My boyfriend has a very close relationship with his ex, should I be worried or just accept it?
Q. Ok here it goes and thanks... This guy I'm seeing for about 3 months seems to have a very close relationship with his ex who's the mother of his two boys. They play hockey together 2-3 times a week, he works for her, then he goes to her house 1-...
A. 25 July 2012: I think it's good that he is spending that much time with the kids. When there are kids involved it ALWAYS get more tricky.
Do your own kids spend time with their dad? What are the ages of the kids?
I have to say in my book, it's a GOOD thin... (read in full...)
I am upset that I am being criticized for my parenting!
Q. My daughter is about to be a year old next week and does not walk nor try to. She just crawls and she goes to the furniture and stands up on it. She was born 2 months premature and her doctor always said that some things she might do a little bit ...
A. 25 July 2012: C. Grant is right.
If the Ped. is not worried, no need to fret.
EACH child is an individual and will hit their miles stones when they are GOOD and READY.
I have 3 children they all started standing walking at different ages. They hit... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? He cheated, and he asked me to tell him when I do forgive him?
Q. I found out today that my boyfriend of two years has been skyping another girl, calling her 'sexy', 'love', 'cutie', all things that he calls me, telling her she's 20 times hotter than me, that he'll think of her when he's in bed with me, etc. ...
A. 25 July 2012: So why stay?
In the long run YOU not forgiving him is mainly punishing YOURSELF, you are the one who will feel a need to snoop, check up on him, not trust and generally feel like crap.. OVER something HE did. HE. Not you. Why on Earth should y... (read in full...)
My husband addict masturbating instead having sex with me and he always rejecting me when I tried made move or touch him.
Q. I just wanna to swear . I'm miserable wife. People kept saying I'm young cus i will be 28 next month. My husband always having masturbating himself since before married me and still now. We already married for nearly 9 years and this has to stop ...
A. 25 July 2012: Don't blame your husband and lack of sex for you "letting yourself go" - I can see blaming it on depression, but.... you shouldn't ONLY want to take care of yourself for his sake. You should do it for you.
And there should be more to a marriage... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how my married lover can lead a double life!
Q. This question is directed more towards the experts in the field of infidelity because I'm really curious as to how she can live with herself. What gets me is how some of her peers and co-workers perceive her to be this classy upstanding woman...
A. 25 July 2012: Are you the one cheating with her? If so, you are just about as deep in the gutter as she is.
If you are not. Then she is just another typical cheater.
One who is good enough at deceit, to keep being married and have her co-workers think she is... (read in full...)
Why is this man asking me to marry him when he already has a wife and kids?
Q. I met a man online a couple of years ao and I soon found out that he has a family( is married but has not slept with his wife in a loooooomg time because she has gained weight and they also bicker way too much)) so I told him I just wanted to be ...
A. 25 July 2012: Because he thinks the words "will you marry me?" will make you drop your morals and your panties.. That simple.
If the wife is so fat and horrible he OUGHT to divorce her before throwing himself into another relationship, where he REALLY isn't ab... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 5 years ended things and kicked me out. Now I think she's playing games with me.
Q. So my girlfriend of 5 years ended things over something that most of our friends claim was not a big deal because they understood it as a joke. She however is not the joking type sometimes and over-reacted. I understand why she was upset at some ...
A. 25 July 2012: I agree with PerhapsNot..
Fill in that piece and who knows what it will tell.
If your friends think the joke was so funny, live with them.
She might just use you for sex now, as it is convenient. She doesn't have to "take care" of you and y... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but I get the feeling he's into me.
Q. I met up with an old friend, who has a new house and a new girlfriend, yet he invites me over every week in the evening when his gf is not there. Is he into me? Okay, the above was basically the cliff notes version. Here's a more elaborate descri...
A. 25 July 2012: Seems more like cold feet to me. He got the girl, he got the house but just realized what kind of commitment and effort he NOW has to bring to the table, so he thinks if he gets "friendly" with you.. you can act as his "out".
That way his GF can b... (read in full...)
Would you want to know if your partner was cheating?
Q. If you were in love and in a happy relationship and you been togather for along time, If you could chose to find out for certin if you were being cheated on would you? Or would you just continue the happy relationship with out knowing for certin? ...
A. 25 July 2012: I would want to know. Then I would end it.
I have been cheated on and it sucked. I watched my Dad emotionally cheat on my Mom and I know what it did to her, even though she chose to stay.
I've been married for 14 years, that is a LOT of history... (read in full...)
This man wants to date with no strings attached
Q. man with bagage from last relationship just wants to hang out, no commitment, supper, movie, site seeing, sex and interrested in other women also what should i do?...
A. 25 July 2012: If YOU want the same things I say go for it, if you deep down want more, then I say pass it over.
FWB can be such a messy thing if one person want more. Usually that seems to be the woman, since we tend to add more emotions to sex then many guy... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: Seems to me you want to have sex and "gain" sexual experience for all the wrong reasons. Seems like you want to do it as a tit for tat, even-though you haven't even met a girls who is sexually active that you want to date... But you want to "punish" ... (read in full...)
She's my Dream Girl. But I'm consumed with jealousy over her past. Can someone help me resolve this huge problem?
Q. how do I stop thinking about my Girlfriends past and make sure its not the end of our future? I looked at many sites about guys on this subject but Wow all these dudes think they got it bad with like girlfriends having 3-4 partners more then th...
A. 25 July 2012: Auntie Abella put in some great link, read them over and get some help.
The whole idea of everything being better if SHE was a virgin is ridiculous. But in many ways so is R.J. except to the person suffering from it.
To think that someone wou... (read in full...)
Would it be bad of me if I went away with my friend and told my girlfriend it was a work convention?
Q. I took her away to Florida in June and we are booked to go back next summer. She is going away with her family for a week in August and i was invited but i cannot get the time off work. I was thinking about going away for a week in September with...
A. 25 July 2012: Don't lie about it, just be honest. I have to say if your relationship is build on you feeling like you have to lie to actually do anything YOU want to do, is it really worth the effort?
I see nothing wrong in wanting to go on a weeks vacation... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to handle this new revelation about my husband.
Q. Am i wrong? Ive got this problem, my husband and i have always been very sexually adventrous, mutual masturbation, threesomes, anal, you name it we have done it. But recently my husband as told me, he thinks he might be bi-sexual, and wants me to wa...
A. 24 July 2012: You say that you both have been very adventurous, and that is fine. But I assume (and I could be wrong) that it's always been something you BOTH wanted to do?
This is not about you at all. This is HIS 100% fantasy. He is "being you" ? perhaps?... (read in full...)
I love masturbating to strangers on webcam, is this abnormal?
Q. I love masturbating to strangers on webcam, I want to know if this is normal? I'm a girl, and it really turns me on. I never show my face or give out any information about myself so it's safe but is this really abnormal?...
A. 24 July 2012: I don't know if I would call it "abnormal", but I will call it unhealthy and actually perhaps even unsafe.
And even if you don't show you face, trust me, a person with just a little computer skills can track you down. And.. ANYONE who looks at... (read in full...)
Why would a man not talk about his girlfriend and keep her a secret?
Q. I would like to know why a guy would not talk about his girlfriend around you. Ever. If you ask him a question about her, he will answer with one word, go silent and change the subject. He goes out of his way to tell you that he is alone on a Friday ...
A. 23 July 2012: Either he feels that she is NONE of your business or he isn't really that into her.
There can be many reason why a guy isn't gushing to other females about their GF.... (read in full...)
I got dumped for going to a strip club!
Q. Ok I have a girl friend and she broke up with me because I went to a strip club with my friends on a company trip is she over reacting we been dating for 9 months...
A. 22 July 2012: Everyone have a few things that is on the "deal-breaker list" maybe for her, strip clubs is one.
I'm guessing this may not the first time you have crossed a line?
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Are some people meant to be single?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 2 or 3 months now, after a shaky start when I didn't think his relationship history was great. Fast forward to now, I should have seen him twice this week but made excuse the first time and just didnt reply to message...
A. 21 July 2012: I don't really think anyone is meant to be on their own, but some people are JUST FINE being single.
I'm thinking that perhaps you don't shoot high enough when looking for a guy and end up settling with someone who isn't quite what you want/nee... (read in full...)
Is he bragging or telling the truth about my Mother?
Q. ok, some advice please. i'm 19 yo male currently at home for summer from uni. At home is my mum who is single and divorced and my younger brother 15. Last night we had a party at the house for my mums 46th birthday. About 25 people came and it w...
A. 21 July 2012: **I somehow dont think they would be the same if it was a 46 yo man with a 20 yo girl. anyways thnx***
Of course not, it's your MOM! But all in all the age isn't the big thing here, the thing is that your mom should have better judgement (IF and ... (read in full...)
I think I am always going to be second best.
Q. Dear Cupid Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months now and i'm a little worried. Around a year ago he had just broken up with his last serious girlfriend of 2 and a half years and it really affected him and i know he's still a bit...
A. 21 July 2012: He is still in love with her, even after all the crap he took from her, that in itself would make me back off. Until he is done with her and put her in the past you will never be his first priority.
And I agree with the spoiling him, stop it. You ... (read in full...)
Is is possible to find only one person beautiful?
Q. My friend told me that he only finds his wife beautiful.Is it possible? I've searched on the net a bit about it and found 7 men and 10 women who says they only find their gfs or bfs beautiful. Are there these kind of people?...
A. 21 July 2012: No, I don't think so, the world is full of beautiful people inside and out.
Maybe he find that she is beautiful in a way he doesn't "see" other people, because no one else has the effect on him as she does. I think he means that he finds her beau... (read in full...)
Is he bragging or telling the truth about my Mother?
Q. ok, some advice please. i'm 19 yo male currently at home for summer from uni. At home is my mum who is single and divorced and my younger brother 15. Last night we had a party at the house for my mums 46th birthday. About 25 people came and it w...
A. 21 July 2012:
Talk about AWKWARD!
On one side I want to say she is old enough to do what she wants, but.. sexual favors for someone who is YOUR friend is a little... icky. But honestly, she can f*ck whomever she wants. She is a grown woman.
Maybe nothi... (read in full...)
Is this normal for all men or is my bf an ass?
Q. I was having a fight with my bf about him flirting( especially online) with wayyyy too many girls. He said, "they don't matter because you came first". I told him that I don't care if I came first...............I WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONE! He asks me ...
A. 21 July 2012: One thing is having friend of the opposite sex, but friendship don't involve heavy flirting.
This isn't normal, he just want you to believe it is, so you will stop bugging him.
Honey, he isn't a keeper. Set him free to b single and flirt to his... (read in full...)
Will b/f only be happy if he can try things with a she/male and not just watch porn?
Q. I'm 24 and female, my bf is 25 and male. We've been together 3 and a half years now and 3 years ago, I found out he likes shemale porn (apologies if that term is offensive, I don't know!). At the time, he wasn't entirely sure why he liked it. We ...
A. 21 July 2012: Honestly, the whole niche for "shemale" porn (at least in my book) seems to be for men who won't admit they have gay/bi curiosities and the "shemales" seems a less "gay" partner then another guy. Then thing is a "she male" is a dude with fake tits. ... (read in full...)
Was my note to a co-worker I like too slutty?
Q. I've been working at this place for about 4 months. About 2 months ago a new guy got hired. I thought he was cute from the first day and always said hi and kind of casually flirted. Recently we've been working together a lot and I've heard through ...
A. 21 July 2012: I think it's a little IN YOUR FACE kind of note.. maybe you should just have left a Thank you... here is my phone number... instead. Being subtle never hurt.
Guess all you can do is wait and see.
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My 44 year old b/f acts like a drama queen! I cant believe anything he says!
Q. I have been with my guy for about two years now and I am becoming increasingly annoyed and concerned with his constant exaggeration of everything he talks about, the always being the marter complaining and a lot of lying about things that make no ...
A. 21 July 2012: Do you think he's aware of it? Have you told him in a non-confrontational way?
Honestly, a person who lies so easily, rarely stop,they get better at it when caught.
What exactly does he lie about and leave out?... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being eaten alive by jealousy. How can I move on from this?
Q. Hello, Wondering if you guys could help. Recently I had a chat with my boyfriend regarding his ex (they split up 2-3 years ago) He had a lot of photos on his computer of her (including dirty ones) and was mentioning her by her pet name more than w...
A. 20 July 2012: I wouldn't check, I would start by trusting him to have done as you asked. If you feel a need to check up on him so you can "catch" him in not doing as he promised it will be come a never ending obsession for you. Which honestly isn't healthy.
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Do many divorce even when they are still in love?
Q. My husband and I are most likely divorcing, he refuses to work on things and a whole mess of other details I'm leaving out... Basically, I know it is the right thing to do. I know I deserve to be happy. I know that nothing will ever change. ...
A. 20 July 2012: Yes, I think you can divorce someone you love. Just because you still love them doesn't mean the marriage is healthy.
Sometimes you are more in love with the "idea" of another person then who he/she really is. If that makes sense.
I would... (read in full...)
Husband only wants blow jobs.
Q. I've been married to my husband for 4 1/2 years. We started out having a great sex life. We were having sex up to 3 times a day. After the birth of our daughter we were down to twice a week and he complained that it wasn't enough. Our libidos seemed ...
A. 20 July 2012: Then stop fulfilling HIS needs. You need a serious talk with him.
Getting a boner is NOT going to turn you on. He really needs to go back to basics with foreplay and I seriously would suggest you tell him what YOU want from him and what YOU need... (read in full...)
His friendship with his ex wife is pissing me off!!!
Q. I've been with a man 4 years who's not divored. He is 50. Him and his ex-wife (she's with a man 5 years) can't seem to let go. They talk on their phones behind my back and won't stop and it hurts me. I have expressed anger and upset but it ...
A. 20 July 2012: She is NOT his ex-wife, she is still technically his WIFE. Honestly, you have been with him for 4 years and he hasn't had the decency to respect you enough to cut down on the chatter with his "ex" - you really think there is anything you can do that ... (read in full...)
I need closure. Should I contact my ex???
Q. I broke up with my bf after i found out that he was flirting wid another girl online and it was the second time around - i found him flirting wid the girl, that i decided to end it. A few months later he contacted me and he was really nice. And he w...
A. 20 July 2012: Closure it's such an elusive beast. And honestly, you rarely get true closure from a former partner.
You want him to explain his actions perhaps? He can't, you will most likely get a "I don't know" or I was scared YOU would be mad at me.. putt... (read in full...)
Were my mum's actions to pull out the house sale justified?
Q. I have been renting a room in a house share for about 5 years. I am living with 5 other people and at times i didn't like it but i didn't have a choice. I have always worked full time. All my friends were getting on the property ladder and getti...
A. 20 July 2012: I'm actually amazed that you assume your parents should pay for your first home. I took out a loan at 21 for my first 2 bedroom apartment, I worked 3 jobs and was in college. I didn't expect my parents to pay a dime. They did however buy me some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes to a friend for advice who hasn't ever had a relationship and he doesn't like me, so he always makes me the bad guy!
Q. Me and my boyfriend will been together 13 this nov but the last month just been hell, He had cheat on me and just last year he stop talking to other female but im still with him now every time we got a problem he go to his friend for advice knowing ...
A. 20 July 2012: I have to agree with Maverick494 - it's a LOT worse to cheat then get bad relationship advice.
If your man uses this "bad" advice to make his decision there is something wrong with his own sense of right and wrong, no matter what his friend t... (read in full...)
Could you girls explain to me the feelings behind a crush on a celebrity and the feelings you have for your bf?
Q. Im curious to know what the difference is between your celebrity crushes and the feeling you have for your boyfriend. I know everyone is attracted to other people, but to what extent? I mean, you'll gush over whomever the actor may be, be it orlan...
A. 20 July 2012: Celebrity crush is a fantasy, just with a certain person in mind. How you love/care for your BF is infinitely more deep and different.
The latter it's about his body, heart and soul.
The celebrity it's it "idea" of a character, so make believe.... (read in full...)
I want gentle sex!
Q. My boyfriend likes rough sex. i do enjoy it sometimes but sometimes i want gentle and sweet. im too scared to ask him though. we tried going gentle before. he just gets overwhelmed and starts going fast and hard. i don't mind the speed but the ...
A. 20 July 2012: The other two ladies are right.
If you can not ASK for gentle sex, you shouldn't even HAVE sex. The thing is people are willing to do anything, but not TALK about it. That is not good in a relationship, it leaves it wide open for assumpti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex before I go to University so he will remember me, is this a good idea or is he still a womanizer?
Q. hi i have been dating this guy for eleven months now we agreed on not having sex but we do kiss, and recently he says he wants to have sex before i go to the university in order to keep me in mind. i dont understand this at all, rumours have it that ...
A. 20 July 2012: If he can't remember you without having sex, he isn't worth the time, honey.
Go off to school without having sex with him. At least you won't get knocked up and have to decline Uni.
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Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 20 July 2012: I don't understand how you can be ready for sex, but you can't handle her swallowing your spunk.
However, if you aren't ready, you aren't ready and she needs to respect your no.... (read in full...)
To cut or not to cut? (Hair)
Q. This may be a stupid question to ask but should i cut my hair or no? I have been going through some changes as far as my confidence level and decided that I need to start doing more for myself as far as what makes me feel good. I dyed my hair thi...
A. 20 July 2012: I say go for it, not sure I;d let my MIL cut my hair ,but that is a whole other story lol
Hair grows back out and fairly fast :)
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My husband financially supports his ex girlfriend, is at her beck and call; ultimatum or just leave?
Q. My husband sold his whole duplex to his ex girlfriend, even though she hardly ever paid her rent to him for her side when we lived in the other. She's constantly calling needing something, and he jumps, sometimes making me do things for her, too. ...
A. 20 July 2012: I'm sorry I don't think an ultimatum is going to do any good in this case, I would however sit him down and tell him how you feel. Though I have a feeling he will be very defensive towards his own actions.
I would give him a chance to hear you... (read in full...)
I gave him my virginity and then he said he wasn't into me!
Q. okay so I had sex with this huy for the first time. And it was at my house and it was a very special cause he took my virginity. So anyways after that we were talking and we did it again but at his house. So the next day I told him we should stop ...
A. 20 July 2012: Sorry he sounds like a total douche bag. He thought you were good enough to have sex with,but because you are Mexican you weren't good enough to hang out with/date?
You are better off without such a man in your life.
As for losing your virg... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my pregnant friend, can someone help me, please?
Q. dear aunts and uncles, im 15 and really scared for my friend who is the same age. a while ago she started acting really weird like she didnt want to see any of her friends and she dumped her boyfriend who she has been with for 2 years for no reason. ...
A. 19 July 2012: She needs to tell her parents and do it now. She and the baby need prenatal care.
The baby is not going to go away, just because she wants it too.
I'm so sorry that she is in this mess. Be supportive and help her talk to her parents.... (read in full...)
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