Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 24 August 2012: You were "HERS" so she feels a right to still keep taps on you, when you tell her that you were out with xx or did this or that, she assume you are informing her because somehow she sees it as her RIGHT to know..
Sometimes after a break up lines... (read in full...)
Was I right to confront him about his lying?
Q. hi everyone, for a few months now i have been sure my partner has lied to me about a few things. i tried to let it go at first but the feeling and the way he has acted persisted. so after finding some evidence i confronted him. i only asked a ...
A. 13 August 2012: I think it's always a good idea to confront someone who you KNOW is lying to you. If you keep it in and pretend all is good you end with with two things.. it festers and the other person will assume lying is OK with you.
And why does he need to ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's behavior normal or did he just use me?
Q. Dear cupid I am in LDR with my bf for past few months. I stay in a different country cause of work. I traveled 2 weeks before to my place to visit my parents and my bf. We had a very good time. He asked me to buy him few stuff from here, whi...
A. 12 August 2012: I wouldn't say right off the bat that he is using you, there just isn't enough information.
I think it's BAD manners that he didn't call on the day of your departure or even picked up the phone when you tried to call him. Even if you two DID say ... (read in full...)
Our relationship ended for good, He doesn't want to talk any more, What should I do?
Q. I know this is going to be long but please help me with your inputs, advice , and kind words. Hello Everyone, I just broke up with my scorpio man. We have broken up before but made up right away. This time was really for real though because ...
A. 12 August 2012: Well as I can see it you did something wrong too.
1. don't sent "funny drunk pictures" of you man to your friends, specially if you can't let your BF see that you did it. That is not cool.
2. the whole "I was texting a guy" ... neener neene... (read in full...)
My mom and my ex were talking behind my back! Is this a violation of privacy or am I making a big deal out of this?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have this issue and I am not sure how to handle it. I am 22 and live with my parents, but I pay them rent and utilities.That said, I had a boyfriend that I recently broke up with, but my family does not know, they just kno...
A. 12 August 2012: Good for you :)
Mom's know when stuff it up.. We can't help it.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I've never been turned down for sex in the middle of the night, I feel hurt! Am I over reacting?
Q. I'm so hurt it's unbelievable. I live with my boyfriend but went away abroad with my mum and sister for a week and got back last night. everyday we called and texted a lot, he told me all the time how he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. I've ...
A. 12 August 2012: I think you are over reacting, you two made love for an HOUR before bedtime.
And the comment... I'm hurt, I've never been turned down by a guy when making a move in the middle of the night.
That would be a huge turn OFF.
Relax, you were... (read in full...)
How can I bring up that I want more out of this relationship without ruining what we already have?
Q. Ok so I have been "seeing" this guy for a couple months now. Basically we just meet up when we're going out to a bar and we'll hang out with each others friends and always have sex later on in the night. We stay the night with one another and ...
A. 12 August 2012: Well, since you already jumped into bed it might not be so easy to go from a "FWB" type to a real relationship.
All you can do is talk to him. Tell him how you feel, however, he may not want to same... The whole Why date the cow when you already ... (read in full...)
Are the fights between my wife and me just a veiled passive-aggressive fight to be the one to "wear the pants" in our relationship?
Q. My wife is awesome, smart, beautiful, an amazing mother, and a accomplished ballerina. I love her with my entire being. I'm confident she feels that same love for me We have one big issue to tackle and it is a matter of pride and control ---...
A. 12 August 2012: Why do you two HAVE to have a head of the household?
It's not about gender. It's about finding a way to make decisions together without it being WWIII. Just because you are a man, doesn't mean that automatically you make better decisions.
You ... (read in full...)
My rib area hurts and is sensitive to cold. Why?
Q. I have pain in my left rib area under and to the side of my breasts. It hurts randomly when I move, and is sensitive to cold. I thought it was due to sleeping in the hotel bed during vacation but it still hurts now that I'm back home. During my two ...
A. 11 August 2012: I would go see a doctor. If you have a respiratory infection if can be you have the beginning of pneumonia and that might be why your ribs hurt.... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight but I cant afford the gym
Q. Me and my partner of six years have recently split up it was both our choice. And I knew the years I have been with him I had put on weight slowly but yesturday I stepped on the scales and the number I saw was shocking! 15 stone, I felt like crying. ...
A. 11 August 2012: You can do a lot of exercises at home on the floor of your living room.
You might have to go out and spend a little on a couple of dumbbells, but you can actually use two water bottles filled with rice or sand to start with.
I would also find ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my psycho wife for the woman I truly love?
Q. I have no idea where to start. I am a 24 year old married man who just passed his 2 year anniversary. I am married to a somewhat sweet woman, but she isn't very open with her feelings which kills me. She has a very strong personality which throws me ...
A. 11 August 2012: Wow, shame on you for stringing along your wife and trying to make her the bad guy in this.
You married a girl you didn't really love while pining for your ex. No wonder your wife doesn't want to open up to you at all, why should she? It's not... (read in full...)
Wanted to ask for her number but felt discouraged.
Q. There's this girl that I talk to from time to time. We have a few laughs here and there whenever I visit her department. I can really see myself getting into this girl. Yesterday morning while getting off from work, I saw her clocking in. I started ...
A. 11 August 2012: You need to take into account something called situation awareness. If it FEELS awkward, if she doesn't respond as she usually does... It means you might want to back off.
Yes, your friend wasn't much of a help, but.. in that situation you can ... (read in full...)
My mom and my ex were talking behind my back! Is this a violation of privacy or am I making a big deal out of this?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have this issue and I am not sure how to handle it. I am 22 and live with my parents, but I pay them rent and utilities.That said, I had a boyfriend that I recently broke up with, but my family does not know, they just kno...
A. 11 August 2012: I can't see how it is a violation of YOUR privacy at all. She (your mom) had NO clue you two broke up and I'm guessing she assumed the flowers were a peace offering from him, specially when YOU said that the might be from him. You basically got ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Is it right that I be treated like I have the plague for being a socially inept, shy and awkward 42 year old virgin?
Q. Hi, I am a socially awkward, socially shy, 42-year-old virgin and am wondering how ladies across the spectrum would view such a situation? I can learn but should I be treated like I have the plague? ...
A. 11 August 2012:
So you haven't had sex with anyone so what? If it's a topic you like to discuss, I might feel a little uncomfortable, specially if I don't know you at all. You sexual status should not be of the out most interest. After all when meeting peop... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex asking me for money?
Q. hi. my ex girlfriend keeps asking me for money for fags and food because i live at home and have no bills to pay and she has her own place with bills and rent but isnt working, she on benefits. she is an ex who i have never lived with and wasnt ...
A. 11 August 2012: Tell her no over and over, she will get tired of that and find someone else to use.
Or.. change your phone number.... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm sorry he isn't even caring about how it affects you.
I think most you guys who aren't in a relationship and some who are responds that way to hearing that they got someone pregnant.
Like they can magically wish it away.
Good luck and c... (read in full...)
Have his feelings changed?
Q. I've been hooking up with a guy from work for a little over a month now. We said we just wanted to be friends but we both started to develop feelings. Last Friday we were together and he was telling me how he likes me and wants to see me more. ...
A. 11 August 2012: So slow down and stop having "hook ups" with him til you two sort it out.... (read in full...)
Is gaining 10 lbs going to make a man lose interest in a woman?
Q. Alright so about a month ago I had to put my dog to sleep and since then I have gained about 10lbs and I am super paranoid about my husband cheating on me. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive anymore and he's been completely ignoring me. I've ...
A. 11 August 2012: Sounds to me like it's your own insecurities talking.
Have some faith in your marriage, your love for each other and for yourself.
And if you are NOT happy with your weight, work on it FOR YOU.
I'm sorry for the loss of your fur-baby - it's ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother that I miscarried?
Q. I miss-carried at 8 weeks but lied to my mother who doesn't care enough to make sure i have prenatal care. I'm naturally heavier than most females my age(17)so it has been easy to play it off. Now at this moment I'm supposed to be 35 weeks pregnant ...
A. 11 August 2012: First off, I'm sorry for your loss. A miscarriage is never easy.
You should have told her the moment it happened. A miscarriage these days is not just due to no prenatal care, specially not in the Western World. No reason to blame anyone. ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 11 August 2012: You are her security blanket. Someone she can use when she needs a shoulder to cry on and whom she knows won't try and have sex or make it into a relationship. You are Safe.
Maybe she even likes the fact that you are on her beck and call. By doing... (read in full...)
I love being a step mom, but we're having trouble with my partner's ex. Advice needed!
Q. My partner and I are engaged to be married next year, I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he has a daughter from a previous relationship. The children have really bonded and we are happy as a family, the problem is his ex. When the ...
A. 11 August 2012: "her partner just acts like hes her puppy so she thinks shes the boss of everyone.
i dont know if the court would take any of this into account."
No, the courts won't care unless there is physical or verbal abuse going on.
I suggest your hu... (read in full...)
We're planning a wedding, but I don't think I want to marry her. Please help!
Q. Hi,Im with my girlfriend 5 years.We got engauged a couple of months ago and ever since we are not as close.I am happy about 70% of days but to be honest when we are out for a night I find we are very quiet with one another.We have sex about once a ...
A. 10 August 2012: How about considering pre-marital counseling? It might clarify exactly what you want. Be it to get married or not.
But letting her happily plan a wedding you don't think you want to have, is not fair.
You need to talk to her as well, put the pl... (read in full...)
It's been thirty years since I have seen him in person! why does he want to meet up so bad?
Q. I had a hugh crush on this guy in high school, I mean three years of high school. He was the one for me only I made the mistake (as most young girls do) by telling my friends. Soon it was all over. He knew but never said anything to me about it. I ...
A. 10 August 2012: Are you married?
I guess guilt caught up to him? For some forgiveness is vital. I think he needs it from you. Why it HAS to be face to face I don't know. But I'm pretty sure his actions as a young dumb kid haunts him.
Why not meet him for cof... (read in full...)
I scared off my partners friend's while they were visiting now my partners mad at me! what should I do?
Q. Dear All, My partner and I have been together a year and live in the UK together. Our flat is seriously tiny, with only one bedroom, but he invited three of his friends to stay with us for a week when they came from Brazil, his home country. ...
A. 10 August 2012: He is being an ass.
Simple COMMON manners means that you don't abuse your hosts home. You do not speak another language if you have a person who doesn't speak it. And honestly, instead of cleaning up after then, I would tell HIM to either c... (read in full...)
Is he selfish? I give him a bj and the mood is gone?
Q. hello all, thanks in advance for ur help... I have a question related to sex... Me and my boyfriend have never had sex, we have only had orals, and blow job and fingerings... We have our intimate times, we would be kissing and all that stuff, and he ...
A. 10 August 2012: He can't ready you mind, so yes, you will have to tell him.
And stop fulfilling his needs first... let him work for it.
I had a BF who would actually go to sleep moments after he orgasmed without fail. Very exiting... not.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants sexual play involving her butt and I can't do it
Q. My girlfriend is great. I really love her not to mention her intelligence, sense of humor and...amazing looks. The other day we were had some shower sex that turned into regular sex -- recently she's been into 69, so that's what we did. To be ho...
A. 10 August 2012: Everyone have their limits, if you don't want to do "that" then don't. I'm sure you can think of other things to do to please her.
I wouldn't put my mouth on anyone's anus either. It's just not for me.... (read in full...)
I broke up with him over his friend. Was it the wrong thing to do?
Q. Hi - I need some advice as I don't know if its me that insecure So my bf and I have been together 8 months, and everything is good, only recently, he got in touch with a girl on FB. We share a FB page, so I saw the messages too, and they seemed ...
A. 10 August 2012: I see nothing in what you write that would raise a red flag in the relationship between him and the friend.
But I'm sure there are things you haven't written. If it felt like the right decision, then maybe it was for you.
The thing is, you ar... (read in full...)
His FB status says married. Do you think this means they're together? He is a joker
Q. There's this guy I met at the very end of my exchange and we hooked up on my last night there. It's been almost 6 weeks now and on Facebook he's just put that he's in a relationship with some girl but it says "Married". I know that he is de...
A. 10 August 2012: Only he can really tell you.
And people who are in relationships do go separate vacations too, at least some do. So him going off on a vacation doesn't mean he isn't in a relationship.
The fact that he hooked up with you on YOUR last night ... (read in full...)
In the five years we've been together, she's not ever given me so much as even a card, for birthday's, anniversary, or any other special occasion. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. We've been together for 5 years now, and during those 5 years I've not recieved a thing from her - Not for birthdays, Xmas', Valentines or even Anniversaries. Now I'm a romantic and try not to be materialistic or superficial about anything, ...
A. 10 August 2012: From what I have seen a lot of girls/women believes that all they have to do is receive stuff, not give. That it's the mans job. Which.. is ridiculous. But nevertheless the truth. Just like some women expect the man to ALWAYS pay for meals. Again.. ... (read in full...)
Family situation affecting my Bf. How can the issues be raised? A little girl is suffering.
Q. Hello, OK so some background: My boyfriends 28 year old sister "X" lives at her parent's house after losing her house about a year ago. She lives there with her four year old daughter. she has spent the last 12 yrs going to communitity college...
A. 10 August 2012: From what you describe it's neglect of the child pure and simple and yes, CPS might not do anything. They on the other hand might get the "mother" to get her act together.
Neglect is a form of abuse. And it's not like CPS is going to storm th... (read in full...)
Am I mean? Should I share more of my money with my girlfriend?
Q. I am 32, my girlfriend of four years is 27. I have a degree and believe in hard work and applying myself to achieve my goals and live well. My gf is not financially motivated and does not want to progress at work, she just wants to get by which is ...
A. 10 August 2012: Sounds like all her family expect of her is the marry rich (or someone with more money to pay her way). Maybe that is how she was raised.
I don't think you are mean, but I DO think she needs help in making a budget. I think however, you are enab... (read in full...)
This guy is treating me really coldly after I told him I have a boyfriend, What should I do?
Q. hey, i have a relationship question. i have a boyfriend that i just love,we have been together for over that 1 year 9 months and now we are doing a long distance relationship. and here i met with this guy, who obviously like me but he did not say ...
A. 9 August 2012: The guy thought he had a chance to date you/sleep with you who knows and then you pull the "I have a BF" carpet from under him.
He's hurt and he feels stupid for putting the moves on you without knowing you had a BF.
You hurt his EGO, basical... (read in full...)
Pro's and con's of plastic surgery?
Q. What are the pros and cons of plastic surgery? I have more than enough money and I'm thinking of getting liposuction in another country. I've done some research and they can perform it on me even though I'm not overwieght. I'm average but much ...
A. 9 August 2012: You are in the 22-25 age bracket so my advice would be DO NOT do it. And specially not in another country.
The fat will return. The results can be horrible. People die from plastic surgery more often then you properly know.
I would honestly s... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything that he takes Forever to reply to my text messages. Is this indicative of anything?
Q. My question is REALLY starting to get to me. Been texting this guy for a while now, he suggested we swap numbers etc. We like to flirt and the like and it seems as though something may be starting between us. Our texting is conversation about v...
A. 9 August 2012: I agree with Eyeswideopen! Call him!
And maybe....... he is at work and don't text/sext while he is working?
... (read in full...)
A misunderstanding at the weekend. Should I get in touch with him??
Q. Is it ok for women to text guys these days or should we still play by these silly rules? I have been dating someone for about 2 months. We all went to a group music festival at the weekend and we hardly saw each other until the end when we trie...
A. 9 August 2012: I would contact him. ... (read in full...)
We broke up. So why can't I just "unfriend" him in my head?
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years because we couldn't get over problems of fighting about mainly money (he didn't seem to want to put in an effort to make any) and he had a problem with drinking. He was not abusive and is actu...
A. 9 August 2012: Because after 3 years together it takes more then a month to "unfriend" him in your head.
It's OK and perfectly normal. We can't just shut our emotions of at the flick of a switch. Would be nice if we could, but most people can't.
Chin up, it w... (read in full...)
When is flirting crossing a boundary?
Q. I've been with my bf for several years. There's something that bugs me about him. When we're out, if he sees an attractive woman he'll let her know she's hot with his expression. He'll raise his eyebrows and do something with his eyes, and the woman ...
A. 9 August 2012: The whole "Crush" on woman after woman would be a deal breaker for me to, no doubt, but I would have been out the door the first time I noticed it.
The fact that he KNOWS how it affect and and he still doesn't care, kind of show that he in fact ... (read in full...)
Family situation affecting my Bf. How can the issues be raised? A little girl is suffering.
Q. Hello, OK so some background: My boyfriends 28 year old sister "X" lives at her parent's house after losing her house about a year ago. She lives there with her four year old daughter. she has spent the last 12 yrs going to communitity college...
A. 9 August 2012: How horrible. Maybe your BF can consider contacting CPS. I know it seems harsh, but if the mother and grandmother think this is RIGHT to treat the poor kid like this, they are very off.
Does his family belong to a church? If so many he can ask ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sloppy, controlling, rough and forceful sometimes. Would that be the reason I have lost all desire for sex with him?
Q. I'm 18 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. The problem is I have lost my desire to have sex with him or any overall need to be intimate. My boyfriend and I decided to lose our virginity to each other a month ago and ev...
A. 9 August 2012: Normally people don't lose their libido/sex drive over night, it usually takes a while, slowly builds up. However, if your BF is sloppy, controlling, rough and sometimes forceful. (as you put it) It OBVIOUSLY is a huge turn off for you.
You n... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 9 August 2012: Maybe your BF suffers from Retrograde jealousy ( there are a few Aunties/Uncles on here who knows a lot about this, so try and do a search).
And I agree I don't think anyone HAS to disclose ever detail and every single name of their past bed mate... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isnt talking to me any more.
Q. Hi. I have internet boyfriend troubles. I know all of you will go 'Not again!' but just listen to me. So once I downloaded this app and I met this guy. He is very sweet and we have a lot in common. My friend decided to see what the fuss was abou...
A. 9 August 2012: Eh, throw him back in the pond and find someone who isn't too busy looking for "greener" grass.
I agree with Auntie BimBim, he sounds like a magpie... Uh SHINY STUFF.. what were we talking about? ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 9 August 2012: I will quote you:
My boyfriend never once mentioned to me that he knew about 'Jeff' and I, but he did say that he asked me if I had been with anyone in our circle of friends and I told him no.
Isn't that a lie? Omitting the truth is a lie. ... (read in full...)
When is flirting crossing a boundary?
Q. I've been with my bf for several years. There's something that bugs me about him. When we're out, if he sees an attractive woman he'll let her know she's hot with his expression. He'll raise his eyebrows and do something with his eyes, and the woman ...
A. 8 August 2012: This seems to be who he is. He sees nothing wrong with it, so this will never change for him, tough as he gets older he will have less "success" with the women he is flirting with. It's inevitable.
One thing though, I think you are making him out ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 8 August 2012: Well lying is never good. Honestly is always the best policy. Why did you even lie about having slept so long a go with someone who is in your circle of friends?
However this happened 20 year ago when you and the BF didn't even know each other. S... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 27 July 2012: Only you can make that choice. I'm pro choice. I believe that every woman has the choice to terminate, keep or adopt away a fetus/baby.
If you think you can handle and go through the 9 months of pregnancy and delivery, that is quite a gift to ... (read in full...)
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