Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 26 August 2012: I don't think you are stupid for wanting to help, to be there for an elderly person who can't help herself, but it's come to a point where you are taken for granted and basically being USED and abused.
Being a good person is not somethin... (read in full...)
What should I have said?
Q. There is a new guy at my job and at first I thought he was nice, but then he spent about 30 minutes trying to convince me that my 3 year relationship is a lie and that it'll end anyway. He has cheated before and is a hardcore clubbing junkie. He's ...
A. 26 August 2012: I would ignore that guy. Honestly I think he was hoping you could be a booty call. That is why he spend 30 minutes trying to convince you that your relationship is bogus, he OBVIOUSLY doesn't really know you.. or your BF.
Ignore him.
If y... (read in full...)
Very Mixed Messages
Q. I am very confused. I met a girl at work recently and we started to get on really well. At work I have helped her out as she is new and this extended to showing her round the area at lunchtime, walking and talking. Then we started texting ...
A. 26 August 2012: O.o Drama Llama Alert!
I would back away from that girl, she sounds nuts!
And honestly, try and find a dating pool that doesn't revolve around your place of work. ... (read in full...)
Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 26 August 2012: Wow, sorry honey, I would WALK away and HE can take care of HIS mother.. I would help out best as I could too, but if SHE is complaining and he gets pissy, it's time for HIM to see what it takes to take care of her. Sounds like you.... need a break ... (read in full...)
I love kids but I don't want to give birth because I'm just terrified of the pain of delivery!
Q. I am 23 years old..I have always loved kids,I see them around I make it a point to go to them,play with them..I would do anything to have one..and I used to always tell my friends that I would want to adopt a baby.. Now fast forward to my current ...
A. 26 August 2012: It's not just 5 minutes of pain and a lifetime of joy. I feared it too and swore after my first child that I would NOT have any more, yet here I am with 3 children and no regrets. If think you are just not ready for it. You probably heard a lot... (read in full...)
How to I tactfully establish boundaries with my in laws?
Q. Hi guys. I have really been hurt by my in laws, especially my husband's sister. She called me recently and shouted at me that i should give my mother in law money and also my other husband's sister who is in school. I have always been doing my be...
A. 26 August 2012: I would make me not want to talk to my in-laws if I had some like yours! I'm so sorry.
When your husband is home next time, you TWO decide what you can afford to give them and stick to that. (if you even WANT to give them anything).
I agree... (read in full...)
Will he grow to love our child?
Q. Dear Cupid I am separated from my husband for a year. Had an affair meanwhile and now I'm pregnant. My bf doesnt want anything to do with me or my pregnancy now. Will he ever love my child if I go on with my pregnancy, I don't want my child to be de...
A. 26 August 2012: I agree it's hard to discern which man you are worried about.
If the father is the "bf" he has every opportunity to walk away, as in many states the child is legally your husband's. As it was conceived during the marriage. So from a legal standpoi... (read in full...)
Our first date I offer to pay his says I can get the next bill..is that odd?
Q. I am looking for some advice. I was talking to this for like 2 weeks I came across online. We hit it off so much we had a date tonight. He wasn't what I expected to be honest. It's not that he's not good looking. He almost looks too good looking. I ...
A. 26 August 2012: Why not give it a few dates and see how you two fit? Not just how you look together?
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She's married and we talk about sex, a lot. Are our talks: Just Friendship,a Green Light or just conversation?
Q. I have a female friend, who was married a few months ago. We spend a lot of time together: grocery shopping, errands, etc. When we are talking about other women in my life, she seems to get jealous and threatening(verbally) toward them. She has ...
A. 26 August 2012: Personally, I have never mixed friends and sex. I have discussed sex with friends but there has never been a crossing of lines (IMHO).
It could be that she is just really comfortable with you and if you overstep, you can't go back to how it was. ... (read in full...)
He performed oral on me and then we broke up. What happened?
Q. He kept telling me how much he wanted me in his life and wants to tell his children and siblings about me but only told siblings and they wasnt happy about it {or he's white and Im black} but he said he didnt care how they feel he cares about me. I ...
A. 26 August 2012: He wanted sex, you "only" let him do oral. Or he just felt it was really weird that he had to prove that he wanted to be with you by doing oral.
Obviously, he wasn't a keeper.... (read in full...)
How do I meet friends and people to socialize with? I feel very lonely.
Q. Hello, I am 24, I've just moved out. I have a job/career that I love and I'm really happy with that aspect of my life. However, I think I've sacrificed a social life to get to where I want/needed to be. I would say, I have three close fr...
A. 26 August 2012: I think joining a gym or taking up a hobby is an excellent way to met new people. You can not RELY or expect your friends to set you up/entertain you, you HAVE to put yourself out there a little too.... (read in full...)
Do women look at men's butts?
Q. Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...
A. 26 August 2012: Some women do.
Some look at faces, hair, legs, chest... some prefer a good back-side.
... (read in full...)
Cheating b/f gave me genital herpes, is there anything natural I can take?
Q. Hi I really need some advice as I am in bits and don't know what to do I recently caught my boyfriend of nearly 2 years cheating on me so I went to a gum clinic to get myself tested for any stis and I found out I have genital herpes I feel so ...
A. 26 August 2012: You should go see your doctor.
That simple.... (read in full...)
Should I not pursue things since she blows hot and cold?
Q. I started chatting to a woman off a dating site, we had one date I was very attracted to her,she was funny, fit and I thought it was mutual. I asked her out a 2nd time she said no, I kept in touch and asked her again 2 weeks later she said yes ok....
A. 26 August 2012: I don't think she is blowing hot & cold, she is just not interested. I BET you she picked up on the "wanting sex" and decided you were not a match for her.
The fact that she even left the websites says a lot. She didn't think she got lucky wi... (read in full...)
Dating but somewhere contact has dwindled. I've fallen for him and need advice. Please help!
Q. A long story short, I met this guy and were in the initial stages of dating him for about a month and a half. From my point of view, and those closest to me whom know about the whole ordeal thought that the so called "relationship" was going in a ...
A. 26 August 2012: I think it's still worth it. I don't think he would have added *kisses* if he wasn't interested.
And if he JUST started a new job teaching, I can imagine he's been pretty busy with school start up and all.
I would just CALL (no texting) and tel... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy small penis, or miss the big ones?
Q. My wife and I had a two month break a few years ago before we got married. During this time she hooked up with another dude. I always assumed he may have been bigger than me or better in bed. Well I overheard my wife tell someone " I've only had ...
A. 26 August 2012: OP - UNDERSTAND that women have no NEED for a long slong. The longer a penis is doesn't equate to better and the internal walls of the vagina itself do not have a great supply of nerve endings, thus are not very sensitive to touch. Penetration is ... (read in full...)
Our first date I offer to pay his says I can get the next bill..is that odd?
Q. I am looking for some advice. I was talking to this for like 2 weeks I came across online. We hit it off so much we had a date tonight. He wasn't what I expected to be honest. It's not that he's not good looking. He almost looks too good looking. I ...
A. 26 August 2012: Are you worried what OTHERS might think? (about his looks) or are his looks a turn off for you?
If it's the first, I'd say screw what others think, if it's the latter... then don't string him along. Though... don't "hate" him cause he's pretty :... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 25 August 2012: I think you are moving WAY to fast. Specially for a single mom of 3.
So you have known him a couple 3 tops months and most of the conversations have been either through text or online, correct?
So honestly, you don't REALLY know the guy.
... (read in full...)
Dating but somewhere contact has dwindled. I've fallen for him and need advice. Please help!
Q. A long story short, I met this guy and were in the initial stages of dating him for about a month and a half. From my point of view, and those closest to me whom know about the whole ordeal thought that the so called "relationship" was going in a ...
A. 25 August 2012: So you haven't really talked in what 11 days? Yea, I would call him about the dvd and see how he is doing.
You say you didn't do anything, but.. you did. You inadvertently pushed him away when the death and heath-scare came up, he had no idea. So... (read in full...)
I was at a swinger's party, didn't do anything but don't want my ex to find out!
Q. Sorry I'm gonna keep this as short as possible. I am still in love with my ex. we broke up 3 yrs ago. One of our mutual friend told me a month ago tht she told him that she still likes me. I was super happy to hear tht. We broke up cuz I wasn't ...
A. 25 August 2012: If it was indeed a Swinger Party I sincerely doubt she will be posting pictures.
And honestly, I would only tell your date about it IF you want to. But no lying, no denying it. You went... You were there. Nothing wrong in saying that this fe... (read in full...)
Our first date I offer to pay his says I can get the next bill..is that odd?
Q. I am looking for some advice. I was talking to this for like 2 weeks I came across online. We hit it off so much we had a date tonight. He wasn't what I expected to be honest. It's not that he's not good looking. He almost looks too good looking. I ...
A. 25 August 2012: I think it means he likes the fact that you want to "help" pay and that he wants to see you again.
I don't think it's odd, specially since YOU offered to pay.... (read in full...)
How can I block my ex? She keeps texting me!
Q. plz anyone have advice 4 me i would be greatful. my ex girlfriend keeps texting me, some nice texts and some nasty. i dont reply to any of them at all and delete them. when will she give up we split a month ago. she sends about 3 or 4 a day and some ...
A. 25 August 2012: Depending on what kind of phone you have you might be able to DL an app to block her. So do a search and see. If not, I would go to the nearest cell phone store and see if they can help you with it.
In the US you can pay to block numbers not sure... (read in full...)
Booty is one thing. But were this man's actions disrespectful and selfish?
Q. I met a guy who I slept with the first night. I regreted it the next day and didn't think I'd hear from him again. He works 2 weeks on 1 week off and has been texting me, asking me how I am etc and whether I wanted to catch up when he came back. W...
A. 25 August 2012: Sorry, I think he is taking FULL advantage of you not being able to say no.
You don't WANT to be a booty call so STOP being one. Which means next time he calls tell him it isn't working for you, that you were looking for something more then jus... (read in full...)
I found my mother in bed with my boyfriend
Q. I feel desperate and I really need someone's help. It happened yesterday, I came back from a holiday with my dad (mom and dad are separated). We returned a little earlier than we were going to and I found out my mother was sleeping with my...
A. 25 August 2012: You mother have some rather SEVERE issues. She "think" you are competition and she throws YOUR "game" by sleeping with guys you seem to like.
Wow.
She ought to be ashamed of herself. Though, the guys that willingly slept with her were CERTAIN... (read in full...)
Using my friend to make my crush jealous. Big mistake?
Q. Girl A is a girl that I use to be very friendly with. She and I would talk very often and she would unmistakably say flirtateous stuff to get a rise out of me. I was convinced that she had a thing for me. One day, I tried asking her out but she ...
A. 25 August 2012: Playing games is usually a mistake, and it's lame.
If she all of a sudden seems interested because you are with someone else ( or she think you are) does that seem like she is a decent person?
Don't do this to girl B. That is just sleazy.
... (read in full...)
How can I change myself so that I don't get used?
Q. I was on my way to a vacation and I met a really attractive guy on the plane. He was also going on vacation to the same place. We started talking and really hit it off. I normally don’t have trouble meeting guys but this guy was amazing. I couldn’t ...
A. 24 August 2012: Slow down! That is my #1 advice.
You met a guy on a plane and a few days later you go to his place and have sex. Well, you sure put yourself out there to be used and possibly hurt (sorry to be blunt).
Take the time to get to KNOW a guy (and ... (read in full...)
Is this shaping up as another failed relationship? Or does he just need some space to be sure about us?
Q. Hi there I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months, we have been on some amazing dates. We did sleep together, but was not straight away and that was all good too. As soon as things started to get even better he has withdrawn and not aske...
A. 24 August 2012: Honestly, I would call him and ask what's up.
Vacationing in Ibiza is pretty much a FFA (free for all) party vacation. So I'm kinda wondering if he has withdrawn because he wants to be free to do whatever he wants in Ibiza.
Taking some t... (read in full...)
But he's had the same Gf for 4 years. So what can I do? He's older than me. There is an attraction between us.
Q. Hey guys, i've got a situation that i'd really love some help with. So i've been getting to know a guy recently whos quite a lot older than me (im 17). However, our personalities just click.. He makes me laugh, and we just get on so well. We have ...
A. 24 August 2012: Creepy dude hitting on a young naive 17 year old.... Honey, you need to step away from this. He ISN'T going to drop his LONGTIME gf for you. He might wanna SHAG you, but that is about it.
You make him feel that he is all "that" because he can make... (read in full...)
He's so much taller than me, will this work?
Q. This guy i've met we get along really well as if we've known each other a lot longer than the past couple weeks, we like the same things so we have a fair amount in common. He's really sweet and fun to be around, and good thing is he's funny in such ...
A. 24 August 2012: Height is rarely a real issue. Or should I say the least of your worries. If you match in all other aspects, height won't matter.... (read in full...)
Pregnant and scared, I'm making the wrong decision.
Q. I am 7 weeks preganant and very scared. I am due to have a termination on saturday and am very confused if its the right choice. I am in a stable relationship. When i found out i was pregnant i thought i would be happy but i have become more and ...
A. 24 August 2012: I suggest you contact your doctor and see if he can recommend a counselor. You really need to talk this out.
A baby is a lifelong commitment.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is putting his dog before our relationship!
Q. This situation is very complicated. Myself and my partner have been together and split up again several times in the past. Each time we split up we have got back together and this time I am totally ready to put 100% into making our relationship work ...
A. 24 August 2012: Cerberus gave you a great answer.
I feel bad for you ... and the dog. This is no life for a dog.... (read in full...)
Do dreams mean something
Q. I slept at a girls house with some friends and i got on with all of them but i just had 2 dreams in 2 days one was she was giving me a blow job and the other one was she jerked me off now i don't really have any feelings to this girl but i am ...
A. 24 August 2012: I'm not someone who puts a lot of stock in the predictive powers of dreams, but I do believe that they are a pretty accurate amalgamation of the worries and concerns floating around in your subconscious.
Basically... you are thinking of sex.. Pr... (read in full...)
He's not responding..will he be around for the baby?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with bf for 2 years, we live on different cities. I visited him few weeks back and we had nice time. We used condom but it broke, anyway i got pregnant now. I was thinking about keeping the child, even if it means i will be a sing...
A. 24 August 2012: Di you tell him via text that you were pregnant? If so, that is just not right. I know you wanted to tell him but that is the kind of conversation that should be face-to-face.
Anyways, done is done. You have called, you have texted, you have lef... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is a professional liar and cheat. How do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
Q. I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater... I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom...
A. 24 August 2012: What are your motivations for telling?
Are you after revenge or worried for their safety?
The likelihood of them believing you is slim. The likelihood of him not finding out it was you is even slimmer. Because all in all if you are going to "ou... (read in full...)
What's my Coworkers problem?!
Q. Ok so I have been working at my job for 2 years now and so has my coworker. When we first started working there and started to get to know each other our relationship was pretty good. She would even invite me to hang out with her outside of work. As ...
A. 24 August 2012: Maybe she feels like you two don't have a lot in common? Maybe she felt like SHE put in most of the work to try and make friends with you?
It is really hard to say why some people act the way they do.
Does it really matter? Obviously she is... (read in full...)
He's moving overseas for work, but I want to keep the door open for later. Do you think this will work?
Q. I'm looking for advice and to hopefully hear some success stories where people reunite after some time. The situation is that I met a guy while he was in the process of moving overseas for a job contract that will last 15 months. We dated for 2 m...
A. 24 August 2012: It's only been two months so realistically I wouldn't "sit by the phone and await his return". However, sometimes people just click. If you two keep the communication going have a weekly Skype date and if he comes back to the US during those 15 ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been using casual hook up sex sites and I cant seem to get over this! Help!
Q. Dear all. Please help. I can't sleep as I found out my BF has been using casual sex websites to hook up with different girls for no strings sex. I feel sick. I have been very intimate with him and was deeply in love with him. We have had a rough ...
A. 24 August 2012: Well, first of all I would suggest that you go get a STD/STI panel done. If he has been doing NSA sex, you (or he) have no idea what kind of people he has been having sex with and... if it was safe sex.
Secondly, DO you WANT to stay with a guy wh... (read in full...)
Is a water infection a STI?
Q. My wife cheated on me a month ago, we are working on things and hopefully will be able to move on from this. However she now has a water infection, is this an STI? How do you get a water infection?...
A. 24 August 2012: What you call a water infection, is a UTI Urinary Tract Infection.
It can happen after sex, but there are many other ways to get a UTI. UTI's may be sexually transmitted and are from a bacterial microbes.
Make sure she seeks treatment and yo... (read in full...)
Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 24 August 2012: I'm glad he is seeking help. And I think being there for him, but setting clear rules is a very smart thing too.
Good luck to you both!... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 24 August 2012: You were "HERS" so she feels a right to still keep taps on you, when you tell her that you were out with xx or did this or that, she assume you are informing her because somehow she sees it as her RIGHT to know..
Sometimes after a break up lines... (read in full...)
He is a true gentleman. Am I worrying too much due to past experiences in relationships?
Q. Hi, I have begun a relationship with a wonderful man but need advice on a small matter. Every time we have a date, he will walk with me to my nearest transport stop - whether bus or train - before saying goodbye and going on his journey home We...
A. 23 August 2012: I agree with the other Aunties. LET HIM!
It might taper off over time, but THIS is part of who he is. If he doesn't complain or try and rush you (because he has to spend that extra 30 min. going out of his way to see you to your stop) then ple... (read in full...)
My friend seems to resent me for completing my post grad. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have this friend who I have known for about ten years. We were in school together but went to different universities. However, we remained close and shared the same group of friends. In recent years lots of our friends have move...
A. 23 August 2012: She does sound jealous.
I think the only way to make her stop is to nip it in the bud. AS SOON as she flings out a negative remark, tell her that it's OK that she isn't a fan of teaching (if that is how she lays it out), but that i YOUR dream. I... (read in full...)
Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 22 August 2012: You can't MAKE him get help, you can't MAKE him take his meds :( That is the sad reality of metal illness.
Only he can change this. HE can seek medical help, get med and take them. But it's something only HE can really do.
Have you talked to hi... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 11 August 2012: You are her security blanket. Someone she can use when she needs a shoulder to cry on and whom she knows won't try and have sex or make it into a relationship. You are Safe.
Maybe she even likes the fact that you are on her beck and call. By doing... (read in full...)
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