Is my body not compatible with the IUD?
Q. I realise this isnt entirely a relationship question but i do genuinly need some help on this one.... i had an IUD fitted about 2/3 months ago and since then my periods have been eratic. I have bleed for 9/10 days the past 2 months, had head...
A. 11 January 2013: I agree, go see your doctor. Obviously this may NOT be the birth control for you.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents my boyfriend is older?
Q. My boyfriend is a few years older then me and i don't know if i should tell my parents about him because they might not let me see him anymore, what do i do?...
A. 10 January 2013: Yes. Like Garcia said, your parents ARE your safety net. You shouldn't lie or withhold this from your parents.
And can you specify your ages? His and yours?... (read in full...)
My 50 year old male friend is Facebook friends with girls as young as 17. Is this a Red Flag?
Q. I have a friend who friends a lot of young girls all around the world from 17 to 28, on his Facebook. He is almost 50. I don't think this is appropriate. He does have some older women but they are family members and co workers. Do you think he...
A. 10 January 2013: I guess I feel very differently about this.
I didn't know that people take FACEBOOK this serious that they feel a need to police WHO, friends or male acquaintance talk to on FACEBOOK.
He likes to talk to young women. It makes him feel old and... (read in full...)
Am I overstepping my bounds with my friend? He has a GF and I'm struggling to understand his actions.
Q. I just want to make sure I'm not over stepping my bounds here, and I need a little help interpreting someones actions, as I'm afraid my interpretations may be a little off. I have been hanging out with one of my friends a lot more now. He's funny,...
A. 10 January 2013: Yes, you are overstepping your bounds. You treat the time with him as "dates" and look for "scraps" of affection. That is not friendship - that is you pining for him ans hoping that if you spend enough time with him he will realize what a great girl ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to dislike the fact that my B/f' 5 year old son crawls into bed with us every morning, then fidgets, talks, crawls all over us?
Q. A brief question to all you helpful people... I'm in a great new(er) relationship that is fairly serious, and I have just moved in with my boyfriend, although I've been unofficially living with him for three months. My lease just expired, my thin...
A. 10 January 2013: I'm sorry, I think you are being absolutely unreasonable and petty.
He is your BF's son, not some decoration you can play house with when it suits you.
And if you didn't know by now, KIDS get up earlier then most adult, he is 5! He still need... (read in full...)
Guy trying to steal my girl becoming a nuisance
Q. hi ladies and gents, i need a little help with my gfs/fiances problem friend. before i came onto the scene, they where dating and she gave him a little tail once in a while (from what i gather). but they never became bf/gf because he was too ...
A. 10 January 2013: *giggles at Cindy's answer*
I agree wholeheartedly with her advice. I'm sorry your GF is keeping him around, NOT because he is a DEAR friend, but because he is stoking her ego and she is enjoying the FIRE out of it. And I'm sorry to say she kind... (read in full...)
How do I cope? He's going on and I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach
Q. Soooo me and this guy were seeing eachother for 4 months. The relationship was so rocky it wasn't funny! Every (bleeping) week he would find some excuse of why he couldn't be with me. Then when i tried to leave he would come back and say "baby i ...
A. 10 January 2013: You were dating an emotional yo-yo who used you while chatting up another girl, when he got to the point where she "might" want to date him he dropped you.
Learn from this, if a guy keep saying he can't date you for XYZ reasons, walk away. Yo... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a coworker who is stealing?
Q. Hi! This isnt actually a " relationship " question, but I really need some help in regards to a boy I work with. Im 23 and work part time as a waitress. Anyways Im having some issues with him. Hes been stealing tips, my boss knows and says to keep ...
A. 10 January 2013: Have you thought about looking for a job in a place with a better work environment? I'm know it's not easy to "just" get a new job, but it seems like your boss is NOT doing his job.
Have you talked to the kid? Told him that when he steals he takes... (read in full...)
I'm married and received anal sex from a tranny. Am I gay?
Q. I am what I consider to be a straight man. 36 yo. I was molested by a man when I was 6. it went on for about a year. When I was 30 I let a tranny give me a bj outside of a bar. She wanted to take me home and perform anal sex on me. I didn't but it ...
A. 10 January 2013: I think it's hard to say you are THIS or THAT! with 100% certainty.
With you having been molested as a child lines can be very blurry. And I would think you could benefit from some counseling to work through that.
The fact that you are being th... (read in full...)
Why is this confident man so submissive towards his wife???
Q. Is it normal for a high-profile man who manages people with a high level of confidence to be completely subdued by his wife and her rude remarks and nagging without him ever complaining? I have noticed this about a couple I know and can't figure out ...
A. 10 January 2013: How do you know what the marriage/relationship is like when they are alone?
And why does it matter to you?
However, here are my thoughts:
I do think there are men who run big companies who secretly (or not so secretly) likes to be su... (read in full...)
My ex won't get rid of his new gf that hates us still being friends.
Q. My ex and I split up over a year ago, but continued to spend time together as if we were still together. Then in August I moved back home from college and he stayed there. We both cried as I had to leave not know when we would see each other again ...
A. 10 January 2013: IF he is dating someone new, there isn't ANY change that he will get back with you, he is just stringing you along while having a GF.
You need to seriously rethink this.
1. How would you feel if YOU were the GF in this situation? With ... (read in full...)
I am in love with this girl but she hates me now.
Q. I am in love with this girl but she hates me now. You see, I took advantage of the feelings she had for me and made her do something she never wanted to do. I didn't mean to. She means the world to me and I love her and she loved me too. Now she ...
A. 10 January 2013: What do you do?
You realize that taking advantage of another human being has consequences, treating others in a matter you would not want to be treated yourself.
YOU learn from this.
Obviously she DIDN'T mean the world to you or you woul... (read in full...)
Does being "up front" about wanting a FWB relationship means you are now a "decent" human being?
Q. Why is it that men (and women) think that just because, they are being "honest" about wanting a FWB type of relationship in the beginning, that they are somehow a "decent" and upstanding human being? For instance, if someone who was going to rob...
A. 9 January 2013: I agree with YOS.
I seriously hate the term FWB, because it's so bloody bogus. People should just be honest and use the term FUCK buddies - because in 99% of the cases THIS is what's going on, there is no FRIENDSHIP - because you know what? Fr... (read in full...)
A needy, clingy woman got my man. How come this happened?
Q. I am so through with relationships and men. I am an independent woman, smart, beautiful and keeps myself busy never clingy. Met a good guy and helped him, even when he didn't have a job and no money, but now he's run off with a clingy girl. What ...
A. 9 January 2013: Some men may SAY they don't like clingy needy woman, but some men truly likes feeling NEEDED and chased after. But in the long run, it's more about him liking a woman who will stand on her tongue to please him... THAT isn't you. THAT is her.
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is chatting with a co-worker and has pet name for him. Am I right to be concerned?
Q. Recently discovered my long time girlfriend has been heavily chatting with a distant (2 hrs away) coworker. She's been very secretive about the whole connection but somehow her texts got onto my iPad. In one exchange this guy (who is married) asked ...
A. 9 January 2013: I'm so sorry she can't even accept her own culpability, but tried to turn it on you. This really ISN'T about you ( her chatting up a co-worker) it's about HER. Her not respecting the relationship, her not accepting that there ARE limits to what is ... (read in full...)
My Bf talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid I feel that my bf of 3 years talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me, other times he never calls, ignores me and bullies me. I have already given him a lot of money for this student loan. I don't have any proof for this ...
A. 9 January 2013: 1. Stop giving him money.
2. Sit him down and make a payment plan for him to pay you back. If he refuses. End it and well, then that is YOUR loss.
3. End it - what exactly are you getting out of that relationship?... (read in full...)
I hoped splitting up with my husband would result in Bf wanting to be closer. So why is he now hesitant about us getting closer?
Q. Hello People I am married unhappily, and have been seeing this younger guy for 3 years, i am 51, he is 45. We see each other once ot twice weekly, at the beginning he said it was like a FWB relationship, as time has passed, i have got a lot close...
A. 9 January 2013: Maybe he liked the idea of "dating" a married lady - it means less responsibilities for him, less commitment (obviously) and less work. Now that you have dropped the husband, he feels pressured to "step up" and I don't think he wants too.
After... (read in full...)
Housework and chore trouble with my boyfriend, do I move out?
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived for a few years now and the housework situation is getting out of control. He grew up with maids and is totally incompetent. Which would be OK I guess, but he won't listen to me or try to learn. I'll try to explain to ...
A. 9 January 2013: Sounds like you are dating a 5 year old, seriously!
My KIDS (8-10-12) carry in the groceries and put them away, it's their chore. The sort their laundry, they empty/fill the dishwasher, feed the pets/clean litter-boxes, take out trash. Granted ... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex but I'm not sure its a good thing
Q. Has too much happened to try again? I've been in realationship with now ex bf for 5 months. He really swept me off my feet, we have fun and are into the same things. The relationship has been full on virtually from the beginning. I'm a lone paren...
A. 9 January 2013: You really NEED to put your child first.
1. he is NOT a good role model (and what you are around this guy, NEITHER are you)
2. He is abusive towards your and was violent when drunk. How can that in any way shape or form be OK with you?
3. ... (read in full...)
When we have a fight no matter whose fault it is, b/f switches off his cell phone till I beg for forgiveness on facebook. I can't take this!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years always switches off his mobile when we fight and make me suffer until I send him sorry msg to his Facebook account even when he started the fight and even when he's wrong He did it now too. I can't go thru this suffer...
A. 9 January 2013: Wow, honey why are you so desperate to keep this guy around? He can't even handle a "fight" without resorting to putting you on ignore and you at the disadvantage.
Seriously, dump the BABY.... (read in full...)
He cheated, said it was over so why is her number still in his phone? And other women's too?
Q. My guy and I had been together off and on for 4 years over the phone and finally got together last year and he moved in with me. One day he asked me to marry him and of course I said yes and things were going great then about 5 months ago he cheated ...
A. 9 January 2013: Have you asked him?
And what should you do? Well, personally I would sit him down and have a long chat abut what you think is OK in a relationship and a marriage (since you two are engaged) and what is NOT OK in your book. And I would also sug... (read in full...)
My husband is set on naming our baby after a child his mother miscarried years ago and I know I will regret chosing this name....what should I do?
Q. I am officially 3 months pregnant!! I have been thinking of names... The only problem is that my husband is set on the name Zoe, which i love, but i know he wants that name because his mother had picked that name for her baby that she miscarried a ...
A. 8 January 2013: Congratulation on your new baby :) ... (read in full...)
I fell for her, and only talked to her to try and get her number. Then I find out she has a boyfriend, so should I try and be friends with her?
Q. We don't know each other well or at all. We have had small talks but that's just it. I fell for her looks. I have asked if I could contact her but she said she has a boyfriend. We won't be seeing each other anymore and I don't know if I should try ...
A. 8 January 2013: No, she has a BF, so trying to be friends is not a great idea, specially since you don't have "friends" kind of feelings for her.
... (read in full...)
She lost interest in me because I let her pay for her part of the meal on our first date!
Q. I had a situation with a woman I really liked, and need you opinion on this. I 've met this girl in a building that I work at. She works for a different company, and I saw her several times at lunch before we started talking. We just talked for ...
A. 8 January 2013: I have NEVER been asked on a date and paid for my meal. Now if I asked someone out, it would be my treat.
From a woman standpoint (and one with old-fashioned views at that) If a GUY ask a woman out on a date, he picks the restaurant and he pays.... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 7 January 2013: I agree with Daisy's last post... if you are 13-15.. DO NOT have sex with this guy. ... (read in full...)
Why isn't this a relationship for him? I'm not a cheap bit on the side!
Q. hi cupids, need a little help. my OH and i have been together for a few months and im having concerns already. hes a nice guy but i feel like hes hiding me from his life a bit. we both have kids and have met eachothers kids but were not in a ...
A. 7 January 2013: I would sit him down when you are BOTH kid-free and tell him how you feel and what you need, then the ball with be in his court and he can either man up or end it.
One thing though.. if this relationship is "only" a FEW ( assume 2-4) months o... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 7 January 2013: I agree 100% with SVC, you shouldn't be talking to HER about this, but your BF - however, he doesn't really care how it makes you feel.
I have had MANY male friends over the years, but once they had a serious GF or I had a serious BF there we... (read in full...)
BF asked me to tell his teenage daughter that she was dressed inappropriately but I don't feel it's my place! Thoughts?
Q. Hey everyone , I'm 25 my boyfriend is 37 and he has a 14 year old daughter. His childs mother lives in another state and his parents and himself raises her. His mom had a party for New Years and I went, I was extremely surprised when I saw his daug...
A. 7 January 2013: Where was the New Years Eve party at? Was she supervised? (as in was there adults around or not)
Does she dress like this everyday? Or was it just for the party?
If it was just for the party I see no harm, no foul. If she dresses up in provocati... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 7 January 2013: That is seriously messed up kind of friendship. Who the heck "goes after" a FRIENDS BF and has sex with him?
WHY did you have sex with him? Did you KNOW he was HER bf?
And should you tell her? What for? To make yourself look like you "won" s... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 7 January 2013: He doesn't want to date you. He doesn't want YOU to be his next GF - at least not at the moment.
IF you keep having sex with him, you will NOT change his mind on it.
He is either not up to dating anyone, or maybe just not you.
I would ... (read in full...)
Dream trip with my boyfriend ended badly. He wants to move back to his hometown and I can never see myself living there!
Q. Dear all, Hoping for some advice. I've been with my partner for two years. We met in London, my home town, and live there together. I'm 35 and he's 33. This Christmas, we planned what was supposed to be a 'holiday of a lifetime' to Mexico City...
A. 7 January 2013: I moved to the US to be with my husband, and not a day goes by where I don't miss Europe - I would honestly settle for ANY European country over the US, but for now, this is where my family is, so this is where I am.
I think what you experien... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is chatting with a co-worker and has pet name for him. Am I right to be concerned?
Q. Recently discovered my long time girlfriend has been heavily chatting with a distant (2 hrs away) coworker. She's been very secretive about the whole connection but somehow her texts got onto my iPad. In one exchange this guy (who is married) asked ...
A. 7 January 2013: Um yes - you should be worried, if the subject of their discussions is about sexual matters it's not a totally platonic relationship. You (or at least IMHO) most people don't ask people they barely know if they want to be part of a 3-some.
I wou... (read in full...)
Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?
Q. Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there so...
A. 7 January 2013: I suggest you go get checked for STD's - you might have gotten REAL lucky in avoiding a pregnancy there, but don't forget some STD can render you infertile too.
And unprotected sex? It's always a dumb thing if you aren't looking to get pregnant... (read in full...)
Are public displays of affection at work OK or not? In disagreement with my BF over this.
Q. Hello! Hope you can help with some advice on this small issue. How much physical contact is OK/to be expected from your partner when at work? We work in different departments and when we met up for lunch he wanted to walk with his arm arou...
A. 6 January 2013: We live on a military installation and PDA is not allowed ( thought people do tend to disregard it in little ways, such as holding hands/hugging)
I think it's come across as unprofessional to be overtly "lovey-dovey" at work. What is the NEED to ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his past with prostitutes he never mentioned until we were together? I'm so depressed.
Q. Oh my god, it hurts SO bad. When I met my bf he told me he was like me and could count his sexual partners on his fingers. That he waited for sex and was really old fashion. Never had a 1 night stand. We slept in the same bed and he didn't even ...
A. 6 January 2013: Many single and unfortunately some married US soldiers have had sex with prostitutes while stationed in Korea. It's not something totally crazy to hear. Trust me I've been an Army wife for 16 years.
However, here are a couple of the points y... (read in full...)
Seventeen year gap in communication with an ex... is it too late to try again?
Q. Hello All, I am back again, so I am 41 years old, apparently for my age I am in good shape and do't look my age. But my issue is this, I am longing to settle down and be married but living in London and seeing Societies Women generally either...
A. 6 January 2013: I think in those 17 years you have grown in your career, but SHE has grown in her own life, she is NO LONGER the girl you dumped those 17 years ago. SHE is a whole other person. Are you? You don't sound it, you still sound like the world revolves ... (read in full...)
Is this as sign that my husband is having an affair?
Q. My husband had a strand of hair wrapped around his penis. It wasn't mine. He says that our daughters hair that gets everywhere including our brushes in our room, has got caught in his clothes and worked its way down there. And that this is a common ...
A. 6 January 2013: IS this the only thing that gives you the idea he is cheating or is there more to his behavior? You said there are no other indicators, but you MUST have some reason to go straight to cheating when you see an unfamiliar hair there.
Judgi... (read in full...)
I was expecting him to visit 2 days ago and haven't heard a word! I don't know what it means or what to do?
Q. Really confused by this guy's actions. We met on a dating site about a month ago. Really seemed like we hit it off. We started talking every day and we went on a several dates. We went out to dinner and I met his parents. He wanted me to hang ...
A. 6 January 2013: Have you tried calling him?
And I have no idea, I think in this instance I would assume something has come up, but for him to not let you know sounds odd.
Could he have lost his phone?... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: The reason she isn't giving up on her dating sites and STILL wants you to take her back is simple. She wants YOU to just suck it up and accept that she does this.
I don't think she at all cares how this might make you feel. All she cares about is... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 5 January 2013: I would not be moving in with him. This is HIS child and fully HIS responsibility. I have to say it's a little convenient that he asks you to move in and then springs his daughter coming too.
He and the mother needs to figure out how to make thi... (read in full...)
I'm only 20 and not trying for a baby, will the doctors still test me to see if I'm infertile?
Q. I know you aren't doctors, but i'm really worried i'm infertile!! Since I was 13 I've always been weight conscious, so i've stupidly done a lot of dieting on and off and they haven't been healthy ones. But where I eat next to nothing for weeks, ...
A. 5 January 2013: The doctor will probably not test you if you aren't even trying for a baby now.
BUT you can get a ovulation kit and track your own ovulation and see how it is.
Besides who knows? Could be that you are fertile now but not in 5-10 years.
... (read in full...)
My husband is set on naming our baby after a child his mother miscarried years ago and I know I will regret chosing this name....what should I do?
Q. I am officially 3 months pregnant!! I have been thinking of names... The only problem is that my husband is set on the name Zoe, which i love, but i know he wants that name because his mother had picked that name for her baby that she miscarried a ...
A. 10 January 2012: Either use it as her middle name if you have a girl, and YOU pick her first name.
Or you tell your husband, I'm not sure about Zoe, nothing about naming a baby is usually set in stones. My middle girl was an Elizabeth til the week before she was ... (read in full...)
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