My bf of 3 years said that he doesn't see us as a couple and he just wants to have fun until he meets "the one"!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years never talks about our future together, whenever i brought it up, he chnages the topic or says future is never certain. Yesterday i made him talk about our future, now he says he doesnt see us as a couple and he ju...
A. 8 March 2013: He meant EVERY word of it. So it's up to you now. DO YOU want to just be his fun? Or do YOU want to find a guy who you can see yourself with long term and who sees you in the same light?
I'd end it. I'm sorry but I wouldn't want to be someone'... (read in full...)
What do I do with my ex girlfriend's paintings?
Q. I just went through somewhat of a nasty break up with a girl who I exchanged the "I love you"s with. And now I feel hollow inside and used, because of the way she broke up with me and kept me close until she found a new boyfriend two weeks later. ...
A. 8 March 2013: I'd paint over them for sure, canvas isn't cheap.
Since they were a gift there is no reason to return them to her. Unless you actually like them I would just reuse them.... (read in full...)
How do I end the relationship with a woman who has nothing?
Q. I have been with this girl for 14 years I use to love her but now it's gone. When I met her she was basically homeless living in a shelter. She has always been mentally unstable at times and I have found someone i think i love. How do i put her out ...
A. 7 March 2013: I agree with Cerberus.
Get your ducks in a row and definitely out away valuables and get all the banking and other records in order, so IF she is vengeful she can't mess with that. Make sure you change the locks.
Also, talking to a lawyer MIGH... (read in full...)
How do I escape this tradition of naming the first born son after their father's father? I don't like the name!
Q. I am pregnant, 7 months in and its a BOY! I am very happy but at the same time a little sad because my in laws want me to name my son my husbands fathers name because its a Lebanese tradition for the eldest son to take after his fathers name in his ...
A. 6 March 2013: I agree with Cantremember, use the name as the child's middle name, problem fixed.
Are you considering a more modern name for his first name? Maybe if that is what you want it wouldn't be too hard convincing your husband that it will be easier f... (read in full...)
Being with a selfish man in bed makes me feel like an unpaid prostitute! Anyone else feel this way?
Q. I've been seeing this guy a few times, and I think he's nice. He took me out for dinner once and coffee a couple of times. After our coffee date yesterday, we made out a bit in his car before he dropped me home. I saw him again tonight and he did ...
A. 6 March 2013: If he is the same age group as you, then YES, I think you did the right thing. Obviously he thought the fact that he was THIS attracted to you is a compliment to you.
And honestly making out in the car? He really needs to grow up and learn ho... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's change of password and conversation with friend has made me uneasy. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hi aunts/uncles. I dont know if I am overreacting or if this is something I should be concerned about... First I should clarify, we have had trust issues in the past regarding him chatting with women sexually on the computer, joining dating/sex ...
A. 6 March 2013: There is a reason your gut is telling you something is UP, because something IS up with him.
Here is the thing though, he got caught on those websites and in hopes to placate you he gave you "almost full access" - now what you may not know is ... (read in full...)
New baby last year. So how can I convince my husband that I need less visitors at home?
Q. Dear cupid, I am at the end of my tether with visitors in my house! I had a baby last year and since then I have never had any peace. I'm feeling overwhelmed by too many people always around here. I feel like my home isn't my own and I am running ...
A. 6 March 2013: Sit him down and tell him, we need to make a few days visitor free. And this is why. I need to be able to take care of the house and the kids and I NEED some peace and quiet too. Honestly demanding a whole weekend I understand but I don't see your ... (read in full...)
What does this staring married man want from me?
Q. There is this married guy at the gym, now if he is happily married he really should not be interested in me or constantly staring at me. I try ignoring him it just does not work. I refuse to change gyms. What does he want from me?...
A. 6 March 2013: Ignore it. Obviously he finds you good looking and thinks it's like a compliment to stare at you.
I would just simply ignore him.... (read in full...)
Any home remedies for my skin irritation?
Q. Hi this is not relationship related,but I would love to here agony aunts remedy to my skin problem My skin has been very irritated lately,its become really dry and I have these red boils.and none of these market beaUty products help,my skin reacts b...
A. 6 March 2013: I would go see a doctor/dermatologist first. Like others mentioned boils are a sign of infection.
Also stay away from lotions/soap with perfume in them. Drink more water, cut the sugar.... (read in full...)
How to test my gf for being a sociopath
Q. Ok so I can't really tell if my girlfriend is a sociopath or not, I know all the symptoms and read ALOT about the subject but I can't tell if in emotionally in denial or maybe she just had a bunch of bad boyfriends in her passed and has always been ...
A. 6 March 2013: You are not a doctor so STOP trying to diagnose her.
If you think she needs help from a therapist/psychiatrist then you should talk to her about that.
But even IF you are right, there isn't anything you can do to "fix" her, so why trying to di... (read in full...)
Should I interfer in the way my boyfriend and his ex wife handle their daughter? She's a spoiled brat!
Q. My boyfriend has a 17 year old daughter from his ex wife,he has introduced me to her and now that I know her I feel she's quite the brat!she has a very expensive taste just like her father!at the age of 17 she has been gifted a mercedes,an iphone ...
A. 6 March 2013: No, I do NOT think it's YOUR job at all to "discipline" this daughter of his.
Yes, she sounds like a spoiled kid, but if her parents can afford it why not? And if that is how THEY chose to raise their kid, who are you to tell them it's not righ... (read in full...)
IS this modeling agency on the up and up? They asked me do do some rather risque things?
Q. hi, im really stuck! i need help. i have been contacted by a modeling agency asking if im interested in modeling. i am and i always have been i would love to be a model. The only thing is she told me i had to do my audition on skype on a web cam in ...
A. 6 March 2013: That doesn't sounds LEGIT at all.
What they SHOULD do is see a head shot then see you in person. NOT through Skype. I know a LOT of things are done on Skype (even job interviews) but this? Sounds bloody iffy.
Did you have to PAY anything for... (read in full...)
Have you ever regretted your first time?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Have you ever regretted your 'first time'? I'm a 17, soon to be 18, year old dude that is thinking about losing his virginity. When I hit puberty i never virginity or sex in particular was ever going to be a concern...
A. 6 March 2013: No, but I actually waited til I found a guy and got to know him for quite a while ( about 7 months).
Some of my female friends did regret theirs, mostly because a few of them had felt pressured into having sex by a guy. Some of my male friends ... (read in full...)
Is it natural to feel insecure about my girlfriend masturbating?
Q. Hello, I recently discovered that my girlfriend masturbates and I asked her today, and she denied doing it... I've always felt a little uncofortable about my girlfriend doing it, because I always pleasure her first during sex, sometimes twice,...
A. 6 March 2013: I would say it's only really a problem if she RATHER masturbate then have sex with you.
Usually (for both men and women) it's about a quick release nothing more, not about SEX or intimacy.
It's a little sad that she rather deny it then talk to ... (read in full...)
I moved in with him after one month, realized it's a mistake then moved out. . .
Q. I've been going out with my bf for 5 months. He is 31 and I'm 30. I am his first gf. We have lived together for the last 4 months. I know we rushed and moved in too soon. During this time he lost his job and i only work part time... So we ended up ...
A. 6 March 2013: Yes, you two did move in together WAY to soon, I would say 6-12 months of dating is WAY more appropriate.
Going from being together 24/7 to once a week is a huge red flag, that seems to me he is only holding on to you til he finds "greener... (read in full...)
She says she can tell lies about other guys as she is not my wife!
Q. i have been dating since 2 years. my girlfriend wants us to be engaged and then married. i have found her to be on dating sites many times and text messenging guys on different phone numbers. she always told lies about it, but now said that it is ...
A. 5 March 2013: Girlfriend/Fiance or wife NEITHER should be on dating sites if they are in a serious relationship, it is a HUGE red flag, and I REALLY doubt that saying :"I do" will make her go "cold turkey" from dating sites, she might just hide it better.
If yo... (read in full...)
Husband is in love with younger woman but want's to work on us.
Q. Help! My husband (22 years together, married for 18) recently confessed he had been having an affair for 18 months with a younger mutual friend. He says he thinks he had been suffering from depression for 2-3 years as he was unhappy with our...
A. 5 March 2013: I think it is VERY OK that you want to fight for the marriage, give it any and all chances to work. Hopefully HE feels the same way.
Trying "everything" to fix is is how you work. Hopefully HE will try to learn HOW to communicate WITH you instead ... (read in full...)
Men: Would you date a woman who won't give oral sex?
Q. I do not like giving blow jobs at all. I could live my life quite happily never having to do it again because for me its not really a pleasant thing even if my partner enjoys it. I'd rather him miss out than endure my gag reflex telling me how ...
A. 4 March 2013: Honestly, I'm fan of giving, but not receiving. I really don't enjoy it, but at times that is how we end up and I just go with the flow and let my husband do his thing.
Gagging doesn't HAVE to be a part of blow jobs. That would be deep throatin... (read in full...)
When I lost weight I lost the good parts of my body! I don't want to work out every day so what can I do?
Q. Hey aunts and uncles this isn't much of a relationship problem but more of a self esteem/ body imagine problem. When i got with my bf of 3 years now i first weighed 175. I had noticed his father and sister didnt liked me and I asked him why , his ...
A. 4 March 2013: First of all your BUTT isn't made of rubber bands, it doesn't go BACK to how it was after one day, that is ridiculous.
Secondly, losing 30 lbs really fast can have some rather surprising results in the sagginess department. I had a friend who did ... (read in full...)
Husband is in love with younger woman but want's to work on us.
Q. Help! My husband (22 years together, married for 18) recently confessed he had been having an affair for 18 months with a younger mutual friend. He says he thinks he had been suffering from depression for 2-3 years as he was unhappy with our...
A. 4 March 2013: Seems to me that he is putting ALL the blame on his behavior on YOU and his depression.
You know many people, who are depressed seeks medical attention, they do not cheat.
As for the future. How long do you think til he decides that YOU are not... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my partner of six years.
Q. HiI`m asking for some advice. five months ago I started an affair with a woman 20 years younger than me.I`m in a 6 year relationship with another woman who has constantly accussed me of having affairs.I have never had an affair until now. It sta...
A. 4 March 2013: My advice, MAN UP and end your relationship you are in. Even if she has accused you of cheating for years (and you didn't cheat for years) this is not fair on her. You are basically blaming your current GF for your own actions. YOU CHOSE to cheat. ... (read in full...)
What does she mean by, "her feelings are just futile to me"?
Q. 2 months ago I broke up with this girl, it's a complicated story of why we broke up and what happened. It didn't end well to say the least, but that's because of bad consideration on my part. Well, last night my friend saw her out and spoke to...
A. 3 March 2013: It means she has been watching too much Star Trek, Obviously.
It means whatever feeling she had/has for you makes no difference. She (my guess) think that it really doesn't matter because too much stuff happened to ever make the two of you work... (read in full...)
Suddenly he's started drinking and he's not like the Bf I know. How can I stop him drinking and getting out of control?
Q. Hello, I need help with my boyfriend. Let me please explain Few days ago he went to the club with his friends and he texted me that time and spammed me with kisses. He told me he got drunk with his friends that some girls gave him alcohol and his ...
A. 3 March 2013: Sorry honey, you can drag a horse to water but you can NOT make it drink. THAT is the same with people. You WANT him to stop drinking, but unless HE WANTS to stop, he isn't going to, not for you not for anything.
Obviously he thinks he is doing "j... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 3 March 2013: Honestly if the roles were reversed and HE did everything YOU did to him & the relationship would YOU really want him back?
I think you loved the IDEA of him (or just a BF) more then HIM (the person you dated and constantly cheated on, because ... (read in full...)
My crazy ex claimed she was pregnant the day after we broke up!
Q. Hello, I feel like I'm falling apart and desperately need some help and advice from others to help me piece everything together in my own head. So about 2 months ago I was introduced to a girl through a mutual friend who thought we might be good...
A. 3 March 2013: Well, if nothing else this will be quite a life-lesson for you. NEVER rely on another human being for birth-control. And never end a relationship over the Internet, be a man and end it face to face. Her not having a phone is not that outla... (read in full...)
Everybody knew about my boyfriend's pregnant girlfriend but me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and I just recently found out that not only has he been cheating on me for years but the girl is now pregnant. The reason I found out was because a friend of the family told me. When I asked him ...
A. 3 March 2013: Wow, what a douche!
Not only did he cheat on your for years, he cheated on her too and to top it off, he KNOCKED her up. And he LIED about it to your face. What does that tell you? That he doesn't respect you at all. That he felt like he could sw... (read in full...)
Will my married lover leave his wife? Or just keep me holding on to hopelessness?
Q. I have fallen in love with a married man. He has not divorced her. Our relationship has been 3 yrs. I want to end the relationship but things keep getting better between us. She was in an accident last year and still in recovery. I am unsure i...
A. 3 March 2013: I seriously doubt he will leave her, accident or no accident.
He has been quite happy with his wife and you on the side.
Aside from the moral aspect, WHY are you settling for sloppy seconds and not a man who WANTS to be with you and you only... (read in full...)
Why is my husband playing games? I feel like crying when he does these things to me.
Q. My husband is very manipulative. If I'm listening to my music, and I walk out of the room to do something (like the washing). I'll come back in and find my music has been turned off. The lights are off. I ask him, what are you doing? His repl...
A. 3 March 2013: Um why leave the light and music on when you can see or hear it? That seems rather wasteful.
Now he may not think you would notice it, but honestly if I am in the house and hubby leave his music blaring and leaves the room not to come back wit... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 3 March 2013: Well with your reply I have to say he is cheating, she wasn't some random chick who found his phone and answered it for shits and grins. She knows WHO you are and you have NO idea who she is... Sorry, honey. I'd tell him to go fly a kite a... (read in full...)
My daughter is having trouble with her father and his fiance. Is there anything I can do to help?
Q. Hi, my daughter has been having trouble with her dad and his new fiance.They have been together for about 18mths and engaged for two. When they first got together my daughter happily went to their house.She has three children and things went. I...
A. 3 March 2013: I'm glad he realized WHAT he was jeopardizing by not giving his child the attention she needs/wants and deserves. Hopefully he will remember that SHE is family too. ... (read in full...)
I feel suffocated in this relationship! I don't know what to do
Q. I have been dating my bf for 6 months now, when i first met him he had lost his gf of 7 years due to terminal illness, he was a total mess and pretty depressed obviously. I made it my mission to somehow bring him back to "life" and went through a ...
A. 1 March 2013: He hasn't really finished mourning his ex and I agree he needs some help, this is not something you can fix for him.
Honestly, I couldn't date a clingy guy like this.... (read in full...)
Can I find a virgin woman?
Q. Hai, am 27 year old virgin guy, am a christian and i do not believe in premarital sex. Many women dont believe me because am quite succesful and goodlooking, my question is, is it wrong for me to ask a woman if shes a virgin? Am looking for a ...
A. 1 March 2013: Well since you yourself is a virgin I can kind of understand your reasoning, except the whole.. I want her to JUST be mine I think is a little offensive, a wife is not property.
I agree with YouWish that a good place would be though your church a... (read in full...)
My friend has become so smitten over this online girl that he's losing sight of his life!
Q. My male roommate (and one of my best friends) has recently started dating a girl online. They've only been going out for maybe a week or two tops. But since he got with her, he's completely obsessing over her. We had many projects we were working ...
A. 1 March 2013: I know it's hard to watch your friend living in a fantasy world and believing that it is reality. BUT here are the fact; he is a grown man, it's HIS life and it might/might not last.
It's ONLY been two weeks and running on high, but once time pro... (read in full...)
Should I try telling my friend that I like him (again)? Even though he thinks we don't have enough in common?
Q. I'm in love with my friend. I have been for the last 8 months, and my feelings are just getting stronger. My problem is whether i should or not. i told him 6 months ago that i liked him more then a friend. And he said that depsite me being amazingly ...
A. 1 March 2013: No, if he already told you he really isn't into you in THAT way, no matter HOW much or how OFTEN you ask, he won't change his mind.
He knows you weren't joking when you told him 6 months ago, he isn't that dense (I hope) and he has done nothing ... (read in full...)
Asked a girl out said she's seeing someone else should I go for it anyways?
Q. Got this girls number had previously meet her and already decided that i liked her. Been texting a little bit asked her out on a date and she said she might be seeing someone else. I dont think their in a relationship just been out on a date. can i ...
A. 1 March 2013: I wouldn't. I think that was her trying to be polite in declining your offer for a date. IF she was really interested she would have said YES to a date, not ... she might be seeing someone else.
I would look for someone else to get to know and... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have fantasies about being anally raped?
Q. I'm just your normal, every day 17 year old girl. Sometimes I like to read erotic stories online. About two months ago, I stumbled upon this story where a teenage boy forced himself onto his sister, anally. I don't know why, but this turned me on ...
A. 28 February 2013: I agree with YOS.
I think there are fantasies and then there are reality. Having fantasies can be healthy enough, but when it comes to the point where you CAN NOT enjoy intimacy without having to think up fantasies, something is up and it is NOT h... (read in full...)
Should I accept being the messenger between my divorced parents or should I just put my foot down and refuse to get involved? And how do I deal with my fathers behavior?
Q. I'm going crazy. My parents divorced (not officially yet) a month ago, and they both expect me to be the messenger between them. When they separated, my mom told me some things that I felt were very hurtful, so I didn't feel the need to talk to ...
A. 28 February 2013: Honestly, I would tell BOTH my parents that you REFUSE to be in the middle and/or the messenger, they can go through a lawyer if they can't talk to each other, NOT you.
SHAME on them for putting you in the middle. They are acting like a couple o... (read in full...)
My daughter is having trouble with her father and his fiance. Is there anything I can do to help?
Q. Hi, my daughter has been having trouble with her dad and his new fiance.They have been together for about 18mths and engaged for two. When they first got together my daughter happily went to their house.She has three children and things went. I...
A. 28 February 2013: Honestly, I think I would have a chat with your ex-husband. He NEEDS to take time/make time for his daughter. And your daughter needs to accept that she will be part of a blended family so she might not be #1 priority all the time for her Dad. That ... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 28 February 2013: When the woman answered the phone what did she say? What did you say?
If he TRULY had lost it and someone found it they would (if they were honest) say hey this is not my phone and I found it at XZY place.
I think your gut is telling you that... (read in full...)
Is this how boys are? How can I get over this betrayal? He told me his actions are "part of being a liar"
Q. My b.f told me that I’m 6 month solder than he is and that he want to breakup... When we met he lied to me and said that he was 18years old, I just can’t forget all he said to me. I asked him to tell me the reason why he made a lot of promises to m...
A. 27 February 2013: So he lied to get you in bed? And one of those lies were, we will get married ?
1. He is a douche. Promises are not MEANT to be broken. Sometimes it happens, but it shouldn't be the norm. I was raised with parents who wouldn't promise me the moon... (read in full...)
How could he break up with me again?
Q. I'm feeling a little lost after my recent breakup. My boyfriend and I have been together over 2 years. He initially broke up with me a year in a half into the relationship saying he was unhappy. Six months of on/off playing around we officall...
A. 27 February 2013: Honey, if you have to work THAT hard to make a relationship work, then obviously HE isn't willing to put in that work. And frankly I don't really blame him. I think he assumed that starting back up would erase all the things that didn't work in the ... (read in full...)
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