Thoughts of being sexual with someone scares me.
Q. From what I can tell, my problem is me. I'm a twenty-one year old virgin, who is terrified of not only relationships, but sex in general. If I ever think about sex, I get uncomfortable thoughts and feel odd. As if the thought of being intimate with ...
A. 8 June 2012: Then just go slow. There is no real hurry.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. I've been engaged for almost a year, getting married September 1st, my fiance and I have a great relationship. We fight like all couples do, but there is something wrong. I'm the female in the relationship, and I'm the one complaining about not ...
A. 7 June 2012: Good luck! And I hope he is considering seeing a doctor to get either the T patch or another form of testosterone replacement therapy.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15991940
I can tell you my husband went from 0% libido to 99% in a short t... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for letting my 17 year old daughter sleep in the same bed as her male best friend?
Q. I let my daughter's male best friend sleep in her bed with her - am I a bad mother? My daughter and her best friend are 17 and I completely trust my daughter's trust in him. I know she wouldn't do anything because she's too insecure for anything ...
A. 7 June 2012: My best male friend slept over at 15-16 and 17 and we never had sex. We were friends not dating. We camped out in the garden in a tent together as well many times. We never shared a bed but the same bedroom (not that it really makes a difference ... (read in full...)
My friends boyfriend kissed me and now my friend is now mad
Q. My friend has a dilemma and I think its all my fault. The problem is I spent a weekend with her and let it slip that her boyfriend kissed me. Although I made it clear that it was just a kiss as I walked around the corner I bumped into him and he ...
A. 7 June 2012: I think you did the right thing in telling her. It may not have meant anything, but I agree if you partner kissed other women I'd want to know.
If you had HID it and HE somehow had brought it up YOU would have looked bad.
I seriously doubt ... (read in full...)
I walked out of the room, came back and my friend was having sex with the guy that I like!
Q. so there was this boy who liked me and i felt the same way but we never really acted on it.so recently i invited him over to my place and we ended up sleeping together.so later my bestfriend came over and we were just chilling when i went to get ...
A. 7 June 2012: The guy is a sleaze bag. He had sex with you first and then when he got the change he tagged your friend. EWW I would not talk/see that guy again.
Your friend can use all the "I was drunk" excuses in the book, but she would be off my friends ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. I've been engaged for almost a year, getting married September 1st, my fiance and I have a great relationship. We fight like all couples do, but there is something wrong. I'm the female in the relationship, and I'm the one complaining about not ...
A. 7 June 2012: I'm think he has a low sex drive (maybe even low T) and you have a normal sex-drive. The thing is, getting married won't change his sex drive.. or yours.
Is he stressed at work? That can lower the libido too.
I think he is being rather unf... (read in full...)
How often do you have sex with your partner?
Q. how often do you have sex with your partner? looking for answers from people who are in: 1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother) 2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's) 3 and live in relationships (living tog...
A. 7 June 2012: 14 years married, 3-4 times per week is the "norm" now. Though the times he's been away at school or deployment there was no sex for 6 weeks to 7 months.... (read in full...)
He says he wants to be single now but he doesn't want me to move on
Q. Hello, I was in a 9 year relationship and we had lived together for 9 years. We decided to move to another state for his job and I had stayed in our old place until he found an apartment. Well he finally found one and right after I sold my stuff and ...
A. 7 June 2012: You are his security blanket, in case this being single doesn't work out for him he's got you to fall back on.. TOTALLY unfair. I would tell him (if he calls) that you need a period of NO CONTACT and stick to it.
After 9 year he breaks up in a tex... (read in full...)
She says she feels snubbed by my family
Q. Hi everyone, I'm in what feels like a ridiculous situation and I'm just looking for some clarity, and confirmation that I am not the one who is completely crazy! Here goes... I'm in a relationship with a girl and we've been together 8 1/2 m...
A. 7 June 2012: Sounds like your GF is seriously overreacting. Why can't you go hang out with your family for once without it having anything to do with her? I would tell her that if he had been there she would have been welcome to join, but that you thought it was ... (read in full...)
Dating my girlfriend but I have feelings for another woman
Q. I am in a new relationship where I have been seeing this girl for two months. I like her but I have feelings for another woman who I have known for a year and a half. She is a client of my company and I see her often through work and we have become ...
A. 6 June 2012: So you are dating ONE girl to get another girl out of your head and you aren't being successful at it.
What you need to do is be honest with the girl you are dating, you obviously don't care for her as much as you might want to care or as much as ... (read in full...)
It seems like his mother is deliberately interfering -- and he lets her
Q. I have been going out with a really nice guy for about a year ,i see him quite often and i go and stay with him for a while .The problem i have noticed is his mother seems to ask him to do jobs for her when i'm down and if he has made plans for us ...
A. 6 June 2012: Sounds like a momma's boy. I sincerely doubt you can change his line of thinking. For him his momma is #1. So either you can accept that you pay second fiddle or you can find someone who has cut those apron strings already.
I have no doubt sh... (read in full...)
I finally managed to get out of an unhappy relationship, so why am I missing him so much? Should I call him?
Q. Yesterday, I broke up with my boyfriend. After 2.5 years I just had enough. He never kissed, hugged me, asked about my day. He never made an effort to talk to me. I had fallen out of love. I admit for the first 2 years I did everything he asked ...
A. 6 June 2012: I know there is so much talk about closure when a relationship end. The thing is you never truly get closure from another person, you find that within yourself. Because no matter what the "other" person tells you it's not going to make you go "aha ... (read in full...)
Keep my safe, secure job, or move abroad with hubby?
Q. Hey! Been married a few months, been with my hubbie forever. He's just found out he's gonna have to move abroad for 5 years for work (his firm asked him that and he cannot refuse). He's got a great job and it's gonna be nearly impossible for him to ...
A. 6 June 2012: I can't imagine making a marriage work long distance for 5 years. However, is this a place you want to live for the next 5 years, are there any opportunities for you to either study while there or work?
Can his job/pay overseas take care of the b... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 15 years will not divorce his wife!
Q. Hi, I have been with my live in boyfriend for 15 years. He has given me 2 engagement rings, (not diamonds) but when I told someone we were engaged, he got very angry. I drive him to and from work, as he works in a bar. He lost his license for 3 ye...
A. 6 June 2012: Kick him out! He's been USING you for 5 years!!
Honey you have doormat written all over your forehead and he keeps wiping his feet in your face.
Sell the house. Find a way to get your finances straight. STOP helping this loser out. If he is "s... (read in full...)
My b/f is texting my younger sister and I think something is going on between them
Q. Hey everyone... My so called boyfriend is texting my little sister... She's 14 and she don't know we are going out.. But everyone thInks he's my bestfriend but she knows he likes me... But she's kind of a bad girl that wants to hang out with every ...
A. 6 June 2012: I agree. Tell your sister, but stop blaming her. HE IS DATING you. And she doesn't even know that.
And for a 17 year old boy to be chasing a 4 year old girl is sad. I would break up with the loser and tell your sister that he is bad news.... (read in full...)
My friend is betraying my trust by telling my secrets to our other friends!
Q. Help!! One of My best friends keeps getting me to tell her secrets and then tells some of my other friends!! I feel like i can't trust her anymore but she is having a hard time right now (shes having counselling) and I don't want to talk to her ...
A. 6 June 2012: Stop telling her your secrets. She can not/ will not keep them and your trust in her is misplaced.
I would actually tell her when you two are alone, that you are sad that you can't trust her with secrets.
It sounds like deflection to me, by... (read in full...)
Can't get my bf to cum when I give him Oral
Q. i need help! i recently gave my boyfriend oral for the first time and i couldn't get him to cum! i asked him what i could do and he just said don't worry its not your fault. and i said well why couldnt i? what was different? and he just said it ...
A. 6 June 2012: It does depend on the technique, the girl and the guy. My husband wasn't able til we met. And he still isn't able every time to get off that way. Doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy it.
Don't give up, try using your hands more, don't forget the scrotum,... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the bank for my gambling boyfriend
Q. Hello, So I've been with my bf for 4 years. Its been a battle to say the least. Some major control issues for the 1st 3 yrs on his behalf. He's finally loosening up over this last year except he still contacts me excessively. Which I find ann...
A. 6 June 2012: Gambling is a hard addiction. I'm glad you stopped trying to "help" him financially. Because constantly digging him out when he get himself into financial trouble is a form of enabling. And it's NOT helping him or yourself.
Personally I would cu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ready for sex, but I'm not. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend wants sex with me and I told him that I don't know how, I obviously do know how but I think he will be disappointed and might break up with me. But he said 'it's ok I will teach you how' I don't think I am ready for it though, and I do...
A. 5 June 2012: If you are NOT ready, you are not ready. If sex is all he wants maybe he isn't worth keeping around?
Don't ever let anyone pressure you to have sex.
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My friend just thinks it's funny that her large dog humps me!
Q. my friends dog keeps trying to hump me. now im afraid to go round to her house because hes big if he gets me down hell do it. but she just thinks its funny. what do i do?...
A. 5 June 2012: I wouldn't spend time at her house, honestly.
Growing up our neighbor had a Mastiff. Horny Mastiff. That dog would hump ANYONE. For the longest the owners just thought it was "funny" til the dog tried to hump the mailman.. After that, they HAD... (read in full...)
I like this girl but she has genital warts!
Q. I met this girl and we have been talking for a couple weeks. I just found out she had genital warts. I know the warts are treatable but once u have it you always have the HPV virus. So if i have sex with this girl am i going to get the virus? I ...
A. 5 June 2012: http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/vaccine.html
You can look into the vaccine as well.
Not judging your girl, but I would personally be leery of dating/sex someone with HPV since you can EASILY have it, transmit it and not know you carry it around.... (read in full...)
My ex is married, but I'm still interested in him. What should I do?
Q. I dated a guy for short period but lost all contact until recently. he contacted me and tells me he's married (not his decision), but can't forget me. he wants to connect again. we were very good together and i know i'll be just as bad as he is if ...
A. 5 June 2012: he's married (not his decision) What? Did she put a shotgun to his head and say marry me or else? THAT is a load of lies.
You really think that a guy who is married and cheating is "worth" getting together with? What would hold him back from che... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps cheating on me, but I can't stop loving him. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and a half. We are together usually every night, I sleep over his place, his family loves me and we say I love you but in Feb I caught him with a girl over his house. One night stand type of thing, we split and ...
A. 5 June 2012: He keeps cheating because he knows you will "forgive" him..
Unless you accept him for the cheater he IS, there is only one other option. DUMP the loser.
... (read in full...)
My friend's fiancee wants to have sex with me
Q. Heyyy so I'm up here in California for the next couple of years and I've met TONS of people but here's the problem, my friends fiance wants me to have sex with her. I've known this guy for about a month now but she's VERY persuasive and insistent on ...
A. 5 June 2012: Don't have sex with her. Let some one else be the reason she breaks of her engagement, DO NO be THAT Douche! Let HER hold THAT bag of crap...
(because YOU will look like the asshat here and she will look like the tart)
She sounds sleazy. T... (read in full...)
B/f has become mean and nasty. Does he want to end things?
Q. Dear Auntys, Please can you give your opinions? My boyfreind has not been affectionate of late and I only see him when he is tired. I recently moaned that he could of kissed me before goin to sleep and he started arguing calling me horrendous na...
A. 3 June 2012: Well, it's hard to say what is going on in his head, but it does seem like he is pushing you away, hoping that the more cruel he is the bigger the chance is that YOU will tell him to take a hike.
Is he having trouble at work and taking it out on y... (read in full...)
I want to stop taking my birth control pill and not tell my b/f
Q. I'm 20. I started dating a great guy a few months ago, and for the past month, all I've been thinking about is getting pregnant. He's 27, has a wonderful job, and would not walk out on me if I got pregnant. His father left when he was young and he ...
A. 3 June 2012: Don't do it.
Having a child is a MAJOR change to your life and one you should do on a "whim" and CERTAINLY not without telling your partner about. That is not only dishonest, it's bordering on "entrapment". You KNOW he would stay if you got preg... (read in full...)
The tall and short of it
Q. Iam 6 foot 7 and My Girl Is 5foot1 When She Pulls Me Down To Smooch . She Loves To French Kiss But I Don't How Can I Get Her To Stop Kissing Me Like This ?...
A. 3 June 2012: Tell her to save THOSE kisses for at home?... (read in full...)
Ex was a swinger and I ended things. was it because of me?
Q. Hi everyone just an update the ex partner of mine is well and truely gone, however , before I ended it he proceeded to tell me that he wanted me to go to his swinging club party and wanted me to catch him in the act !!! he told me he went with a man ...
A. 3 June 2012: Why on Earth do you think his actions and behavior was something you "made" him do? THEY are ALL on him.
The only thing (from what you wrote) that may have been your "fault" was having trust in a man who didn't deserve it.
Honey, you pi... (read in full...)
Why is everything conditional in this marriage to her? Am I way too forgiving?
Q. Firstly, a big thankyou to the agony aunts who helped me through some past difficult times :) I can bring some good news. I'm still married (I'll get to that in a bit) and my work situation has improved so much. I went through a rocky period of ...
A. 3 June 2012: Sounds to me that she is regretting the marriage and feels stuck with you. Did she marry you to get to live in Australia or because she genuinely LOVES you?
I think she is also very homesick and that is ONE of the reason she is talking to these gu... (read in full...)
Would it be safe to ask for a Fwb relationship with the neighbor?
Q. Hi, I always have sexual urges to have sex with my neighbor. We're both 15, she's very cute and has a creamy complexion. We're classmates in elementary. And I know that she has a major crush on me. She flirts with me all the time but in the past ...
A. 3 June 2012: You are 15 ! You do not NEED a FWB or casual sex. And with a neighbor? bad move. What if she actually likes her and you jsut want sex? Then you are STUCK living near her.
PS. You don't want a FWB you just want to use her. Be honest.
... (read in full...)
Why doesn't b/f want to see friends or family?
Q. hi there, whenever i am away from my partner or he is bored and wanting to do something when i cant etc i try to give him suggestions to maybe go see his family or hang out with a few mates. because i know he would like to especially when ...
A. 3 June 2012: It's hard to say why he reacts that way. Seems to me that he "expect" you to be his entertainment at all times?
I would honestly stop suggesting he goes hang out with family and/or friends. If you are away from your partner and can't hang out just... (read in full...)
Thoughts of being sexual with someone scares me.
Q. From what I can tell, my problem is me. I'm a twenty-one year old virgin, who is terrified of not only relationships, but sex in general. If I ever think about sex, I get uncomfortable thoughts and feel odd. As if the thought of being intimate with ...
A. 3 June 2012: Yes, I think you are over-thinking it.
It can seem a bit daunting to have sex or be intimate with another person. That is why it's always a good idea to go slow. When you met a girl and you start dating, you start out with a kiss, a hug, a cuddle... (read in full...)
He's so uncomfortable with sex and I"m unsure what to do about it
Q. Ok, so I have been seeing this guy now for almost 2 months now. I'll give you a little background about myself, I am a widow about 4 years now and have three older kids. I started dating after a year after my husbands death and dated some jerks and ...
A. 3 June 2012: I would try and STOP pressuring him into sex. He is obviously dealing with some issues regarding sex. That MIGHT be why he hasn't had many prior relationships or why he hadn't gone past a 2nd date.
You DID pressure him. He said yes, because ... (read in full...)
Don't most men like to touch their girlfriend's boobs?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to like touching his girlfriend's boobs? I mean, in most relationships, is it normal? Cause my girlfriend apparently don't think so, and she forbade me from touching them after awhile. I used to touch them like once a week, ...
A. 3 June 2012: How long have you dated? How intimate are you with each other?
And in what "situation" do you touch her boobs? Is it a wonk-wonk as you walk past her or on the couch or is it part of foreplay/making out?
Maybe she feels like you are too focu... (read in full...)
7 months and he wont call me his girlfriend =[
Q. Hi guys. I am having a problem right now and I would love for someone to help me. I met a guy in my city 7 months ago and we started communicating everyday and this has lasted 7 months. He lived 4 hours away before so meeting made it hard but rece...
A. 3 June 2012: What should you do? Well, for 1, maybe realize that you two don't move at the same speed when it comes to relationships and commitment. Are you two even exclusive? Have yo talked about that?
Do you really NEED to title or is it because you see ... (read in full...)
He ended things then told me 'I love you' for the first time
Q. Hi guys, So basically, I've been seeing this guy for some 6 months. It started out casual and then became serious (more for him than me) but I genuinely like(d) him. Basically, yesterday we were talking about how excited we were to see each ...
A. 3 June 2012: Did he see your post about "free striptease" and perhaps think you meant that for someone else? That you were "pimping" yourself out to "punish" him for not being able to show up as planned?
I think the two of you suffer from SERIOUS miscommu... (read in full...)
How do I re-establish things after I messed up and groped my best-friend?
Q. I have a bestfriend, I have had feelings for her before and sometimes here and there. I felt as if it was some sort of thing telling me, "Oh she's the one" I had a friend tell me i might just be physically attracted to her which i am as well. A...
A. 3 June 2012: I agree 100% with YouWish.
SKEEVY behavior is right!
MAN up and go talk to her, apologize. Don't be a creep.
She may not want to be friend with you any more and THAT is all on you, bro. YOU did that.
Time to grow a backbone.... (read in full...)
Would a FWB work for me? I only miss the physical part of a relationship
Q. Right everyone seems to think I'm scared of being alone because I've had two serious relationships by the time in 17, but the thing is I love being single But when I am single I miss having someone to hug kiss and have sex with so do you think if ...
A. 3 June 2012: I agree with Starmonster888.
Wanting someone to hug,kiss and have sex with is not making you a bad person. But overall it's rare for a FWB to really work. Most of the time the woman can't separate emotions from the physical side. And SHE ends up ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of a year just isn't putting anything into the relationship anymore
Q. hey, ive been going out with my girlfreind for just over a year and she no longer putting the effort it to the relationship. we dont talk anymore when i try to talk to her she just ignores me or wont engage in conversation, ive tried to tell he...
A. 3 June 2012: Sounds like she has been pulling away for a long time. She doesn't want to be the "bad guy" and break up.
I would honestly sit her down (face to face) and tell her what you feel. You CAN'T make her put an effort into the relationship. You CAN'T ma... (read in full...)
I have given my heart to a widower, do I wait patiently or move on?
Q. I am deeply in love with a Widower with two children, I have two of my own. We have a fantastic relationship in two separate homes. He lost his wife four years ago to a terrible disease which his kids have 50% chance of developing. He says he ...
A. 3 June 2012: 1. if he is worried if the kids have it, why not have then genetically screened? That way he will know for sure if they have it or not and how to treat them accordingly ( and I mean with medicine).
He will not marry you. The fact that he think he... (read in full...)
Do I go for the FWB or go for the guy who isn't great at sex but wants a relationship?
Q. Hi I was just wondering what I can do in this situation I met a man we became fwbs as he didn't want any commitment as he hadn't been single long when we met there is such a spark with us that the sex is amazing when we are together I met a man 7 ...
A. 3 June 2012: If you want a relationship DATE/GET TO KNOW guys who are looking for a relationship.
If you just want sex, have the FWB with the guy who "just" want sex.
Why get into a relationship if you aren't 100% committed to the person? You don't even k... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and pregnant and I'm afraid to tell my b/f or family
Q. Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, but 2 months ago we had sex. We did use a condom but I had many symptoms of being pregnant. I finally took a test 2 weeks ago and it was positive. I haven't told anybody except for my bestfrie...
A. 3 June 2012: You HAVE to tell your parents. Simple as that. If you plan to carry this baby to term you WILL need prenatal care and doctors supervision.
And honestly if you can have sex with your BF you can tell him he got you pregnant.
Honey, you are 14... (read in full...)
Why did my teacher stop responding to me?
Q. As of a couple of months, I have kept in touch with a teacher of mine, whom I once had a crush on. We agreed to remain friends, and much like when I was still his student in high school, we began to have a small debate about some hot topic issue. ...
A. 3 June 2012: Is he married? Maybe he didn't find it appropriate to keep in touch with students? Or maybe his wife didn't find it appropriate.
Could be that his life is busy and he doesn't want to "argue" with people online?
Could be since it's vacation ti... (read in full...)
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