Threesome gone wrong
Q. Hello everyone, I would really love some advice with my problem. You all have done greatly and I can not help but keep coming back here for more... So in advance thank you. Last week my husband and I came about to having a threesome. We both h...
A. 26 April 2012: Honeypie- I don't know what type of women honestly set up their partners to cheat on them. I would never do that to myself, I love him. Why would I want him to hurt me?
I don't think you really wanted him to hurt you.I think you wanted him to p... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong
Q. Hello everyone, I would really love some advice with my problem. You all have done greatly and I can not help but keep coming back here for more... So in advance thank you. Last week my husband and I came about to having a threesome. We both h...
A. 25 April 2012: I think you need to take some ownership in this mess. Yes, you walked away from the "sex" but you were just as anxious to get it going as he was. Except he was to drunk to walk away. Why you didn't stay and tell him to get dressed and apologize to ... (read in full...)
Should I be roomates with my ex boyfriend who is still interested in me, and I kinda like him too?
Q. I was in a relationship for four months and then my boyfriend decided to break up in March. There were many reasons, but one was that he felt I was comparing him with my ex. I probably was, but I really wanted to get over my ex (that was another ...
A. 25 April 2012: Sound like a bad bad move.... (read in full...)
I feel like my guy friend is trying to make me his FWB!
Q. I have a really close guy friend for about 2 years now, we have a lot in common and we talk just about everything. I treat him just as a close friend and I have always been open to him about any topic, when he needs someone to talk to, I'd be the ...
A. 25 April 2012: Decide what topics are off limits for you and if he starts on one of those change the subject.
Whether he is trying to "make" you be in a FWB or not, it is 100% up to you, there is that little but powerful word, NO.
Set your own limits with ... (read in full...)
I want to please him but I find anal really painful!
Q. My bf that I've been with for years wants to try something new .. Hmm .. Hes been asking me to let him put it in my butt .. But I don't like it ! It's painfully and I want to please him , but at the same time I feel like he should be more ...
A. 25 April 2012: If that is the only way you can please him, he should go look for a girl who likes anal.
If you don't like and don't enjoy it, STOP doing it,
Your butt, your choice.... (read in full...)
Hungarian girl wanted me to 'sign documents' for her, I said no and she hasn't spoken to me since!
Q. I went for a drink with a Hungarian girl a couple of weeks ago, we went out, had a good time, I walked her back to her flat. We chat on Facebook Chat, everything was going well, until yesterday, when I got a Chat message asking if I could sign doc...
A. 25 April 2012: Did she say it was for her to stay in the UK? It could be many other documents. If it happens again why not ask what kind of document she wanted you to sign.?... (read in full...)
I am in love with someone I work with and can't get over him!
Q. I feel a bit stupid writing this at all, even if it is anonymous, but the thing is I am going crazy, and it is starting to make me unhappy. I don't really know where to begin, but basically I am in love with someone I work with. I have been wor...
A. 24 April 2012: It sounds more like a crush or slight obsession then actual love.
I don't know how you can easiest "snap" out of it, other then realize that it's NOT going to happen between you two and that you don't know him as well as you thought you did.
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My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 24 April 2012: You think YOU are the bad spouse in that marriage?
Seriously? Honey, you need to LOOK at how HE makes you think.. over "just" getting a hair cut. 1. the HAIR is YOURS 2. It will grow back out.
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Hungarian girl wanted me to 'sign documents' for her, I said no and she hasn't spoken to me since!
Q. I went for a drink with a Hungarian girl a couple of weeks ago, we went out, had a good time, I walked her back to her flat. We chat on Facebook Chat, everything was going well, until yesterday, when I got a Chat message asking if I could sign doc...
A. 24 April 2012: Go with your gut! You did the right thing.... (read in full...)
Has anyone felt like they are under a dark cloud? I need some light at the end of the tunnel!
Q. Hello to who is reading this. All I can say is I'm just wanting to know if anyone is going through or has gone through this. I feel like I'm under a serious dark cloud right now, I'm NOT one to feel sorry for myself which I don't, but right now th...
A. 24 April 2012: It may sound cliche, but exercise can help. Get out of the house, go for a walk. EVERY day.
Sit down and make yourself a budget. Stick to it.
Start a journal. Write all the blargh stuff down, sometimes getting it out of your head and down on... (read in full...)
Why am I talking with a guy online who I don't trust?
Q. Dear cupid,I am 24 and i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years 6months ago. The problem I am having now is that I talk to this guy online. We text,talk over the phone and all. But I have no feelings for him. I just need someone to talk to. I miss ...
A. 23 April 2012: You are using him as a rebound perhaps? And yes, if you don't really care about it I do think it's a little cruel to string him along.
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I scared him off. Can I interest him again, despite this set-back?
Q. I finished seeing this guy about three weeks ago because he said he didnt know if he wanted a relationship or not and we have been talking to each other for the last two weeks and he said that things between us when we were seeing each other were ...
A. 23 April 2012: If he got scared like that, he wasn't that into the idea of a relationship in the first place.
I think he was just hoping for a f-buddy or FWB thing where he didn't have to put in an effort.
I'd look elsewhere.... (read in full...)
Is he really interested in me? Or am I just another conquest? And inexperienced too
Q. i've been seeing someone who is way more experienced than me sexually and most of his past girls have been very experienced and are into casual sex. it makes me feel like i'm just another conquest and i am curious if he is interested in me just beca...
A. 23 April 2012: I agree with Cerberus, TAKE your time getting to know this guy WITHOUT having sex with him. If he is OK with waiting on you to be ready he might not be looking for a conquest.
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Should I not be selfish and try to be more accomodating or should I tell him feel manipulated and used?
Q. Dating has reached the relationship stage and I'm learning a few things about this guy. He was really nice and fun initially and I get along well with his 14 year old son who lives with him. It just seems to me lately he has such a sense of entit...
A. 23 April 2012: I'm guessing he is a bit older then you and he is "dating" you (a younger woman) because women his own age wouldn't put up with his crap.
Honestly girl!
Pack up his shit, drop it off at his house. Your place is NOT a storage unit.
He COUL... (read in full...)
I'm constantly bombarded with messages from him on facebook!
Q. I started work at a local hardware store a couple of weeks ago as a part time job and have had some friend requests from my workmates of a similar age on facebook. I have accepted them, as they are all people I have had several conversations with ...
A. 22 April 2012: Yep, hide your status or his comments.. ... (read in full...)
My 19 year old sister is planning on having sex with a 51 year old man she met on the internet!
Q. Ok I will just admit it....I found my sister's email acct password and I snooped. So looking through everything I find all these messsages from a man she met online...theres a ton of them, it starts out with them basically getting to know each ...
A. 22 April 2012: I would find some of the "horror stories" of girls meeting guys on the net for sex.
The thing is she is 19. So she is "technically" old enough to make her own choices. Maybe she thinks an older guy will be a better choice then a fumble inexperi... (read in full...)
If you invite your date to your house is that signaling you want sex?
Q. does inviting your date into your house after the date mean you want to have sex? we meant on line, had 2 dates, where I met him there. i said he could pick me up for hte 3rd date. he seems kind of cheap and i suspect he may be dating other peo...
A. 22 April 2012: I agree with Cerberus. You should NOT give guys on the Internet your address.
Met them in PUBLIC places til you get a good feel for the "real" guy behind the computer.
If you invite him in, will he expect sex? Maybe. But it really comes dow... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: I agree with Yos, you are self harming. Please check out the link he posted.
Porn is fake, honey. It's a fantasy.
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I'm afraid my b/f is trying to remain attractive to other girls
Q. Hi, Sorry this is long- but I really want to give you a clear picture of teh situation so you can help me! My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 8 months now and I have fallen in love with him. He tells me he loves me too and I fe...
A. 22 April 2012: It's Facebook. I would rather NOT have him as a "FB friend" if it lowers the resentment and drama.
But I DO suggest you TALK to him about it, face to face, not over facebook.... (read in full...)
Is it ethical to cut down contact from my mom?
Q. Is it ethical to cut down contact from my mom? I know that sounds like such a harsh question and probably think I'm a horrible daughter, but I can't take the stress from her!!! Whenever I see her number on called id my heart drops in my chest, and...
A. 22 April 2012: How about you call her yourself once/twice a week and set yourself a time limit and then tell her I got to go when the time is up.
If she adds stress to your life, I think you need to tell her.
I doubt she wants to hear it though.
I would giv... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated with over 26 women, how do I get over him?
Q. Dear cupid I need advice on how to stop thinking about my horrible ex boyfriend and moving on with my life. I cant sleep I can barely eat I'm so hurt but anyway here's the story. We were together for three years, high school sweethearts and very ...
A. 22 April 2012: It's not going to happen over night, but at some point YOU will have to forgive yourself and realize that his cheating had nothing to do with you and ALL to do with his lack of morals and selfish personality.
When I say you need to forgive ... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband? How would you feel about this?
Q. Hello, I'm new to the site. I would like to see what others think of my situation. My husband does not come home to me from work. He goes to his parent's every single night for 2-3 hours after work. Yes that is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday...
A. 21 April 2012: Wow, I would be kicking him out asap and telling him to home back home in his parents basement. Seems like he never really left their house.
Having a strong bond to your parents is good, but this? It's ridiculous! He needs to cut the umbilica... (read in full...)
My wife says I need to calm down but sex is always on my mind!
Q. I recently turned 46 and have had alot of sex on my mind. not only the act, but pics and videos to help me get off. My wife says Im too horny and need to calm down but I cant help it. I even watch porn with a buddy of mine to relieve the tention but ...
A. 21 April 2012: Seems like the two of you have totally different needs. And honestly you sounds like you have a little bit of a problem.. if you NEED pictures & videos to get you off and isn't stimulated enough but the "act" of sex.
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My husband has filed for divorce and doesn't want to work things out. Should I just accept it?
Q. My husband of two years is in the process of divorcing me. I really don't want this to happen but he will not communicate with me any more. He said prior to him telling me that he was divorcing me that I was selfish and was always difficult putting ...
A. 21 April 2012: I would just accept it. One person can not fix a marriage. It takes two WILLING people to "fix" it.
He's already out the door.
Why did the two of you not live together? Geographical reasons?... (read in full...)
I want to meet but he's playing hard to get. Should I forget it?
Q. I met a guy online, we have been talking via text for about the last 6 weeks. I usually initiate the conversations. We chatted every day to start with now I tend to leave it to every few days. Our conversations are really good (fun and very slightly ...
A. 21 April 2012: I don't think he is playing hard to get either. I just don't think he is as interested in meeting as you are.
Otherwise, I think he would have found the time and taken the effort to meet up.
sorry :(... (read in full...)
What exercises can I do after foot surgery?
Q. I have always been a bit self concious in reguards to my wieght, even more so since i had children. I gained nearly 60lbs with my first, and thankfully only ten with my second that came off when i had him. I then did atkins and lost 30lbs but gained ...
A. 20 April 2012: Ask your doctor after recovery.
I started taking my mountain bike and ride to work about 6 months after I had knee surgery. I still can't run (was quite the crazy runner before) but both swimming and bike riding are fairly gentle on the joints. ... (read in full...)
He's stopped going down on me! What can I do?
Q. Hey there! I've been with my fiancé for a year now and we will get married in the Fall. I love him deeply and so does he. One little thing is bothering me though... at the beginning of our relationship he went down on me a lot and then he stopped. ...
A. 20 April 2012: I wouldn't play the tit for tat game either. Honestly I do not like to receive oral, but I don't mind giving it. I don't "love" it but I love how it makes him react.
I would talk to him. If he isn't a fan of giving and you aren't a fan of giving, ... (read in full...)
How can you feel more relaxed on a first date?
Q. I get really nervous on a first date and there fore lose my appetite. I feel so nervous that I don't eat a lot. Problem is that guys jump to conclusions about this. To complicate things I had a wisdom tooth cut out of my mouth recently. So it hurts ...
A. 20 April 2012: No one is really relaxed on the first date :) Some are just better at hiding it :)
Just try your best to enjoy the company.
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What kind of guys are likely to be interested in me? My husband wants a divorce. Feels tough right now.
Q. Hi everyone need some positive advice. I have just turned 40 and my husband has left me and wants a divorce - we don't have any children. I am feeling numb and empty but we have had a bad marriage for a long time. However I am worried that I a...
A. 20 April 2012: I doesn't matter what kind of guy "might" be interested in you.
LOOK at what YOU want in a guy. And go for that!
YOUR life is about YOU!
You tried a douchebag (your soon to be ex) now it's time to try something new. Take the time to find wh... (read in full...)
My friend is not making a move on me because I am still married. What do I do?
Q. I am so stuck. I am separated but not yet divorced. Me and this man have become good friends and I know he feels the same but he has not made any moves because I am still married. I have not loved my husband for a long time and am ready to move...
A. 20 April 2012: It means he is a good guy. He wants you to be 100% sure the marriage is over. And I agree. YOU should finish one relationship before starting a new one. You MAY have checked out of the marriage mentally, but you need to do it fully to start ... (read in full...)
Should I cry and beg after a breakup?
Q. I always go full NC and don't break NC. I always do the right thing yet it never makes remotely any difference at all. So should the next time I go through a breakup, should I cry and beg. Maybe then I'll get considered for a recon?...
A. 20 April 2012: Do what feels right for you.
I don't believe in taking breaks in a relationship. Or the on and off again situations, it's just delaying the inevitable, which is an unmatched couple.... (read in full...)
In a relationship and I don't want to cheat but I want to fool around with other people! Do other people feel this too?
Q. Hey everyone. So I love my boyfriend, we have been dating for almost 2 years and I'm pretty sure I'm gonna marry him when we get out of college and stuff (I'm 18, he's 20). But have any of you ever wanted to just fool around with other people? Just ...
A. 20 April 2012: Then be SINGLE, honey. ... (read in full...)
It seems someone has set up a profile on a dating site pretending to be me! Why would someone do this?
Q. Hey! I had something really odd happen recently, and would like some opinions on it. Basically, I woke up about a week ago to a text from a guy saying he was responding to a message I sent him on a dating site. I was very confused, because I haven't ...
A. 20 April 2012: Contact the dating website and tell them to take it down. If they won't, I would contact the local police and find out what you can do. The webhost should be able to pull the ISP of the person who created the profile. Honestly, I see nothing ... (read in full...)
My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 19 April 2012: It's OK to not have your body back 12 weeks after having a baby. It takes time. I know we see celebrities "bounce" right back to pre-baby bodies all the time, but the thing is, many of those have a personal trainer, someone who cooks the right food, ... (read in full...)
Can you please help me understand this insecure man?
Q. I've been with this guy 4 years and have had a child together, who's almost 3. At first he always accused me of cheating then it went away for years. Last Saturday I went to work at a fundraiser for my daughter's school to build a new play...
A. 19 April 2012: Well, the "you are cheating" is a typical cheater offensive it cover up their own infidelities. But it can also just be that he is extremely insecure.
He doesn't trust you. Or he would accuse you.
He will NOT stop accusing you. You could live i... (read in full...)
He texts his ex every day. Should I be trusting him, despite all this?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years - he's never cheated on me but he texts his ex who is the mother of his daughter everyday. Sometimes up to 36 texts per day. I've asked what do they talk about and he responds with "things about our ...
A. 19 April 2012: 36 times a day seem a tad more then just mom/dad talking about a child.
How old is said "child" ?
And how much does he text you in comparison?
I don't think that exes are in the past when you DO have a child, they are ALWAYS part of their... (read in full...)
Should I appologise for these drunken antics?
Q. I was with my friend 'A' shopping in town after a catch-up over lunch. I had to go to the fancy dress shop as I needed to get a whistle for my costume for a night out at the weekend. When we came out, I saw this gorgeous guy and A admitted she knew ...
A. 19 April 2012: Leave it for now. If you met in person you can always apologize. (if the talk comes on the subject of drinking, that particular episode)
And by the way, TRY and stop making up stuff. Most people don't like it when people lie. And getting caught i... (read in full...)
Are we going too fast?
Q. This is going to sound really awkward so bare with me. Basically my best friend has been continually harassed throughout her relationship, having people tell her boyfriend she is cheating etc. One of the guys she was accused of cheating with is...
A. 19 April 2012: Next date tell him how you feel. tell him your speed. No sex til 3-6 months of being exclusive (or whatever timeline YOU feel is right). Taking 2-4 months to get a feel for each other BEFORE deciding on being exclusive..
GO at your pace, the fact... (read in full...)
She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: How do you justify cheating on your wife?
You say you don't want to be someones back up plan, but you are USING your wife as one.
GROW a set and get a divorce. Your wife deserves better then how you are treating her.
If your "lover" love... (read in full...)
Is it alright for a married person to look up ex-boyfriend or girlfriends?
Q. Is it OK for a married person to lookup ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends? Our friend has been divorced for about 2 years now, and we're still friends with her since she was our friend before she married the POS loser. Anyway, she has been searchi...
A. 19 April 2012: I think it's a ridiculous offer from your divorced friend. Honestly WHY would your wife need "help" finding old exes?
I can see why SHE (the divorced friend) might want to look for old exes, even though she is better of not dwelling on the past... (read in full...)
He got another girl pregnant when he and I first started seeing each other
Q. Basically its a long story but I met this guy about 6 months ago now and at first i didnt think anything would happen. But as time passed I gradually fell for him. You could say we've got a "thing" going on. I probably like him much more than he ...
A. 19 April 2012: You guys got a "thing" going on and he got "other things" going on with other girls....
Yea, not BF material, honey.
Dump him... and if you don't MAKE sure you use protection. You may ask why I say that.. but if he knocked the other girl up an... (read in full...)
I may have unwittingly led her on. How do I let her down gently?
Q. this is a bit long so pleas bear with me and sorry in advans about my spelling. well im a member of a site for people with diffrent kinds of medcon/lurning diffacultys/disablitys and ressonlty a fellow meber got in touch and we have been chating ...
A. 19 April 2012: You will have to make it clear to her, that you can only be mates, that you are too old for her.
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My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 19 April 2012: Be who you are. Dress how YOU like. I see nothing wrong in wanting your mate to look good, but telling them THIS is all you can wear is just demeaning.
Like Echo85 said, you are not his PET nor is he your owner.
Maybe it'd time to get you ... (read in full...)
My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 17 April 2012: Why are you doing what he "tells" you to do? I mean you JUST had a baby,cut yourself some slack! I wear your yoga pants or what not if that is comfortable! Tell him to go fly a kite!
He is trying to create his own stepford wife and honey, that mea... (read in full...)
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