Why did he meet me for coffee, if he thought I lived too far away to date?!
Q. Hello everyone, I will try and make this short, and thank you for reading. I met a guy online a few months back, (he's 42, me 46yrs) and slowly over a month we began to get to know more about each other, and we spoke a few times over the telepho...
A. 26 July 2012: Honestly, I would worry that his other "lead" or "date" didn't pan out so he went back and found your phone number, again.
Bad English/Bad German is irrelevant up to a point, either he was interested or he wasn't, you know what I mean? IF you two ... (read in full...)
19 and never had a girlfriend, is my situation normal enough?
Q. At 19 I haven’t ever had a proper girlfriend. Over the past few years I have had two ‘flings’ and since starting university a couple of one night stands, so I’m not inexperienced or a virgin but I’ve never had a proper, long term and committed ...
A. 15 July 2012: I think it's pretty normal. There is no expiration date on you as far as dating, so take it easy enjoy uni.
Practice your social skills, university is a great place for it.
And relax. :)... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years and he's bored with me. Should I end things?
Q. Dated this man for 2 years. He's bored with me already. He prefers gym over dinner with me. He prefers to chat online with random girls over chatting with me. p/s: we don't live together Should I put up with this?...
A. 15 July 2012: Why should you put up with it?
I certainly wouldn't. Maybe he is pushing YOU to be the dumper not the dumpee.
I don't think it comes down to him being bored with you, I think it comes down to him having other priorities and being selfish.
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How should I approach my cum fetish
Q. SO I am currently in a relationship with my lovely girlfriend. We have what i would call a healthy sex life for two eighteen year olds. However i am openly bisexual and I have discussed this with my girlfriend. She is fine with it as long as i dont ...
A. 15 July 2012: If this is something you have a huge URGE to do, then be single and have a "cum fest" til your hearts desire.
She already told you, she is not interested dating someone who wants to be with other people.
So it's time for you to decide what's mo... (read in full...)
I can't deal with negativity but she doesn't want to change!
Q. I met someone 2/12 years ago; she deals with negativity, maybe bi-polar but will not see a doctor. May also suffer from menopause. Always seems to just focus on looking at things from negative perspective which is frustrating, rarely has anything ...
A. 15 July 2012: Stop flogging the dead horse.
Being in a relationship can be hard at times, but it shouldn't be this uphill battle constantly.
She is a grown up and needs to start taking care of herself and YOU need to realize that you keep doing the same t... (read in full...)
Just as we were about to start IVF we found out I was pregnant!
Q. My boyfriend and I have just found out we are having a baby, which is amazing and a miracle, as we were on our journey of ivf, but found out the day before treatment started that I was pregnant.My boyfriend has been different towards me since we ...
A. 15 July 2012: Congratulations!
And honey, talk to him.... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity without sex?
Q. hi,my question is,m not married yet,,but i m in relationship,my boyfriend put his hand finger inside my virgin and rub inside me many time,i also smooch his penis many time,,,but sometimes i feel i lose my virginity,,,,without sex..is in it ...
A. 15 July 2012: Technically losing your virginity means:
Penis insertion in the vagina.
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We split up but he suggested a FWB arrangement. Should I do it?
Q. I've met this man right after I ended my marriage of 20 years. It was so nice to feel being wanted and loved again. He is 16 years older than me. Four years on I don't love him any more. He is not a caring person and just enjoy being looked ...
A. 15 July 2012: I wouldn't advice doing it either. I would just cut him out of your life 100%. Keeping him around even for a FWB will hold you back from finding someone decent IMHO.
Let's say you start dating again and the guy is "perfect" but he was involved... (read in full...)
Does this married older woman want to sleep with me?
Q. Ok im 21 and i work in an office with only one other male, all the rest are female. There is one woman in the office who is constantly flirting with me and complimenting me--and i mean outrageously. At a recent night out too she stayed with me all ...
A. 14 July 2012: She might "think" she wants to have sex with you, but I highly doubt she really does. Either way I think it's irrelevant what SHE wants...
YOU should not WANT to be THAT GUY. The one who will sleep with anything with a pulse, married or not marr... (read in full...)
I've caught him cheating 3 times. What should I do?
Q. The first time I caught him emotionally cheating on me was when I saw flirty messages that he exchanged with some girl while I was pregnant and excited to show him our baby's first ultrascan. The second time was when I caught him chatting and ...
A. 14 July 2012: Obviously he isn't going to stop.
So it leave the ball in your court, you can either live with a serial cheater or leave him in your dust and dump him.
I can tell you this, once you lose trust in your partner other feeling follow or are re... (read in full...)
I'm a 44 year old virgin, 1st time will be with escort. Any advice?
Q. I posted an earlier question about losing my virginity to an escort agency because i have never had sex or been on a date. Many thanks for the responses!! Someone answered that i couldn't possibly be so ugly, well you don't get to be 44 and not...
A. 14 July 2012: If you do go through with it just be honest with her as far as the virginity stuff and make SURE you ask upfront if sex is possible or not. (not sure if you asked the agency)
And also, I'm not sure about the laws for escorts i the UK, but... i... (read in full...)
I didn't let him touch me and now he's ignoring me. Did I handle the situation wrong?
Q. I met this guy at the weekend who I know through mutual friends and we went on a first date in the week. The drinks were flowing and we were having a smashing time, it was like the night should never have ended. I felt so comfortable. Anyway he ...
A. 14 July 2012: 1. You should have stood your ground and not gone home with him honestly.
2. Ask him, if you like him talk to him.
Could be all he wanted was sex from you but since you didn't want to "play" along he is miffed... Not sure.
I'd call him se... (read in full...)
Is he running scared? First It's FWB then he says 'be careful' when I go out, now it's 'I love u"?
Q. Is he falling for me? My friend introduced me to this guy, we started talking through facebook for a while then decided to meet for a date. The date went really well, until we slept with each other at the end of the night, big mistake i though...
A. 14 July 2012: The thing is.. what do YOU want? Do you even know if you like him as more then a f-buddy?
If you do tell him you would like to date him, be honest, what do you have to lose?
... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth all the pressure he is putting on me to have a baby and move in with his parents?
Q. Here is my story. My bf and I are in a slump and a lot of crap has happened between us and now I'm being pressured by him. I feel super lost right now. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 1/2 years and before all the trouble began, we had ...
A. 14 July 2012: I agree with Cindy, NO to the babies.... there is NO reason to have them yet.
Cut your losses and dump him. He should cheat and he SURELY shouldn't pressure you into having a baby with him.
Can you imagine being STUCK with this guy? And hi... (read in full...)
Why does my ex say hello in person and then block me on facebook?
Q. My ex and I broke up a few days ago. I ran into him at the mall today. He came up to me to say hello and how are you, then we said bye. Then tonight I logged onto Facebook and saw that he deleted me. What is this conflicting behavior? ...
A. 14 July 2012: It means he has manner (saying hello when you met in person).
But he deleted and blocked you, so he can get over you.
It makes perfect sense to me.... (read in full...)
Why did he say "keep your looks"?
Q. Hi this is just a quick question my fwb ended things with me after 18 months well I think he has ended it with me as I haven't spoken to him for a few weeks he started complaining that he always gets in touch with me even though I do text him but ...
A. 14 July 2012: Who knows? I would just stop wasting time on the guy and his comments.
... (read in full...)
Will I still bleed the first time I have sex?
Q. I'm a virgin buh a week ago i masturbated nd fingered mysef then i notice dat i'm not as tight as before.do u tink i will still bleed when i decide 2 hav sex?...
A. 14 July 2012: You don't get "loose" from masturbating. The vagina is a MUSCLE.
You may or may not bleed, not every woman does. There is no way for us to tell if you will or not.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sister to accept herself and let a guy into her life?
Q. I need some advice on giving advice. My sister is helping me move into my new apartment and we were talking and for some reason, sex came up. She confessed she's still a virgin at 25 and she was worried about it. Honestly I don't know what to say. ...
A. 14 July 2012: Tell her to start trusting her instincts. Like you said she is different from you. So as where having sex early, taking risk was something YOU did, it might not work at all for her.
I would encourage her to get out there, be social, to date.
... (read in full...)
Should I continue to give her support? Or is she using me? Should I distance myself from her?
Q. Hi there, I m male 42, married. Couple of years back, we came across a divorcee (46, self employed) and now she is good friend of us. We used to visit her home once a week for drinks or just chat, go movie / restaurant together once a month. ...
A. 14 July 2012: What does you wife think in all this? Have you asked her?
Honestly, you are a friend you do NOT have to help with the son's marriage arrangements unless you want to. He HAS two parents even if they are divorced.
You are married so being/feelin... (read in full...)
Do I still love my husband and want attention?
Q. I am Planning to split with my husband of 12 years since he's been cheating, controlling and rude and I said I wanted out coz I just felt completely devoid of love for him and even felt I was getting attracted to other men which is very unlike me... ...
A. 14 July 2012: Seems more like you got yourself an unpleasant room mate who you used to have feelings for.
I think you might have a little bit of fear of being on your own, but I do think you should consider NOT living together with him, as he seems rather t... (read in full...)
My fiance was killed in the army and I don't know how to make myself keep going
Q. I'm a CNA working overtime constantly to keep my mind occupied while my fiance has been in the Army. I've been working towards my nursing degree when I got the worst news any young woman whose man is in the military could get. Its been a month since ...
A. 14 July 2012: You can contact MilitaryOneSource ( I'm pretty sure they can help you)
1-800-342-9647
You need grief counseling, honey.
What you feel IS normal. It just doesn't feel good.
My heart breaks for you and his family.
... (read in full...)
How can I stop my 2 year old from calling every guy he meets daddy?
Q. I am a single mother of a 2 year old boy. His father is not currently around and has only seen him a handful of times in his whole life. Hasn't seen him in months. The problem is everytime I go to a function or hang out with friends every man thats ...
A. 14 July 2012: You can't really stop him from doing it, you can tell him that :"no, that's not daddy - it's so and so" and move on, make no big deal out of it. It's quite natural.
My oldest daughter would call EVERY guy she saw daddy too, as long as they wor... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 14 July 2012: Good for you! I'm glad you called the place. You did the right thing.
As for asking for help, well sometimes that too, is the right thing to do. You already KNEW the right thing to do, you just need to learn to trust your instincts.
And you... (read in full...)
I don't know if my g/f had sex with someone while we were broke up. How can I trust her?
Q. Ok thIs may be a stupid question, but me and this girl had been dating a year an a half an she claimed to be in love with me! Well we had a bad breakup and were broken up for a week and she started talking to the guy she lost her virginity to and ...
A. 14 July 2012: If she won't tell you, there is no way any of us here can.
But you need to look a the big picture here, DO you want to be with her or not, regardless of who she might or might not have slept with while you two were broken up.
I think you should... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad at me for something that isn't really my fault. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend working outside the country, he flies back every few months and I have been to see him twicein the pasy year. I bought him a plane ticket to come home for my birthday in April and his first words at the time were'when it's my ...
A. 13 July 2012: Because it's easier to be mad at you then own up to the fact that he didn't take the time to try and arrange for you to come see him any sooner, it's not like he didn't know WHEN his b-day was going to roll around.
I would not bring it up any more... (read in full...)
Why did he meet me for coffee, if he thought I lived too far away to date?!
Q. Hello everyone, I will try and make this short, and thank you for reading. I met a guy online a few months back, (he's 42, me 46yrs) and slowly over a month we began to get to know more about each other, and we spoke a few times over the telepho...
A. 13 July 2012: I think it was an attempt to let you down easily. Saying that the distance meant that much. But it could also be that he's tried the dating someone who lives 2 hours away before and it didn't work.
I think if he had been REALLY interested he would... (read in full...)
What can we do to prove to my boyfriend's parents that we aren't just another high school relationship and that we have a real future?
Q. Okay, so I am 19 and my boyfriend just 20 last week. We have been together since we were 16 and have been through so much together. Last year he, and his family, moved 1,200 miles away and we made the choice to break up. His parents, who claimed ...
A. 13 July 2012: Well your BF is 20 so in a way they have no say. However, if he is living WITH them, they can make their opinion known. And they can deny you into their home.
What can you two do? Continue to build a future, prove them wrong?... (read in full...)
After five years of being together, I don't love him anymore, and he can't let go. What should I do?
Q. I've been with this man 16 years older than me after I ended my marriage of 20 years. Five years on, I found him too old for me and he is not a caring person I've always wanted in my life. We live in separate home and he has been helpful around my ...
A. 13 July 2012: Honestly, if you don't WANT to then tell him you can't handle the contact. You don't OWE him anything and it's not your job to entertain him.
He needs to find his own bliss and so do you.
... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are just a hookup or a guy wants something more?
Q. How do you know if you are just a hookup or a guy wants something more? So I'm in college and from what I know about guys is if they just want a hookup, it usually after a drunk night and then the only time they want to talk to you is when you are ...
A. 13 July 2012: If you continue to hang out without sex, he might be interested in more, if you have sex and still see each other he might think you are doing the FWB or he might want more.
Only way you will really know is by asking him.... (read in full...)
Do I sleep with our roommate to get the excitement back with my boyfriend or just over my crush on him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and think I've started falling for our roommate. Our relationship has always been rocky because of his ADHD and being Bipolar. He's expressed wanting to sleep with new girls just for the excitement ...
A. 13 July 2012: Since you own the house, give everybody 30 days (or 60-90) whatever works for you and ask them to move out. Seems like they are taking your for granted in more ways then one.
If a relationship doesn't work, taking a break rarely fixes it. It can t... (read in full...)
My husband of 20 years left me for a sugar girl who is 24 years his junior. Any advice?
Q. my husband of 20 years left me for a girl that is 24 years younger than him. im new to the site but could use all the help i can get. im getting better each day. i still love him very much, and unfortunatly and am still in hopes that this ...
A. 12 July 2012: I'm normally not the most vindictive person but... I will agree 100% with So_Very_Confused
Take him for all he is worth.
Don't take him back, because the guy you might have thought he was, he isn't. I understand wanting out of a bad marriage o... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong?
Q. Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong ?. He was supposed to meet me at my house on Tuesday afternoon and then we were going to go to his house, but he didn't turn up. I was tempted to go round to his house anyway, but i ...
A. 12 July 2012: Couldn't he JUST have called you to let you know he wasn't feeling up to visiting you?
I think he is being an ASS, but maybe he is just really scared?
And the whole FB issue.... VERY immature.
Talk to him and if it begins to look like he r... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about moving there to be with him, is it possible with this age gap?
Q. Hi.. First thing excuses for my English. I will try to explain myself the best I can. I been separated for one year and a half. We didnt divorced yet. I live alone and have my own/independent life so I started to meet people here and there. ...
A. 12 July 2012: Finish the divorce first, that should be your primary priority.
I don't think the age gap is that huge, but I do think you need to slow down just a little.... (read in full...)
Now that he has a new girlfriend, I'm jealous, should I delete my ex from Facebook
Q. Should I delete my ex from Facebook? We dated two years ago and have been friends for two years. But for the past couple of months, I've been obsessing over him after learning of his new girlfriend. It's distracting me from my studies and completely ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think it would be a good thing to delete him, time for you to truly let him go and stop living in the past.
I vote delete. It's JUST Facebook.... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 12 July 2012: I do think he is with holding to punish you for some or other reason, however when you keep "rewarding" him, I guess he thinks he is still "winning" whatever little grudge he is holding.
I think you need to talk to him and not let him brush yo... (read in full...)
Do I sleep with our roommate to get the excitement back with my boyfriend or just over my crush on him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and think I've started falling for our roommate. Our relationship has always been rocky because of his ADHD and being Bipolar. He's expressed wanting to sleep with new girls just for the excitement ...
A. 12 July 2012: Easy answer, NO.... (read in full...)
After 1 date he decided he didn't want to see me anymore
Q. what do you think of such a person? I recently met a man who acted as if he was very much interested in me. He gave me so much attention, I was the centre of his world and he firmly believed that I was the right person for him. We talked a lot, he ...
A. 12 July 2012: Then be twice as glad he didn't suggest anything further and that you can now pursue a guy with more honorable intentions.
He sounds like a total toad.... (read in full...)
7 months into marriage and we hardly ever have sex....and to make things worse I find out he has a fat fetish! What should I do?
Q. only 7 months into a marriage and have caught him 4 times watching porn, 80 naked photos of ex in our bedroom, one tucked away in his drawer..obviously a favorite.random photos of naked woman in his home...just everywhere. no i didnt need to snoop ...
A. 11 July 2012: I'm so sorry. :( I would say if you and your new husband think you two can fix it, then go for it, if not better get out fast & clean.
... (read in full...)
Is he at risk of getting HPV from me?
Q. I have been treated for genital warts, they came back after the next month, I had sex recently, but it was protected, I almost gave him oral but I pulled out right away, is he still in risk of getting hpv? ...
A. 11 July 2012: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm/
Good to know info. For you and your guy.... (read in full...)
Why do women insist on pursuing a man knowing that he's in a relationship?
Q. This question is primarily for females. Why is it when u meet someone new or connect with someone from ur past and one of u are in a relationship with someone else, WHY DO WOMEN PERSIST ON SEDUCING THE PERSON KNOWING THEIR IN A RELATIONSHIP? Is it ...
A. 11 July 2012: I honestly don't know why anyone would do such a thing. I was raised quite differently.
All I can say.. is some people lack morals, values, common sense and a slew of other basic decent human qualities. Why they lack them, I don't know.... (read in full...)
After 1 date he decided he didn't want to see me anymore
Q. what do you think of such a person? I recently met a man who acted as if he was very much interested in me. He gave me so much attention, I was the centre of his world and he firmly believed that I was the right person for him. We talked a lot, he ...
A. 11 July 2012: Thank your lucky star you didn't waste any more time with him and move ion. Sometimes you get an instant connection, sometimes you don't.
Don't beat yourself up over it.... (read in full...)
I've moved to be with my boyfriend and now I'm depressed thinking I've made a big mistake...help!
Q. Please help! Feel like i'm losing it all :( I will try and make this short. Been together with my boyfriend 11 years we have had our ups and downs. We are compatible for the most part and sex is not an issue. But I have put up with a lot and have...
A. 11 July 2012: Seems like you are not his first or even second priority.
So you know where you are at in your life, is this something you want to KEEP doing or you want to change it? As I see it, the only way to change anything is to leave, go back and start ov... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 8 July 2012: I think the part about his GF's snooping is BALONEY, again he is blaming other people for his behavior and for his LACK of it.
I say this, do not reply, do not feel "sorry" for him.
Why not go to the range (bring your Dad if possible), see w... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 6 July 2012: I would ring the Archery place and let them know, and I would keep going. I would not let some creep keep me from doing what I love.
If he tried to be "friendly" just walk away. And I do suggest that you ask for a lane or target area away from him... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 4 July 2012: You wrote a lot more polite e-mail then I would have.. :) Good for you.
Yes, I think you did well in your answer, you didn't make him look bad (even if we all think he does lol) You didn't go into specific details, but you were polite and to the p... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 4 July 2012: His latest email shows what a passive aggressive A-hole he really is.. Look at his e-mail.. It's all about HOW YOU made him feel and how WRONG YOU are...
NONE of his behavior is what I would assume as "normal" for someone offering friendsh... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 3 July 2012: I forgot to add that I would make sure you parents or someone you trust knows when you are going to the range (or better yet, don't go alone) ALSO make sure you tell someone about this guy. You parents, friends so forth so his info is out there.
... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 3 July 2012: Honestly he almost sounds scary.
I think he is trying to see how far he can push you. I'm pretty sure that he's done this before to other young girls and getting the result he wanted (sex) or maybe he haven't succeeded yet and therefor pushing ... (read in full...)
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