I told him I needed closure on the relationship!
Q. I met a guy and had a friendly relationship for about 1 year. He however then started drawing back and after a few months trying to get in touch with him, i told him i needed closure on the relationship. Was i right to do this? Can we get past thi...
A. 4 April 2012: Closure for anything is a myth. He might be able to shed some light on why he pulled away, why he was a coward and didn't just end it. He may not. Usually guy like that don't communicate well.
Can you get past it? Do you really want to? He just ... (read in full...)
My crush has gotten another girl pregnant. I'm devastated!
Q. Feeling absolutly devasted and dont know what to do. A guy ive liked for a long time has gotten another girl pregnant. He says he likes me and hasd done all alone, that if he'd known how i felt he would have been with me. I just feel too upset to...
A. 4 April 2012: Let him down of the pedestal you put him on. And realize that there are guy out there who are way better and way better suited for you.
His loss, honey.... (read in full...)
Is his behavior that of a narcisstic person?
Q. is he nacisstic? day to day we r fine if i do not ask him anything personal. We r just getting back together b/c a few yr's ago he cheated and tried to make me feel our past arguments or something I had done made him justified n it my fault. I ...
A. 4 April 2012: Ask yourself this, if you KEEP doing the same thing (getting back together with him) WHY are you expecting a better outcome? And ask yourself why you think you don't deserve better then him.
Guys like that don't change.
If he is narcissistic... (read in full...)
We are dating yet he tells people it was just a dare!
Q. So my perfectly awesome boyfriend and I are dating sort of secretly because my dad doesn't allow me to date. I told my friend and school, and she told his ex-girlfriend to back off because he's dating someone... me. she guessed it, but he said it ...
A. 4 April 2012: Talk to your BF ,see if the rumor is even true. After all WHO told it it was just a dare? His ex-gf?... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to carry a knife?
Q. Hi, I have a short, but somewhat odd question: is it normal for guys to carry knives? A guy that I'm thinking about dating carries one and I don't understand why. I tried to ask him but my friend was there and she just said: "why wouldn't he carry a ...
A. 4 April 2012: My husband carry his Gerber everywhere, that is what you get with an old Infantry guy. He doesn't bring it with him as a weapon though, but it's come on handy many many times.
For someone in your age group it's stupid to run around with a knife. T... (read in full...)
My affair has gone horribly wrong!
Q. Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...
A. 4 April 2012: You need to tell your husband. If he leaves you then well, that is on you isn't it? You CHOSE to have an affair and disregard your vows, your marriage and your husband.
If your former lover is as crazy as you describe, don't you THINK your hus... (read in full...)
Is it really cheating if you really love the guy even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. so i have a bit of a stupid question, if a man or woman are married and one of them sleeps with someone else over and over its an affair. but if its just a guy and girl dating, is it still called an affair? and is it really wrong to flirt and sleep ...
A. 4 April 2012: You can "bend" it anyway you like in your mind, but deep down you know it is cheating.
It DOESN'T matter if you love him or not, or if he loves you, or the both of you.
CHEATING IS CHEATING. A ring on the finger doesn't mean squat when it co... (read in full...)
Is his behavior that of a narcisstic person?
Q. is he nacisstic? day to day we r fine if i do not ask him anything personal. We r just getting back together b/c a few yr's ago he cheated and tried to make me feel our past arguments or something I had done made him justified n it my fault. I ...
A. 4 April 2012: I agree with Auntie Cindy, it really doesn't matter what label you toss at him, be isn't a keeper. He is untrustworthy, lying, manipulative and you are selling yourself short staying with him.... (read in full...)
What is a reasonable frequency for spouse to go out drinking with friends?
Q. We r married with 3 kids. My wife has recently taken to going out with different groups of girls a lot - what I would consider to be too much. They always go to bars. She always comes home at 1 am or later drunk. I most ofen provide the babysitting ...
A. 4 April 2012: I have 3 kids and honestly I NEVER go out to bars. I worked as a bartender and did a LOT of drinking in my early 20's so I'm soo over that. However, I meet friends once a week for lunch or dinner/shopping and hubby gets to watch the kids. He goes ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a flirty young teen? She came on to me. I stopped tutoring her. But she thinks I like her. I've said no. She's not listening.
Q. I’m having trouble with this kid. It all started when I was looking for a part time job. I’m a college student and I’m living in an apartment with my room-mates. As I was good in maths I decided to teach maths at high school to the ninth grader...
A. 4 April 2012: I would go talk to the school counselor at her school. It need to be nipped in the bud and she isn't going to be the one doing it.
She isn't just a flirt she is aggressive in her behavior towards you and honestly, I find that worrisome, because ... (read in full...)
He flirted. All the right signals and moves. Then he jumped up and ran away. Telling me he is not gay. How do I recover from this set back?
Q. ModNote: some more graphic aspects removed so the question could be posted. Tuesday 4th of April 2012: i feel so sad, depressed, in pain, humiliated, stupid and frustrated. i never thought i will feel like this ever in my life. all this mixed b...
A. 4 April 2012: He is curious, not gay. I think for him it was a kind of game - he played "Chicken" and well he ended up being the chicken, he bolted.
So now you know, he isn't gay, but he likes you and likes to hang out with you, but sex is out of the question... (read in full...)
I am not ready for a relationship. Is it unfair to ask him to wait for me?
Q. Hello. I could sure use some advice about my situation. I have recently separated from my husband. I have a very good friend who cares about me. He's single. He would be interested in starting a relationship with me. But he tells me he cann...
A. 3 April 2012: I can understand that you don't want him dating others while you get yourself together and the divorce over with, but honestly, it's not fair of you.
Who is to say when all is said and done that you really WANT to date this guy? That he isn't a ... (read in full...)
How do I let this guy down if he is gay?
Q. I'm curious if this boy is gay. 1. He asked me if I thought he was 'cute'?!(Three times) 2. He texts me only at night. 3. He gets mad when I do not text him back quick enough (I do it on purpose now) 4. He was really desperate for me to send h...
A. 3 April 2012: I think the guy is curious, but not necessarily gay. Talk to him, not over text, but maybe over coffee?
How do you let him down (if he is gay) tell him he is not your type? Maybe. There really isn't an "easy" way to let someone down, so be hones... (read in full...)
Women: What are the real secrets to winning and keeping your hearts?
Q. This is a question for all of you women who are, or who have been, married or in a long term relationship. What are the things a man can or should do to keep his wife happy and fully committed to him? What would be yourbest advice as to what a ...
A. 3 April 2012: A keeper in my book is a guy with a sense of humor, who is faithful, honest, trustworthy, understanding, ambitious, but one who will put his family first. One who doesn't lie about the important stuff in life. Besides that, I think a guy who takes ... (read in full...)
Just a friend of the family? Or is she genuinely interested in me?
Q. I've known this girl for about 6 years. She's 25, I'm 23. In the past we've exchanged movies, chat about our lives, etc. but only once in a while. Just the other day, I asked her if she was going to a nearby college town to watch a game. At first...
A. 3 April 2012: I absolutely agree with Auntie So_Very_Confused, you are over thinking it.
Since she had no problem meeting up with you at the game, why not ask her out for coffee or something casual.... (read in full...)
Do men like when their girlfriend calls and texts them first?
Q. My questions is, do men like when their girlfriend calls and texts frequently? I usually wait for my boyfriend to send me the first text of the day, and I usually don't call- I let him call me because I don't want to seem overly clingy or like I'm ...
A. 3 April 2012: Do what feels right. I don't call my husband throughout the day just to chat... he has work to do, and we can chat when he gets home. And I believe there is such a thing as oversharing and not getting enough time to miss each other.
If he is TDY (... (read in full...)
Touchy-Feely Fiance
Q. I have had an affection struggle since the beginning of my relationship. Or, I suppose it's a struggle. Sometimes I don't think it is. My fiance and I have been together for three years. Since the beginning, it feels like he never wants to stop hu...
A. 3 April 2012: People have different ways of showing affection, he wants to make sure (on a daily basis) that you KNOW you are loved and the HE is the one who loves you.
I think it's lovely that he is so open with his affections, but as a person who isn't a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly working late. Is he cheating?
Q. Hello, im slightly worried dont know if im paranoid but, but my gut feeling is telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me, and your gut instinct is always right, right? My boyfriend works at a m.o.t place not far from where i live. He normally...
A. 3 April 2012: If you have doubts show up at his work place with a sandwich, chips and a drink/soda since he is working so late. Don't tell him just show up, either your gut is right or your imagination is working overtime.... (read in full...)
How do I uninvite a former friend to my wedding?
Q. Hello everyone. I feel really down from time to time because of this. Right now I'm in a loving relationship, and I could not ask for anything more. He's the one for me, and I'm the one for him. There's no question about it. However, before h...
A. 3 April 2012: I agree with Auntie Wisdom too.
I do love the "Sugertits note" from Cerberus, however, that will only cause drama. Fun though.... (read in full...)
What are the meanings behind a guy's hug?
Q. What are the different types of guy hugs and their meanings? ...
A. 3 April 2012: I think it comes more down to the individual guy then to any "types" of hugs.
I have had a lot of male friends and they all hugged differently, same goes for boyfriends.
I wouldn't try an analyze them honestly, it's a hug and hugs are just lo... (read in full...)
He's 21 years older than me, I'm 7 years older than his son. Can it work?
Q. Im straight out of college and 22. I have started working a law firm as a secretary, there are two partners. I am a secretary for only one. A few months ago a partner asked me to dinner I turned him down and he asked a few more times but I kept ...
A. 3 April 2012: First of all I would hope he doesn't propose yet, 6 months is too short of a time, specially with this huge age gap.
You have JUST started your adult life, he is in his mid 40's? So he has a HUGE amount of life experience compared to you. Which ma... (read in full...)
Are we technically friends with benefits?
Q. We have had the exclusive talk, but I'm not sure if we are having a FWB relationship or if we are just both really busy and don't have much time to hang out before nighttime. Should I be worried? THanks for any input....
A. 3 April 2012: If you have sex when you see each other but don't otherwise hang out, then yea I would guess it's a FWB.
Talk to him. Time to DTR, honey
(Define the relationship)... (read in full...)
Am I being immature by being affectionate in public, or is he being a poor boyfriend by being ashamed of me?
Q. Hi. My name is Leony, and my boyfriend's name is Roman. Roman and I ride the school bus together. When we're on our way to school, I like giving him little kisses almost all the while. Just yesterday, Roman told me that he thinks its immature if I'm ...
A. 3 April 2012: A lot of people are not huge fans of PDA. For me it's not a big deal, never was. I never felt I needed to "claim" ownership of a BF.
I Think You need to talk to him and figure out what he thinks is acceptable and what is not.
And don't for... (read in full...)
I was the other woman and got dumped. How do I move on?
Q. hi, just joined this site, as i read alot of stories about being the OW. i too was the OW, for 2 years, and stupidly believed he would leave his partner, well, i was the one he dumped after she found out about us, and obviously he denied everythi...
A. 3 April 2012: How do you move on? Simply one step/one day at a time. Cut the contact to him 100%. Work on yourself. Figure out who you "dated" a married man in the first place. Why you were willing to share a man with another woman. Why you didn't think YOU did ... (read in full...)
I don't think I want to keep a tennis buddy who doesn't trust me with her phone number
Q. I met this woman in a tennis class about 6 months ago. We've been playing tennis on and off since then. We exchanged e-mail addresses, and I e-mailed her my cell phone # but she didn't give me hers. Recently she stood me up for a tennis game, and...
A. 3 April 2012: Find a new tennis buddy.
Maybe it's not YOU she doesn't trust but herself. Have you thought of that? If she doesn't talk to you much outside of the tennis courts, there isn't a chance of emotional involvement, or maybe she doesn't want her husb... (read in full...)
Not making a "quota" system. How much sex per week?
Q. I'm tired of asking the wife and keep getting turned down for sex. We have sex 1-2 per month, I get a BJ approx. 2 times per month. Again, i am not keeping score. I know EVERYONE is different. But, is that something to complain about?...
A. 3 April 2012: We are in our 40's and it's closer to 3-4 times a week for us, but there have been times where we haven't gotten ANY in a year (he was deployed 3 times) That is after 14 years of marriage btw and 3 kids.
How is your sex life? Do you satisfy ... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant if you use condoms correctly?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we've both been wanting to have sex for awhile now but I am deathly afraid of getting preagnant and yes, we have condoms but I'm scared they'll fail and I can't get birth control because we have ...
A. 3 April 2012: It's not likely that you will get pregnant if you guys use a condom EVERY time and correctly EVERY time. The thing is sometimes in the moment of passion people don't do the "right" thing.
I would suggest that you go see your doctor and get on B... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't respect girlfriends wishes
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years. We've had alot of ups and downs. Here recently I told him I wanted to try to connect better on an emotional level rather than physical. (no sex). He still tries to get me to give in, but ...
A. 3 April 2012: If you after 3 years together don't feel emotionally connected you two are wrong for each other.
You "deny" him sex and think that will make him open up? Wrong, it will shut him down.
He won't talk about his feelings and can't even explain why... (read in full...)
Do you think mental illness is genetic and skip generations?
Q. Is it possible to inherit bi polar from a distant family member like a grandmother, or uncle? I think my life is ruined by undiagnosed mental illness of my husband and our two sons.I was just wondering if you think mental illness is genetic and ...
A. 3 April 2012: Yes, I firmly believe mental illness can be passed down. But certain metal illness can also be accentuated by the environment in my opinion.
If you fear for the mental health of your children talk to the family doctor and maybe even consider... (read in full...)
Four years of talking online but I still don't know his real name, or phone number
Q. Hi Users, Where do I begin?. I'll just write what comes I suppose. For four years I have been talking to a man online. We talk every day at least 3 to 4 times and sometimes more. We log onto MSN in the mornings, during breaks at work, after wor...
A. 3 April 2012: It's a HUGE HUGE red flag that in 4 years neither of you have disclosed these facts.
I would NOT ever meet with a guy whom I know nothing about (I'm talking straight up FACTS not whatever he's been typing).
I would NOT ever meet up with a g... (read in full...)
My wife has finally had enough of me, but I have finally come to my senses! Is it possible to win her trust and love back?
Q. My wonderful wife is ready for a divorce after many year of neglect. I have cheated multiple time and it has nearly killed her emotionally, I cant imagine why she has stuck with me this long but, its coming to an end. She is ready for a divorce. ...
A. 3 April 2012: I doubt you can win her love or trust back, honestly.
When you (that is a general you, certainly not YOU) have been cheated on, trust goes out the window. When you still stay (because you love your spouse and believe in "for better or worse") ... (read in full...)
He leaves me to sleep alone, our sex life has died...all because he is up all night chatting to other women!
Q. Please help! I have been living with my boyfriend for 1.8 years. The time has gone really quickly because as they say, time flies when you are having fun! Sometime into our relationship, I realised one night he was missing from bed. He has a ...
A. 3 April 2012: Judging by your post I would have guess he was in his late teens not 40's, because he sure is acting more like a teenager then an adult. (no offense to teens)
If you sit him down face to face he might feel defensive and thus not listen, so I wou... (read in full...)
In love with a military guy who is probably straight....how do I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hi, I'm Bi and I'm in love with this guy from high school and now he's in the military and I'm still afraid to tell him that I love him. Ever since high school I've had this crush on him, but that crush turned into some strong, intense feeling of ...
A. 3 April 2012: First of all does he know you are gay? If he knows and nothing has happened in the years you have known him, then I'm sorry to say he isn't interested in you that way.
I think you are idolizing this guy and I'm sorry to say I am inclined to guess... (read in full...)
We have been having this affair for so long, but I'm not sure how he feels about me....
Q. Hi, I need to have an opinion from you aunts about this married man i am seeing. Please i don't want any You shouldn't be doing this comments.i have been in this relationship with him for longer than i care to remember we are both mature age and i'm ...
A. 3 April 2012: Wow, all I can say is... does it really matter? ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a quandary between my wife and my married mistress
Q. I know that I am going to be judged for posting this, but that's okay. I need guidance. I am almost 39. My wife is going to be 42 this year and is already in menopause. We have no children, mostly because my wife is just not a sexual being....
A. 3 April 2012: Gosh what a load of selfish self serving bollocks!
You know if you wife is so terribly unmatched and asexual why are you still WITH her? You certainly aren't doing it for her sake.
You are no longer in love with your wife (if you ever were) a... (read in full...)
How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 3 April 2012: I would also suggest you start out slow, don't expect to be super good at from the get go or not feel a little awkward, but try and look at from a "let's try this and have fun with it" perspective. But only do what you are comfortable with.
I can... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: The truth have a way of coming out sooner or later, the only thing you CAN control is the timing, by telling him.
I think it's a total cop out to NOT tell him. The fact that you can't be honest with him about this says a lot about you.
Own you... (read in full...)
I really do love her but I don't want to waste more time on a relationship with a girl with no goals or plans in life
Q. Hi ive beem dateing my girlfriend for a little over a year now. I love her with all my heart but i dont know if i see us going anywhere in the future. The problem is that shes not trying to get a job or anything and it seems like she has no ...
A. 2 April 2012: I don't think you and your GF have the same ideas and maybe even values. She is still "coasting" where as you are "preparing".
How does she pay her bills? Does her parents pay for everything? Or do you?
If having goals and some ambitions, hopes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm not independent enough!
Q. My boyfriend recently told me that he thinks I am not independent enough. I believe he feels this way because I always make it clear how much I enjoy spending time with him. He also feels guilty when he goes out without me - although I enjoy...
A. 2 April 2012: I would ask him what exactly he means. I see nothing in your post the show you are dependant on him or not independent at all.
I think his statement requires a conversation and an explanation.... (read in full...)
Problems with my flirty friend.....
Q. Dear all, thanks for taking time to read my problem. So, there is this guy that I have been friends with for about 4 years. He flirts a lot, talks about girls as though he is some thirteen yr old whose pheromones are just beginning to sho...
A. 2 April 2012: If you have been friends for 4 years and nothing has happened I don't think he means anything more by his flirtations then what it is.. Flirtations.
If the flirting gets to be to personal/romantic then ignore it or take him off FB.
Flirtin... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to say to a child "I will break your legs"?
Q. Do you think its right that a mother would say to her own child "I will break your legs"?. My mom said this to my little brother who is nearly twenty but still lives at home. Apparently someone approached her and said he was with her daughter buying ...
A. 2 April 2012: People say the darndest things. Maybe she think her threats will deter him from buying pot?
He is 20, so not a child.
But, yea it is an odd thing to say. Pretty sure it was out of desperation.... (read in full...)
How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 2 April 2012: I would also suggest you blindfold your partner, it is much easier to pretend being someone you are not, if they can't look at you.... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: Unless you want it to be constantly nagging YOU for the rest of your relationship/marriage with your man, you need to come clean and tell him.
And I agree being drunk is no excuse.
Own your action, put on your big girl panties and tell him. Wo... (read in full...)
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