I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm sorry he isn't even caring about how it affects you.
I think most you guys who aren't in a relationship and some who are responds that way to hearing that they got someone pregnant.
Like they can magically wish it away.
Good luck and c... (read in full...)
Why do woman hook up with married men?
Q. My question is simple, Why do women hook up with a married man? I would like to hear from those who had a relationship with a married man, why did you do it? Love? Sex? Adventure? ...
A. 2 August 2012: Because they can. And because "dating" a married man is "easier" then dating one who doesn't have a wife at home, to wash his dirty sock, fold his laundry, cook him dinners, clean the house, take care of the kids..........
They lack morals. ... (read in full...)
If I started dating to spice up my marriage would that be cuckolding my husband?
Q. AS a joke my husband took and posted few photos of me on the internet. Over time he received loads of request for more and after telling me what he did it became a real turn-on for us both. I later started a web-site and the request for more, gifts ...
A. 2 August 2012: Do you think these guys want to take you out on a date to talk? To treat you like a queen? Or do they want to take you out because they see you as a hole in the mattress for them to use? You have NO idea who those guys may be.
I can't tell you... (read in full...)
Do I show my friend the proof that her boyfriend is cheating on her or not?
Q. I am in a bit of a hard situation here. I have a male friend, and I recently found out that he is on a swinger site, and is meeting random people for sex. Now what he does is his business and normally I couldn't care less, except he has a ...
A. 2 August 2012: Honestly, if HE is your friend, I would confront him first. See what he has to say. But I DO think SHE has a right to know, as he is putting her at risk with his sexual behavior.
There is always the .... *I don't want to get in the middle* ... (read in full...)
Can you tell someone has had anal sex by looking at their bottom?
Q. Hey there everyone! So... I was in a 5-yr-relationship with this guy and we used to have a quite a lot of anal sex. I didn't really like it, but he loved it so I tried to make him happy. Since we broke up I decided I'd never do anal just to make ...
A. 1 August 2012: I don't think so, but WHY do you intend on lying about it? IF this is a guy you want to marry.
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I used my dad's condoms and now I am worried he'll find out
Q. I found 3 condoms in my dad's dresser but the expired over a year a ago so i used one then a few months another one and today i used the last one. My parents fight some what and don't sleep together in the same room, but i watched the last one for a ...
A. 1 August 2012: Tell him, I think he rather you USE condoms then knock up a girl. However.... IF you are old enough to use condoms... you are old enough to buy your own.
And DO NOT use expired condoms any more.... (read in full...)
Can thrush delay your period?
Q. can thrush delay your period?? My periods were due 20/21 July and haven't gotten them yet. But I have had a yeast infection???...
A. 1 August 2012: I am not sure if it can delay it. Is there a chance of being pregnant?
If so, I think your best bet is to take a digital pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is snooping on me via google!
Q. not sure what to do here, but my gf had found out about an abortion approx 4-5 years ago in a previous relationship she got upset at me because its something important i failed to tell jer, she said she wasnt checking up on me, but googled my n...
A. 31 July 2012: The fact that you two have dated for a whole year, and NOW she's started to snoop? Makes me wonder a little.
I hope however, that the two of you had a good long conversation. And that you... in the future, pay attention to what you "put" out ther... (read in full...)
We broke up, and now he want his gifts back.
Q. hi guys 3 months ago i broke up with my boyfriend who was really bad to me,we are now exs. i wrote in about him a while ago and i got some really nice advice to just leave him,so i did that and everything has been okay but i havent been able to get ...
A. 31 July 2012: I agree, make copies if you REALLY think you need/want then and mail him the originals, I wouldn't even bother meeting him face to face to give em back. That will just make him think you "care".
Get him and all his "little gifts" out of your lif... (read in full...)
Did my counselor speak in an incorrect way to me in offering to help?
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently I went through a difficult time at home; my mother had a near fatal car accident and is still in the process of recovering. The counselor at my old school heard about the accident and contacted me. He told me that if ever nee...
A. 31 July 2012: I think the guy just takes his job serious.
And I think your friends are reading something into it that isn't there.
I agree with So_Very_Confused when she said, you can't JUST turn that off. It's what he does.
Now if you don't want his he... (read in full...)
My business partner is flirting with my crush and it's causing major waves in our friendship.
Q. Ok here goes. My bussiness partner is well known as a "Playa", so we'll call him P. He and I are friends first, partners in bussiness second. P is known for his success in seducing attractive young girls, something that I will admit gets me jealous ...
A. 31 July 2012: Sorry, you can't call DIPS on another human being.
And honestly, you make it out to be that these girls have no brains and just CAN'T resist your friend P. As I see it, if a woman is THAT easily swooning over P, they aren't worth trying for.
... (read in full...)
My ex and I have a daughter together and although he has contact with me, he doesn't even try to see her. Whats going on?
Q. My ex who happen's to be my child's father has not been in my life for the past 5 years. No contact from him what so ever. He came back around as he was in the middle of getting a divorce from his wife. His first contact was to try to have a second ...
A. 30 July 2012: As hard as it is, I think the best thing to do is to regard him as a "stranger" with whom you share a child. And honestly, if he doesn't want to see his OWN child I wouldn't want to spend even 5 seconds with him. If he wants to see her but doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do posters on Dear Cupid frame their questions in a way that would lead to them getting answers which they unknowingly want?
Q. This isn't a question about myself, it's about all of us in general who post questions here on dearcupid. I think it's an odd set up because, like with any agony aunt site, the only information the answerer has to go on lies with the questioner, and ...
A. 30 July 2012: I don't think they do. Or a lot of people who (for instance) cheat would never get any answers they want to hear.
Usually you see a poster who actually KNOW what they "ought" to do, but they don't either trust their instincts or they just need a s... (read in full...)
My guy has never cheated on me but I give him the 3rd degree after he goes out!
Q. I have been with my man for almost a year now, we get along pretty well and love each other very much. the one problem that has occured repeatedly is me not trusting him when he is out. i have no basis for this except my past seems to be constantly ...
A. 30 July 2012: You need to control yourself, to NOT give him the 3rd degree the moment he gets home. YOU CAN NOT let the actions of former partners DICTATE your behavior or let past actions of the same former partners, be an EXCUSE to behave with such distrust and ... (read in full...)
I applied at a strip club, the boss wants me to strut my stuff
Q. I applied to work in a strip club (I'm female) but the mister who I asked wanted me to "strut my stuff" for him. Is this normal. Do ladies who apply to do what I do (get naked, look sexy and have sex) have to show the "boss" what they do or does he ...
A. 30 July 2012: I highly doubt you will have to have SEX with anyone, but I can imagine the boss wants to know if you can actually dance, so he would want you to "audition".
That is my guess, I would have no idea though, as I would never set foot in a strip cl... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is snooping on me via google!
Q. not sure what to do here, but my gf had found out about an abortion approx 4-5 years ago in a previous relationship she got upset at me because its something important i failed to tell jer, she said she wasnt checking up on me, but googled my n...
A. 30 July 2012: Obviously you are NOT an open book to her, or you wouldn't worry about "what else she might find" as you put it.
However, I don't see anything wrong in having SOME things you haven't shared with her.
I would have to say you need to sit your... (read in full...)
Ex lives the good life while I struggle to make ends meet for myself and our child. Should I take him to court?
Q. I was with my partner for 3 years, we have a two year old child together. I called it quits due to arguing and him not trusting me. So we have been apart for 2 months now, and I am trying to be civil for our child, I have been trying to arrange a ...
A. 30 July 2012: Yes, you should receive some maintenance to help pay for the child you share.
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Is this possible? Could I do it? Want to cut verbally abusive brother out of my life but family frown upon it?
Q. prior to a question id asked the other day http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-brother-is-verbally-abusing-me-and-ive5.html Well i took the great advice , thanks guys for that, decided to cut my brother out of my life. However in doing so, i've h...
A. 29 July 2012: Block his number so he can't text you. If he down the line can behave and treat you like a decent human being he can maybe be unblocked.
Tell your mom that you need to BIG long break from your brother. She can come see the grand-kids all she want... (read in full...)
To me he is perfect. We plan to marry. But do you think he is gay? What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years. He told me approx a year ago that before we got together he had two sexual encounters with another male. He said these two occasions happened within a few weeks of each other. They didnt h...
A. 28 July 2012: I would venture the "guess" of him being bisexual as well. However one thing is to fantasize about it another thing is actually doing it.
If you two plan to marry I think you have every right to know what he intend to do with these fantasie... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has suddenly up and left me for an unemployed drug addict
Q. My boyfriend of just over a year has finished with me for someone else. The woman he has left me for is a drug addict and alcoholic, has had her 3 children taken into care, is dirty, rude, violent, and unemployed living in an extremely run down and ...
A. 28 July 2012: Honestly, GOOD RIDDANCE, honey!!
If that is the kind of woman he wants, let him have her! And for goodness sake if/when he "wakes" up and want to you back, tell him to go jump in a lake.
You can do soooo much better.
Has he ever been into... (read in full...)
How to flirt with women?
Q. I'm a 29 year old guy looking for advice on how, where and when to flirt with women. I stopped trying after my early 20s and I've become pretty clueless and insecure. I'm looking to get back in the game. Any suggestions? ...
A. 28 July 2012: Trust me a smile makes a WAY bigger impact then some overused "hook". Same with being confidant and keep a smile in your eyes when looking at them. Eye contact is vital. PICK up on her cues and mimic them (mirror if you want) not being bad copy cat ... (read in full...)
It's early days for us. So am I worrying for no reason, over his reaction to me touching his phone?
Q. Am I concerned for no reason? Its fairly early days for me and another guy I met online but we have now met up 3 times (have known each other now for a couple of months). Last night we slept together he stayed at mine. He left his mobile phone ...
A. 27 July 2012: Since you already bedded him, I say ask him. However, you have only met 3 times so he might not be up for being exclusive just yet...
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I love him, but he treats me so bad.
Q. Hey everyone, so, I've got a big issue here. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now, and, I love him to pieces. But, recently, he's been treating me so horribly. Recently meaning 2 months ago he started this habit. He's just flat out an ...
A. 27 July 2012: So what is it exactly that you LOVE so much about him?
And just because your BF talks to loads of girls behind your back doesn't mean you need to stoop to his level. You CAN NOT go out on DATES with another guy while you have a BG, that is just ... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 27 July 2012: Only you can make that choice. I'm pro choice. I believe that every woman has the choice to terminate, keep or adopt away a fetus/baby.
If you think you can handle and go through the 9 months of pregnancy and delivery, that is quite a gift to ... (read in full...)
Do other people have weird turn ons like mine?
Q. So yesterday, I decided to try something new and see what it would be like to whip myself and try masturbating afterwards and/or while doing so and see how it does for me.. turns out I kinda liked it. It's like it gave me a sort of rush that made it ...
A. 27 July 2012: My best friend gets turned on by having her toes sucked. The thought of it makes me ill.. So DIFFERENT FOLKS... different strokes.
If you like a spanking, it really doesn't make you a freak.
If your BF doesn't like the idea, maybe let it res... (read in full...)
Is my Gf a compulsive liar? Can I or should I trust her?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been together with a girl for around 2 months now who I met online. A few months before we got together, she told me that she lived in Japan and was studying at a college to draw Japanese comics. She also told me that she grew up ...
A. 27 July 2012: Honestly, I think if anything, this girl needs more help then you can provide and if you are looking for a real honest to goodness relationship.. that you are wasting your time with her.
I think she lies because she doesn't take her "online"... (read in full...)
My brother is verbally abusing me and I've had enough. What should I do now?
Q. just a quick moan, fed up with my younger brother. Hes always been a bit high strung, on his high horse, strong opinionated etc but hes such a hypocrit! Last year he got a 30k pay off from work and pretty much blew the lot on daft nights out, clot...
A. 27 July 2012: Honestly, brother or not, I wouldn't talk to ever again. And I'm serious. I would never help him out again, not ask him for help.
Basically, I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire!
Sorry, I doubt you will ever see the money you "lend" him... (read in full...)
How to flirt with women?
Q. I'm a 29 year old guy looking for advice on how, where and when to flirt with women. I stopped trying after my early 20s and I've become pretty clueless and insecure. I'm looking to get back in the game. Any suggestions? ...
A. 27 July 2012: I agree with Aunt Honesty.
Be yourself, don't try and "fake" it. Be good at listening, remembering and look her in the eyes when talking to her.
Once you get to know her a little and feel more comfortable you might be able to get a banter/fli... (read in full...)
Tried for 18 months. Still not pregnant. What else can my husband and I do to make it happen? Please help?
Q. hi, we are trying from 1 and half year with my husband, we are trying for pregnant and i want to get pregnant soon, within 1 month.please tell me what else to try?....
A. 27 July 2012: I will second Auntie eyeswideopen. Go see a doctor. Maybe you need to start a ovulation chart, maybe you need to get a little help with Clomid (fertility meds to help you produce eggs) Maybe your husband don't produce any swimmers.. You won't know ... (read in full...)
How can I kick my cousin to the curb?
Q. I've have a cousin that i'm very close with but,for the past few years she's been doing some really out of pocket shit to me.I've been wanting to cut her out of my life for a while now but,i've been too afraid to.For the past few years our ...
A. 27 July 2012: Since she is family, I would suggest that the "easiest" way it just to slowly stop being in contact. Don't text or call her, and if she calls/text tell her you can't make it. Sooner or later she will find someone else to hang out with.
Now i... (read in full...)
How to deal with a meddling sister of a boyfriend?
Q. How to deal with a meddling sister of a boyfriend? My question is due to the fact that my boyfriend's sister who has never had a baby and is younger than me yet assumes she knows everything there is to know about me and my pregnancy. I am abou...
A. 26 July 2012: Talk to your BF, he NEEDS to be the one who "reigns" her in. He needs to tell her to but out of the relationship.
And honey, you won't get your body back in a week. It's more like 4 weeks to 6 months depending on how your body handles it all. So ... (read in full...)
I feel he doesn't care about me, anymore, and now he's just using me for his own pleasure.
Q. I have been married for 13 years... we have had or share of ups and downs. He has had PE and only got medication a few months ago. He helps me orgasm by other means. a month ago he woke me up at 2.00 am and aroused me and as i started responding ...
A. 26 July 2012:
I'm guessing he is more upset at himself then at you for not being able to finish what he started.
However, I think you need to talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
How do you bring up mental illness in a delicate way?
Q. I always thought something was off with my BF until recently when I found out for sure there's something very off. I found tiny, secret cameras hidden in small holes all over our apartment, my mail was opened by him, and I think he records my ...
A. 26 July 2012: I also agree with Ciar.
Get far far away from that creeper. He may or may NOT have a mental illness, but what he is doing is WRONG.
I also agree that there is a real chance of you being in danger fr4om this guy.
Get out and get out now.... (read in full...)
Should I be with my husband knowing he belongs somewhere else?
Q. pls help be4 i make a mistake im madly in love with this man my husband and i been trying to make this right from the shock of his cheating that was found out 2 weeks after we got married he was still sleeping with his ex. i have tryed to heal ...
A. 26 July 2012: Sorry, I would end it now. I would NOT want to live my life with a guy who shows me I'm second choice, second best. Who is still dilly dallying with the "ex".
I'd leave, divorce him and find my own happiness. Whatever he does.... that is on him.... (read in full...)
Ladies: What Keeps A Guy Out Your Friend Zone?
Q. I've noticed that some guys sabotage their own luck with women, and may not know it. What they do to woo a woman, can sometimes end up friendzoning him instead. Outside physical attraction (which may be outside your control), what things can a guy...
A. 26 July 2012: If you want to be FRIENDS with a girl the by all means be a friend, but don't expect her to later on to see you as anything else.
At least that is how it's always been for me. I have always had more male friends then female, I just get along wi... (read in full...)
Texting: What boundaries are acceptable?
Q. I was just curious what boundaries various people think is acceptable when it comes to texting, having a few issues in my relationship because of this at the moment. In my opinion when you get in bed together to watch tv etc phones should be left ...
A. 26 July 2012: I think, in general, people are being ridiculous about their cell phones. No one is SO important that the must ALWAYS be with in a phone calls reach. People need to lighten up. LIVE life, take PART in life - not live through a phone.
I think I ... (read in full...)
Why did he meet me for coffee, if he thought I lived too far away to date?!
Q. Hello everyone, I will try and make this short, and thank you for reading. I met a guy online a few months back, (he's 42, me 46yrs) and slowly over a month we began to get to know more about each other, and we spoke a few times over the telepho...
A. 26 July 2012: Honestly, I would worry that his other "lead" or "date" didn't pan out so he went back and found your phone number, again.
Bad English/Bad German is irrelevant up to a point, either he was interested or he wasn't, you know what I mean? IF you two ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a bitch but I want to break up with him
Q. Its been three years with this guy. Im over it i'm done.i'm a senior in high school now I need to get my life together and I can't when i'm being held back because of him.I recently went to Paris and its changed my perspective on life and ...
A. 26 July 2012: Then let him down gently. Breaking up with him doesn't make you a bitch. IF you genuinely don't want to be with him, you need to end it.
... (read in full...)
Do I tell friend what I seen?
Q. i've just seen my mate flirting with her best friend's boyfriend what do i do?...
A. 26 July 2012: Is she is a good "mate" of yours ask her if she thinks it's OK. Some people have a certain banter with people they are around all the time.
And there is flirting/teasing and hitting on people.
Does she do it when the GF is around?... (read in full...)
My manager and I have a crush on each other. What advice can you offer on dating, or not dating him?
Q. My manager and I have "secretly" liked one another for the past three months. We never did anything directly due to professionality but I'm sure both of us could tell. And considering he's extremely busy it probably wouldn't have worked out. ...
A. 26 July 2012: How old is he? Is he currently dating anyone? Is he married? If you can answer no, the the last two questions and if you want to go out on a date with him, why not?
In general I believe in no dating co-workers. Since he is not working with you... (read in full...)
After asking me to leave and uprooting my life, now b/f wants me to come back!
Q. hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years. Recently he asked me to leave because he needed time to think about what he wanted. He has asked me to leave and come back various times in the past aswell. But this time i ...
A. 25 July 2012: If you can't deal with a yo-yo relationship, maybe it's time to call quits. Obviously, he won't stop this behavior, since he gets what he wants.. for you to go away when asked and return when asked.
You have to ask yourself WHAT am I getting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a very close relationship with his ex, should I be worried or just accept it?
Q. Ok here it goes and thanks... This guy I'm seeing for about 3 months seems to have a very close relationship with his ex who's the mother of his two boys. They play hockey together 2-3 times a week, he works for her, then he goes to her house 1-...
A. 25 July 2012: I think it's good that he is spending that much time with the kids. When there are kids involved it ALWAYS get more tricky.
Do your own kids spend time with their dad? What are the ages of the kids?
I have to say in my book, it's a GOOD thin... (read in full...)
Why did he meet me for coffee, if he thought I lived too far away to date?!
Q. Hello everyone, I will try and make this short, and thank you for reading. I met a guy online a few months back, (he's 42, me 46yrs) and slowly over a month we began to get to know more about each other, and we spoke a few times over the telepho...
A. 13 July 2012: I think it was an attempt to let you down easily. Saying that the distance meant that much. But it could also be that he's tried the dating someone who lives 2 hours away before and it didn't work.
I think if he had been REALLY interested he would... (read in full...)
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