How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 3 April 2012: I would also suggest you start out slow, don't expect to be super good at from the get go or not feel a little awkward, but try and look at from a "let's try this and have fun with it" perspective. But only do what you are comfortable with.
I can... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: The truth have a way of coming out sooner or later, the only thing you CAN control is the timing, by telling him.
I think it's a total cop out to NOT tell him. The fact that you can't be honest with him about this says a lot about you.
Own you... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to say to a child "I will break your legs"?
Q. Do you think its right that a mother would say to her own child "I will break your legs"?. My mom said this to my little brother who is nearly twenty but still lives at home. Apparently someone approached her and said he was with her daughter buying ...
A. 2 April 2012: People say the darndest things. Maybe she think her threats will deter him from buying pot?
He is 20, so not a child.
But, yea it is an odd thing to say. Pretty sure it was out of desperation.... (read in full...)
Sent my FWB some pictures of me, should I ask him to delete them? Or should I trust that he wont show anyone?
Q. okay i don't really know where to begin, but i met this guy 3 months ago, and after talking for a few months, we decided to be Fwb( this was mid Feb) we have seen each other once since we agreed to be fwb although we have not actually had any sexual ...
A. 2 April 2012: You can ask him to delete them but I guess you will JUST have to trust he won't "share" them with others and, in the future don't send naked pictures you just never know where they might end up.
If your face isn't in the picture I wouldn't... (read in full...)
How can I be pain and flashback free after being abused?
Q. I'm 23 years old and Been with my boyfreind for 11 months we first start getting sexual with each other three months in to the relationship which it took a lot off trust and understanding on my bf part because I was sexually abuse when I was younger ...
A. 2 April 2012: So it's only been a year since the abuse stopped? That is still pretty recent and I'm willing to be your feelings are still totally raw. You don't just "get" over something like that.
I suggest you find a good therapist/counselor and seek out a su... (read in full...)
Why does my ex look away from me like she's in emotional pain?
Q. Hello. I will make it as short as possible. I am baffled as to why my ex (Who is the dumper) constantly looks away in emotional pain. (I rejected her offer of remaining friends, as I just didn't want to feel depressed/suicidal anymore.). ...
A. 2 April 2012: She is messed up over the break up? That would be my guess. Or she is still blaming you for everything that went wrong instead of owning her own actions. It's always easier to be mad at the other party then admit that you (general you) screwed up.
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After 5 years together my boyfriend suddenly says he doesn't like my body anymore
Q. A while ago my long term boyfriend told me he didn't like my body anymore. We got together at 16 and are now 21. Of course, when we met my body was still developing, and it's silly to think it wouldn't change over time. I'm still the same clothin...
A. 2 April 2012: There is nothing wrong with you OR your body. There is something wrong with him for trying to put you down on what he KNOWS is your weak spot (your body).
Be healthy, be happy and dump him. I think him not liking your body all of a sudden is just ... (read in full...)
Do users eventually get used, or do they just continue to use?
Q. okay I was used. Bad. Was a while ago but it still is not a healed wound. I don't think about it because it aggravates me too much. But I was used. Taken advantage of by a woman who pretended to be my friend and then pulled away when I stopped ...
A. 2 April 2012: Learn from it. In the future you don't have to "buy" your friend or give them things. You can help them out, support them and be there for them, that my friend, is free and IF the other person is a true friend you will get the same in return.
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Girl is coming between my male friend and me...and I'm not sure what to do.
Q. So I think I've been in love with my best friend for a while and we tried a relationship a few years ago for a couple of weeks but it didn't work. I discussed it with him the other day and he said that I was like his sister, he could tell me ...
A. 2 April 2012: I think it's normal that he would go looking for a girl friend.
He sees you as a "sister" but no matter how much you TRY and convince yourself, you see him as the guy you care deeply for even if the two if you will never work.
Which means t... (read in full...)
Seeing married man on the fly, does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have really good friend who is married , he's been with this girl 10 years , they split up befour annd we were secretly seeing each other for a few weeks . Over the past few weeks we have been kissing at the weekends when we have a drink in us but ...
A. 2 April 2012: Yes the guys LOVES.... himself and his libido. The women around him means less. A lot less.
You are a convenient roll in the hay.
Even IF he left his wife, do you really think he would be faithful to you?
Don't kid yourself.... (read in full...)
B/f got angry at me because a guy at the club was touching me
Q. ok need some advise please ppl i went out clubbing the other night with my bf we had not spoke most of the night tbh we were out with friends he was with the boys an i was with the girls me and 1 of the girls went out for a fag and some bloke st...
A. 2 April 2012: Did you smack the guy feeling you up or tell him to keep his paws off your ass? Or did you just stand there and pretend to ignore it?
If you did one of the prior, I think your BF is a drama llama and was "showing" off in front of his friends.... (read in full...)
What do you think, is the answer in this situation?
Q. A few months before I met my boyfriend, I met this guy at a local gig and we hit it off instantly. He was a really nice guy and he walked me home that night, though nothing happened as he had a girlfriend. We've been friends ever since that night ...
A. 2 April 2012: He is not a friend. Stop being "friendly" with him. He obviously has no real respect for you.
And talk to your BF. If you tell him the juicy details your "freind" can ruin anything, because your BF already knows.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend nag at me?
Q. I used to think that it was the woman who always nagged at the man, my mom used to be that way so I promised myself I wouldn't be. I think I'm pretty laid-back and understanding for a girl, but my live-in boyfriend of three years will nag at me for ...
A. 2 April 2012: Sit down with your BF and make a chore-list - you do your half, he does his.
And your BF sounds like a misogynist..
"but he said a woman who does what her man says is a woman you spend the rest of your life with" What kind of archaic bullshit is ... (read in full...)
How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 2 April 2012: I would also suggest you blindfold your partner, it is much easier to pretend being someone you are not, if they can't look at you.... (read in full...)
He hit me so I broke up with him, problem is I love him so much I cant move on! Help!
Q. Hello.. I been dating with my bf for 6 years. He is 8 years older than me.Make long story short I broke up with him 2 days ago. The reason is we had agurment and he end it up hit me. I was so scared when he hit me. I was angry. I decited to leave ...
A. 2 April 2012: It's only been 2 days? No wonder you are still so raw! My best advice is to CUT all contact with him. You can NOT become friend with someone you had a relationship with, until you are TRULY over any kind of emotional attraction and sometimes not ... (read in full...)
Worried about my friend and the girls he is mixed up with....
Q. My male best friend has started seeing one of my friends recently and already it's complicated. Before all of this really started they were flirting and he would call her some not nice names when talking to me because she has a habit of flirtin...
A. 2 April 2012: I'm sorry your mate is going to have to make his own mistakes.
And next time, don't lie to him, be honest.
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Why can I not move on? What is the matter with me?
Q. I had a 5 year on and off relationship with my exboyfriend as he was seeing other women. I confronted him with evidence 4 months ago. I walked out for good. He send me email saying that his flat feels big, cold and empty without me. I sent hi...
A. 2 April 2012: It's only been 4 months, so that is perfectly normal. And I think you telling him to back off was good. His e-mail to you wasn't about you, it was about HIM and his NEEDS. There was no apology, no remorse. So it's not like he thinks HE did anything ... (read in full...)
Did I have sex with him too soon?
Q. Sex too soon? I am a 30 year old woman who has been single for 2.5 years. I've never really been the type of girl who always had boyfriends (I've spend 6 yrs out of the last 9.5yrs single), though it's not through lack of trying. I'm at...
A. 2 April 2012: I would let him pursue you a bit now, honestly. If he wasn't interested I think he would have quit the texing/calling as soon as you had slept together.
Yes, 2 weeks is kinda soon, but given you 2.5 years with out a partner, I don't really "... (read in full...)
A harmless crush? Or am I right to be upset by my wife's behaviour?
Q. OK. My spouse basically admitted that she has/or had a crush on one of our male friends. She says that I should be fine with it because she would never cheat on me. I told her that I find her affection for the guy, the way she looks at him, hangs ...
A. 2 April 2012: I think flirting CAN be harmless, but only if both parties (husband & wife) feels that way. The fact that your wife doesn't hide it, but does in right in front of you can be taken two ways;
1. She isn't trying to hide anything and is sure that you ... (read in full...)
My FWB saw me kiss another man and now he wont talk to me!
Q. Hi everyone just wondering your opinions in this situation I have been sleeping with a man for over a year now who is trying to get over his ex as he was with her for a long time I went out at the weekend and I kissed another man and the man I have ...
A. 2 April 2012: Well, maybe it's time to end the FWB anyways? I wouldn't worry, maybe that was the PUSH he needed to start thinking about meeting someone he can care about and be on a real relationship with.
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She has started wearing revealing clothing when she goes out without me, am I being controlling by asking her not to do this?
Q. Women, is it OK for your man to try to control what you wear? My wife sometimes wears very revealing clothing when we go out. I like it. I can see people stare. i dont mind that so much because in those instances she is clearly taken. Late...
A. 2 April 2012: Yes, you are being controlling when you try and decide WHAT she can wear and HOW she looks when she goes out.
Honestly, a woman (like your wife) who is full of self esteem and confidence doesn't give off a "I'm not happily married, quite the cont... (read in full...)
Why are people so mean to those who are disabled and to those with special needs?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but me and my 16 years old sister donated A LOT of money to this special needs/disable day care that stay over night etc. Today we was taking the kids to Dairy Queen and people was talking ish about them saying ...
A. 2 April 2012: Because sometimes you can't fix stupid!
People who have a problem with handicapped/special needs are pathetic. I guess they are afraid that it could rub off on them or that it is not OK to be different. People like that are ignorant and a waste of... (read in full...)
My mom hasn't bothered acknowledging my birthday
Q. Tomorrow is my 23rd birthday. I'm moving away soon, and this will probably be my last birthday in my mother's house. She only comes home on weekends, and leaves every Monday for work, so today we were supposed to celebrate. She claimed she didn't ...
A. 2 April 2012: Go out and enjoy the day with friends and let your mom stay on the couch.
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Boyfriend "liked" the picture of a half nude girl on Facebook. Do I have the right to be upset? Or is this nothing and I'm making too big of a deal out of it?
Q. So before you read this you have to realize that I'm not one of those controlling girlfriends that get jealous over everything. 'Cause the thing is, I'm not like that at all! I could care less if my boyfriend hangs out with other girls because I ...
A. 2 April 2012: Eh, don't worry about it. It seems a little LAME imho to "like" pictures like that on a personal FB page, but I would venture a guess that it is quite common for someone his age.
Now if he tried to talk to said "half naked" chick, you might ha... (read in full...)
Would stretching the hymen lessen the pain?
Q. Hi, I'm still a virgin... I recently bought myself a dildo. I plan on breaking it on my own.. also bought myself some lubricant as well and I just had a first session, but I did not break... At least I don't think I did. Now my question is.....
A. 2 April 2012: The hymen is not really what causes pain for first timers, it's just a little skin flap basically.
And if you can insert a dildo, you most likely broke the hymen, if it wasn't "broken" already from physical activities.
If it's not painful now,... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: Unless you want it to be constantly nagging YOU for the rest of your relationship/marriage with your man, you need to come clean and tell him.
And I agree being drunk is no excuse.
Own your action, put on your big girl panties and tell him. Wo... (read in full...)
GIrlfriend gets annoyed when I try to spice up our sex life
Q. ok so i have tried to spice up my sex life with my gf however when i have asked her about certain things she gets annoyed with me. we have always had a lot of sex almost every day for over 3 years now. in the last year however she seems to be bored ...
A. 31 March 2012: My advice is that you TALK to her. Figure out what SHE needs from you and tell her what YOU need from her.... (read in full...)
I'm not happy when I'm single
Q. I've been in a few relationships now and I enjoyed them, however I have found that whenever I am not in a relationship I feel very alone and sad. Ive been single for about 4 months now and I still can't be happy with my life, any help??...
A. 31 March 2012: I have to say if you can't be happy when you are single you are not going to be happy long term in relationships. To depend on another person solely for YOUR own happiness is not healthy.... (read in full...)
Am I just wanting something I can't have or am I in the wrong relationship?
Q. Im a 24 year old with a little girl. I'm feeling extremely mixed up at the moment. I recently got back together with my little girls daddy (he is 42) who I've known for the last 8 years. In that time we've had an awful lot of problems, break up, ...
A. 31 March 2012: So the "babydaddy" was in his 30's and dating you when you were 16? Sorry, that is a total no-go for me.
I say you, figure out who you think can make YOU happy long term.
JUST because "babydaddy" left his wife doesn't mean he is CAPABLE of be... (read in full...)
I just don't want to hurt anymore!
Q. Ok well I was.with my boyfriend for two years the first year was wonderful. Then he cheated on me hurt me bad but I loved him so much that I gave him anither chance then he started accusing me of cheating the whole time ive been fathful.he dosent ...
A. 31 March 2012: He seems unable to own his own actions and "man" up to his own mistakes, so he takes the easy way out .. and accuse you of doing what he already did.
It's not going to stop. I would flat out tell him that you can't be in a relationship with som... (read in full...)
Girlfriend got asked out by a guy on facebook?
Q. My girlfriend was recently asked out on Facebook by another guy. We have been dating for over a year. Her response was that she could not do "any one on one time with another guy because she would not approve of me doing that with another girl." I...
A. 31 March 2012: Ask her if she would approve of you talking with another girl who was not only asking you out but hitting on you.
I think if the conversation is platonic I don't see the problem, however I don't think it is if he is asking her out.
Talk to... (read in full...)
I now regret taking him back after his fourth cheating episode!
Q. my partner of two years has technically cheated on me and i have taken him back for the fourth time and now i am regretting it what should i do?...
A. 31 March 2012: Dump him and move on, if you keep taking him back, he will keep cheating.
Don't you think you deserve a guy who can and will be faithful?... (read in full...)
We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...
A. 31 March 2012: He will not change. End it. Cut all contact, block his number, change the lock and maybe even your banking information as well, and if he shows up at your house don't let him in. If he can't respect all that get a retraining order.... (read in full...)
Fallen for a teacher from my old school after only 4 dates! Am I actually his girlfriend yet or not?
Q. so this is kinda a long one! but i want to give you a clear story before i ask my question! i'm 19 yrs old and i'm still a student and i never had a boyfriend. as part of my course at my college i am doing a year abroad to study. so far out of 1...
A. 30 March 2012: I think you are on your WAY to be his GF, just enjoy it and when you get back see how you both feel.
Once you have been home a little while you two can talk about the "status" of your relationship.... (read in full...)
What are the boundaries of cheating?
Q. Ok so I feel like I should know this already but I don't. What are the true boundaries of cheating on ur bf/gf ??? Cause one of my friends thinks it's when u have sex with someone else, another thinks it's when u make out with someone else, so ...
A. 30 March 2012: I agree with Auntie So_Very_Confused's answer:
Anything you CAN'T WON'T or DON'T tell your partner is cheating.
I would also add that if you can't do it in front of them, maybe it is cheating. Also, if your BF/GF did any of "these" things w... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship, he said we'd talk about it once I was back off holiday but still no word....should I mention it?
Q. Ok, so I've been seeing this guy for the last six weeks. 4 and half weeks ago, he said he could only be in a relationship with me, if he had the chance to have sex with other women otherwise he wouldn't be happy in the relationship. so I said I ...
A. 30 March 2012: Did you agree to an open relationship because you REALLY want to be with this guy or because you want to sleep around as well?
I am not a fan of open relationships. I think most women who are in those agree to it because they want to keep their ma... (read in full...)
I always have to initiate conversation and contact with a friend, is our relationship worthwhile?
Q. I have been getting to know a friend better over the past few months, we have similar interests, we get along quite well and have a good time when we go out together. Considering that I have just resolved issues with my ex-girlfriend it isn't as if ...
A. 30 March 2012: Some people just don't like to speak on the phone, it's actually more common then I thought.
But if you HAVE to initiate the contact 100% of the time I would back off a little. Next time you try and make plans tell her to call you back with an ... (read in full...)
Would you spent a lot on a birthday gift for your partner if you received nothing for yours?
Q. Im curious to find out others opinions on this. Would you spent a considerable amount of money (over $400) on a birthday present for your boyfriend, if he did not get you anything for your birthday? (birthdays are few months apart). I know it isn't...
A. 30 March 2012: No, I wouldn't. I would get him a sweet card and maybe a gift card to a restaurant or (if he has a hobby) hobby/DIY store, but most likely no more then $50-75.
Just because he WANTS something doesn't mean YOU have to BUY it for him.
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Why does my ex continue to try and hurt me?
Q. Why does he continue to try and hurt me? My ex and I split up several months ago he have children. It was I who ended it as he had not been a good partner. In the relationship there was no trust, there had been lies, he is an abusive man physical...
A. 30 March 2012: Because he can, and.. you let him.
Spend the few $$ (or in your case Pounds) to have his number blocked. and decide that from now you you will have absolutely NO contact with him and stick to it.
He is one of those people that just can't under... (read in full...)
How do I pursue my one night stand? It seemed like he wanted more!
Q. So I had this one night stand with this amazing guy, we cuddled afterwards and he held my hand. He spent the night and cuddled me in the morning and did it again. We spent some time talking and had alot in common. We felt connected and he blew off ...
A. 30 March 2012: I would hold back as well, let him "chase" you a little. However, if he calls late after 11PM and wants to "stop" by you will know he just wants a booty call.
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How can I convince my long distance girlfriend to stay longer when she visits so I can spend quality time with her and hopefully get laid?
Q. There's this girl who lives in Durban, appearantly she is kinda like my long distance girlfriend, she lives a far from where I am of which I leave in Johannesburg, she going to come in couple of days to company her friend to visit her boyfriend of ...
A. 30 March 2012: Stop thinking with your dick.
When you meet her ask her out for a dinner, get to know her and hold off on the "i wanna get laid" whining. It makes you sounds like a total tool.... (read in full...)
I'm considering confronting this bully from my former workplace
Q. I encountered this irritating co worker at workplace 2 yrs back . We had mutual friends though whom i got introduced to him. He appeared real friendly at first. Later he and i were made to work in the same assignment with another senior member (a...
A. 30 March 2012: Learn to walk away when people act like jerks, You did not HAVE to eat if you are not hungry, or take home leftovers. Learn to say NO and mean it.
Honestly, sending out an e-mail will do nothing but make YOU look bad.
I understand that ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to deal with this pressure from my sister?
Q. I'm so confused and frankly I feel bad. A couple days back I went out to dinner with my boss(19 I'm 17) as friends and strictly that. I then posted about it on Facebook Well my sister read this and when she came over she kept pestering me about...
A. 30 March 2012: Accept that whatever you post on FB is "public knowledge" and therefore anyone who can view you page might feel obliged to throw their 2 cents in whether you want it or not.
So if you don't want to debate your life with other, think before y... (read in full...)
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