He called me unstable!
Q. Dating a man for 6 months, he decided to go back and try again with his ex wife. They are common law 2 teen boys. This is the 4th time they will try again. I was the "rebound" He said he would never go back. So I didn't feel like a home wrecker. I ...
A. 8 October 2013: Isn't it nice when Karma does her thing?
I hope YOU are finding your happy place.... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 12 April 2012: I agree with Auntie BimBim YOU want out of the marriage YOU leave. Are you saying you think your husband should finance your and your new lover? Pay your rent?
Get a job, pay your own way. ... (read in full...)
How do you end things when the other person is ignoring you?
Q. Last August my boyfriend of 5 years just uppin left me .. 3 days later I got a text message saying he was moving out and we were done. Then 3 days after that he was seen with a new girl at work. That ended about a month later. And we started talking ...
A. 10 April 2012: There you go, you set yourself FREE.
His loss, honey
Move on!... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: So since your husband answers her e-mail neither of then are respecting you, really. Now what she does is kind of out of your control (and I don't blame you for being mad at her or angry with her lack of respect and morals), but.... I think you ... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: Do you know for a fact that your husband told her no contact or did he TELL you that to placate you and get some peace and quiet?
He might have told I can't SEE you anymore because I'm trying to work it out with my wife, might not have said, do... (read in full...)
Why do older men go for younger girls?
Q. Can you guys answer me my question. Why does older guys go for younger girls? I am with someone who is 7 year older than me he is 27, 28 this year. We have had so many complications with our relationship. I just sometimes think to myself no wonder ...
A. 9 April 2012: Cerberus, I didn't say younger women WERE less hassle just that some guys tend to think they are :)
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I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 9 April 2012: So_Very_Confused is totally right.
Sometimes the "hot" girls are called hot because they put out, but people do not think nicely of them.
Be who you are, be proud of who you are.
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Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 9 April 2012: Well the first 19 years of my life I didn't have sex. Then I met my first love and we were together for 4 1/2 year. After we broke up I didn't date or have sex for a year, dated a "rebound" broke up, was someone rebound- broke up and didn't ... (read in full...)
How do you end things when the other person is ignoring you?
Q. Last August my boyfriend of 5 years just uppin left me .. 3 days later I got a text message saying he was moving out and we were done. Then 3 days after that he was seen with a new girl at work. That ended about a month later. And we started talking ...
A. 9 April 2012: So_Very_Confused is right.
Pack his stuff put it outside your door, send him a text and tell him where he can pick it up. Then you block his number ( sometimes you have to pay to block but some phones have a free app for it as well so google y... (read in full...)
His female friend is really nasty to me since our breakup!
Q. My ex and I had a bad breakup and I know I hurt him. One of his buddies must have asked him about the breakup and he vented to her. Now she is going around trash talking me and has said some really mean things about me even to my face. I've tried to ...
A. 9 April 2012: It's pretty common for people to talk about a break up with friends and of course during a break up or right after emotions run high, so some times things get a little "elaborated". As in.. someone gets made out to be the bad guy.
Ignore her, the... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: I think just like Auntie So_very_confused and Uncle Cerberus said, you are misdirecting your anger.
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My biological clock is ticking, and he just rolls his eyes!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. From the start he knew i wanted marriage and children some day. He also told me he wanted those things. Over time, this has gone to, wanting it, not wanting it, not sure, wanting it. He has also ...
A. 9 April 2012: I would agree if he doesn't know after 4 year together if you two are "right' for each other, it's not going to happen.
And he is kidding himself if he thinks IVF can prevent any of the birth defects that are WAY more common after age 35.
htt... (read in full...)
My transgender girlfriend has low self esteem. How can I help?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. When we first got together she informed me that at birth she had no sex, she believes that her parents chose the wrong sex. She is attracted to woman, she is more masculine, and does ...
A. 9 April 2012: I would look into finding her a support group. This is something she will have to work through herself, but you can of course support her with all the love you have in you :)
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Ok to attend bachelorette and bridal shower but not wedding?
Q. Not so much a love/relationship question but... Is it acceptable to attend the bride's bridal shower and bachelorette party but not her wedding? My best friend Sam and her boyfriend planned a trip a few months ago, and I, along with her good ...
A. 9 April 2012: I would call the bride and tell her you can't make the wedding but that you would still LOVE to celebrate her bridal shower and bachelorette party.
They do NOT go hand in hand btw.
bachelorette parties is for usually the younger female f... (read in full...)
I puked after giving my boyfriend oral sex
Q. Hi..this is really embarrassing but I need some feedback I gave my boyfriend head last night.. I've done it many times before he was my first so he understands I'm still learning!! I normally choke when I go all the way down on him but this tim...
A. 9 April 2012: Don't try and deep throat ( take all of him in your mouth) as soon as his penis hits your uvula it's not easy NOT to puke or gag.
Next time just focus on the head ad used your hand on the shaft.
It's a learning curve, don't beat yourself up... (read in full...)
Why do older men go for younger girls?
Q. Can you guys answer me my question. Why does older guys go for younger girls? I am with someone who is 7 year older than me he is 27, 28 this year. We have had so many complications with our relationship. I just sometimes think to myself no wonder ...
A. 9 April 2012: I think there are a myriad of answer to that question.
It depends on the guy of course, but also some of it is pure instinct - younger woman - more fertile - less hassle - less demands and on top of that it makes the guys feel "wiser" and "smarter... (read in full...)
Someone hacked into my account and told my ex that I love him but I don't
Q. my facebook account got hacked recently, and the hacker told my ex on chat that i still loves him and never stopped the problem is by the time i saw the hackers message my ex had replied "i love you too, you know i do u r the one 4 me 3" i feel ...
A. 9 April 2012: Delete your FB.
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I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 9 April 2012: My husband IS handicapped, he's got the "sticker" and the rating from the US Army. If he got a dog, that would be on him, but if by any chance he wasn't able to walk it and so forth, OF COURSE I would do it. He did 3 tours in war zones for me and ... (read in full...)
How do I play hard to get and get his attention again?
Q. I really like this guy and we were doing great. We went on a date and then only talked for a few weeks because of his work schedule, but then last week I went by him and we cuddled and after that he seemed to become really busy. I don’t know if it ...
A. 8 April 2012: Don't "play" hard to get, just live your life and do your own thing, don't sit around and wait by the phone.
If you really want to get to know him, who not ask him out for a movie? If he is full of excuses, then you know that he just isn't th... (read in full...)
What size penis do women prefer?
Q. I am a man aged 34, iam just wondering on what penis size do women prefers. Is big, small or just average and if big how big. What do women enjoy most while having sex. Do they like when a man comes from the back or when he is on top....
A. 8 April 2012: The daily penis question I see!
Ask the woman you are with what she likes. As far as sizes, I think what really matter it the guy the penis comes with, not so much the size.... (read in full...)
I've been offered a university place hundreds of miles away, how do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just 3 months but have said 'i love you' already, I do love and fancy him and he thinks the world of me and treats me well. What I am hiding from him is that ive been accepted into my top 3 choices for ...
A. 8 April 2012: YES you go to Uni! you get yourself a great education. TELL him now. How would you feel if you two didn't last another couple of months and you had turned the Uni down?
If you two are meant to be you will figure it out.
Down the line you WIL... (read in full...)
Is it possible to remain strictly friends after a break up?
Q. Is it possible to remain friends after a break up? Are there specific situations where there is no possibility of friendship? Are there any rules? I have never wanted to remain friends with any of my ex's just ended it and moved on, however I am ...
A. 8 April 2012: Strictly friends don't have sex. So obviously it isn't going to work.
Can you become friend with an ex at all? I think it's possible, my first BF and I are still friendly ( I wouldn't say friends because we only really talk 1-3 times a year)But... (read in full...)
My FWB chose another girl so why does he act jealous?
Q. I'm confused.My best friend is a guy,and we've had a..well..more than friends thing for over a year now.Nothing official,and I guess people would call it friends with benefits.We do act like a couple,and everyone thinks we're together.A couple of ...
A. 8 April 2012: I think you need to sit him down and figure out what you two are doing either you are FWB and can BOTH see other people or you are a couple and NONE of you can see other people.
Easy really.... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 8 April 2012: I can't see the hard part either. Grow a backbone, divorce the spouses, move out. Start over.
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My younger sister has tried to hook up with my boyfriends. Now the tables are turned. Should I accept her boyfriend's invitation to have sex?
Q. i have this problem... my sister just recently started seeing a new guy. i later find out that he wants to be with me in a sexual way. i do have feelings for him and not sure what to do. part of me is saying its wrong but another part is saying she ...
A. 8 April 2012: No two wrongs don't make a right.
Grow some morals and get over the ridiculous stunts your sister pulled when she was 14!... (read in full...)
He likes me touching him but doesn't want to touch me back. A user?
Q. I have been texting and phoning this guy 24\7 for over a year now. He has told me loads of times that he likes me, and I have told him that I like him. We have had what I would class as a few non-dates, lunches etc but I have asked him out a few ...
A. 8 April 2012: Yes, he is using you. If you hold back on the "sexy" stuff see what happens.... (read in full...)
Why does he press on my bladder area during foreplay?
Q. Hi, My new partner likes to press down on my bladder area just above the bikini line during foreplay but this really makes me want to pee. Is there any reason why a man would like to do this? I'm so worried I will eventually pee on him but I als...
A. 8 April 2012: Why don't you tell him to stop that? ... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 8 April 2012: Wow I can't believe I almost felt sorry for you with the first "tall tale " you told. I don't even know what to say, I'm disgusted actually.... (read in full...)
Moved towns for a guy I'm not even attracted, have I made a mistake?
Q. So I lived in OHIO, im 21, young. I went on this website and started talking to a 30 year old guy, I was hesitant on his looks but still talked to him, After talking to him knowing he wants marriage, kids and to settle down I thought perfect, me ...
A. 7 April 2012: Go home, pregnant or not. You are not happy with him or with NY. Sometimes we have to learn things the hard way, as in making some major mistakes.
See if you can get your old job back and if not, look for a new one.... (read in full...)
Why is he still coming around when he said we didn't have a future?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for the last 2 and a half years on strictly a friends with benefits situation. Well he lived with me for around 3 months and the more I got to know him and we got along so good and he made me laugh and we just really had ...
A. 7 April 2012: Ther is no future for a relationship with you since he gets what he wants from you, sex, anyways.
Because you have now developed emotions for him, your best bet is to stop seeing him, stop having sex, basically no-contact with him. ... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 7 April 2012: I think people in general are more afraid of doing what they need to do to be happy and thus perhaps be alone, then leave a relationship.
Some men and women just "love" the whole "martyr-shit"
I do think it is irrational to suddenly develop... (read in full...)
Where in Europe is best for filming the beauty of everyday life?
Q. I know this is a relationship website, but please I really need advice on where in Europe has the best action? (Not in that sense). Basically, I have a film project coming up and I have always wanted to film things that are amazing, so the culture, ...
A. 7 April 2012: I honestly think you can go anywhere in Europe and capture it all.
England, Scotland, Ireland, Denmark, Holland, Germany, Sweden, Norway, France, Italy..and so forth.. take your pick.
Maybe google some of the countries and see what comes up.
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Have I ruined this?
Q. So, been seeing this guy for around three-four weeks now. We're intimate and from what I can gather pretty fond of each other. So, we were just lying in his bed, snuggled up ect and out of nowhere I say "sometimes I think I'm a little bit in love ...
A. 7 April 2012: IF you two are still in contact and seeing each other I think you need to let go of the "embarrassed" feeling and stop beating yourself up about it. The fact that you CAN say this to a person you care for when your background is a GOOD thing.
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Does "I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now" mean "I'm not into you"?
Q. Over the last few months I've become pretty good friends with this guy. We spend a lot of time together, talk on Facebook all the time, have a ton in common, and really "click." Both of us are quite shy and awkward, and I feel a lot more comfortable ...
A. 7 April 2012: I think it means :
I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now. So he might want to hang out but he doesn't want all the relationship stuff. My suggestion is this, if you do like him I would not do the friendship thing, unless you can "just" be frie... (read in full...)
Should I tell him all my 'issues'? I don't want to freak him out
Q. I'm a recovering alcoholic and bullimic ( doing well now by the way) but it's hard work all the time. I've been seeing a man that I've known many years that isn't privy to my issues. We've been dating a little over a month and just started sleeping...
A. 7 April 2012: I think it would be a good idea to talk to him about it, maybe he can give you the extra support you need.... (read in full...)
A few days after we started our relationship he broke up with me.
Q. Dear cupid, I have found myself in a world of hurt. Long sorry ahort, i met a wonderful guy who was funny, charming and attractive, and I began becoming very intereasted, we started talking and texting more and more, and things slowly progress...
A. 7 April 2012: Either he just dated you til you two had sex or he already had a GF and got caught.
Stop worrying about his and focus on you. Next time take it a little slower.... (read in full...)
He called me unstable!
Q. Dating a man for 6 months, he decided to go back and try again with his ex wife. They are common law 2 teen boys. This is the 4th time they will try again. I was the "rebound" He said he would never go back. So I didn't feel like a home wrecker. I ...
A. 7 April 2012: I don't think YOU are the unstable one, honey I think that was just the "best" excuse he could give for his own actions. He was trying to make himself look good and you, look and feel bad.
Be glad he is out of your life, he sounds like a douche b... (read in full...)
Where is the 'clit' on a girl?
Q. i saw it before, like, being talked about, but i dont know ware it is. im just really curious, u know? i am confused about that an i never learned that stuff either. we dont have that at my school. all we got taut was not 2 get stds and stuff....
A. 7 April 2012: There is always google and anatomy book. It's a GOOD thing to educate yourself.
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Am I being conned online?
Q. -This was in a cam chat- So I met a guy online and he seems to be into me and I'm into him. Usually when I meet guys on cam all they want to see is my body which is pretty normal I think. But this guy first asked to see my eyes (since I usually...
A. 7 April 2012: You stated and I quote:"
Usually when I meet guys on cam all they want to see is my body which is pretty normal I think."
NO, actually hell no! that is NOT normal.
You are doing something that you really shouldn't, and I think you have NO cl... (read in full...)
We expected ground rules. So why has my father changed the rules to be more lenient?
Q. My best friend is coming over to my house for the 1st time and my parents are letting him stay over. I was surprised because he is a guy they don't know (they have seen him once or twice and I've talked to them about him, but I know that's not enou...
A. 7 April 2012: Stick to the rules your father gave you and hope he keeps trusting your judgement.... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his meaning? He said "you better be worth seeing" randomly
Q. Hey guys. My boyfriend said some thing last night and its bugging me, i dont know what he ment by it. He said "you better be worth seeing" randomly. Then i said what? And then he just completly changed the topic. We been togather for almost a yea...
A. 7 April 2012: Ask him, I think that seems like a really weird statement after a year together and honestly I would ask for an explanation. ... (read in full...)
Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?
Q. Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...
A. 7 April 2012: Yep, live and learn and kiss a few frogs. Just put it behind you.... (read in full...)
My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...
A. 7 April 2012: WTF? Why should you walk around nude? To please him? What if you don't FEEL like walking around naked?
Honestly, that just sound so out there, I don't even know where to begin.
I think I would start by telling him if he wants me to walk aroun... (read in full...)
Ex won't let go, won't move out!
Q. I have wrote on here about advice concerning my ex well now I still need advice he pushed me last weekend and now knows I am in the process of hoping meeting someone else got mad now he has a few things here still and I told him he could have the ...
A. 7 April 2012: Ask to have your locks changed as #1. If he is on the lease, take him off.
#2 Send him a CERTIFIED letter and give him X amount of days to contact you for a pick up date, if stuff is not picked up put it outside.
Block his number, don't an... (read in full...)
My husband is a rug and allows his son and ex to walk all over him
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 yrs When we first moved in together his son (who is 27yrs old) would treat me very badly, he was very abusive towards me and always used the excuse "Its because of the way last step mother treated me" I have bent ...
A. 7 April 2012: Stop letting the stepson walk all over you, sop trying to bend over backwards to make him like you. Don't talk to the ex-wife, leave that to him to deal with the ex and the son. Honestly, if you have to "bribe" the stepson to come over, why bother? ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 2 years. My chubby wife says it hurts!
Q. Hi, My wife is very overweight and I love her very much. We have not had sex with penetration in almost 2 years. She keeps telling me to be patient but I don't know how much longer I can take it. She says it hurts her as she puts it when I'm bou...
A. 7 April 2012: I agree, stop bouncing on her, man!
Try spooning or doggy style - there really are other positions then missionary...
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Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: EVEN if he was "just hoking" that is just out of line. He means that you are inferior in your gene pool and that his is superior. Hence the mud. Your genes would "stain" his "lily white" genes.
He is a DOUCHE LORD.
He thinks he is better the... (read in full...)
Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?
Q. Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...
A. 4 April 2012: Talk to him, but don't go for the relationship thing just yet. I would tell him straight up that you don't regret the sex.... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 15 March 2012: Is a dog really worth leaving someone over?
In my book no. BUT I would tell your wife that on week-end SHE is responsible for getting the kids up and walk the dog. SHE made the choice to GET the darn yapper, she need to take the responsi... (read in full...)
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