I'm worried about my pregnant friend, can someone help me, please?
Q. dear aunts and uncles, im 15 and really scared for my friend who is the same age. a while ago she started acting really weird like she didnt want to see any of her friends and she dumped her boyfriend who she has been with for 2 years for no reason. ...
A. 19 July 2012: She needs to tell her parents and do it now. She and the baby need prenatal care.
The baby is not going to go away, just because she wants it too.
I'm so sorry that she is in this mess. Be supportive and help her talk to her parents.... (read in full...)
My complicated love life? Or is it Lust? I need help please to sort this out.
Q. i started talking to this guy from my old school that i have a crush on well used to now, we texted And inboxed each other on facebook. i started saying i had a crush on him he said he did too , then i started sending him naked pics of my self ...
A. 19 July 2012: OK you need to learn how to say no, girl!
STOP having any contact with FWB-boy, delete him off Facebook, block him, his cell number and his e-mail. You can if you are polite, tell him it's over you are done, and to not contact you again.
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Is it normal to feel hormones so strongly at this age?
Q. Well I'm 21 and lately I've been having some kind of delayed hormone surge and I was wondering if this was normal. I guess the feeling is best described as a strong sense of desire? I never felt like this as a teenager, and I have no experience, s...
A. 19 July 2012: It's quite normal that your hormone levels fluctuate, it does all through the month, but also as you age and mature.
Some "bloom" later then others in many areas, maybe this is your "hormonal surge" time now. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go to a clinic to terminate this pregnancy?
Q. Scared to go to the doctors to ask for a abortion. I have just discovered I am a few wks pregnant. This is a massive mistake, I already have 3 kids and split with my partner 7 mths ago. We have 2 kids already and split up because he couldn't commit ...
A. 19 July 2012: Get over the being embarrassing, go see the doctor and get it over and done with.
And I'm sorry you are finding yourself in this position :(
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Unprotected oral sex risky?
Q. Divorced, and having casual sex for first time in life, use condoms. Realistically, what are the chances of getting a disease from giving a man unprotected oral sex? Not swallowing. I know that HIV is difficult to pass that way. And the two ...
A. 19 July 2012: I agree with Tish.
While oral "seems" safe it's not. HIV, HPV and Herpes are things tyhat can not be cured, only maintained.. and you can get all of those from oral too, specially if you are not careful. A guy might not even know he has HPV or H... (read in full...)
I'm having to chose between the gym to keep my body or my girlfriend!
Q. Here' s the thing. My girlfriend has been complaining of lately that I don't spend enough time with her. I can totally understand her argument because I simply have too much going on to devote a large majority of my time to her. I work full time, ...
A. 19 July 2012: How much time DO you spend at the Gym?
And do women want athletic guy, yes, but not the overdeveloped "Jersey Shore Juicehead look-alikes" (If you know what I mean) And honestly I can't stand vain men, I know it's sexist but guys who are so self ... (read in full...)
He claims to love me and yet talks so badly to me. Is it just manipulation?
Q. I've told a controlling and manipulative husband of over 12 years that I want to leave him and he's looking for jobs in another city after trying for 3 months to convince me. As I show him a strong front but he still tries to use every opportunity ...
A. 19 July 2012: I would stop suggest a divorce and just contact a lawyer and get started.
There are no rules that HE has to start the proceedings and honestly, if he hasn't changed in 12 years, who is he trying to fool when he says he will change? If he was real... (read in full...)
How is seating at weddings usually arranged?
Q. How is seating at weddings usually arranged? I know it's immediate family in the first row... And then what? There are some people I'd like at my wedding but I don't know how to see them. Some know a lot of people coming and some know nobody!...
A. 19 July 2012: Traditionally, in Western Christian churches the bride’s family sits on the left side of the aisle while the groom’s family sits on the right. The problems sometimes begin when there are step-parents.
The mothers always have the best seats, i... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to look "girly" during sex
Q. okay here goes! I want my boyfriend to wear black eyeliner (around the entire eye) and have sex with me. just once. maybe very occasionally since it's very weird but it's a fantasy i want fufilled! i don't know how he's going to feel about this, ...
A. 19 July 2012: I would not tell him you want him to look "girly". It's kinda emasculating and maybe not the sexiest thing for most guys IMHO
Now if you talk to him and tell him that you have this fantasy, where he wears eyeliner and it's in your opinion ... (read in full...)
She apologized and said I was 'hard work sometimes. My friend says she's cheating What or who should I believe?
Q. I am very laid back and a mellow guy. My girlfriend of 4 months is generally happy and she is 9 weeks pregnant. We have a good time together and i treat her well. I called her today to wake her up as she had work and i called her when she was on ...
A. 19 July 2012: Nothing what you mention screams *she is Cheating!!* Nothing at all.
She is stressed and perhaps a little freaked out with the pregnancy, maybe with work too. And I think you have some trust issues, which isn't totally odd, considering you have... (read in full...)
BF has never taken me out for a romantic dinner.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3.5 years. I am 26 and he is 31. in this time, we have not been out on a romatic dinner out (getting dressed up etc). He has never taken me out to a fancy dinner. We occasionally go out for a meal, but ...
A. 19 July 2012: 1. talk to him.
2. Invite him out to a romantic dinner.
As for him not wanting to be your guinea pig, that is ridiculous - we all have to learn how to cook new meals by trying.
Don't forget he can't read your mind and instantly know what ... (read in full...)
How and where to set up boundaries?
Q. We've been together for a year and half and been living together for almost a year. I met him 2 years ago while he was separating from his ex. We first became great friends before we got together and I also helped him to get through the hard tim...
A. 18 July 2012: You know, kids at 26 months (little over two years ) are BARELY going to remember Disneyland. So the trip would be for the parents. I don't think the ex is being fair and I think your BF is coddling her, because she hold all the power of the ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy who's not 100% certain about us.
Q. I've recently started dating this guy. He's smart, good-looking, fit and we have really good intellectual conversations. I feel a connection between us - he really understands me and he's very open-minded and sweet. He was engaged to a woman for a ...
A. 18 July 2012: How long have you been seeing each other?
And yes, I would talk to him about, he can't just dodge such a statement.
And stick to the no sex.... (read in full...)
How do you stay friends after breaking up? Is it possible?
Q. i was with my boyfriend for 1year and 9 months, yesterday he broke up with me, we agreed to stay friends, i havent seen him since but i think that it is doable, but others say staying friends is impossible, what can i do to make it easier to stay ...
A. 17 July 2012: I think it comes down to a lot of things.
How the relationship ended.
Why you want to be around that person still.
How long it's been since it ended.
Out of my 3 Exes I only talk to one of them and it's rare we "talk" (mostly e-mails) ... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with this girl who's my younger sister's best friend but she's in a relationship with an idiot of a boyfriend who's a friend of mine
Q. So there's this girl and she's fantastic. Into comic books, rock music, astronomy, the whole nine yards with me. It's simply a bonus that she's absolutely beautiful and knows how to have a good time. Two major problems, however: she's my 18 year old ...
A. 17 July 2012: Sorry, bro. She is still with her BF so not really dating material while she is seeing someone. So you need to back off.
And you pointing out to her how much of a loser her BF is, is not pleading your case. Meddling in other people's rel... (read in full...)
My cousin has been hitting on my closest friends and causing trouble
Q. I met my long-lost second cousin by chance, we were both happy to have met a relative as we are both away from our families working on foreign soil. On first impressions he seemed wonderful: charming, smart, and intelligent. It also transpired we ...
A. 17 July 2012: Confront your cousin. Tell him your friends are not there for him to hit on and if his advances have been turned down he needs to respect it. Or else..
I would make it quite certain that he can not be part of your group of friends if THIS is how h... (read in full...)
I don't want to be married anymore! How do I tell my husband?
Q. i'm married and i'm not in love with my husbandi have know feelings for him anymore, when he touch me i don't feel anything...i don't want to be married anymore...how do i tell him that i want how of this marriage without being so blunt...
A. 17 July 2012: So it's kinda obvious that you never truly forgave him (NOT that there is anything wrong with that, you WANTED to forgive him, but you didn't really. It happens)
I would ask for a trial separation. I see no reason why you should stay, it's not... (read in full...)
I've been dating my friend for the past year but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends nor his family to know about it
Q. Dear Cupid I am been dating my friend for past 1 year, but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends to know. He hasn't introduced me to his friends or his family. Recently he asked me not to send any text messages, i usually don't send much ...
A. 17 July 2012: I have to agree with jinxx - either he is seeing someone or he is ashamed.
Honestly I would call him on it. After a whole year of dating he should want to scream it from the roof tops.
I don't think "time" will ever be right for this guy.... (read in full...)
Why does my 50 year old boyfriend sleep with his mother?
Q. Is it normal fort a 50 some year old guy to choose to sleep in the same bed with his Mom when there are other beds/sleeping arrangements available? My boyfriend makes a habit of doing this and I find it creepy....
A. 17 July 2012: Well, I find it odd that he sleeps with his Mom. But it could be totally harmless.
I would just ask him.... (read in full...)
I found photos of female co-workers butts on my boyfriends phone. He says I'm crazy but could he be screwing around?
Q. So my fiancé and I got engaged in June this year. We had a baby together late last year. We have trust issues. Him because o his very serious ex relationship, and me because he is naturally a flirt and used to be a player before his ex. He used to ...
A. 17 July 2012: Of course he called you crazy.. that is one of the typical "I got caught" responses... "I have no idea how they got on my phone..." I call the BS card.
It's called defection. Making YOU the "bad guy" for something he did and he thought he could ge... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to want to have a wedding but not get married legally?
Q. I'm talking to my ex again and things are heading in the right direction. However, I recently inherited a lot of money so my life is going to be very different. I'm planning to travel a lot and I'm not planning to have a "real" job. I just want to ...
A. 17 July 2012: I think honestly, it's ridiculous to have a wedding but not be married legally. A Wedding means to be MARRIED LEGALLY and in the eyes of the law and/or God.
If you don't WANT to be married in the legal sense to this guy, then don't do "faking"... (read in full...)
If this online guy has lied about simple stuff like this, I don't know what more he could lie about!
Q. I'm a 18 year old girl. Im pretty mature, not kiddish at all. I met a guy on a penpal site around 3 years ago and he introduced himself as just John (name obviously changed). He told me he was 24 then (should be 27 now) We eventually lost touch ...
A. 17 July 2012: iAmHereToHelpYou and So_Very_Confused are so very SPOT ON.
I would cut all contact... It's not so surprising that he's gotten into contact again, now that you hit 18.......
He is a Creeper!... (read in full...)
I accused my wife of lying about being on a porn site and now she is filing divorce papers
Q. Someone please give me advice! I have recently got back with my wife after a seperation. we live seperate and have for the past two years. We decided not to sign divorce papers because we both agreed we still loved each other and our reasons for ...
A. 17 July 2012: Honestly if you two have been separated for the past two years, it's over. Love or no love. If it worked between you two you would be together. You wouldn't let PETTY things keep you apart.
I don't think your friend or you were mistaken about th... (read in full...)
All of my boyfriend's ex girlfriends and friends are strippers, ex cons, prostitutes, porn stars ...and generally people who are a little shady, while I'm a virgin!! What the hell is going on?! Why did he pick me?
Q. My bf is 31, I am 26 and we have been together for about seven months. Things are going great...however...I'm confused about the fact that all his exes and friends are strippers, ex cons, prostitutes, porn stars ...and generally people who are a ...
A. 17 July 2012: Well I hope he gets testing for the whole STD battery before you decide you bed him.
You ask why he picked you, but I want to know why YOU picked him.
Maybe he wants to state over with a "clean slate" the other girls weren't exactly "keepers... (read in full...)
My husband ogles other women, flirts with other women in front of me, and is mean about my body since I had our baby.
Q. I had our baby 5 months ago. During my pregnancy, I was on serious bed rest, and meds, for 3 months, then after, I had to recover from Caesarean for another few months. I was approx 110lbs when I got pregnant, and gained quite a bit of weight due ...
A. 17 July 2012: Your husband in as insensitive ass! That is as nicely as I can put it.
And you will get back to a weight YOU feel comfortable with, "baby-fat" is not forever, however I'm doubting your husband will lose his PICK attitude.
And I will third that ... (read in full...)
I found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way.
Q. Found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way. Its a shock. I like him a lot but I feel like running and fast. He already has two! I have no kids and though I love them I have no desire to have them now or to be a stepmom honestly. I know ...
A. 17 July 2012: I think you are being smart, not a coward.
You got to do what's right for YOU.... (read in full...)
Am I doing these Kegels correctly?
Q. Hi all! I've been trying to do my kegel exercises, not because I feel as though I'm loose down there or anything but I would like to be able to grip my boyfriend harder during sex as he finds its really pleasureable, I've never done kegels before s...
A. 17 July 2012: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119
That might help you with a few tips... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is harrassing me! please help!
Q. Hey, I'm only 15 years old and my 17 year old ex- boyfriend is harrassing me. I ended the relationship just about a month ago for no mega dramatic reason but I just knew his wasnt for me, we had been together about a year and a half and now he's ...
A. 16 July 2012: Talk to your parents. They need to know.
Delete him from all personal websites, add his e-mail address to your spam folder, Block him from everything you can, (some cell phone have free apps you can download to block numbers) and report him if h... (read in full...)
I think we could have a great relationship if only the arguments stopped, but at the moment I'm only with him for the sex!
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for 5 months and he gets upset with me most of the time. After a week he looked through my phone and facebook messages as he has been cheated on in the past. He found messages on facebook, about 4 guys asked me out even though ...
A. 16 July 2012: Why waste any more time on this relationship? If the only good thing is the sex?
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My husband insulted me in front of his friend
Q. Dear all, my husband fought with me in front of his friend and insulted me by tellin me that he will hit me and I should shut up...I couldn't believe that he could say such thing in front of his friend...what would any of u do if u were in my ...
A. 16 July 2012: First of all, don't fight in front of other people. I'm sure they don't want to be dragged into your arguments.
Secondly, I think you need to sit how down and ask him WTF was up with those statements.
I would also consider leaving. It migh... (read in full...)
Do any of you write to your exes after the dust settles?
Q. I could use some guidance on something that has been bothering me for weeks. I divorced about a year and a half ago and recently remarried (to someone new). I am so in love and truly on a better path in life. My former marriage was long however...
A. 16 July 2012: Maybe 1-2 times a year I e-mail/ get an e-mail from my ex (whom I broke up with 20 years ago). We parted on good terms.
I think it depends on WHY you want to do it.
I honestly think there is no real reason to start talking to her, unless it's... (read in full...)
I want him to leave!
Q. i'm a 50 year old lady and i'm married, but i'm not in love with my husband. we have both told each other that we love one another, but we'll not in love with each other. we separate for four months' because he stole from me his attitude was bad he ...
A. 16 July 2012: Find a lawyer. Get a divorce. After that you can kick him out.... (read in full...)
Went out with a colleague who has a girlfriend just as friends, and I got upset with myself for enjoying it so much! What can I do?
Q. i really like a guy i work with. the other day we went out as friends for a pizza and movie. he treated me so well that i got so upset and he ended up hugging me for 2 hours. im ashamed to say i really enjoyed it. i was feeling extremely low as i ...
A. 16 July 2012: Then don't hang out with him one-on-one again.
If he's got problems with his girlfriend he OUGHT to discuss that with HER, not you.
Personally, I'd back away.
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Should I really have to train my 27 year old boyfriend how to communicate?
Q. Hey, I'm not sure what to do or think. I have dated my boyfriend for a year. and he struggles with communication. I've tried to be very patient and let him be, and let him talk more when he is ready. However a lot of issues starting coming ab...
A. 16 July 2012: If you want/expect certain behavior from him, you need to tell him. So basically, yes you need to "train" him to communicate.
If the only other person he ever had to stay in contact with was him mom/dad, it takes a little getting used to "reporti... (read in full...)
I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...
A. 15 July 2012: Your guy has been watching too many porn. He doesn't really need to DEEP throat you to be satisfied. He just WANTS it.
Use your hand as well as your mouth and there is not much need to try and stuff it down your throat, but yes the more you prac... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an ex to ask you to events alone?
Q. Is it normal when your ex. ask you to go to a sports event alone? Does it consider a date? or just a purely friendly event if it's just the two of us going instead of with a group of friends?...
A. 15 July 2012: If you are friendly, cordial or even platonic then sure it's like hanging out.
I wouldn't consider it a date.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an ex to ask you to events alone?
Q. Is it normal when your ex. ask you to go to a sports event alone? Does it consider a date? or just a purely friendly event if it's just the two of us going instead of with a group of friends?...
A. 15 July 2012: If you are friendly, cordial or even platonic then sure it's like hanging out.
I wouldn't consider it a date.... (read in full...)
I still love him but am unsure if I should answer his messages.
Q. My boyfriend brokeup with me two months ago and after a couple of days he send me a message saying he is sorry for how things turned out but i did not reply back. now after one and a half month of no contact. he send me a message on fb. we are not ...
A. 15 July 2012: I guess it depends on what you really want.
I unlike Janniepeg don't believe in taking breaks in a relationship. It's marathon, not a sprint with stops and starts. There will be ups and downs, but both parties should be willing to make it work. Th... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: The house isn't bought yet, so tell him now. Get out while you can, so to speak.
I'm sorry that he will be disappointed in not getting the house, but you know what? He should have thought about that when he made a child with someone else.
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I thought my trainer was my friend but he has upped his prices!
Q. Over the past year I have become good friends with my personal trainer. But recently he told me he had to raise his rates and asked me for more money. Of course I was surprised he would do this to me and I am hurt by it. I thought he conside...
A. 15 July 2012: That fact that you are friend with your trainer doesn't mean he has to train you for free or whatever low price YOU want to pay.
Being a trainer is his JOB, what the clients pay is his salary.
And yes, you can be friends even if money change ... (read in full...)
19 and never had a girlfriend, is my situation normal enough?
Q. At 19 I haven’t ever had a proper girlfriend. Over the past few years I have had two ‘flings’ and since starting university a couple of one night stands, so I’m not inexperienced or a virgin but I’ve never had a proper, long term and committed ...
A. 15 July 2012: I think it's pretty normal. There is no expiration date on you as far as dating, so take it easy enjoy uni.
Practice your social skills, university is a great place for it.
And relax. :)... (read in full...)
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