My boyfriend and his child are a pair of spoilt brats!
Q. Okay, so i have been with my bf for two years now, he has a 4 yr old of his own and i have a 6 and 8 yr old. My bf takes his son every weekend and whenever his son is here i dread it, i know i sound horrible but i treat all children the same so if ...
A. 25 September 2012: Of course he is making YOU out to be the bad guy... It's MUCH easier then owning up to him NOT teaching his son manner or disciplining him when he IS out of order..
TYPICAL passive-aggressive behavior.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his child are a pair of spoilt brats!
Q. Okay, so i have been with my bf for two years now, he has a 4 yr old of his own and i have a 6 and 8 yr old. My bf takes his son every weekend and whenever his son is here i dread it, i know i sound horrible but i treat all children the same so if ...
A. 24 September 2012: Oh holy terror!
I agree with Auntie Bim Bim.. Change the locks and hope to goodness the dude doesn't show up anytime soon.
And STOP second guessing yourself. The NO, to sleeping in the beds was fine, his DAD needs to GROW the HAY HAY up and B... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time hoping he will change?
Q. I met this man almost five years ago. At the time I was 20 and in between relationships. We went on a couple dates and agreed to keep it "low key and simple". Then I met someone that I wanted a relationship with and cut it off with him. That r...
A. 24 September 2012: Hoping he will change is a sweet thought but not at all realistic. No more then for pigs to fly, I'm sorry to say.
The whole " I want to "try" marriage one day" is a line to make you think there is hope. No one "tries" marriage they do and succ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend asked me to share my naked pic, I refused to share and now he is sad. Should I send him my naked pic?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We both are of same age, 16 years old. He is Australian and I'm Indian. We met 2 months ago on facebook and he proposed me after 1 month. I love him a lot. I strictly follow what our holy book ...
A. 23 September 2012: No, he doesn't NEED your naked pictures and honestly, you do not KNOW him well enough to share though.
WHO knows what can happen to those pictures..
Sharing naked photos is NOT and I repeat NOT a sign of TRUE love. TRUE love is to not BLACKM... (read in full...)
How can I tell my crush that I'm still angry with him? Or is it best to leave it?
Q. After two years of not talking to my crush, I have been seated next to him. He used me to get rid of another girl, and pretended to have feelings for me. He is now pretending nothing ever happened. How can I tell him that I am still angry with hi...
A. 23 September 2012: Let it go. He knows what he did was kind of douchy and hasn't apologized, which means he doesn't care.
Stop beating yourself up for falling for his charms, but learn from this. Some guys are like that, some are not.. the trick is to figure o... (read in full...)
Guys, would you have reacted in the same way as my boyfriend to the fact that I am a virgin at 20?
Q. So this guy i'm seeing we were getting really close and things were intense, I wanted to go the whole way but I stopped him and said I can't i'm still a virgin, but told him I want to, just not yet. I'm ready, i'm just not sure yet if I want to...
A. 23 September 2012: I can't see why being 20 or even 25 and a virgin makes you pathetic.
Staying a virgin for MANY girls (particular) is a choice. Some wait for the right guy, some for marriage, some for religious reasons and others for whatever reason they want.
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I've given her an ultimatum, him or me. How can we move forward?
Q. folks in need of some expert help basically giving my gf a ultimatum. Choose him or me. il make this quick basically i made the first mistake by flirting with a girl online, but let me explain, this flirtation ment absolutely NOTHING...
A. 23 September 2012: I think the two of you have a really unhealthy and unstable relationship. The fact that you BOTH seem to think that you NEED to reach out to random strangers on the internet (even if you both claim it means nothing - which, honestly is BS - people ... (read in full...)
Why does my married ex give me his schedule and tells me to call him?
Q. My ex who now is married, talks to me often. My question is why does he not call me but says it's alright to call him??? He gives me his schedule so i know when to call. Why doesn't he just call me?? i have a bf and it's just nice to talk to an old ...
A. 23 September 2012: ********** I see your logic honeypie! but even if his wife only see's me calling him, don't you think it makes him look bad as well???************
That depends, if she can see it's YOU initiating contact DAILY, not him he can EASILY explain ... (read in full...)
I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.
Q. 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...
A. 23 September 2012: First of all you can't help feeling the way you do, but don't you think it's time to let it go?
I do agree with your husband, that it was a funeral, your SIL and husband had JUST lost their mother. I don't think it excuses your SIL from her beha... (read in full...)
Is this controlling behaviour or is my boyfriend being a jerk?
Q. I dont even know if this is anything but it is bothering me a lot. Ive brought it up with my bf but he just laughs and thinks it is nothing. I have wondered if it is a control thing with him. For example, if i am watching tv in the lounge, and he ...
A. 23 September 2012: I think it's about him being a jerk more then controlling and honestly.... you are letting him.
Tell him to go watch something else in the other room if he doesn't like what YOU are watching. And ASK him nicely to NOT watch tv in the bedroom ... (read in full...)
Caught feelings for a guy but things seem different after the night we finally spent together.
Q. Hello everyone, this might be long but please help me out. Around august of last year some guy friend requested me on facebook. He wasnt just a random because we had about 45 mutual friends and he lives a few towns(15 minutes) away from me. An...
A. 22 September 2012: I suggest you pick up the phone and talk to him. Carrying on a relationship through text seems "lazy" to me.
Could be that he isn't really interested in a relationship, you won't really know til you two and figure out what you BOTH want out of i... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behavior has changed, I need some advice.
Q. Hi Everyone, Hope you can help, Ive been seeing my girlfriend for about 18 months - we will live an hour from each other - plus for a long part of this I used to work away so seeing each other was not easy. But at the weekend I would try ...
A. 22 September 2012: If she after 18 months of dating is STILL on the dating site and still logs in to check who might have approached her, then she is using you til she finds greener grass in my honest opinion.
Did you two talk about being exclusive? About taking y... (read in full...)
Why does my married ex give me his schedule and tells me to call him?
Q. My ex who now is married, talks to me often. My question is why does he not call me but says it's alright to call him??? He gives me his schedule so i know when to call. Why doesn't he just call me?? i have a bf and it's just nice to talk to an old ...
A. 22 September 2012: Because he wants it to look like it's ALL you, in case his wife sees the call log. That would be my guess.
IF he REALLY want to chat and shoot the breeze about the "good old days" he would PICK up the phone and CALL you.... (read in full...)
How do I get this situation sorted? My home is not big enough for all this. And my sister contributes nothing.
Q. ModNote: two interlinked posts combined Dear cupid,i live in a two bedroom apartment with my three young boys. They used to have their own room. My sister move in with us which i thought was going to be for a short time. She has a two yr old son ...
A. 22 September 2012: Give her 30 days to find a new place and ask her to leave. She is your sister, but you are NOT your sister's keeper.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 months creeps me out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for about two months. Lately, though, it seems as if every little thing he does annoys me or creeps me out. He's constantly making fun of me and he brings the gift I gave him (a stuffed monkey) weeks ago ...
A. 22 September 2012: You need to talk to him privately and express how his actions made you feel and then break up with him. He is not mature enough for a relationship, and honestly... if you rather take this crap from him then break up, neither are you.
You have to ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My Boyfriend is SO Jealous. Made a scene at my work. Calls me a slag almost daily
Q. I feel really bad about what I did to my boyfriend. We have been arguing so much throughout our entire relationship, he always thinks I'm cheating. He calls me a slag almost daily when he has no reason to think it. He came to my work shouting at ...
A. 22 September 2012: Honestly I don't think the guy cares what you think. All the knows is that if he apologize you are BOUND to take him back.
He's an ass and he acts like one and you are considering APOLOGIZING and making it up to him, SERIOUSLY, girl?
You did... (read in full...)
Do you think he is playing me? My friend says he is. But if he's playing me, would he go to so much trouble for me?
Q. I guy I have been seeing for the past month and I have been dating. We havent gone very far and I heard that he kissed another girl on a night he got drunk. A few days ago I asked him what we were, and he said he hadn't thought about it. Two days...
A. 22 September 2012: I'm 100% with CaringGuy on this.
He IS playing you. Hoping to string you along long enough for you to change your mind and have sex with him.. Until then he will do his thing, while you "assume" he is busy with school work.
If he was REALLY in... (read in full...)
Do you think he is playing me? My friend says he is. But if he's playing me, would he go to so much trouble for me?
Q. I guy I have been seeing for the past month and I have been dating. We havent gone very far and I heard that he kissed another girl on a night he got drunk. A few days ago I asked him what we were, and he said he hadn't thought about it. Two days...
A. 22 September 2012: I'm 100% with CaringGuy on this.
He IS playing you. Hoping to string you along long enough for you to change your mind and have sex with him.. Until then he will do his thing, while you "assume" he is busy with school work.
If he was REALLY in... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this text from his ex the night before her wedding?
Q. I am getting married in a month to the love of my life. He broke up with this girl 7 years ago and one of the reasons they broke up after a 5-year-realtionship was that she wanted to get married while he didn't. Today my fiancé got home and told me ...
A. 21 September 2012: I think you are overreacting a bit. IT could be that she texted him in a "I'm going to one-up you" way or because she is so overjoyed that she would have texted ANY ONE to share it. Or because she was a little nervous. It's hard to know exactly WHY ... (read in full...)
He acts one way around me with friends but his texts show a completely different side to him!
Q. I'm not sure if a guy in my class likes me or not. It's my third year in college but my second year with this class and all last year he was quite a nob head to be around and just mean to people but he was okay with me and a couple of my friends. ...
A. 21 September 2012: I agree with SVC - he is texting you compliments and lovey dovey stuff to keep you hooked JUST IN CASE he needs a FWB or someone to boost his ego.
Why on Earth you allow him to disrespect you when he is with his friends and then flirt on text is ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in 'if you love them let them go'?
Q. This is just a random poll question: You know how in movies or TV there's always the theme of "if you love him/her, you'll let them go and be happy"... do you agree with that? Given that the relationship in question is pretty good but not ...
A. 21 September 2012: If they are unhappy with me, I would let them go in a heartbeat. I COULD NOT be happy with a person know that HE is unhappy being with me..
Nor would I WANT to be with someone who doesn't REALLY want to be with me, but does it out of obligati... (read in full...)
How do I approach our married female friend so I can explore my bi-sexual curiosities?
Q. I have been with my BF for over a year now. We are both in our early 20's. We are very open and he know I am bi curious, and he is even willing to let me "explore" those curiosities, if an opportunity happen to present itself. Well, we are friends ...
A. 21 September 2012: I think for the sake of not only keeping a good friend but to avoid drama, you need to look elsewhere for a "f-buddy" - she is married. I don't care how much she flirts with you, it doesn't mean it's OK in her marriage.
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I've been caught stealing and my employers know about it, they have given me 2 options, so what do I do now?
Q. I have been working for my company as a new business rep for 4 and a half years and always been good. I normally get my lunch from a supermarket down the road from my office but about a month ago, i had some fraud done on my bank and while it got...
A. 21 September 2012: It was more then dumb to do. You OUGHT to have asked your boss (as you mention that they are lovely people) but the fact that you expect EVERYONE else to feed you because you had some fraud on your bank account is equally ridiculous. I'm pretty sure ... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 21 September 2012: Candid Cally gave a great answer.
What YOU (OP) don't seem to understand is IF you do this, there will be NO GOING back to what you have. EVEN if you two agree on it. IT WILL NEVER be the same. She might even agree, because she LOVES you and will... (read in full...)
He's all over me but he has a girlfriend
Q. Okay so I started highschool 3weeks ago and I met thIs guy he's really nice and he's a big flirt well about a week ago we started talking and getting close just a week ago he got a girlfriend but he still all over me and everything but I don't bow ...
A. 21 September 2012: Avoid him, he is trouble. Since he has a GF he needs to quit it and you need to stop responding to the flirting. Because it makes just as bad as him. Don't be one of those girls.. you know, the ones that are disrespectful to the girlfriends to guys ... (read in full...)
Is his recent interest in seeing me with another woman a sign he's losing interest?
Q. My husband and I have been together over a year and have a great sex life. He used to be very against porn and the idea of girl on girl or threesomes. Now he looks at porn every day (even after we just had sex) and brings up wanting to see me with ...
A. 21 September 2012: OK, the thing is DO YOU want to be with another woman? IS it something YOU want to do? If not, tell him. And tell him to stop bringing it up. Porn is not reality.
And a 40 year old man I'm betting he liked porn JUST fine before you, but either d... (read in full...)
Why is this guy doing this to me and how do I stop him and his friends?
Q. At first I thought this guy was cool and we could be friends. However I found out he as talking saying not so nice things about me like how I'm so into him and made me sound like a weird creep. He also seemed to start rumors that I like him. I do ...
A. 21 September 2012: Seems like he really WANTS you to like him and maybe he knows that you aren't really into him and therefore he spreads rumors because his pride got hurt.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is IGNORE him, his friend and the rumors, if anyone a... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...
A. 20 September 2012: Just curious... Is he of another nationality then you? Or is England his native country as well?
Honestly, I would cut the contact after telling him that once the divorce is final he can call you. However, don't sit by the phone and wait for that... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I've had a miscarriage?
Q. so today i got my period well i think i was about 2 months late and didnt know if i was pregnant or not i took a at home pregnancy test and it came out negative but i still thought i was pregnant. so what if im having a miss carriage would i know? ...
A. 20 September 2012: I agree with Tisha, you need to see a doctor. It IS possible to get a false negative on a pregnancy test.
Off to the doctor and DO it now before you run out of options.... (read in full...)
How do I quit this terrible job? And should I report the company after I'm gone?
Q. How do I quit my job? I work at a very busy yet understaffed restaurant. It's run the traditional east Asian way... I'm sorry for the poor terminology. What I'm trying to say is that they're very cheap. Mangement takes some of our tip, they didn't...
A. 20 September 2012: Just give them 1-2 weeks notice and don't explain why. You don't OWE them an explanation.
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After 3 years of a FWB relationship, I broke it off. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I guess what I'm really looking for is affirmation that I did the right thing. I think I did, but it takes one varying opinon to make me reconsider what I did. Anyhow, I've been seeing this guy (not seriously for 3-years). I have dated and "...
A. 20 September 2012: Yes, I think it was the right thing to do. I also think that in general FWB is the dumbest idea for people to get into. For the simple reason that VERY few people are able to actually keep emotions out of such a relationship.
3 Years is a long t... (read in full...)
What colour scheme for a room of a 20 year old would look nice?
Q. this isn't a relationship question, just more so of a question. I'm decorating my room and I wondered what colour scheme is nicest to have, it's a plain room with cream walls. I don't know whether red, dark gold and some black or green would look ...
A. 19 September 2012: I agree with SVC - it comes down to YOUR taste and preference. I like a dusty light greyblue, brown & cream for the bedroom, nice and soothing colors. BUT that is me.
I honestly wouldn't go too dark on the walls it makes a room look smaller,... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend has forbidden me to talk to my best friend. How should I deal with this?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year now. things are great between us but he found out 4 months ago that i used to have feelings for my best friend and my best friend has feelings for me this made him very upset and he forbidded me to speak to ...
A. 19 September 2012: I have to say, I don't blame your BF.
You have had feelings for the friend and the friend feelings for you.. that my dear is a powder-keg at a bonfire.
I am not sure you really want to be with your BF, looks to me like you are looking for excu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister and husband are talking about me behind my back, how do I confront them?
Q. Me and my boyfriend just bought a house a little over a month ago. His sister and her husband asked if they could stay with us for a while. In there camper. Well ever sense they got here I feel very uncomfortable. I felt that they have been talking ...
A. 19 September 2012: How much longer are they staying? Honestly I would take the high road and "play" nice til they leave unless drama starts then I'd ask them to leave.... (read in full...)
What can I say to my friend? I was not sure what to say about a 13 year old teen wanting to read 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Could a 13 year old handle reading it?
Q. I've asked a question here before and I got very good advice, which I used very well, thank you. I have another question and it concerns my friend. I don't really sit with her in lunch very much, and I only have one class with her which is civi...
A. 19 September 2012: I agree FULLY with Anon reader - spot on!
First off, I have to say that the book "Fifty shades" is such a poorly written excuse of a book and I still can't grasp why it has hit such high numbers and popularity. It's BAD. I won't even call it liter... (read in full...)
Should I make it obvious I have a crush on him or play it cool?
Q. I have recently started college and I met a guy, by met I mean we are in the same homeroom and I've had a couple of conversations with him. We're not in any of the same classes but when we've spoken it's been great, we have the exact same opini...
A. 19 September 2012: Be subtle. And sometimes a smile and eye contact can mean more then words.
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Is lack of physical attraction a valid reason to break up with someone?
Q. My boyfriend isn't attractive to me. I'm not implying that he's ugly or that other people might not find him good looking but I don't. He's a good person and treats me well and we're getting to that age where we're thinking about serious commitme...
A. 19 September 2012: How long have you been together? And how long have you known that he doesn't light your fire?
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I treated her badly but now I want her back
Q. I cheated on a woman who was madly in love with me four years ago. Not only did I cheat on her, I disrespected her, lied to her, bit her, talked bad about her behind her back to co-workers and family members. I strung her along and I put her at risk ...
A. 19 September 2012: Kudos to her!
Sorry bro, you just don't deserve a second chance. She might have forgiven you, but nothing you did is forgotten and THAT kind of "stuff" can make it impossible to give someone a second chance.
You need to learn to see past your... (read in full...)
How can I be more assertive without coming across as an ass?
Q. So me and my girlfriend were just chilling in my room the other day when I randomly just told her to sit down on the bed, and suddenly she is talking about how she liked it and wants me to be more dominant/ controlling in the relationship. I was ...
A. 19 September 2012: My advice, start out small. See how she responds. She's already told you that she'd like you to take control. It doesn't mean you need to go from who you are to "Sir Stephen"(Story of O - if you are not familiar) overnight.
I do agree that I w... (read in full...)
Uncles: I need your thoughts please? He told me he didn't want a Gf but did want to hang out. Then an insulting offer. Now what? Do I accept him apology and move on?
Q. I met a single man(in this 30's) last year from Canada and we have been in contact for 1 year now. We only met once and had a great time and chemistry and everything(did not do anything with him at all, I'm more respectable). So, now he emails me t...
A. 19 September 2012: I would accept the apology. I think he was testing the water quite simply. He have already let you know that he doesn't want a relationship, but that doesn't mean he wants to live like a monk til he wants a relationship.. Hence he was tossing the ... (read in full...)
I feel too skinny - am I over-reacting to not having enough weight?
Q. I know that I should not care about what others think but this is coming from my neighbors, boyfriend, and friends.. I lose and gain weight really quick. I am 120 pounds and im 5'5 and I feel like I am perfectly fine. Everyone thinks I look super ...
A. 19 September 2012: I don't think 120 lbs & 5'5 is too thin. The thing is, it's not what I think that is important, it's what YOU are comfortable with.
You could bulk up a little with weight training (not sailing you need to look like a body builder lol but it's a h... (read in full...)
7 year itch. Why would she leave without even talking to me and telling me what was wrong?
Q. I am still a little confused about why my wife left me. She says she left because I was having an affair with a friend of mine, which I wasn't and she knew this, we have been together for 7 years, always have been able to talk, but in the last few...
A. 19 September 2012: There has to have been something going on... No one just walks away fro ma good marriage.
Like CaringGuy pointed out... Either she cheated and accused you as a way out or something else triggered her wish for a divorce.
Something els... (read in full...)
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