I'm only 20 and not trying for a baby, will the doctors still test me to see if I'm infertile?
Q. I know you aren't doctors, but i'm really worried i'm infertile!! Since I was 13 I've always been weight conscious, so i've stupidly done a lot of dieting on and off and they haven't been healthy ones. But where I eat next to nothing for weeks, ...
A. 5 January 2013: The doctor will probably not test you if you aren't even trying for a baby now.
BUT you can get a ovulation kit and track your own ovulation and see how it is.
Besides who knows? Could be that you are fertile now but not in 5-10 years.
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I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: Only you can decide if this is going to work FOR YOU or not. I think he deceived you gravely though and that is pretty low.
Will he stay married beyond the Visa time? I don't know.
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I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 4 January 2013: STOP talking to him. Honestly HE doesn't matter. Neither does his opinion.
This is about YOU and what you want.
Did you talk to your GP first? If not I would suggest you talk to the GP or at the hospital about seeing a counselor, no ma... (read in full...)
How would you define the differences between FWB versus FB relationships?
Q. I'm curious about FWB and FB relationships. What exactly are they? I know what the terms stand for just need to know the differences. In a FWB relationship is there really friendship? In a FB relationship is it just do the deed and leave? ...
A. 4 January 2013: I agree wholeheartedly with SVC
*** For me FWB is a nice way of saying FB***
People don't seem to grasp that you do NOT FUCK your friends. So most people think that because they DO fuck a friend they have a great FWB situation, what they have is... (read in full...)
He's asked me to sign a Pre-nup! It made me Soooo Mad. Should I just sign the thing?
Q. So my boyfriend of 3 years is in the US Army and on Skype one night he told me to go to my front door. He had someone go write on my front porch step "will you marry me?" And the ring box sitting there with a vase of flowers. When I went ba...
A. 4 January 2013: I think if he (or you) have ANY assets a pre-nup is a sensible thing to do.
Like Auntie Bim-Bim said.. Take the papers to a lawyer have HIM look it over and go from there.
A pre-nup doesn't mean he thinks you will try and take his stuff and ru... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin but he broke it off due to "family talk". How can I get him back?
Q. I'm in love with my cousin. We were together first as best friends for years, we be came closer after he got divorced. I helped him get thru it and helped him become more confident. We started hanging out more and more as we were both lonely. O...
A. 4 January 2013: You can't get him back. Sorry. He made a choice to not want to make it a relationship. The "family talk" was just a convenient excuse or even a (for him) good excuse - however, he really should have considered that before sleeping with you.... (read in full...)
Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!
Q. Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour ...
A. 4 January 2013: Well if you went off like a crazy women maybe that was too much drama for him. However... He won't stop doing whatever he wants and act single - so why do you so desperately want to be with this guy?
Stop calling him, stop chasing him.... (read in full...)
My ex husband is constantly fighting my current partner!
Q. Im a mother of twin girls aged 6 from my ex husband. We divorced offically in August last year and he has a great relationship with the twins. We were 18 and 20 when i became pregnant and we married when the twins were aged 8 months. We were far too ...
A. 4 January 2013: I would sit your ex down and talk to him. Find some common rules that can make you both happy.
I think I would also have LEGALIZED visitation rights set up.
http://www.ed... (read in full...)
How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: I agree with SVC
Cheating is anything you don't want to share with your partner/hide from your partner/can't tell your partner.
You can cheat on your partner by having a emotional affair. That mean you share your feeling and feel love/loved ... (read in full...)
I had sex with a random guy to get over my ex and now I feel so ashamed....
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, first love, and the guy i lost my virginity to a few weeks ago and i still feel incrediblely heart broken. I went to a party and drunk loads to try and forget about it and ended up having sex with a random guy. I feel ...
A. 2 January 2013: Eh chalk it up to a learning experience.
You only slept with 1 guy - 1 time.. It doesn't make you a slut. So stop trying to label yourself and stop beating yourself up.
Learn from this. When you consume alcohol, sometimes common sense goe... (read in full...)
I believe it's just lunch. But why not tell his partner that he goes to lunch with women sometimes? Is it cheating?
Q. Ok, this is my question. If a man that you are in a serious relationship with does not tell you that he is having lunch dates with different women (strickly as friends) is that cheating? He always mentions his lunch dates with men, but for some ...
A. 2 January 2013: I don't think having lunch with friends of the opposite gender constitute as cheating - at all.
Now if these are RANDOM women - then I would find it odd. That fact that he doesn't tell you, I find odd too. Maybe because he is afraid of how you ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy sex with him! Is there a way to work through this?
Q. When my boyfriend and I got together, it had been 3 years since my last boyfriend, and even longer than that since I had last had sex. Since we started having sex, I just don't enjoy it, he can't make me orgasm unless there's tons of foreplay ...
A. 2 January 2013: So basically, he doesn't make your bell ring and he throws fits when you don't want to give him oral?
I DO think sex is about sharing and pleasing each other - but it's not about FORCING someone to do things they do not enjoy, that is just too... (read in full...)
Are his reasons for keeping it casual and unofficial valid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over 6 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the end of November when he broke up with me. He said he wanted to break up because he's too stressed because he got fired from his job and he needed t...
A. 2 January 2013: Sorry honey, you are a convenient place for him to park his dick and get some sex without having to work for it.
You tried the ultimatum, and he TURNED you down. HE DOESN'T want to be in a relationship, but he likes to have someone to have sex... (read in full...)
He watches porn, there's talk of threesomes and dominance. What's wrong with this relationship?
Q. So my bf is always stating that I want threesome and I tell him I don't and I never wanted it when it was offered. But he refuses to believe me or pulls some other guy outta the air and says I want it with him. It's so hurtful n annoys annoying, I ...
A. 2 January 2013: He is trying to manipulate you into giving in to his "demands" - that isn't LOVE, honey.
Sex might not have the same meaning for him as it does for you. Which means you two might not be sexually compatible, and then what do you have?
Exactly... (read in full...)
I feel destroyed, stupid and confused over someone I used to be friends with.
Q. I really need help dealing with an old friend. I feel destroyed, stupid and confused over someone I used to be friends with. For the past two and a half years since I last saw and spoke to him, I constantly think about him and stalk his Facebook. ...
A. 2 January 2013: I think reality set in. You have spend the last 2 1/2 year creating a fantasy relationship with this guy. It's called a crush. It happens and it can be rather devastating when it's unrequited.
Block him, unfriend him, do whatever you need to do to... (read in full...)
My BF has been messaging another girl for 2 months. What should I do?
Q. So I'm on here because I don't quite know what to do. I just found out yesterday on New Year's Day that my boyfriend has been messaging some girl, trying to get into her knickers for the past 2 months. The girl in question sent me the proof. I'm n...
A. 2 January 2013: Sorry, just saw your update..
He feels bad because he got found out. He got caught.... (read in full...)
We had a secret kind of relationship. Should I wait for him to come to his senses?
Q. So, I began hooking up with my guy friend not too long ago. It was a secret kind of relationship because it wouldn't have been accepted by one of our friends who is in love with the guy I was hooking up with. Our hooking up didn't just start up out ...
A. 2 January 2013: He used you for some fun hook-ups. Nothing more. YOU thought you had a relationship, apparently you didn't.
This is what happens when you hook up before the "rules" are clearly stated. IF you want to DATE a guy, you should be upfront about no... (read in full...)
Is having a threesome a good idea to spice up our sex life?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm 23 year old turning 24 in 2 months..I'm married to this gorgeous man I love and everything is going great,but we always need something to spice up our sex life.rather I need something to spice up our sex life..so I decided to sugge...
A. 2 January 2013: Adding more people to the bed will not (long term) help your self life. If you want to spice it up I would look into other options and avenues to discover together.
Adding more people = adding drama.
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My BF has been messaging another girl for 2 months. What should I do?
Q. So I'm on here because I don't quite know what to do. I just found out yesterday on New Year's Day that my boyfriend has been messaging some girl, trying to get into her knickers for the past 2 months. The girl in question sent me the proof. I'm n...
A. 2 January 2013: I agree dump him. You can do a lot better that him.
If he has spend the last 2 months trying to get with her, do you really think he has genuine feelings for you? He is just using you til he find someone else.
If you take him back, how long d... (read in full...)
I am attractive to men so why don't they ever approach me?
Q. Please don't take this in a wrong way and call me conceited and superficial,I'm putting the problem as it is.. I am 23 year old woman, and by god's grace I have the charm, personality, the beauty.. I can walk into a room and have men look at me, ...
A. 2 January 2013: Why din't YOU try and approach someone YOU are interested in? For whatever reason you might come off as not interested so they stay back, that leaves you with one option.. approach someone yourself.... (read in full...)
Does my BF have to wear a condom? I'm on the pill, and neither of us has STIs.
Q. So i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we've talked about having sex when I stay at his at end of this month. Thing is, he doesnt want to use a condom. He has been checked and has no std's and neither do I. I'm also on the pill. Is it ok ...
A. 2 January 2013: Better safe then sorry. It doesn't really that THAT much for the pill to be ineffective.
Some medication, such as antibiotic can render it useless and then you would have to wait a WHOLE month to be perfectly sure again, any kind of throwing... (read in full...)
My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone!
Q. My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone.I've blocked his numbers on my phone as he was ringing 30 times a day, and he's been blocked on facebook for ages but always keeps asking to be unblocked. He let himself into my flat ...
A. 2 January 2013: Contact the police, change your locks?
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Why can't my ex accept that we're not going to be together anymore?
Q. This guy that I have been knowing for many many many years, we use to see each other. He was a great person when I first met him then when we started going out he took me on ride that I wished I had never got on. This beast was nothing but a woman ...
A. 1 January 2013: Just keep the phone calls/text to the topic of your kids, nothing more. I think maybe he is trying to either give you your space or make you WANT to chase him. It's hard to say.
If he doesn't WANT to talk to you, you can't really make him. Kid... (read in full...)
BF loves to cuddle and I can't sleep! Is it because I'm too warm, or because he's in my space too much?
Q. Hi there... basically I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now really very happy together got a real good honest relationship. I have an issue he is really cuddly, I on the other hand am not so much. I do enjoy a hug now and again bu...
A. 1 January 2013: I'm the same way.
Just tell him you will cuddle for a while, but you need some breathing room for sleeping. Let him know you just feel overheated and that it's not him at all.
I move around a lot when I sleep - hubby don't - so when he tries... (read in full...)
When a guy writes "xxxx" to you, does it mean he likes you?
Q. Well, there's this guy I like. I have known him for awhile. We hugged and stuff but just recently he has been talkin to me more than usual. After talking with him he put after his text, xxxx. Now I know xoxo means Hugh's and kisses but could xxxx ...
A. 1 January 2013: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou - don't over analyze a text. I know people who doesn't KNOW what XOXO or XXX means they still use it because they have seen others do so.
Could just be a habit of his.
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Had an amazing date with my friend but now haven't heard from him for a week. Was he making excuses when he cancelled another date? We are both in relationships with other people.
Q. Hi I have this friend L, we to talk to each other/hang out with friends etc. Nothing ever happened as he has a gf and I have a bf and he was moving to another country. However, we were both unhappy with our relationships and we do talk to each oth...
A. 1 January 2013: If you are unhappy in your current relationship, don't you think you should focus on either making it work or ending it, instead of starting a NEW relationship up?
I'm guess you haven't heard from him because he isn't so unhappy in HIS relation... (read in full...)
My friend stuck her used vibrator in my boyfriend's face
Q. So recently ive found myself in a strange situation and its one i never thought i would expect to deal with in a relationship and i truly hope no woman ever has to deal with this. I know your all thinking you boyfriend cheated on you. Wrong. So it ...
A. 1 January 2013: That is disgusting. Just ewww.
Honestly, I would the "friend" and let her have it and then I would tell her I can't be friends with her no longer. Alcohol or not that was stepping WAY beyond what is OK.
Secondly, I would go a little easy on y... (read in full...)
Could I catch something from being fingered, what should I do?
Q. last night i got fingered for the first time, i didnt really care about it at the time. but now it kind of hurts and im worried that his fingers were dirty or something. would i catch something and what should i do?...
A. 1 January 2013: Could be he scratch you with his nail/nails if he were a bit rough, lots of germs live very well under fingernails.
But.. with that said don't freak out that you now have some or other STD/STI - just in the future DO NOT agree to somethin... (read in full...)
Was his flirting a trick? Is he actually trying to get me out of a job?
Q. I have been in this job over two months, this colleague is now more of a friend to me he is a senior. He is always helpful and we do get along but I am worried what his agenda is now. We do have a flirty relationship but professional one too. ...
A. 1 January 2013: Stop flirting on the company email. Those should be about work and professional. That way YOU can not get in hot water.
Personally if you aren't sure of his intentions, STOP flirting with him all together.
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Please share your thoughts on my situation with sex with my husband.
Q. My husband says that he mentally tries to delay his own orgasm and I wish he wouldn't because my body can't take it. Pleasuring him goes on so long that I dread sex. Rather than delaying his orgasm LESS he gives me suggestions on how I could last ...
A. 1 January 2013: Seems to me that he "thinks" sex is all about what HE wants. Honestly, have you told him this is killing your libido?
You are going to end up not wanting or enjoying sex.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Having some "long" sess... (read in full...)
Did I ruin our LDR because I asked her not to be online with others while talking to me?
Q. hey frnds my gf and i we live about 4 hrs of drive away from each other and meet around like 2 times a month and our dates are usually enjoyable.. shes 23 and am 22.. she used to work before but not at the moment i.e. stays home all the time and am ...
A. 30 December 2012: I think it was rather logical and rational for you to ask that and for her to comply. However, I think she has been holding the more power in the relationship for a long time.
You need to let her go. She seems to be happy with having this relation... (read in full...)
My Coworker says he's a "relationship kind of guy" but I think he's rushing things. Does he want more a FWB than a relationship?
Q. I have got involved in a coworker. We have been sexting and sending each other pics... I was really against this but he eventually twisted my arm. Thing is, hes only just recently broken up with his gf and says he wasn't bothered about the breaku...
A. 30 December 2012: Rule number one that ALL girls need to know...
STICK to your guns and NO means no! IF you realllllly don't want to send naked or "sexy" pictures. no one should EVER "twist your arm" and make you do it.
DO NOT put yourself in a position where y... (read in full...)
A drunken text has me worried that others will find out about it
Q. Dear Cupid, I got drunk and messaged this popular kid in my school I. Didn't say anrhing stupid only that I was drunk and he said bye. But then I stared to text my friend who had a thing with him and she was like what's going on since I was drunk ...
A. 30 December 2012: Eh forget about it.
BUT LEARN from this.... DO NO TEXT DRUNK! It's not cute or charming.. it's usually just embarrassing.... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my younger girlfriend?
Q. Hi I've been seeing a much younger girl now for around six months. I should have listened to everyone who said "just have fun, don't get serious, it will never work"...well now we've done the Christmas thing, her presents to me were ridiculous,...
A. 30 December 2012: Give her the coffeemaker back, if that makes you feel better and tell her that you have come to realize that the two of you don't share enough common ground, then wish her well and end it. That means NO contact after. No booty calls, not drunk ... (read in full...)
How can I get this girl who fancies my boyfriend to back off? She's stirring between us!
Q. Hey guys what should I do about this girl... Me and my bf have been together for 6 months now and we are becoming serious but there's this girl who fancies my bf, but my bf likes as a mate but said he would never date her. She isn't very attra...
A. 30 December 2012: You BF knows you two don't get along, but he really doesn't seem to care - does he?
I don't think YOU trying to "dictate" who your BF can be "mates" with and who he can, is a good idea.
Have you asked him why he didn't do/say anything when sh... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: All you can do is figure out what YOU want. You know how he feels and I don't think he will change his mind once the child is there.
Are YOU ready to become a single mom ?... (read in full...)
He says he knows nothing of the texts he received. Subsequently he took longer to climax. Are all these indications that he may be cheating?
Q. if a man takes longer that usual to climax, does that mean he might have had intercourse recently? I confronted him about a female (and about some texts from her). This confrontation took place three days after the texts were sent. He tried to pus...
A. 30 December 2012: I doubt it means 100% that he slept with someone, more like he feel guilty over something, most likely LYING to your face.
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I think my boyfriend only wants material things from me
Q. I've been w my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I made the mistake in spoiling him and now I feel like the only thing he wants from me is material things. We haven't been intimate in over a year and I'm lucky enough to see him once a month. I love ...
A. 30 December 2012: How do you have such a relationship? I mean how do you tolerate it? What do YOU get out of it?
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Seeking advice as considering getting an IUD. Can you explain any issues to consider? Side affects?
Q. I am a 22 year old female considering getting an IUD implanted. I have had one sex partner, and we are exclusive. I am wondering, if this things are so good...why does not everyone get one? I want to get one, but I am quite tight down there...
A. 30 December 2012: Talk to your doctor, honestly.
Yes, most UID's are non-hormonal so more "natural".... (read in full...)
Why does this guy block me after he acts like he likes me?
Q. Why does this guy keep blocking me even after we made up? He is a guy I am very interested in and wanted to befriend with. Last year, he invited me to be his friend on facebook, which I immediately accepted. After a few months, we tried to flirt ...
A. 30 December 2012: Stop stalking him on Facebook and in real life. That is just creepy.
If he was interested don;t you think he would pursue you?
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LDR: Attention seeker? Hypochondriac? Or really sick? Cheated in the past. Am I wasting my time with her?
Q. I've been dating this girl for a while now. Today makes it 5 months. She's in a different country from me, so there's the first problem of distance. However, we try to overcome it. First of all, I found out she had sex with a friend of mine, ...
A. 29 December 2012: I think you just realized she is a real human being not some fantasy.
If she doesn't live up to your standard then end it.
I agree with SVC too, you are nitpicking to find faults with her and most of the things you bring up are rather ridiculou... (read in full...)
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