How can I lessen the huge amount of anger towards my father and the woman he had an affair with?
Q. Hi, i'm 15 years old, and recently discovered my dad is having an affair. I HATE HIM! How the fuck could he do this to my mom and our family! I found out when my mom found out, and my parents don't believe in hiding things from me and my siblings. ...
A. 16 April 2012: Good luck honey. I'm glad you have such a SUPER mom! And even when you start to feel better about it all, keep journaling, it's a GREAT way to vent feeling, thoughts.
*hugs*... (read in full...)
My Russian boyfriend is becoming really insecure and wants me to move?
Q. I'm Irish and in a long distant relationship with a russian man . I'm 29 and he is 37 . I met him in Russia it was love at first sight and we are together 2 years . I go to Russia quite regualrly and he comes to ireland howver he thinks it is time ...
A. 15 April 2012: I think in some ways he is right. After 2 years together and back and forth you ought to know if you feel HE is worth leaving everything behind or not.
I think the reason you are having doubts is because you DO NOT want to give up everythi... (read in full...)
Confused swinger?
Q. My husband wanted to swing and searched another couple. We started with our own partners in the same room and then went for a full swap when 3-4 mins into that my husband said this wasn't for him... But back at home he says he wants to try it again ...
A. 15 April 2012: Seems to me that you two are doing this Swinger thing for two very different reasons.
He does it so he can "cheat" without the guilt.
And you do it to please him, punish him and to feel wanted, get good sex and maybe to show him that sex isn... (read in full...)
My wife has one foot out the door. What should I do?
Q. I feel my wife of 20 years has one foot out the door. Over the last year or so she has developed a lot of her own friendships, started going out a lot, and when we go out with others, she has become quite the party girl- bouncing from one person to ...
A. 15 April 2012: I would try the sit down (again). Why don't you ever go out with her, as a couple?
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Translations please of guy-speak? Not sure what my Bf is implying.
Q. Guys, what does it mean when a guy says you are amazing as a girlfriend, but when you try to be pretty you are stunning but when you don't try your blehh? What does this mean in guy speak?...
A. 15 April 2012: That he wants you to look your best 24/7.
And that he is an ass.... (read in full...)
How can I stop these rumors my so called friends started?
Q. Hello,I'm 15 years old and i've been hanging with a group of mates a while now and the other day i was with two of them and some guy came behind me and pulled my pants down I pulled them back up and I was certain nobody saw. The two of my mates saw ...
A. 15 April 2012: Ignore it, you can't stop it. It's like trying to empty an ocean wit ha teaspoon. BUT, don't fret it will blow over, some other drama or humiliated person will take front and center.
And good for you to not stay friends with people like that.... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her?
Q. Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her? There's this girl at work that I have a crush on. She and I were very close, just as friends. But recently she found out that I had feelings for her the whole time, and now she is behaving ...
A. 15 April 2012: She thought you were her FRIEND. I'm guessing she thought it would be best NOT to be friendly since you have feelings that she can not reciprocate.
Leave her be.... (read in full...)
Sex has become a chore for me
Q. I love my boyfriend very much, we have a wonderful life together and typically a wonderful sex life to boot. But lately sex has been more of a chore for me and i dont enjoy it nor do i orgasm. We have sex usually once a day give or take somedays as ...
A. 15 April 2012: YES! my suggestion is that you TALK to him. VERBALIZE what you DO like and what you don't and most of all what you would LIKE.
Best way to have a good sex life is being able to tell your partner WHAT you want.... (read in full...)
Is my lady disappointed because my penis doesn't look like porn stars?
Q. Im 30 years old and my penis is roughly 7-3/4" long measuring accross the top, i can measure over 8" if you measure from the side butand i think thats cheating and 5.25-5.50" in girth, it also has not a bend but just a slight downward curve, I can ...
A. 15 April 2012: Honey, get over it.
MALE porn stars are HIRED for their size, not for their "acting skills" or look. Where as the women are often hired for their looks and willingness to "perform" any sexual favor asked.
If you have awesome sex, WHY do you ... (read in full...)
He's very attentive but less sex now since I'm pregnant. Is that saying something?
Q. Ok so I've know this guy since I was like 7 he was my broz besttriend..... for about 6 months we've been sleeping together just friends with benefits kinda thang. Well now I'm 4 months pregnant he's so happy he goes to dr appt with me spends time ...
A. 15 April 2012: No, I don't think so. Many guys tend to slow down on the sex during the pregnancy, because they think it's "safer" for the baby NOT to have too much sex.
I think it's a good thing that you two spend more time bonding in other ways then sex, spe... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's 14 year old brother acts very creepy!
Q. My girlfriend's 14 year old brother acts very weird around her. When on car rides he will lean his head on her shoulder and tell her how he loves her in a strange, kind of lonely way. He still kisses his mom on the lips and will go into my ...
A. 15 April 2012: There can be many reasons as to why he behaves this way, he could be on the low end of the Asperger Scale, which can explain his poor social skills. Though most people with Asperger are not to "fond" of being physically close to others, he might get ... (read in full...)
Is my dad right in telling me I let my social life get in the way of more important things?
Q. This is probably going to sound really petty, but I need some advice. My dad is kinda dictating what my life should be like. I have arranged spend the day and watch a movie tomorrow with my best friend, whom lives in a different city than I. We ...
A. 14 April 2012: Sometimes you have to make a choice. I would say your Dad is overreacting a little on this. YOU didn't blow of your job for a social thing, you just declined 4 hours extra work.
I worked 3 jobs during college, and if I had too much school w... (read in full...)
I made a drunken mistake with my best friend. do I tell my new b/f before he hears it somewhere else?
Q. Last night I made a silly drunken mistake with a best friend meaning things could be over before they begun with the guy I've been seeing who has now made it official. Do I tell my new boyfriend about this? Or hope he won't find out? Okay, so...
A. 14 April 2012: If it happened before you started dating your current BF I don't see why you have to explain it to him. It was a mistake from BEFORE you dated.
Now if he asks you, you can tell him that you made a drunken mistake with N and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
I told I'm pregnant, he said "I'll talk to you tomorrow, I don't want to say the wrong thing right now" what does that mean?
Q. Hello, Men! I need your advice, ladies your welcome to opinions as well. I've been dating a man long distance, known him for a year, dating for 5 months, we are not in a committed relationship but we do go and visit each other every 2 months, we ...
A. 14 April 2012: I think he is freaking out. And WTF? posting THAT kind of news on Facebook?
He is mad that you didn't BOTHER picking up the phone to tell him. And maybe he is mad at himself for not using a condom.
Hopefully he just needed to figure out how h... (read in full...)
I got rejected by a guy after just one date!
Q. I met this guy a week ago at a party and we made out. He asked for my number and I got all excited about going on a date with him. We finally met up last night - though I was really, really tired - for an hour or so. He was really affectionate and I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Be glad honey, that he didn't string you along. Or that he didn't just try and date you to get you in bed.
I have been on a couple of dates where I could tell after 5 minutes that there wouldn't be a repeat date. I still stuck it out thought ... (read in full...)
Confused swinger?
Q. My husband wanted to swing and searched another couple. We started with our own partners in the same room and then went for a full swap when 3-4 mins into that my husband said this wasn't for him... But back at home he says he wants to try it again ...
A. 14 April 2012: I think this is something you need to talk to him about. This is your sexual life, after all.
... (read in full...)
I didn't like what I found when I logged into my boyfriend's facebook
Q. I feel so bad and guilt because I found out my bf's password for facebook and chose to log into it today and I looked at a conversation that he had with one of his male friends the most recent person he talked too. So I found something I did not ...
A. 14 April 2012: I think your BF and his friend are bragging a little. It's not like hot chicks come out of left and right and JUMP them...
Chill and stop snooping.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being expected to act a certain way because of my skin color. Is it wrong to be attracted to a different culture?
Q. Hi, I am fifteen years old and black Ever since I was small I have always been into asian culture(Mainly Korean and Japanese)I watched anime all my life(my favorite was Dragon Ball Z) so I think that's how it got started and as I got older I star...
A. 14 April 2012: My 12 year old daughter is into the Japanese subculture as well and she is (if we really have to pretend that there are different races in the world) as lily white as can be.
I'm proud of my heritage, my root and my historical geograph... (read in full...)
Together a month and he keeps telling me I am offending him!
Q. hi, ive been with my boyfreind for a month now and i love him, but we have different views about things that are important to us like religion. he keeps bringing it up, and saying that im the one that offending him. im just wondering if a r...
A. 14 April 2012: I agree you two are incompatible and you are both wasting your time.... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Di you tell him that you are inclined to treat a man with an IQ above 80 with more respect, then some dumbass like your BF?
No, honey big boobs doesn't mean = more valuable.
I'm sorry, but I would dump him. He doesn't seem to do what a good B... (read in full...)
Too much precum ruins the mood for her
Q. Before we have sex with my girlfriend, during foreplay I tend to release significant amount of precum. Sometimes it drops on her or touches her and she thinks that it is disgusting and gets her out of the mood a little. I don't want to wear the ...
A. 14 April 2012: It's ok for HER to be wet when aroused but not you? Explain to her WHY your body produces precum..
I think the has other issues with sex besides from the precum.... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend enjoy being slapped during sex and lies to me about it?
Q. I have a wonderful girlfriend- we get along super well and even though we have disagrements, we never fight and have a great chemistry. A few years ago, she came out of a bad relationship where the guy she was with would insult her, call her 's...
A. 13 April 2012: Getting the butt slapped during sex is not something a woman would lie about. It doesn't mean she wants you to beat her up or that she is WAY kinky.
However, many people think it is something ALL women like, because they see it in porn.
You two... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak because I don't want children!
Q. Is it weird that I don't want children? Sometimes I feel like a freak. All the women in my family are VERY fertile, they all have kids and most started at young ages. Even all the men in my family have or want children. So when I tell my mother and ...
A. 13 April 2012: I never wanted children til my late 20's. And honestly, I only had my first because my husband really wanted one. I figured why not, just one. I now have 3 and would do that again.
However, I ENTERED the marriage telling my husband I was unsure, ... (read in full...)
20 something guy is interested and calling my wife. How should I handle this?
Q. I think I need to run some marriage interference? Protection? Not sure how to put it. My wife and I are both in our late 30's. Married almost 20 years, we got married shortly after high school. We have 3 wonderful children and love each other ...
A. 13 April 2012: Talk to your wife and be honest.
The whole crap with "I trust her but not him" doesn't work. Either you trust HER or you don't. I doubt B and his magic broomstick in leotards is going to make her cheat unless she CHOOSES to. He doesn't have a m... (read in full...)
I need to know if my girlfriend honestly does not remember performing oral sex on this guy in high school!
Q. Hi aunts and uncles im actually a veteran on this site been on it for 5 years giving advice and now im going to need some. Ok so ive been with my girlfriend for a year now but in the begining she wanted to know my sexuall past so i told her and in ...
A. 13 April 2012: Eh, leave the past in the past what good is it going to do to dig up now?
Maybe it was that forgettable? Or maybe it is one of those thing she wished badly that she had never done.
... (read in full...)
Was I right to not let him kiss me?
Q. I think me and my grind nearly kissed. He's a guy and I don't think either of us are the other ones type at all, he's certainly not mine. We aren't romantically compatible because we both want very different things from a relationship, but recently, ...
A. 13 April 2012: If you didn't want to kiss him, then yes.
Not sure why you are doubting your own judgement.
Kissing and romantic emotions can easily ruin a friendship.... (read in full...)
I like this girl. Should I try to destroy her relationship with her boyfriend?
Q. ok, well, myself and this girl were really good friends 2-3 years ago and were kind of seeing each other. We stopped talking for about 2 years and have started talking again recently. We meet up a few nights ago and we got along great together, ...
A. 13 April 2012: No, you will gain nothing from trying to destroy her relationship. Well, you might gain some resentment or dislike on her part.
She is with another guy now, because she LIKES/LOVES this guy.
You said you don't know this guy, so HOW on Earth can... (read in full...)
How can I lessen the huge amount of anger towards my father and the woman he had an affair with?
Q. Hi, i'm 15 years old, and recently discovered my dad is having an affair. I HATE HIM! How the fuck could he do this to my mom and our family! I found out when my mom found out, and my parents don't believe in hiding things from me and my siblings. ...
A. 13 April 2012: It's hard, but it can be done.
When you waste time HATING someone, you are feeding yourself toxic emotions. You are bitter, disappointed, sad and mad. All which are understandable, you feel let down. You were let down.
You have to accept that w... (read in full...)
I want to be able to be friends with my ex without wanting more, I want my current relationship to work!
Q. Hi everyone, I dont really know why I'm here, I guess I can't really talk to anybody about this as I don't think they'll understand and I'd be judged, or it would get out and I couldn't stand that. I think I'm still in love with my ex boyfrien...
A. 13 April 2012: Best way to get over him it to let him stay in the past. That means STOP being in contact.
Being friends with him or trying to be friends is not beneficial for you right now, nor for your current relationship.
Stop haunting his facebook, stop t... (read in full...)
Friends with Benefits, confused and in love but no feedback
Q. we have been friends with benefits for a year, the agreement was not to sleep with anyone else, he is not ready for a relationship, during the time obviously we would get into a few arguments but it would cause me not to sleep with him, he did start ...
A. 13 April 2012: FWB only works if you can keep your emoitions out of it.
If a guy can have sex with you (FWB) for a whole year but can't commit to a realrelationship, then it's because he sees you as a booty call not GF material. When you keep sleeping with him... (read in full...)
My husband cheating while I'm pregnant and wants to continue to cheat!
Q. Hi to all of u. Me(23years) and my husband(40years). I am pregnant 8 moths and 1 or 2 weeks.will be giving birth soon. I am going to tell what happened. My mom came to stay with me and my husband to help me when i give birth with baby kaitlyn ...
A. 13 April 2012: Divorce his cheating ass. Get custody and sue him for support of the baby and leave him in the dust. THIS is no way for you to live.
If he wants to ACT single and screw around, let him be single.
... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me twice without reason. I still love him!
Q. I'm 48 seperated with two boys( 17 and 12). My boyfriend is 39 has never been married and had no children. We went out for approx 9 months first. We were so in love. We did alot of travel to London, Paris etc.. on our own. As he earns very little ...
A. 13 April 2012: Step away from that loser.
He doesn't love you for you, but for what you can provide for him (vacations and goodies) and I guess he hates that HE knows he is a user.
Why are you so willing to bankroll a guy? Because he is nice to you? Makes yo... (read in full...)
He broke up with me saying he's confused and attracted to someone else. How could he do this?
Q. Hey guys, right now I'm here in my room confused as to what I should do about this situation. About three months ago, I met this guy online and we spoke frequently until the point came where we met up. when we did meet, he told me that he was ...
A. 13 April 2012: I think this is not uncommon in "online" relationships. You were a fantasy to him and all of a sudden he realize that you were not who he thought you were. I think he (and maybe you too) got caught up in the emotions of it all. For him it wasn't ... (read in full...)
Husband of 20 years suddenly going to strip clubs. What is up?
Q. My husband of twenty years has recently started to go to strip clubs and bars while out of town for work. His work buddies have lots of stories to tell that involve the other guy doing something wrong but not them. They have each blamed the other ...
A. 13 April 2012: Midlife crisis?
Sit him down and talk to him in a non accusative way. It's a matter of trust. He needs to be open about this, why he feels like he needs to do this now.
Does he usually make a deal out of Valentine's Day? But this year he did... (read in full...)
He just got divorced 3 weeks ago. Is it too soon for him to be dating?
Q. A man that I have been seeing over the past month has been seperated from his wife for 3 years but only got divorced officially 3 weeks ago. He seems fine and happy to move on but do you think it is too early for him to be dating someone else? I ...
A. 13 April 2012: Since the divorce was final 3 weeks ago the decision to divorce was a lot further back I would assume.
I would be a little cautious, but many people disengage from the marriage/relationship way before the talk of divorce comes up.
Do you ... (read in full...)
How does one know when one is in love?
Q. How do you know when you're in love? I've been in a relationship with a great guy for awhile, and I've been tempted to say "I love you" several times, but I don't out of fear that he won't reciprocate. But then I wonder, am I in love if I can't ...
A. 13 April 2012: I think it's HARD to define love. But when you feel love or lust for someone, YOU know.
You get this little pheromone high every time you think about THAT someone, talk to him/her, touch, see...
Saying it doesn't mean you love the person more ... (read in full...)
He knows he can't be with me because of his religion, so why show me affection?
Q. I have a friend who I really care for. But later I found myself developing feelings for him. We know each other from long time ago and we both went trough the same situations. I confront him the other day and I told him what I am feeling. I told h...
A. 13 April 2012: I'm with Cindy too.
No religion prevents people from having emotions or to care for people. The thing is he MAY like you back, but he knows in his heart that he can not BE with you.
So either you two step back from this and stay friends or ... (read in full...)
I think my g/f is cheating
Q. I think my Gf is been cheating on me. I have some clues that might Lead me to beleave that she is cheating. Although I have confronted her.. Cause that's the way I am... Anyhow the latest would be rug burns.. She brought it to my attention. There fo...
A. 13 April 2012: The fact that she don't go on the defensive when you ask her who she is texting but she goes on the offense is one of the "typical" cheater behaviors.
I wonder why you don't just end it? You don't need CONCRETE proof of cheating to dump your GF... (read in full...)
He's leaving me to stay with his ex and his children!
Q. I'm having a very hard time...just yesterday, the guy I've been in a relationship with for a year told me he couldn't do it anymore because he hurt too much from not seeing his children. We've been living together for a while now, he recently told ...
A. 13 April 2012: I think he is BS'ing you. He can live apart from his wife and kids and still see them.
He is leaving you because he wants his family back. (wife and kids)
He is telling YOU that he loves you and only YOU in case it doesn't work out with the wif... (read in full...)
I'm talking to a guy online and using a fake photo of me! Will he be mad when he finds out?
Q. I created a fake profile while pretending to be this really gorgeous girl. Basically I took her photos off online because she has a beauty blog and videos etc so they were very easy to get. I feel bad because there is a cute guy that I talk to all ...
A. 13 April 2012: Yep, don't be fake whether you are online or in real life..
WHY would you send him a fake photo anyways?
Sorry honey you need to fess up and stop faking life, you are NOT that woman, so stop misusing her photos.... (read in full...)
Is his friendship inappropriate or is my cousin just being jealous?
Q. This is my cousin's 'Emma's' problem. She's asked me for help, but I'm almost 35 and she's only a young 22, so I feel the level of the maturity in her relationship is so different to mine, that I can't fully understand and therefore advise her, ...
A. 13 April 2012: Ed's full of shit. He realized that he let the cat out of the bag and now he is trying to stuff it back in.
I think Emma should dump Ed. ... (read in full...)
Recently I've become fearful that I would cheat if I were in a relationship!
Q. Hello DC, So I have something that I've been thinking about a lot recently. So at the moment I'm a single 20 year old guy. Not bothered by being single as at sometimes I'm glad of it, others not. But I recently became a little fearful at the t...
A. 13 April 2012: Then stay single, my friend.
Date girls but don't get into a relationship til you met "that" one girl who makes you forget all about cheating.
... (read in full...)
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