Should I write him? Would he really call me a drama queen if I told my real feelings?
Q. my ex(x) and I broke up nearly 3 years ago we were only 16 and I was always jealous and he got drunk one night and kissed another chick and broke up. I wanted him back but the following months he just used me to make out but he wanted another chic...
A. 12 March 2012: Honestly, I would write him a letter on paper, write it all down and then... BURN it. That way you got it all out but without involving him in how you feel. He is an ex, a thing of the past. You have both grown (hopefully) and it' time to let the ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend trying to protect me or control me?
Q. So I guess I should start by saying that my life has been chaotic the past month. I've been looking for a job for a few weeks with no success, and ended up taking a job at a "gentleman's club". I'm not dancing! Just waitressing. It's been ...
A. 12 March 2012: Sounds mostly like he is trying to look out for you, but the way it comes across is really patronizing.
I understand that working in a place like that can make you feel like crap, I would hate going to work and knowing that people around me see m... (read in full...)
I feel like what we had was unfinished, but it didn't really have an official start
Q. So, I'm sixteen. I had a "thing" with this guy who just turned 18 yesterday. This past fall we started hanging out with a mutual friend and there was instant attraction for me. He took me on a few dates, kissed me first and we had this thing were I ...
A. 12 March 2012: If you are still interested then keep talking and keep hanging out but do NOT engage sexually til you feel you know where you stand. Otherwise you will end up wit ha guy who thinks you want FWB - which in turns can lead to all kind of drama you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend identifies himself as "queer" Does that mean he doesn't consider himself male or female?
Q. hello people, quick question. my bf says he gender queer does that mean he doesn't identify as being male or female. assuming I'm right about the above, what does that make his pronoun, he she? neither? both? thanks for any help you give ...
A. 12 March 2012: My take on the expression queer is either Gay/Homosexual or just being odd. But your BF might have a whole other expression for who he is.
Personally, I don't think it's gender based, but if it is.. Queer is male.... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: You didn't do anything wrong, he might feel a little hurt on his ego... but that is on him. He took a chance and you shot him down. NOTHING wrong in saying no.
Obviously you know what you want and an FWB wasn't it.
Stick to your guns.... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? He's chatting to other women and telling them he loves them!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 1/2 yrs and I recently discovered he is chatting with women from the Phillippines via webcam again. This is something we got into several arguments about 4 years ago (and he promised to stop) and now I've discovered ...
A. 12 March 2012: He sounds like douche!
Yes, he is cheating, even if he doesn't care for them.
My question to you is this, WHY are you letting a guy treat you and other women like this?
... (read in full...)
How can I increase my chances of having twins?
Q. hello everyone, i have a very simple question. im trying for another baby but i would like to concieve twins.... any ideas how to increase my chances? iv heard about eatting sweet potatos any thing else?...
A. 12 March 2012: As far as I know it, IVF would be the only way to improve the odds. It comes down to genetics.
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FWB has frozen me out. Is his ego that fragile?
Q. Ok, hope I can put this down in some sense making way, might be quite long so thank you in advance to anyone who can be bothered reading it all.. I've been seeing this guy from my home town for last few months. It was never going to be serious as...
A. 12 March 2012: Thanks for the update, it makes more sense why ther is confusion in the relationship.
1. I don't think he is all the way over his ex. Specially if she still involves him in her meltdowns. It can be hard not spilling into your relation... (read in full...)
He dated to me to get to a friend. Now he wants to date me again. Is he just using me to get back at her?
Q. Okay. There is this guy and in around October we started dating for a short while. It turns out he only dated me to get to one of my friends and they have dated in and off the past couple months. I've. Liked him on and off during that time period. ...
A. 12 March 2012: It's always good to learn how to trust your gut. Listen to that little voice, it's usually right.
And good for you!... (read in full...)
Is it OK if the girl calls after 4 dates, or does that ruin 'the chase'?
Q. Guys Should we call you after say 4 dates? Or do you lose interest and back off if you dont feel like you're in " the chase" Honestly. If you've started calling/texting less what gives?...
A. 12 March 2012: I absolutely agree with Uncle Jmtmj! Playing games is lame. If you want to call him, then call him.
... (read in full...)
Have you ever smelled a perfume that enticed you?
Q. This question is for Women, but men are welcome too. Have you ever smelled a perfume that enticed you? ...
A. 11 March 2012: Yes, a good smelling man is lovely. As long as it is not over done, because then it makes me gag.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 11 March 2012: Wow, she has no problem being with you and you have been with at least 6 girls. Why the double standard? Why can you (as a male) have had sex before, but because she is a girl she can't?
Honestly, dump her so she can find a guy who isn't a dofus ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become a possessive maniac!
Q. Dear Cupid,I'm starting to think my boyfriend of 3 years is very possessive.He has just started the same college as me this semester and I thought it would be fun but instead its been hell! First thing, he started getting upset that my female ...
A. 11 March 2012: He sounds downright loony!
I agree with the others who said leave! and leave now!... (read in full...)
B/f inexperienced and winds up hurting me while trying to make me feel good
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we both virgins and want to stay like that till we both feel ready for sex. The problem is when we do make out he likes to rub my clit but he rubs with alot of force which leaves me ...
A. 10 March 2012: Show him how it's done? with your hand on his hand.. And add a little "lube" of some sort.
If you don't show/tell him he won't know that it is not a nice experience for you and he will continue to be bad at it, can you imagine how sex might be... (read in full...)
Is she jealous that I'm a mom and shes not?
Q. To begin I have this friend who when I first met was really nice! And really just cool-- I've known her about 2 years. When we first met I was engaged and she was single. Anyways last January I found out I was pregnant, we were so excited! Because ...
A. 10 March 2012: I think she is struggling with not being able to become pregnant as fast as she would like.
If she keeps having a negative attitude maybe cut the chatter with her to a minimum for a while or .. hide your posts from her. Maybe he sees it as you r... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or is it my diet?
Q. I need help. I'm turning 21 soon and yes I am sexually active. We use condoms and I just had my period a week or two ago. Now, I don't think I'm pregnant but I'm reading articles about morning bloating and they all say it's an early sign of ...
A. 10 March 2012: Before you totally FREAK out, go buy a pregnancy test, no one here can guess as to whether you are pregnant or not or if all the junk food you eat that affects your body.
Not drinking water can be a cause as well. GET your water in.
So buy ... (read in full...)
Ex is trying to get into my good graces again. How to I stop this?
Q. Hello everyone me and my ex boyfriend who I dated 9 months lived with 8 broke up last August remained friends not a good idea he came on weekends well he is separated and has 6 kids me I have an 18 year old daughter well to make the story short on ...
A. 10 March 2012: Have a neutral 3rd person come pick up ALL his stuff at your place and drop it off where he is staying. GET rid of his junk!
Or give him 1 week to come pick it up. (and make sure he calls first so you can have someone there with you).
After h... (read in full...)
FWB has frozen me out. Is his ego that fragile?
Q. Ok, hope I can put this down in some sense making way, might be quite long so thank you in advance to anyone who can be bothered reading it all.. I've been seeing this guy from my home town for last few months. It was never going to be serious as...
A. 10 March 2012: I think this is typical for a FWB where the people aren't really friends and not 100% clear on what the hack is going on.
The thing is, HE thought you was his GF or something - I mean WHO introduced his F-buddy to his mother? Really? So I will ass... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and don't know what to do
Q. hello to cut to the case i am 14 and i think i am pregnant. my boyfriend is 15 but doest really know how to react. my mom and my step dad are going to flip out. i dont know what to do. so my question is, if i am pregnant at this age what rights do i ...
A. 10 March 2012: Go buy a pregnancy test RIGHT AWAY (or have your BF buy it) then read the instructions CAREFULLY and take the test.
IF it turns out that you are pregnant, show your mom the test and talk to her. Have her help you make a decision. 14 is sooooo y... (read in full...)
Am I right in staying away or should I seek him out?
Q. Hi people, I need your help here. I am a 29yr old bi who is male. Guess I lean more towards male attraction than female. there's this guy I have been dating (or so I thought). We have had passionate hugs, he has sent me romantic texts and kisses me ...
A. 10 March 2012: Stay far far away. He isn't ready to be gay or accept that he may be bisexual. HE wants to be straight because he knows that society and most likely his family expects him to marry and start a family. Which means, there will be no intimacy.
He li... (read in full...)
How can I overcome this lack of self esteem before I go to college so it doesn't hold me back??
Q. Hello everyone, I will be starting college in September and I'm getting more and more worried about this event. I used to be quite a confident person, and I still am with the people I'm comfortable with and know quite well. I'm actu...
A. 10 March 2012: Look at it this way, it's a new beginning with new people. They ALL are new to the experience! They ALL want to make friends.
Look into study groups and "hobby" groups when you get to college. ( like photography, theater or whatever your interest... (read in full...)
I'm upset that g/f lied to me about knowing an old lover
Q. I have been with more girlfriend for over a decade. Recently, a (female) friend of hers found her on Facebook. They lost touch because (I am told) they had a falling out over a guy. Her friend is living in France and married a Frenchman...
A. 10 March 2012: Honestly, she shouldn't have lied. Lying break trust. However you have been with her for over 10 years and the friend and ex have been married for over 20 years and not only that they live a world away.
Talk to her. Tell how you feel.
My husb... (read in full...)
He's A Gamer! ..Which means I come second
Q. My boyfriend is a gamer. we live together. I love him, but he spends so much time on his ps3, i find myself becoming resentful. I don't mean 1-3 hours per day, i'm fine with that! I'm talking 6-10.. whenever he's not sleeping or working, he's ga...
A. 10 March 2012: Maybe you need to find a guy who wants to be with you, not with his games.... (read in full...)
Is he using me for fun because he can?
Q. hey well me and my bestfriend started to have phone sex a week ago but he kinda has a gf there on and off all the time.. and well i told him i liked him ages ago but i dont know if he is using me for some fun cause he knows he can? and he says alot ...
A. 10 March 2012: You know it's wrong, so why do you continue? Obviously you are getting SOMETHING out of this.
Stop having these conversations, that is NOT what friends do.
Have a little self respect honey!... (read in full...)
Why does he get jealous upset with me when he says he's in love with another woman?
Q. Question for you aunt's,How can a man keep telling a woman he misses her so much all the time,get's upset and thinks you have another man in your life,thinks you keep secrets from him, thinks you don't care about him, wants to always see you,calls ...
A. 10 March 2012: Because you are "instants ego gratification" to him. He thinks he has some kind of "ownership" over your feelings and you. He likes to think that several women just love and adore him and that THEY can't let go of his "uberness". Seriously he needs ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?
Q. I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...
A. 10 March 2012: Sounds to me like he has been watching to many bad porns.
TALK to him. If you can have sex with him, you can talk about sex with him too.... (read in full...)
I feel so undeserving of him! He's a 10 and I'm a 3. What do I do about it?
Q. At 21, after 1 serious relationship, I think I have a little idea on what kind of man I would want to date. I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him. There are so much more about him that are ...
A. 10 March 2012: Maybe he sees you as a 10? Maybe he loves you for YOU?
It's a relationship you are both equal (or should be). It's not a competition.... (read in full...)
She even flirts better than me!
Q. I have a very serious problem – I’m insanely jealous of a girl I know who is hotter than me, smarter than me… She is successful in everything she does, but absolutely EVERYTHING! She is the national champion at Math, she competes in Physics, she’s ...
A. 10 March 2012: Stop comparing yourself to anyone or you will be miserable.
As for the guy. Ask him out?... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f want a threeseome with 2 girls but won't even consider 2 guys?
Q. hi so i need some good advise ive been with my bf 3 yrs now he watches porn which is not a problem i watch it with him but he likes to watch group sex and said it really turns him on then the other night he asked me if i would have a 3 some with him ...
A. 10 March 2012: I agree with the uncles and aunties.
Lazyguy said it well: "Simple, male homosexuality is not accepted as much as female homosexuality. "
With a MMF he will have COMPETITION with a FFM he will feel like the PRIZE.. get it?
3-somes are a sur... (read in full...)
Am I wrong because on our 1st official date I turned down giving oral sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've been seeing this guy but not for that long. We've hung out briefly and last night he took me out on an official date. After dinner we left and went to a park to check out the view and went back to the car. He kept asking if I...
A. 10 March 2012: Ewww that guy wouldn't get a second date for sure!
No, you did what was right for you. What a sleazebag!... (read in full...)
How do I bring up to my wife that I know she's using her vibrator rather than having sex?
Q. I'm married with young kids and have been with my wife for 10 years. Over the last few years our sex life has become almost non existant which we put donw to the pressures of having young children. Recently I have discovered that my wife is using a ...
A. 10 March 2012: Talk to her. Auntie Eyeswideopen put it VERY nicely.
You have been married for 10 years and a vibrator is a big secret? ... (read in full...)
I want to get a credit card ...
Q. i would like to get a credit card but i dont want my husband to know, hes a bit controling.... even though we share a bank account or at least i think we do..... would he be alerted if i got one or used it?...
A. 10 March 2012:
You can get a prepaid Debit Card which can be used a lot like a CC (Visa for instance make them)
https://gold.accountnow.com/secure/shortapp.aspx?pcode=Cg002Sgs72&gclid=COeq8ZmC3a4CFWYZQgoduD8PXw
However, I think you ought to address the... (read in full...)
Does extra strength color remover turn your hair orange?
Q. Hiya everyone this is not a relationship question I recently dyed my blonde hair dark brown with a tint of red to it now I would like to go back blonde as I don't think I suit my hair dark even though it is my natural colour I was just wondering if ...
A. 10 March 2012: Best thing you can do is go to a GOOD hair salon and have them help you get your original hair color back.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but can't talk/text to me for 15 days? Is he ending things?
Q. This man says he loves me. This man called and said he is going to a two week study and must learn. No talk and no text for 15 days. I'm wondering if he is trying to end the relationship. He tells me he will marry me in the next few years. He also ...
A. 10 March 2012: That is just odd. You can't call him either? I would call that a red flag.
Unless he is studying 100 ft under the ocean or at the moon, I really can't see why a good morning call/text or goodnight call/text is out of the question. VERY IFFY.... (read in full...)
Can a minor bicycle riding accident cause the hymen to tear?
Q. Can a minor bike riding accident cause the hymen to tear? I had a bicycle riding accident when I was younger. I was still learning how to ride it and hadn't gotten used to breaking and getting down smoothly. I hit myself down there on the cycle ...
A. 10 March 2012: Yes, it is possible. However, it doesn't change that fact that you are a virgin til you have actual penetrative sex.... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 10 March 2012: Closure is overrated and almost as rare as a unicorn. Almost.
She can't give you closure, because she doesn't give a flying fart about people, she knows how to use and manipulate them, but actually care? She has no clue. Honestly, NOTHING she can ... (read in full...)
He dated to me to get to a friend. Now he wants to date me again. Is he just using me to get back at her?
Q. Okay. There is this guy and in around October we started dating for a short while. It turns out he only dated me to get to one of my friends and they have dated in and off the past couple months. I've. Liked him on and off during that time period. ...
A. 9 March 2012: Nope, stay away from him. He seems like a user and a real waste of time.... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant on the last day of my period?
Q. Hi, I'm sixteen years old. Last month, it was the very last day of my period and there was hardly any blood but I was still spotting and I gave my boyfriend oral sex. He came in my mouth and I swallowed it and continued to suck him off. He pulled ...
A. 9 March 2012: Yep, it can happen. Stop playing Russian Roulette and buy some darn condoms!... (read in full...)
She's been dating him and me for almost 4 years, now she says she wants me. Is she lying?
Q. I'm so confused right know I've been sorta dating this girl now for almost four years now and I am madly in love with her but she also has a boyfriend of three years. And she was always sleeping around with other guys and then lieing to me about it ...
A. 9 March 2012: Look at her action for a minute, does that seem like she REALLY wants to be with you and just you? No.
Stop trusting her words, they are after all just words. She will say whatever she thinks you want to hear and well so far that has worked f... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I don't want my husband's nephew around anymore?
Q. my husbands nephew is down right disrespectful and disgusting and rude. he talks like a sailor, and spits chewing tabbaco and tells his friends he want to have sex w/ me. i hate it when he comes to our house to help my husband work, he not only is a ...
A. 9 March 2012: No, it's certainly not wrong for not wanting him around. I would sit down and talk to your husband. if he still wants to hang out with him, it should be elsewhere.... (read in full...)
I snoop on my boyfriend but that's because he gives me reasons to snoop!
Q. Folks, I got caught snooping this weekend while visiting my boyfriend. He looked at me shook his head and walked off to the bathroom. I went in there to beg him to forgive me. He said he did not want to talk about it and he is not mad. The next day...
A. 9 March 2012: Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs.. or date em.
But in any relationship you have to be honest. To yourself and your partner.
He wasn't a keeper.. It happens.... (read in full...)
I snoop on my boyfriend but that's because he gives me reasons to snoop!
Q. Folks, I got caught snooping this weekend while visiting my boyfriend. He looked at me shook his head and walked off to the bathroom. I went in there to beg him to forgive me. He said he did not want to talk about it and he is not mad. The next day...
A. 9 March 2012: Sorry if you feel like you have "reason" to snoop, you don't trust and honestly in any relationship if you can't trust it's hard to keep feeling respect, love and honesty towards another person.
He seems really manipulative towards you and you ... (read in full...)
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