Texting etiquette? If I know her name do I use it in the text or just say hi? why does she never initate a text?
Q. Hello i want to send a good morning text message to a woman who already knows me . Should i include her first name in the message ? . Also it's always me who initiates the text messages, but when i do send a text message , i get a r...
A. 17 August 2012: PICK up the phone and call her? (not in the morning though) and TALK to her. If you want to get to know her.. TALK
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I like her but have not said I love her. Should I go meet the parents if I'm feeling like this?
Q. Ive been dating my girlfriend coming up 6 months, she wants me to meet her parents, it is a big deal for her. She has told me she loves me, but I have not said it back. I am worried that by now I should feel something for her, I really like her ...
A. 17 August 2012: After 6 months you still don't know if you LOVE her? What are you waiting for? You think if you just wait it out love will creep in?
I do think you need to figure out how you feel before you do the whole meet the family. Because if she has a cr... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to make my ex delete intimate pictures and videos of me?
Q. I've just split up with my boyfriend and I asked him to delete any private pictures he took of me and embarrassingly a video. He thinks I have no right to ask him to do that as it was for him. To be honest he seems a bit obsessed with me, he keeps ...
A. 17 August 2012: Of course you have the RIGHT to tell him, but he also have the RIGHT to tell you:" no, I will not do it."
And learn from this... Don't agree to this again and don't make movies/pics that you don't want to see 1-2 10-15 years from now.
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Is he playing the sympathy card with me so he doesn't have to pay up?
Q. ok venting time i hope they allow this because this is the only site there is to get answers and vent. so my husband you all know him the 48 year old that left me for a 24 year old, tells me today (i had to go get alimony, he wants to pay cash all ...
A. 17 August 2012: I want to bring out the tiniest violins...
Honey, get a lawyer, get your divorce and whatever the lawyer think is fitting.
I think he is trying to pull a fast one on you.
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Is it worth staying with my fiance after he disrespected me so badly?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for almost two and a half years. We met online and after we met in person and dated for a while, I moved in with him where he lived (he lived in Louisiana and I lived in Arizona)but we decided it would be a nice ...
A. 17 August 2012: Why are you even engaged to this guy? Is this the man you see yourself with in the future? (and if you say yes, to that - I mean THIS guy with THIS behavior, because he will NOT become a nicer guy or a better human being because you said your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell people these things? Without feeling embarrassed or stupid about it?
Q. I was talking with my friend the other day and she asked me "what's the thing you've done in life that you're ashamed of and wish you had never done?" I said i don't know because i hate telling people the real answer. The truth is, the thing i'...
A. 17 August 2012: There are things we don't mind sharing and things we DO. You don't HAVE to tell them this, but if you want to, don't be afraid to say, yea I was a little naive back then.
We ALL do stupid stuff.. It's part of growing up and well, many adults S... (read in full...)
My two year old is not progressing vocally the way people tell me he should. Do I have cause to worry?
Q. My beautiful toddler has just turned 2. He's not talking though. He makes sounds but no real proper words except grandma and mama which he uses to describe everything. He is a good communicator and lets me know what he wants non-verbally, an...
A. 17 August 2012: I do think every child moves in a different speed and often boys can be a little slower with the language then girls.
Read to him. When it's just the two of you name everything for him. Even when you are out point out stuff and name it. Don't ex... (read in full...)
We've just broken up. How do I deal with it?
Q. I JUST broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I'm a little happy to have my freedom back, but he treated me so badly. He's drunk every night and said that he thinks I don't love him and such. But he went away last week on vacation with his family. ...
A. 17 August 2012: Here is the thing about trust... You can't say you trust your man, but not the girls around him.. Because those girls aren't going to drug and rape him (to put it bluntly) if anything happens it's by choice HIS choice. So either.. you trust him or ... (read in full...)
What I should I do, this girl keeps contacting my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend is a wrestler and sometimes he has to find rides to the shows that are really far away and recently he got a ride from his friends but apparently the only way he could get a ride is if he stayed the night with the person carpooling who ...
A. 16 August 2012: Why does he need to rely in rides?
You BF and stop replying to her text or block her number.. I can't see why you are mad at HER, HE gave her the number....... (read in full...)
Me and my step-niece like the same guy. What should I do?
Q. So, School, of course, just recently started. Well, I newly like this boy, and so does my step-niece(she's older than me by one year). We all three have the same 6th hour together. Well, she knows I like hime, and quite a bit. Well, she's already ...
A. 16 August 2012: I know people like to do it, but I don't believe in calling "dips" on other human beings. So you liked him first, but you didn't do anything about it. So that makes him off limits?
Yes, in a perfect world people would respect that you were int... (read in full...)
How do I reason with a controlling boyfriend? Yes I have self esteem issues, but my Bf 's reactions have hurt me.
Q. I have the possibility to study abroad for 4 months. This represents a big opportunity to experience different things, help me get a diploma that will help me with my career and be fun/exciting in general. I really want to go, my mind is alre...
A. 16 August 2012: Tell him straight out, that this is something you want to do, something you have dreamed of doing, and now you have the chance.
Tell him that you think the relationship is strong enough for 4 months apart, though NOTHING stops him for coming t... (read in full...)
Why did he do this? He has blocked my number, blocked me from his facebook and on other social network site
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years always put me down whenever he talks to me, he talks as if im invalid, good for nothing,uses me just for my money. I had enough and i told him im not going to call him anymore. I thought he might chnage his ways...
A. 16 August 2012: How do you stop?
You realize that you JUST got RID of a SLUG of a boyfriend! READ what you wrote about him...
****My bf of 2 years always put me down whenever he talks to me, he talks as if im invalid, good for nothing,uses me just for my mone... (read in full...)
My wife passed away a year ago, and I have since fallen in love with my sister-in-law. HELP !!!
Q. Hi my question is My wife passed away over 1 year ago i have no kids and I have now become very close to my sister in law she is married and her husban is always overseas From the time I spend with my sister inlaw I have falling in love wit...
A. 16 August 2012: I will agree with the other Aunties & Uncles.. You need to step away from this. You can't substitute your SIL for your wife.
I am sorry for your loss and I hope you will find another way to grieve instead of projecting "love" onto her sister. ... (read in full...)
Is Gender Ambiguity considered a major block in the road towards marriage?
Q. Is Gender Ambiguity considered a major block in the road towards marriage? Is it something society is able to accept now? I have found a wonderful person to marry but I do not want to bring her a lifetime of meanness and hatred that some people...
A. 16 August 2012: Wow, I'm sorry you even HAVE to deal with what the "norm" and what society thinks you should be.
My first suggestion is to find a group of people who are like you, that you share this in common with, maybe learn from others who have been down tha... (read in full...)
Why does he need a pin on his iPhone and why is it such a secret? What are your thoughts?
Q. Hi im just wondering what everybodys view are on their Partners phones? my bf and I have had a few up and downs over the last two years but recently there has been an issue since he got his iphone. Basically he has a pin block on it, which he say...
A. 16 August 2012: His phone .. to me that says it all.
Because hubby uses his phone for work (military) he has a PIN lock on it too. I think it makes TOTAL sense to have a PIN lock on your phone, this day and age where EVERYONE can get into your whole LIFE by ... (read in full...)
New to dating. Advice needed please? What sort of things are good topics and things to text about when I message her?
Q. I met this girl online. We have been talking online for a few days and then she gave me her number and we started texting. We only texted for one night so far. We didnt talk about much, the conversation ended when i sent a text ment for my cousin a...
A. 16 August 2012: Call her instead of all that texting. Let her put a voice to the rest of you.
I know you "young folks" are so all about texting, but I SWEAR hearing a voice is much much better and.. there is a LOT less room for misunderstanding :)... (read in full...)
We've just broken up. How do I deal with it?
Q. I JUST broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I'm a little happy to have my freedom back, but he treated me so badly. He's drunk every night and said that he thinks I don't love him and such. But he went away last week on vacation with his family. ...
A. 16 August 2012: Honestly, you need to figure out why you even miss the creep.
How do you deal with it? You accept that YOU did the right thing. You dumped his sorry ass. YOU didn't sit idly by while he plainly ignored and disrespected your wishes.
*** Tho... (read in full...)
He's a monster who treated me horribly, will they have a happy ending? I feel sick!
Q. Dear everyone. I'm in bits. I have been with my ex for about 3.5 yrs(off and on) and for the past 2 months he had grown increasingly distant. I knew he had been working alot but he never had time to see me, yet he still said he loved me. I had seen...
A. 16 August 2012: If she is willing to be with him after that then GOOD LUCK to them both, they will not be happy together. They will have a lot of mistrust and fights. I don't see it lasting. However...
I thin YOU should THANK your lucky stars that you found ou... (read in full...)
Will it work out if we start all over again on a stronger footing where I am no longer his Booty Call?
Q. Well after one year of hanging out with him, I expressed that I didn't want to be a "booty-call/fwb/F-buddy", that after all this time my emotions were involved. Here is the exact text I sent him ... "After 1year of this with you my emotions...
A. 16 August 2012: I don't think this guy wants a relationship with you outside of the sheets.
If he did, he would call you and ask you out for dinner, a movie.. you know.. a date.
I think you did the right thing is saying goodbye the first time and I don't thin... (read in full...)
She'll never admit that she's out of line!
Q. Basically been with this women for 7-8 months and she constantly will never admit that she is out of line whether we have a debate or an argument. Below is our recent Skype chat which i believe she has gone to far with. As you read this conver...
A. 16 August 2012: Sorry I couldn't get through it all.... How ANY couple can communicate properly with conversations like this is BEYOND me!
MAN, say what you mean, what you feel and quit the hmm and lolz.... it is IMPOSSIBLE to NOT misunderstand half of the conv... (read in full...)
Why? What to do? He does not want to discuss any plans to move in yet, nor any plans to buy property nor propose, nor have children?
Q. Hi, I'm in a 4 yr, faithful relationship. We share a lot in common, and our future goals are a strong match. We have had a few major issue with his parents not accepting me and intentionally going out of there way to break us up. We stayed t...
A. 16 August 2012: 4 years is CLEARLY long enough to know if there is a future in the relationship, if there is potential for marriage and kids.
SO, I would sit him down and lay it out. He can't skirt the subject and no avoiding. Just don't let him. Tell him how ... (read in full...)
I am a separated woman trying to date. After you've read it all do you think I should see a therapist?
Q. Apologies! This situation description isnt as short as I'd hoped it would be. Click back if you dont want to read a long story. I want responses, but if I dont get any because my post is too long, at least I'll have cyber-vented! My husband an...
A. 16 August 2012: I would. And if anyone needs a therapist, I think it's that guy.
I would not pursue this.... (read in full...)
I don't know if this is workplace bullying :( what can I do?
Q. First off thanks for reading, i know it's quite long but today this has really gotten to me and i don't know what to think, hence why i am turning to you lovely people :) I have been working for a small but successful company for the past 4 years...
A. 16 August 2012: Rework your resume me and start looking for another job. This is pure misery. Since it's a small (family I guess) run company nothing will change. It COULD be that they are trying to make you leave, since they hired the new guy (who is a relative) ... (read in full...)
We haven't had physical contact since we married, could he be cheating?
Q. i have been married for eight years love my husband to bits but we have not had any physical contact since we got married, is this normal? do you think he is having sex with someone else, i feel like i have turned into his mother, i really feel i ...
A. 16 August 2012: 8 years of no sex? No, that isn't normal. Sounds to me that he married you to get a free housekeeper.
You need to sit him down and talk to him. It's not fair on you to be stuck in a loveless marriage.... (read in full...)
I realized life is short, made a bucket list but don't have the money to do things!
Q. I don't really know how to say all this but, I'm 17 and would like a little advice. In May 2011 I almost lost my mother, she was fighting for her life and thankfully made it! In November 2011, I lost my grandad, this was a complete shock a...
A. 16 August 2012: Start working jobs after school/week-end and save up. The summer I turned 17, I spend 30 days seeing a lot if Europe on a Euro rail pass. I worked 3 jobs after school (not all 3 the same days lol but basically 6 days a week) My parents were OK with ... (read in full...)
I feel a little insecure about my boyfriend's past FWB, and could use some advice.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. Prior to meeting me he had a 'sex-only' relationship with another girl for around 2 weeks. When he met me, this relationship was ended. I was a little insecure about this previous 'fling' and freq...
A. 15 August 2012: They were old messages. Your BF was saying whatever worked to get laid with his FWB. He might have felt more, she might have felt more. But NOTHING came of it.
And no, honey, you do NOT trust him. People who snoop do it for a reason. They hop... (read in full...)
I have low self esteem and sometimes have felt like a tart. How do I raise my self esteem?
Q. I am a 25 year old female. I have struggled with low self esteem since a very young age. I haven't had a bf for at least 7 years. Everytime I go on dates with guys I always get very nervous and end up becoming drunk. On one occasion I got d...
A. 15 August 2012: First off, STOP beating yourself up. So you did some stupid things in the past? So what? Let them go. You can't change the past so why let it drag you down over and over?
Secondly, forgive yourself for making a stupid mistake. You aren't the firs... (read in full...)
My friend downloaded some music from a sketchy website!
Q. I'm really nervous for my best friend, she told me she downloaded about 20 songs the other day off a pretty dodgy website. And ever since she has her computer has been running really slow, crashing and all sorts. I said she should tell her dad, bu...
A. 15 August 2012: There are plenty free DL websites with programs that can help her.
Like adAware, Spybot, Spyblaster and it could be she just needs to do a restore (set the date to a few dates before the songs were downloaded).
She still ought to tell her dad.... (read in full...)
His wife is lovely but he is disgusting. How can this couples friendship be maintained?
Q. Hello Having a bit of a problem which I don't know how to deal with. My partner and I are friends with a couple who live just up the road from us. Initially we were friends with the wife but through spending time with her have met the husband and ...
A. 15 August 2012: Be friends with her and let him stew in his own little boring world lol.
Ask her out for girls nights, I can't imagine she wouldn't want to get out from under his thumb every now and then.
He sounds like a total asshat.... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 15 August 2012: Goodness you are naive, girl!
It's not like ANY wife can stop her husband from filing for divorce. Right now your "man" get best of both worlds he is still married to his wife of many years and "playing" house with you.
Why so bitter towards t... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 15 August 2012: I agree with Chigirl on this one.
All 3 of you are responsible for YOUR OWN actions. You know they are having problems, but you still do YOUR thing. It doesn't bother you that YOU might be part of the problem?
And as SVC said, maybe.. he is ju... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm ready to start anything sexual with him yet, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am 14 and soon to be 15 in one month, and my boyfriend is 14 which he has just turned 14 but we are in the same year at school. We have been going out for a month on friday and it has felt like longer as we were 'seeing each other' a week ...
A. 15 August 2012: First off, SCREW what his FRIENDS want him to do.. OK repeat after me.. SCREW THEM!
They are NOT in the relationship. You and your BF are, it's ONLY been a MONTH since you started going out, that is a very short time.
If you don't think you ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with him on my own? Or avoid him altogether?
Q. I am 24 years old, So I met this guy at a club last night I was with one of my girlfriends, so he was with one of his friend, anyways that club was quite empty, it was just four of us, he started a conversation and my friend was sitting next to him, ...
A. 15 August 2012: Why not?
You can always make it a short "date" such as coffee? And then if it feels awkward then excuse yourself after a little while and leave.
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Should I be upset about planning an abortion?
Q. I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...
A. 15 August 2012: No one can tell you how you should feel. And until reality hits usually afterwards when the hormones surge a bit you might feel differently.
If you feel this is what's right for you, then why cry?... (read in full...)
Am I just over thinking this?
Q. Hi everyone, I just transfered to a new school. It's kind of strange since it's junior year and all, but whatever. Anyway, I've made some new friends and stuff which is cool. And yesterday (first day) at lunch, I'd got my food and sat down at an ...
A. 15 August 2012: Over thinking it. And it's ONLY the first week, hold your horse bro.... (read in full...)
I love my Gf not my ex. What can I say to my Gf when she objects to me talking to my ex?
Q. Ok, a little back story of my ex and I. We practically grew up together starting from middle. We were best friends and soon gravitated to being something more. We've been through a lot together and could never really let eachother completely go. She ...
A. 14 August 2012: Honestly I don't blame your GF, this ex is someone you share SO much romantic history. And the ex keeps hinting about her feelings for you.. It's NOT over for the ex. And THAT is just DRAMA waiting to happen.
I know it comes down to trust, b... (read in full...)
Like her personality but not fully attracted to her physically. Do I stay or move on?
Q. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now and I'll be honest when it comes to the physical attraction I just don't find her as attractive as I want to find a girl I date to be. I find myself looking at other women when...
A. 14 August 2012: Having a great personality is great! But, for a relationship to work there has to be some chemistry. And if she doesn't light your fire, maybe you need to let her go, so she can find a guy who will love her for WHO she is and how she looks.
I kno... (read in full...)
So many years together. So how could my husband move on so quickly and easily to a new woman?
Q. why did my husband who i have been with for 21years leave me and then started seeing someone weeks later....
A. 14 August 2012: Maybe he really mentally left the marriage long time ago and was ready to move on?
Or.. he is one of those people who thinks jumping STRAIGHT into a new relationship will make everything better.
Could be an ego thing. You know pride? "I still ... (read in full...)
Sex every other day for 2 months, but I'm not pregnant yet!
Q. Hi! I'm almost 32, my hubby is almost 34. We've been trying to have a baby for 2 months now, having sex every other day. We're both healthy and in good shape, don't smoke and don't drink alcohol. Unfortunately, after two months, I'm not pregnant and ...
A. 14 August 2012: Folic acid and a daily multivitamin might also be a good idea :)
I really wouldn't start on prenatal vitamins til you actually ARE pregnant, but you can.... (read in full...)
Confusion whether it's an invite for a second date or not?
Q. Hello i went on a date with a woman, she sent e,mail, i think date went ok . she sent, e,mail next day said , lovley day , lovley gent. next day i sent an e,mail saying i wanted to give her a kiss on the date , but i did not want too risk it on ...
A. 14 August 2012: Maybe you can cultivate a friendship with this woman and learn how to be around other women too?
I don't think that WE (women) in general expect a certain behavior from guys, it all depended on the guy and the situation. Don't play a part, be... (read in full...)
I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear.
Q. Hi guys So I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear. I am a doctor and at work I wear scrubs. He came to see me at work the other day and then said he could see my bra (the strap was showing so I pulled my top back ...
A. 14 August 2012: He needs to chill.. It's freaking scrubs lol
Sounds like he would be perfectly happy if you wore a hijab and was covered from head to toe.
I will quote you:
He says I'm just telling you the truth, because I know what guys are like. It's not ... (read in full...)
Sex every other day for 2 months, but I'm not pregnant yet!
Q. Hi! I'm almost 32, my hubby is almost 34. We've been trying to have a baby for 2 months now, having sex every other day. We're both healthy and in good shape, don't smoke and don't drink alcohol. Unfortunately, after two months, I'm not pregnant and ...
A. 14 August 2012: 2 months is nothing :) However you might want to google ovulation charts and start looking into your "fertile times".
Took my husband and I, 18 months. and then 3 days for #2 lol... (read in full...)
Confusion whether it's an invite for a second date or not?
Q. Hello i went on a date with a woman, she sent e,mail, i think date went ok . she sent, e,mail next day said , lovley day , lovley gent. next day i sent an e,mail saying i wanted to give her a kiss on the date , but i did not want too risk it on ...
A. 14 August 2012: I think if she specifically wanted to meet you she would tell you that she ride her bikes bu so-so spot on the canal around XXpm.
Her explanation was rather vague, which usually is a nice way or polite way of NOT committing. I highly doubt sh... (read in full...)
Confusion whether it's an invite for a second date or not?
Q. Hello i went on a date with a woman, she sent e,mail, i think date went ok . she sent, e,mail next day said , lovley day , lovley gent. next day i sent an e,mail saying i wanted to give her a kiss on the date , but i did not want too risk it on ...
A. 13 August 2012: No, I'm sorry she told you straight up that she isn't interested.
IF you want a romantic relationship.. move on.... (read in full...)
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