I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 17 May 2012: Thank you for the update, I'm glad it went so well. ... (read in full...)
I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 11 May 2012: Good luck I hope it turns out better then you expect.... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: You had your hormone levels checked? A low level of testosterone usually mean a low level of libido.
Thyroid problems can also lower the ability to get an erection.... (read in full...)
Which is worse, snooping or flirting?
Q. This is a bit of a weird question so I apologise in advance... My husband is a mechanic and works in a small village where everyone knows each other well and everyone is friends with everyone. However I am what's called a city slicker and have a few ...
A. 8 May 2012: Snooping. Hands down.
Snooping = lack of trust.
Flirting is a whole other ball game.... (read in full...)
Reconnecting with a lost half brother isn't going as I expected
Q. I located my half brother we share a mother. He is 4 yrs older than me we have been exchanging emails now that he is back from afghan and deployment. We have never met he hasnt seen our mom in 20 years. I have been filling in the gaps for him and ...
A. 8 May 2012:
I would write him some questions about himself that you want to know.
He might not be a talkative person.
He might resent you a little for being with your mom which he obviously never was.
He might have a hard time adjusting to having a h... (read in full...)
Connection with fiance is lost and now I've slept with his friend
Q. hi everyone this gets really complicated! a previous question i asked helps to explain the background of our relationship. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/amnesia-stole-four-years-of-my-life-and.html i am supposed to be getting married t...
A. 8 May 2012: Don't marry your fiancee. Putting a ring on the finger will not make everything alright.
Sit down with your fiancee and work out a way to pay off the debt you two have accumulated.
And sharing a child should never be the reason to marry.... (read in full...)
I made a gift with much time and love involved but he's dating someone else. Should I give him the gift?
Q. Hello Cupid’s, I have a question So I will keep this as short as I can. I have a male friend who I feel in love with, I told him back in December and he did not take it as I had hoped, such as, he did not call me or see me for months. I finally ...
A. 8 May 2012: I wouldn't give him the gift. However I think you need to accept that he will perhaps never like you the way you like him.
Personally I would just let him go. I think if you keep "pretending" you can be his friend (when being his friend is the l... (read in full...)
I haven't asked out a girl in 2 years for fear of being rejected
Q. For the past two years I have failed to ask a single girl out and need to know how to overcome my fear. I really want to be able to approach attractive women that I don't know, but I feel terrified and worried about what to say. I'm afraid tha...
A. 8 May 2012: If you don't ask ANYONE out you won't get a yes either.
If you get rejected try again. You can't let one or two or TEN failures stop you.
Maybe get some tips from your friends or from some of the females you know.... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 8 May 2012: When I was working we both put a certain amount into an account for bills only. We put in the same amount and all the bills were paid from that account.
Does the mortgage cost = the cost of taxes,food, insurance,pet care,car care,eve... (read in full...)
Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?
Q. I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one ...
A. 8 May 2012: I'm not a man, but I don't think tattoos on the but are hot...
But like I mentioned, you can get a "henna tattoo" and live with it for a couple of weeks see if you like it or not. ... (read in full...)
Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?
Q. I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one ...
A. 8 May 2012: Personally, I wouldn't put a tattoo on my butt. For a simple reason, you are still young, and IF you decide to have children you can be sure your butt will alter it's shape. Which in turn mean the tattoo can look a little warped. And getting both ... (read in full...)
12 years of marriage, him cheating and now that I want out he wants to change!
Q. I have been married to this guy for 12 years and we have 2 kids. He's been a reasonable dad but a selfish husband with strangers noticing and wondering how I put up with him with me having most of the load to manage my full time career and work at ...
A. 8 May 2012: I'm glad you have found your inner strength and your path.
You ask why the guilt trip? I ask why not? I'm guessing he's been a good manipulator for a long time and now he sees he's lost his grip, so he tries the one most mom's can't/wo... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my husband over sex!
Q. hi, i am 21, married. my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job.. i really feel bad for not having an enjoyable sex life.. the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.. i feel embarrassed ...
A. 7 May 2012: Talk to him. Spice it up. You are at least as responsible for your SEX LIFE as he is.... (read in full...)
Why does this girl think I'm ugly?
Q. So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my ...
A. 7 May 2012: "Hey what's up?" is a much better approach. Still I think it's WAY better to first have just a little bit of a rapport with them in "real life" as in, in person before chatting them up on a website.
To be honest, very few guys are really able to ... (read in full...)
Is it bad if the person you're dating is the type of person who breaks the no-contact rule after a break up with an ex?
Q. I know that past dating behavior in a person is important to look at, and if there are extreme behaviors, that sometimes you might just want to walk away (like abuse or lying or cheating). But if a person is the type to break the no-contact rule ...
A. 7 May 2012: For me that would be a red flag. If a guy doesn't RESPECT the no contact rule, does he respect the girl? To me it becomes a little stalkerish. Not a good trait.
I don't believe anyone HAS to be "friends" with their exes. I rarely see the point in... (read in full...)
Was he being over the top when he talked about my beauty? And will he still think I'm beautiful when we meet?
Q. Maybe i'm being stupid, i met this guy and he said i was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen, he couldn't stop looking at me because he said it was hard to believe how gorgeous I was. He kept forgetting what he was talking about, or even what I ...
A. 7 May 2012: I think it would be VERY smart to wear the daytime makeup and out fits and see his reaction.
However, flattery is nice, but once a guy goes over the top it becomes a little... trite?
And I'm SURE there is more beauty to you then what he saw... (read in full...)
Confused about what to do, go to London and see the band or not?
Q. I was supposed to be going to London this weekend to go to a fan party of a band i like and go to a concert, but i'm not sure whether i should still go or not. My mum was supposed to be going with me at first, but now she can't go because of ...
A. 7 May 2012: I think if you are financially (potentially) in the toilet, spending money on something you really don't NEED (like tickets) is not exactly smart. Both your mom and BF have already decided that they can't afford it.
Honestly (and not to sound me... (read in full...)
How do I develop a relationship with one girl without hurting her friend who likes me?
Q. For the ladies out there, I have a few things I would like for you to clear up for me, I appreciate it. I know this does not apply to every woman but i believe it does for a majority of them. #1: If you shower a girl with gifts, she will lea...
A. 7 May 2012: For the first two statements..
#1: If you shower a girl with gifts, she will leave you
Um no, I hardly think so, but GIFTS/MONEY can't buy love. Learn to give gift that MEAN something. Make gift giving special. A girl who EXPECTS presents... (read in full...)
My family frown on intermingling with others. So how do I, a virgin, handle my sexual desire and wish to be married?
Q. I really dont know what to do. I dont have a boyfriend but a big crush on this somebody. Also i am a virgin and 19. I belong to a narrow minded family where intermingling is not considered good. My sexual desire is driving me crazy. I want to ...
A. 7 May 2012: Being horny (pardon the crude expression) is no reason to get married. Sex is not going to keep a marriage going, you need a little more then that.
However, if you never get to "intermingle" as you call it how will you ever meet a potentia... (read in full...)
Should I give him an ultimatum or wait for his divorce?
Q. I am in my mid 50's. My partner and I have been dating for over two years. He lives an hour from me and has joint custody of his 17 yr old daughter. We both have our own businesses so are happy not to live together at this stage. His wife is an ...
A. 7 May 2012: I agree 100% with AuntieEm's opening statement..
You can give him all the ultimatums in the world but he isn't going to get a divorce until he wants to. He could have other reasons for NOT wanting divorce, reasons he isn't telling you.
You mak... (read in full...)
I'm still in "ex jail" How do I get past this?
Q. I have been respecting my exes no contact rule by being invisible as I can. For years I have anxiety wherever I go and whoever I go out with. I'm so stressed my ex will see me and that she will think that I moved on. I want to be a man and serve the ...
A. 7 May 2012: She might not WANT an acquaintanceship with you, ever, can you accept and respect that?
Now if the dog was yours, why does she have it? Or was it a shared dog?
... (read in full...)
I found out boyfriend has a profile and is actively seeking others. How do I approach him with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together a year and one night at work I was looking for a chat room to talk to people when I stumbled on a dating site where u could look and see what kind of people are on there and I saw my boyfriend on there with a profile ...
A. 7 May 2012: Print out the page. Show him. It's not like he can lie and say he never made one if it's right there in black & white.
However, I do agree that you might want to try and find out how old the profile is and if you can (some sites let you) see when... (read in full...)
How can I wax myself at home? I don't want to go to a professional?
Q. Hi everyone.i want to wax my private area at home.it has become darken due to hair removal cream.i have also used raizer but it does not work for long.i have had one try but I can,t remove around vegina lips.plz don,t say to go to profesnal.. It is ...
A. 7 May 2012: I wouldn't try and wax "below" at home. You will end up with ton of bruises as it is hard to both remove the wax strip and keep the skin taut.
You can try sugaring ( or sugar wax) as Hugh suggest.
http://hairre... (read in full...)
I've had an abortion and now am afraid to go to church or to pray
Q. Had an abortion. Now, I'm afraid to pray or go to the church. Before this, I often find solace in church but now I'm afraid to even pray at home. I try to avoid any religious figures as in printing or etc. What do I do? ...
A. 7 May 2012: I'm not a Christian, but I DO know that one of the BIGGEST cornerstones of Christianity is forgiveness.
Why not go pray for guidance on how to deal with what happened?
I would also suggest you look into a supportgroup/website for women who ha... (read in full...)
Co-worker acted like a jerk, everyone finally found out and now he's changed. Why?
Q. I had a good friend or so i thought at work i really cared for him and helped him so much with work, money a hell of a lot then i noticed the lies black lies not just fibs then i found out he was badmouthing me to colleagues and management i did ...
A. 7 May 2012: I agree with Ciar. Who cares. At least people know what an asshat he REALLY is.
Avoid him, ignore him.... (read in full...)
Is moaning during kissing normal?
Q. Just a simple question..... i was going out with this guy and well he took me to the movies and dinner but then when he drove me home we started kissing and well as were maaking out he was moaning i thought it was wierd. We had only been tpgether ...
A. 7 May 2012: Moaning is not uncommon when kissing, specially if it's a good kiss.... (read in full...)
12 years of marriage, him cheating and now that I want out he wants to change!
Q. I have been married to this guy for 12 years and we have 2 kids. He's been a reasonable dad but a selfish husband with strangers noticing and wondering how I put up with him with me having most of the load to manage my full time career and work at ...
A. 7 May 2012: I guess the ball is in your court. You stuck it out for 12 year, if you think he can honestly "change", that he really want to change then maybe there is a chance, personally though I don't think he will or that all the crap he did in the past can ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and keeps asking me for naked pictures
Q. This guy I was talking to recently got out of a long term relationship and he has kids with this woman. A few months ago he decided to get back with her because he didn't want to pull his kids away from their mother. Since they got back together we ...
A. 7 May 2012: Stop talking to him, he is NOT your friend.
Why is he doing he? Maybe because he thinks he can manipulate you into doing what he want.
Cut the contact, block him number, move on.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: Honestly, I would ask him to explain that.
But I agree with auntie Bim Bim... if he thinks he is the boss of you, I'd hand my resignation in too.... (read in full...)
I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 7 May 2012: I would just tell him that the invitation is for him only. That you want to see your dad, but that you don't want to see Cheryl and your half-sibling.
Now, he might not like that idea at all and tell you it's either his whole family or none, an... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on opposite sex room mates?
Q. My long distance boyfriend wants to move in with a female roommate his age (he's never met her, he found her on craigslist). I'm trying to be cool with it, but for some reason I'm kind of having trouble with it. On the one hand I do trust him, but ...
A. 7 May 2012: I had a male room mate for a while, but he was an old friend so it wasn't weird in any way.
I think it's doable and honestly I think the house could potentially be cleaner with a boy/girl living together over a boy/boy or girl/girl.
I think... (read in full...)
I reconnected, got a little bit stalky, he disconnected
Q. I use to see a guy in highschool that contacted me on facebook he was excited and I was to get in contact again he is still attractive. We talked for a bit on chat and exchanged numbers so he can text or call me. Things went a bit awry and I think I ...
A. 6 May 2012: I agree with tennisstar88 - leave him be.
Stalking people, even "just" a little is rarely perceived as flattering. More like scary.... (read in full...)
Why does this girl think I'm ugly?
Q. So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my ...
A. 6 May 2012: Let it go. But honestly if this is a girl you don't normally talk to starting out with a "you are so beautiful" is not only a tad corny but can easily be conceived as creepy.
I do think she interpreted your comment as a :"Oh, he thinks calling ... (read in full...)
I have little tolerance. Do I give up too easily on girls?
Q. I'm wondering if I give up too easily on girls. The reason I ask is Because I have a short tolerance for them. For instance. Just today I finally got up the nerve to talk to this girl that I had been crushing on for a while. I went to her table to ...
A. 6 May 2012: Maybe what you need to consider is taking your expectations down a notch. I'm willing to be that the girl you approached had no idea that you had a crush on her. And even if I DO think she was rude to walk of if you two were having a conversation, ... (read in full...)
She wants to move her dog in!
Q. my girlfriend moved in with me 5 months ago now she wants to move her dog in i think its a bad ideal dogs need to be kept outdoors or atleast thats how i feel about it help...
A. 5 May 2012: It would depend on the breed? And how it was raised? It's age? Where you live? Not all dogs are outdoor dogs.
Though bottom line, it's your place, your rules. But I think it's one of those things that can easily break the relationship.
If I we... (read in full...)
Is he cheating with me?...what's with the secrecy?
Q. I have been dating a man for 7 weeks. On paper we look great, same age, both solvent kids grown up, both working, similar interests and lots in common...there is just one problem...he hasn't let me see where he lives but has been to mine a few ...
A. 5 May 2012: I agree with Auntie BimBim... wait for next week and then GO WITH YOUR GUT!... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 5 May 2012: I'm 42 and I could not imagine dating a 19 year old lol, I meet plenty of young guys as we live on a military installation and through the place I volunteer at, I meet a lot of them as well and I have to say... I couldn't see myself getting involved ... (read in full...)
I've been a fool and don't know how to right my wrongs
Q. I am a widow ,but I date and have friends,so I don't really feel lonely.A yr. ago i met a man online and we began a good friendship.He was still somewhat involved with his high school sweetheart.We talked about the relationship or should i say I did ...
A. 5 May 2012: I would just be honest with him. Lies have a way of always coming out.
If the age difference is a turn off/deal breaker for him then he is NOT for you.
... (read in full...)
How do I get my partner to do his share of work?
Q. Hey guys, thanks in advance for your answers Me and my boyfriend have lived together for a year (with his mum, in her flat). And now we have moved into our own flat just 4 weeks ago. Basically the problem is he is chronically lazy! He refuses...
A. 5 May 2012: Urinating in the kitchen sink? I think I just threw up a little in my mouth!
Ok, here is what I would do. Dump him and move out. There is no way in Hades I would want to be with someone so void of hygiene.
But since I'm sure you love the fel... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 5 May 2012: How did your husband handle her when she spoke ill of you?
Personally, I would cut the communication to the barest minimum with her and advice as "nicely" as possible to your husband not NOT bring the sister into the restaurant.
It's hard bec... (read in full...)
Why are girls wearing clothes you can see their butts in?
Q. It is starting to get warm out now and why do a lot of the girls wear their shorts so short? I have seen sport shorts and cutoffs and they all seem to be extemely short, to the point that their cheeks are hanging out. I have also seen dresses that ...
A. 5 May 2012: It's called fashion.. And perhaps a case of tacky taste. On the other hand... If you have the body to wear it, why not "flaunt" it? I mean sure you can do it in a WAY more tasteful way, for sure, but you are BOUND to grab attention (good & bad) by ... (read in full...)
"Well, I fooled you, didn't I?" What did she mean by that?
Q. I was talking to this girl I met the other night, incredibly interesting more so than any other girl!! She was also very beautiful, great figure and really good fun to be around it was infectious! But it was strange because later on in the night, ...
A. 5 May 2012: Don't judge a book by it's cover.
I would ask her out on a date and talk to her :) ... (read in full...)
I'm not asking for much, just for the dog to be on the floor and for my boyfriend to give me a bit more attention than he gives the dog!
Q. I love my boyfriend to bits, but I feel like he doesnt appreciate me. Now we are both students and are very broke have no money, he has a part time job so gets a bit more than me. He drops me off to my house one day and I ask if he would like to ...
A. 5 May 2012: I wouldn't give him gas money, but take toe bus to his place every now and then? or meet up places.
I wouldn't sleep over either. Though I DO love animals, I rather get a good 6-8 hours sleep.
And last but not least, I think I would rather be ... (read in full...)
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