Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 6 April 2013: If you don't want to FEEL stupid then don't BE stupid.
I'm sorry he got hurt and his sister too, but they are NOT your responsibility.
He borrowed the CD not because he wanted to listen to music but to have an EXCUSE to come back or to talk ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this anger and resentment towards my ex?
Q. Just a brief picture of what happened: I dumped my ex of nearly 3 years in the New Year after finding out he'd cheated multiple times/ had a drug problem/ was a compulsive liar etc. I'd wanted out for ages as (as bad as it sounds) we just weren't on ...
A. 1 April 2013: Could it be that you are more mad at yourself then the ex? For not knowing (and how could you?) all his failings?
I don't blame you for feeling angry at him, he betrayed you, but if you look at it this way, the longer you hold on to the anger, t... (read in full...)
This pregnancy is making me miserable! Am I normal?
Q. Hi. I am currently 41weeeks preganant and completely MISRABLE. I cry every single day, i am in pain, fat, i can barely walk or even stand up, tired, bored, uncomfy, the list is endless! It's got to the point now where i just want to get back to ...
A. 1 April 2013: 41 weeks! Poor you! Yes, it's pretty "normal" to want it OVER and DONE with around week 35, and you have lasted another 6 weeks! So no wonder.
Have you talked to your doctor about getting induced? 41 week usually means a big baby. The longer (... (read in full...)
Let this April Fools joke slide? Or break up with him?
Q. Boyfriend pretended to break up with me as an April Fool's joke? Well, apparently, he said it was an April Fool's joke. Should i leave him?. I think that's a cruel joke....
A. 1 April 2013: That is kind of sick. Is his sense of humor always THAT immature?
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My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 1 April 2013: Block HIS number or get yourself a new number.... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend has double standards!
Q. Today was Easter and my boyfriend left me alone. Though I am not religious at all, it's a holiday and we had agree to at least see each other (actually, he even got a bit sad when I said I'd spend the day with my family, instead of with him). He i...
A. 1 April 2013: I don't think he is HEARING you at all. And I don't think he will change. I would try and be less available and see if he initiates more, if not, well, maybe he isn't that into the relationship after all.
If you have certain expectations (such as... (read in full...)
I want to know how to ask my boyfriend to be STD tested!
Q. has anyone ever asked their fiance/significant other to get as STD test? how did you manage to do that? Everytime I want to bring it up, it feels so weird so I don't. However I'm a virgin, and he is not by a long shot, and we were talking about how ...
A. 1 April 2013: No, being tested 4 years ago doesn't mean "dick" if he has slept with others afterwards. Did he have unprotected sex?
In my opinion everyone should get tested BEFORE sleeping together TWICE (if they have had any kind of risky sex/unpr... (read in full...)
I've just found out he has a baby son! He never told me!
Q. I have been seeing a guy casually for nearly a year and a half now. I am developing strong feelings for him but now I have just found out that prior to meeting me he got a girl pregnant and had a baby son. I found out from one of his friends not him ...
A. 1 April 2013: I would just be honest and tell him that you heard he has a son and you are wondering why he didn't tell you sooner.
After a year and a half he should trust you enough to tell you and honestly, IMHO he should have told you in the beginnin... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to allow my boyfriend to sleep with other girls while I'm away at College?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm eighteen years old and about to go to college. The problem is that my boyfriend doesn't want me to go, because he hasn't finished high school yet. I think it will take him three years to finish, and I don't want to go to a communit...
A. 1 April 2013: I think it's a dumb idea, if the two of you don't think you can do a LDR and stay faithful, then break up now. Who knows maybe in the future you will met up again.... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him to leave my house and be civil for our son or should I try work on things?
Q. I'm mortified my partner has gone away for a weekend with a mate we have chatted every day like normal and made plans to go on a mini break together Except tonight he sent me a message asking me if we are meant to be together I asked him why he...
A. 1 April 2013: I'm wondering why you are putting up with all his antics. Just because he fathered your child doesn't mean you HAVE to take all that crap from him.
And PLEASE do NOT add a second baby right now, this relationship is far from stable, why add anot... (read in full...)
I wasn't a rebound but how do I move on, he's gone back to his ex after 3 years!
Q. Me and my ex was together for three years then out if the blue last November he finished with me I know he was depressed because his ex before me left him in twelve grand of debt and when he finished with her she wouldn't pay half and didn't have a ...
A. 1 April 2013: If he choose that ex over you, then honestly good riddance to him.
I just hope that all that money you two saved up together isn't going to the two of them.
He obviously wasn't as over her as he claimed and I can imagine that hurt a lot. I wo... (read in full...)
We need a good cover story for how we met in a coffee shop, help, please!
Q. Hi, Basically me and my gf have been going out now for 3 years and we are going to get married. But first we have to tell our parents. Our parents have indian cultures. Hence we haven't told them before, because gf and bf is frowned upon. However ...
A. 1 April 2013: Don't start of your official life together with a lie. I can't see how meeting in a coffee-shop is more "acceptable" then a dating site.
Sorry, I don't write fiction.
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I want children and what if my almost 39 year old girlfriend can't have them?
Q. I m a 40 years old man. I never had a chance to find someone who I wanted to share mylife with and have children with until a year ago. I had girlfriends but never anyone who I could marry. I m also an only child, as my mother had me in her lat...
A. 29 March 2013: One year is NOT going to make a big difference.
Wanting to get married and enjoy being husband and wife a little before starting to have kids is SMART and SENSIBLE.
My maternal grandmother had 4 kids at 28, 30 and twins at 40, all normal.
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I want a FWB relationship that is exclusive with him
Q. I have a friends with 'some' benefits type of relationship going with a very hot n sexy guy. He's the hottest guy I've ever laid eyes on, and he makes me wanna just be free and not hold back in any way, or I might regret it. However, becau...
A. 29 March 2013: I agree with SVC.
I don't think yo understand the concept of FWB. It's NOT about exclusivity. It's about NSA SEX with someone you know. (NSA NO STRINGS ATTACHED). What you want is that he ONLY commits sexually to you. And that is NOT what he wants... (read in full...)
Why does everyone like this girl and want to be with her?
Q. Dear cupid, there is this girl who I know of and I'm quite worried about her and concerned for my friends, but I don't know if I should stay out of it or start doing something about this. Basically, she is going around and fooling around a...
A. 29 March 2013: I think there is "linking" a girl and then there is liking a girl.
The girl you are talking about is "popular" with some guys because she acts like a dude and don't seem to get emotionally attached to anyone, but just drift from (to be crude) d... (read in full...)
I'm 36, no boyfriend. I want children! I feel like I'm OLD and time is running out.
Q. All of my friends have found significant others and have been married for a while. I was in a long term relationship that didn't work out. He left me after 7 years together for a 25 year old. I find myself single, 36, no prospects. I'm in college ...
A. 29 March 2013: You might be older then average of people who starts to have children, but in this day and age 36 isn't old.
Life doesn't always go as we plan, I can attest to that. I didn't think I'd be married OR have children but both happened. One of my good ... (read in full...)
Had a fling at a party, he's in a relationship, and now he's offered to meet up again
Q. Quick question Don't need a lecture cause I know this is bad but I was at a party last night and I was making out with a lot of people but mostly with one of my classmates boyfriend, they are in gay relationship and I'm gay myself. We was a...
A. 29 March 2013: I think talking to him would be an OK thing to do, BUT I have to say if he is in a relationship you need to keep it in your pants, and keep it platonic.... (read in full...)
Help, dating younger guy, and he cheated
Q. I am writing for any thoughts, ideas, or help in what has become the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I started seeing a much younger guy 3.5 years ago, (he is twenty years younger). I knew from the very beginning things could only be betwe...
A. 28 March 2013: Honestly, this man is NOT a keeper. He is a have fun for a little while kind of guy.
The whole "won't introduce to family & friends" should tell you right of the bat that he is NOT seeing you as a girl-friend or partner, but as a "dirty secret".... (read in full...)
Am I too nice to my boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend going on two years now, and everything (for the most part) is going well. But I'm starting to think I'm too nice to him, and that he's either taking me for granted, or maybe sees me as being too "easy" or even boring. ...
A. 28 March 2013: I don't think anyone can be too nice, to be honest. But there is difference between being nice, helpful and being taken advantage off.
You seem to WANT to do these things for him. The thing is DO you do them to PLEASE him or because you like to ... (read in full...)
Should I just stay out of it, and not offer my opinion? Is it his choice alone to plan ahead, or not plan ahead?
Q. I just had a fight with my bf and I don't understand what went wrong. He's been in school for the past year and a half getting an associate degree and planning on going to a different college next. He's also 32. The argument was about why he's g...
A. 28 March 2013: I agree that you both have valid points but.. I DO agree at 32 you should have a WAY more cleared idea of what kind of job/career filed you plan ahead for when getting a degree.
I have 2 degrees (on bachelor) and I have used neither. I got them... (read in full...)
Some like it rough.....
Q. I have been seeing this girl for awhile (6 months) and we have some great times in and out of the sack. The other night, we were partying and she made the comment,"I like it rough too as long as their is no pain". I have never been rough, to women. ...
A. 28 March 2013: Instead of asking US, you really should ask HER. I think every woman have their own idea of "rough" when it comes to sex.
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I'm not sure whether to just hang out with him and see how it goes or just straight up tell him how I'm feeling?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure what to do. Last summer i ended up hooking up with my best guy friend, we both weren't really sure what we were doing so we ended up sleeping with other people. Then when we realised we were wanting to be serious i told him about ...
A. 28 March 2013: He dumps you because YOU hooked up with someone else, EVEN-THOUGH he did the same? So he think having double standard is OK, you can't hook up with others because you are a girl? To me that is a NO-NO.
But I guess that is in the past.
If you ... (read in full...)
My guy won't commit, what do I do?
Q. I met a guy online and we've been dating for 3 months. I have even met his son and hung out with them both on several occassions. About a month ago he asked me if I was happy with the way things are going. I said yes and he told me the reason he ...
A. 28 March 2013: I would not be happy that he is still active DAILY on the dating site, not even after "only" 3 months together. BUT I would ASK him if exclusivity with him means you BOTH delete profiles and at what time he thinks that should be, see if you are on ... (read in full...)
I am very much assuming she has already asked someone else to go with her...do I have the right to be at all mad about this?
Q. I've been feeling a little down recently over my girlfriend not inviting me out with her and she hasn't been spending an awful lot of time with me. This April she is going away one weekend with some friends and then the week after she is going on...
A. 28 March 2013: My first thought on reading this is, she is just not that into you.
Honestly, her FIRST choice of someone to bring to London for a few fun days should be you. (IMHO)Unless her friend is sharing the same birthday or something then MAYBE it would ma... (read in full...)
An unexpected gift from my ex: keep it or return it?
Q. I have a bit of a dilemma. I went through a messy break up with my ex. However I received a gift from her in the post. It's something I've wanted for a long time and she knows this. Should I return it or keep it? If I return it I'm kind ...
A. 28 March 2013: Did it comes with a letter? Or just the gift?
And how long ago was this break up and who was the cause of it? (just the gist of it)... (read in full...)
She says she knows what she wants and won't settle for less, is this why she's still single at 42?
Q. So I have been dating someone that is 42,never married and no kids.She is a very smart person,has a great job,has alot to offer.She says that she wants a relationship and hasnt been in too many.Then tells me she has dated alot but they only seem to ...
A. 27 March 2013: Could be that she has unrealistic expectations, could be she hasn't found the "right" guy for her.
How long have you two dated?
I think it's totally OK for people to NOT settle. After all how happy would that make one? And how happy would it m... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sex-buddy I don't want to sleep with him anymore?
Q. How do i tell my sex-buddy i dont want to sleep with him anymore? I live in a different city for university and when i come back we always meet up for drinks/cinema or we'l wobble back to each others houses after nights out. We've been sleeping to...
A. 27 March 2013: Call him up and tell him that F-buddy thing is over, that you really don't need it anymore and then STICK to it. I would suggest you actually avoid the situations where you get drunk and feel horny as well, at least for a while.
No one is making y... (read in full...)
How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip?
Q. I've been waitressing at a restaurant for a few months. I've noticed that certain regulars don't leave tip regardless of service. And of course there are occasional customers that don't tip at all. How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip? ...
A. 27 March 2013: It IS optional. And if they were unsatisfied do you think they would really BE regular customers? They wouldn't keep coming back.
Unfortunately there are people like that in the world, who don't understand that the majority of your paycheck... (read in full...)
Do I have a baby because that is what me and my fiancee want, or do I not because of what people will think and say?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship with my fiance over three years, we have had a very happy relationship and got engages almost a year ago. like all relationships, we have had our usual arguments and obstacles (other interfering people) but ...
A. 26 March 2013: I would wait first til you have finished the last two level of your education and maybe a couple of years after that you get experience in the field. For several reasons. If this marriage doesn't work out, you can get a job that pays well enough for ... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand with the friend of the girl I like. How do I discourage this girl nicely?
Q. Hello all, Firstly, I'm a 22 year old guy currently studying at University. Recently, over the past 2 months of so, I started chatting to and hanging out with a girl I'll call Rita on my course. We'd just do stuff like get coffee and talk, which ...
A. 26 March 2013: Don't mention Rita. Just tell Sophie that you aren't interested in a relation sip or casual sex with her. If you DO mention Rita you KNOW it will get back to her and things might becomes super awkward.
Also, slow down n the drinking.... (read in full...)
Does the depth of a woman reveal if she was sleeping with another person?
Q. I have been having sex with my lady friend for over 15 years and I used to be able to hit the back wall of her vagina because she used to say it hurt when I went to deep we had broken up for a little while she said that she did not sleep with nobody ...
A. 26 March 2013: person12345 is dead on.
SEX doesn't make a vagina LOOSE or LONGER - it is a MUSCLE, so if she, back when you two had sex and you hit the cervix, was more tense it might have felt differently.
Also she has gotten older, and you know what ha... (read in full...)
I've gone from being madly in love with her to wishing our relationship were over. Break up or stay? Help!
Q. I'm in a long term relationship with my girlfriend (4 1/2 years). I have two kids (13/12) from a previous marriage. The kids live with me. About one year ago my girlfriend moved in with us. We had some problems during these 4 1/2 years. She woul...
A. 26 March 2013: Sorry, the MINUTE she threw a bottle at your son she should have been out the door on her ASS! YOU are putting your kids in an ABUSIVE situation, SCREW her HOTHEADEDNESS, you need to STAND up for the kids and kick her out!
She is depresse... (read in full...)
My husband jacks off with other men!
Q. My husband jacks off with other men I just found out he has been doing this for years. I'm shocked to find this out. Even more shocking, are all the sites where married men communicate and set up times to jack off together. He says he will sto...
A. 26 March 2013: As much as I admire the Anon Male's Pride in his Penis, I have to say I would NOT be happy nor comfortable with my husband doing this either.
Now if a guy is single I don't care if they have a 50 man yank circle, but I think it's inapprop... (read in full...)
Is it right to trust your gut instinct about dating someone?
Q. Ok so some people are gonna think I'm mad for this post.. But is it right to trust your gut instinct? Basically about 3 months ago this man I was seeing just stopped speaking to me, no reason, no nothing, just didn't turn up one might when we were ...
A. 26 March 2013: I think you are totally wasting your time. If you want to be happy with your life then de-friend him and STOP looking at his updates and posts.
Get of Facebook and go out and LIVE your life.
The reason you can't "get" over him, is because ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to expect that he at least acknowledge the gift?
Q. Dear Cupid I bought a really expensive gift for my bf and sent it to him. He received his gift today and i called him to check whether he liked it or not, even sent him a message. No response for anything. I called again and he yelled at me...
A. 26 March 2013: Well, that BF would be my EX right now. He threatened you for calling him? Whatever for?
He sounds like an undeserving ass. ... (read in full...)
We've been friends all our lives, so why the sudden hatred? He is ignoring me and has even deleted me from Facebook....
Q. So a guy I know since childhood has come to my life and started texting me daily, we were always platonic friends or shall I say neighbors, we live in 2 different countries so we texted for 3 months and clashed twice due to his insistance on going ...
A. 26 March 2013: Could be his GF has been nagging him to drop you, because she didn't believe the "we are only friends" other wise?
Who knows why honestly. He seems (from what you write) a tad manipulative so really why bother with a reason? He is an ass and that... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore my judgemental family until they learn how to deal with my choices?
Q. I am a decent girl. 19 years old, never skipped a day of school, never had a grade bellow B-, never drank, smoked nor did drugs, rarely go out partying. Of course, I'm a teenager girl AND a college student, so sometimes (mainly in Summer) I spend ...
A. 26 March 2013: I have to ask if this is due to cultural issues or religious issues? Because those would "almost" make sense.
Now if it is neither, then I don't get it either and I'm sorry you feel that way about your family.
Maybe it's time to consider movi... (read in full...)
I asked about our relationship status and it comes out that he thinks we should just call ourselves 'friends'! I'm totally heartbroken, should I just say good riddance?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a year now and everything seemed to be going well and the relationship was definitely progressing. Because we're long distance however we don't see each other as much as we'd like (but up until this point ...
A. 26 March 2013: I think, he realized he wasn't capable of keeping a platonic relationship long distance and that is why he opted for the "friendship" thing, he thought that might soften the "blow".
I think ended it for good is the best thing for you. You want mor... (read in full...)
I think he might have been the one. He's dating someone else now. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Help!! Should I tell him how I feel? 9 months ago I finished dating a guy I had been seeing for 14 months. I hadn't slept with him because I have always wanted to wait for the 'right one' also I was going away travelling for two months so didn't...
A. 26 March 2013: No, don't tell him. He is with someone else. He couldn't even be bothered to wait til you were READY.
Waiting to be ready is a GOOD thing, that is how you weed out the guys who are looking for sex, and those who are looking for a relation... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 26 March 2013: I don't think you NEED to officially end it, YOU know it's over. He knows it over. He just doesn't like it, because he can no longer manipulate you. Well, he can suck an egg.
Cheer up it gets better.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about a drunken fumble with her boyfriend?
Q. I recently went on a weekend away with my boyfriend, two of my friends and their boyfriends. We always go out as a group and all get along really well. One night we was playing drinking games and everyone ended up naked. This is the first time ...
A. 25 March 2013: Honestly ,I'd keep quiet too. And I'd hold back on the sauce in the future, being so drunk that you can't remember parts of the evening is not safe, smart or healthy.
I'm all for being truthful, but in this case I think I would keep my mouth sh... (read in full...)
My teacher has scary, piercing eyes and I have trouble keeping eye contact.
Q. i really can't keep eye contact, extremely bad at it. When teachers talk to me they make eye contact, and I can't. There's just this one male teacher I suck at making eye contact with, it's just he knows im shy. This teacher has "stare" while ...
A. 25 March 2013: I would just stare back at his nose. It's less "scary".... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 25 March 2013: He is hoping to reel you back in.
Keep the non-contact. If you can I'd block his number. He knows why you don't want to talk to him ,he just doesn't think it matters HOW you feel and WHY you are doing it.
His loss, keep moving on.... (read in full...)
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