She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 18 September 2012: I don't even know why you play along with her mind-games. Block her and stop seeking her out on the internet. I know you hope she will have a change of heart, but all she is doing is preventing YOU from moving forward and finding someone for YOU to ... (read in full...)
He makes constant demands for sex but due to my health and busy lifestyle we can't do it so often.
Q. I am generaly a happy go lucky kind of girl. In a great relationship with a man i love and cherish and have for near enough 7 years, our sex life is amazing but recently i have run into some problems with my health. Chronic fatigue and i also have ...
A. 16 September 2012: Have you sat down and talked to him? On one hand I think it's great that he is still so turned on by you, but on the other hand it's like he doesn't respect that there is more to you then "servicing" him sexually.
Are you on medication for the ... (read in full...)
We never go out on dates, he says I am too materialistic!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. We are both twenty. We have had our ups and downs, to say the least. He never takes me out on dates. He says he is too poor because he needs to pay rent. But dinner or a movie once in a while? Is that ...
A. 16 September 2012: So you DO go out? You just have to be the one to pay?
Do you live at home? and He lives by himself? And since when does a date have to cost a lot of money?
... (read in full...)
My husband's children and grandchildren make me so unwelcome. What is the best way to handle this?
Q. What do you do when for seven years your husbands adult kids will not accept you? The x is nuts and my husband and I met when he had been divorced 4 years. My now husband's kids had been so mean to my daughter (26) till finally she will never h...
A. 15 September 2012: Yikes.
I met my husband 6 years AFTER his divorce from his first wife and she had the same attitude as your "in-laws". Since I was the one who remembered birthdays, bought cards, presents - the EX threw a fit and told my husband he couldn't... (read in full...)
Why did she do this to me, and how do I get over it?
Q. Dear Cupid, Back around the start of this year, I 'met' this 21-year old American girl* on Twitter. She was already following me and a number of other people I follow who were already following her, and so I ended up following her back. She p...
A. 15 September 2012: Honey, what you feel/felt for her is not love. It's an obsessive infatuation. You NEVER knew HER. You knew what she told you, what she LET you see. It is easy to "fall" for someone in cyberspace thinking it's love. But here is the thing, what she ... (read in full...)
Should I text him or do nothing?
Q. This guy texted me about two weeks ago, wishing me a belated Happy Birthday. He had previously invited me out to lunch, so in this text he said he would be in touch soon to see when we can both get together for said "lunch". We are both very bu...
A. 15 September 2012: I tend to agree with yourself and Abella. If a guy is REALLY interested he puts in an effort. This guy doesn't seem to want to work to hard, new job and all.... (read in full...)
I am stuck in this awful place where I don't really prefer a divorce but staying in the marriage is difficult.
Q. My wife and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary in August. Instead of it being a joyous milestone, it was melancholy in nature from my point of view. We share a lot of love and joy or else we would have never made it this long, but o...
A. 15 September 2012: I agree with Auntie BimBim _ I would try with a letter and suggest couples counseling, however... you can't make you wife LOVE you or LUST for you. So this is something YOU have to decide if that is a deal breaker or not.
You honestly sounds l... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with my FWB
Q. Hi everyone I know there is a lot of questions asked about this but I really need some advice my friends with benefits if you could call it that have been sleeping together for nearly 3 years now last week I asked him if he had been sleeping with ...
A. 15 September 2012: Thanks for your answers but he is the one who wanted us to only sleep with each other.
No, OP he asked YOU to not sleep with anyone else. The whole POINT of FWB is that you do not have that kind of control over each other and whom you date,see... (read in full...)
We spent time together, he seemed keen but since I have heard nothing from him....why?
Q. I met a French guy online (we are both 32) and met him in London which went well. He is not a frequent texter and by the time I met him again 4 weeks later I probably had 4 messages from him. So he doesnt like texting and that I accept. The 2nd ...
A. 15 September 2012: If you know he doesn't like texting why not CALL?... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 15 September 2012: Most people who had a bad experience don't hold on to the memory, but they do hold on to the regret.
Stop worrying about it. Love her as she is.... (read in full...)
Should I stay at his house?
Q. Dear cupids, I am faced with a challenge. I made up my mind to spend my school holiday this december with my boyfriend in his house in another state and tell my parents the school requested us to stay because of out fast approaching exams so as to ...
A. 15 September 2012: Dump the BF and stay at school and enjoy the SERENITY of a NO DRAMA holiday!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with another girl behind my back.Am I a fool for wanting to stay and make this work?
Q. My boyfriend has always treated me like a princess. He is one of my best friends; we have the same friends, the same beliefs, and have known each other for a little over four years. We've been dating for 3 months short of two years. We moved into a ...
A. 15 September 2012: I think you are in love with the IDEA of who this guy is and how the relationship COULD be if he WAS that guy... the thing is he ISN'T the good guy you think he is or you WANT him to be..
He is a lying cheating douche bag who relies on you to "... (read in full...)
He is having sex with a few different girls and I'm not sure what he wants. Or if I even want him. What do you think I should do?
Q. I have been knowing this guy for 3 weeks we were texting before we actually went on a date and before that he told me that he doesn't want a gf. So we went on a date and everything went well obviously I'm different from other girls for him plus he ...
A. 14 September 2012: He wants to add you to his harem for sex.
I find it so amazing that there are girls out there who think they can "fix" a man-whore by being a good person and a good girl. It takes HIM being WILLING to change, you can do it for him.
Why wou... (read in full...)
My husband waits until I've gone to bed to talk to a female co-worker, should I be worried?
Q. I know that my husband talks to a female co-worker. But he always waits till I go to bed to talk with her. She works mightnight shift. I don't think this is normal. Should I be worried?...
A. 14 September 2012: It does seem odd that he can't talk to her with you around. IS there anything else that makes you not trust him?
Have you asked him?
As underhanded as this sounds, you can buy a voice activated recorder and put it close to where he sits be... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 14 September 2012: Having kids doesn't give me the right to judge those who doesn't. I have friends who CHOSE to not have kids, I think that is their right and their choice.
But in your case, you NEED to learn how to tell people to BUTT out of your life if they sto... (read in full...)
I'm back and in need of some more tough love. I do everything for her and she constantly curses at me and says I do nothing. I need help getting away.
Q. Well agony aunts... It's me. The one that moved to Tennessee to be with a woman I love, that turned out to be a rough ride with 3 kids... Bring back memories now. I wanted to provide an update and get more brutality thrown my way because it helps me ...
A. 14 September 2012: I remember you and I wonder why you are back, honestly.
EVERYONE told you that IT IS NOT a healthy relationship and to get out. You obviously ignored everyone and now you are in deeper shit.
I think YouWish's advice about finding a therap... (read in full...)
I moved my entire life for him, and he goes and cheats on me with his ex wife! I'm stuck here and don't know what to do....
Q. My bf and i met online. We have a few mutual RL friends. He lived 8 hours away. We met up about april of 2011. He was going through a divorce and so was i. But we got along really well and were really miserable apart from eachother. I ended up ...
A. 14 September 2012: Time to get the HECK out of Dodge, honey. I would look into finding a way home, where you CAN get a job and where you have friends/family nearby.
As for his cheating.. are you just going to SUCK that up and "forgive & forget"?
Sorry, I woul... (read in full...)
Is my husband secretly gay?
Q. I have a strong feeling that my husband is either gay or bi.... 8 months after we have gotten married I found in his email that he posted on craigslist about sex with a guy... Of course I asked him about it and was upset... He told me he didn't a...
A. 14 September 2012: He is definitely bi or bi-curios. He just doesn't want to you look at him different for it.
That fact that you have caught him twice, doesn't bode well. He will at some point go past his curiosity and actually go out and have sex.... (read in full...)
Is my self medical abortion unsuccessful?
Q. Dear cupids, Help!!!. I recently had a strip test and found a slight second red line. By my calculation, I was 32 days pregnant. So I used the misoprostol alone procedure to terminate it for I have been taught on how to take the medicine in a two ...
A. 14 September 2012: I agree with K_c100 you NEED to go see a doctor. No one here have any idea how safe that procedure is, most pills are the Plan B which NEEDS to be taken 72 hours at the latest after sex, to avoid implantation.
32 DAYS is late to try and use thos... (read in full...)
Boyfriend chose he's ex girlfriend's friendship over me. I'm so hurt and disappointed
Q. My partner of 18 mths (whom had discussed marriage with me ) and I broke up a few weeks ago due to his level of contact with his ex , by his own admittance, his best and only friend aside from me .They have been totally committed to each other for ...
A. 14 September 2012: I'm sorry it didn't work out. I think there is a fine line between being friends with an EX and crossing over to something more co-dependent.
I'm not a big fan of people needing to hold on to exes, specially if there are no kids. But I don't be... (read in full...)
I need information on how to deal with my mom who has OCD/ADD and treats me like a worthless bum.
Q. Hello, Sorry for the length and thanks in advance for any help! Just putting it plainly, my mother makes me feel like I'm the worst. First off, I'll admit I'm lazy and that has caused me to be a little behind in my progression to adulthoo...
A. 13 September 2012: Honestly, I think you need to focus on moving out.
You can't "fix" your mom. And certainly not if she can't see that she has a problem. And I'm sorry she is the way she is, I seriously doubt the ODC. ADD is the root cause though. More likely i... (read in full...)
He's using his visitation time with my daughter to try to get back together with me.
Q. Modnote: I assume you meant 2 year old girl? I have a 22 year old little girl and her father and I are not together anymore due to him putting other things before our baby. I now recieve child support and he gets supervised visitations every ot...
A. 13 September 2012: How about your mother/brother/sister/friend is there instead of you to supervise?... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he asked me for a threesome. Should I still do on a date with him anyway?
Q. Hi, I need some honest answer! This guy I kinda like... asked me for a threesome..( two guys and me!) Yes, I was hurt by this proposal and really offended. I thought he might like me as well... but I guess it's not. But still I desperate...
A. 13 September 2012: He wants you for sex. Hoping that he can ply a good dinner and you will be so thankful that you will agree to a 3-come.
Honestly, honey.... stop being so desperate.
And no you are fooling yourself if you think he is YOUR dream guy. He a horny ... (read in full...)
I thought she was interested but now I haven't heard from her in days. What now?
Q. So I met this girl and got her number. I called her up a few days later and left her a voicemail about getting together. Almost two days passed and I didn't hear from her and then she texted me. We set up a date for the next week. It went extremely ...
A. 13 September 2012: Either she is playing "hard to get" or she isn't interested.
I would not call or text her again. You ASKED her to call you back. She didn't.
Honestly, I would move on.... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but also wants to be with his ex. He says its to help her move on. What?
Q. ok, so… I'm starting a relationship with this guy we've been friends for almost 2 and a half years. He has this huge amount of trust with me which makes me feel kind of guilty because I'm not that kind of people who talk about themselves a lot. A...
A. 13 September 2012: Honestly I would tell him that you two can stay friends. He really doesn't seem like he knows exactly what he wants.
I wouldn't move forward til he knows what he wants and can leave the ex in the past where she belongs. Sounds to me like he isn't... (read in full...)
I may have miscarried recently. It's made me want a baby. Should I wait like my Bf says? I worry waiting could destroy our relationship.
Q. I'm 18 and going to be turning 19 in 3 weeks. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 5 years and he is turning 20 in 2 months. He was the person I lost my virginity to and we have only slept with each other. I started taking the pill as soon ...
A. 13 September 2012: Your BF isn't ready. I don't think it would be fair to "force" a child on him, when he's already told you he isn't ready for it.
The thing is with a pregnancy and miscarriage, you had a surge of hormones like never before which could be why you ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish to want to break up with him 2 years after he cheated?
Q. Hiya, my boyfriend cheated on me two years ago I agreed to give him a second chance we have a family a house now. We didn't do these things to fix the relationship I found out about the cheating after we had settled. I find myself thinking more an...
A. 13 September 2012: For some people there is just no getting over the betrayal of being cheated on. It will always linger and infest the relationship.
And THAT is OK. At some point you will have to reexamine your feeling and find a way to forgive him and yourself... (read in full...)
My true love moved away to find himself. What do I do now?
Q. The guy I dated for over 2 years moved about 3,000 miles away a month ago because he wanted to go find out what a makes him tick. He told me when he made this decision to move is that he didn't want me to think he was trying to run away from me, ...
A. 13 September 2012: Let him go.
And please promise me you won't sit around and wait for him to magically appear once he's "found" himself.
... (read in full...)
Doesn't want to hurt me. Kissed me. Now what?
Q. Long story short... Met a guy. Been hanging out as friends for 4 months. Really like him. He said he just wanted to be friends. Nothing happened. Stopped hanging out with him for like a month. Finally hung out with him again tonight. And he kissed ...
A. 13 September 2012: I think you need to step back and look at this guy again. He says ONE thing .. I don't want to hurt you but his actions tells another story.
Seems to me like he is reeling/grooming you into a FWB that he hopes you will think is all your idea. He... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'm glad you didn't cheat, that is a good thing :)
I honestly think you need to switch up your schedule so she can't so easily predict where she might find you.
She does seem bitter about the break up. One thing is running into your ex around t... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 13 September 2012: To rub it in.
Did you cheat on her by chance?
I think she likes to play games. She isn't fully over you. She may pretend that she is, but someone who is totally over their ex doesn't fee la need to rub it in the ex's face that they have a new ... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: I agree with Tisha's reply.
Use a PAPER CARD and snail mail. ... (read in full...)
Keep the baby, adoption, or abortion?
Q. Im 19 yrs old and i just found out that im pregnant. I was taking the pill, have been for 3 mos. Idk how but i must have taken it wrong or maybe it just failed. Anyways my current bf and i have been dating 8mos. He is rather self absorbed, and is ...
A. 13 September 2012: I too agree with YouWish. This (as tough as it is) is your DECISION.
But I would, no matter WHAT you decide, dump the BF.
If you decide to keep the baby is he ready and willing to help? Can you take care of a baby on your own? ( I seriously do... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend. I want a bit more but not a relationship, I don't know how to tell him without scaring him off. What do I do?
Q. I just got out an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago and I cant separate my feelings from sex. Ive always considered myself to have a high sex drive, but majority of the time I was in relationships, so I didnt have to have casual sex but I have ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think you have to ask yourself why you think it's OK to sleep with a guy who has a partner already.
And why you seem to be content with being some guys sloppy seconds.
Find a F-buddy who is single. Less drama. Because you might not have a... (read in full...)
We keep bumping into each other and having one night stands, should we keep it this way or should I ask him to meet up and talk?
Q. Hey everyone, So when I was 20 I had a one night stand with a guy I met at my flight actually,he was sitting next to me we spoke we had a stop at a place for 5 hours and we had sex..and that was it.. When I turned 22 my girlfriends took me to cabo ...
A. 11 September 2012: Oh I think I would leave that one alone. He's a (I beg pardon) a man-whore.
I bet he will have sex with just about anyone with a pulse.
And I agree with SVC - please please use protection with this guy.
Do you really want to date a male stri... (read in full...)
I deliberately cheated, but now regret it!
Q. I recently made the biggest mistake of my life. A girl I've known since forever (seriously, our mothers are best friends and our grandmothers knew each other). Pretty much by default, it was expected we would eventually get together. Well, we did. ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think the fact that you regret it and show remorse might be your "saving grace".
I DO think you need to tell her. If this girl is "The One" for you, you can't just sweep it under the rug. Truth has a way of coming out, one way or another.... (read in full...)
Why do guys always read into things too much?
Q. I have got some guy friends.I see most of them in a strict platonic way.I'm always friendly to them but NOT flirty.We talk,hang out and laugh together. However,when I start talking to them more often(especially if we're good friends/close fr...
A. 11 September 2012: Honestly, I think women are JUST as guilty of this as men are.
If you don't want to date him then be firm and maybe dial it back? I think anyone (male or female) if they get a LOT of attention all of a sudden from the opposite sex friend, it's not... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend has been masturbating on webcam to four other girls
Q. Hi everyone. So, I've been dating this guy for 6 months - but I found out he had been masturbating on webcam to four other girls, including two girls who I know personally, one of whom used to be one of my best friends a few years back. He also ha...
A. 11 September 2012: OK, let me start from the end of your post,
I DO think you are wrong in expecting an explanation or apology from the girl who USED to be your friend. A GOOD friend would have ended the video chat and told you, but obviously she wasn't a good fri... (read in full...)
The guy who used to bully me has changed and now he's asked me out, should I go for it?
Q. I'm a 15 year old bi guy. There's this guy I have a crush on and he has a crush on me too. I'm just not sure whether to go for it or not. He's slightly older, really smart and a Rugby player as well as really good looking. When he was at school wi...
A. 11 September 2012: I would stay far far away from him. IT could be he was bullying you because he had feelings for you back then, but that is NO excuse.
He sounds like a flake too.
Nope, wouldn't date him.... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling he's playing games with me
Q. I used to be friends with this girl and her boyfriend. He seemed really nice. Then she broke up with him very cold heartedly and I refuse to speak to her. He started talking to me on facebook message basically crying over his relationship. Then I ...
A. 11 September 2012: If he was interested in dating you, he would have made his move, not asked for dating advice..
Sorry, honey I think he's "friend-zoned" you.... (read in full...)
Do I accept that she doesn't want a reconciliation?
Q. Hi Guys, My ex girlfriend recently told me she wanted me back, but she's not ready for a relationship, we kissed and cuddled. We have been out a few times, but her attitude to me is always very blunt in messages and phone calls, I get zero affe...
A. 11 September 2012: I would accept it as such. ( that she doesn't really want a reconciliation).
She wants you because you are convenient and familiar, but she really doesn't want to date you, to me, that kind of screams that she wants someone (you) as her security... (read in full...)
Why is it that a guy can have a girlfriend but when his female friend starts dating, he suddenly becomes jealous and possessive?
Q. Hey all. Tell me, why is it that a guy can have a girlfriend but when his female friend starts dating, he suddenly becomes jealous and possessive? I see this happen all the time! I told my male friend I liked him more than friends. He to...
A. 11 September 2012: Being friend with a person of the opposite sex usually don't work well long term once "romantic emotions" start to develop in my experience at least.
I would honestly either cut the contact with this "friend" or take a break from him and focus on... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 8 September 2012: Honestly, I thought this was a joke at first.
No woman chooses to have postpartum depression. It has to do with a chemical and hormonal imbalance brought on BY the pregnancy and birth.
Instead of being jealous toward women who suffer through t... (read in full...)
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