Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 11 October 2012: I would ask him straight up what's up with the "Luv" and "my child"... if these are "new" terms he is using.
Just remind him you aren't British.... (read in full...)
Do I not want sex anymore because I cant forgive him for cheating?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if anyone can give me an insight on why I feel like this? Me and my hubby of 2yrs dnt really have sex, probably about 3/4 times a month if that. He wants it but I dont. Ever since I found out he cheated on me with my best fri...
A. 10 October 2012: I think your marriage IS doomed if you two don't work this out or end it.
A toddler can be a "bump" in the amount of sex, but as a mother of 3 kids, it's never really slowed us down much.
Have you been to your doctor and checked if the l... (read in full...)
He's chatting to other girls online behind my back, is this cheating?
Q. i dont know how to word this effectively, my boyfriend and i have been together over a year and i thought we were happy, i know he has cheated in the past and im no saint myself but i thought that was all in the past, hand on my heart i can say ive ...
A. 10 October 2012: ***** is this really cheating? is it really that bad? is it something that is workable?***
Well, for ME (personally) YES, this is cheating. It's not that he can't talk to other females, but the fact that he does it in hiding and behind your bac... (read in full...)
Should I consider taking him back? He's been a player and he wants me back, but he's not doing it the right way to interest me
Q. I really do need your help everyone. I broke up with my first Love 7 months ago. We were going on 2 years. We had a very serious LDR and marriage was always talked about. He introduced me to his family and friends as his wife not even his girlfri...
A. 10 October 2012: There are no "magic" words to make him back of and stop trying to get you back. However, I would un-friends him on ALL social websites you share, block his number on your cellphone and e-mail address.
Obviously this guy has got good "game-ta... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 10 October 2012: It's a like the American's using "hun". I lived in England for a year and the first few times elderly ladies would use "luv" I was flabbergasted.. lol I had a few WTF?! moments. I think it's a term of endearment though. Maybe he was in a pl... (read in full...)
Should I consider taking him back? He's been a player and he wants me back, but he's not doing it the right way to interest me
Q. I really do need your help everyone. I broke up with my first Love 7 months ago. We were going on 2 years. We had a very serious LDR and marriage was always talked about. He introduced me to his family and friends as his wife not even his girlfri...
A. 10 October 2012: I think it's unwise t go back to a relationship that have such a HUGE forest of red flags...... Yes, he introduced you to his family as his "wife" but honey... that doesn't MAKE you his wife or make him MORE serious about you or the relationship... (read in full...)
Should be try to work it out? He is hopeless with money
Q. Hi I need help as I don’t know what to do. I have been with my partner for 10 years we have four kids together but I can’t trust him. When we first got together he used to stay out all night. This stopped and a couple of years later I found text...
A. 10 October 2012: Well I suggest you separate your money and stop him from having access to "your" income. That way at least one of the two parents are able to make sure the kids have a roof over their heads and food in their mouths. Then the 2 of you need to sit ... (read in full...)
Can relationships last and be enjoyable in the platonic stage for an extended period? I just dislike all the emphasis on sex everywhere.
Q. (I'd be most appreciative if somebody could reply ASAP) I've never been the best person to talk about sex, as it upsets me to talk about it. I've been in a relationship for just over 3 months now (not thinking about sex, don't worry) but I'm just...
A. 10 October 2012: I think chigirl described it really well. Yes, you can have a relationship that is without sex but not "entirely" platonic (as in there is an attraction towards the other person and her/his body as well as his/her personality and soul) - speciall... (read in full...)
I asked out a 45 year old woman, I am 28 years old. Where to take her?
Q. Hello everyone. I have met a 45 year old lady and we have been talking for the past 2 months. I didn't meet her online or at a bar. I met her because she lives very close to me. I am 28 years old, single and we seem to have and feel a tension when ...
A. 9 October 2012: Did you ask her out for dinner? Or for a movie? or coffee at Starbucks?
I would take her out to a nice (not fancy) restaurant, that way you two can chat without having to yell (like in a club/bar) and then when you get to know her better do somet... (read in full...)
Is it ok to send him one last text asking what happenend?
Q. I started dating a guy about a month ago. It seemed like he was very into me. He told me he was excited to have me in his life. He would text me good morning every day and send me texts throughout the day and at night he would text me good night. ...
A. 9 October 2012: Yea when a guy drops of the face of the planet.. he does it for a reason.
And he isn't going to give that reason to you.
It's only been a month and he pulls that? Iffy dude.. Iffy dude.
UNLESS, he lost his cell phone and don't have yo... (read in full...)
Have you ever caught your spouse, fiance or boyfriend perving on high school girls and I found his porn stash
Q. When we go out to eat at a local restaurant (it's a small rural town) I noticed that my boyfriend will stare over quite a lot at the local waitresses teenage daughter who is 17 when the daughter decides to come into the restaurant to see her mother ...
A. 9 October 2012: Barely Legal porn is porn with women over 18, who LOOKS 12+
As in very petite and very young.
I would honestly bring up his behavior, tell him that he comes across as a pervy old creepy dude.
He might ALWAYS have had a preference for young... (read in full...)
Is he being mean because he's hurt and wants attention? How do I get him back?
Q. Hey everyone, Really in need of some advice on this one. I've been seeing this guy, for a while now, and how we started seeing eachother wasn't very good, i cheated on my boyfriend of the time with him, i know thats terrible, and trust me i felt s...
A. 9 October 2012: Well, I think he realized that a girl who will cheat on her BF might cheat on him too. Why should you have changed?
Just because you said and thought you two had something "special" that could be he think it was your "excuse" to cheat with him... (read in full...)
He likes big butts and he can not lie... why does he look if he's got me?
Q. my bf is 10 yrs older and we have a good relationship. BUT he has a habit of looking at big butts of colored/teen women on the internet. So if hes happy why is he doing this? is it because im old and white? i feel as if im not good enough. ...
A. 9 October 2012: Maybe you need to let him know that he needs to stop ogling (if that is what he is doing).
We like what we like physically, but that doesn't mean that BUTTS are all he likes. He is WITH you. Not with a girl with a big butt.
I notice a good lo... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex but g/f doesn't want to take my virginity
Q. Hello everyone, I've been with this special girl for 3.5 months now. I'm crazy about her and really love her. I'm a virgin, she's not (3 previous sex partners). I told her i was ready for the next step. She said I dont have to look forward to it no...
A. 9 October 2012: So because she is NOT a virgin she should want to have sex with you too because YOU want to have sex?
Can you see how that seems off?
Even if she HAS HAD sex before it doesn't mean she was ready then OR now. I'm guessing she had sex in the p... (read in full...)
What causes him to act this way? He's my friend one minute then snapping at me the next.
Q. Hi agony aunts i'm soo confused! I got really good friends at University, the one friend is a guy we get along sometimes other times he's soo spiteful towards me and i've no idea why. Back in the first year he lost his mum and because i was young ...
A. 9 October 2012: Honestly, it's hard to say why he acts this way.
I think you have to take a good long hard look at this "friendship" and see if it is "worth" for you to continue or not. If not, I would slowly phase him out of your life. I would tell him though t... (read in full...)
We've been togetehr a year and still havnt slept at his house?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we still havent slept over at his house, He's stayed at mine atleast 30+ times, whenever ive even hinted at it i get stuff back. His parents werent comfy over it because im the first female to ...
A. 9 October 2012: IF he is still living at his parents it's NOT his house.. IT is his parents house and that might be why he feels uncomfortable with it.
If he lives alone... BIG RED FLAG!... (read in full...)
He's too "nice" for me and it's a turn off.
Q. I have been seeing this really nice guy for the past 4 months. His "niceness" is starting to bother me, in that I find him to be not as masculine as I'd like him to be. He is the type who always has a smile on his face, who is always polite, ...
A. 9 October 2012: Let him go.... Let him find a girl who is right for him and and who he is right for.
You ain't it.
Some people are a good fit some aren't....
Dump him find someone who fits you better.
... (read in full...)
How do I get my prude girlfriend to do sexual things with me?!
Q. How do I get my prude girlfriend to do shit with me?! We have been dating for a few weeks and we have only made out. I try to feel her up and she just stops me. how can i seduce/persuade her to let me finger her or give me dome!? ...
A. 9 October 2012: Wow... You sound like if you don't start GROWING UP that you will be a lonely dude in the future.
No one wants to date a DOUCHEBAG!
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Is this bad? "Virgin" girlfriend has kissed 80 guys!! What does this say about her?
Q. Is it bad that my girlfriend is only just turned 20 and has kissed around 80 guys. She says it's nothing bad because she's still a virgin, so it's not like she slept around, but that kissing was harmless fun. But what do you guys think? I find it...
A. 9 October 2012: I think it's a little over the top with 80 guys.... But what kind of kissing are we talking about? pecks on the cheek, full on snogs?
Did she go out and try and kiss as many people in a club as possible?
I find it odd honestly.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 9 October 2012: I can see a guy having 10-15 partners at the age of 21 an that would be HIGH, but almost 100? That is just nasty. For him I seriously doubt sex means anything.
And YOU would just be another notch in his bedpost and a V in his little black book.
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She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 9 October 2012: If she says she is ready to date - call her up and ask her out. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should try and salvage this friendship or just let it go?
Q. So I've had two really good friends for almost a year now. They seemed like really great people that I am somewhat compatible with. One of those friends got dismissed from the college so she wasn't able to join us this semester. She came to visit ...
A. 8 October 2012: Salvage what friendship? There is nothing to salvage.
The one who is still back at the college I would dump too. I can just imagine her being all buddy-buddy after the "friend" went back home, that would be a total no-go for me.
Neither of th... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 8 October 2012: I think two months is WAY too soon, even if she mentally separated herself from the marriage/relationship a long time ago.... (read in full...)
I really liked this guy, but then I found he is still in love with his ex - who happens to be my new best friend!
Q. So, I've recently made some new friends at my school and they are literally amazing. They take me to all the coolest parties and introduce me to the best people. Recently, I meet this guy that I really like. He is good looking, sweet, and an amazing ...
A. 8 October 2012: Step far away from this mess.
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My mother is being passive-aggressive because I'm finally moving out! How do I deal with her?
Q. Long story short, I'm finally moving out of my parents' house and couldn't be happier. It's been a long time coming. I'm finally getting serious about my future and a career after years of slacking off and procrastinating; and my dad is very sup...
A. 8 October 2012: Just give her a little space and don't bring it up around her (if you can) Hopefully she will see that you NEED to do this and she isn't helping.
Just next time give her a hug, that might "shut" her up.
I think it's what people call "leaving th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wants a break so he can date other girls
Q. Hello, I am in a rather interesting situation. My boyfriend well currently ex boyfriend lives with me. And hes confusing and hurting me emotionally. But lets go back to the beginning 4 1/2 years. We met while I was on a field trip when I was stil...
A. 8 October 2012: He wants to keep you as his back-up so HE can go date other but you can't.. Basically.
Honey, you are WAY to young for a relationship this messed up and this complicated.
STOP trying to be his NICE but nonetheless.. DOORMAT.
Time to end thi... (read in full...)
How can I repair our relationship after I cheated on him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months and i cheated on him. Our relationship has changed alot since this happened. What can i do to make our relationship work out and get it back to the way it use to be?...
A. 7 October 2012: I don't think it will ever really get back to how it was. What you did "broke" something in how he sees you and how the dynamics work in the relationship.
I really think you need to talk to HIM about what YOU can do to help him get past this. It... (read in full...)
Trouble with my childs father, please help
Q. Okay so when I met the father of my unborn child, we were both immediately attracted to each other. Unfortunately, we broke up and were on and off for a while because I had told him some news that devastated him and his ego. (No, I didn't cheat, it ...
A. 7 October 2012: Well I would advice you NOT to go back, find a way to take care of you and the baby on your own (and of course seek Child support).
It seems to me that he tries to use any and ALL kind of emotional blackmail to get you to fall in line.
Preg... (read in full...)
Is it too late to tell her how I feel?
Q. I've got a friend who I became unusually close to a couple of years ago. We begun talking intimately on an almost 24/7 basis. I started to get quite intense feelings for her and had a sense that she might of felt the same - although neither of us ...
A. 7 October 2012: Is she seeing someone? If she is, then NO don't tell her. If she is not - invite her over for dinner and a movie. And just tell her. She MIGHT not feel the same way but if she does it's a win, if she doesn't, well then you know.
... (read in full...)
I can't satisfy my husband in bed. I feel a failure. Is this relationship going no where?
Q. Hi. I cant satisfy my husband. It has always been hit and miss and I have tried to leave him too, this was one of the reasons. He says that I don't 'join' with him referring to his sick ways. It has put me under a lot of pressure and guilt. If I...
A. 7 October 2012: So your sex-life is ALL about him getting pleasure and only in one certain way?
Where the heck is the fun in that?... (read in full...)
Platonic friendship with Ex, is it even possible?
Q. Hi everyone. So i was wondering if anyone has been in or knows of someone who has been in my situation for some advice. My ex and i have 2 wonderful sons, we drifted apart after 9 years together, we were childhood sweethearts and were together fr...
A. 7 October 2012: I think it is possible, as long as you are ABLE to accept that he is NOW a "friend" and "ex" and that you BOTH are entitled to a "new" life but still being able to be civil and friendly is a good thing.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with cheating b/f let alone have sex with him!
Q. My bf has stepped out on me, more than once, and engaged in sexual activity with these women. I’ve attempted to leave the relationship, but he refuses to let me go, telling me that I am the one he really loves and wants to be with and wants a ...
A. 7 October 2012: He won't leave you alone, how?
Does he call you, show up, text, FB, e-mail? ALL this you can ignore. Tell him it's over. Honestly, I would do it over the phone, I don't think he "deserves" to be told face to face.
YOU are in the age group 4-... (read in full...)
Fingering was not pleasant for me!
Q. So I let my boyfriend finger me for the first time, and it wasn't pleasurable at all. It was sore sort of and was like friction. I was wet. But I don't know whether it was his being dry or me being tight. Help! It's really putting me off doing it ...
A. 7 October 2012: Honestly, fingering is rarely pleasant when it's done by someone who have no clue what he's doing.
Don't do it for a while. If he is willing he an find ways to pleasure you just by using his fingers OUTSIDE the vagina, there is NOT much he can g... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do or how to free myself from these feelings for my FWB and Best friend. What are the options please?
Q. Hi My best friend and I are in a situation and need help!! we are Friends with Benefits but I'm in love with the her! it's making things complicated and jeopardising our friendship. she's just come out of a long term relationship and...
A. 7 October 2012: You two need to find a way to go back to "just" being friends or this will blow up in both your faces.
She did a what she thought was a "safe" rebound with you, unfortunately you have feelings for her, so it's not exactly "safe" as YOUR feelings... (read in full...)
Am I feeling shock or Jealousy or anger? What should I do if he's now finding excuses to not pay child support?
Q. Im so hurt dont know whether it's shock jealousy or anger? i havent been able to sleep properly i keep getting these dreams about the situation im in. I feel used, worthless. Basically have been seperated from my ex for about 2 months I've put off ...
A. 7 October 2012: Get the agreement on paper. Make it legal. That means you get a solicitor and work out an agreement. If he doesn't pay after THAT.. well then you contact the Child Support system.
Also, stop sleeping with him. It's not going to win him back.... (read in full...)
I am disgusted with my Bf. He is a hypocrite. He's warned me against drugs, yet he does them. Do I have a right to be angry?
Q. I called my boyfriend today and he was high - im so disgusted he was even doing it in the first place, but it makes it worse because I know If I were to do that he would lose it. He's made it clear to me he never wants me to do it!! Do I have a rig...
A. 7 October 2012: I think YouWish put it perfectly.
The guy knows from EXPERIENCE that drugs are bad but alluring, so he tells YOU to NEVER try them mainly so you won't end up like him.
Maybe this was the wake up call you needed. This is NOT about you being ... (read in full...)
Am I just in Rebound territory? I like the geeky gym instructor who flirts with me, and he is a good kisser
Q. Ok for the last few months I've been going to the gym. My fitness instructor and I get along really well and I got to know him more and more with every session. I know for a fact that he doesn't chat that much with any of the other girls like the...
A. 7 October 2012: Just go slow. I think your old relationship had been over for quite a while before you two actually broke up which means you most likely didn't just flirt with the instructor to boost your ego (to feel better about yourself after the break up)
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I am not interested in this 50 year old married man at work. So how do I discourage him effectively? And before he gets any more ideas please.
Q. Recently a married man at work has been flirting with me and jokingly we bantered, but nothing serious to start with as I am 22 and he 50, but in the past 3 months he's started heavily flirting to the point people have started commenting on it! F...
A. 7 October 2012: I will echo the take him aside and tell him, OK it's not fun anymore, I need for YOU to stop and I in turn will stop too..
Because you may NOT WANT to flirt, but if you don't start to ignore him (when it's not about work) and STOP engaging... (read in full...)
I can't satisfy my husband in bed. I feel a failure. Is this relationship going no where?
Q. Hi. I cant satisfy my husband. It has always been hit and miss and I have tried to leave him too, this was one of the reasons. He says that I don't 'join' with him referring to his sick ways. It has put me under a lot of pressure and guilt. If I...
A. 7 October 2012: What "sick ways" are you referring to?
And are YOU satisfied at all too? You only mention HIS satisfaction, but sex should be an "exchange" of pleasure, intimacy and love. It's not JUST about the orgasm.... (read in full...)
My ex posts horrible things about me on Facebook
Q. Can anyone help me on this topic please. My ex who I broke up with 9 Months ago is constantly writing derogatory remarks and twisted round versions about me on Facebook. There is no mention of name but it is written so everyone knows who it is she ...
A. 7 October 2012: Block her, unfriend her and ignore her.. Do no feed to "troll" aka the ex.
You can't control what other people think, feel or write. IF she does put YOUR full name on it, FB can remove it but I doubt she will do that.
Maybe this is her pass... (read in full...)
My cousin's husband was shamelessly hitting on me and I told him to back off and yet somehow my cousin thinks I'M the desperate one who's flinging herself on a married man!
Q. Please help! Last month, my cousin's hd hit on me. they've been married for almost six years now, and i recently moved back home and live close to them (about ten minutes on foot), so i see them every day. they had a little family get together and...
A. 6 October 2012: Call your cousin meet up with er and show her his texts. Unless you made some "engaging" answers that should clear it up for her.
Doesn't mean she will be happy about it or not mad at you. I think right now it's "easier" to blame YOU instead ... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening that he would post naked pics of mine online
Q. Hi i'm 29 years old and just broke up with my 31 year old boyfriend . He was always putting me down telling me I wasen't good enough that all his ex girlfriends were smarter had good jobs and were prettier. He wouldn't even let me meet his kids said ...
A. 6 October 2012: Block and delete him from your FB and the rest of your life. Block his number.
IF he puts the pictures up you CAN contact Facebook and they CAN take the pictures down. Also if he's hacked your FB more then once, you can contact FB and see if T... (read in full...)
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