Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 13 April 2013: I have to agree with SVC, you can compete (nor should yo u really HAVE to).
I would just cut the contact with him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 11 April 2013: You know that if you DO end up marrying this guy, his daughter and ex wife will become a permanent fixture in your life, right? It sounds like the daughter and ex are emotionally black mailing him though. I mean what did they do BEFORE he showed... (read in full...)
Negative responses about breast implants have me questioning what I should do about my body!
Q. I've asked this question before and had some good responses, but I just read another reply to another post and this involved the respondent saying that "as long as she doesn't have breast implants"...in relation to her partner finding another women ...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm with Cerberus. I'm not a fan of plastic surgery because 8 out of 10 people, who have it done don't really need it, they just THINK that is how they should look according to society/media.
Seems to me that your REASONS for wanting the implants... (read in full...)
Unexpected bleeding after sex...what could it be about?
Q. Slightly awkward question here but advice is appreciated. After about a year of being single and sexually inactive I've recently become intimate with a new partner. We've had sex a handful of times, always with a condom, and twice now I've noticed ...
A. 16 March 2013: Go get a check up. It's really that simple and while you are there talk to your doctor about birth control. Can't hurt to still use condoms and birth-control.... (read in full...)
He deleted my mom from his Facebook friends and she wants us to break up because of that and some other stuff!
Q. I started dating this guy a month ago everything was going great, we had a few problems but we got through them. My mom added him on Facebook and things was good until she started commenting on almost all his status's asking what they meant, who ...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm sorry I think your mom 100% out of line.
Your BF shouldn't have added her in the first place, if you ask me. He has no "right" or "need" to be on his Facebook. Your relationship is still so new, that I can't see WHY she feels the needs to... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't want to go on facebook and say we are back together or give me his password to it. This troubles me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. A couple of months ago we broke up for about one month, then decided that wasn't the right decision and have gotten back together. Well, there is a problem that has been bothering me a ...
A. 16 March 2013: I agree with CMMP
HE (your BF) has a RIGHT to his privacy. It's only FACEBOOK for crying out loud.
LOOK at how he treats you in the relationship and STOP thinking that ANYTHING on the Internet is a true reflection of reality it's NOT.
My ... (read in full...)
Drama, back stabbing comments, rumour-mongering. Ever suffered any of this? So fed up with it, should I just give up on trying to be friends with girls?
Q. Hello everyone, I have had a couple of issues for a long time, well, throughout my whole teenage life to be honest with you. I am a 19 year old female. This is going to be a long post so please read on, and bear with me. My problem is I cannot...
A. 16 March 2013: I would stick to having fewer but better friends if I were you.
I had very few female friends and quite a few male friends growing up, I just got along better with males. BUT the female friends I had (still have today) were the kinds that didn't s... (read in full...)
I'm tired of her crying and am losing patience!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years, and we live together. This has been a gradual process, of me losing my patience. She cries a lot, for many reasons. Not a ridiculous amount, but at least a once, maybe a few times a week. Often, it is ...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm guessing you haven't figured out that THIS IS WHO she is, by now? Crying is not necessarily being weak, but it does make her sound very emotional and you on the other hand have unrealistic expectations of her.
Maybe the relationship is over?... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 16 March 2013: crying123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question
One more thing guys what should I do with all of his stuff he is begging me to keep it and just wait patiently until he comes home. He only packed for a week everything is here... (read in full...)
My Bf claims a supportive girlfriend would stay awake with him everytime he can't sleep, How can I best support him?
Q. Hi all, my problem is simple I need to know how to stay awake even when I'm really tired. My boyfriend has trouble sleeping and I really don't understand it because he says he can never sleep but by the time I wake up he's swaying back and forth a...
A. 13 March 2013: So you should BOTH get no sleep and feel like crap? That is his solution?
I'm sorry he is being a dick about this. YES it IS annoying laying next to someone who has no problem sleeping, but that doesn't mean the solutions is for the both of you t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...
A. 13 March 2013: I'm sorry, I would just end it.
And this is why, he is probably suffering from retrograde jealousy, which means he is (irrationally) jealous of your past.
And that is not going to change. YOU can't change the past either, so it's kind of an ... (read in full...)
Due to get married in May but how can I trust my fiancé?
Q. Im going crazy. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my fiance for seven mostly great years. But the past few months, I have found out a few things. He was texting some girl he met at a job he was doing and called her beautiful. An...
A. 13 March 2013: PRE-MARITAL counseling.
Do it.
If you have trust issues and unresolved issues then TALK about it, go to a counselor if that is what you need, but DO NOT go into a marriage thinking a ring will change him (or you) into the perfectly faithf... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes into "no contact" mode with me when she's angry...why is that?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year and everything is good for the most part, except for when she gets angry or upset about something. We are both in our forties so it shouldn't be attributed to immaturity, but it sure seems that way. For ...
A. 13 March 2013: She sounds utterly passive-aggressive and honestly a little self centered.
I would actually TALK to her about this face to face, not over text or phone but in person.
It's kind of like dating a possessed yo-yo when all is good it's good, but w... (read in full...)
Arrogant and cliquey young manager at work who thinks I'm beneath her! Advice?
Q. I work in a hospital and one of the girls I work with is 23, she is very good at her job, super confident and talented,and 3 months ago has been made one of the assistant managers, which is great for a girl so young.(Im in my 30s an have NO issue...
A. 13 March 2013: I think YOU are over-thinking how she feels about you and her work.
I don't think she think YOU are beneath her, I think she is just trying to emulate how she "think" an assistant manager should act, and when around her buddies she doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I marry a man who will lie to his wife?
Q. My fianace and I have been dating 3 years and we have a 1/2 year old son. When I was about 4 months pregnant he cheated on me and slept with his X girlfriend. I found this out only because she send me a facebook message informing me of what happened ...
A. 13 March 2013: Does the number of times he slept with the Ex-Girlfriend alter anything in YOUR relationship or in your perception of him?
I do think having a chat about lying is necessary, specially IF you still want to marry him.
I understand that ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to NEVER have fantasies about your partner?
Q. I have a question for all the people who are either in a serious relationship, or married. Is it normal to NEVER have sexual fantasies about your partner? The reason I ask is because while I am attracted to my husband, I find myself fantasizi...
A. 13 March 2013: I can't say what's "normal" when it comes to fantasies. But in 15 years of marriage my husband have definitely been in many of my fantasies. But he is not the ONLY person in those, quite often he isn't. So for ME it is NORMAL to "cast" him on ... (read in full...)
I've decided I don't want to meet him. Not after his nasty remarks. How do I tell him this? And confirm that I only want to be friends?
Q. Ok, so, please don't judge. I've seemed to have gotten myself into a really bad situation. I want to give a brief story on how I met this guy, and what my problem is now. I met this guy online years ago. I was then 12, he was 13, and we became re...
A. 13 March 2013: Honestly, I don't even think friendship with this guy is healthy thing for you.
He is interpreting you wanting to be "friends" with you loving him or you PLAYING with his emotions. And I think you want to be "friends" in order to not hurt his... (read in full...)
Girl who came into my bar has left me a bit messed up. I rejected her advances because I'm in a relationship. But what should I do if she returns?
Q. About three/four months ago a girl and her party of friends walked into the bar, I was working at in Boston. Late into the evening, two of her male college friends approached me and informed me that she liked me, much to my colleague’s disappoi...
A. 11 March 2013: She is a fantasy (for you) pure and simple. What you DO with that is up to you.
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I want to break up with him. How can I manage this situation when he's threatened to harm himself if I break up with him?
Q. so there is this guy that i dated for a few months and i honestly cant seem to get over my ex (before him) , the new guy doesnt realize i no longer wanna be with him i told him over and over again but he thinks im just messing around he doesnt ...
A. 11 March 2013: I will "third" YouWish's advice.
He can't hold you "emotionally hostage" unless you let him. You also can NOT control what he feels, thinks or does.
... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? My sister's husband hits on me!
Q. I don't know if I'm seeing too much into things but please do tell me if I'm wrong! My sisters husband has been hitting on me lately and he has been doing this ever since he became my sisters boyfriend,at first I thought it was harmless flirting...
A. 11 March 2013: Do you have a cell phone? If so, record him next time he hits on you.
And honestly, I'd tell him to leave you the heck alone, that you do not need his compliments.
If you and your sister have a relationship where you don't feel like you can tel... (read in full...)
She masturbated... without me!
Q. Should I be upset about this? Basically, my girlfriend and I had not had sex for almost 5 days. While we had never really agreed to not masturbate before our next time in bed, we had talked about doing something like that before. (We have sex a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Amen to ALL that CERBERUS wrote - read it and LEARN.
... (read in full...)
Should I say hello to my ex BF's close friend? I found out he got so many hobbies and lifestyle similar to me
Q. I know this is crazy and hardly to be acceptable. He is my ex boyfriend's close friend. Should I say hello and seek acquaintance with him? I have just got broken with my ex since last week. But, here are some points to consider about my case: 1. I h...
A. 11 March 2013: No, don't go hunting for a replacement THAT soon. YOU just broke up with your now ex.
... (read in full...)
Fiance did something stupid to "intentially hurt my feelings?"
Q. I've been with my FI for 4 years, newly engaged about a month ago. Living separately with our families for now, until I finish school next month. My FI is usually very sensitive and never did anything in the past to intentially hurt my feelings...
A. 11 March 2013: I would sit him down FACE to FACE and talk about this. Set up ground rules for when it's OK not to call and when EACH of you ought to call.
And then I would tell him this tit for tat needs to stop right here, right now.
... (read in full...)
He's becoming too "friendly" for comfort!
Q. Dear all, I have a problem and would like some advice. I am a mum of 2 and have been with my partner for 15 years during this time I have also had a male friend who I met through my sister. Even though we are the same age I have always thought of...
A. 11 March 2013: If he is a good friend (mate as you call it) I would tell him to knock it off. He might not be aware of how it makes you feel and will probably deny "hitting" on you as well. But if he makes you uncomfortable - TELL him.... (read in full...)
Why did the gym instructor give me such a reduced rate? Was he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. So the other day I went to the gym and asked one of the trainers there how much he charges for personal training. We've talked a couple times, and he did an assessment on me back when I first got my membership. I think he's so cute, except I'm 16 ...
A. 11 March 2013: I think he rated you by your age and to get you started. It's not uncommon for a trainer to give discounts to beginners and regulars.
$150 for one a week would be rather expensive in my book. I paid between $15 -$30 per session.
It's a great ... (read in full...)
broke up with my boyfriend but he is still acting like one.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about a month ago. He was jealous, controlling, he was lazy and lives with his mother. I was young at the start of the relationship so I was spoon fed everything he told me. I was young and silly so I flashed ...
A. 11 March 2013: Obviously you two can't JUST be friends, it's pretty clear. You are NOT doing him any favors by pretending to be his friend.
So my advice would be tell him, being friends isn't working for you and then tell him NO CONTACT. Stick by it. Block hi... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Is this the first time in 5 years he has spend time with his daughter like this?
If so, I think you need to chill a little.
However if he is staying WITH the mom/daughter and not in a motel, I would find it a little odd for him to stay so l... (read in full...)
After we broke up he may have made another girl pregnant. We are back together but how do I cope if he's the father?
Q. So my ex and I broke up a few months ago and now were trying to start over. But a girl he slept with is pregnant and it's a possibility it's his. She married and has a kid with someone else but it still could be my exes. How do I deal with this ...
A. 11 March 2013: Well depending on what state you live in, it might not matter about the paternity. As some states regard a child produced during a marriage belonging to the HUSBAND (whether he fathered it or not)
However your BF MIGHT want to know. He MIGHT wa... (read in full...)
Are these double standards? My LDR likes it when I send a sexy video but he is refusing to send one back!?
Q. My boyfriend has double standards. We're in an LDR (it's relatively new - coming up to 3 months) and whenever he's horny, I will send him a picture sometimes, not every time and the pics are not fully nude, but something sexy and I have sent a s...
A. 11 March 2013: If he isn't comfortable with it, don't try and "make" him do it. Just like if there is something YOU aren't comfortable with then YOU shouldn't feel pressured to do it.
As for the sexy photos and videos, thread carefully. Face or no face on it do... (read in full...)
I hate the guy because what drama he caused but have feelings for him. So how should I deal with this?
Q. I really love/hate this guy, but at the same time. he has caused so much trouble for me during the year. He claims that he hates me, and I know it. He calls me a horrible names. Before that we had sex, but he had a gf. but i told her. So he hates...
A. 11 March 2013: You need to learn to ignore him and focus on what an idiot he is. I mean in reality he treats you like crap and you "love" him? Why ?
He calls you names and you can't stop thinking about him? Why?
Did you know he had a GF before you had s... (read in full...)
After being together for years I find out something about my wife that has shaken my trust in her to the core! I don't know how to deal with this
Q. 13 years ago, I met a wonderful woman in University who has now been my wife for 8 years. We have kids (with another on the way) and are happy however recently, during a discussion she elaborated on a story of how she hooked with one of her past ...
A. 11 March 2013: I DO agree with her to an extend - THIS WAS 13 years ago, how long are you going to hold her responsible for a MISTAKE the lead her to you and your relationship?
Yes, it was nonsensitive of her, but then again WHY are you bringing up the number o... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the sexual tension between me and my dance partner?
Q. I am a dancer and I work with my dance partner. We are working on a dance production together and work on many productions together professionally. The big problem is the increasing sexual tension between us. He is married, no kids. I am single. We ...
A. 11 March 2013: Just because you feel the sexual tension when dancing doesn't mean that when you are off stage (or not rehearsing) that you need to do anything sexual.
If you can't change dance partner then you need stick to being "professional" about it and igno... (read in full...)
Housemates being horrible. Should I confront them about the way they are behaving towards me? What would be the best way to deal with their continual disrespect towards me?
Q. I'm in my third year at university and this year I moved in with a new group of people as my female flatmates from last year went on years abroad. One of my friends from a sports club was looking for one last person to fill a really nice house he...
A. 8 March 2013: Instead of trying to FIX these losers, I would look for another place to live.
I wouldn't put up with this crap!... (read in full...)
I've always had low self esteem. Do I need counselling to deal with my decision to sleep with a married man 18 years older than me?
Q. I already feel bad enough already, without enduring being called nasty names. I slept with a married man who is 18 years older than me. We met on the internet and went out, had drinks and slept together the first time we met. Before we actu...
A. 8 March 2013: Do you need counseling? No, you made a choice and you know it was kind of a "wrong" choice.
You don't plan on seeing him again so it's not like this meant anything to you. Sometimes we make choices even though we KNOW it's not the right thing to... (read in full...)
He tried to guilt trip me. I'm angry about him. How can I learn to get over an annoying passive agressive ex bf?
Q. I dated this guy for 3 months and broke up with him because I felt things were going too fast and he was starting to get on my nerves. We had different interests, different humour, he would always be complaining, I wasn't sexually attracte...
A. 8 March 2013: Honestly I think for the most part you handled the break up right. Telling him it's this and that that is making me break up usually doesn't mean much.
So he decided MONTHS after the break up to blame YOU for all that has gone wrong in his life... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: I'm sorry :(
I just hope you don't take to heart the whole *it's your fault because you neglected me* spiel from her. You didn't MAKE her go on dating sites and talk to random dudes.
... (read in full...)
What do I do about this suffocating friend?
Q. I try to be a great friend but I feel like I just can't be. This friend I have is nice, intelligent and when she got over her attraction foe me, we were ok. But she wanted so much of my time! Called all tge time and wanted to hang all the time. ...
A. 8 March 2013: Wow, I would feel overwhelmed too if I were you.
IT IS OK, to say no, honey.
IF you feel like you have MORE then enough on your plate then tell the friend(s) just that. There is nothing wrong in having a busy life or having a lot to deal with... (read in full...)
I overhear people saying 'why is she with him' because I'm just an average guy whereas she is beautiful inside and out, should I ask my girlfriend what she saw in me?
Q. I have been dating this beautiful girl for abt a year now!she's nice,kinda,a well educated woman she's working at a hospital..she's beautiful not only on the outside but also the inside and that's what attracted me to her! But the only thing that ...
A. 8 March 2013: I think EVERY older person who is with a younger person get the "dirty" look because others are expecting that they are together either for monetary reason or definitely not for love.
I have seen really GOOD average looking guys with pretty (... (read in full...)
Dating a gynecologist is bothering me!
Q. I've met this guy recently through friends I like him very much. We've been on couple of dates but my problem is that he is a gynecologist! I can't seem to see through that. I cannot imagine what that is like for a young man. It bothers me to think...
A. 8 March 2013: I have to say there is nothing intimate about a pelvic exam at all.
One of my good friends is a oncologist ( specialized in children with cancer) should he not want to be around healthy kids because his work revolves around SICK kids?
Or a pl... (read in full...)
Girls, how do you deal with flirty women around your boyfriend or spouse?
Q. I guess this question is more directed towards women. Have you ever dealt with those really flirty, skanky women who will not leave your partner alone? Do they not have morals? I was at a party with my fiancee and a couple of his friends last ...
A. 8 March 2013: I don't "deal" with it at all. I trust my husband and I'm not really a jealous person. Now if he ACTIVELY flirts back I will tell him to cut it out if I find it inappropriate.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend that I seen her boyfriend's profile on an online dating website?
Q. I need to know whether I should say something or just stay out of this. I was on a dating site and I saw my friend's bf on there. I made a fake profile and messaged him and he tried to pretend he didn't have a gf and asked me to hook up with him. ...
A. 8 March 2013: Since he deleted the profile it's going to be tough to prove it to her and thus it might create more drama then you are wanting. If you had not told him he looked familiar you could just have emailed her the link to the profile.
Did you take scr... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: If THAT is the reason why her last relationship ended and she is STILL doing it, she learned NOTHING and doesn't think she is to blame.
The fact that she is TRYING to make this your fault is a big red flag.
Honey, if your partner is on da... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years said that he doesn't see us as a couple and he just wants to have fun until he meets "the one"!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years never talks about our future together, whenever i brought it up, he chnages the topic or says future is never certain. Yesterday i made him talk about our future, now he says he doesnt see us as a couple and he ju...
A. 8 March 2013: He meant EVERY word of it. So it's up to you now. DO YOU want to just be his fun? Or do YOU want to find a guy who you can see yourself with long term and who sees you in the same light?
I'd end it. I'm sorry but I wouldn't want to be someone'... (read in full...)
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