I was his rebound girl....how do I get over this?
Q. I was his rebound girl. I cannot believe it. I definitely knew what I got myself into, but the god-damned feelings kicked in. I fell for him, quite a bit. I wanted more, and I thought I could do it. The honest words he said, does hurt....
A. 19 October 2011: As far as jobs, unless you ar desperate for an income, don't lower your "standard" Finding and having a job you actually ENJOY can make such a difference.
As for planning. Some are planners, some are not. However, when you plan thing you always h... (read in full...)
I was his rebound girl....how do I get over this?
Q. I was his rebound girl. I cannot believe it. I definitely knew what I got myself into, but the god-damned feelings kicked in. I fell for him, quite a bit. I wanted more, and I thought I could do it. The honest words he said, does hurt....
A. 17 October 2011: 1. How do you get over it? Well know that he got LUCKY in having you as a rebound and that it is HIS loss that he can't handle anything more. Next time take the time to get to know a guy before you jump into bed with him.
2. Get out there meet peo... (read in full...)
My supervisor is trying to force me out of my job! Help!
Q. I know this isn't a problem regarding relationships or anything like that but I really need advice. I recently started my first job about 6 weeks ago, I've just turned 18 a few weeks ago. Everything was fine until I got friendly with a girl at w...
A. 17 October 2011: I would honestly keep a log of the extra chores she makes YOU and no one else do. If it continue, go above her.
Could it be that she is "making" you do all these things because you are the newest and most inexperienced?
As far as the "bullying... (read in full...)
How much did you regret not losing your virginity to your husband/wife?
Q. Did you regret not losing your virginity to the person you're married to? How much? I'm torn between waiting until marriage (for religious and mostly nonreligious reasons) and just going for it with whoever I feel like. But I don't want to one day ...
A. 17 October 2011: I didn't meet my husband til I was 28. I have no regrets over my first BF.
If you aren't sure, then maybe waiting isn't such a bad idea.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay...
Q. I just want other opinions...my boyfriend served in the armed forces, he's quite the hard ass at times, and he's the stereotypical alpha male. A friend of his is visiting him this week. This friend is also in the service and is coming from Iraq...
A. 17 October 2011: Yes I do think you are over analyzing this.
Failed marriages doesn't equate being gay. From what you are describing I think he has had 2 failed marriage because of his attitude to his partners, not because of his sexual orientation. Liking t... (read in full...)
I'm single and I'm obsessing over a married woman. I want to get closer to her. Is this an emotional affair?
Q. A young woman recently transferred to my place of work. She's from another country, and extremely beautiful. I'm a single male in my mid-20s who works on the opposite side of the building. After her first or second week we just hit it off, started ...
A. 17 October 2011: I think she wants a friend and you want more. If you start to touch her (even playfully) you can lose the friendship you have with her.
Obviously you have fallen for her or you are quite smitten with her. She might have the same feelings for you,... (read in full...)
My friends think I'm a slut, I'm just trying to get over him
Q. It's been a year since, i guss you could call it a fling ended. For the first 6 months I couldn't really talk to any guys let alone flirt, now it seems i can't stop flirting, but i'm not at all attracted or want anything to happen between the guys i ...
A. 17 October 2011: Flirting doesn't make you a slut. We have all kissed a few frog in our life, it doesn't make anyone a slut. But with that said, understand that your actions (flirting and kissing mindlessly) makes other judge you and your character - so you can ... (read in full...)
I love her but she's confused on which path to take!
Q. I am a 35 year old girl who has been in a relationship with another girl for 8 months.She has asked me for a break between us, to see what she really wants.She says she loves me but she is confused on what path to take.To be with a man in order to ...
A. 17 October 2011: She doesn't need a husband to have a child, she could find a donor. Honestly.
She isn't sure what she wants. She sounds like she is still finding out who she is when it comes to her sexuality. To be very frank I would give her the space she need... (read in full...)
After we had sex he wrote me off, now I'm going to see him again. How do I act?
Q. So, my best guy friend introduced me to his cousin we txted for a couple of days, we then met had sex and in the morning he kissed me goodbye and disappeared. I texted him thinking he might txt me back but he never did.... We then saw eachother ...
A. 16 October 2011: He wanted sex, he got sex. End of story.
I'd stop chasing the guy. If you want more then jsut occational sex, he IS NOT the guy.... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex regret his actions?
Q. My ex dumped me out of the blue by text, after a year. He was rude and it was full of insults. I was a good girlfriend and never cheated. He turned everyone against me. How do I make him regret it? Do people like this ever do?...
A. 16 October 2011: You can't. You can not make people DO anything they don't want to.
But you can be glad you are rid of this douchebag. So live life, be happy, move on.... (read in full...)
I took the emergency 72 hour pill 4 weeks ago and I'm still bleeding?
Q. I took the emergency 72 hour pill almost 4 weeks ago now and ive been bleeding ever since. Can someone tell me why and when will it stop? Ive started taking the mini pill and also had tablets prescribed by my doctor to stop the bleeding but they...
A. 16 October 2011: I would suggest you go see your doctor.... (read in full...)
I h ave given up everything for him and he cannot give anything back. Do I cut my losses?
Q. hi aunts and uncles, hope you can shed some lignt on my situation please. I met my partner 4 years ago, it was long distant at first but i moved in with him 2 years ago, left all my family and friends cause i wanted to be with him, he has children...
A. 16 October 2011: Honestly, I'd cut mny loses, seems like you make all the sacrifices and he none, that ends up with a very uneven relationship.... (read in full...)
My estranged mother's funeral....the worst situation I will ever allow myself to be in...
Q. I had not spoken to my parents or their families for some years. To cut a long story short - I spoke out about being abused as a child by my father and they all took my father's side - my ex husband and his family included??? I was cut out from ...
A. 15 October 2011: Glad you made it and I hope it will give you some sort of closure.
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I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 14 October 2011: It does sound like your hormones is running a little crazy. Not everyone even have a nice pregnacy lol It's CERTAINLY not glamrous or wonderful the whole 9 months. Trust me, I have been there 3 times .
Is it the attention maybe? that you are seek... (read in full...)
Do you think I was being manipulative?
Q. I'm moving to another city for nine months next November. I have talked about this to my boyfriend about a month ago. We are going to stay together while I'm away. I feel like we haven't spent quality time together lately because he has a lot of h...
A. 14 October 2011: I think it was a good idea to spend as much time as possible together, it doesn't mean that he can't do anything else. Maybe.. you should let this relationship run it's course while you are away?... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my FWB? Even though he may have a girlfriend?
Q. Hey quick question .... I Have a friend with benefit/sex buddy. Were both single, I'm single because I can't find a Guy. Its like the guys That are my type are GONE! I wish I could but I've been single for years. Even tho I'm only 20 lol. I've had...
A. 14 October 2011: It' very easy to get stuck in the rut with a FWB because it's easy. Easy is not always better.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I don't want to be friends anymore or should I just ignore him?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for about 9 months and I don't think I can be friends with him any more and would like advice on whether I should say this to him or just ignore him. I have already tried to explain and been met with a very sarcastic ...
A. 14 October 2011: Ouch! he sounds like a nutcase. You thought being friends could be mutually beneficial, however you discovered it's very one-sided and inappropriate from his side, so let it run it course.
Personally I would avoid him like the plague, ignore h... (read in full...)
Do men generally avoid a woman who has experienced sexual abuse in her past?
Q. Hello Everyone. I understand the moment anyone who mentions sexual abuse o/r abuse of any kind screams a red flag, but do men usually avoid women how have experienced abuse? Would you place a stigma on her as being emotionally unstable and avoi...
A. 14 October 2011: I agree with *Uncle Odds* It really depends on the guy and the girl. I don't think it screams red flag at all. We are not just a sum of our experiences, but we are who we are, party because of how we deal/dealt with things in our lives. I t... (read in full...)
My ex womanizing b/f keeps contacting me. Should I block his number?
Q. hi, I have this womanizer ex- fling boyfriend contacting me from time to time. he is not inlove with me, but seems to dial my number from time to time pretending to want a relationship with his charismatic ways, and i find him soooo attractive...
A. 14 October 2011: Block him. Who cares what he thinks?... (read in full...)
Frustrating situation with a guy who just broke up with his gf
Q. So there's this guy, he is 24 years old that I really like. I just recently started talking to him. He is sweet, nice, awesome and totally cute. I have been seeing him every day for the past week and things seems to be somewhat moving forward. He ...
A. 14 October 2011: You need to give him some space. He is NOT ready for another relationship right now. What he needs is a friend. If you can't be that for him, you should let him go. People deal with break ups in many different ways.... (read in full...)
How to tell husband you are leaving him???
Q. Because of some horrible problems, that can't be worked out, I am leaving my husband. But how do I say it?? We (he) are/is purchasing a home, but the agent has been pretty rude to me, so I want out of the deal and the marriage. Should I just go ...
A. 14 October 2011: Tell him - the sooner the better. And do it before the house it bought and please, woman up, and do it face to face. You can not hide your head in the sand and expect him to "figure" it out. ... (read in full...)
Should I be hurt by his ultimatum?
Q. My fiance' and I got into an argument bout his job and its influence. I feel like a dirty secret. He says he wants to keep his home life seperate from his work life, ok. Yesterday he was called into work, just to realize that they didn't call him ...
A. 14 October 2011: What job does he have that he has to hide his GF? Unless he is the Pope, I can't see why anyone would have to hide their partners from their co-workers. There is something else going on. Your relationship seems very one-sided. Also the fact... (read in full...)
Husband said he'll give me a month to find a job!
Q. Hey everyone. I have a worry. My husband and I have only been married 3 months. He is upset with me and will not communicate with me hardly at all. The past 3 days he has been getting in his truck and leaving without saying a word. A couple of weeks ...
A. 14 October 2011: Well congrats on the job, but if he keeps this up, look for a full time job so you can (if you have to take care of yourself). Sounds like he checked out of the marriage already.... (read in full...)
Relationship of 12 years not going anywhere, so I'm cheating and want to be with that girl
Q. I,ve been in a relationship 4 12 years now but the relationship doesnt seem to be going anywere. recently i,ve been seeing someone else behind her back, shes allot younger than me, when ever i see her i feel complete, ive even risked a kiss and ...
A. 13 October 2011: It's pretty simple. Leave your current GF - let her move on with her life too, you obviously have.
There is never a good reason to cheat.
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I get too embarrassed to kiss my girlfriend!
Q. i love my girlfriend and she loves me, but we have been going out for almost two months and we've only kissed once and i cant bring myself to do it. i have veeery little dating experience(one other girl that i never even kissed even though we dated ...
A. 13 October 2011: Only way to get good at it, it try it, practise and keep trying!
Jsut start out slowly, just lips to lips. You will figure out what to do next, trust me.
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B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: Oh boy!
1. if this is your first time WHY oh why would you start of by having sex with 3 guys? Are you nuts?
2. He wants one of the guys to be his brother? WTF? how twisted is that?
3. Gang-bangs (and THAT is what he is suggesting) can VERY ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship but said he doesn't want me talking to other men, what is that all about?
Q. Im so confuse the guy that im be have sex with that said he didnt want a realationship just told me that i cant talk 2 any other men what all that about i was talk to him and his workmate that is my bestfriend ...
A. 13 October 2011: Stop talking to him, stay away from him & stop having sex with him. Eventually he will get the point, no matter how dense he is.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship but said he doesn't want me talking to other men, what is that all about?
Q. Im so confuse the guy that im be have sex with that said he didnt want a realationship just told me that i cant talk 2 any other men what all that about i was talk to him and his workmate that is my bestfriend ...
A. 13 October 2011: He sounds toxic and sick. Who cares who he tells that the two of you knocked boots.. We all make mistakes. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship but said he doesn't want me talking to other men, what is that all about?
Q. Im so confuse the guy that im be have sex with that said he didnt want a realationship just told me that i cant talk 2 any other men what all that about i was talk to him and his workmate that is my bestfriend ...
A. 12 October 2011: He wants you to staqy available for him as a f-buddy. While he can do as he pleases.. Lovely.
I guess it comes down to what YOU want. If you want a relationship and he isn't interested, let him know. Go find a guy who is.
I don't get who yo... (read in full...)
Deciding not to use condoms....how safe is the pill really?
Q. I've just started dating a new guy and have gone on the pill. We've both been checked out and are looking to not use condoms soon. I'm just worried about the possibility of getting pregnant. I know that the pill is 99.9999999% effective - but what ...
A. 12 October 2011: The PILL is 99% effective is used correctly 100% of the time.
Honestly, the best way to avoid pregnacies is using both the pill & condom.
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Was my thinking wrong? My manager's mother died and I didn't go to the funeral because I haven't even started the job yet!
Q. i just started a new job literally a week ago. Unfortunately my manager's mother passed..i actually don't even have an official work e-mail yet; still waiting for the process to be done. So i hear it through word of mouth. I feel bad but i figured i ...
A. 12 October 2011: A card is very appropriate for the situation. Going to the wake of someone you don't know, but whose "child" you will be working with soon, is not needed.
If that becomes a topic for them let them gossip.
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My estranged mother's funeral....the worst situation I will ever allow myself to be in...
Q. I had not spoken to my parents or their families for some years. To cut a long story short - I spoke out about being abused as a child by my father and they all took my father's side - my ex husband and his family included??? I was cut out from ...
A. 12 October 2011: If you feel you need to be there, then go. Ignore them all. Do what you have to do - FOR YOU. You have done nothing wrong.
And I agree that you should consider finding a therapist to talk to.
I'm sorry that your family didn't trust, love and ... (read in full...)
If I'm tearing up photos of my ex does this mean I am over him?
Q. Myself and my ex have now been apart for 5 months now and recently i have been coming across photos of him but instead of leaving them alone i have been tearing them in half and putting them in the bin and have not felt no remorse does this mean im ...
A. 12 October 2011: We all work though break-ups, loss and grief differently. If tearing his pictures up makes you feel like you are truly over him, then go for it.
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Husband said he'll give me a month to find a job!
Q. Hey everyone. I have a worry. My husband and I have only been married 3 months. He is upset with me and will not communicate with me hardly at all. The past 3 days he has been getting in his truck and leaving without saying a word. A couple of weeks ...
A. 12 October 2011: What else is going on?
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Why is he talking to women online and getting nude pictures?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs now and have two young children together, one just two months. I recently found him on a website and his profile shows single looking to meet. i also found pics of another girl, some nude, on his phone. ...
A. 12 October 2011: Counseling can help people work through their feelings, but it's not a magical wand that will go "poof" and he will never ever even think about doing it.
For him to stop, he has to admit, get help and work HARD on not doing it. HE HAS TO DO THIS ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and planning on getting pregnant. How do I tell my dad?
Q. I'll be honest. I'm 14 and planning on getting pregnant. I've been with my boyfriend (19) for a while. He is going to propose and is okay with me getting pregnant. He wants a child as do I. I understand I am only a child. Yet I'm not. I...
A. 12 October 2011: A baby will not fix everything. Give it another 5-6 years AT LEAST - you NEED to be finacial stable to take care of a child. You will still be good with babies and kids by then.
Have you ever had counseling after the rape?
Having a baby... (read in full...)
Does alot of nagging lead to cheating?
Q. Do all guys cheat? Could a lot of nagging lead him cheating? Long dinstance? or what are some things that may lead a boyfriend to cheat?...
A. 12 October 2011: No. Though nagging do lead to one person ignoring the other, or at least they stop really listening.
Cheating is something a person CHOSE to do. IF the nagging is driving said person up the wall, breaking up would make far more sense.... (read in full...)
I thought things would get better once we were married but nothing has changed, what is the way forward for us?
Q. Hi you all helped in the past with priceless help, now i need you guys again. I married a lady that i was so in love with. This happened 9 weeks ago, now it feels like i been married for 9 years. nothing has changed. Is it me, my way of thi...
A. 12 October 2011: So why did you guys get married if things weren't resolved?
Also if there are some things you want to change you are going to have to sit her down and talk about them, being married rarely changes everything on it's own.
What do you two argue... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my FWB? Even though he may have a girlfriend?
Q. Hey quick question .... I Have a friend with benefit/sex buddy. Were both single, I'm single because I can't find a Guy. Its like the guys That are my type are GONE! I wish I could but I've been single for years. Even tho I'm only 20 lol. I've had...
A. 12 October 2011: No, he has a GF. Why would you want to have sex with a guy you know is taken?
Grow some morals.
If you want a guy just for sex, go find some single stud.... (read in full...)
Why is he talking to women online and getting nude pictures?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs now and have two young children together, one just two months. I recently found him on a website and his profile shows single looking to meet. i also found pics of another girl, some nude, on his phone. ...
A. 11 October 2011: You are not doing anything wrong. He CHOSES to talk to other women and get naked pictures - honestly he has no respect for your feelings.
I can't tell you to stay or go, personally I would leave. This behavior is NOT going to change once you get ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel hurt that he thinks it's normal to go to a strip club/pole dancing at a stag party?
Q. The subject of my fiancee going to a stag weekend where there they go to a strip club/pole dancing came up (we're together a year). He said he wouldn't think of going twice and what was the big deal. I was shocked at his reaction. He was then ...
A. 11 October 2011: I think strip clubs are very much the "norm" for male stag parties. (even for some female) - I think it's HIGHLY unimagniative to do strip clubs for a stag/hen party, but I guess it comes down to who arrange it.
I would tell him how you feel, bu... (read in full...)
We broke up for college but while we were apart she had sex with another guy. Now we are back together I cant deal with this!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 16 months. We were best friends before we started dating and she was almost my first everything, except for kiss pretty much. I loved her so much but we decided that we should break up for college, and go back to ...
A. 10 October 2011: First off, I don't think you need to push her to think it's rape. She feels bad enough as it is. The guy could have been just as dunk as her. You two were on a "break" so getting mad at her for having sex with someone else is rather irrational and ... (read in full...)
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