We broke up for college but while we were apart she had sex with another guy. Now we are back together I cant deal with this!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 16 months. We were best friends before we started dating and she was almost my first everything, except for kiss pretty much. I loved her so much but we decided that we should break up for college, and go back to ...
A. 10 October 2011: First off, I don't think you need to push her to think it's rape. She feels bad enough as it is. The guy could have been just as dunk as her. You two were on a "break" so getting mad at her for having sex with someone else is rather irrational and ... (read in full...)
I want to quit things with this girl but I'm afraid she'll ruin all my other friendships!
Q. We were good friends for a year, and I thought she was into me until I asked her out. She turned me down 'for now' but insisted we stay friends like nothing happened. I've tried but I can't. She's a really difficult person to be friends with and...
A. 10 October 2011: Just do it slowly, avoid hanging out with her socially and avoid her at work.
And honestly, you might wan to tel lthat good friend of yours that you asked her out, before he hears it from her.... (read in full...)
I want to spark ex's interest at the homecoming dance!
Q. Hey there! I am going to a homecoming dance in about 2 weeks and my ex will be there. I want to get get his attention really badly (its a ''cant let you go relationship'') and i want to get him turned him on and maybe let things lead on from there. ...
A. 10 October 2011: Look good, don't go for slutty and..... don't TRY and get his attention it will just make you look desperate.
GO and have fun, if he's any kind of smart he will notice. If not... his loss, honey.... (read in full...)
How can a handle family members commenting on my health/weight?
Q. Ok. I have a question about family. So I am sitting at my nieces bday party. Once again the subject of health comes about. I have health prob related to my being overweight. Once again I hear advice from those "well meaning" family members ...
A. 10 October 2011: They love you, that is why they bring it up. Most people who haven't had weight issues don't understand that "advice" can be very hurtful. And family, they just don't always think about feelings when dishing out advice.
The thing is they aren't b... (read in full...)
Holiday romance or more?
Q. hi, I would very much appreciate your thoughts and advice on my current situation. I am a single mum of two. Recently I went on holiday with some girfriends and met a lovely man. He is a DJ and ten years younger than me, I am 33. We had a rom...
A. 10 October 2011: He's 23 and working as a DJ in a holiday area, he claims all this love, yet can't keep it in his pants for 2 months knowing you are coming back for more...
Hmm, personally I would take it as a holiday romance, no more.
I would also stop contac... (read in full...)
I think I screwed up by getting drunk on our date! He has updated his online dating profile but is 'too busy' to contact me, is that is it for us now?
Q. I met a guy on match.com about two months ago. We talked for about three weeks and then finally met. We really hit it off and for the next month saw each other three to five times a week with texting in between. I think there were only one or two ...
A. 10 October 2011: He is just not that into you. I think it's pretty obivious with the lack of contact from his side. He might claim to be busy, but I'm guessing he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
The fact that he is now ignoring you, means you proberly... (read in full...)
Will my husband change after 10 years?
Q. hi we have married since 10yrs, my husband is not romantic he never said I love you,I don't no when will he change...
A. 9 October 2011: My magic 8-balls says no.
He is not automatically change into the man you want him to be. Now, if there are things you would like for him to do (be more romantic or take out the trash) talk to him. Don't forget very very few people are mind rea... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or an STD?
Q. About a week ago I had sex with this boy called shane that I Am seeing ( it was my first time) we both really like each other but the next time he came round we wanted to do it again . While rubbing his penis I felt further up and felt a few lumps I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Go see your doctor and stop having sex until you know how to protect yourself from STD's and pregnacies.... (read in full...)
I love my bf so much but seeing his ex's name tattooed on his arm makes me wonder...does he still love her?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend been 2gether almost a year now.. And I really love him! He makes me happy and I couldnt picture me with anybody else but him. Well b4 me nd him got 2gether he had a baby by his ex, he even has her name tattoed on his arm! I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Sorry Can't read your post, I don't read netspeak/text speak.... (read in full...)
Should I wait until the holidays are over to leave him?
Q. I'm 22, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a 3 year old son. I've been miserable in the relationship for the past 2 years but we've both tried to make it work the whole time. If we didn't have a kid together I'd be long gone. I'm ...
A. 9 October 2011: I don't think waiting til after the holidays is going to make it any easier. Faking Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas cheer is not going to be easy.
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Ex - Teacher Trouble
Q. Hi, so in my last year of high school, a new science teacher joined the school and obviously i thought about him as much as any other teacher. Which was almost never. He never taught me, only the lower sets. And he hardly ever talked. Howeve...
A. 9 October 2011: I don't see the problem? Unless he is married.
You are 20 and not his student, not even attending the school he works at. ... (read in full...)
I would try and find a j ob if we could move in together...
Q. I am married but want to leave my wife and leave home. I have met a woman who lives many miles from me. We would love to live together but she does not earn enough for us to live. I am unemployed at the moment but would try and find a job if we ...
A. 9 October 2011: Time to get a job, move out, divorce your wife and start over.
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He spends hours talking about his ex. What do I make of this?
Q. My partner spent four hours talking about his ex yesterday. About how they broke the bed by having so much sex, about how her butt is just amazing etc but also how she was annoying, and caused fights. So it wasn't all praise but just a long, LONG ...
A. 9 October 2011: I would ask him why he keeps bringing her up. Maybe it is because he has no other example to bring up.
I'm guessing she was a huge part of his life at some point and some of that stuck with him.
If you are tired of hearing about her, tell ... (read in full...)
Am I shrinking or is she getting loose?
Q. so the other day me and my girlfriend was having sex.. it seems as thought she is getting really loose now.. i gotta admit im a pretty small guy and i am pretty small down there, but now it seems like i can't really feel her as much as i use to..and ...
A. 9 October 2011: Neither.
She is starting to relax and is most likely more lubricated now and you have not shrunk. Try differnt positions.... (read in full...)
Ex has new gf but is still contacting me
Q. Hey, I need some help with my ex... We'd been together 3 years and split up a month ago. Since then he has been in regular contact with me (several times a week) just to see how I am and if I'm getting on etc. He also kept asking to meet up, which I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Sure it can be real. Who knows when he mentally checked out of your relationship, so it might seem fast to you (and me) but it might not be all that fast for him. It might jsut be a rebound relationship, it's always hard to tell.
He needs to shit ... (read in full...)
My BF of two months gave me a promise ring. But how do I handle this? Another guy wants me to go with him instead.
Q. I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not!!!! Okay so my BF of two months gave me a promise ring at my Homecoming dance. I accepted it thinking it was so sweet and he was my Mr. Right. Well now I don't known if I'm making the right choice...
A. 9 October 2011: Why would it be a "trick" ? It's supposely love not a magic show.
I know you "think" it's LOVE. But really, if it was love, I doubt you would have so many conflicting feelings and doubt.
... (read in full...)
FWB doesn't call me gorgeous like he does other girls
Q. hi, i am seeing this guy for past few years.. we stay in separate cities so it is not exactly exclusive but we aren't really seeing anybody else .. it is basically more sexual than emotional! we sex text a lot and such stuff.. recently he shared ...
A. 6 October 2011: Because he gets what he wants from you without the compliments.
FWB has nothing to do with having a relationship.. it's about having sex with someone available whom you don't have to invest a lot of time and emotions in.... (read in full...)
Do I follow my heart and move far away from my kids or try to stick it out?
Q. Hi again guys. Since last time I asked a question, I made the decision to end the marriage, and filed for divorce a few months ago. Nothing was getting any easier, and my soon to be ex even started going on dating sites while I was trying hard to ...
A. 6 October 2011: I agree fully with CaringGuy - You kids should come first no matter what. They are still so young and NEED to have both parents around.
I have seen what not having a Daddy have done to kids. In my book money can never replace a good parent.... (read in full...)
Should I stick around to see if he'll ever love me?
Q. He said, "I do love you" the other night...in the dark. I took it to mean he's trying to convince himself he loves me. He's already told me he loves just me and his brother. I'm guessing he's not in love with me but he does care and love me - he ...
A. 6 October 2011: I think (and I don't mean to offend) that you have a Romance novel sense of love. As in... You are not seeing what you have and you have some rather unrealistic expectations of your man.
It seems to me like you are trying to convince yourself... (read in full...)
My BF of two months gave me a promise ring. But how do I handle this? Another guy wants me to go with him instead.
Q. I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not!!!! Okay so my BF of two months gave me a promise ring at my Homecoming dance. I accepted it thinking it was so sweet and he was my Mr. Right. Well now I don't known if I'm making the right choice...
A. 6 October 2011: You still have plenty of time to find Mr. Right.
If you aren't sure about a relationship, then usually it means it's not right for you. But honestly at 15.. it's hard to know if a guy is Mr. Right or Mr. Right now.. heck at 30 it's hard to know.... (read in full...)
Am I having a mid life crisis? It seems so important to increase the number of woman I have sex with. So would paying for it be a quick solution?
Q. I am single and am no spring chicken anymore, although Im not exactly geriatric either. In my life I havent really had many girlfriends and can count the number of sexual partners I've had on one hand. Im starting to feel that 'I've missed out...
A. 6 October 2011: You should be old enough to know by now that is the the quality, not the quantity that makes life better.
How is having sex with as many women as possible makes you more of a man?
It's not what a woman looks for in a man.
If I were to ev... (read in full...)
My BF of two months gave me a promise ring. But how do I handle this? Another guy wants me to go with him instead.
Q. I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not!!!! Okay so my BF of two months gave me a promise ring at my Homecoming dance. I accepted it thinking it was so sweet and he was my Mr. Right. Well now I don't known if I'm making the right choice...
A. 6 October 2011: I couldn't have said it better then Eyeswideopen so I will repost her post !
A female reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 October 2011):
You have many postings on DC concerning all your many boyfriend dramas. I suggest you just repeat ... (read in full...)
How should I control my jealously and this shock that my girlfriend defeated me in a game of soccer?
Q. Six months back, I started teaching Soccer to my girlfriend. We have been together two years. Two days ago, we had one-to-one match and I got shocked to death that she beat me by 6 goals to 3, out smarting me in every aspect of the game. It got ...
A. 6 October 2011: Be proud of her, be proud of yourself as a teacher - you obviously taught her all the right moves.... (read in full...)
I'm his mother, his maid, his cook and his sex toy.... How do I deal/let him know?
Q. I haven't been married to my husband for very long (just over 1 year), and we don't have kids, but I still feel like I'm his cook, his maid, his sex toy, and his mother... I mean, he's more of a clean freak than I am, but I still like a clean house. ...
A. 1 October 2011: Honey, if you KEEP doing everything for him, you can't get mad when he expects it.
YOU need to sit him down and make a chore schedule. If you feel like you can't do it by yourself, find a counselor, many churches have one you can talk to.
S... (read in full...)
Checked my boyfriend's facebook account and found emails from the past that I don't like!
Q. Hi all. I have been with my bf for almost two years. I suffer from terrible insecurity and have often wondered if he has cheated. Anyway, I know it’s wrong but I decided to check his facebook account. I found nothing untoward in the last two years ...
A. 1 October 2011: 1. If you snoop you might find something you never wanted to see. Something that was never MEANT for you to see.
2. It was your first date. Nothing was settled in stone between the two of you.
3. It was a mail to his buddy, honestly, people... (read in full...)
Do we tell the parents of my son's girlfriend that we walked in on them having oral sex?
Q. My husband and I walked in on my 17 year old son performing oral sex on his girl friend who is 16. My husband and I disagree on what we should do. I think that we should call her parents and tell them what happened. My husband on the other hand said ...
A. 1 October 2011: No I think it's ok to trust your son, I would however re-tell him to be safe.... (read in full...)
Husband accidentally left message on my phone calling me a dumb bitch!
Q. my husband accidentally left a voicemail on my cell phone where he is talking to his friends and saying " the dumb bitch won't answer her phone" I feel very hurt I never thought he would refer to me as a dumb bitch and I feel disrespected and he ...
A. 1 October 2011: I don't think ther IS an excuse for this. I would tell him, and I would explain how it made you feel.
IF he doesn't get it, I might... give him a taste of his own medicin.... (read in full...)
How can I make a man want to marry me?
Q. How can I keep my man satisfied in our relationship? Including all factors. How could I make him want to marry me? ladies or fellas, thanks in advance! :-)...
A. 1 October 2011: You can't MAKE a man marry you, this isn't the 1940. :)
Take your time to find someone you think you can spend the rest of your life with, GET to know him. See where life takes you.
What is the hurry?... (read in full...)
Does this happen to teen girls? Is it normal? My periods are irregular.
Q. Ok so I'm almost 14, I first got my period right before I turned 9 so my periods should be normal by now right? Well it has been a month or two since and I have not had my period. I still get the PMS symptoms. But I dont get my period and I am NOT ...
A. 30 September 2011: Yes, it's not abnormal. It can be regulated but your doctor might think 14 is a little early. I would talk to your mom (she most likely follwed a similar pattern) and go see a gynocologist/doctor.... (read in full...)
Feeling confused about this relationship
Q. Feeling Confused: I am in a long distance relationship with someone who I love very much. We talk everyday for aprox an hour. Now I am feeling confused about he feels. He lives with his Dad and I still live with my ex husband. A situation I know i...
A. 29 September 2011: He is in his 30's and still live with his Dad? Yea, I doubt he will be ready for a real relationship any time soon.
As for the phone calls, maybe make then short and sweet. You two agree on a "lenght" of a conversation and stick to it.
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He never wants to get married because he is afraid a woman will take away his money.
Q. I've been married for 20 years. It was a loveless marriage and Im glad that I had the courage to end it. I've got my own house now and a part time job which I can manage to support myself. I've met this man 16 years older than me. I've been with ...
A. 29 September 2011: 1 word.
Prenup.... (read in full...)
My long-term boyfriend can't see how destructive his wanting to help his ex is to our relationship!
Q. Hi, So I'm in a very serious relationship, and we've both talked many times about how this is it for both of us. Yet, I'm starting to have doubts, and thinking that I don't really want to be with him anymore. Unfortunately, I get into this kin...
A. 29 September 2011: Honestly, I do think he some how feels sorry for her and that she is playing on that sympathy. But the fact that he can't let her go (as in change his # and tell her to go find someone else to talk to) would be a no-go for me. If the child is not ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex and am now afraid I caught something!
Q. I had unprotected sex with 2 different guys just 5 days ago. I was super drunk and didn't care for what I was doing. The next night I had unprotected sex with my bf for the first time. I know of his past, he has slept with a few other women. 2 ...
A. 29 September 2011: Get an appointment and go see your doctor.And stop being stupid with your life.... (read in full...)
Does this make him gay?
Q. My bf told me that he is bi and likes me to use a dildo on him. Does that make him gay? I'm afraid I will lose him because he might want to be with a guy. He loves sex with me and I turn him on. He also tells me he loves me . He says he doesn't ...
A. 29 September 2011: He said he was BI, it might be that he likes the feeling from getting his prostate stimulated, THAT doesn't make him gay.
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Can you get pregnant if a woman doesn't reach orgasm?
Q. Hi every one! I've been wondering and would like to know that can a woman get pregnant if she still doesn't reach orgasm? If yes how does it happen? Thanks for your time reading this and thanks for your answers in advance. ...
A. 29 September 2011: You don't need an orgasm to get anyone pregnant.
Egg+sperm=baby ... (read in full...)
How do you get through being cheated on and lied to by a guy who never even cared about you?
Q. He said he never lies... I'm struggling to keep count of all the lies he's told. He said he's been cheated on before and would never cheat... he asked other girls out while we were together and straight after we break up. He told me he's not like ...
A. 29 September 2011: You live and you learn. Figure out what it was that attracted you in the first place and then stay far far away from guys like that in the future.
And next time take the time to get to know the guy. Take it slow :)
There are plenty of douche... (read in full...)
I have been talking to a guy for 11 months and he has gone out and had sex with someone else. I feel betrayed
Q. Hello i met this man on dating site we talked for 11 months, i saw him through webcam, i talked to his family through the phone he was supposed to visit me . But i told him that i will move to his country for study but then soon the war broke out in ...
A. 28 September 2011: Honestly, I would let him go. Sexual addiction is hard and something only the person WITH the addiction can do anything about.
I think he sabotaged the relationship, becuase he doesn't feel he deserves you.
I'd run a mile the other way.... (read in full...)
Can I delete him off facebook? I don't want to know what he's up to!
Q. My ex dumped me a week and a half ago. We had a 1 year relationship. Its been very hard for me, but he is completely fine. He feels nothing about the break up and has moved on. I have to see my ex every day as we go to uni together and are in the ...
A. 28 September 2011: I'd delete him in a heatbeat.... (read in full...)
Ladies, which do you prefer - the cook or the dancer?
Q. Just out of curiosity to all the women out there, which do you prefer - a man who knows his way around the kitchen or a man who knows his way around the dance floor? And why? (I'm just taking a poll of sorts after an interesting discussion among...
A. 28 September 2011: Both ? lol Yeah I'm greedy!
If I had to pick? The cook. Most guys I know who can cook ( I mean REALLLY cook, not just stir the pot with Mac & Cheese) have been pationate men.
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Why does he turn his phone off at 7? Is he cheating?
Q. Im with this guy that always has his phone off about 700 at first i thought it was because of his spilt shift. Wen he finish work he comes over for hour or so and say need 2 sleep of hav 2 pick up the kid for ex I did believe him at first but not ...
A. 28 September 2011: Stop taking his calls, if you see him at work ignore him.... (read in full...)
Love triangles. I keep trying to do the 'right' thing but it keeps hurting more and more. What can I do?
Q. First it's important to know that I have never had this occur before, never thought it even slightly possible, and hope it never happens again. I'm 35 and 3 years ago I moved workplaces. I was assigned a mentor, B, who was great in showing me the ...
A. 27 September 2011: Seems to me that you should end your relationship with A and find "yourself". Don't jump from relationship to relationship. I don't see you and A being able to fix your relationship. B wasn't the reason your relationship with A wasn't working. A's ... (read in full...)
Why does he turn his phone off at 7? Is he cheating?
Q. Im with this guy that always has his phone off about 700 at first i thought it was because of his spilt shift. Wen he finish work he comes over for hour or so and say need 2 sleep of hav 2 pick up the kid for ex I did believe him at first but not ...
A. 27 September 2011: He turns it off EVERY night at 7 pm? So no contact after 7 pm? No going to dinner, a movie or hanging out?
You see him for an hour or so and then he goes "home"?
Hm... Red flag everywhere..
Have you been to his house?
I agree with ... (read in full...)
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