I thought my fake boobs would be perfect but men are completely turned off by them!
Q. When i was in my 20s i worked in a couple strip clubs where there was quite a bit of chicks with boob jobs. It was something i always thought looked really good and being a small b i was a good candidate for the surgery though my natural small boobs ...
A. 5 October 2020: Chin up, OP
Also, when you look for a life partner find someone who can love ALL of you. Even if he prefers butts over boobs, he shouldn't BE with you if implants are so "bad" in his eyes.
Remember that first year when you had a LOT of confide... (read in full...)
I thought my fake boobs would be perfect but men are completely turned off by them!
Q. When i was in my 20s i worked in a couple strip clubs where there was quite a bit of chicks with boob jobs. It was something i always thought looked really good and being a small b i was a good candidate for the surgery though my natural small boobs ...
A. 3 October 2020: I think YOU are the one making a big deal out of your implants.
He might have said he was a boob guy but realizes he is a butt guy. However, YOU like them engaged during sex and he apparently doesn't enjoy that part. Maybe it's not because ... (read in full...)
I'm a hopeless romantic male virgin and I don't know what to do
Q. I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl, never been on a date and of course never been in a relationship. I usually end up making a connection with someone and I can't make that leap and she ends up dating someone else and gets into a ...
A. 3 October 2020: I think perhaps you need to figure out why you are holding yourself back instead of asking someone out.
If it's fear of rejection, then it's understandable but also... counterproductive. Because if you don't ASK one of these women out... they end... (read in full...)
I'm worried that our new neighbor might be one of my husband's exs
Q. I am worried about a new neighbour who as moved in with her partner. I worry that my husband might know the woman even thou we have not seen her yet and this happened when another neighbour who is a woman moved in next door to us months ago. I worry ...
A. 2 October 2020: Let's indulge your "fear" here a minute, LET'S say it's your husband's ex who is your new neighbor. WHAT then?
What is that you fear? Exactly? Can you define it?
If you fear is that he will leave you for this ex, THIS kind of obsessives and u... (read in full...)
I kicked my husband out of the house tonight after finding out he had gay sex with his friend. I am severely depressed and in need of help.
Q. This is the very WORST day of my life! I have no idea how I will ever get through this. I was already diagnosed with severe depression. And now THIS! I have been married for 8 years to my love. It has been a good relationship except form the ...
A. 2 October 2020: Yikes, OP!
I'm sorry. I have to agree with Code Warrior that it doesn't matter if he cheated on you with a guy or a woman, but... to an extend we (women) know that there is just no way we can compete (in a sense) with a man (sexually and socially... (read in full...)
Its been 3 weeks since I've gotten a text. Do I give up on him?
Q. So, in August, I started talking to this guy from Hinge. His name is Gabriel. I'm really into him and I think he is into me, too -- or maybe was? A week after our first conversation, his grandmother passed away. They were very close, he said. ...
A. 2 October 2020: Do you have other prospects who are there and WANT to go out with you?
If you do, I'd say go on dates.
If you really WANT to get to know Gabriel better, then you can still go on dates but perhaps keep sex out of the picture.
How long do you... (read in full...)
My partner's abuse is making me unwell
Q. my partners abuse is making me depressed and unwell. hes constantly calling me names and putting me down. the other day he went mad because i stepped in something and my shoe was dirty he was yelling and yelling at me and said hes locking me out ...
A. 2 October 2020: Look into a woman's shelter and leave him, you know this isn't healthy.
Throwing hot tea? Threatening to headbutt you? I mean why stay? What is in it for you? Are you just waiting for him to maim or kill you?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend isn't comfortable with me hanging out with another girl who is a friend
Q. Hi All Been dating a girl for four months and everything is going well. We are going really well, we have committed to a relationship and have long term plans for the future. I have met all her family and vice versa, We have recently come to...
A. 2 October 2020: Introduce them to each other.
And why the need to hang out with another girl? I get that you call her a friend and all, but HOW comfortable would you be with her hanging out alone with another guy?
And HAVE you dated the "friend" in the ... (read in full...)
Same sex relationship Break Up after 4 years - 5 month old daughter
Q. Hey guys, So my gf of just over 4 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We have a 5 month old daughter together that I carried. It kinda hit me out of no where. She said she started to feel different towards me the last couple of weeks because of...
A. 1 October 2020: OP,
Just do one day at a time. If you are having a rough day, ask for help. In a sense I think you will move forward faster and in a healthy manner because you have purpose to your life. (raising your daughter). She doesn't really.
So I ha... (read in full...)
What can I do about my local sport team?
Q. I have joined my local sport team and the guys seem like a laugh, a good atmosphere. The problem I have is I get so little playing time. Some of the players are awful and the coaches have even said it when I've on the sidelines with them. Im...
A. 28 September 2020: Finish the season out and find a new team. If this team rather have bad players who are "popular" playing than better player who are quieter then that is the preference.
Not much point in staying after the season ends.
I would suggest that you... (read in full...)
Do I leave her because we only have sex every 3 months?
Q. In a relationship over three years sex only once in three months ,she know i want it but she comes up with all these excuses , and women wonder why men cheat, am tired of doing my self, so am i suppose to tell her , i need sex , or am going to get ...
A. 28 September 2020: If it's not working out for you and your needs aren't met, move on.
You can't MAKE her WANT more sex.
As to the giving head versus a popsicle that is the dumbest (sorry) thing I have ever heard. I'd wager that most women can put a whole pops... (read in full...)
Same sex relationship Break Up after 4 years - 5 month old daughter
Q. Hey guys, So my gf of just over 4 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We have a 5 month old daughter together that I carried. It kinda hit me out of no where. She said she started to feel different towards me the last couple of weeks because of...
A. 28 September 2020: Do you think this stems to the fact that she probably didn't WANT a child?
A lot of couples find that once kids are either being planned or has arrived ONE of the partner (in hetero cases) the guy has second thought about being a dad and having t... (read in full...)
I had no idea he was married, broke it off but he's still acting like we are a couple
Q. I've been dating this guy, 38, for the past 18 months now; I'm 24 and live in Los Angeles. Only recently I've found out he was married. I didn't know, not one bit, that he was married. He's a Trump supporter, I'm not but we somehow made it w...
A. 28 September 2020:
I think this is totally fake, but I'll bite.
Firstly, I don't know what politics has to do with this. It's totally irrelevant. So is LGBTQ and where he lives.
1. he posted pictures without your consent. So if you KNOW the website it was p... (read in full...)
Should I confess my straight friend my feelings for her?
Q. I've never been with a girl, but I've always been more attracted to girls than to boys. Also I've never had strong feelings for anyone but for this girl. I met her two years ago and I started having feelings for her short after we met. We're close...
A. 28 September 2020: As you have discovered, the most common advice is to give distance.
And there is a reason for that.
It is UNREALISTIC that a TOTALLY straight girl/woman wants to be in a same sex relationship. Because she is SEXUALLY attracted to MEN, not wome... (read in full...)
Wife discovered the affair, now I am working on my marriage but can't forget my mistress.
Q. I am in agony so I guess I have come to the right place. Long story short. I was involved in a long term affair with a beautiful and caring woman. My wife discovered the affair recently and demanded I stopped all contact with the other woman, whi...
A. 27 September 2020: Oh, this is SO the mistress writing in as the married man.
I remember the whole retiring and spending 6 months in Panama.
Honey, you aren't fooling anyone. Except yourself.
You are second best in this guy's mind. The wife hold the #1 spot be... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for feeling it was a dumb comment at a very bad timing after all the stuff shes put us through?
Q. My boyfriends ex made it a point to be the center of attention the first part of our relationship. To the point where i was about ready to leave him despite that he wasnt really to blame for it. Though there was about 2 times he lied about ...
A. 26 September 2020: "Am i wrong for feeling it was a dumb comment at a very bad timing ?"
No! That is the MOST incentive shit I have heard a guy say after sex! This is up there with not just FOOT in mouth but a whole leg!
It would have been like you comparing hi... (read in full...)
How do I bring up my wife's spending habits without getting into a fight?
Q. So we have been doing fine throughout this pandemic, luckily we both have our jobs and health. part of our student loans are frozen so thats been a nice chunk of change that we dont have to pay monthly. but even then we are slowly losing money. ...
A. 26 September 2020: Sit her down and make a budget and ask her to stick to it. Go over what you two have spend in the last 6 months and build a SOLID budget.
My advice? Whatever you don't have to pay on your loans right now? SAVE that and use it to pay down your stu... (read in full...)
I'm in an arranged marriage. How do I ask my future wife if she is a virgin like me? Its crucial to me
Q. I'm 25 years old and I'm still virgin. I had a lot of chances to lose my virginity but I saved it for my future wife. Because I want to have a married life with 100% trust in each other. Now I'm getting married to an unknown girl whom I just ...
A. 26 September 2020: You ask her straight out. BUT I would not tell her that you EXSECT her to be one.
Listen to what she says and then decide if you want to move forward with the marriage.
I think it's fair enough to want to marry someone who has the same values,... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty because I don't want to help my family financially anymore?
Q. Dear everyone, I grow up in a dysfunctional family, where the root start from my own parents. I will try my best to make this short. Everyone hates me even im helping everyone, that include my parents too. Since young about 10 years old im al...
A. 26 September 2020: Awww OP
What a family! One thing I think you never learned was that you can't buy love. You can't MAKE people love you.
You wanted them to love you, be proud of having you as a daughter/sister but they have no respect for you, or... for themse... (read in full...)
How do I let go of anger? I dated a friend who ended things and told everyone it was my fault
Q. I have a male friend of a couple of years. About a year ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend and had done for a year. I liked him too so we started dating. He kept telling me how he sees a future with me and how much he likes me etc. ...
A. 26 September 2020: I have to say, some times we make mistakes and make bad choices.
YOUR mistake was to DATE someone fresh out of a relationship and who is incapable of taking ANY responsibility for his own actions.
He KNEW he didn't REALLY want to date you, but... (read in full...)
My wife is leaving me for a 22 year old that works at McDonalds
Q. I've only just found out that my wife has been seeing a 22 year old man over the past 3 months in secret. The person who told me was my best friend; he was embarrassed when he told me this. I've got two kids aged 8 and 11, and I love my wif...
A. 26 September 2020: Amen to all that Code Warrior suggested.
Get your ducks in a row. File for divorce, seek full custody and for HER to pay child support and have vitiation rights but not with her toy-boy - boy-toy...
Sounds like a midlife crisis. But seri... (read in full...)
I want to move out with boyfriend, but barely have savings?
Q. Hello, I'm saving up for an apartment with my boyfriend and maintaining my own well, but my boyfriend has been slacking. He's worked longer than I have and saved close to none. Part of it, is that he helps his mother pay for groceries and wh...
A. 25 September 2020: I would not be looking for a place EITHER of you can't afford solo. Why? Because stuff happens.
Which means, you need to be looking for a place that YOU can afford on your own.
If he can't save up to move out because he helps out his mom, WHA... (read in full...)
How do you make adult children be nice and respect you and most importantly take responsibility for themselves
Q. so basically i left a really bad violent marriage 15 years ago (the violence was only towards me) and i’ve been trying to make it up to my 2 daughters ever since, my girls are now aged 19 and 21 and ever since walking out the door from my ex ...
A. 25 September 2020: Sit them down and tell them, enough. Tell them that you understand they saw and heard stuff that they shouldn't have, violence and abuse. That it took you a LOT to leave your husband to KEEP them and yourself safe. That you feel they have a lot of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me now I have trust issues and wonder how many other times he might have lied
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over a year. We had some minor bumps in the road - mostly him not understanding my love language but he always tried to understand me and we could talk anything out. He was always very patient and ...
A. 25 September 2020: Well, I don't blame you for not trusting him.
THAT is the thing with trust it JUST takes one dumb lie to make trusting someone harder. That is logical.
But I have to ask is this normal for the to if you? To do all this texting and Facetiming w... (read in full...)
We dated he broke it off and now when he sees me he totally shuns me
Q. A few months ago I went on a few dates with a man who then abruptly told me he didn’t want a relationship of any kind and seemed to disappear off the face of the earth. He works locally and I used to pass him regularly on the way to our respectiv...
A. 25 September 2020: I wonder if I should say something if/when we cross paths again?
Take a cue from him and PRETEND you don't know him from Adam next time you see him.
IGNORE him and move on with life. He obviously wants nothing to do with you so WHY try and b... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend purposely trying to hurt me? Why is it so hard to leave?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have a child together now and he is 2. Our relationship has always been good but definitely had it’s fair share of ups and downs. Recently it just feels like everything keeps falling around me while I’m ...
A. 25 September 2020: You know OP,
Staying with this guy will NOT be BETTER for your son. He will grow up seeing how your partner treats YOU and then TREAT you and other females the same way. The whole monkey see, monkey do is true. Kids learn from what they see.
... (read in full...)
Should we think about moving in his sisters house? She's bossy and controlling
Q. Should we think about moving in his sisters house my husbands oldest sister husband passed March of this year she is now saying she wont s to move out her house. I cannot stand her she controlling bossy and sure a pain in our marriage she sto...
A. 22 September 2020: What would be the benefit of living in the same house or as her tenant? For you and your husband?
If the bad outweigh the good, then what is the point?
Seems like you have enough on your plate as it is, why add this sister to the drama and ha... (read in full...)
I'm married and making out with my husband's best friend
Q. I made a mistake again... I know once is a mistake and two types is purely stupid but I didn't think and now I need help to stop. I am in a troubled marriage but we are still trying to work through it as we truly love one another. However his best ...
A. 22 September 2020: The only person who can stop doing this, is you.
Have you considered even in the slightest what will happen when your husband finds out? HOW he will feel? Did HE even come into your thoughts when you were making these "mistakes"?
Cheating isn'... (read in full...)
How long does it take to really move on from someone?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for five years. About two years ago, I had a fling with another guy. It was all flirty banter until it went too far and we slept together. I told my boyfriend and cut the man off. I told him I didn't want to lose my ...
A. 21 September 2020: It will takes as long as you let him live "rent free" in your head. When YOU decide and accept that he WAS a mistake and not all that great, you'll probably feel less excited about his e-mails.
OP, he was a fling. It was a hot mistake and it's ove... (read in full...)
Estranged sister moves in and creates problems, what should I do?
Q. Hello, I have a question about how to deal with an estranged sister. Years ago, she abandoned my siblings and I for a man. Then had a kid and lived out of the country. I found out that she cheated on her husband with another man so her son moved in ...
A. 21 September 2020: Your parents made the choice to let them live at THEIR house. When they get enough, they can kick her out.
I don't really know how you can help your parents here. You are also in your 20's ad living at home....
There is always the choice FOR Y... (read in full...)
Does holding resentment towards an ex means I haven't moved on?
Q. When we met online, we hit it off. we met in person and the connection and chemistry was undeniable. He stayed at my flat for 2 weeks.And he asked me to be exclusive but the problem is we live 4 hours apart. But he said we will make it work. When he ...
A. 20 September 2020: Thanks for the update, OP
It's always good to get more info.
One thing I didn't mention was "love bombing" and moving too fast.
I know that the younger generation spend a LOT of time on tech - phone apps/ facetime etc. and it FEELS like y... (read in full...)
Does holding resentment towards an ex means I haven't moved on?
Q. When we met online, we hit it off. we met in person and the connection and chemistry was undeniable. He stayed at my flat for 2 weeks.And he asked me to be exclusive but the problem is we live 4 hours apart. But he said we will make it work. When he ...
A. 18 September 2020: The thing with dating and relationships is that many thing you won't know, or acknowledge until they happen to you.
You are still young so you are bound to make mistakes. THIS guy? BIG mistake.
You don't know all your own boundaries eithe... (read in full...)
I can't move on because I keep thinking what if?
Q. I dated this guy for a couple of months, we had amazing chemistry and got on really well however he ended things because he was recently out a long term relationship and he wasn't ready to commit to someone new. That was a while ago now and I'm ...
A. 17 September 2020: You won't move on until you get out of the fantasy land you created with him as some "perfect guy who got away".
Instead maybe consider, HE wasn't a good guy, he used you as a rebound and then dumped you. WHO does that to another person? ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should take this is a sign that he isn't that interested in me, or am I looking too deeply into this?
Q. I have just started to get to know a guy. I really like him, however, he never initiates contact. He only texts me if I text him first. If I don't text him, I don't hear from him. Also, he takes a very long time to reply, sometimes an entire day. Do ...
A. 17 September 2020: Yes, I think you should take it as a clue that he isn't into you.
Why waste time on a guy who don't seem to want to make an effort?
You already know what the situation is, no need for me to really tell you what you should do....... (read in full...)
If he is dating other women then what does he want from me?
Q. I was in an on again off again long distance relationship for 4 years. We were not together for more than 5 months before he would leave again. He said the relationship wasn't working out for him because he wanted a real life in person relationship. ...
A. 15 September 2020: Good for you.!
I hope you stick to keeping him out of your life.
Want more for yourself and more from a potential partner.
... (read in full...)
My married bf gave up the best sex with me to go back to a sexless marriage. How is that even possible?
Q. I'm hoping to get advice from all of you wise people because I have no idea what's going on. My married boyfriend left me. He said he's going back to his marriage because his wife found out about us. We've been together for several years. I...
A. 15 September 2020: Because sex is great, and great sex is even better... but not the "be all end all" for everyone.
He obviously made a choice between HER and YOU and chose HER. You don't have a "magical snatch". He LOVED himself enough to cheat because he wanted s... (read in full...)
How to cut off a toxic and controlling friend whom I see often?
Q. I want to cut off a toxic and controlling friend but don’t know how. Normally, I would’ve just blocked her and said nothing. I don’t believe that’s necessarily the right way, as being direct and adult about it would probably be better. But I don’t ...
A. 15 September 2020: If you are hoping you can make this run out in the sand, you need to give a couple of DAYS NOT hours before responding.
Though in all honesty? If you don't WANT to be friends, I think it would just be more honest to tell her that you feel the two ... (read in full...)
My friend tried to kiss me knowing I have a boyfriend
Q. I met with a guy friend over the week end for lunch. We hadn't seen each other for about 9 or so months but message each other maybe on average once a month. I have been in a relationship for 18 months and my friend knows this as I regularly talk...
A. 14 September 2020: Why wouldn't you speak up if he tried to kiss you (on the mouth I presume)? Just say, a hug will do.
And why do you need to tell your BF? If you didn't DO anything wrong, why confront or confess? There is really nothing to tell.
Now you can t... (read in full...)
If he is dating other women then what does he want from me?
Q. I was in an on again off again long distance relationship for 4 years. We were not together for more than 5 months before he would leave again. He said the relationship wasn't working out for him because he wanted a real life in person relationship. ...
A. 14 September 2020: Why won't he stay gone?
Because you "let" him back in, OVER and OVER.
BLOCK ALL avenues of access, unfriend him on all social media, block block and delete.
If you no longer want to be on this rollercoaster ride, GET off.
You can't contro... (read in full...)
I really can't decide on the advantages/disadvantages of returning to the U.S. or staying here
Q. I'm an American expat living in Italy with my Canadian fiance. I've lived in Italy since 2014, but am considering returning to live in the U.S. soon. For the past few weeks, he's been wanting to do this social media challenge which concerns h...
A. 14 September 2020: This is always a tough one. Because you want to make a HUGE decision that affects the both of you so you BOTH need to be onboard.
Moving to another country leaves a LOT of unforeseen issues. Things you (both of you) will have to figure out as y... (read in full...)
I'm worried and feeling impatient that my falling out with my friend isn't getting sorted
Q. I feel silly writing this but here goes I fell out with a friend over something I did with best intentions but my friend didn't see it that way As they are busy working in had to WhatsApp an apology I was genuine as I felt awful and told th...
A. 14 September 2020: Is that the same friends about the LinkedIn faux pas?
You don't need to clear the air, they know you apologized and they are moving on from that.
If they want nothing further to do with you, that is their loss. Or perhaps they ARE just busy wi... (read in full...)
Why is my married boyfriend emotionally torturing me? He keeps leaving me and then coming back!
Q. Why would the married man I've been involved with keep leaving me and coming back? He left me in July and came back. He just left me again. He said he loves me and that's why he has to let me go. Cause he can't stand seeing me suffer cause I want ...
A. 14 September 2020: Why does he keep leaving and coming back?
Because you LET him. YOU allow this emotional torture.
He doesn't LOVE you OH so much that he has to leave you... He LOVES himself so much that he has to dump you occasionally to keep the power over y... (read in full...)
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