Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?
Q. Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...
A. 7 April 2012: Yep, live and learn and kiss a few frogs. Just put it behind you.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: EVEN if he was "just hoking" that is just out of line. He means that you are inferior in your gene pool and that his is superior. Hence the mud. Your genes would "stain" his "lily white" genes.
He is a DOUCHE LORD.
He thinks he is better the... (read in full...)
Rebound relationships - do they work?
Q. Does rebound relationships ever really work out/last? why don't they work or last? and what is a rebound relationship?...
A. 7 April 2012: I have had a rebound guy and it really didn't last, but it got me over a "broken heart" and I have been someones rebound and that didn't work either since he dumped me for his ex.
I really think it comes down to how much baggage you drag around f... (read in full...)
My mom still treats me like I'm a 5 year old!
Q. I'm not really sure what to do and I need some help. I have no real relationship with anybody in my family due to the fact that when I was 12, I was basically abandoned by them. Yes, I still live with them and and had basic necessities, but I was ...
A. 7 April 2012: Maybe sit her down and talk. Tell her IF you NEED me to have a curfew can we at least discuss how late it is? Or talk to your dad, ask him how you best deal with your mom, maybe he has a better understand how her "inner" workings.
But you also men... (read in full...)
I still love my ex but I'm married!
Q. Hi I have been divorced from my ex for about 9yrs now. We still talk on a regular basis. He now has 2 kids but indicated to me that he would never marry again unless it was me. I recently re-married almost a year ago. I love my husband, but I just ...
A. 6 April 2012: Shit or get off the pot.
You have emotionally involved with your ex, which is cheating. Figure out WHO you want and work on that. Don't string along your "now" husband if you don't want to be with him, same goes with the ex. And if you choose y... (read in full...)
Never physically attracted to my husband ... don't want sex!
Q. I've been married for a little over 6 months, dated my husband for about a year and half. We lived together for a year before marrying. We married during a serious family crisis (one of my parents became sick and died). Up until the crisis, I had ...
A. 6 April 2012: Why on Earth did you marry this guy?
I think you need to woman up and set him free and yourself too. Why stay in a marriage that is so doomed to be void of physical intimacy? Seems to me that you are staying married out of convenience, not real... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity this way?
Q. I went out with this guy 3 years ago, the relationship ended pretty badly, but we perservered and stayed friends over the years, despite him going out with my best friend and the rest of my friends pretty much hating him. I'm don't have any real fee...
A. 6 April 2012: You will regret this if you do it.
The first time really shouldn't be a "get her done!" moment with some tool from the past. Trust me when I say it's a really nice thing to SHARE with someone you truly care for.
And if you think sex won't ... (read in full...)
Do beautiful women sometimes go out with unattractive guys just because they like the attention?
Q. Hi All, I have a cousin who for a few months hooked up with this gorgeous chick. She was a 26 year old model, and he was a 40 year old government worker. He was head over heels for her, and spent money on her, took her places, etc. We in the fam ...
A. 6 April 2012: I think it's possible that some chicks will date a guy for the material good they might get out of the deal. After all morals and values are about as common as the elusive common sense these days.
Look around you, there are website for "sugarda... (read in full...)
Ladies: shaved or natural 'downstairs' on a guy?
Q. Ladies thoughts opinions needed: When you are about to have sex/or oral with a guy for the first time and see his thing, is hair down there a turn off? is shaved more a turn on? or trimmed? also what about hairy thighs? shaved? leave alone? I am...
A. 6 April 2012: Shaved man-bits give me the "willies". It doesn't look bigger it looks... younger? I guess it a good word for it.
Keep it neat and trimmed.
And man, you are gonna itch like a son-of-a-gun in a day or two.... and SO will your partner if you d... (read in full...)
Are near death experiences real? My friend says she had one.
Q. My friend had a near death experience ,resulting after a car accident. She says ,it changed her life for ever ,and now she knows, there is more to life,and that she saw herself from outside and so on.And I have hard time to believe all this,and it ...
A. 6 April 2012: I believe that it is real for the people who have them. Whether it is something the brain cooks up (like dreams) or if they are more tangible I can not say. No one can.
The brain is a magnificent thing.
As for your friend. She experienced some... (read in full...)
My mom still treats me like I'm a 5 year old!
Q. I'm not really sure what to do and I need some help. I have no real relationship with anybody in my family due to the fact that when I was 12, I was basically abandoned by them. Yes, I still live with them and and had basic necessities, but I was ...
A. 6 April 2012: I had the most loving parents ever, and I left home at 18. I agree that when you love with your parents it is their house their rules, even if the rules are ridiculous.
I think it's about time you move out and leave them behind.
I'm sorry you... (read in full...)
Was planning to move to be with my LDR, then found him on a dating site?!
Q. Help !!!! in a serious long distance relationship, we communicate daily,have plans of moving together, with me making the relocation,and found that my man is on a site, lied abt his age and seeking younger women..he last logged in today...in our ...
A. 6 April 2012: It'd be buh bye in a heartbeat. He doesn't even have the decency to be honest with you and he is on dating sites.. HUGE no-no's.... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits, what do you think?
Q. Me and a friend of mine have been speaking for a little while and we got onto the question of how fun it would be to have a friends with benefits and before we knew it we were discussing actually going through with it, but i have never done ...
A. 6 April 2012: If you want drama along with your "fun" then go for it. FWB ruin friendship and usually ends badly.
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Neighbor wants more than I am willing to give
Q. Hey agony aunts! I met this guy a month and a half ago, he lives in my apartment complex. I thought he was very good looking and at first he seemed like a good guy. The first time he started talking to me outside we talked for 2 or 3 hours in th...
A. 6 April 2012: I think you are playing with fire here. If you don't want to have sex with him, then stop being alone with him. ... (read in full...)
Staying safe in a taxi?
Q. Hello. I'm not sure if this question should be asked on this site, but I thought I'd try anyway. I am looking for tips/advice as to how to stay safe when travelling in a taxi. I am a 25 year old female and I use taxis a lot, as I have a physical ...
A. 6 April 2012: Bring a book. or Ipod, that way you don't HAVE to talk to anyone.
And maybe consider getting some pepper-spray in case.
And if it EVER happens again call the taxi company and report him.... (read in full...)
He's 29 and has NEVER had a girlfriend.. Red Flag??
Q. I'm really unsure about this guy i'm dating. We've been talking for 1 month, only met once (he isn't local to me) but he seems good for me - personality wise and there's an attraction there. The attraction isn't fireworks in my tummy attraction ...
A. 6 April 2012: I don't see I as a red flag, unless he is a guy who prefers one-night stands over a relationship.
Just go slow. Listen to your gut.... (read in full...)
I am healthy, but have erectile dysfunction, without a reason, what should I do?
Q. I'm a healthy guy in my late 40"s. But I have some pretty disturbing problem, and I don't know what to do.So I have erectile dysfunction, and I have no idea why. I had a very high sex drive, but now, I have no wish to have sex at all, and when I ...
A. 5 April 2012: You had your thyroids and testosterone level checked too? After 35 both of those can decrease significantly and both of those can in turn lower your libido.
I would go get checked out by an urologist too.
... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, he told his friends, they are laughing at me, how do I stop them?
Q. Dear cupid, I fall in love so easily and I think I know why. I believe im searching for the male figure in my life because my dad left when i was little. But recently... i really fell in love with a guy and i told him now all his friends are laug...
A. 5 April 2012: You can't. Don't sweat it. Bet you they all wish it was them who had heard "I love you" from your lips. It will blow over soon enough.
Some people wear their heart on their sleeves, seems like you are such a person. Nothing wrong in that. But next... (read in full...)
I have red hair & very fair skin, I am always the subject of jokes, do people really find this unattractive??
Q. Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to ...
A. 5 April 2012: Honey, I'm a blond (and not out of a bottle) and I have gotten stupid blond jokes all my life. I laugh it off, some of the jokes are rather "cute". I went though a period where I tried EVERY hair color you can imagine from black, brown to red and I ... (read in full...)
We met up, got a room & had sex! No protection.
Q. I had unprotected sex with a woman over the weekend. We just met up, got a room and we ended up having sex. The issue is that I finished inside her and she didn't think much about it either. I did mention to her that I was about to finish and she ...
A. 5 April 2012: There is always time to put on a condom. Stop being stupid. Or stop having sex til you can think coherently.
I guess only time will tell if you got yourself a STD or fathered a child.... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: Maybe you need to slow down the whole dating experience, having sex in the first two weeks is fast, no matter your age. But I guess since you run background check that soon, doing a test drive is in order too.
I think you are setting potentia... (read in full...)
I let my b/f watch porn during oral sex. Is that a bad thing to do?
Q. Okay so, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I let him watch porn while I give him oral sex. It's never when we have sex, but my question is I feel like he's being turned on by the girls on the internet, is this okay or am I putting my ...
A. 5 April 2012: Unless it offends YOU, I don't see a problem.
Personally, I think it's a dumb crutch to use porn, when there is no doubt you can rock his socks off without it.
What if he can ONLY get off IF he watches porn later on because he has conditioned ... (read in full...)
All husband talks about is cheating and the sex he had while he was married to me!
Q. My husband admits to cheating with dozens of friends and family during our first years of marriage. He also lived with two other women while in the service and I was home pregnant. He got both of them pregnant and left them that way. I am finding it ...
A. 5 April 2012: Kick his dumb cheating ass to the curb. And divorce his crummy self and then, ENJOY your life and live it how YOU see fit.
... (read in full...)
I don't trust my daughters boyfriend
Q. Can any off you Aunts and Uncles please give me some understanding of this. My Daughter has being with her boyfriend for the last 15 month. He is 7 year older than her, has a good job, still lives with his grandparents. He lives no more that a 3...
A. 5 April 2012: Maybe sit her down and talk to her about your concerns, but try not to sounds like you are attacking her "taste" or her BF because all she will do is become defensive and want to "prove" you wrong (which means she will do anything to stay with ... (read in full...)
He says he can't give me what I want right now but still wants to see me
Q. I was introduced to a really nice man. We have been on 3 dates. He says he likes me and is attracted to me but he now says we hv both come out of bad relationships and right now he can't give me what I want. He says he still wants to see me and ...
A. 5 April 2012: Sorry, honey he just isn't that into you.
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Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: I agree 100% with Auntie Bim Bim. 2 weeks is WAY early in the game.
Don't get me wrong I think doing a background check is sensible and the smart thing to do, but... I don't know. Did you run it before you two got too serious? Or is it standard... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think that a persons profile pictures on Facebook, indicate what sort of person they are?
Q. Does anyone else think that a persons profile pictures on Facebook, indicate what sort of person they are? I ask this because a girl who i've seen around university profile popped up on the side under 'people you may know'. Her photos were public ...
A. 5 April 2012: For your age group I think it's pretty normal. Everyone wants to look like they have a grand ole time 24/7.
Though I would venture a guess that she is a little self absorbed and vain and at the same time have some good self esteem. I'm betting ... (read in full...)
I promised a new crazy sext session. How do I do that?
Q. so my boyfriend and i usually jus send pictures or ill call and give him a count down but it's getting super boring! i promised him a "new, crazy" sext session tomorrow night but i have no idea what to do. any ideas?...
A. 4 April 2012: Don't write check your ass can cash....
Use your imagination.... (read in full...)
Sacrifices to move in with girlfriend - am I being petty?
Q. My girlfriend is a few years older than myself and has a 5 year old daughter. We've been dating for about a year and a half and have been increasingly talking about moving in together. What I want to know is "does it sound like our relationship has ...
A. 4 April 2012: Seems like she wants you completely stripped of your belongings.
1. If you love your home, maybe don't sell it right of the bat? Rent it out?
2. Furniture. Well for me, that is a big deal. Before I met my husband I was VERY much into handma... (read in full...)
He was supposed to be back over a week ago and I still havent heard from him! What should I do?
Q. I have been friend with this man via dating online for over a year. We’ve met at last and like each other a lot. We grew closer and closer day by day. We text each other daily even though only 2 or 3 words – just to say hi and sometimes more ...
A. 4 April 2012: I would also give it another week then a shot text, if he doesn't react I would simply assume that he isn't interested and move on.... (read in full...)
Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?
Q. Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...
A. 4 April 2012: Talk to him, but don't go for the relationship thing just yet. I would tell him straight up that you don't regret the sex.... (read in full...)
B/f watching porn but doesn't understand that I am not sexually satisfied!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. he initiated sex a lot in the beginning and i really liked that. for the last few months, our sex life has been awful and i am rarely satisfied. whenever i try to initiate something, he laughs it ...
A. 4 April 2012: He doesn't listen to you, doesn't care about your needs, why waste any more time? He will not all of a sudden become cognizant of your needs and wants.
6 months in you should still be in the crazy-about-you phase, not in the blah-phase.
If y... (read in full...)
How could he just end things like that to go with a girl young enough to be his daughter?
Q. Ok so I was with a Guy for a year..its been to rocky but recently I started thinking he was talking to other girls through texts an Facebook so I ended it after a few lies N things I found an he was keeping his phone on him an getting texted late ...
A. 4 April 2012: He left the relationship a LONG time ago that is why he has "moved" on so fast. Also, it's not uncommon for people to JUMP the first available person of the opposite sex and start a relationship in order to "get over" an ex.
As for him dating a... (read in full...)
I'm worried if this will work. What are the downsides to the fact that I am about the same age as my partner's son?
Q. I'm dating a man who is 21 years older than me. I am 28, and he is 49. He has a son who is 26 ( he'll be 27 in December ). Does anyone think it's bad that he is dating me, when i am just a bit older than his son?. He doesn't see his son, as he got ...
A. 4 April 2012: I don't think the age-gap 28-49 is too big, you are both adults and have both had some life experiences.
I do think that it all comes down to how your relationship works, is he a father figure or an equal?
Who calls the shots? Do you have the ... (read in full...)
How do I return to normal? The guy I'm seeing doesn't know what he wants from this relationship and I cant stop thinking about him!
Q. I've been seeing this man for 2 months. He still isn't sure about what he wants from this 'relationship' and this is making me neurotic. I can't stop thinking about him all the time- It's affecting my life. I want to return to normal- before him. ...
A. 4 April 2012: 2 months is not long at all. CALM down. RELAX, take it slow. Trying to FORCE something doesn't work. Just like you can't STARE at water and poof you get ice cubes!
The more you try and PUSH him the more he will back off and eventually - run for ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend think it 'works' to wink at me during oral sex?
Q. I have a quick question. What does it mean when your boyfriend gives you eye contact and winks at you when he is giving you oral sex?.He winks at me other times as well, but it surprised me when he did that during oral sex....
A. 4 April 2012: I think he is trying to to be "cool". A wink is not a bad thing at all though even if it might seem a little cheesy lol.... (read in full...)
Is there a name for my weird fetish?
Q. Hi When I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different. I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like...
A. 4 April 2012: Doesn't sound like a fetish, more like a really sweet fantasy. Just enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Kissed a guy I don't have any feelings for when I was drunk at a party and now I feel disgusting! Why do I do stuff like this?
Q. I wish last night never happened, any advice or help?! I am in lower six (second last year or high school) and on Saturday night I went to a house party and got really drunk, I ended up making out with a guy that I have no feelings for at all and ...
A. 4 April 2012: Shit happens honey. But.... learn from it. If you feel like you LACK restraint and self control when drinking, minimize the intake of alcohol or DON'T drink at all.
As for snogging some random dude, well let it go and remember THAT isn't you.
... (read in full...)
Minty tingles while giving head?
Q. dear cupid, soo, i've heard that if you chew gum while giving head or suck on a breath mint or something like that right before you do it, the mintiness will cause a kind of tingling sensation for the guy. what i want to know is, does it actually...
A. 4 April 2012: I would surely go with the combo of ice cubes and warm/hot coffee.. the cold hot sensation is supposedly very lovely for a guy.
I would not try and chew gum and give head, honestly. Me being blond and all...... (read in full...)
Pregnant, and not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend.
Q. Hey, so I found out today I'm pregnant, possibly by about 6 weeks, despite using the pill, and I'm not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been together 18 months now, and are looking for a house to buy together....
A. 4 April 2012: Tell him and go from there. IF you have the test still just hand it to him, he'll figure out the rest.
Sometimes life doesn't go as we plan, so we change the plan.
... (read in full...)
Finding 'the One'.....
Q. How can i find the 'right one'? Every time i speak to a guy, we meet up and text and speak over the phone and facebook, and then they just stop talking to me? this has happened a few times now and i'm tired of getting hurt. I just want to settle ...
A. 4 April 2012:
Honestly, STOP looking for "the one" or Mr. Right". Go out there enjoy life, be HAPPY with who you are. Have fun with friends, meet new people and sooner or later you might run into a decent guy. Just TRY not to have these HUMONGOUS expe... (read in full...)
I told him I needed closure on the relationship!
Q. I met a guy and had a friendly relationship for about 1 year. He however then started drawing back and after a few months trying to get in touch with him, i told him i needed closure on the relationship. Was i right to do this? Can we get past thi...
A. 4 April 2012: Closure for anything is a myth. He might be able to shed some light on why he pulled away, why he was a coward and didn't just end it. He may not. Usually guy like that don't communicate well.
Can you get past it? Do you really want to? He just ... (read in full...)
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