What was she thinking when she decided to vanished on me?
Q. I'm in the military and stationed overseas. I'm separated and the wife decided to leave and go back to the states. I ended up seeing this woman and we clicked and we really enjoyed each other's company not just sex. She knew that I was separated ...
A. 17 June 2012: I would send one one last e-mail. Let her know it's the last one and that after that you will respect her wishes. Then let her go.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 12 June 2012: Like I said, BMI it's just a guide line, not the pure truth :) I still suggest you go see your doctor. Because you are still growing any kind of food plan and work out plan should be according to YOU. Learning to stay fit the healthy way is a good ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I'm sorry he is being like this, you DO deserve better. He should at least have the balls to tell you that he wants someone closer or someone else.
And don't take everything to heart, the "aunties & uncles" here at DC can only go by what is writt... (read in full...)
He's moving for better work opportunities, but we've been lovers and friends for 10 years!
Q. Hello I have a issue, I have had a very good friend and lover for ten years and I really love him! We have a great time together great conversation and everything. He lost his job and he has bee out of work for some time now. So now hes moving to ...
A. 12 June 2012: Since you two have been lovers for 10 years, didn't you talk about BOTH moving to Texas eventually?
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Was my ex testing the water for us to get back together or laughing because she knows I still care?
Q. Ok so I dated my last Girlfriend for about 8 months. She ended things out of the blue because she wanted to go to school across the country, long story short she's back here now and wants to be friends. She asked me to come eat with her a few times ...
A. 12 June 2012: I do think she was testing the waters. Maybe not yours though, but her own. She wanted to know if she is over you or not.
And I don't think she did it to laugh at you.
I think she might not have as strong feelings as you do or she is not sure ... (read in full...)
We only ever had flings, so why the need to justify himself about the other girl?
Q. I have liked the same guy for about 4 years now, we have never dated or anything like that, however have had flings on nights out when we are both drunk. He's always very suggestive and every single time we're at the same party we will always kiss. ...
A. 12 June 2012: I think your best bet is to talk to him face to face. If you are interested in dating him, let him know? Maybe not :"I want you to be my BF!" but let him know that you kinda like him and would like to get to know him better.
DO NOT sleep with him... (read in full...)
Out of lonliness and desperation I hooked up with a transvestite and now I feel sick
Q. I'm in a huge dilema. I'm having a rough time dealing with being alone all the time. Ever since school let out for the summer, I don't see a lot of my friends as much as I use to (I live on campus, while most of my friends live off-campus). My ...
A. 12 June 2012: It's called curiosity. Sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn new things. Maybe for you, it is to STOP looking for any random HOLE to hook up with in order to feel less lonely.
Accept that you have limits and stick to what you feel/bel... (read in full...)
I asked him out over facebook messaging 3 days ago and he hasn't replied! Why?
Q. So I'm sad and confused right now. A little less than two years ago, i started to have a crush on a guy in my class, "Sam". Sam had a girlfriend, a really pretty one, but he would look at me sometimes during class, and if i would look at him, he ...
A. 11 June 2012: Does he still have a GF? If so, why ask him out?
Also, if you really want to get to know him (IF he is now single) why do it over Facebook? Why not talk to him in school?
Also, MAYBE he just doesn't get on every day on FB?
... (read in full...)
Why is sex such a problem for me?
Q. I tried having sex for the first time two years ago, however the guy couldn't seem to fit it in and gave up. A year later I tried again with someone else and the same thing happened, we had done a lot of foreplay first and when then when it came to ...
A. 11 June 2012: Are you totally tense when he is trying to get inside you? I think it could be that you and whomever you are having sex with need to take it SLOWER.
And (even if it is ultra hard) you need to try and relax more.
It may not be easy the first f... (read in full...)
Is this more than a sex buddy?
Q. I have a sex buddy , im always understanding torwards him i dont want him to think im so demanding or clingy so i play it off there are times when i get jeleous and show it like last week we were in the pools and my friend slashed water at him so i ...
A. 11 June 2012: You have a FWB and that is it. He can't even MAN up and tell his buddy (your brother) that he is having sex with you. So if he is hiding THAT, he is hiding YOU.
So if all you want from him is sex.. there you go.
If you want more, sorry I do... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 11 June 2012: I think he realized that what you have is more of a fantasy (sorry) then an actual relationship. NOT that i think it didn't feel real for you both.
The idea of a relationship like the one you have is admirable, but at some point the people i... (read in full...)
After seeing her ex, she called me his name during sex and now I'm very upset
Q. Ok... hopefully i can get some good advice on this and not people making fun. I have been seeing the most lovely girl for the past few months. Before she was with me, she was in a 4 year relationship with the most awful guy - he hit her, put her...
A. 11 June 2012: Oh how tacky!
I do believe her apology. I don't think she was thinking of him in a sexual way while having sex with you. But I still wouldn't be happy about it either.
The thing is, she was with him for 4 year and with you for a couple of mont... (read in full...)
What was she thinking when she decided to vanished on me?
Q. I'm in the military and stationed overseas. I'm separated and the wife decided to leave and go back to the states. I ended up seeing this woman and we clicked and we really enjoyed each other's company not just sex. She knew that I was separated ...
A. 11 June 2012: Because you are still married.
I would back off. I would focus on ending ONE relationship (aka get that divorce) before jumping into another.
Maybe she thought you would be a "free" man faster. Maybe she is getting slack from people because y... (read in full...)
Has he really moved on after 4.5 years?
Q. I'm 21 and my ex is 24. We were together for 4 and a half years since I was 17. We broke up 2 months ago because he kept lying to me and I was so hurt I ended it while I was at university; I was so angry and upset. At first he text me saying he ...
A. 11 June 2012: I think he's been trying to detach himself from you and the relationship for a long time. And he does it with his "woe is me" attitude so that you FEEL bad for him, instead of yourself.
Honey, he IS moving on. With another girl. One who is "righ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to hate my best friend! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a big problem and I have no idea as to how I should deal with it. The problem is my best friend. Let’s call her “Madison”. Madison and I have been friends for some time now about 5 years maybe, but we’ve been best friend s...
A. 11 June 2012: Seems to me that you two have grown apart. It happens. Even with formerly good friendships.
Don't forget who you are at 16 (let's say) and who you are at 22 are two very different people (hopefully, at least) but in your case YOU grew/mat... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!
Q. Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...
A. 11 June 2012: You need to stop faking. Or you will continue to get piss poor sex and it's your own fault.
Find out what gets you off. That mean some ALONE time with your body.
How can you say he is lacking? You are faking it, so he think he is doing it righ... (read in full...)
I wanted to join him on this work trip. Am I wrong for feeling betrayed by this man?
Q. My boyfriend and sons father was offered an all expense trip, job related to one of my favorite cities in the country. Naturally I wanted to meet him there with our son, for a family vacation (after he was done with his job everyday). Our son and ...
A. 11 June 2012: I don't blame your husband. He is going on a work trip which means being professional, not having drama between his wife and some colleague that the WIFE thinks he "might/could/would/perhaps" had a fling with.
I do think you and your husband ... (read in full...)
He signed up to Adult Friendfinder and I am so hurt...what should I do?
Q. Help. I have been with my bf three years and a couple of weeks ago he signed up to an adult friendfinder! Even though he did not upload a pic or email any women (i checked) it has really upset me. When i had a go at him he said I always accuse him ...
A. 11 June 2012: I don't think you are paranoid. After all HE DID sign up to this website. Yet, he is putting the blame on you, like YOU made him sign up. You didn't.
Why did he sign up?, ask him honestly.
You don't sign up to adultfriendfinder for shits and gr... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 11 June 2012: BMI is only a guideline. We are NOT all build the same way. And don't forget muscles DO weight more then fat.
Also, don't forget that there are different calculations for people and it goes by age. So don't totally freak. Make the reason you want... (read in full...)
My marriage is on the rocks. Why didn't my Bf say we are seeing each other or dating?
Q. Dear cupid i am separated from my husband ( he is ^^^^ and i hate him). I am seeing one of my office colleague, we were friends and then got attached. Me getting separated from my husband have nothing to do with my bf. my husband is impote...
A. 11 June 2012: I think he said it TO defend you. And to get people to MIND their own business.
YOU are still married and that is what people JUDGE.
ALSO if it is against OFFICE POLICY to date he might want to make SURE you both still have a job.
Cut him ... (read in full...)
None of the men I meet stick around!
Q. Hi I would be really grateful for any answers to this I am a single parent to a little girl who is 4 I have no problem meeting men but they do not stick around here's some background info met a man fell pregnant after a year (my daughters father) ...
A. 11 June 2012: Take the time to get to know a guy before you have sex. That means MONTHS. You have a child so it's even more important that he is a guy who YOU would WANT around your child.
FWB, sorry, bad idea over all. Specially if you are looking for a long t... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 11 June 2012: I agree with sarcy24 when she said :
" You need to be as equally blunt back whether it is in your nature or not."
I would also tell him that he needs to figure out NOW if he wants to pursue the other girl or not, because you have no intentio... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're overweight?
Q. so um...how do you know if you're overweight? every time i go to school i feel like i'm so much bigger that everyone...i am fairly tall to so i always feel like a gigantic freak...none of my friends understand...is there a diet program someone ...
A. 11 June 2012: My oldest daughter is tall. She stand at 5 foot 7 at 12 year old. Thankfully she is mostly comfortable with her body. Her two younger sisters are both "shorties" so at times I'm sure she feels the odd one out, but often they feel just "short". Being ... (read in full...)
I think he is being selfish and childish by not considering me!
Q. So, the other night my boyfriend and I broke up after a serious fight. I've had troubles with depression my whole life and sometimes they would affect our relationship, due to my self insecurities, I would sometimes doubt him and our entire ...
A. 11 June 2012: I think if he grew up with a mother who was suffering from severe depression and even tried to self harm twice, it might be he just can't/won't walk down that road. He lived it already. Specially if he has a lot of stress with school and money. We ... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with women just for the sex?
Q. Will men really sleep with a girl if they don't fancy them? Not talking about beer goggles time when drunk. Stone cold sober, pre meditated chatting someone up in the expectation of having sex?...
A. 10 June 2012: Sure, some do. Some woman do the same thing. ... (read in full...)
It's only on nights out when we drink we confess we love each other. Do drunken thoughts speak sober minds?
Q. I think I may be falling for my best friend (P) I have never felt like this about anyone. I'm scared of how I feel even P has said he is. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. P let me know about my ex cheating on me twice. But my ex denied...
A. 10 June 2012: Talk to him sober.... (read in full...)
How can I tell my husband that he's way too rough during sex?
Q. so this is a little bit emberrasing..but about a month ago i was allowed to have a congical visit (when prisoner and usually the wife get to stay in private housing on prison grounds) with my husband.he's been in prison for 4 years. he just got out ...
A. 10 June 2012: Be honest, tell him to slow down. He can't BANG out all 4 years in a few strokes and that your vagina isn't the reason he went to prison so please stop punishing it!... (read in full...)
I sometimes wish I could act out my sexual fantasies!
Q. I'm basically a "good girl"...always have been, but sometimes I wish I was a slut. I see so many of my friends randomly hook up with guys, have threesomes, have one night stands and all this other stuff and they seem like they're really living life ...
A. 10 June 2012: Having less then "good girl" fantasies is quite normal. But I will agree with both CaringGuy and Cerberus, find someone you can TRUST and do some role-playing. It can be quite fun. There is NOTHING wrong in preferring monogamy.
Taking some ran... (read in full...)
My friends comment on this, so is there a solution or a medical procedure to fix the fact that I am cross eyed at times?
Q. I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who is experiencing the same problem as I am. You see, I'm kind of cross eyed. Kinda as in I can actually appear normal when I concentrate, but when I'm not focusing, that's when people can see that I am ...
A. 10 June 2012:
The crossed eye in medical term is called strabismus caused by imbalance eye muscle. Botox injection has been used to treat this condition as it helps to relax the muscle in your eyes, returning it back into it's normal position.
http://ww... (read in full...)
I'm truly smitten but he wants to keep it a casual relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 41 and just came out of a 20+ year marriage. Met a guy online, met in real life, 'clicked' physically and (for me at least) emotionally. But he hasn't. THe sex is incredible - first person I have orgasmed with ever - and I am utterly smit...
A. 10 June 2012: If you want to get to know this guy and want him to get to know you, DO NOT have sex again. Doing the FWB is NOT for someone like you. You don't have casual sex I'm betting. When you have sex you mean something with it. You add emotions.
I thi... (read in full...)
We met 2 weeks ago and he said "I love you" 5 days ago, I told him I just wanted to take it slow. Now he hasn't called in 2 days!
Q. I've met this new guy 2 weeks ago, he's an amazing guy, everything about him is great, we have so many things in common. He said "I love you" about 5 days ago, and i didn't respond to that, i just told him that we should take things slow and that i ...
A. 8 June 2012: Sounds a lot more like lust then love, which isn't so strange. But I would be weary of a guy who tosses out " I love You's" so freely.
And I think you got a HUGE dose of attention, which you were sorely wanting.
I think he is playing games wi... (read in full...)
Would you date a guy that's 14 years old if you are 17 years old?
Q. Hey everyone... I just wanna ask this question. Would you date a guy that's 14 year old but he's almost 15 and you are 17 year old? And he's also in the 7th grade and you are in the 11th grade in school. Thanks, I'm just asking....
A. 8 June 2012: Personally, I wouldn't.
A 17 year old GIRL ought to be FAR more mature then a 14 year old BOY.
Not only are you 3 years older (and at this stage in life 3 years can be a lot) but you are also 4 years ahead of him in school. ?It just doesn't see... (read in full...)
Thoughts of being sexual with someone scares me.
Q. From what I can tell, my problem is me. I'm a twenty-one year old virgin, who is terrified of not only relationships, but sex in general. If I ever think about sex, I get uncomfortable thoughts and feel odd. As if the thought of being intimate with ...
A. 8 June 2012: Then just go slow. There is no real hurry.... (read in full...)
He says the cheating was a wake up call but now I'm scared he will do it again.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend Stuart for 5 months but recently we had a few problems. A couple of weeks ago a girl named katie added me on facebook, she is in my sisters year and I've heard she has a reputation and that she sleeps around. I was ...
A. 8 June 2012: I'm so sorry. The reason he didn't want to to add Katie was because he was scared of getting caught. He tells you that Katie ruins relationships.. but SHE didn't your BF did by being unfaithful.
Honestly I have more faith in Katie telling the trut... (read in full...)
B/f has domestic charges and child endagerment against him. Should I be concerned?
Q. I have a new boyfriend that I have been dating for a few months now. He's really nice to me and treats me well. He recently told me that he has a domestic violence conviction. He tells me it was a male roommate who he got into a fight with. After he ...
A. 8 June 2012: I know judging someone for their past can be wrong, but personally, I believe in better safe then sorry.
So what was the child endangerment for? He could have been charged and the mother of the child dropped the charge.... Yea, iffy to say the ... (read in full...)
Guy with girlfriend keeps trying to string me along!!! I am nobody's puppet!!
Q. HELP!!!! This guy friend has a girlfriend. BUT he keeps trying to string me along!!! I told him I have feelings for him. He told me he has a girlfriend. So that should be the end of it, right? NO!!!! He just keeps giving me hope and then he...
A. 8 June 2012: Stop talking to him. Stop being around him. Drop him like it's hot!
He is a WASTE of time.... (read in full...)
I called her and told her I was done with this 'crush' on her. Opinions?
Q. Ok recently I realised that I'm in love with a friend I've been crazy about for months... The problem though, is that we're not together and that kills me... She claims to be crazy about me too... I mean before our first date she told me she wan...
A. 7 June 2012: Give her and yourself some space. If she REALLY liked you the way that you like her, I don't think she would have pulled away.
That is the risk you take when going from friends to maybe a couple. You risk losing that friend.. and gf/bf.
I'm sor... (read in full...)
Should I send him this text telling him I like him?
Q. Hey guys! So this isn't really a problem, I just need some advice. I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. It was apparent that he liked me. He kept saying he missed me, called me babe a lot, asked me to send him pics of me, etc. one day he ...
A. 7 June 2012: Who not ask him out? TRY and go on a date/outing. I think conducting a courtship/semi relationship via text is ridiculous. But, then again I'm old and old fashioned. I just don't believe you can really know a person though texting. And there is SUCH ... (read in full...)
I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him.
Q. Basically I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him. I am 26 (he is 24 so maybe it's because he's younger?) ...
A. 7 June 2012: Well I think he is 1. taking you for granted and 2. wanting to be single. Because he SURELY acts like a single guy.
I see nothing wrong with going on vacation with friends. But telling you he can't afford a vacation with you and then turn around a... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. I've been engaged for almost a year, getting married September 1st, my fiance and I have a great relationship. We fight like all couples do, but there is something wrong. I'm the female in the relationship, and I'm the one complaining about not ...
A. 7 June 2012: Good luck! And I hope he is considering seeing a doctor to get either the T patch or another form of testosterone replacement therapy.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15991940
I can tell you my husband went from 0% libido to 99% in a short t... (read in full...)
I cannot get over that my girlfriend had a guy bigger than me
Q. My girlfriend has a high sex drive, compared to other girls I have been with at least. She likes sex. Plain and simple. She told me that she had a one night stand with a "larger guy" one night when we were well, fooling around. She said it hurt, bu...
A. 7 June 2012: First of all you are ABOVE average in penis size. 6 inches is AVERAGE. But what you should TRY and focus on is not the size of her one night stand's cock, or the fact that it was the FIRST time she had good sex, but that YOU are WITH her, YOU can do ... (read in full...)
I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, and he hasn't contacted me since.
Q. sorry if this is long, but i really need some advice. my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago monday just gone. we had an argument on the sunday night because he was too tired to come over and i felt that due to having commitments with work and events ...
A. 7 June 2012: Honestly the poor guy work 18 hours day and you can't understand WHY he is too tired after that to deal with a GF who feels neglected?
I think he was being VERY honest when he said :" and couldnt give me what i wanted." He was right. You want a g... (read in full...)
In the six months since we have been dating he has never held my hand, let alone kissed me!
Q. Hi I really need advice. I have been dating a guy for 6 months and we haven't held hands or kissed or anything romantic yet. I am beginning to have doubts. He is 42 and I am a little bit younger. When I try to ask him about his previous jobs, ...
A. 7 June 2012: Do you have a LDR with him? DO you guys mainly talk on the phone or do you two go out on dates? Dinner, movies, walk in the park?
Do you know where he lives? Do you know where he works? Where did you meet him?
How often do you two see each oth... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for letting my 17 year old daughter sleep in the same bed as her male best friend?
Q. I let my daughter's male best friend sleep in her bed with her - am I a bad mother? My daughter and her best friend are 17 and I completely trust my daughter's trust in him. I know she wouldn't do anything because she's too insecure for anything ...
A. 7 June 2012: My best male friend slept over at 15-16 and 17 and we never had sex. We were friends not dating. We camped out in the garden in a tent together as well many times. We never shared a bed but the same bedroom (not that it really makes a difference ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. I've been engaged for almost a year, getting married September 1st, my fiance and I have a great relationship. We fight like all couples do, but there is something wrong. I'm the female in the relationship, and I'm the one complaining about not ...
A. 7 June 2012: I'm think he has a low sex drive (maybe even low T) and you have a normal sex-drive. The thing is, getting married won't change his sex drive.. or yours.
Is he stressed at work? That can lower the libido too.
I think he is being rather unf... (read in full...)
Thoughts of being sexual with someone scares me.
Q. From what I can tell, my problem is me. I'm a twenty-one year old virgin, who is terrified of not only relationships, but sex in general. If I ever think about sex, I get uncomfortable thoughts and feel odd. As if the thought of being intimate with ...
A. 3 June 2012: Yes, I think you are over-thinking it.
It can seem a bit daunting to have sex or be intimate with another person. That is why it's always a good idea to go slow. When you met a girl and you start dating, you start out with a kiss, a hug, a cuddle... (read in full...)
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