How do I get through this? I'm a young Mom. BoyF left me. Despite medical assistance this situation is affecting my everyday routines.
Q. Hi fellow Cupids, Bit of an issue on my hands. Recently (The past month or so) I have been feeling depressed like you wouldnt believe. Im currently on medication to no avail, so I'm attempting a different route and hoping you guys could offer ...
A. 15 October 2012: 5 Pounds a week? Maybe that is why he hasn't been around? He darn ashamed at his contribution? ( I really hope he is) because 5 Pounds is barely enough to keep a house in toilet paper, let alone help with the costs of a child.
Good luck at the d... (read in full...)
All these years later my husband refuses to believe he was my 'first'. What do I tell him? The truth is he was my first, but he will not believe me
Q. The day I lost my virginity I was 15 but on my period and now my husband thinks I was not a virgin because of that and I really never knew what losing my virginity was Now I am 32 years old and am still married to him now how do I tell him I was a ...
A. 14 October 2012: I would be rather insulted if I were you.
I'm not sure what I would do honestly, other then tell him. You were my first for the umpteen time and tell him you are done with the subject because you could tell him it was Brad Pitt and he would pr... (read in full...)
He phones me then hangs up. What do you think? Do you think he's playing a game to see how much I care?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend broke up with me this past May. He is a Marine stationed across the country from where I'm attending college. Since January he had been begging me to give up my senior year in college, move to his base and marry him. I o...
A. 14 October 2012: He couldn't wait for you to finish school so he dumped you? That is just ridiculous.
I would honestly block his number and make sure you kick him off all your social websites.
HE IS messing with your head. He doesn't WANT you to move... (read in full...)
Any study tips please to allow me to study in a noisy environment?
Q. I could really use some help.. I have an important exam to sit for in about 2 months time,let's just say its going to be a life changing exam,it either breaks me or makes me.. BUT the place I live I wouldn't say its too noisy but in the afternoon...
A. 14 October 2012: Earplugs for sure. And I agree with the library, it's usually a fairly quiet place.
... (read in full...)
How do I get through this? I'm a young Mom. BoyF left me. Despite medical assistance this situation is affecting my everyday routines.
Q. Hi fellow Cupids, Bit of an issue on my hands. Recently (The past month or so) I have been feeling depressed like you wouldnt believe. Im currently on medication to no avail, so I'm attempting a different route and hoping you guys could offer ...
A. 14 October 2012: First off, with your meds, talk to your doctor and either have the dose changed or switch brands.
Secondly, you ARE allowed to date. Being a single mom doesn't mean you can no longer have a sex life or a life in general.
"Steve" was W... (read in full...)
Is he wasting my time and stalling me? His actions so far are unreliable and inconsistent.
Q. Why is he acting funny towards me? I don't know what to think. This guy offered me his phone number when I asked for help with a class. When we spoke he didn't remember me, but a few days later I get a text from him about a place. Some friends ...
A. 14 October 2012: I agree he has ZERO interest in you. Neither in helping or getting to know you.
Find someone else to help you out with the class, he is useless for that.
And go with your gut not your friends.... (read in full...)
Will I be short forever? I'm 18 now.
Q. As a child I was always taller than normal. As a baby I was born taller than average. I was almost 2 feet long when i was born. At age 8,i was 5'3. But at age 12,I stopped growing and,I've been the same height ever since (5'7). At age 18,is...
A. 14 October 2012: How tall are your parents, siblings and family in general?
It's usually a good indicator as you got your genetic building blocks from them.
It's hard to say if you will grow more in your height or not.
Most females peat at age 12 and males... (read in full...)
I love this guy, and I want it to work. So how do I handle him calling me "fat"(I'm not), and commenting on girls he thinks are hot?
Q. Straight to the story, Been dating this guy for 2 months now. Everything was perfect, he is the sweetest person ever! Just one problem and i don't know if i should feel insecure or not! Or what i should even do, i feel like shit! He is very ov...
A. 14 October 2012: This guy is NOT sweet at all.
The reason he calls you FAT is to control you and look, it's WORKING, isn't it?
By MAKING you think you actually ARE fat, he gets the upper hand, because you are starting to feel like you aren't worthy of him.
... (read in full...)
If I marry her will I have to help out her family too?
Q. i have a Filipino girlfriend who's about 13 years younger here in the US. very worried about if i marry her , will her family also expect me to help them out financially? I've read thing that Filipino love to "show off" material things and such. a...
A. 14 October 2012: Um, ask her what her expectations are?
I don't think you can generalize about a whole nationality like that.... (read in full...)
Am I really in love with this guy or does it sound like a physical attraction? How can I tell the difference betwen like, love and just physical attraction?
Q. Dear Cupid How do we know whether we truely someone or its just physical attraction. I'm with this Guy for 2 years, I love him a lot. I never thought he is really handsome or anything, but its something in him I don't know want, makes me crazy a...
A. 13 October 2012: Sounds like love to me :)
... (read in full...)
He changed his status to "In a Relationship" on Facebook. Does this mean I should move on now?
Q. Hi everyone. I am interested in some opinions on this subject. How much credibility should we give to what friends post on Facebook? For example, if your friend updates his status from "Single" to "In a Relationship" does this really...
A. 13 October 2012: It means move on.... ... (read in full...)
A guy randomly called me beautiful! Does he like me?
Q. I went to the store today and a guy who works at the store just randomly came up to me and told me I am so beautiful. We chatted a little and then I left. I was surprised because guys barely hit on me and I have never had a boyfriend, been asked ou...
A. 13 October 2012: I'm guessing he is a bit of a flirt and charmer. Does it means he likes you?
No, it means he LIKES to LOOK at you. And ... maybe get to know you.
... (read in full...)
Broke it off with ex but he won't move on! He's scaring me. What should I do?
Q. I met a guy online, we talked for a few months before meeting for coffee. Then we met a second time and that was it. Due to distance we couldn't see each other very often so we just texted. But during that time I met someone else, also online, and ...
A. 13 October 2012: Block him? De-friend him, remove him from your life as best as you can.
... (read in full...)
Divorced partner has asked me to move into ex marital home but its full of reminders of his ex wife. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm middle aged and have been dating a man for over two years. I have my own house, which is paid for. He also has a house that after his divorce he bought with a girlfriend. I recently found out, that when he was married they wer...
A. 13 October 2012: I wouldn't sell my own house. A teenager will be JUST fine in a new house. They aren't made of glass.
Seems to me that he wants you to make all the sacrifices... If you DO decide to move in, I would have a long chat about the hose and how to make ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?
Q. A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...
A. 13 October 2012: No one is so busy they can't either pick up the phone and call you or pop a text. At least NOT if they are interested..
It'd just keep this strictly professional.
Also starting a new job is all good and fine, but still it only takes a couple o... (read in full...)
Messaged an old high school b/f and now can't get him out of my mind
Q. Hi, I got nostalgic and looked up and messaged an old high school boyfriend on a social networking site a couple of months ago. He was someone that I would have really liked to reconnect with but I did not get a reply from him. I have looked t...
A. 13 October 2012: Looking at an old "flames" picture and feel a sense of nostalgia I would venture is fairly normal but, once you cross over to a more obsessive state I think you really need to step back and look at what you are doing and find the reason WHY you are ... (read in full...)
I don’t think I can ever respect another woman again.
Q. Right now my brain is the midst of a battle...Why? It’s because I’m somehow beginning to see women in a completely different light than I did before. Long story short, Wednesday at work, the topic of women came up. In my office there are 3 guys and...
A. 13 October 2012: I think you got a lot of growing up to do :)
The aunties gave you great advice, so I won't add on.... (read in full...)
Is it too early to do this? Should I allow this boy to come into my tent while we are camping and share my sleeping bag?
Q. I'm 14 (girl) I have been talking to this guy that I met the other day, we have been sending hearts. He's coming camping with me and one of my friends and one of his. He wants to if he can sleep in the swag (sleeping bag) with me, is it to early fo...
A. 13 October 2012: No. you shouldn't share your sleeping bag or your body with this guy.
1. you are 14.
2. you JUST met him.
3. Where are the adults in this "camping trip"?... (read in full...)
I am confused by his actions. Can a man concurrently and happily live with his wife, make love to his wife, and care about his children while occasionally having sexual affairs with men?
Q. My husband of 16 years of marriage has admitted to a gay affair and numerous indiscretions with men for the last 6 years. I was devastated and even though 8 weeks have passed I feel a little bit stronger. I have been receiving counselling to come ...
A. 13 October 2012: I think a man can be quite happy having his family and get whatever "Strange" on the side he wishes for.
However, if that was my husband it would be over, cheating is a total no-no and for him to put ME (his wife) at risks for all kind of STD's is... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 13 October 2012: Yes, it happens. An online "relationship" can seem better in many ways, you don't have to pick up after the other person, if you have a bad day they hopefully cheer you up. You can omit everything you don't want the other person to know and so ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend really hurts me during sex
Q. My boyfriend hurts me when we have sex. I'm a small built girl and quite skinny and he's a whole lot heavier than me. He lies down ontop of me and puts all his weight on me. He grinds his chest into my boobs and literally drags my nipples down my ...
A. 12 October 2012: Because he doesn't care?
He still gets laid and honestly, if he gets his rocks off why care about you?
I assume you have told him it's not pleasurable for you? That he is hurting you? Correct?
So my question to you is this, WHY are you wit... (read in full...)
Am I being too critical? too impatient? too selfish towards those around me?
Q. Hi there everyone I'm approaching a point where I don't even know what to do about anything. I'm a senior in high school, never been in a relationship, OK looks and struggling to start a relationship with a girl who can be honest with me about wh...
A. 12 October 2012: The girl you have been seeing is not that into you. She keeps shooting you down. That means she is too much of a coward to tell you, look I'm not really interested in you.
Also, I think texting a girl on maybe Monday/Tuesday instead of Thursday... (read in full...)
Does my college crush like me or was he just being a gentleman?
Q. Dear Cupid Aunties and Uncles, I have got a crush on a guy and I would like to know if you think I am correct to think he is not just being friendly. He is in all of my classes. If he sits next to me, we sit quite close together, almost tou...
A. 12 October 2012:
Yea, I think he likes you too.... (read in full...)
Partner only wants hand jobs and anal sex. I'm confused!
Q. My partner only seems to want handjobs (about 3 times a week) and no penetrative sex. On the other hand all he talks about wanting is anal sex. Im confused what to think. Anal sex is not for me and no matter how many times i say so he continues to ...
A. 12 October 2012: Seems to me that he really doesn't care that you aren't into enjoying sex, so he "might" as well get his satisfaction - as in hand-job and anal....
I think you two are really poorly matched sexually.... (read in full...)
I'm Taken. So How Can I Stop Liking This Guy and just stay as Friends?
Q. Here's some background info: Both me and the new Guy, J are taken separately. We both knew each other about a year ago, and right now we're both in a serious relationship with our significant others. The first time we knew each other, I was ...
A. 12 October 2012: I don't think you can be "just" friends with this guy, so the only real option I see is stop talking to him and being around (but have the decency to tell him)
This "crushing" on another guy when you are dating someone is NOT OK when it's a person... (read in full...)
I just want to know what I did wrong with her?
Q. Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i ...
A. 12 October 2012: Cripes! She is 13! She isn't old enough or mature enough to understand fully what you meant, other then the fact that it either creeped her or or scared her off. SHE thought you were a friend, turns out you weren't, you were HITTING on her.... (read in full...)
Why do people talk badly about their ex?
Q. Why people actually talks bad thngs against thie ex-lover?...
A. 12 October 2012: Not all do. And some do about some exes.
I have 3 exes - two I actually still talk to on rare occasion the third was a total douche. I was more mad at myself for falling for such a loser then I was with what he did to me. Though these days I r... (read in full...)
I'm not doing well at university -- any tips on how to turn my effort into success?
Q. Hey aunties and uncles, this isn't a relationship question, but it's something that's been distressing me quite a lot, I recently failed a subject at university and I feel so very upset because I've studied a lot, I read the books recommended, I ...
A. 12 October 2012: Did you take on too many courses?
I would consider finding a tutor and see if that helps, also talk to you guidance counselor and see if he/she can point you in the directions of some good books to help you improve with the studies.
... (read in full...)
Found a 'sext' on my wife's phone
Q. My wife and I have a wonderful relationship...but I do work a lot and she wishes she had more attention. Anyway a friend of mine recently friend requested her on facebook and I guess began chatting with her. I came home the other night and wa...
A. 12 October 2012:
You take her phone pop it open to the dick-shot and ask WTF that is about.
That way she can't lie it away, though.... I bet you she will try.
And I'm sorry, I can't see why ANYONE should be OK with their spouse sexting. That is ridiculous. ... (read in full...)
Wife is in crisis and how do I move on w/o losing the kids?
Q. How do I move on? My W has been in Midlifecrisis for 2 yrs now (though my counselor says its bipolar) and I dont know whats next?I do still love her, but I cant tolerate the verbal abuse any longer. She frequently says how she hates me, and blames ...
A. 12 October 2012: I think I would go talk to a lawyer and see what your options are.
Your kids should be in school at least from 8am-3pm so no one needs to "watch" them. Finding a babysitter to watch then after school is definitely possible.
I don't think it's... (read in full...)
Is it too late ? How do I apologise sincerely and convincely? I know I messed up and ruined our trip gether.
Q. i was seeing a very nice guy soon after ending a long term relationship of 13 years. Unfortunately it only lasted a few months because I was not ready for a relationship so soon and he was hurt by me. we planned a trip together and right before...
A. 11 October 2012: I agree 100% with Auntie Daisy_Daisy.
Yes, you can send him something and a not with a proper apology, but do it because you feel he deserves this apology, not because you want something in return.
... (read in full...)
It's our old home where we used to live together. What message is he sending me: he has clearly been visiting the place for sex with a new girl. Why leave evidence?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend and he's been begging me back for months I recently started communicating with him again as I wanted to try and have a friendship and he agrees he wanted the same . We both have keys to our home which we shared and he...
A. 11 October 2012: Why is he begging for you to come back if he already has a GF? Does he want to have you on the side or what?
And why did you keep a key ? And why do you go "visit" the house? That seems iffy to me. He is WITH someone else.
I suggest that you... (read in full...)
Why do I shake when near climaxing? I'm embarrassed. Is it normal?
Q. So when and my boyfriend are doing foreplay I obviously get turned up to the point of climaxing and when I know I'm nearing that I get him to stop. I do this because I tend to shake when I do. I'm worried that he'll find it weird which is why I st...
A. 11 October 2012: It's pretty normal, for me it happens AFTER a good shag. My legs are like rubber for a good 45 minutes lol.
No worries, honey.... (read in full...)
Should I stick with this guy who gave me an STD and who has another girlfriend? I want a husband and family!
Q. I started dating a guy I knew for a while after two years of losing my fiance' to cancer. I'm 35 years old and he died when I was 32 going on 33. I didn't become intimate with him until about 4 months into our dating. Anyway, this guy a lot has gone ...
A. 11 October 2012: Just because you are stuck with the herpes he gave you doesn't mean you have to be stuck with this suck-tastic guy.
Honey, he is just using you. A warm body while he is away from the GF.
I agree with uncle tamperingtampaguy - have a little pr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got his roommate pregnant with twins. We have a child together. What should I do?
Q. Please help me I just found out about my boyfriend, who lives in another house, got his roommate pregnant 7 months ago. She now had twins but she's not out of the hospital yet. I found out about it today I have never liked her. the first time I...
A. 11 October 2012: Honestly I understand your anger and frustration and hurt, but you are MAD at the wrong person.
The ROOMMATE didn't PLAN her ovulation so she could TRAP him with getting pregnant.
He moved out on YOU and in with HER. My bet is he knew EXACTLY ... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 11 October 2012: I would ask him straight up what's up with the "Luv" and "my child"... if these are "new" terms he is using.
Just remind him you aren't British.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy break off friends with benefits?
Q. I have been hooking up with this guy for three months. Back then we agreed to keep it simple - no emotions, and if someone wanted to stop they would tell the other straight up I am a modest person by nature, but I feel like I need to mention ...
A. 10 October 2012: Maybe he wants more then sex, but not with you.
If he doesn't seem all that interested WHY keep offering?
... (read in full...)
Mum wants me to see her gynaecologist. I want to see a different one. Shouldn't this be my decision?
Q. I'm 18 years old girl and soon I'm going to have my first gynecologist visit. My mother wants to send me to her gynecologist, that she has been visiting almost all her life. I don't want to see her gynecologist, because I don't want a female looking ...
A. 10 October 2012: That should be your call.
Honestly I rather have a woman look at my lady-bit and no matter how much education a guy has he doesn't KNOW as much about the various female problems from FIRST hand experience as a woman might, but maybe that is just ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing in finishing this relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid Here it goes, me of my bf (soon to be ex) were on and off for past 2 years. He never calls and when I do he always says he is bored to talk to me, picks up a fight and wont call or return my calls for a week. Sometimes even without ...
A. 10 October 2012: You KNOW you did the right thing, so don't second guess yourself.
Next time, don't let anyone string you along for two years is a piss poor relationship. There is ALWAYS the choice to walk away.
And stay away from "fixer uppers" you know... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm not interested in sex anymore?
Q. I'm quite young but old enough for sex. At firzt I liked having sex with my boyfriend but since it started hurting I don't like to have sex anymore and haven't for a few months. Is this weird? ...
A. 10 October 2012: No, not weird at all. If you hurt your head smacking it into a brick wall, wouldn't you rather STOP doing it?
Have you been to see your GYN? Gotten a check up lately?
And what exactly is it that hurts when you have sex? ... (read in full...)
Do I not want sex anymore because I cant forgive him for cheating?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if anyone can give me an insight on why I feel like this? Me and my hubby of 2yrs dnt really have sex, probably about 3/4 times a month if that. He wants it but I dont. Ever since I found out he cheated on me with my best fri...
A. 10 October 2012: I think your marriage IS doomed if you two don't work this out or end it.
A toddler can be a "bump" in the amount of sex, but as a mother of 3 kids, it's never really slowed us down much.
Have you been to your doctor and checked if the l... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 10 October 2012: It's a like the American's using "hun". I lived in England for a year and the first few times elderly ladies would use "luv" I was flabbergasted.. lol I had a few WTF?! moments. I think it's a term of endearment though. Maybe he was in a pl... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
