My fiance's ex wife got to sit with his family at the funeral, and wore her wedding ring that day! Am I right to be hurt by this?
Q. I don't know what to think of this and would like opinions. My fiance's father died in Jan. Both his ex-wife and I attended the funeral and we were both civil. I was a little hurt by the fact that his ex deposited herself squarely in the front row ...
A. 25 June 2012: I have to agree with the majority of the aunties. She had EVERY right to be there. They were married for 27 years and I'm BETTING that no matter how rotten the divorce was they had some really good years together as well.
Why she still had her ... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a good sign she is asking me first about giving her number to this guy?
Q. my gf has asked me if its alright to give a guy her number, because he asked for it, they want to discuss business and other things (educational and scientifically stuff),yes we are major geeks, anyway they have been talking for a few weeks ...
A. 25 June 2012: I think it's a little ODD (to put it mildly) that she felt like she HAD to ask you first. If this guy is someone she would be talking business with, why would she need YOUR permission to give him her number?
I think you need to chill and trust yo... (read in full...)
How do I handle him after our affair?
Q. Dear Cupid, Had a relationship with a married man who was sincere to his wife for 14 years. Never he had an affair to anyone till I came to his life. We both are Managers in one company. We became close and started this secret affair. He loves...
A. 25 June 2012: I don't think he will change either. I think he feels shame over what he did to his wife, but instead of owning up to his own actions (cheating with you) he is now BLAMING you for the affair.
Is there a possibility for you to work in a differen... (read in full...)
Marriage makes sense because of my military situation, but my parents won't approve
Q. Me and my girlfriend have a somewhat unique problem. We have been going out for roughly 8 months now, and dated a few years ago for about a month. We were good friends in between those years. I am in the military and we have been dealing with the ...
A. 25 June 2012: I know the military doesn't acknowledge girlfriend or fiancees, they do not exist so to speak, but honestly you CAN make it work around the Army (depending on your rank of course, since most bases don't allow E4 and below to live off post) but ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too dumb to pick up that I want sex?
Q. So im really annoyed at the fact that my bf rarely wants to have sex. Weve been together for 10 months and for like the first 6 months we were having sex multiple times a day and now its like maybe once a week. We dont really cuddle that much either ...
A. 24 June 2012: Obviously he isn't a mind-reader and obviously subtle hints don't work, why not try a more direct approach?
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Why do girls brush off my compliments?
Q. This Question is for girls. So girls you say you love compliments, but why is it that evertime i compliment a girl either while talking or texting they seem to brush it of like they don't care. I mean it's like i say a compliment about there ho...
A. 24 June 2012: Because most girls find it awkward. Doesn't mean they don't appreciate the compliment, some of the time. They just might not know how to react and why they are getting the compliment.
You said and I quote;"
but why is it that evertime i c... (read in full...)
Should I worry about what my coworker(s) hint to me about being slow?
Q. I've been a cashier at a very popular beverage place for about a month now. We're extremely busy and the line goes out the door. One of my coworkers whom I get along great with genuinely let me know that some coworkers have been complaining that I'm ...
A. 24 June 2012: Don't give up or give in. Keep at it and do you very best.
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Should I ditch her completely?
Q. I've been seeing a girl who has split from a guy who had been beating her, this has happened 4 times now, with increasing severity. We meet every now and again, but she blows hot and cold and never wants to meet when i suggest it, we only meet when ...
A. 24 June 2012: I have sympathy for her (who wouldn't ?), but I think you need to do what's right for you. If you do not feel SHE is right for you, then let her down gently.
Pretending to feel something or believing you should act in a certain manner to please o... (read in full...)
She said she'd sleep with me but now she's ignoring me
Q. this girl i kinda like confesed to a mate that she would sleep with me if i asked, he told me so i confronted her and basicly asked whats the deal why didnt u tell me, all that sorta stuff, n it got to the point where after a lot of flriting and ...
A. 23 June 2012: Let it go. Seems to me that she is either all talk, no action or not really interested in sleeping with a guy who only wants sex.
And I agree with Aiden, have a little more respect for girls around you. They are more then a hole in the mattress... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous when I dance salsa....
Q. So...7 months ago I started a long distance relationship with a man I met online. We talked on the phone for a month before meeting in person. We have a lot in common and he's very attractive. The problem is his jealousy. When we first started ...
A. 23 June 2012: My girlfriends and I used to go to a salsa club back home and it was a fun way to spend an evening. It wasn't about picking someone up, flirting or hitting on people. It was about dancing, crossing some barriers ( you really have to let yourself ... (read in full...)
What kind of exercises can I do in my room?
Q. Im not fat but i want to do some exercises in my room to prevent me from becoming fat. What kind of exercises can i do in my room? When i noticed i was becoming fat i started eating twice daily that is in the morning and in the evening but i want to ...
A. 23 June 2012: Eating less is not necessarily going to get you skinnier nor healthier. Eating too little can wreck your metabolism and make your body store fat. Something you don't want. And eating only twice a day may result in overeating at the meals you do ... (read in full...)
How can I get a bigger butt?
Q. Hi everyone. Im the slim type but my problem is i have a small butt, how can i get a bigger butt without applying any cream? What kind of exercises are suitable to get a bigger butt? Please your advice are welcome...
A. 23 June 2012: I'm not sure you will get a bigger butt this way but working the glutes:
Here are some that might inspire you.
http://exercise.about.com/od/butthipsthighs/tp/butt.htm
http://www.bodybuildi... (read in full...)
I feel great while masturbating but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is, what would my family think?
Q. Is masturbating wrong? Some people may say morally yes or no, I am a 23 year old female who loves sex but loves to masturbate. I feel great while doing so but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is what would my family think?...
A. 23 June 2012: It's not like you have a go at it on the family coffee table in front of everyone!
So stop beating yourself up, a little self pleasuring is harmless and actually a good thing in many ways, because you will KNOW exactly what you like sexually... (read in full...)
Should I leave her this message on Facebook?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice on how I need to approach this situation. There is this girl I am attracted to. She gave me her number a long time ago, but when I texted her, she didn't reply. After that, she never really talked to me quite as much as ...
A. 23 June 2012: No, do not write that. IF you do, you can be sure she will NOT reply.
Send her a private message, tell her who you are and where you two met, so she can put a "face" to the message, then ask if she want to go to the movies or something.... (read in full...)
He smokes weed, is jobless and homeless but there's no denying the sexual tension! What next?
Q. I kept seeing this guy who I thought was cute but he had sketchy lookin friends and im sure he is usually high. Today we some how started talking and i gave him my number, then he walked me to the train station. He told me that he smokes weed and i ...
A. 23 June 2012: I'm sorry he is homeless at such a young age, but I think it's a little too complicated for you at this time in your life.
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Should I ditch her completely?
Q. I've been seeing a girl who has split from a guy who had been beating her, this has happened 4 times now, with increasing severity. We meet every now and again, but she blows hot and cold and never wants to meet when i suggest it, we only meet when ...
A. 23 June 2012: Sounds to me that she is trying to have the "control" in this relationship because she had NONE is her last one. She might have gone a tad overboard. She may not know that she is doing this, but it is her way of testing you.
Is she still seeing... (read in full...)
I find it it weird and disgusting that my mom posted an old pic on Facebook, of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler!
Q. My mom posted an old pic of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler on facebook. What should i do? I logged in on facebook today and saw on my home page that my mom had uploaded that pic. The pic was not in her album but on some facebook pa...
A. 23 June 2012: First of all I breastfed all my 3 kids. And I see absolutely nothing disgusting about it. However, I have never felt a need to post pictures of it on the internet.
Is it because your MOM is breastfeeding or because it's YOU being fed?
PS, hon... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed to tell my mom and my G/f that I have trichotilomania, which is an impulse control disorder. How do I bring it up?
Q. I HAVE TRICHOTILOMANIA sorry for the caps, ive just never said it before. "Trich" is repeated urges to pull hair out. It's a form of OCD. I've been pulling my eyebrows,eyelashes, chest and facial hair out for about 10yrs now, and I've always...
A. 23 June 2012: First, I think you should go talk to your doctor. Get a proper diagnosis. And a referral to a therapist. One who specialize in behavior modifications.
After that I would sit your mom down and talk to her first. She will not be disgusted, you are ... (read in full...)
Too old for playing these games....how do I correct this situation?
Q. I am getting too old for these games… About 3 months ago I noticed this good looking security guard where I worked. We barely exchanged words, just the odd nod and hi whenever we crossed paths. As we got familiar with each other, I noti...
A. 22 June 2012: I agree with BondGirl.
If you are AWARE of your own behavior, modify it. You are at work so the "being professional" would be the right approach. If he is not someone you want to date or spend time with outside of work, treat him with the SAME pol... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of how angry I got when I found duplicates of text messages to me sent to other women!
Q. Dear Cupid, I been seeing a man in USA and I am in Canada about 6 months. We were having everyother weekend together. I just spent 3 beautiful days with him. I thought we were falling inlove, While sleeping somehow he hit me with his...
A. 22 June 2012: Well, the hitting there is no excuse for, though I kind of understand your anger.
The thing is you two NEVER defined the relationship? You just saw each other every other week-end for sex?
Personally, I would NOT sleep with a guy til I know w... (read in full...)
I am being horribly bullied by my ex housemates and I don't know what to do
Q. Hey guys, Just looking for a little support. My head is about to explode. Recently I lived with two people, a guy and a girl I would have considered friends. Some messy events lead to me them moving out and me loosing A LOT of money. Inclu...
A. 22 June 2012: Good Luck!
I'm proud you didn't just take the abuse from these people.
I hope you win and that THEY grow up a little.... (read in full...)
How do I handle insulting people who think I look too young to be a Mother? I'm twenty six.
Q. Hi everyone I was just wondering how people in a similar situation deal with this I have a son who is 4 later this year. I had him when I was 22. My partner left me when I told him I was pregnant but I look very young for my age even though I am 26 ...
A. 22 June 2012: Stop caring what people think. If they are people that otherwise MATTERS in your life, set them straight as to how hurtful it is.
It's not like you can help looking young (or should try not to look young). If anyone have a problem with your loo... (read in full...)
It seems like he handles disagreements by breaking up?
Q. Hi I have been seeing a guy for nearly four months now. A month ago - we had a minor and I mean minor disagreement and he dumped me on the steps outside the restaurant where we had just made plans to meet seem of my friends the following weekend ...
A. 22 June 2012: Seems to me that he is one of those guys who have totally unrealistic views of what a relationship should be.
Or he is one of those guys who thinks rocking the boat means failure.
Either way, he will NOT change.
I would accept that he obv... (read in full...)
Worried that we are not intellectually compatible?
Q. I am in a new relationship with a man who makes me laugh like nobody else, is affectionate, hard working and very patient. We are living together and planning to go away travelling together. I'm very physically attracted to him, I trust him, fee...
A. 22 June 2012: I don't think a couple that works well, are on the same level in EVERYTHING. If it is otherwise a even relationship I think it's actually a good thing that you aren't carbon copies of each other.
He should be JUST like you (only in a male version)... (read in full...)
New boyfriend admitted he can't get an erection because of my weight and I'm devastated....Help!?
Q. I have an incredible new boyfriend I really like, but he has trouble getting and keeping an erection, and the reason is.....my weight. We are incredibly drawn to each other on so many levels- intellectually, emotionally, etc. He says he finds my ...
A. 22 June 2012: You lost 80 lbs already? THAT is AMAZING! Keep doing what feels RIGHT for you. Don't let his limp dick (maybe a little harsh here lol) DICTATE your weight loss or your body.
Saying that it is YOUR fault he can't get the cannon up is easier t... (read in full...)
Do you think it's still possible for me to meet someone who will want to be with me?
Q. Well, I'm 20. I live in the US. I'm obese I guess. I weigh 297 and I'm about five and a half feet. I've never felt loved or accepted. I've never had a boyfriend. I've never been kissed or had sex. Guys have tried but seems that the ones who try are ...
A. 22 June 2012: What you need is self confidence, self discipline and some self LOVE.
YOU are ONLY 20, which means becoming healthy is going to be "easier" for you then someone twice your age. Doesn't mean it WILL be easy or fast.
There is more to losing w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to say 'thank you' for everything he does for me!
Q. My boyfriend has make so uncomfortable lately, everytime he brings me out to eat he always wants a thank you right away. he treats me like a uneducated person who doesnt know how to thank people when things are done or given to them. i always say ...
A. 22 June 2012: As much as I like and appreciate manner, he is being ridiculous. Seems to me that he is wanting to have all the power, the be the parent in the relationship, the one who sets the rules.
So my question is, is there an age difference between ... (read in full...)
Which woman do I choose? The dysfunctional one who I'm crazy about? Or the one I've recently met who understands me?
Q. I have been seeing this woman for a few months and I am crazy about her but she is disfunctional to the extent that whenever we arrange a meeting she alweays manages to stuff it up. what i mean is we always end up at a different place at a different ...
A. 22 June 2012: If you aren't crazy about the second one then maybe "scratch" both of them and look for someone who you both click with and who you will be crazy about.
Woman #1 (dysfunctional one) is never going to change, no matter how much you love her.
... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 22 June 2012: I do think he is treating you as a child or an immature person, one who knows nothing and he knows everything. Which makes the marriage/relationship very uneven.
The fact that he bring in his 14 year old to weigh in on issues makes me think th... (read in full...)
Lost virginity to two Malaysian hookers. Should I feel bad?
Q. I am in the navy and am 21 years old. When i was in Malaysia a couple years back, me and my friends were partying at a club in downtown Kuala Lumpur. We were all drinking and getting pretty drunk. Then late into the night, the club started to ...
A. 22 June 2012: Personally, It's find it kinda yucky. But we all make good and less good decisions in our lives, this was one of your "less good ones". However my husband was stationed in Korea when he was 17.. Pretty sure he had sex with a juicy girl or two.. ... (read in full...)
I am being horribly bullied by my ex housemates and I don't know what to do
Q. Hey guys, Just looking for a little support. My head is about to explode. Recently I lived with two people, a guy and a girl I would have considered friends. Some messy events lead to me them moving out and me loosing A LOT of money. Inclu...
A. 22 June 2012: Ignore then online, block them, un-friend them, delete them and DO not get into it online or anywhere else with these people.
Seems like you had bad luck with BOTH your room mates.
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I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 22 June 2012: Maybe you need to start reconnecting again. Take her out on a date, to a movie you know the things you used to do when you first "courted" her..
Time to Woo her again.
But first go see your doctor and have to Testosterone level checked. Just be... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 22 June 2012: I think he needs to stop dragging his daughter into your debates/discussions/arguments - she is 14 and all this is making a wedge between you and her.. Maybe that is what he is hoping to create?
Does he regard you as a teenager? Or as immature... (read in full...)
The ugly guys get the girls!
Q. What's the deal with gorgeous girls dating ugly guys? I'm a 20 year old male and VERY good looking. I'm not big headed about it, just stating what is an objective fact. I can say this and still claim to not be big headed, as I don't feel proud...
A. 21 June 2012: Women like good looking guys, but we like personality, humor and guys who are sure of themselves.
You have a certain type and it's NOT working for you, what does that tell you?
You say & I quote:
"I know they say that to women, personality i... (read in full...)
No sex or affection from my husband, but he doesn't want a divorce either! What should I do?
Q. My husband is not affectionate with me, or want any sex with me. He is totally cold with me. But does not want to divorce. He says he loves me,and he has no idea what happened to him. This is the 7 th year like that. Started suddenly, and never ...
A. 21 June 2012: Could be he his the "male" menopause, with lowered testosterone.
28 year years together is quite a feat. Specially if they have mainly been good years. So I guess it comes down to this, are you happy with status quo? Living like room mates? T... (read in full...)
I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 21 June 2012: Get checked for low T. My husband have it and is on the T- patch, IT makes SUCH a difference.
Also, could it be the fact that she initiates you are having a problem with?... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 21 June 2012: Sounds like he is trying 3 things:
-making YOU look bad in front of his daughter
-include his daughter in your arguments/discussions
-valuing her opinion over yours.
Honestly, sit him down when she is out of the house and ask him WTF is going... (read in full...)
Why do people always judge a book by its cover? I want women to see me for who I really am, not just how young I look!
Q. It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me. I'm 39 I'm a straight male with beautiful blue eyes, but I look a lot younger than my age I look to be about 16 ish maybe 20 tops I ...
A. 21 June 2012: I can't even imagine you having a youthful look being something a woman NOT liking.
Is there a particular age group/type that YOU go for? Maybe you need to rethink your "type"?... (read in full...)
He is not looking for a relationship - should I go out with him anyway and hope it turns into something more? Could we end up as a happy couple?
Q. hi cupids I have this dilema and would like some advice were possible. I have over the past year had a crush on my bus driver ( I know pretty out there ) lol and one day I became a bit brave after a few dutch courage drinks and wrote my phone n...
A. 21 June 2012: No, he won't "magically" want a relationship. If you want to hang out with him (no sex) do so but don't get unrealistic hopes up.... (read in full...)
How do I tell the man I love the awful truth about my past?
Q. When I was 12, I found out that I was the unfortunate result of my mother's adultery. My "dad" was disappointed and extremely disturbed by it. Growing up I had always felt different and I was never given the love I felt my 2 half sisters were and it ...
A. 21 June 2012: Professional help NOW. Work through this and THEN find a way to tell him.
You really need to focus on this first. For you to be able to have healthy relationship, YOU need to be healthy.
... (read in full...)
Fear of using public toilets, how do I overcome this?
Q. I know this question isn't really on topic to what this website is about, and it's a pretty stupid question anyway, but I can't find anything else this helpful and anonymous on the web. I absolutely hate using the toilet at other peoples houses a...
A. 21 June 2012: I absolutely abhor public restrooms. I bring my own Clorox wipes everywhere. I DO wipe down seats and door handles at public rest rooms and if I can avoid it I don't use public restrooms at all.
I DO have OCD and part of my "obsessions" is a fea... (read in full...)
I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 21 June 2012: Try cut the porn & masturbation. It's not really fair on your wife that you prefer porn to her.
Why did you start with the whole porn thing? And how is your wife libido? Does she have a high/low sex drive?... (read in full...)
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