He doesn't think of me when he mastubates!
Q. Hi all, I have a problem some people may find strange, my boyfriend said he thinks about me when he masturbates but only sometimes, he then went onto say he thinks about me when sitting at his desk or playing a quiz and to him that's more important ...
A. 15 June 2012: I have never asked my hubby what he thinks of when he masturbate. That is between him and his right hand.
I can tell you this, I certainly don't always think of my hubby either. It's called having a fantasy and using one's imagination.
I would... (read in full...)
When she was a teenager, why did my wife walk around the house topless in front of her parents?
Q. Thank you all in advance for your thoughts. My wife and I have been working hard on our relationship over the past several months. If you have read my prior two post you will have a pretty good understanding of things. Basically tonight my wife...
A. 15 June 2012: Why didn't her parents say anything? Why should they? She didn't do it for sexual reasons, it was most likely part of her experimenting with her own modesty, feeling secure in her skin and most likely a little rebellion against her parents. Learning ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend masturbating in bed, says he was sleeping, but his stories contradict. Why is he lying?
Q. So, I woke up again this morning to my boyfriend masturbating in bed next to me. It's happened many times before (he thinks I'm asleep), and he's even finished himself (I found the mess) a few times. I don't usually say anything because the first ...
A. 15 June 2012:
I think he is trying to be a gentleman and do it himself before you wake up, maybe you aren't a "morning wood" kinda girl?
If you rather he wakes you up and have sex with you instead of his right hand let him know.
Personally, I don... (read in full...)
Its hard for me to get in the mood when I don't see my husband that often
Q. My husband is a workaholic. I don't mind, because I am a competitive equestrian and I have my own life. In the rare times when we see each other all he wants to do is have sex, but I have a hard time getting arroused, because I haven't been around ...
A. 15 June 2012: LOTS and lots of foreplay. Maybe some sexy emails? Maybe some romantic overnights?
... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with a fwb, now what?
Q. Hi everyone I know this is a common question but I really need help I have fallen completely in love with my fwb who said he didn't want a relationship which I thought I would be fine with he has just moved and I am absolutaly gutted have any of you ...
A. 15 June 2012: Well you have two choices, tell him or do not tell him. Either way, there is no way to ensure you get the answer or result you are looking for.
Honestly, I think you ought to break it off with him. Find a guy who wants BOTH a relationship and sex.... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 15 June 2012: Wha? No, honey!! My good friend Mike has 8 kids and smoke 2 packs of cigarettes a day...My husband is the father of 5, he smokes quite a bit too. Trust me.. smoking doesn't mean the doesn't have any little swimmers!!
Honey, if you don't know mor... (read in full...)
My b/f has been posting naked pics of himself and interacting with other gay men but I cant even tell him I know this because I snooped into his phone and discovered this!
Q. Hello everyone, I am stuck in a desperate situation with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years on and off but we have been stable for the last 8months and there months ago he moved in with me. we have always have issues with me ...
A. 15 June 2012: Tell him. He is obviously interested in dating men, not you.
As for the snooping, it's never a good thing to invade a partners privacy, you are bound to find something. And these things you can't UN-SEE. So you NEED to fess up and talk to him.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes bigger women and I'm afraid he'll leave me if I lose weight
Q. I've always been a bigger person, I've come to terms with the fact that I'll never be skinny, but I really want to at least be in a healthy weight... I absolutely hate my body and the one saving grace is that my boyfriend really likes bigger wom...
A. 15 June 2012: I think you should do what makes YOU happy. If being a little lighter is 1. MORE healthy 2. WHAT you want then I would go for it.
I can't imagine he would love you any less for losing weight if it means you gain some self-confidence.
Unless ... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that there is a difference between an accident and an intentional reaction?
Q. I accidently kicked my husband in the groin (he was standing behind me) as I was explaining to my older son that it was unacceptable to constantly thump my younger son. My husband suddenly ran and lunged at me with his thick MBT shoes on and kick...
A. 15 June 2012: So if I accidentally dropped a pot on my husband's toe it would be OK for my husband to hit me? Is that your husband's logic? If so, it's utterly flawed.
He sounds like a first class A-hole and honestly it would worry me what your son might le... (read in full...)
2 times tried to have sex, 2 times failed. Is it the condom?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I are both virgins and we've been together about 4 months. We've tried to have sex twice now, and had the following problems. We are using condoms by the way. 1. He can't stay hard. I've given him handjobs before without t...
A. 14 June 2012: I think he is just nervous. And I agree with Cerberus, stay away from oil based lubes.
Maybe just start out with getting each other off by old fashioned hand jobs? Oral? You two will eventually make the penetration work.... (read in full...)
My ex is already in a new relationship a few weeks after we broke up! We were together 4.5 years! Rebound? What is this?
Q. We were together 4.5 years, he loved me so much and even wanted to marry me. I broke up with him at uni due to lies on his part and the fact we were always arguing. He always said he couldn't live without me, would never let me go, etc. But he ...
A. 14 June 2012: I'm guessing he's been detaching himself from your relationship for a lot longer then you were aware of.. and it sucks.
Could also be that he is doing the rebound thing. Jumping into a relationship as fast as possible to try and dull the hurt. Ei... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 14 June 2012: I'd advice you to go real slow.
Do you know his first and last name? As in, could you look him up in let's say the white pages?... (read in full...)
The feelings are coming back. Should I get back with my ex?
Q. A few weeks ago i broke up with my girlfriend cause i didn't think i felt the same way about her as i did when we starting seeing each other. I thought it was the right decision, but now we are talking again and the feelings for her are coming back ...
A. 14 June 2012: Why not just hang out and take it slow? There is no hurry in being in relationships..... (read in full...)
How to find a balance in a new relationship?
Q. I was texting this guy for a couple of months and then we had our first date. Our second date involved amazing sex and since then he has been in touch alot. He was going a bit distant though so I asked him what was going on. He said he does like me ...
A. 14 June 2012: I would be honest with him. Tell him how you feel.
Go slow. Take the sex of the table for now if neither of you want the whole Fuck-buddy scenario. See where it takes you.
... (read in full...)
How do I get past caring for my ex?
Q. Hi me and my ex has been split for 7 n half months. I left him due tks his drinking problems basically i just had enough of the lies and bein let down all time. We have a daughter together and i have started dating. Thing is i still care about my ...
A. 14 June 2012: Some people will always hold a piece of you heart, whether you want them to or not. Since you two share a child he might be one of "those" people.
You need to realize that YOU did the right thing in leaving him. The right thing for YOU and the ... (read in full...)
What makes girls like bastards?
Q. im a smart and honest guy about to be a sophmore:) But it seems like girls go after the asshole dumbass guys? im an average looking guy i wear collared shirts everyday because i like to have class. what makes girls like bastards?...
A. 14 June 2012: I don't think there is a golden rule that girls like bastards.
However, I HAVE met quite a few bastards in my life, some of my best male friends were in that category and they no problem getting girls interested in them. Why? Because they were als... (read in full...)
Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: You DO need to talk to her. And do it NOW not after marriage. Something else is going on.
Wouldn't you rather know NOW what's up then wait til after you are married?
You can't walk around on eggshells in fear that she might dump you. That i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too clingy!! Help!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months or so now. During the school year he was fine until summer break was right around the corner. He became really clingy texting all the time and gushing about how much he loved and cared about me. Its ...
A. 14 June 2012: Next time you are able to met up (face-to-face) tell him that it's nice to feel loved and that you DO know he really likes you, but tell him that he doesn't need to tell constantly. Tell him gently how you feel (like you expressed on here that you ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to crawl back?
Q. im so sorry this is so long! id appreciate anyone who takes the time to read through it and advise :) me and my ex broke up around 3 weeks ago due to external reasons- work hours and other commitments etc. it was his decision to break up as we h...
A. 14 June 2012: You words and your actions are so confusing. You say one thing, then do another, then lash out when he doesn't read your mind and do whatever it is you REALLY want.
And I agree CRAWL back is not a nice term. Maybe he wanted to give you space to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend snaps at me for stuff other people do?
Q. well ive been dating my boyfriend for about 4months now and he snaps at me alot. like one time i was messing with him and he snapped at me than apologized. he said sorry but his friend was getting on his nerves. i forgave him but he did it again. it ...
A. 14 June 2012: Walk away. If you have already explained to him that you don't like him snapping at you for no good reason (and him being mad at friends is NOT a good reason to snap at YOU).
If you "just" keep forgiving it he will keep doing it.
And if he sti... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my abusive ex or see what happens with the new guy?
Q. I was with a guy for about two years and it was going well for the first five months until he started to get very controlling and abusive. I thought he'd just come to a strange point in his life and he'd stop because I'm stupid like that so I stayed ...
A. 14 June 2012: Why would you WANT to go back to your abusive ex? AT ALL?
IT IS OK to be single for a while!
If the new guy becomes too controlling I hope you walk away. And take a good hard look at the men you seem to fall for. Unfortunately abusive men don'... (read in full...)
Two guys have asked me out but I don't want to be with anyone because previous boyfriends cheated on me!
Q. Why does this keep happening to me? Is it normal? So I've had 5 boyfriends and I loved them all and gave them my all cause I'm just like that. My previous ex was my first love. Ive never felt that way about anyone else before. We were f...
A. 14 June 2012: Don't date til you feel ready.
If you don't feel ready, it's quite OK to give dating a break. Being single is OK.
Facts are that sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you are able to distinguish a "frog" from a good guy.
Have yo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signed up on dating sites
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend is signed up for a few dating site and signed up recently. I know from our past he's just gonna say it was for point for some game he's playing but am I the only one that thinks is disrespectful and sneaky? This is ...
A. 14 June 2012: I agree with Auntie Em. If he is on DATING sites, he is looking to see what's out there. Which means he isn't happy with what he got (you) and think he can do better.
Dating sites and hook up sites are not for shits and grins. They are made for... (read in full...)
Ex back w his ex. Do I interfere or take revenge ?
Q. My now ex-boyfriend broke my heart. Twice. And now I'm feeling the need for revenge. Basically we dated a year and a half total - there was a break in between when I caught him in an online affair. But I gave him a second chance only to have him...
A. 14 June 2012:
We have a saying where I'm from. (translated to English it goes like this) Peeing your pants in the winter frost may make you feel warm for a second or 5 but after that all you are left with are wet pants and regret.
Same goes for revenge.In t... (read in full...)
Have you ever said "I'll love you forever" and then changed your mind?
Q. Hi this is a question going out to all you ladies out there Just wondering if you have ever said ' i love you forever' or ' i want to be with you forever ' or ' i will always be your girl ' to someone you have been in love with? andddd wait for ...
A. 14 June 2012: I think she means it when she says it. Because she WANTS to believe it and she wants you the believe it too.
I think forever is a very long time. And I don't really think that anyone can promise to love someone forever. However, some people w... (read in full...)
What do European guys think about pubic hair?
Q. Hello, I am 23 years old and I don't like having hair down there so I usually remove all of it via a hair removal cream if I am going to be with a guy. However, I am seeing a guy from Spain and I heard that they don't mind pubic hair, in face some ...
A. 14 June 2012: I agree with Cindy!
Europeans are a lot braver and less grooming crazy. Usually most girls will remove the hair that might poke out of a bikini and maybe a little more, but having pubic hairs is considered normal.
If YOU prefer to be nude, then... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 13 June 2012: Hmm, if you are just meeting him for coffee (and not sex) I would just pay attention to him. Just be cautious. And honest.
It does seem like he could be married or attached.
Do you know where he lives? Where he works? Does he have a home phon... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 13 June 2012: Because he is an asshat?... (read in full...)
When is it too late for true love?
Q. At what age do you think its too late for true love? ...
A. 13 June 2012: I agree 100% with So_Very_Confused
when you are dead.
Love is love is love. At any age.... (read in full...)
Do I meet up with my old flame? My husband has cheated on me repeatedly but I've never cheated on him
Q. I have been married for 18 yrs now. My husband has cheated on me more than 10 times (3 times with a family member, but I only count her as 1).He has not cheated the past 6 years. As you can imagine I have very little self asteem left. A couple of ...
A. 13 June 2012: Two wrongs don't make a right.
... (read in full...)
Why won't he show he loves me in public?
Q. We've been together for 3 months now, and when we're alone, he always kisses me, and hugs me, cuddles me, and tells me he loves me. But when we're out and about, he doesn't do any of that - he'll only hold my hand when I hold his first, and he ...
A. 13 June 2012: PDA (public displays of affection)doesn't mean you LOVE someone more.
Not everyone wants to "share" that with the world. They want to save it for when they are in private. And it might be a BIG thing for him to even hold your hand.
He migh... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 13 June 2012: Wow, STOP talking to this guy, he doesn't care about you at all. ANY ASSHOLE would do for him.
The fact that he asks you to do stuff that you do not even want to do, enjoy doing or want to do again is a MAJOR red flag. It's CALLED being controll... (read in full...)
I'm over my ex but he now wants to "catch up". Should I?
Q. dear cupid and readers , my ex boyfriend messaged me that he missed me and how we should catch up. Should i.?? Our Realationship didnt work out he had jeleousy issues. So ive managed to push him away for a whole year, and being single at first ...
A. 13 June 2012: I wouldn't "catch up" with him. I don't see the point. It was a hard break up for you, and you are now feeling over him. The thing is, meeting up with someone you used to care for a lot can rip up in the emotions.
Also if you do met up you migh... (read in full...)
How often do you phone your partner?
Q. how often do you call your partner? looking for answers from people who are in: 1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother) 2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's) 3 and live in relationships (living together) ...
A. 13 June 2012: 3. we live together and have for a good 14 years.
I call him, if I need him to stop by the store on his way home, to let him know if I'm going to be out and about. Some days I don't call him at all. Right now he has rather a ridiculous work sch... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed to be seen with or he doesn't love me?
Q. Iv been dating a guy for about three months now, everything is going on well but the problem is he does things with me secretly, it baffles but iv notice he does things with other girls publicly. Is he ashamed to be seen with or he doesn't love me? ...
A. 13 June 2012: You said:" iv notice he does things with other girls publicly"
What did you mean? Before you two saw each other or while you two are seeing each other? And exactly WHAT things is he doing to other girls?
If he can't take you out or be seen w... (read in full...)
Would someone who is simply a friend invite me over like this? Is there more here?
Q. Hi all, it's been many years since i've been back on this site and i've grown a lot since then. I'm currently 22, turning 23. I used to write a lot about one girl like 6 yrs ago.... whom i was very nervous around.... well 6 yrs of online chatting ...
A. 13 June 2012: I would go there with the outlook of spending time with a friend. That way you won't be too disappointed if she doesn't want sex or a relationship.
Just take it slow. She sounds like a girl who is a tad social awkward and inexperienced. She migh... (read in full...)
I've fallen for him but he's not ready for a relationship, just comes around for sex!
Q. Hi I was just wondering what I can do in this situation I met this man 16 months ago who wasn't really my type but I thought I would give it a go I said yes to a date he came round mine just for a drink as we lived very close we didn't sleep ...
A. 13 June 2012: Because you keep putting out he keeps coming around.
If a guy says up front that he isn't ready for a relationship, he is usually telling you the truth, but it also means that he doesn't mean he isn't ready for sex. So when you have sex with him... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 12 June 2012: Like I said, BMI it's just a guide line, not the pure truth :) I still suggest you go see your doctor. Because you are still growing any kind of food plan and work out plan should be according to YOU. Learning to stay fit the healthy way is a good ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I'm sorry he is being like this, you DO deserve better. He should at least have the balls to tell you that he wants someone closer or someone else.
And don't take everything to heart, the "aunties & uncles" here at DC can only go by what is writt... (read in full...)
Who should come first? my best girlfriend of 6 years wants to spend time with me when I'm with my new boyfriend.
Q. Who should come first, your Best Friend or your boyfriend? I love them both, but who should I dedicate most of my time to? My best friend and I have been friends for about 6 years. My boyfriend and I have only been together for about 6 months (Its ...
A. 12 June 2012: Exactly what janniepeg said! You should come first.
It is NOT uncommon for girls to "forget" their friends when they have a new love interest. But I would try my best to give BOTH of them time. YOU need to find a balance that works for you.
... (read in full...)
He's moving for better work opportunities, but we've been lovers and friends for 10 years!
Q. Hello I have a issue, I have had a very good friend and lover for ten years and I really love him! We have a great time together great conversation and everything. He lost his job and he has bee out of work for some time now. So now hes moving to ...
A. 12 June 2012: Since you two have been lovers for 10 years, didn't you talk about BOTH moving to Texas eventually?
... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 11 June 2012: I think he realized that what you have is more of a fantasy (sorry) then an actual relationship. NOT that i think it didn't feel real for you both.
The idea of a relationship like the one you have is admirable, but at some point the people i... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 11 June 2012: BMI is only a guideline. We are NOT all build the same way. And don't forget muscles DO weight more then fat.
Also, don't forget that there are different calculations for people and it goes by age. So don't totally freak. Make the reason you want... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 11 June 2012: My oldest daughter is tall. She stand at 5 foot 7 at 12 year old. Thankfully she is mostly comfortable with her body. Her two younger sisters are both "shorties" so at times I'm sure she feels the odd one out, but often they feel just "short". Being ... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
