I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 17 May 2012: Thank you for the update, I'm glad it went so well. ... (read in full...)
Is it worth commiting for a visa?
Q. I have recently traveled to a European country to be with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is both a US citizen as well as a citizen here. He was able to get a research position that will take another 3 or 4 years to finish and asked me to join ...
A. 15 May 2012: Have you contacted the US Embassy to see if there are other options for you to stay longer without getting hitched?
If not, I would do the 90 days at a time tourist visa, a few times and see how you both feel.
This might help you get some ide... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too curious about my ex and it is affecting our relationship, what can I do to stop this?
Q. My boyfriend and I met when he joined my co-ed fraternity. I rarely talk about my private life to others, so naturally I did not mention that my ex is in my fraternity. A couple months ago, he found out and was extremely hurt. He said that although ...
A. 15 May 2012: I don't want our ex to be apart of OUR relationship.
TELL your Bf just that. That your ex is in your past that you are DONE with.
I can understand why your BF questioned the fact that you never told him your ex was in your fraternity too. ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here?
Q. Hi there I need to know whether I am in the wrong here?? I was seeing a guy last november and it probably lasted a few months, until he was offered a job abroad (new zealand) on a contract for a year and a half. We had been friends before for a ...
A. 15 May 2012: What a moron! I'm sorry, honey, but he is an immature jerk not worth YOU wasting any more time or feelings on.
Don't ever let a guy walk all over you like he did.
I would forget his number, his email, delete him of Skype and Facebook and whe... (read in full...)
Isn't it too early to have sex?
Q. Hello! I met this guy online. We hung out 3 times so far and we had such an amazing time. We text and chat it up all the time... The 3rd time we hung out, there was so much sexual tension between us so we ended up making out and touching each others ...
A. 15 May 2012: I agree with Celtic_Tiger.
Even with all the "talking" online you NEED to feel that you know him and that YOU want to have sex with him without feeling pressured.
A good guy will wait. No matter how horny he is. Why? Because waiting is the r... (read in full...)
I think my friend stole my money but she wants to be friends again, what should I do?
Q. Confused about my friend? I am so confused, my money went missing and I believe my friend stole my wallet which had over $1000 because she was the only 1 who knew i had it besides my family,she was the last person i was with and she was the only 1 w...
A. 15 May 2012: Since you will never know 100% if she took the money or not (unless she confess and I highly doubt she will if she took the money) you will never be able to trust her 100% and for me, a friend is someone you can trust without a doubt.
I would cu... (read in full...)
Regretting the offer for her to move to California with me if this is her 'real' personality....
Q. I have somewhat of a long backstory to my question, and honestly feel extremely immature resorting here, but I would rather the anonymity of the internet than posing these questions to a friend. Anyway - to start, I grew up in Maryland. When ...
A. 15 May 2012: She may not have matured much since you left MA. After all you got to do the "adventure" and career part all on your own, SHE on the other hand is stuck in the caretaker role. So maybe at 16-20 she was a very mature girl BECAUSE she was a part ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my mother to let me cut my hair short?
Q. I have long waist length beautiful healthy hair. But the trouble is that i dont like them at all. I want to get them cut short because i like hair better that way. My mother apparantly doesnot understand me and she does not even let me do the ...
A. 15 May 2012: I have to ask if this is a cultural thing for your mom? Or if she just wants you to have long hair?
If it's not cultural, I would tell her the full head of hair needs to go. You could start out small and go get some layers in that will lighten ... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old virgin...is that a turn off?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I'm in college. I've never had sex because I've never had a boyfriend and never wanted to sleep with random guys. No one ever believes me when I tell them I've never had sex mainly because I go out/party/drink a lot and ...
A. 14 May 2012: I doubt many guys would see it as a bad quality. Having a sense of values and morals when it comes to sex is never a bad trait. Hopefully you will find a guy who think/feels the same way at some point down the line.
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Husband has lied in the past so am I wrong in not trusting him?
Q. my husband went out of town officially and met an old female batchmate after years. he invited her for dinner as she wanted to meet another male friend. all three are married now. but i felt bad as i was informed only after they all met at venue. my ...
A. 14 May 2012: I think he was inconsiderate to not let you know before hand and maybe even given YOU the opportunity to met these ladies.
Trust is easily lost and hard to regain.
I would sit him down and explain how it makes you feel and how hard it really i... (read in full...)
As you get older do you become more confident?
Q. Hello, i'm 15 years old and I want to lose my virginity but i'm extremely inconfident with girls and they don't seem interested in me anymore. I just need your advice and for you to answer a couple of my questions. 1.As you get older do you bec...
A. 14 May 2012: Confidence comes with age, but it's something you constantly work on (even if you don't really notice it). You just have to get used to testing the waters with new things ( and I'm not talking sex here) and expand your horizon.
You can MAKE peo... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a local policeman
Q. Hi. Thanks for Helping me. Anyways, I have a dilemma. There is a school police officer at school and he seems to like me. I have noticed him glancing at me. When we are outside and I'm with my friends, he goes and stands around the area where we...
A. 14 May 2012: iAmHereToHelpYou is right.
A crush is nice and totally normal, but even a crush needs to have both feet planted in reality.
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What should I wear for the first date?
Q. Hi everyone I recently asked a question of how often you saw a fwb and how they treated you and got some great answers now I have ended the fwb as I realised how badly he treated me so now I have another question I have a date a week on saturday and ...
A. 14 May 2012: All depends on the time and where you are going :)
But in general I would wear something you feel beautiful yet comfortable in.
And good for you to dump the FWB.... (read in full...)
I had a huge fight with my crush!
Q. Earlier I had a huge fight with my crush. He vented to some of his friends and of course the girls (especially his friend Emily, that I think likes him) took his side. They act super protective of him and Emily has done and said things to try to ...
A. 14 May 2012: Is he really worth all this drama? You can't tell me this guy is totally unaware of what "Emily" and Co are doing.... I think he is lapping up all that girl drama over HIM..
Eh..... (read in full...)
As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?
Q. I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (havi...
A. 14 May 2012: Wow, I think you need to let that poor girl go. You are too shallow to keep her long term.
And you don't really love her.
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I managed to convince a guy I fancy that I'm easy but now I need the skills to back it up
Q. I moved about 9 months ago and there's this guy "Sam" back home. My friend and I tricked him into thinking I'm a slut and he likes me better now. I told him when I get home I'd make out with him and give him a hand job. The thing is, I HAVE NO IDEA ...
A. 14 May 2012: The 1 million dollar questions is, DO YOU like yourself better being thought off as easy?
Do try and fake something you are not. Either he likes you for you or he doesn't.
If he think you are a "slut" it doesn't mean he LIKES you better now, ... (read in full...)
I suffer from fear of having sex, help?
Q. I am fortunate enough to be a young female starting my third year of college, and I'm currently in a relationship with someone who I truly care about. Not only do I love and trust my boyfriend more than anything, but he has also been my best friend ...
A. 14 May 2012: Sounds like you could use a good counselor to talk to and perhaps in the mean time you can look up dysmorphic disorder.
http://www.pamguide.com.au/anxiety/bdd_test.php
http://psychc... (read in full...)
Does personality matter?
Q. If a guy is just average looking or even a little ugly (not like hideous ugly), but they have what you consider to be a really funny personality, you get along with them really well, you love to talk to them for hours, they have a cute personality, ...
A. 14 May 2012: Maybe not at first glace. We (humans) do judge people we meet by their looks within the first few seconds. However, if you have a great personality and get a change to "show" it off looks can easily becomes secondary, unless the girl is shallow and ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy obsession on my DAUGHTER - NOOOOO!!!!
Q. I caught my boyfriend of 5.5 yrs (really a part of my family), surprised him at his house(where I never go) jacking off to recent pictures of my newly pregnant daughter. He had gone into my computer and copied pictures that she had sent to ME of her ...
A. 14 May 2012: Ewww what a scumbag. One thing would be looking at old pictures of you but your pregnant daughter? Nasty fella.... (read in full...)
A man wearing pink skinny jeans?
Q. First reaction/ thought that comes to mind when you see a male wearing red/pink skinny jeans???...
A. 14 May 2012: First off, I absolutely HATE skinny jeans on a guy. But with that said... Hmm, I guess I would think the guy was very secure in himself and fashion forward.
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Should I give it another go with him or just end things?
Q. Ive been seeing someone for over 3 months now. At the beggining everything was great and couldn't be happier. Recently his ex girlfriend who he has a baby with has been getting involved. Threatening me and saying she will always get him back because ...
A. 14 May 2012: I think I would leave him and his drama llama circus of a life. I understand when a guy has a child the child should be first priority, but he makes you he 4th or 5th... Which is not right.
I would leave before YOU get more involved.
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15 year old girl in love, help!
Q. So I'm 15 years old and am attracted to a police officer guy a my school. Problem is... he seems to like me back as well. I know it is wrong to like someone so old, he seems to be like 30 something years old or in his late 20's. So we always look at ...
A. 13 May 2012: It's OK to have a Crush on an older guy, but realistically (and I mean no offense) he has NOTHING in common with a 15 year old girl (or rather he shouldn't have anything in common wit ha 15 year old girl).
I actually find it a little worrisom... (read in full...)
Should I confront my brother and/or best friend?
Q. I really need some help. My brother has separated with his wife and they have 2 children together. Recently my best friend has begun seeing him. Him being almost 35 and she's just 19. I know about it but no body else has copped on yet. Neither of ...
A. 13 May 2012: She is a grown up, he is a grown up... As much as it would BUG me (if I were in your position) you are not the relationship police.
And someone will get hurt, not matter what you do or what you say :(... (read in full...)
How do I handle embarrassing visits to the doctor?
Q. My mom took me to the doctor to get a referral for X-rays for my injured knee that I damaged when running during practice for Track. So there was this Medical Assistant guy and he was the one who checked my weight and stuff like that. He also asked ...
A. 13 May 2012: Tell your doctor, it is HIGHLY unethical behavior. IF you don't feel like you can talk to your doctor, I would honestly switch provider of you can.
He might have thought he would make you feel "better" by flirting but no MATTER your age that was... (read in full...)
I'm 64. Is it normal that I still want sex?
Q. i am a woman of 64 and widowed. i last saw a man in my bed 3,5 yrs ago. i still want love and sex. is this normal. please dont give me moral answers. i know we all need love to the end of our lives. i want sex too. and with love cos i tie sex with ...
A. 13 May 2012: Go for it ! My dad is 73 and I keep pestering him to get a GF and not give up on things he likes (that would include sex).
My Mom passed away 2 years ago, and I know he loved her and will always miss her, but I WANT him to still live life.
... (read in full...)
Why do men marry women that aren't anything like what they look at in porn?
Q. Well i have been confused about this for years. My husband dose this and other guys do this and i believe other girls do this. I have put on some weight through the years after i have had my kids and even before then i wasn't skinny but i was mu...
A. 13 May 2012: Reality and fantasy are two different things. You can fantasize about tall, dark and handsome strangers, but in reality you prefer a Nordic looking guy.
While it might be cool for a guy to have sex with a girl who looks like a pornstar, I don't th... (read in full...)
Why do people react so negatively when I say I don't want to get married or have children?
Q. Maybe, I am too young to say this, but I am just not interested in getting married or having kids. Now, don't get me wrong. While I do not want to get married, it doesn't mean I don't want to find and live my life with that one special partner....
A. 13 May 2012: I think it's partly because of your age and partly because some people can't imagine doing anything BUT get married and have kids.
Think about how people must have felt back in the day when everyone though the Earth was flat.
I think the b... (read in full...)
Why did this girl say she would never go out with me? Is it because I'm ugly?
Q. Today at lunch I was hanging out with my two friends, their girlfriends, and their girlfriend's friends. Well my friend Alex asked this girl something that I overheard, it was either "Would you go out with josh?" or "would you **** josh?" and she ...
A. 13 May 2012: First impressions mean something. Even in your teen years. So yes, if you throw a angsty vibe off, they might not take the time to actually talk to you and to get to know you. Nothing wrong in being a quiet person, but that might not be how others ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex go above and beyond to get my attention and then just hours later shove it in my face that he's seeing someone else?
Q. So I had to work with my ex on a project. We weren't on the best of terms before this project, but we were really nice to each other. But from his end, it was more than just being amicable. He went out of his way to be around me and talk to me as ...
A. 11 May 2012: Sounds to me that 1. he didn't want to flub up the shared project and 2. he wanted YOU to know what a "great" guy you let go.
Keep remembering why you broke up and try and be happy for him, even if he is acting a tad petty.... (read in full...)
Why did this girl say she would never go out with me? Is it because I'm ugly?
Q. Today at lunch I was hanging out with my two friends, their girlfriends, and their girlfriend's friends. Well my friend Alex asked this girl something that I overheard, it was either "Would you go out with josh?" or "would you **** josh?" and she ...
A. 11 May 2012: Maybe you are just not her type. Or maybe that lonely, depressed vibe you "throw off"?
I wouldn't sweat it, there are plenty of other girls out there. So this one was a no-go.. don't give up that easily.... (read in full...)
When married and inlaws live with us should I be paying half of the rent?
Q. Should I be paying 50% of the rent if my husbands daughter and son and his brother witch are all grown except the baby living here? I recently told him he is to pay the entire rent himself and not look for nothing from me since they do not ...
A. 11 May 2012: If there are 5 adults in the house split it 5 ways. 20% each.
It sounds to me like you are not liking sharing a house with your in laws and certainly don't think it's fair you should help pay for the costs. ( I wouldn't want to PAY to have my ... (read in full...)
I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 11 May 2012: Good luck I hope it turns out better then you expect.... (read in full...)
Best friend hitting on my g/f. Now that she's told me she doesn't want me to confront him
Q. Hi Guys,i am 24 years old and my girlfriend she is 22. My girlfriend of 3 years told me that my best friend lets call him J(who is also a very close friend to my girlfriend,the 3 of us have been friends since we were kids) has been hitting on her,b...
A. 10 May 2012: Your GF already confronted him, it's a done deal.
She just did what any GF worth a darn would do, she let you know what had been going on. NOT to make you feel like you needed polish your armor and charge the friend, but because she felt you shou... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 10 May 2012: I'm glad you figured out what you want for yourself and that he isn't it.
Good luck! You deserve better!... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend disrespectful and controlling?
Q. Do you think my boyfriend is disrespectful and controlling ?. He is much older than me. Yesterday, when i was at his house, he was angry and he said " you act like a teenage autistic girl ". I have never been diagnosed with autism, so i don't know ...
A. 10 May 2012: He sounds a bit rude and not very good at communicating, honestly. I'm guessing it could have something to do with his bipolar.
As for the whole needed to be chauffeured around, I find ODD for someone your age. I do agree with your BF on that. It... (read in full...)
What kind of porn do straight girls watch?
Q. What kind of porn do straight girls watch? And how often do they do it?...
A. 10 May 2012: I don't watch porn. ... (read in full...)
How to word a wedding invite so it doesn't sound tacky?
Q. I am the MOH for my friends wedding. This will be her second wedding and his first wedding. They both live in separate apartments. He has the typical bachelor pad with barely nothing. She is a little better off, but could really use some new things, ...
A. 10 May 2012: I honestly wouldn't worry too much. People who are invited to a wedding know that "it's expected" to give a gift and the usual etiquette is to call/text/e-mail MOH or the Bride's mother and as for the registry/gift life. And then you can send them a ... (read in full...)
Mother's snoring fiance is driving me crazy! I'm scared I'm going to snap!
Q. I'm a 21 year old fresh out of college female living with her mother. My moms fiancee lives with us. There's big issues going on in the house and frankly, I could care less for the guy (I don't really know him, we don't talk, we never have. I've ...
A. 10 May 2012: I am with So_Very _Confused - Earplugs. At least so you can get some sleep.
But I don't think you are wrong for the feelings you are having.
Though it IS your MOM's house.
I see that moving out isn't an option, so I think you best bet is to... (read in full...)
My friends and family always seem to call me when I'm with my boyfriend! Is it rude to tell them not to call me when I'm away with him this weekend?
Q. It seems like everytime I hangout with my boyfriend my friends and family all seem to call and text me. Sometimes it is just a weird coincidence. My one friend likes to call me a lot. I plan on staying with my boyfriend this weekend. My question is, ...
A. 9 May 2012: How hard it is to tell them your phone will be off for the week-end? They can leave you a message.
I don't know why people think they need to have their phone scratched to them. LIVE a little.... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: Honey, she's 40, not dead. If she can pull of a bikini she ought to, with or without your permission.
Have a great time in Hawaii and get over yourself and your hang up about "old" people and what they wear.
Have some love and respect for... (read in full...)
He chased me for ages, I went out then he stands me up and doesn't return calls??
Q. Im completely puzzled by this guy. We met a couple of months back swapped numbers etc but I wasnt too interested. But he bombards me with texts and I finally agree to meet him for a date. The date went fine apart from one little hitch......when I ...
A. 9 May 2012: I would avoid him like the plague. Seems like he likes the chase more then the girl (you) ?
Maybe he friend really did get hurt, but I'd still step away from this guy. He just comes of as iffy (from what you write).... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: You had your hormone levels checked? A low level of testosterone usually mean a low level of libido.
Thyroid problems can also lower the ability to get an erection.... (read in full...)
I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 7 May 2012: I would just tell him that the invitation is for him only. That you want to see your dad, but that you don't want to see Cheryl and your half-sibling.
Now, he might not like that idea at all and tell you it's either his whole family or none, an... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 22 June 2011: Seems to me you are are being "used". It it's convinient for him.
As for not answering the phone/texts.. *shrug* he may be one of those people that just don't text a whole lot.
No Christmas gift? WTH!?
And no DATE? in over a year? Sorry, I... (read in full...)
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