I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 22 June 2012: Maybe you need to start reconnecting again. Take her out on a date, to a movie you know the things you used to do when you first "courted" her..
Time to Woo her again.
But first go see your doctor and have to Testosterone level checked. Just be... (read in full...)
I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 21 June 2012: Get checked for low T. My husband have it and is on the T- patch, IT makes SUCH a difference.
Also, could it be the fact that she initiates you are having a problem with?... (read in full...)
Fear of using public toilets, how do I overcome this?
Q. I know this question isn't really on topic to what this website is about, and it's a pretty stupid question anyway, but I can't find anything else this helpful and anonymous on the web. I absolutely hate using the toilet at other peoples houses a...
A. 21 June 2012: I absolutely abhor public restrooms. I bring my own Clorox wipes everywhere. I DO wipe down seats and door handles at public rest rooms and if I can avoid it I don't use public restrooms at all.
I DO have OCD and part of my "obsessions" is a fea... (read in full...)
1st date and he forgot his wallet and now I'm turned off
Q. I'm in my late twenties. I m very much financially independent as I own my business and I do pretty well with it. Why I m telling this about myself before I start my story just to show that I'm not at all need any kind of financial support from any...
A. 21 June 2012: I think he did it on purpose too, to see how you would react. I think it's a LAME thing to do. And it would TOTALLY turn me off, BECAUSE he was the one asking you out on the date.
But, I would go out on a second date, if he (aside from that stu... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 21 June 2012: Sounds like you are looking for a way out of the marriage. And excuse to get out.
So sit down, think long and hard and decide what you want to do. Work on your marriage or throw in the towel and be single.
Obviously your wife isn't happy eith... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend because of his ex! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing this guy fro 3 months now and things are awesome with him! I feel great when I am with him. But I have a huge insecurity when it comes to his sons mom. I know they had strong feelings for each other but I also know he really ...
A. 21 June 2012: I think I would consider cutting my losses. He lied, so it's not really ALL that strange that you don't trust him.
However the stalking and drive by's need to stop.
You have only dated 3 months, so it's still in that stage where you try an... (read in full...)
I accidentally found out that my daughter in law & family do not like me. What do I do now?
Q. This afternoon I had my 10 year old grandson (my son's son)and I took a wrong turn in the car at a junction. He panicked thinking we were going to his other grannys (his mum's mum). On gently questioning him he told me that it would be a bad idea ...
A. 21 June 2012: I agree with MarieClaire - your grandson could have gotten it all a little wrong. Maybe he said what he did, because he DIDN'T want to go see his other grandmother?
But if it nags at you talk to your son. Tell him what your grandson said.... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to go out with a carbon copy of my ex/
Q. So I met this girl online that seem like almost a younger carbon copy of my ex. Is it healthy for me to go out with her or will it just keep the ex in my mind?...
A. 21 June 2012: It really comes down to this, DO YOU want her to BE your ex or is she just "your type"?
If you don't have any crazy expectations that she is going to be JUST like the ex, I don't see a problem. If you DO expect her to be JUST like you ex.. you... (read in full...)
I escaped my Muslim Arabic country and found freedom, but now I have met a lovely Arabic guy his friends are telling him to stay away from me because I don't fit into normal Muslim beliefs! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an Arabic female who escaped from my Muslim Arabic country in the look for freedom, I escaped by my self and it was not easy (I got publishing companies asking me to write my story to be published) I escaped when I was 20 years o...
A. 21 June 2012: Cyprus is a lovely place ( not sure how it is to live there full time though, only spend a couple of summers there - Greek side)
I think you did the right thing in ending it. If he rather trust gossip from so called "friends" then sit down and... (read in full...)
I never doubted being in love until my mom said that I just cared deeply for my friend.
Q. My girlfriend and I were doing great, and going on over 8 months. However, my parents found out about us and now we have to be even more careful about hiding it. When my mom and I were talking about it, she said she doubted that I was 'in love' and ...
A. 21 June 2012: I don't think your mom is right. I think your mom WANTS you to think she is right.
Sounds like love to me :)
Love, like so many other things in life, evolves and changes, maybe your mom isn't totally ready for you to love someone. (other ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex but I know he's a cheater
Q. am 17 and my boyfriend want to have sex with me and I know his a cheater but he don't admit it and he always tell me that he don't want to lose me but I don't believe him and he don't want me to touch his cell-phone, do he really love me? ...
A. 21 June 2012: What do YOU want? You want to have sex with a cheater? Or wait til you find a man with some substance? ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to bring another girl on holiday with us, I have a bad feeling about this girl and don't want her to come, but I don't want to lose my friend either! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend, let’s call her Laura, who I have known since we were 4 years old. She is a lovely person, but is also a people pleaser to the extent that she lets others completely walk all over her on a regular basis. She lets people treat her ...
A. 21 June 2012: Going on a holiday with out Emily doesn't mean that she is "ditching" her. It just means she went on a vacation without her.
Seriously, Laura needs to take a step back and look at this friendship with Emily. You can't have a pity-fri... (read in full...)
I masturbate and then don't want sex with my wife
Q. I don't seem to be sexually attracted to my wife very much. I'm not not sure if its a labido thing or what. I do masturbate to porn though when she's not around but as soon as she's back and wants sex I'm not interested. I do love her and want her ...
A. 21 June 2012: Try cut the porn & masturbation. It's not really fair on your wife that you prefer porn to her.
Why did you start with the whole porn thing? And how is your wife libido? Does she have a high/low sex drive?... (read in full...)
I might get dirty on the phone but I am not ready for sex!
Q. My boyfreind has been away for some time now,we do comunicate ,chat and get naughty on the phone(dirty).I am a virgin and he has made it clear that when he comes back his going to f*** me,now mi feel am not ready for sex,hw do i make undertand ...
A. 19 June 2012: Tell him you aren't ready and honestly, stop teasing with the phone sex. It's all fun and games til REALITY sets in.... (read in full...)
This girl seems crazy to me. How do I tell my friend he is making a mistake?
Q. How do i tell my friend he is making a mistake. He met this girl and within i guess three weeks she is telling him she is in love and that god sent him to her. I know prior to this she was with three of his friends i just think she is crazy and he ...
A. 19 June 2012: Honestly I wouldn't tell him anything unless he directly ASKS you what you think.
He seems to be on the rebound so the chance of them being long term is low.
It's not uncommon for some people to throw themselves into new relationships in... (read in full...)
Am I gay for wanting my friend to say "I love you" too?
Q. Hello, This is not exactly a sex problem, but it really confuses me. I'm 19 years old, a girl, and so is my friend, female too, and we have gone in the same class since kindengarten My friend and I used to be so close, and used to have long ...
A. 19 June 2012: Why not cut the "I love you" out for a while. She might be uncomfortable with it these days.
You are both growing up and maybe even a little apart?
Maybe she has outgrown the "i love you" part of the friendship. Could be someone pointed ... (read in full...)
Is settling for someone who is lovely but is not "the one" ever right?
Q. hi there, the kind of man who would be perfect for me simply does not exist, for a lot of reasons. im sure of this. however i am currently with a man who loves me dearly and is wonderful. i just wonder if settling for someone who is lovely bu...
A. 19 June 2012: I don't believe in The One , but I don't believe in settling either.
If you can't see the guy you are with as someone you could spend the rest of your life with... I don't think it's fair on yourself and not fair on him.... (read in full...)
I'm unemployed so he wants to delay marriage. Does he have a point or should I get out before my heart's broken?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage but he recently started using the fact that I don't have a job to not to get engaged or even move in I understand his worry about money but it seems money is more important than our relation...
A. 19 June 2012: I think he is being smart. Starting out a new life together as husband and wife WHILE having a financial safety net can make life a LOT easier.
You are only 22-25 so you should either be in college or have found some kind of career path.
Hoe ... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 19 June 2012: Go to college first. You are still so young and have PLENTY of time for babies later on.
There really is no hurry for you to get pregnant.
With a good college education you will be able to take better care of your child, financially. You... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 19 June 2012: Honestly, take him in to see Magic Mike, sit and drool all over the guys in the movie and ask him how that makes him feel. (Movie opens 29 June)
I think he is being RIDICULOUS if he thinks it is OK to kiss some RANDOM strippers boobs and GROPE he... (read in full...)
Does a cyber relationship has a possibility to become true in the real world?
Q. I am currently in an online relationship with a US Army in the middle east who is married. I don't really want to get myself into this kind of relationship that makes me the third party, and on the internet for that matter, but i just can't help ...
A. 19 June 2012: The fact that he is MARRIED (HELLO!!) should be a red flag. Of COURSE he says his wife is mean and uncaring... If he told you she was the best thing since sliced bread would you continue talking to him?
The fact that me talks about how much he ... (read in full...)
After 10 years of no contact, my son's dad got in touch and then hasn't responded again. What do I do?
Q. my son's dad as got intouch after 10years..... well my sons dad as made contact over Facebook after 10 years of being absent. i agreed to meet and talk about things. He cancled the meet the night before i thanked him for letting me know and not ...
A. 18 June 2012: Do the two of you share any kind of custody agreement?
Do you receive Child Support?
Stop messaging him. He seems rather like a flake. Or is he perhaps in a relationship and his SO isn't happy about getting in touch with you/your son?
... (read in full...)
I want to take a break to work on things! Should I?
Q. Ok so I have been with partner for 6 now. We have lived to tether for a little more than 5. About 2 years ago she was unfaithful, when I found out was devastated, hurt, and angry. I couldn't understand why she did it. Well I forgave her, and went ...
A. 18 June 2012: I don't think that taking a short break will fix anything. It is a rather toxic and dysfunctional relationship and I think you know it.
The only thing I can see happening of you take a break is that you get some distance and take a good hard loo... (read in full...)
What if this "girl" made a video of me and I'm all over the net?
Q. Hello, I think I did something very stupid.... I met this girl in a chatroom and she invited me for a webcamchat on MSN messenger. She said she was bisexual (I am too). When she turned on her cam she was in her underwear. She asked me to take my ...
A. 18 June 2012: Learn from it and no do something you already know may not be too smart (as in undressing on the internet for random strangers).
She got off because you didn't want to play her game.
So, to recap. Let it be a lesson. ... (read in full...)
Have you ever squirted or made anyone squirt?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if any of you out there have, 'squirted' during sex, or made anyone squirt? ive never had an orgasam, with anyone ive ever been with. I do enjoy sex and do have a good sexlife with my boyfriend, but ive dont know anyone who ...
A. 18 June 2012: Squirting is like anal sex, a "new" fad for people to do because it's been faked/done so many times in porn.
... (read in full...)
I feel ignored. I don't want to seem too pushy or stalker-ish by calling or asking him whats wrong.
Q. So i do like this guy i had met at a friends birthday about 6 months back. We got talking through introduction by one of my close friends. He's from a different city and we both work so i'm busy at times when he's not and vice versa. However we ...
A. 18 June 2012:
Stop texting him. If he doesn't text YOU, he has backed off and isn't interested.
... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking he's got too many ex's and too much baggage?
Q. I had a first date recently, it went pretty well. He did however have a few ex girlfriends still in his life. One a psycho stalker,his words not mine.Another who visits him for weekends sometimes.Plus one or two others He asked for a 2nd date, ...
A. 18 June 2012: As a woman who is married to a guy who came with TONNES of baggage and drama... Think LONG and HARD about dating him. If it seems too much, it probably is.
Of course he thinks you are overacting, if he didn't think that he would have to admit th... (read in full...)
Tired of waiting for love to return
Q. husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...
A. 18 June 2012: Ask him to give you the divorce so YOU can move on and live "happily ever after " too.
Even if he DID leave her would you really want him back? Seriously?
He is stringing you along JUST in case the other woman doesn't work out... That isn'... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: It's HER wedding. If that is HER dress I wouldn't say a thing.
Now if she ASKS you what you think about dress #1 and the one she picked be diplomatic, but honest.
Friend of mine bought a full glamour ball gown type wedding dress for her "b... (read in full...)
I don't get it! He acts as though he is interested but says he just wants to be friends. Am I missing something?
Q. So I met this guy I work with. He's 21, I'm 29. We have hung out a couple times (like 4 times either by ourselves and with other people). And I kind of like him a bit. And I have gotten the feeling he likes me too. So I texted him the other day and ...
A. 18 June 2012: He is 21, not sure what he wants. I Would say if you want a guy who is willing and ready for a relationship you might want to look at guys closer to your own age.
He can still be a friend though, but I wouldn't expect him to be ready or willing ... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 18 June 2012: Maybe next time plan the vacation and don't tell your wife, spring it on her? Maybe that way your MIL won't butt in?
Or ask you MIL where you should take your wife for a romantic get-away. Maybe THAT will make her realize that she needs to give ... (read in full...)
What was she thinking when she decided to vanished on me?
Q. I'm in the military and stationed overseas. I'm separated and the wife decided to leave and go back to the states. I ended up seeing this woman and we clicked and we really enjoyed each other's company not just sex. She knew that I was separated ...
A. 17 June 2012: I would send one one last e-mail. Let her know it's the last one and that after that you will respect her wishes. Then let her go.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
Why are straights more curious about whose gay than the gays?
Q. All "straight" and "gay" answers are appreciated. Why is it that my coworkers (females) are constantly asking me about my personal life? They're always curious to know whether the person I'm dating is male or female. In my head I'm like who the fuk ...
A. 17 June 2012: Curiosity.
And for some people a lack of tact and manners.
Share what you want, don't share what you do not.
Have have both straight and gay friends and honestly, who they dated was never more "interesting" if they were gay then straight. ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 17 June 2012: Gay or straight what he did was cheating. If the guy had been a girl, you wouldn't have doubted what you were seeing.
His sexuality is not the problem. The problem is that he thinks it's OK for him to do this at all.... (read in full...)
I feel so uncomfortable about this girl he is close to. Is breaking up with him the best option for me?
Q. Did I do the right think in breaking up? I'm sorry this is a long message, but just would like some clarity.... I have been from the very start, on-edge, wondering what he thinks/feels, hes not a very open person. but i chose to date him ...
A. 17 June 2012: I think he is playing a severe double standard. If HE can text,talk/hang out with HIS female friends and you should "just" trust him, then you should be able to do the same.
Seems like he expects things from you that he wouldn't do himself,... (read in full...)
I told my bf I loved him, but he didn't feel the same. Now he's backtracking. Am I wasting my time?
Q. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we see one another every fornight. We get on very well I've met his family been invited on their holidays next January, he treats me, taken me on holiday an...
A. 17 June 2012: I'm sorry if he doesn't love you after 6 months together, it's not going to happen IMHO.
He can obviously see you, spend time with you and have sex, but he can't feel love? Yeah, I'm sorry, but I would move on.... (read in full...)
I disinvited him to my party ...
Q. I was seeing a guy 6 years younger to me. for one year. On the pretext that he said he doesnt want a commitment, I broke it off with him, because i was very involved. I got him a job. when he asked me to held him with one. designed his tattoo, ...
A. 16 June 2012: Yes, you did the right thing for YOU. Was it using the best etiquette and best manners, no. But honestly I would give a rats ass about either of those right now.
The dude have used you for a whole year to get ahead in his life, all he gave bac... (read in full...)
I used my mom's phone and discovered she's getting way too friendly with a man. Do I confront her? Tell my dad?
Q. I need help! I'm 28 years old, and recently I went to my parent's house over the weekend and i discovered something that has my blood boiling right now. My parents are fairly older with my mom being in her mid 50's and my dad in his late 60's. ...
A. 16 June 2012: No it's not your business at all. Just like if at some point in time there is something going on in YOUR OWN marriage it would not be anyone's business but you and your wife's.
Again, it doesn't mean you can't CALMLY ask your mom what's up.
... (read in full...)
He admitted he wasn't physically attracted me...is he joking?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a strictly platonic friendship with my guy friend that I've known for over a year. We talk on almost a frequent basis and hangout whenever it's convenient, despite our hectic schedules. One thing I admire about our friendship i...
A. 16 June 2012: If he is JUST a platonic friend I think it's a good thing he isn't physically attracted to you. It makes friendship so much easier when there isn't any sexual/physical tension.
It doesn't mean you aren't attractive -AT ALL. Just means that he ... (read in full...)
Ex wants post-break-up sex, is it right or wrong?
Q. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago, I am 18, whilst she is 16. The UK allows legality of this relationship. So she's decided that she wants 'post break up' sex. She never understood my reasons for leaving, although they were as long as your arm. So I ...
A. 16 June 2012: Don't have sex with her. She is hoping that if you have sex again, you will take her back.
Doing the whole FWB with an ex is a recipe for disaster. And since she is only 16, she will have an even harder time separating the sex from a relation... (read in full...)
I used my mom's phone and discovered she's getting way too friendly with a man. Do I confront her? Tell my dad?
Q. I need help! I'm 28 years old, and recently I went to my parent's house over the weekend and i discovered something that has my blood boiling right now. My parents are fairly older with my mom being in her mid 50's and my dad in his late 60's. ...
A. 16 June 2012: I agree 100% with CaringGuy, sit your mother down and talk to her.
You are not one of the parties of your parents marriage, so this is something THEY need to sort out. That doesn't mean you can't sit your mom down and talk to her.And watch yo... (read in full...)
I feel so uncomfortable about this girl he is close to. Is breaking up with him the best option for me?
Q. Did I do the right think in breaking up? I'm sorry this is a long message, but just would like some clarity.... I have been from the very start, on-edge, wondering what he thinks/feels, hes not a very open person. but i chose to date him ...
A. 16 June 2012: I guess what it comes down to is trust. DO you trust him or not? I don't think you do.
He obviously isn't going to give up all his female friends (and personally I don't think he should). I think the idea of you meeting them one by one was a re... (read in full...)
He doesn't think of me when he mastubates!
Q. Hi all, I have a problem some people may find strange, my boyfriend said he thinks about me when he masturbates but only sometimes, he then went onto say he thinks about me when sitting at his desk or playing a quiz and to him that's more important ...
A. 15 June 2012: I have never asked my hubby what he thinks of when he masturbate. That is between him and his right hand.
I can tell you this, I certainly don't always think of my hubby either. It's called having a fantasy and using one's imagination.
I would... (read in full...)
What was she thinking when she decided to vanished on me?
Q. I'm in the military and stationed overseas. I'm separated and the wife decided to leave and go back to the states. I ended up seeing this woman and we clicked and we really enjoyed each other's company not just sex. She knew that I was separated ...
A. 11 June 2012: Because you are still married.
I would back off. I would focus on ending ONE relationship (aka get that divorce) before jumping into another.
Maybe she thought you would be a "free" man faster. Maybe she is getting slack from people because y... (read in full...)
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