Girlfriend is always asking me to striptease on webcam, then gets mad when I give her what she wants.
Q. Hello. I'm very concerned about my girlfriend. She frequently asks for me to do a striptease for her on webcam on MSN. Yet, when I do, or I'm in the middle of the process, there's a change of heart, she panics, and gets angry. She then yells at me...
A. 1 September 2013: You ask:
Also, when a girl frequently does ask for a stripshow, does it mean she wants to initiate something intimate?
Not necessarily. Can be a matter of control. Or testing boundaries. See how far YOU are willing to go.
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Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 24 August 2012: I'm glad he is seeking help. And I think being there for him, but setting clear rules is a very smart thing too.
Good luck to you both!... (read in full...)
My friend seems to resent me for completing my post grad. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have this friend who I have known for about ten years. We were in school together but went to different universities. However, we remained close and shared the same group of friends. In recent years lots of our friends have move...
A. 23 August 2012: She does sound jealous.
I think the only way to make her stop is to nip it in the bud. AS SOON as she flings out a negative remark, tell her that it's OK that she isn't a fan of teaching (if that is how she lays it out), but that i YOUR dream. I... (read in full...)
My husband has been sneaky lately and I found a flavored condom in his pocket that he blamed on our son!
Q. Lately, my husband of 9 yrs. has been a little sneaky. he talks to all kinds of women, first of all he's a photographer OK. Now it's one particular friend that he tells her he loves her. Just recently, while I was doing laundry,a flavored condom ...
A. 23 August 2012: How did he explain that it was your son's condom? Or did he just "state" the fact and you didn't dig?
I too would ask the son about the condom. It will be easy to gauge if it's a lie or not. He will either go what are you talking about, Mom?! or... (read in full...)
I went snooping on my b/f. Now we are trying to get things back to normal but its strained! Help?
Q. I admit I was snooping and found lots of pictures of a my fiances exes that he said he had deleted. I was depressed about it and left it a few days before I spoke to him about it. When I did he went mad, first saying he thought he had deleted them ...
A. 23 August 2012: The thing is.. you need to stop your imagination from going wild. You need to be ABLE and WILLING to talk to your BF, express how you feel and ASK him the questions that are on the tip of your tongue.
Be honest. And learn how to communic... (read in full...)
Counseling is helping and I don't know where to turn.
Q. There is no easy way to get into this so I will get steaight to the point. I have always had a disfunctional family. (Dad beat my mom etc every day she was always in hospital he was an alcholic just a bit of background on that) the thing is I was ...
A. 23 August 2012: I'm so sorry that ANYONE even has to deal with issues like those you have dealt with and is still dealing with.
1. TALK to your counselor. There should be a confidentiality agreement between patient (you) and your counselor. Which means the coun... (read in full...)
I have a fear of tattoos
Q. I wanna ask you people about somethink that bother me about 4-5 years. I have tattoo-phobia.. I hate tattoos. I'm just like, scared when i see person with tattoo, especially someone close to me. I'm afraid that my best friends will someday put tatto ...
A. 23 August 2012: That sounds like a rather odd phobia ( a lot of phobias are odd though so don't feel bad).
I think you need to find a therapist/counselor and work through this.
You CAN NOT control what other people do. As in, you can't control WHO around you w... (read in full...)
I love my husband but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to makes me feel unimportant and undervalued, and is putting me into a state of depression.
Q. I love my husband, but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to really eat at me. While I feel he loves me, I don't feel he cares about me. He doesn't seem at all concerned with what I might need or want, and everything seems devoted ...
A. 23 August 2012: Stop catering to him.
I also think you have some totally unrealistic idea of who your husband is compared to who you think he SHOULD be. And that, I can imagine must be depressing.
All the things you mention, are they NEW behaviors or are... (read in full...)
When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 23 August 2012: I think it's really rare that a women will be a great sex partner up on til the time she gets a ring on the finger. There HAS to have been indications BEFORE the marriage that sex wasn't a priority or there has to have been indications the she has a ... (read in full...)
Bf saying picture of porn with girls that look nothing like me
Q. Hello guys:) Recently, I've been having a few problems with my boyfriend, not major ones at all, just little ones. Now, I found out he watched porn because I went to type in youtube on his computer and it came up with a porn site in his history...
A. 23 August 2012: I will start with your last question:
**** It is really immature if I save pictures on my laptop of naked ish guys, and emo guys etc, or do you think it wouldn't bother him and just make me look silly?????****
It won't bother him one bit and ... (read in full...)
Old friend keeps blowing me off for her new friends!
Q. This isn't a relationship q, but about friendship and I would really appreciate the input. I have been best frinds with a girl since I was 12, and we are now both 26. She used to be quiet and shy, but the past couple of years she has been coming out ...
A. 23 August 2012: I have to agree with BondGirl here.
She has been blowing you off and she is now being somewhat of a bully towards you, that is NOT what friends do.
So I would let her know that you are available, but I would also advice you to seek out your ow... (read in full...)
Should I stop talking to this guy?
Q. So around December I added this guy on Facebook because he seemed very interesting to me. We started talking and it turns out he is 7 years older than me, so at first he said he felt uncomfortable for talking to such a young lady. Later on though, ...
A. 22 August 2012: I agree with him grooming you. You say you don't want to talk about sex, don't want to show him your boobs, YET.........
************We also dirty talk sometimes, like what we'd like to do to each other and such.********
I think he is bidi... (read in full...)
I went snooping on my b/f. Now we are trying to get things back to normal but its strained! Help?
Q. I admit I was snooping and found lots of pictures of a my fiances exes that he said he had deleted. I was depressed about it and left it a few days before I spoke to him about it. When I did he went mad, first saying he thought he had deleted them ...
A. 22 August 2012: Seems like there is more to the story.
A healthy relationship don't need snooping. You wanted to find something, he got caught and acted like a drama llama. He is mad at you for finding him out, he is blaming YOU for him getting caught.
Was the... (read in full...)
What to do down there?
Q. pubic hair , what do i do with it ? i have a long term boyfriend he says he doesnt mind about my pubes but i still shave for him and me as well a litte i guess, but the thing is its starting to hurt me with spots and i heardyou can pass them on ...
A. 22 August 2012: Waxing is way more low maintenance then shaving.. The hair stays away for a lot longer and when they come back they are thinner.
If you don't mind the hair yourself, I would honestly just trim. Keep it short and neat.
There is NOTHING wrong... (read in full...)
I'm upset that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for my birthday
Q. I'm kind of bothered by the fact that my boyfriend didn't care to get me anything for my birthday. I'm not materialistic and I don't really want any specific item but like the saying goes, "It's the thought that counts" and I feel like he didn't p...
A. 22 August 2012: Return the favor for his birthday?
Or sit him down and explain why you are disappointed and why you expected more from him.
How long have you been together?... (read in full...)
Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 22 August 2012: You can't MAKE him get help, you can't MAKE him take his meds :( That is the sad reality of metal illness.
Only he can change this. HE can seek medical help, get med and take them. But it's something only HE can really do.
Have you talked to hi... (read in full...)
Should I ask to join him at his friend's birthday party?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and I love him a lot and I trust him. However, the other day he got invited to a guy friends birthday event in a bar and it came up on my newsfeed. I don't know the guy or anyone else on the invite list ...
A. 22 August 2012: Does he ever invite you out when he goes out with friends? If not, have you asked him why?
Do YOU invite him when you go out with YOUR friends? To parties with YOUR friend?
I certainly would NEVER ask to be invited. I find it a little odd tha... (read in full...)
We have been dating for 9 months but we haven't done anything together or spoken in months! Is it over?
Q. Hi there. I have been dating a guy for nearly 9 months now and everything was going well until approximately three months ago. He calls/texts me less i.e never and we haven't been out together for those three months. Granted we were both bust with ...
A. 22 August 2012: Why not pick up the phone and call him (no texing) CALL.
Personally, I would assume a relationship to be over if there is absolutely no contact for a month, no matter how busy, ANYONE can take 2 minutes to call their loved one and talk, or drop ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him before I leave? I'm a virgin.
Q. So recently I met this guy in Georgia and ever since then him and I have been flirting and making out,and you can say that we are dating. The problem is I'm leaving in a few days and he tells me wants to have sex before I leave. I'm a virgin and I ...
A. 22 August 2012: No. Don't do it.
You only recently met him and you will be leaving soon, WHY on Earth have sex with him?
Make it a sweet summer fling memory, that means no sex. If you try and add sex it will be a summer to regret instead.
And JUST becaus... (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 22 August 2012: If you want to sleep with whomever WHY on Earth be in a relationship? Go be single - Screw around all you want.
Does your GF know that you cheat? If not.. Tell her and see exactly why people resent cheaters.
You are using your GF. Not loving h... (read in full...)
Why am I still pining for him three years later?
Q. I've been in love with my teacher for almost seven years now. Let's call him Peter. When we met, I was 14. Peter was 42. At the time, he'd been engaged so that was yet another reason why I didn't pursue him. During high school, we had spent a lot of ...
A. 22 August 2012: I think because you had a crush on the guy ( being your teacher doesn't mean you actually KNOW the guy, you knew him as your teacher, which is in his professional capacity, not the private person that is the man.)
However, I think you build hi... (read in full...)
He wants my panties
Q. So me and my boyfriend of two years were just snuggling in his bed when he suddenly asked me if I could give him a pair of my panties. He asked me with this big smile on his face like he was a bit nervous and at the same time excited. We haven't had ...
A. 22 August 2012: I agree with BondGirl. Sounds like he is looking for a trophy. Almost make me thing Frat initiation, but I could be way wrong.
Why on Earth would he need a pair of your panties? As it seems the relationship is fairly new?
... (read in full...)
Too soon to share past sexual history? It scared me. Do ALL guys do this during online relationships?
Q. Is this a red flag?...I just started talking to someone I met online, and things were going great until he starts asking me about what is the most wildest and crazy thing I have done sexually. I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it ...
A. 21 August 2012: Well, my thoughts are these.. Be honest, if a guy goes down "that" path too soon for you. Weed him out.
I don't think all guys do that but I do think he was looking for sex. His whole response was so passive-aggressive that it seems to me like ... (read in full...)
His Mom undermines my ability to discipline my child. We live with her. Would it be wrong to leave my Bf?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last 3 years, the last year and a half has been nothing but an emotional roller coaster. Earlier this year we had financial troubles and so we moved back into my mother in laws house. I have a daughter...
A. 21 August 2012: Honestly, I would take your daughter and get out. Can you live with your parents til you get back on your feet?
It would not be wrong at all. I do know that there are many grandparents who think it's their given right to over-rule the parent a... (read in full...)
How can I get her to leave me alone?
Q. There's this woman that I work with that took a liking to me. At first she would subtly show interest by asking me how I was and if I needed anything, I could ask her. I never thought anything of it so I started to talk to her on a friendly basis ...
A. 21 August 2012: You tell her face to face that she needs to stop. If she doesn't respect that do it when she acts up in front of other. And again, if that doesn't help.. HR ( human resources or personnel manager.)would be the next stop.
Some people can handle h... (read in full...)
I was diagnosed with something I can't find anything about. Can anyone help?
Q. im not sure where else to ask this question or if anyone on this site can help me out, but i was recently diagnosed with red cell antibodies or anti-d antibodies. i've tried to look stuff up online and there just isnt much about it. im not sure i ...
A. 21 August 2012: You need to call the doctor who diagnosed you and have her/him explain it to you in detail.... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.
Q. Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...
A. 21 August 2012: I think if he REALLY liked you that LAST thing he would want to do is have a 3-some with his brother.
He knows you like him so he dangles the carrot.. if you do this.. then maybe.. I'll go out with you... I CALL BULLSHIT!
If you do it, he wi... (read in full...)
Ex is going religious for the wrong reasons
Q. Alright folks, this dabbles in a very touchy subject - religion. Steer clear if you take offense easily! Lets play some catch-up for a second. Here's the VHS fast-forward version. GF and I break up. GF gets new boytoy. GF realizes new boytoy is ab...
A. 21 August 2012: She is your ex for a reason, right?
So it seems to me that you need to let her go do her thing, even if it is religion. If that is what SHE thinks she needs to do, then THAT is exactly what she needs to do.
WHAT you need to do is accept that s... (read in full...)
I started dating a gorgeous, model-like, ambitious, cheeky guy, and he's now turned into an overweight, boozy, attention seeking boy!
Q. This is really tricky and I'd appreciate both male and female help with this. I've been with my lovely boyfriend who I care deeply for for two and a half years. When I met him he had model looks, a great body and I couldn't keep my hands off him....
A. 21 August 2012: You could get the box work out set - Insanity. And you two can work out together. Pretty sure he will puke the first few days of exercise if he is really that out of shape, but I don't know many guys who would admit defeat.
And I think Abella i... (read in full...)
Why is my partner even considering her ex? Why did her ex show up now after four years of being away?
Q. I need help any body please. my problem is im with a great person who has helped me get through alot and i helped her through alot in the last 7 months. we have been dating since march and out of the blue her ex husband calls her asking for f...
A. 21 August 2012: If people at work ask you you don't really OWE them an answer, just tell them you don't know.
However I do think you needs to talk to your GF and she NEEDS to figure out what she wants to do and stick to that, not dangle a carrot in front of you. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is always asking me to striptease on webcam, then gets mad when I give her what she wants.
Q. Hello. I'm very concerned about my girlfriend. She frequently asks for me to do a striptease for her on webcam on MSN. Yet, when I do, or I'm in the middle of the process, there's a change of heart, she panics, and gets angry. She then yells at me...
A. 19 August 2012: Ask her? Why do you freak out when I strip for you?
Seems rather odd.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend falling out of love with me?
Q. Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and every seems good but his behavior is starting to change. Its bad enough that his parents don't like me lord know why because I am a respectful, ambitious young woman(own job,car and ...
A. 19 August 2012: Seems to me that he is pulling away. Maybe because his church/family do not approve of you?
And maybe he's just started to take you for granted.
Have you talked to him about it?... (read in full...)
Is this normal? To be told from your mother that they don't love you?
Q. I would like some opinions from parents:- Would you ever tell your child that you didn't love them? And be completely serious about it? and when I say child I mean a young child. I, myself am a mum and could never imagine in a million years ...
A. 18 August 2012: I guess some women are like this, I can't even begin to imagine why on Earth a mom would say that.
I have 3 kids. I love them and I tell them quite often. Even when they ALL drive me nuts, I still love them more then anything else in life.
... (read in full...)
His habits drive me nuts, all day, every day!
Q. It migt sound silly for most people, but two of my husbands habits drive me nuts every single day, even every hour. He has plenty of others but they are not as annoying as these.we have fights about it almost every day. It irritates him when I p...
A. 17 August 2012: Honestly, I do think he has a hearing problem. The hole "shouting" thing is typical for people with hearing problem as they are not aware of how loud they really are.
For instance I'm partially deaf in one ear and almost fully deaf in the other. T... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a married man, what should I do?
Q. I have never dated a married man,. There is one man , he is 38 I am a youthful 50 year old female. I work out a lot and take good care of myself, I get a lot of attention from men. I really do not seek it out though. Anyways, I am in this man's ...
A. 17 August 2012: Honestly, if you like drama go for him.
If you have more respect for yourself, him and his "lovely" family you keep your mitts off.
Just because YOU are single doesn't mean it's OK morally or socially to start "hunting" for a married guy, no ... (read in full...)
We met on facebook and have been dating, but he lied to me. Turns out he's much younger, under 16. I love him but is this OK?
Q. Hey everyone So I met a guy on Facebook, I totally regret it now. We've been dating for a while now and we met in person, my mum and my grandma went with me on our first date and they met his parent too. I fell in love with him, and he told me h...
A. 17 August 2012: I think.... I would end it. First off at 17 a girl is usually far more mature then her male peers and this guy is 2 years younger.. so even further behind on the maturity scale then your peers.
Yes, it would be illegal for you two to have sex when... (read in full...)
We seek each other once a week. He wants to change the way I dress. Is that controlling?
Q. My boyfriend and I love each other a whole lot. He loves spending time with me and always tries to make time for me. I love spending time with him too, but unfortunately we get the chance to meet just once a week. he asked me to change my clot...
A. 17 August 2012: I think dressing up when you get to spend time together is OK. And maybe he has a better eye for what looks fabulous on you. However, here is my 2 cents. If he wants you to wear (let's say) skanky clothes or a nun's habit and you are not comfortable ... (read in full...)
Is she being selfish and inconsiderate, or am I the jerk for feeling this way?
Q. My Gf of about 6 months is starting to get on my nerves..im so tired the relationship is like a full time job with no day off... i do whatever she ask from babysiting her young child to taking her to work and other places she needs to go.Movi...
A. 17 August 2012: Read the 5 languages of love :)
You two speak different languages for sure.
She is also highly materialistic, did she come from a poorer background? It's pretty obviously that she sees you BUYING/PAYING for her as a sign of love.
Also...... (read in full...)
Ex's g/f is all psycho -- what's up?
Q. So I was walking down the street with this guy i'm seeing and I happen to run into my ex and he is with some friends and his girlfriend. He didn't see me because he was talking to someone then all of a sudden his girlfriend looks at me and then ...
A. 17 August 2012: A female reader, So_Very_Confused + ?, writes (17 August 2012):
just insecurity and childishness on her part.
she needs to grow up.
you need to continue to take the high road and ignore them.
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All this 100%
But ... (read in full...)
Trust? Betrayal? My Girlfriend cheated and got pregnant so now what?
Q. my GF cheated and got pregnant and the father of the baby died. now shes begging me not to break up with her.and wants me to help her with the baby... i feel like im just being used should i kick her to the curb help her out or what... and im...
A. 17 August 2012: Sorry, that would be a a TOTAL dealbreaker for me. The cheating AND the baby. Both no-no's.
I would end my marriage if my husband cheated. No if or buts. It would be over. Now if he cheated and there was a baby, same thing.. Bye Bye. And this is ... (read in full...)
We've been together 2 and 1/2 years. Yet still he kept explicit pictures of his ex's bodies. Am I justified to feel insanely jealous over this?.
Q. A few months ago I found some explicit photos and videos of my fiance and a couple of his exes. I wasn't happy with him having them and told him so, eventually he threw them out. Then I found he had some on his laptop, he said he had forgotte...
A. 17 August 2012: I don't blame you for being pissed of and disappointed. It's disrespectful to you.. AND to his ex-gf's I'm sure they wouldn't be overjoyed knowing that he STILL has those and those pictures "float" around. Even if he never posts them anywhere stuff ... (read in full...)
My Wedding soon, and I'm on track to lose some weight. Can you help motivate me more, with some happy weight loss stories?
Q. Hi! I will be married in 8 weeks and want to lose some weight (5-6 kilos) I've already talked to a doctor and a nutritionist: they say I can do it and gave me a diet which I'm following. But, man, it's so hard! Can you please tell me some happy we...
A. 17 August 2012: Water. lots of water :) I actually always drink a cup - 1 1/2 cup before I eat, that does seem to fill me up and make me full from smaller meals.
And if you do eat something you shouldn't... don't beat yourself up, but added to your daily calorie ... (read in full...)
Texting etiquette? If I know her name do I use it in the text or just say hi? why does she never initate a text?
Q. Hello i want to send a good morning text message to a woman who already knows me . Should i include her first name in the message ? . Also it's always me who initiates the text messages, but when i do send a text message , i get a r...
A. 17 August 2012: PICK up the phone and call her? (not in the morning though) and TALK to her. If you want to get to know her.. TALK
... (read in full...)
Why is my partner even considering her ex? Why did her ex show up now after four years of being away?
Q. I need help any body please. my problem is im with a great person who has helped me get through alot and i helped her through alot in the last 7 months. we have been dating since march and out of the blue her ex husband calls her asking for f...
A. 13 August 2012: He might have realized exactly WHAT he lost when their relationship ended, specially if he's tried to be in a few relationships over the past 4 years.
The thing is, he doesn't seem to realize that they BOTH (hopefully) have grown since they dat... (read in full...)
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