7 year itch. Why would she leave without even talking to me and telling me what was wrong?
Q. I am still a little confused about why my wife left me. She says she left because I was having an affair with a friend of mine, which I wasn't and she knew this, we have been together for 7 years, always have been able to talk, but in the last few...
A. 19 September 2012: There has to have been something going on... No one just walks away fro ma good marriage.
Like CaringGuy pointed out... Either she cheated and accused you as a way out or something else triggered her wish for a divorce.
Something els... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife has forgotten what losing her virginity felt like?
Q. My wife lost her virginity to one man (had sex just once before me) and I have been fucking her three times a week for over twenty years. Has she forgotten about that first experience by now or will she always remember how it felt the first ti...
A. 19 September 2012: Pretty sure she does remember it, but I BET YOU top dollar it's not a memory she cherish or think about a lot. More like a WTF was I thinking sleeping with THAT guy my first time? kind of thing.
WHY do you worry about this? What does it matter t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps files on all his previous girlfriends
Q. My boyfriend keeps files on all his ex-girlfriends. Is this normal? He was on a dating site before he met me and he had files, manila folders, with print-outs of the women he dated and their correspondence back and forth through the computer. ...
A. 19 September 2012: I'm betting he didn't shred then, he just put them in a place you don't know about... or at work.. Why he left one behind I don't know.. maybe to make you think he got rid of the others and maybe "forgot" one.
A guy like that doesn't shred hi... (read in full...)
Isn't it a bit extreme for my boyfriend to just cut certain people out of his life?
Q. This really weird interaction happened when I was out with my boyfriend. We were walking along holding hands. We saw a friend of his in the street, my boyfriend called out to him to say hi. Then they were chatting briefly and then his friend looked ...
A. 19 September 2012: I think that is really an unpleasant trait. To me is seems like he expects YOU to have nothing to do with that guy too, that your BF doesn't trust you to NOT fall for this guys "lust" - like you are some wanton woman....
Or like he OWNS you so n... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps files on all his previous girlfriends
Q. My boyfriend keeps files on all his ex-girlfriends. Is this normal? He was on a dating site before he met me and he had files, manila folders, with print-outs of the women he dated and their correspondence back and forth through the computer. ...
A. 18 September 2012: I think doing a background check is sound. I understand keeping momentos as well...... But keeping folders on women he's dated? That is borderline creepy and weird IMHO.
Why would he need those folders? If they didn't work out why?
Eww, ju... (read in full...)
Should I make amends with my ex girlfriend who's getting married?
Q. i can't get over the fact that my first love, my college ex-girlfriend is getting married. I heard the news from my former roommate who was also a friend of hers. when she and i were together she was a bit apprehensive with the two of us having sex. ...
A. 18 September 2012: What would be the point? You learned your lesson (hopefully) and she found a guy she felt was perfectly suited for her (I will assume since they are getting married).
She might be "the one who got away" for you.. but I don't think she sees you... (read in full...)
Why say you want someone then avoid seeing them?
Q. About 20 days ago i started to chat to a male i met on a dating website. We exchanged numbers and spoke spoke for a couple od days. He told me not to go back onto the website till we met and both agreed to take our photos off the site. We ...
A. 18 September 2012: Ignore the dude, put your picture back up and look for someone else.
And honestly, do remove yourself/picture til you have known/dated a guy for a good 6 months and you both know that the relationship is exclusive and you want to pursue it. Not ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my friend who was my friends with benefits !
Q. I need your help. I met this guy a couple of months ago, we went on a first date, got to know each other really well. Then we carried on talking everyday for a couple more weeks. Because we had both come out of serious relationships , we decided to ...
A. 18 September 2012: Talk to him, what do you have to lose?
If he doesn't JUST want to be a booty call, then most likely he likes you too. You won't know unless you talk to him.
~nothing ventured, nothing gained!~... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...
A. 18 September 2012: LEAVE him, honey.
There is no respect, love from him. NONE
A guy who does this to his partner doesn't love her ONE BIT.
WHY stay with him? Why ALLOW this?
Obviously, you must be getting something out of the relationship or you would le... (read in full...)
I know this is not normal but...
Q. Had a few drinks but was not drunk - I was performing oral sex on my wife when things got very intense and before I knew i slipped further down. To my surpise my wife moaned in pleasure and asked for me to do it again. I accomodated and before I ...
A. 18 September 2012: Whatever floats you wife and yours boat. Some love it, some people can't get past the ICKY factor. If you two can and enjoy it, who cares? ... (read in full...)
Is this the way? I want to make him jealous. In retaliation for how he has treated me.
Q. i want to make my ex jealous. do you have any ideas on how to do this? He has always told me that i need him and we are meant to be together, but I am done. I think he wants me back, then dump me. Every two months he comes crawling back to me. I w...
A. 18 September 2012: Stop taking him back.
And honestly, if you were 15-16 I can see why you would want to play those games, but really at your age? Come on!
Being petty is not going to make him want you more, or make you feel good about yourself... mayb... (read in full...)
How can I handle this awkward situation? met on X-box. She's 22 with a baby. I'm 16
Q. Hell. Ok so here is my story, i met this great person on a game on xbox live, a few months ago. we talked for a little while and added each other on facebook and have talked on there. By the way im a 16 year old guy and she is 22 (not sure if this ...
A. 18 September 2012: Of course you two can stay friends. As long as you understand that there are line you shouldn't cross.
And I agree with SVC - you only hear her side of the story. There are always two sides. Now the baby-daddy could be a total douche and maybe he... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 18 September 2012: I don't even know why you play along with her mind-games. Block her and stop seeking her out on the internet. I know you hope she will have a change of heart, but all she is doing is preventing YOU from moving forward and finding someone for YOU to ... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get, or is she not interested? Should I ask her out again anyway?
Q. I met a girl (a friend of a friend) on a night out the other day. We got talking and things got intimate pretty quickly. To cut a long story short we spent the whole night together and it was probably one of the best nights I've ever had. I don't ...
A. 17 September 2012: Call her, no texting.. Ask her out. If she says no, then take the no gracefully and let it go. If she can't go because she has other plans make SURE she has our number and ASK her to call YOU if she want to get together.. Give it a week and if you ... (read in full...)
I cant stay over with the guy I'm seeing because I'm scared of him seeing me without make up! Help!
Q. so i've been seeing this guy and I can't stay the night with him because i'm worried about the morning after. I'm not naturally pretty, he always goes on about how beautiful and gorgeous I am... which just makes me insecure about wearing no to ...
A. 17 September 2012: My husband calls it "putting my eyes on"... Because I rarely wear make up and when I do, it's usually just mascara.
Honey, if you worry about not having make up on, how about potentially be naked? or in weird positions?
He loves YOU for yo... (read in full...)
I want to avoid getting involved with the wrong guy again. How do I know early on if it's right?
Q. Hey, I'm almost 28 and really would like to have confidence that the next boyfriend I choose will be right. How do I find out early on when dating, if a guy is right for me. I want to be able to make sound judgements early in, before I get in ...
A. 17 September 2012: If life was that easy, we'd all live happily ever after :)
My advice, find someone who loves you for WHO you are. Someone YOU can be yourself with - someone who can be himself with you as well.
I would also say having things in common can help.... (read in full...)
He left me to figure things out with his ex wife, slept with her then realised they are just friends. Now he wants me back....any advice?
Q. Well.... my boyfriend left me to figure things out with his wife that he was seperated from. I know she harrased me and wanted me away but did not want to be with him. They were seperated for two and a half years. When he left me three months ago ...
A. 17 September 2012: How do you know that it wasn't HER who didn't want him anymore? And that is why he is coming back? You know what I mean?
It's hard position to be in, however, no matter what he isn't over her. Going back to her that fast (even if it was for a "t... (read in full...)
He left me to figure things out with his ex wife, slept with her then realised they are just friends. Now he wants me back....any advice?
Q. Well.... my boyfriend left me to figure things out with his wife that he was seperated from. I know she harrased me and wanted me away but did not want to be with him. They were seperated for two and a half years. When he left me three months ago ...
A. 17 September 2012: She is not his ex-wife. She is his wife til the day the divorce is final.
Secondly, he left her for you? Then left you to figure out what he really wanted? Slept with his wife to see if SHE was it and when she wasn't it he wanted back with you... (read in full...)
How can I handle this awkward situation? met on X-box. She's 22 with a baby. I'm 16
Q. Hell. Ok so here is my story, i met this great person on a game on xbox live, a few months ago. we talked for a little while and added each other on facebook and have talked on there. By the way im a 16 year old guy and she is 22 (not sure if this ...
A. 17 September 2012: No, just no.
You only have the game in common, you have BARELY lived life (no offense) she is already and adult and a parent to boot.
Let it go, find someone you have more in common with and who is in the same age/maturity group as yoursel... (read in full...)
She filed for divorce claiming I verbally abuse her, how do I save this marriage?
Q. So, here goes nothing. I have never posted anything like this before but an looking for unbiased opinions. I am married to someone that I truly care deeply for and we have been in a relationship for over two years. She recently filed for divorce and ...
A. 17 September 2012: Um let her get her divorce?... (read in full...)
He broke it off, but wants to see me again, what is this guy's motive?
Q. a guy i was seeing 2 months ago has got back in contact, he broke it off. reason being he did not have enough time for me. when we started seeing eachother 6 months ago i was not wanting anything serious, i am not ready for a relationship. then...
A. 17 September 2012: When you lie and tell someone: " It's just sex" I can be EASY for him to assume that you are up for a NSA - "just sex relationship".
From what you write it seems like he would like to have you as his "booty call". And I think you know that or ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that when I finish university I want to take up the guitar professionally? They will have to pay $40,000 a year for me to do so.....
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play ...
A. 17 September 2012: I agree with Auntie Bim-Bim if this is something you are passionate for.. get a part time job NOW and start saving up, having the expectations that your parents should pay those $40K on top of what they are paying now is.. well, it irks me as a ... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with this guy, but should I settle for a FWB for now?
Q. Well, I have asked for advice about a guy I have been absolutely in love with for 2 years a few times now. How I didn't think I even existed to him and then he messages me on facebook on a drunk night and wants me to head over, then says he doesnt ...
A. 17 September 2012: No. That is the simple answer.
You WANT a relationship, having an FWB will NOT give you that. If he was REALLY interested in you he would pursue YOU, he isn't. He does like the idea of a girl who is willing to do anything to get his attentio... (read in full...)
I want to leave but have no money, and my husband says if I ever leave he will take the kids as he has the money to give them a good life. What should I do?
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. We have 2 boys, 5 years and 1 year. The last year have been crazy, we fight ALL the time and his verbally abusive. I think it's time to get out but I have no money and no place to go. I've been a ...
A. 17 September 2012: So what you need to do is start saving up, find a job, get your ducks in a row. Having a big house doesn't mean he will automatically get the children.
Since you haven't worked in the 4 years of marriage, it is likely that your husband will hav... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my man trust me in the sight of other men?
Q. I have been in a relationship with this guy for some years now and I don 't think he trust me. I don't understand why but every time I come to his house and we could be standing out side and a group of guys came over to his sisters house to drink ...
A. 17 September 2012: I think it's part the fact that he is MARKING his territory in front of those guys and want YOU to know what you got, so you don't even consider straying.
I agree with YouWish it's rather5 benign - you are getting something out of it, so honestly... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 17 September 2012: Males can't get tested for HPV virus. They can carry it and NOT have an outbreak that can be seen. The tests used for women are different.
So for all you know he is clean... Then again condoms don't prevent HPV 100% either. Still, he still ne... (read in full...)
Will you fight for a man who is in love with you and another women and can't make a decision
Q. I broke up with my LDR boyfriend 6months ago. It was a no-contact breakup because I was hurt and I truly wanted to move on. However, three months ago, he cut himself really bad and had undergone surgery. Several people reached out to me to call him ...
A. 17 September 2012: Honey, can't you see what you are saying about your OWN actions is spelling it out Just how wrong this relationship is?
The fact that you FELT such a strong need to snoop, to catch him. And when you did the first time, WHY did you stick it out? ... (read in full...)
He betrayed me,now I don't know how handle the situation
Q. Hello everyone, I am facing a situation that i don't know how to handle. I love my boyfriend and i believe he loves me too,we have been together for 2 years. 2 weeks ago ,we had plans, we were going to spend the day together,however...
A. 17 September 2012: I would call the BS card on your BF. If he can tell YOUR secret to HIS friend he can do the same for you.
It's like double betrayal there.
What in the world is so SPYLIKE secret about the friends ex gf that he can't tell you?
Sorry, seem... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: I think he might be buying too small condoms. Honestly, this is something he needs to figure out and "get over". Relying on the woman to make sure a pregnancy doesn't happen (not to even mention STI's/STD's) it frivolousness to say the least. Maybe ... (read in full...)
I have no time to myself and I'm depressed
Q. Dear Cupid, I have absolutely no time to myself. Zero. I wake up at 5 AM three times a week to walk my dogs and go to school and I stay there till 5 PM. It takes me about 25 minutes to drive there and about 35 back. Frequently there is traffic....
A. 16 September 2012: Have you seen your doctor? There could be a medical reason for your exhaustion.
You DO need to add some exercise to your day, as odd as it may sound it CAN give you some more energy. Also you diet, are you eating healthy? and are you eating r... (read in full...)
Was he drunk? Or sober?
Q. I was supposed to go on a date with my neighbor last night. I tell him to meet me at 12:30am, and he agrees. We picked this time cause we were gonna have a midnight picnic. He does not show up until 2. At like 1,I called and texted asking where he ...
A. 16 September 2012: Well in my book it really doesn't matter if he was drunk or not.
He didn't bother letting you know he was running late and most likely ONLY showed up because you you called & texted him at 1 am.
Then he tries to talk "sexy" to you and when you... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable since I discovered that my boyfriend has an interest in very young girls!
Q. So, straight to the point. I looked at my boyfriends phone before and in his picture album there were naked pictures of this girl he had sexual relationship with, which I get, it's old and all but you shouldn't have them while you are in a new ...
A. 16 September 2012: The girls he looks at on the internet might LOOK you but be legal however, if his taste run in pre-adolescent children I would worry about many things, your sister being the first item on that list.
Secondly, if THAT is what he likes what about yo... (read in full...)
B/f always uses my car because his doesn't have room for the 3 of us!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating a single father for over two years. He has joint custody of his teenage son. We live apart, but we see each other five times a week. His car only seats two so whenever we go anywhere when he has his son, it is my car w...
A. 16 September 2012: Hmm.. I think it's a slightly petty argument honestly. Do you ever use his car?
And if he only use your car for functions where you go too, why should he pay for all the gas?
If you have a problem with it, don't let him use your car. Which ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore my initiative and go with the flow?
Q. So I'm 19 and a virgin with a boyfriend who is 20 and not a virgin. At the beginning of the relationship he said he would wait till I was ready, now 6 months later I think he's getting impatient. It's not that I don't want to it's just I care to ...
A. 16 September 2012: I think you should talk to him. Him putting his hands down your pants kind of show that is ISN'T respecting you wish to wait. He thinks if he keeps pushing the subject you will eventually give. That isn't right, and it seems to have backfired too ... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: My question is this WHY can he not wear a condom? Sounds more like the doesn't WANT to wear them. If he is allergic to latex there are sheepskin ones.
And I agree with Abella, TALK to your doctor - write down all the questions you have and ask ... (read in full...)
Should we take a break? I think the trust between us has gone.
Q. modNote:two almost the same posts joined into one. My boyfriend has been talking and seeing his ex behind my back, they were together a very long time and he's still not over her. We have been together a year and he says he loves me and wants to...
A. 16 September 2012: My advice is to set RULES while on this break. That means NO dating, NO sex with other. If this is a time for reflection, other people and sex should NOT come in the mix. Also you need to set rules for contact or no contact.
Good luck, I don't th... (read in full...)
I scared her with my anger and now she won't take me back!
Q. Dear Aunties / Uncles, Where do I begin? I've been seeing this AMAZING LADY for about 4 months. I won't lie. We totally fell for one another and I know I am in love with her! I have never ever felt like this before! Anyway, a few weeks a...
A. 16 September 2012: You need to work on your anger issues, because you OBVIOUSLY have them. They don't come out of the blue.
Also, you need to let this one go, I don't think she will ever be able to see past that "beast" you let out of the bag that day, that is how s... (read in full...)
Sleepless in Canada. In the non romantic way.
Q. I've been writting about this awhile now. My marriage is in trouble and everytime I try to talk about it with her I don't get answers. This always happens when we get anyone at fighting about what it is. It always gets thrown in my face ...
A. 16 September 2012: I agree 100% with A female reader, anonymous.
I would suggest you two get some marriage/couples counseling, because it seems like you two are NOT resolving the problems and that is why they resurface over and over.
She kisses you after she th... (read in full...)
Excited to be engaged, but Mum has raised some questions!
Q. Hi there! So, after a few months being on a LDR my bf proposed a few weeks ago over dinner. WOW! We've been together for nearly 2 years (too soon to get married?) and of course I said yes yes yes and I wanted to jump and scream and let the world ...
A. 16 September 2012: If your LDR is successful now, I can't see why it wouldn't be 1.5 years down the line.
Do you two visit each other while he works overseas? Actually SPEND time together physically?
However, why get married now if he is going to be away for a... (read in full...)
I got a new job and now he won't talk to me. Why is he angry at me?
Q. This guy and I use to go out as teenagers we had two kids together he treated us like sh... Now he is sick he can't really do anything for himself .We talk to each other every other day . since I got a new job he does't want to talk to me .He really ...
A. 16 September 2012: Who knows?
Why not ask him?
Could be that he is jealous that he isn't able to provide for everyone like perhaps he wanted to? Maybe he is just an ass?... (read in full...)
He makes constant demands for sex but due to my health and busy lifestyle we can't do it so often.
Q. I am generaly a happy go lucky kind of girl. In a great relationship with a man i love and cherish and have for near enough 7 years, our sex life is amazing but recently i have run into some problems with my health. Chronic fatigue and i also have ...
A. 16 September 2012: Have you sat down and talked to him? On one hand I think it's great that he is still so turned on by you, but on the other hand it's like he doesn't respect that there is more to you then "servicing" him sexually.
Are you on medication for the ... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'm glad you didn't cheat, that is a good thing :)
I honestly think you need to switch up your schedule so she can't so easily predict where she might find you.
She does seem bitter about the break up. One thing is running into your ex around t... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 13 September 2012: To rub it in.
Did you cheat on her by chance?
I think she likes to play games. She isn't fully over you. She may pretend that she is, but someone who is totally over their ex doesn't fee la need to rub it in the ex's face that they have a new ... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
