I'm uncomfortable with people looking at me
Q. Why do they keep looking at me? I don't understand? So I signed up for the gym a few months ago and diet to help with my self confidence and I've lost a lot weight, toned. Uk size 10 but still curvy with big boobs. I've noticed that the guy...
A. 21 March 2013: Honey you can not control what other people do or say. You can only "control" your own actions.
They look because they can, it's that simple.
I would just ignore it the best you can.
My best friend lost a lot of weight and noticed that ... (read in full...)
So why did he visit my workplace at the end of the day, then not speak? Yet then message me at home later?
Q. So this guy who liked me at work (he's not there anymore) turned up at work just as all the kids are leaving (I work in a school) Something went on between him and two members of female staff, so they didn't want to see him, and people generall...
A. 21 March 2013: I would ask him about it.
And why would people be "unhappy" to see him at the school? That seems really weird to me.
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My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 21 March 2013: Tit for tat is childish, but lying (in my book) is a deal-breaker. He kept ASKING you because he already KNEW you hooked up with the other guy, he just wanted to give you a chance to be honest.
However posting himself online is really stupid. ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with my emotions?
Q. I met this guy from a friend of mine a year ago, and I started developing feeling for him. He initiated the first meeting, and took me to the "City" and everything was fine for a couple of dates. One day he started being really obnoxious, telling ...
A. 21 March 2013: Yikes, just tell him this isn't working for you. And then remove/block him from your social life as best as you can.
He gives you "tests" ? Seriously?
This nutter needs to date a straight jacket, not a woman.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my mother's anxiety about money, she'll essentially throw away money yet say spending it on my education is a problem, help!
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but I hope someone on here can give me some advice. My mom works like 24/7, no joke. She's always put work ahead of everything else in life. When she'd come home she'd spend hours paying bills, and saying how expe...
A. 21 March 2013: You mom is not responsible for your education. YOU are. So I would start looking into grants, part time jobs, student loans and GET the education YOU want.
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My daughter was bullied into sending a nude photo to a boy. What should I do?
Q. Ok, so my 13 year old daughter comes to me in the middle of the night crying because she did something really bad. She said she was pressured into sending a photo of herself nude to a boy in her class. He was being really mean and bullying towards ...
A. 21 March 2013: You DO need to contact the school and his parents. This needs to stop NOW and the photos deleted. If need be I would call the police and ask what you can do to protect her.
I would honestly go look at her chat history and see just HOW he "bullied... (read in full...)
How do I get out of my prom date to take another girl that is nicer to me?
Q. Hi, I have a senior prom problem. I'm a senior in High School, and there is a girl who I am "best friends" with, who I had feelings for, that I asked to prom, and she said yes. The girl doesn't go to my school, and seeing her is a problem. Lately, ...
A. 21 March 2013: I would go with iAmHereToHelpYou's suggestion and give her a call and say :
"hey, I'm really sorry, but I've decided to make other plans for prom."
The sooner the better, before she buys a dress and so forth.
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I'd like a strictly FWB situation, he say's he doesn't want to hurt me. He said he wants to have sex, but doesn't want to hurt me. What does he want?
Q. I started talking to this boy I like who is in one of my university classes. I want to be FWB for now as we are both about to start a new program that is going to last almost two years and will be very busy for a real relationship. I'd love to be ...
A. 21 March 2013: I think he has the idea that you MIGHT at some point in time want more then just sex. And he doesn't see you that way.
He'd like to screw you, but he is worried that sex will make you start having feelings for him. And I think he is right.
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I want this creepy man in my art class to back off, but I don't know how to tell him how. Suggestions?
Q. Hello nice people of this site! I take drawing lessons weekly with a group of people. They are fun and I really enjoy it, but recently a new guy has joined the class and he's the problem. He doesn't talk to me, he doesn't talk to no one a...
A. 21 March 2013: Talk to your teacher.
It could be the guy is "just" trying to get to know you and really sucks at social skills and cues.
YOU DO NOT have to let him hold your hand and kiss your cheek. You just step around him and if he grabs your hand you te... (read in full...)
He cheated. I told the girl, but she went back to him and he forgot about me.
Q. I Really need help with this one... So I have been doing a long distance relationship with this guy since last january of 2012 I was going to school in vegas and he lives in huntington beach 3 hour drive not bad. We actually saw eachother alot in ...
A. 21 March 2013: Why are you so desperate to be with this man?
He lies and he cheats and when you call him on it he wants no contact....
Remove him from your life, de-friend him, block him and his cell number, remove him from Skype and move on.
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Caught Him in the act. Now what?
Q. About 2 years ago I came home early and found my husband making out with her in my car in the driveway (we have a long country drive) He seemed devastated and vowed to go to therapy and never ever do that again. Found out at counseling it had ...
A. 21 March 2013: I'm sorry, it must be absolutely devastating.
I understand the fear of being alone, but if you continue to "forgive" him and stay with him he will only escalate as he thinks your staying is you giving consent.
And personally, I rather be alone ... (read in full...)
My Wife Talking about sex toys with a collegue!
Q. Had a bit of a barney with my wife (of 5 months) last night. She said that she had a conversation with a male collegue about his business selling Sex Toys - I thought this was innapropriate and got the proverbial hump. Anway, thats not so much the ...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm with SVC 100%
If she hadn't told you and you found out it would have been wrong and inappropriate, but she was SHARING something that happened in her day.
Was it that he was male or the sex toy topic? Or both?
Anyhow, I think you a... (read in full...)
He gave me the boot with a cliche break up line, why?
Q. Hi friends! I just got broken up with by guy I've known for almost 2yrs. We have been together for only about 6mths. I told him I had feelings for him then got the kiss of death email. He wrote this: "I think your sweet too nice and too cool of a ...
A. 20 March 2013: He DID tell you, in the "nicest way he could think off" it might have been cliche, but I think he was trying to spare your feelings.
Maybe he went into the relationship thinking that he would grow fonder of you and he felt he hadn't whereas ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is in a totally different place than me. How do I change this?
Q. What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend is in a completely different place to me? I'm 22 and he's 23 we've been together for two years and we decided to start house hunting a while back, although I don't feel he's taking it seriously, when we ...
A. 20 March 2013: He isn't ready for the whole family thing and the more you push the more he will back away.
So you are at an impasse.
Buying a house at 22-23 is a little ambitious if you ask me, but if it's doable financially I for the most part don't see a... (read in full...)
How is this romantic and not creepy?
Q. My roommate just got a date with a girl for being a creep and messaging her on facebook when he didn't even know her. He sent a message to her on an account he newly made that said I quote "I don't know you very well but one of my friends knows you ...
A. 20 March 2013: She liked the attention and he tried something "new" and apparently it worked for him.
Personally I don't find it very romantic, but maybe she did.... (read in full...)
Old FWB wants to make it official. Is it risky?
Q. My old sex buddy and i saw each other today , it's been a while since we've seen each other , but he messaged me on Facebook than we texted and he said if i would ever be his girl , and i replied if he would be faithful than yeah . Than he said he'd ...
A. 20 March 2013: If you two try and date then just go slow. Who knows it might work out it might not, but the questions is DO YOU want to try?
Set some ground rules and go for it.... (read in full...)
I think my ex got married on a short term relationship, I want to contact her, but should I?
Q. Ok, this will probably be a little complicated. Both my girlfriend and I are middle aged, so, a little older than many of the people who post here. But, I could use some advice on a tricky issue. We had been dating for 1.5 years. I was going th...
A. 20 March 2013: Sorry, but you REALLY need to take of those rose tinted glasses.
When she met you and started dating you, she KNEW you were separated and NOT able to marry her anytime soon, yet she continued to date you til she found greener grass. Her and her ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: Honestly, I would consider moving out.
1. You know for a fact that he cheated on you in January and he is looking on CL for random hook ups - that means he isn't invested in the relationship anymore, he is looking for greener grass or in his case... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 19 March 2013: Ah well, I'm sorry that I got confused by the title and then your post, they didn't seem to match at all and go figure they didn't!
If you want more from him (as in dating/relationship/get to know) then I would bring it up. You actually could ha... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: It's only a week. Try 13 months.
I'm guessing this is not totally uncommon for her to be a little unorganized?
Personally, before I had kids if I was travelling somewhere I preferred to have a little time to myself to mentally prepare myself f... (read in full...)
Is he actually flirting with me and sporting some feelings?
Q. I know it's a lot but pleas read? I know there are lots of questions like this one but I really need your answer/advice. Maybe you've been there, know what to do? The problem is with a guy. Me, him and our group of friends have knew each o...
A. 18 March 2013: If he has told you several times that he doesn't want to date "within the pack" I think he is using you as a "rodeo clown" in the sense that if he doesn't have a GF he can "use" you to fulfill some of his needs. He seem to know that sex will ... (read in full...)
Is there the slightest chance that my deployed exboyfriend with a pregnant ex will contact me or want to get back with me?
Q. 4 years ago I met this guy who I really liked, sadly we lost contact and even though I use to think about him loads i accepted it wasn't meant to be. 3 months ago I had a friend request from him on Facebook, I accepted and we got chatting. I went t...
A. 18 March 2013: As much as it hurt, I think he is doing the right thing in ending it with you before you two get too serious. He DOES need to sort out the whole baby/babymama drama first. And he DOES need to focus on his missions when deployed.
You really (... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or am I being played
Q. About 9 month ago I met a boy, I fell for him straight away but he is no my bet friend. I told him a few months back that I liked him, to which he replied "I don't like you in that way", so I kind of learnt to see him more of a friend and see other ...
A. 18 March 2013: I would call him on it too. BUT IF you two do decide to try the whole BF/GF thing.. TAKE it slow and DATE with no sex for a few months, see if you actually work as BF/GF.
It could be that he likes the fact that you were into him and is trying t... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: I'm not sure I get your question.. you said he touched you inappropriately yet, and I quote:
**I actually did not care cause I had not been touched like that by any man in a long time.**
So WAS it inappropriate or not?
Sleeping in a guy... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: I have to agree with SVC, having expectations of your spouse (& kids) is not wrong. Having TOO high expectations isn't per say wrong either, but it's an easy way to be let down over and over.
You wrote ** quote** "I can't afford to get you much... (read in full...)
Broke up with my BF because of his indiscretion, was I right
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, I have left my jobs to. Follow him wherever his job takes him. Last year I had a miscarriage. Since then we have been living in qatar. I was unable to work without a visa so I have been a house GF ...
A. 18 March 2013: Definitely time to leave.
Trust your gut on this. And sorry, he WAS cheating. Perhaps not having physical sex, but he was emotionally cheating by getting involved with other girls. And honestly if he is ASKING for lunch & sex what is that then?
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I'm married and a married hottie came onto me at work. What should I do?
Q. I work in the same company as this woman. Never really took any notice of her or talked to her, but I knew she was married. One day we found ourselves alone together and she made it plain she fancied me. In fact she put her hand on my thigh, I ...
A. 18 March 2013: Seriously GET OVER yourself and maybe take another look at your wife and your marriage? You want to play "cheating" with the office hottie or work on your marriage. Because OBVIOUSLY it needs work if you are THAT easily distracted.
You put your... (read in full...)
Is my BF genuinely getting a divorce or keeping as his mistress
Q. My bf's story...he met this girl she got pregnant they got married and before the baby was born she cheated on him, he tried to stay with her for the baby but he just couldn't deal with her anymore so now they are going through divorce and soon they ...
A. 18 March 2013: Honestly, I would take a giant step backwards til that mess is sorted out.
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I'm not ready yet to start dating someone else. How do I tell this to the girl I met and made plans, to go on a date with?
Q. I need advice i've done something stupid and now don't know what to say to them! On Saturday night this girl I met asked me out on a date and I was still pretty drunk when I accepted it and I was sure at the time it was what I wanted and that I w...
A. 18 March 2013: If you have no intentions of dating then WHY even go ON the date? She isn't there for your amusement. She most likely is looking for someone to date.... (read in full...)
Why does he get an iPad? It's not fair!
Q. Today I came home from school and found my little brother with a brand-new iPad. I am so freakin jealous of him! My parents said its only "because he needs a certain app for social skills." (he has aspergers so he needs help) I still don't ...
A. 18 March 2013: STUFF (tv, IPod and what not) doesn't mean your parent LOVE him more or you more. The size of his room doesn't mean they love him more. Maybe your parents are overcompensating due to the Asperges? Have you thought of that? Many parents who have ... (read in full...)
Three days or three months, as soon as we have sex, they dump me!
Q. I'm always used for sex. I could be with a fella 3 days or a could be with a fella for 3 months but as soon as I have sex with them they say " its not working out ". This has happened me 5 times now!!! My last fella asked me out the day after we had ...
A. 18 March 2013: If a guy tells you he LUVS you after only a couple a week he wants to get in your pants. Because he might be infatuated with you, but love? No, after a couple of weeks he BARELY know you. Did you have sex with him because you thought he loved you? ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a man is just after sex or if he wants to start something with me
Q. What are the signs that a fella is only after sex as opposed to wanting to start something with you. At my age i should really know but iv a friend who has been after me for years and we are starting to get closer as weve been talking every si...
A. 17 March 2013: Talk to him.
Seems to me that if he really WANTS to date you he would have asked you out already?
Or HAS he already asked you out and you declined? If so, ASK him out. Do NOT ave sex for at least a good 4-6 months. DATE each other. Friends i... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend need to get a life? Or do I? Not sure I can continue to support my disabled Bf
Q. Well thanks for take the time to read this,, Ok, so I've been with this girl for over 2 years now, and I feel like I'm being held back,,, like I have to watch all opportunities pass by, I work Monday - Friday and occasional put in 2...
A. 17 March 2013: Seems to me that what you have is some odd mutual dependency relationship that is no longer bound by love.
1. If you can get overtime and YOU WANT/NEED the cash, I would just give her a call and say sorry, I'll be a couple of hours late, I am doi... (read in full...)
I know it's weird to have your tongue in someone's ear, but is it weird when you're making out with your gf?
Q. So this girl and I have been dating for about 4 months now. One day after spending the whole day together, we went back to her dorm. We were alone, so we talked for a bit and then started making out on her bed. I guess I just wanted to try ...
A. 17 March 2013: Nothing weird about it. Though I would keep my tongue OUT of her ear. She doesn't need fluids in the ear canal and you really don't need wax on your tongue (no matter how clean the ear canal is there is ALWAYS wax there and the WAX catches the dirt ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on my history teacher?
Q. I need help. I really have feelings for my history teacher. He gives me all the right signs showing that he likes me back but I don't know. I am 17 and in high school and he is 24. He smiles at me all the time and compliments me. I think of him all ...
A. 17 March 2013: You want him to lose his job? You want to be the laughing stock at school?
If you can say yes to both, then GO FOR IT!
If you have an ounce of brains you know dating your teacher is a no-no. He is NOT there at the school to date teens, OK? ... (read in full...)
Three days or three months, as soon as we have sex, they dump me!
Q. I'm always used for sex. I could be with a fella 3 days or a could be with a fella for 3 months but as soon as I have sex with them they say " its not working out ". This has happened me 5 times now!!! My last fella asked me out the day after we had ...
A. 17 March 2013: Are the guys the same kind of "type"? Do you meet them in the same kind of places?
I would like Cerberus said, ask your friends. See what they say.
And iAmHereToHelpYou is right no guy who JUST wants sex will wait 6 months for it. So that is s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sexualises women and makes dirty comments!
Q. My bf Of 4 years has a bad habbit of commenting when an attracive woman walks by us if we are out. He knows i dont like it but tells me he cant help it ( which i dont buy). He will make sounds, his draw may drop or goes "whoa" and even turn ar...
A. 17 March 2013: Have you ever just walked away without reacting? Letting him stand there and drool like the idiot he is?
I don't agree with Cerberus, that he does it because you have "let" him the last 4 years. BUT I do agree that he doesn't do it to hurt you... (read in full...)
I should marry him, yes? or marry him not?
Q. Should I marry my boyfriend? Reasons for I love him and know he loves me He is willing to take on my thirteen year old daughter He loves my family He cooks well, haha He loves my cooking He is warm and loving in his ways generally Reasons ...
A. 17 March 2013: I definitely think if you have any doubt (or you are asking random strangers if you should marry him)... The answer is pretty much no.
A ring on your finger, shared vows are not going to magically change him overnight into the guy you want him... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from making out with my guy friends' mates every time I see him with his girlfriend?
Q. basically i go to kinda a strict grammar school where nobody really does anything but everyone gossips like crazy and like two girls have had sex in the whole year and they got taunted horribly. anyway i kinda have this thing for my friend who has a ...
A. 16 March 2013: Stop drinking and stop putting yourself in the situations that makes you feel like THIS is what you should/want to do.
Being 16 and wanting to experiment, I get that. But you need to consider how your actions affects your life. Being horny is... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about my past?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it has been going great. I work in a different state but travel often to see her and will be seeing her in a month. In one of our recent conversations a topic i am not comfortable with ...
A. 16 March 2013: I would be honest with her and tell her you were somewhat of a man-whore while stationed in Korea.
Is there shame in it? Maybe a little but that is who you WERE not who you are.
My husband (26 years in the Army) was quite the man whore after ... (read in full...)
Negative responses about breast implants have me questioning what I should do about my body!
Q. I've asked this question before and had some good responses, but I just read another reply to another post and this involved the respondent saying that "as long as she doesn't have breast implants"...in relation to her partner finding another women ...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm with Cerberus. I'm not a fan of plastic surgery because 8 out of 10 people, who have it done don't really need it, they just THINK that is how they should look according to society/media.
Seems to me that your REASONS for wanting the implants... (read in full...)
Why does he get an iPad? It's not fair!
Q. Today I came home from school and found my little brother with a brand-new iPad. I am so freakin jealous of him! My parents said its only "because he needs a certain app for social skills." (he has aspergers so he needs help) I still don't ...
A. 26 September 2012: Honey, not to be rude.. but you sounds like a spoiled brat.
When you get older, get a part time job and BUY whatever YOU want.
Your parents have to feed you, clothes you and put a roof over your head, teach you right from wrong and hopefully ra... (read in full...)
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