When is flirting crossing a boundary?
Q. I've been with my bf for several years. There's something that bugs me about him. When we're out, if he sees an attractive woman he'll let her know she's hot with his expression. He'll raise his eyebrows and do something with his eyes, and the woman ...
A. 9 August 2012: The whole "Crush" on woman after woman would be a deal breaker for me to, no doubt, but I would have been out the door the first time I noticed it.
The fact that he KNOWS how it affect and and he still doesn't care, kind of show that he in fact ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 9 August 2012: Maybe your BF suffers from Retrograde jealousy ( there are a few Aunties/Uncles on here who knows a lot about this, so try and do a search).
And I agree I don't think anyone HAS to disclose ever detail and every single name of their past bed mate... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 9 August 2012: I will quote you:
My boyfriend never once mentioned to me that he knew about 'Jeff' and I, but he did say that he asked me if I had been with anyone in our circle of friends and I told him no.
Isn't that a lie? Omitting the truth is a lie. ... (read in full...)
She gets all the sympathy and attention. I hurt. How Can Stop Being Jealous of her?
Q. This has been on my chest for a while. Although I know I am wrong for feeling like this, I absolutely cannot stand this girl who I will be living with next year. It didn't start off like this, but even the thought of her now ruins my mood and I ...
A. 9 August 2012: She doesn't know about you and her ex? Or does she? And by telling her what do you think you will get from her?
And how do you let go? Well, you start to focus on other things, you "branch" out and find new people to spend time with. I know tha... (read in full...)
When is flirting crossing a boundary?
Q. I've been with my bf for several years. There's something that bugs me about him. When we're out, if he sees an attractive woman he'll let her know she's hot with his expression. He'll raise his eyebrows and do something with his eyes, and the woman ...
A. 8 August 2012: This seems to be who he is. He sees nothing wrong with it, so this will never change for him, tough as he gets older he will have less "success" with the women he is flirting with. It's inevitable.
One thing though, I think you are making him out ... (read in full...)
Is checking partners phone wrong
Q. So there has been a lot of talk in magazines etc about Jools wanting to check Jamie Oliver's texts....and I have to say whilst it's wrong I can kind of understand it... My boyfriend has always been very private about his phone, to the point that h...
A. 8 August 2012: I really think it comes down to the reason you want to check the phone out.
If you feel like you can "only" trust him if you can look through it every day, then you have serious issues.
I don't think that anyone should ever HAVE to check th... (read in full...)
I found the perfect wedding dress, but it is white!
Q. Hello! I am getting married next spring. Excitment! The other day I went window shopping and I've seen the prettiest little (and very cheap) dress ever. But... it's white! I'm in my early 30s and I'm not a virgin anymore and all the people at my we...
A. 8 August 2012: Good luck and have a wonderful day and a wonderful life :)
Rock the dress!... (read in full...)
She gets all the sympathy and attention. I hurt. How Can Stop Being Jealous of her?
Q. This has been on my chest for a while. Although I know I am wrong for feeling like this, I absolutely cannot stand this girl who I will be living with next year. It didn't start off like this, but even the thought of her now ruins my mood and I ...
A. 8 August 2012: It's NOT because of her you got hurt. YOU did that to yourself. 1. NEVER date a friends ex. And CERTAINLY not behind everyone's back. THAT was your first mistake.
Your second mistake was dating a guy who could care less about you. Really IF he ha... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 8 August 2012: Well lying is never good. Honestly is always the best policy. Why did you even lie about having slept so long a go with someone who is in your circle of friends?
However this happened 20 year ago when you and the BF didn't even know each other. S... (read in full...)
Consumed with guilt and shame over Paternity issues. How do I move on?
Q. I am so ashamed of what I have done. I have been in a common law relationship with someone for about 20 years. Very rocky relationship with him suffering from drug addiction. Long story short I had an affair with someone from my past it went ...
A. 8 August 2012: The dad knows about the child and don't give a darn about your or the baby.
You husband whom you have stood by for 20 years THINK the child is his, that is not fair. I mean it's great if the thought of a child got him clean, but living a lie is n... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents to go off on the holiday without me? I'm so hurt by her comments!
Q. I have a rocky relationship with my mother, neither of us are a innocent party here really. Im 21 and just recoverd after a tough year involving a family bereavement. Our relationship has never been easy really, we sometimes really don’t get along. ...
A. 8 August 2012: Maybe it IS time for you to move out?
It doesn't sound like a healthy and loving home and I think your mom's tactics to get you to move out and be independent comes off as being mean and manipulative.
And if you do not want to go on a paid vac... (read in full...)
S this a normal male perspective please?
Q. Hi, this is a question for guys mainly... I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and spending most of the last 6 months staying round at his house. My lease has come up on my own shared house and so I am moving into a new flat. He sa...
A. 8 August 2012: I think it's a practical view, more then a male view. Since you HAVE been living with him the last 6 months more or less permanently he thought it made good sense you move in.. However, I think it backasswards for him to bring it up AFTER you get a ... (read in full...)
I had sex with his friend and now he keeps bringing it up
Q. dear cupid, back in december of 2010, i met this guy at college (we'll call him clinton). we "talked" for about a week and went on two dates before life got in the way and we were not able to even try to be anything really serious. looking...
A. 8 August 2012: I think it hurts WAY more that you slept with his friend then some random guy. The fact that YOU cheated on him hurt and if... he gets over it it will take take.
I don't blame him for being bitter. However, you two need to sit and have a chat, be... (read in full...)
I want to become a stripper!
Q. I know people will read this and may think this sounds like a sleazy kinda job, but I really want to become a lap dancer (stripper) or my biggest dream is to be a burlesque dancer. it has always been my passion, I am an intelligent girl and left ...
A. 8 August 2012: I think if it's something you BURN to do, then do it. But honestly I think your view of the "job" is unrealistic. It's by FAR in 90% of the clubs not a glamorous job.
Men don't sit to admire you... most won't give a flying anything about you or y... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for hating my mother right now?
Q. First of all, I should explain a little bit about my current situation: I am from Mexico, my mother is a US Citizen. My life-long dream has been to live in NYC so ever since I was 12, I've been asking her to get my US Citizenship because as a daught...
A. 7 August 2012: I would look into other ways to obtain your citizenship. And yes your mom sounds like a evil witch to be honest. But you are wasting your emotions on hating her.
Put those into action, find out if there are ways you can study at NYC on a Visa per... (read in full...)
I feel so bad that he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hi everyone. Im bit confused and hope you all might help me. There is this guy working with me who is 6 years younger then me. His my best friend...i always share my problems with him. We always fight and tease each other. Today i came to know that ...
A. 7 August 2012: You like him in a way he can reciprocate. That hurts.
If being around him and being friends hurt, you might want to cut back on hanging out with him. Honestly, I wouldn't tell him how you feel.
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Am I the one with the problem or does it sound like he's having second thoughts?
Q. I wrote a while ago about my boyfriend working in calgary and saying hed be home to stay in august but I wasn't so sure... He's not.. He's supposed to be home in december now. We are engaged now. Planning on our wedding to be next august. But the ...
A. 7 August 2012: I agree, why can't YOU go there?
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If a girl tells a guy that she loves him and his reply is, "You, too," what does it mean?
Q. So, with this being a question regarding the male mind (the most confusing universe in existence), I'm really looking for opinions from some guys. However, if there are any girls who have performed miracles and managed to actually understand what ...
A. 7 August 2012: I think it means that he either isn't ready to say I LOVE YOU or he isn't able to say it yet, neither are a red flag (unless perhaps you have dated for 6+ months then if he CAN say it he ought to)
I find people OVERUSE to term I love you. So I act... (read in full...)
I found the perfect wedding dress, but it is white!
Q. Hello! I am getting married next spring. Excitment! The other day I went window shopping and I've seen the prettiest little (and very cheap) dress ever. But... it's white! I'm in my early 30s and I'm not a virgin anymore and all the people at my we...
A. 7 August 2012: If you love it, WEAR IT! I mean realistically... how many women are virgins on their wedding day? But I bet you 95% of them wouldn't bat an eye in wearing white!
I wore off-white myself, but only because the dress I found were off-white and perf... (read in full...)
Why hasn't my boyfriend divorced his ex wife yet?
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship of about four months with a wonderful guy, and it's probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. We hardly have cause to fight, we don't live in each others' pockets or see too little of each other and we ...
A. 7 August 2012: I know my husband's divorce took 18 months (WAY WAY before I got into the picture).
However, if they don't share real-estate and kinds it "should" be fairly straight forward and easy.
I agree that it might NOT be a red flag. Yet.
Why not... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad thing to call back and ask her out for coffee?
Q. So, stayed for a few days in a hotel a couple of days ago and guess I took a bit of a liking to one of the girls on reception. Would it be a bad thing to call back and ask her out for coffee? I guess I just don't want to do so by calling her at w...
A. 7 August 2012: It's a hard one really. I worked at the reception/front desk at a hotel and it was my JOB to be courteous, friendly and full of smiles. I did get asked out by guests a few times, but as it was company policy they were all very politely turned ... (read in full...)
Am I a rebound? Is my boyfriend just using me to make his pregnant ex jealous?
Q. Well thank you for reading. Here it goes short version. I met a guy 3 days after his relationship ended. He has known her for 11 years, dated off and on. Now she is pregnant and broke up with him and we started dating three days after. He te...
A. 7 August 2012: Who knows how long before they broke up, he checked out of the relationships BUT.... If he jumped into a new relationship 3 DAYS after breaking up an old 11 year old relationship and one that PRODUCED a child..... I would be cautious, very ... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend didn't like our friendship and now he won't talk to me!
Q. I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had. About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mi...
A. 7 August 2012: I don't see why the pet names are that important, however I would not really appreciate someone calling my husband babe/sweetheart. Specially if she is JUST a friend, even a good one, it's not needed in a friendship.
But she does seem to have gon... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: This is one of those things where... he needs to figure it out on his own, he needs to grow up on his own when he is good and ready.
Maybe you outgrew him?
But expecting him to change because YOU want him to is unrealistic. Maybe he was the... (read in full...)
Am I that unappealing to him?
Q. I recently found out that my boyfriend of over a year finds me sexually unappealing. He has never gone out and slept with another woman that I know of but every time we have sex I find out later that he was sexting other women and receiving pics of ...
A. 6 August 2012: It has nothing to do with you being sexually appealing or not, your BF is a cheating douche.
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My friend is planning the same trip with me and someone else too? How do I talk to her about it?
Q. Hi there, thanks in advance for offering me some assistance: ) A friend and i were planning a trip overseas and the other day i asked him if we were still on board with it. They said of course we were. However, they later made a joke that they'd...
A. 6 August 2012: Just ask the friend straight out. Tell him you are a little confused. Are we going or are you and Susan going or do you think all 3 of us are going?
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My best friends stopped talking and hanging out with me, I did nothing wrong, How do I get their friendship back?
Q. Since we were born, I was best friends with these two girls. As close as possible, you can't even imagine. Things went smooth for 14 years, and then we graduated middle school. The two of them went to the same high school and I went to a different, ...
A. 6 August 2012: I think they felt they went one direction and you another (with schools and all) so it happened gradually. You didn't do anything wrong, you all just grew apart.
If you feel like they are rubbing it in on Facebook and whatnot, hide their updates.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ruining my life! How do I get out of this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is ruining my life. We have been in a LDR for a couple years now. I work and go to university, he doesn't have a job and hasn't for years. If I bring up that he should get a job/do something with his life then he gets pissed off and ...
A. 6 August 2012: First off, cancel all your online accounts. And make new ones. THAT HE DOESN'T have access too. Change your e-mail address and phone number. If he has/had access to your bank info get that changed too. CHANGE EVERYTHING and do it fast and before he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends ex is spreading around that he uses girls for money which isn't true! what should I do?
Q. Ive been with my current boyfriend for 8 months now. To begin with when we first started seeing each other his ex was still trying to get him back and would basically slag me. She would text him saying he should stop seeing me and that im a fa...
A. 6 August 2012: Take your BF home to meet your family. Beforehand sit down with your BF and make budget so they can see where the money goes. (since they are worried about that)
As for the EX, don't jump in the gutter with her. IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE.
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Is he playing games with me? Likes me? Or just a guy who tells lies?
Q. There is this guy, lets say his name is john. This started the first day I moved to town he when I met him. He asked me a whole bunch of questions and told me fake stories to make him self seem really cool. He flirts with almost every girl i...
A. 6 August 2012: Honestly, one thing is making himself look good, but that only works for people who either don't get caught lying or those who do not lie.
From the little you have written about him, I would stay clear.... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm a slut because I'm friendly!
Q. i am a friendly outgoing person and i love meeting new people even if it means talking to the person near me while waiting in pizza hut! my bf says its slutty and that i give off the wrong impression. but i chat with old young man women fat thin its ...
A. 6 August 2012: So he hasn't really forgiven you for cheating and he hasn't really moved ON from the cheating.
However, is it fair that he keeps "punishing" you for a past mistake? If he really can't get past the cheating (and some can't) then he should have lef... (read in full...)
I'm 25 while he's in his 40s'. Is dating someone so much older really a good idea?
Q. I am 25 years old and I work with an older man in his 40s. He sits in the cubicle behind me and another girl. The three of us always chatted and had silly conversations. I'd always greet him in the mornings and speak with him. We'd go out for coffee ...
A. 5 August 2012: As long as you go slow I don't see that the age different will matter much, the only drawback I see... is that you work at the same place. Romance in the work place can end really really awkward if it doesn't pan out.
I'm not sure if what you feel... (read in full...)
I told him I wasn't a virgin but I really am! Should I tell him the truth or just keep going along with it?
Q. I've started seeing this guy whom I really really like. We have been friends for a long time and lately it has grew into something more and we decided that we would start dating. But the thing is that a while back when we were still just friends we ...
A. 5 August 2012: Tell him. He is not going to dump over this, and IF he does.. his loss right?
Just explain why you lied.
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My 3 year old is stubborn and it's exhausting! what do I do?
Q. okay i aaam going crazy i got a 3 years old boy he is sooo stubborn never listens and if i say go wash your hands if you dont u il get sick he says okay i want to get sick, brush ur teeth if u dont your teeth well fall out he says i want my teeth ...
A. 5 August 2012: If he won't wash his hand, walk him out in the bathroom and wash hands with him, don't let him "talk his way out of it". If he doesn't want to brush his teeth (and by the way a 3 year old can NOT brush his own teeth, you need to do that or his dad) ... (read in full...)
His sister is trying to muscle in my planned new house.
Q. Background: My fiance and I have been together for about three years now, and currently live together in a one bedroom apartment. Our relationship is healthy and stable, we are each other's best friends. We are planning on getting married and buying ...
A. 5 August 2012: I think you need to sit your fiance down and explain how you feel BEFORE she comes out there. He is NOT a mind reader and can't know how you actually feel.
Some brother and sister have a very tight bond, so you need to accept that, but that doe... (read in full...)
Why am I cruel because I don't want to be this woman's baby daddy?
Q. I met her in my 20's, she worked with me, and is almost 14 years older than me. She had a reputation as the office slut (she worked as a prostitute before), and almost half of my colleagues slept with her after exchanging money to her.(She even ...
A. 5 August 2012:
What I wonder is why you even bother keeping her around as a "friend". I don't see what YOU get out of this friendship? She broke up a relationship of yours and you STILL talk to her?
No, you have no obligations to be anyone's babydaddy.
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B/f says I'm a slut because I'm friendly!
Q. i am a friendly outgoing person and i love meeting new people even if it means talking to the person near me while waiting in pizza hut! my bf says its slutty and that i give off the wrong impression. but i chat with old young man women fat thin its ...
A. 5 August 2012: No, he is NOT right. Talking to people doesn't make you a slut. IF people you are talking to "get the wrong idea" well, then it's on them, isn't it? It's not like you walk up to random strangers and talk sex is it?
And you are NOT his mates GF... (read in full...)
I left contact info for one girl, but another girl contacted me! Why?
Q. I am 19 years old, a guy, a took a family holiday this month with my mum and sister. In Majorca, I totally fell for our holiday rep, who was blonde, adorable, and most likely a couple of years older. I never managed to make conversation but said hi ...
A. 5 August 2012: If you never really talked to the "blond" it's most likely that she wasn't interested back. However, the other girl might have noticed you and therefore contacted you.
Sorry :(... (read in full...)
Why a year later am I the chosen one? We broke up. But since then we have had sex.
Q. I'm in love with my ex after I broke up with him for cheating. we have not been together in a year. we had sex he didn't call or text after that and he has a big ego, so he won't say how it was or say he misses me I didn't text or call him eit...
A. 5 August 2012: I think it's pretty obvious. You WERE a booty call.
Auntie BimBim got it right.
When you are willing to have sex with him NSA (no strings attached) he will do it, if he doesn't have someone else to have sex with at that moment.
Since... (read in full...)
Was he just after sex? Should I call or wait for him?
Q. Hi. I met a Brazilian guy last wed .we met online and I knew before we met we would have a great time and great chemistry .well I was right .we had a great time chatting about all sorts of things .I am aware that Brazilian men are very forward but ...
A. 5 August 2012: It does sound like he just wanted sex and when he didn't get it, he stopped the contact, but I could be wrong.
I think it's ALWAYS sensible to wait with the sex til you have an idea of whom you are dating/seeing.
So, honey maybe it wasn't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes it out like I'm the bitch from hell but he's the difficult one!
Q. I can't stop arguing with my boyfriend. Last week we started having sex doggy style but it hurt me as he's quite big. Because I was moving away from him he got really angry forced me off him and pushed me down onto the bed. I felt really humiliated ...
A. 5 August 2012: Sounds like you BF is a controlling, insecure, spoiled, unreasonable and immature idiot.
As for the father of you child, YOU TWO share a bond over this child, whether your BF likes it or not. REASONABLE adults will understand that there WILL be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for lips to be red around the edges of mouth and puffy after a makeout session with Bf?
Q. Its been a while since I broke up with my ex several months ago, so I gave my love a second chance to this nice guy I met in my Senior year at high school. Funny how I danced with him at Prom (but never told my parents about it), and I soon happen ...
A. 5 August 2012: Yes, after a good long kissing session it's certainly not uncommon to have slightly swollen lips and the red, may not be totally common but you did after all swap a lot of spit, honey. So a little irritation is not uncommon either.
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Does my b/f want a threesome? He lets his friends hit on me!
Q. Lately my bf of 4yrs has been letting his friends hit on me. They will do it right in front of him and he just smirks. They say some inappropriate things most of the time. Then just yesterday i was with my bf and his bff and his best friend would ...
A. 5 August 2012: Next time (if you stay with this guy) one of his friends get a little to handsy/rubbing on you tell him to back the F away. You don't have to take that kind of disrespect.
Tell the "friend" to go hump a cactus.
Walk away from the situation, d... (read in full...)
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