I have major problems with my boyfriend's personal choices!
Q. So I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 40. I know it seems like a big age gap but it has worked for us and we get along so well... Until recently. Basically he is a self employed builder and hasn't had work for a gd few months, he has been able to hav...
A. 18 February 2012: Sounds like you are the not so proud momma of a 40 year old!
Personally, I think there are so many red flags here and I'm wondering why you ar still with him.... (read in full...)
I deleted him off facebook. So should I message him and explain why?
Q. I have a crush on this guy for three years now. Even though we never got together, the chance we did have was thrown out the window for a number of factor. (he went back to his country + was seeing other women). I decided to be just friends ...
A. 18 February 2012: Eh, Ignore him. He sounds like a loser.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my g/f about my fetish
Q. Hi there. I'm a 30 year old male and have been going out with my g/f for nearly 4 year's now, we both love each other dearly, we are having our 1st child soon and I think she could be the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem ...
A. 18 February 2012: Next time you take a shower with her bring a dishcloth/sponge in and tell her what you like about it.
It's not a totally weird fetish, it's a pretty "normal" one, it's actually more of a sensory fetish.
Some like FUR on their naked skin, some... (read in full...)
He thinks that I should ask his permission before I go out with my friends!
Q. me and bf have been together for nearly six years both in twenties. we have been arguing really bad so i went up his house to try and sort it out but we couldn't resolve anything. i ended up going down my girlfriends house and going out ...
A. 18 February 2012: No you don't need to ask permission to go out with your friends. However it is NICE to let him know that you will be going out Friday night with them (or whatever day).
And, IMHO he isn't in a position to be the one that has to approve of how ofte... (read in full...)
It's really disappointing that my boyfriend isn't coming to see me perform anymore!
Q. i am a musician and i perform on weekends. my boyfriend used to always come watch me perform and it really was the sweetest thing. i felt really good knowing he was there supporting me but the last few weeks, he has chosen not to go to my ...
A. 18 February 2012: It can't be that hard to tell him that you really love it when he shows up? That it makes you feel better about everything?
How long have you been together?... (read in full...)
Friend gives lame answer and then no reply, what should I do?
Q. I asked a friend to catch up for my birthday. But he said he had no money, but can't he just borrow money from his family- who he lives with? He's used this excuse before, but I mean it's my birthday tomorrow. And I'm having my wisdom tooth removed ...
A. 18 February 2012: So he bought a new car and therefore is broke... makes sense in a way.
I think it was an excuse though. He really didn't feel like going out. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Friend gives lame answer and then no reply, what should I do?
Q. I asked a friend to catch up for my birthday. But he said he had no money, but can't he just borrow money from his family- who he lives with? He's used this excuse before, but I mean it's my birthday tomorrow. And I'm having my wisdom tooth removed ...
A. 18 February 2012: So he bought a new car and therefore is broke... makes sense in a way.
I think it was an excuse though. He really didn't feel like going out. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Is this girl interested? She puts off seeing me but didn't say no
Q. Hi, I just phoned up this girl I have a crush on and I asked her out to dinner (it took a lot of nerve on my part but I won't go into that). When she asked who else is coming I said that I was thinking 'just you and me'. And she said, 'You a...
A. 18 February 2012: Don't read too much into it, wait til your date on Friday. It's nice to have something to look forward too. I'm guess she is trying to not seem too eager.... (read in full...)
What do I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
Q. what to do when my boy friend ignores me a lot and does not meet me nor does answer my call nor texts me and just avoids me what do i do ? ...
A. 18 February 2012: I would assume it's "over" with him and I'd move on with my life and leave him alone, ignore his calls and texts if he tries that at some point.
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How do I tell this guy I don't want to play his games any longer?
Q. Why does he keep doing this? how do I tell him i want to forget him? ? There's this guy I use to work with. I liked him a lot and I use to stare at him a lot of times at work and each time I looked at him he'd be looking at me too. So I got...
A. 18 February 2012: Let him go. My guess is, he has a GF or he is really not interested. He just liked to attention and to have a girl to call every now and then.
If he REALLY wanted to go out with you, he would have set up a date and taken you out a LONG time ago... (read in full...)
My passion is steadily cooling and I'm wondering if I should breakup with boyfriend because hes selfish sexually?
Q. my bf is 36, I am 21. he was my first and at first it was exciting. but I have only been able to come once in our 2yr time together...Now, he does little foreplay and goes right in. Hard and fast. Done. He has stamina and no problem getting/staying ...
A. 18 February 2012: Honestly, I don't see him as being an investment in the future, because unless you can get through to him about the sex and his double standards, he will NOT change. So YOU will be stuck with a guy who (pardon my English here) fu@ks but have no idea ... (read in full...)
He's confused, I'm confused, what's going on?
Q. I am 47 and my boyfriend of five years is 60. We had a wonderful relationship and I know he loves me very much. He recenlty started pulling back without explanation. He then told me he didn't think he cared as much as he use to. We broke up and over ...
A. 18 February 2012: Tell him to shit or get of the pot.
He thought the grass was greener elsewhere ( the 40 year old) and found out that it may not be so he wants you back, but does that mean he truly cares about you? Or does he just want to go back to what he think... (read in full...)
How do I stop this guy from being boring and getting upset so easily?
Q. Hi people! I really need help with this one. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 weeks now. He was a very mysterious type in the beginning but now he's soo boring now. He's a quite romantic guy but he keeps saying the same things o...
A. 18 February 2012: You can't "fix" him or change him into a person that YOU want him to be.
If he isn't who your thought he was and you aren't attracted to him, let him go. Since he already annoys you after 3 week, it's time to let him go so he can find a girl who... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will not take advice from a girl
Q. When waiting for a take away once with my ex boyfriend, I was reading a magazine with a sex positions article in it. Being flirty, as a joke I showed it to him and he put it back on the table and said angrily I'm not taking sex advice from a girl! ...
A. 18 February 2012: Wow, he sounds like an insecure dofus!
I'm guessing he took the article as a critique of his sexual skills..... Instead of a suggestion to try new things.
Which means, if he isn't all that super in bed, he doesn't WANT to improve.... (read in full...)
My college lover: Should I continue with him or cut all ties?
Q. i am in college; A guy and I has been on and off friends for about 2 years, during that time we have had intercourse and also tried become more than friend. During one of our periods of being apart he got into a relationship, but his girlfriend ...
A. 18 February 2012: Good friends don't have sex.
He will not be anything then a guy who has sex with you and who knows else, including his GF.
Do you really think it's OK to have sex with a guy who is seeing someone else? Would you be OK with having a BF who ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not trust me or want me to go to the library?
Q. Hi guys. Just looking for some advice. My main questions: Do you think this is acceptable in a relationship? Am I in the wrong? What would you do if you were me? Any other comments? Ok so the situation: I work part time/full time stud...
A. 18 February 2012: Tell him to met you at the library? Or walk you to the library. If you need books to do homework, you need books!
Honestly, I don't know why you feel like you have to "ask" him if it is OK to go. Just tell him. If he doesn't trust that you are ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my best friend which aren't returned. I don't want to lose her!
Q. So I've been best friends with this girl for 3 years now. I've had 'extra' feelings for her for a long time now, on and off. I told her about these feeling about 18 months ago, but got totally shot down. Our friendship wasn't shaken though and we're ...
A. 18 February 2012: If nothing has happened between you two in 3 years, I really doubt it will in the future. I'm sorry I would start looking for a girlfriend elsewhere.
You are in the friend zone with her and speaking from personal experience (I have always had many... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's fantasy of me being a teenager has freaked me out
Q. I have recently started dating someone and I'm having a pretty awesome experience with it. I'm really comfortable with him, we talk very personally, and its the first dating experience I've ever had where I wasn't nervous, and I was able to be ...
A. 18 February 2012: I think it's more if a fantasy of "innocence" not child molestation.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 7 years says if I don't give him a child he will leave me
Q. So, My bf of 7yrs has giving me an ultimatum that if I don't give him a kid he is going to leave me..Mind you he has a daughter who is being raised by her mother and he feels since he has no say he is giving up and wants to have one with me cuz he's ...
A. 18 February 2012: That is a serious NO-NO ultimatum in my book, specially considering his attitude and general behavior.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my FWB?
Q. I am seeing this guy for almost 3 months. I realized we are not more than FWB..cuz we meet always x sex. Last week I went out with a friend of mine, I met a nice guy who asked my number and invited me to lunch...I said not. He asked me if I have a ...
A. 18 February 2012: Drop the FWB and live life.... (read in full...)
Does anyone deserve a second chance?
Q. when someone has cheated, should you give them a second chance?...
A. 18 February 2012: I think it depends on several things (at least for me).
1. YOUR morals and values and YOUR boundaries. If cheating goes totally against your moral grain, then no.
2. How long you have dated. If it's short time, then no. If it's longer it "... (read in full...)
Painful doggy style...any advice to make it better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together around 3 months. He's been wanting to do doggy style for a while, but when we tried it was extremely painful and tugged on the bit of skin between my vagina and anus. Furthermore, my vagina seems to get ver...
A. 16 February 2012: Don't do doggy style unless you are wet and ready. And make he needs to try not to "pump" til everything is well lubricated.
Lube can also help.... (read in full...)
Should I actively try to pursue a girl?
Q. I haven't had a particularly stable childhood, I've moved schools 3 times since I was 13, but I've never been what you might call a loner; wherever i am I usually get along with other people and make friends easily enough. Recently though I moved ...
A. 16 February 2012: Go out and meet people. Gain some social skills. I'm willing to bet you won't have to "pursue" girls. Join a club with your peers at college or go hang out with your mates.... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 16 February 2012: I was actually looking for answers, but found questions.
I'm the one friends come to and ask advice, I'm the UN of my family and I am a huge fan of common sense.
I like the site. I like reading what my "fellow" aunts and uncles come up w... (read in full...)
How do I make things better when he's ignoring me and being nasty?
Q. Me and my ex have been on and off for nearly four years now and had a lot of ups and downs. We got back together a couple of weeks a go and he was being nice and treating me how he should and spending more time with me. But he cheated by kissing a ...
A. 16 February 2012: Well, what you are doing now isn't working. And that is getting back together with him every time he throws a fit and walks out on you.
How about realizing this isn't going to change unless you change. The only thing you CAN change is you. As ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he is over me?
Q. So i think im going a little over board with this, it started out at christmas time. i got him a few gifts he said thank you and that was it he gave me nothing in return i was hurt but at least got a thank you so i got over it, now valentines just ...
A. 16 February 2012: I think he is a tool! One thing is not taking V-day serious ( I don't have a problem with that,except he could at least say thank you) but you got him Christmas presents and all you got back was a thank you? Even if he went out and got you a little ... (read in full...)
Simple question, who would you choose?
Q. Simple question - who would you choose? Person 1- lets call him Froddo. So i have fancied 'Froddo' since year 8 (age 12-13 for others) (im in year 11 now - age 16-17) and we fell out a few times, but we always made up. He's a lovely guy. Rece...
A. 16 February 2012: I would go out and find myself an Aragon.
Seriously! I would go after either. Gandalf lives in Spain and LDR's seldom last. Frodo has no guts and well, I like a guy with guts!... (read in full...)
I'm lucky to "get lucky" once a week...
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven and a half years. During the past two months, he has been showing symptoms of hypothyroidism..such as hair loss in patches, dizzy spells, fatigue, and most concerning, lack of libido. We used to have sex ...
A. 16 February 2012: If he has hypothyroidism, even with medication his libido will be low. If he also have low testosterone it will be even lower.
Has he seen a doctor for this?
And the porn. I think he is trying to compensate for his lack of sex with you.... (read in full...)
Should I be tested for STIs?
Q. ive just found out that my boyfriend has slept with 3 women behind my back, and now im worried that i could have an STI. what should i do? if i go to the doctor, what will he do?...
A. 16 February 2012: Yes, go get tested and stop having unprotected (without a condom) sex with your BF. Even condoms can't prevent all STI's.
Are you still with this guy? If so why are you putting yourself a risk?... (read in full...)
Do you think its time to move on?
Q. I have been texting a guy for several months now. We have met 3/4 times. His texts are not consistent. He will text me every few weeks and will only ask to meet when he is out drinking.In the beginning he was making so much effort, texting ...
A. 16 February 2012: I agree with Worldlywise.
Booty call is all that come to mind.... (read in full...)
Should husband and I share money with my family or keep it for our soon to be baby?
Q. Dear cupid Alot of people say pregancy confuses the mind and makes women think irrationally i like to think that in this particullary situation i'm not thinking irrationally nor am i being selfish . but i'd rather hear it from other peoples ...
A. 16 February 2012: Save up, move out. Stop handing out money.... (read in full...)
Broken Hearted. How do I get her to love me??? Or how do I move on?
Q. There's this girl I talked to online for a really long time. we spent forever together and i thought things were going fine. we hung out once and it seemed like it went well but she doesn't want me for some reason. she talks to me all the time and...
A. 16 February 2012: I'm sorry you two have hung out once? Conversations online are nice and they for the most part makes us feel good.
Did you two talk about being in a relationship? Did you communicate any kind of exclusivity?
I think "your" girl likes the a... (read in full...)
My husband blew off Valentine's Day--does he not care about me?
Q. I have been with my husband for over 20 years and he has never been the romantic type but this valentines day he completely blew me off! Not even a card! Money is not an issue for us, he had the day off so he had time, and he didn't forget! I am ...
A. 16 February 2012: I'm not big on Valentine's Day, I don't like the idea of anyone telling me which day I should show my hubby I love him and HOW I should show it..
However, I still got him a card and his favorite chocolate - he got it on the 13th though.. Just bec... (read in full...)
This was a bit vulgar to say to me on Valentines day, should I be offended?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a few months. Everything has been going pretty good for the most part. Then yesterday, he kind of threw me for a loop. He sent me a text that said "Blow jobs are like flowers for guys on Valentine's Day". I was ...
A. 16 February 2012: If he sent you flowers I might find it less crude and maybe I could laugh... but I don't think his humor is very ... evolved. Specially not for a 40 year old guy and the "oversharing" on Facebook with the burp/bj.. I would have guessed he was 17.
... (read in full...)
Do his flowers mean he's serious about me?
Q. I just started dating a guy and received flowers for valentines day. Does this mean he's serious?...
A. 16 February 2012: No it doesn't necessarily means he is serious, but it means he knows what effect giving flowers has on most women. We like them. (flowers that is)
And flowers on V-day is a scored point in his favor .... (read in full...)
This man just can't take no for an answer
Q. I am divorced. I have put my house up for sale. My realtor came up a few weeks ago. He caught me off guard and stated that he was getting a divorce. On Valentines day he sent me flowers. I wrote him a email and stated I do not date married men (fyi ...
A. 16 February 2012: Ewww CREEPY! You did the right thing. Find another realtor and ignore that man.
I doubt he is getting divorced, I just think that is his MO. What a sleazebag!... (read in full...)
Bf does not pay attention to my breasts...but he does look at those of other women!
Q. I have a wonderful boyfriend (we have been together for almost a year now.) Our sex life is pretty great except for one thing... I get upset because he doesn't take my top off during sex and doesn't pay attention to my boobs. I admit that i am ...
A. 16 February 2012: I agree with Auntie Em:
**Most men like what they haven't got...that's why they never stop looking.*
I think if he wanted big boobs, he would have gone for a girl with.. BIG boobs.
Why don't YOU take your top of during sex? Maybe SHOW him ... (read in full...)
If I ejaculate after her menstrual cycle, can she get pregnant?
Q. if i ejaculate having unprotected sex after her menstrual cycle, will she get pregnant? ...
A. 16 February 2012: Easily. Use a condom and... your common sense.... (read in full...)
I want to go out with a girl my own age. Should I? Feels gut wrenching to do this to my LDR older Gf
Q. Right here goes. I have been in a long distance relationship for about 3 years. My girlfriend is Thai so she lives in Thailand and I live in Australia. I visit her quite frequently and when I can and we speak at least 3 times a day. The probl...
A. 16 February 2012: A LDR doesn't work long term in the sense that sooner or later, you will have to decide to do something about it or give it up.
Do you see yourself with your LDR GF long term and actually in the same country? I mean you have "dated" for 3 years,... (read in full...)
Her ex-lover sent her a Valentine's Day card. Should I be concerned?
Q. My S.O. and I are monogamous with each other, although she has remained friends (e.g., occasionally chats with) with some of her ex-lovers. I've been accepting of that situation so far... but on Valentine's Day, when we were together, she rece...
A. 16 February 2012: Meeh, it's V-day, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Maybe he just wanted to do something nice for her or maybe he just wanted her to think of him.
Either way, not her fault that he sent it. I would not make a big deal out of it.
... (read in full...)
Zero skills at dating women. How bold is too bold? Can I just ask out a women I do not know?
Q. Is it ok to walk up to a total stranger that you find either attractive or interesting and ask them out? I am 23 and sadly I have practically zero skill when It comes to dating women any helpful advice would go a long way thanks a lot :) ...
A. 16 February 2012: I think I would kind of freak out if some random stranger asked me out, in the middle of the street. It might be flattering, but not for me.
If you see someone you think might be a good match, talk to her. If she doesn't seem weirded out, then you... (read in full...)
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