Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 13 April 2013: I have to agree with SVC, you can compete (nor should yo u really HAVE to).
I would just cut the contact with him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Fiance gets it all in the bed but I am left wanting?
Q. Hello everyone, well I'm getting married in a month. My fiance has proved he's not cheating. Of course I still have trust issues. But that's not the problem today. My problem is he is a little selfish in bed. Whenever he wants sex or a BJ, he gets ...
A. 11 April 2013: Honestly I don't believe in "making" others do things (sexually especially) that they don't like to do.
However if you are not satisfied, you need to address that. And there are usually more ways then oral to get satisfied as a woman.
YOU cho... (read in full...)
How do I confront my cheating Fiance without making her angry because I spyed into her emails?
Q. How do you let your fiance know that you know she is cheating without her getting mad because you have been looking at her email that she keeps leaving open, most recent email to her "friend" "I still want to meet with you. I want to try if you ar...
A. 11 April 2013: I'm with Cerberus on this one.
I would follow his advice to the T. You REALLY think she would STOP because she got caught? Or because you guys get married?
She is OLD enough to KNOW better.
Why waste more time on her?
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Is it over or am I being led on?
Q. Back at the beginning of february my boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me. He then suggested that we continue for the next two weeks till it was a year. Stupidly I agreed to this even though I knew it would only hurt more, I just would have ...
A. 11 April 2013: Right now he still have you around, so he doesn't have much incentive to "ask" you to be his GF again, since you both act like you ARE together.
I can't see why you should put your life on hold while he waits to "figure" out what he wants. E... (read in full...)
When the breakup comes should I ask him to return the gift?
Q. On Christmas I went way overboard and bought my boyfriend a very expensive gift. A bit over $300. I know. But I'm young and stupid and I guess it's one of those mistakes that when I'm older I'll look back and tell myself "well, that was ridicul...
A. 11 April 2013: No, you can't ASK for a gift back. The whole IDEA of a gift is that is is GIVEN not LEND.
So you need to SUCK it up when it comes to your parents. Learn from this and don't give EXPENSIVE gifts til you are heading for a long term relation... (read in full...)
Not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move?
Q. Met this girl on a night out at the start of march. We talked, laughed and ended up kissing in the club. Exchanged numbers and text back and forth quite a bit for a few days before I asked her out for a date. The 1st date went great, we talked and ...
A. 11 April 2013: I seriously think you need to CALL her and TALK to her.... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend lied about being a virgin
Q. Well my girlfriend had said that she had almost had sex with someone I know before we were dating but the way she had told the story made me feel as though she was lying she said she was a virgin (as was I) when we first had sex but she didn't reac...
A. 11 April 2013: I have to say that there isn't ONE SINGLE behavior of HOW a girl is going to act the first time. Same goes for guys.
I think being in a relationship where you don't trust her, but can't "prove" that she ACTUALLY lied about it- you just "think" ... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 11 April 2013: You know that if you DO end up marrying this guy, his daughter and ex wife will become a permanent fixture in your life, right? It sounds like the daughter and ex are emotionally black mailing him though. I mean what did they do BEFORE he showed... (read in full...)
Why did my ex put on facebook a photo of us?
Q. My ex of 3 months has just put an old photo of us together up as his profile picture. Loads of friends clicked on like etc. Saying 'be happy' etc. I'm so angry. I put up a status saying 'I'm single single single single single. The camera never lies ...
A. 10 April 2013: Remove him from your friends-list? That way you can't see what he posts. ... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: So you are supposed to just give up your dreams because he said so?
What's next? bare feet, pregnant and chained to the stove?
How long would this overseas thing possibly be?
I'm sorry, I think you need to follow your dreams. YOU will re... (read in full...)
A competitive friend but I just want friendship, Should I ditch the friend?
Q. I have been having some issues with my best friend, whom I have known since I was five years old. When we were younger, we got along amazingly well and swore we'd never be apart. Then we went to different high schools, but stayed in contact throu...
A. 10 April 2013: She keeps you around to make herself feel good. THAT is not being a friend.
And honestly, you need to enjoy your time at Uni, not feeling like you aren't good enough because of her inferior complex of the past.
I would just focus on YOUR s... (read in full...)
BF is upset that his EX is being chatted up by his best friend?
Q. just a small question. My last relationship ended because i found him cheating on me so ended things because once a cheater alwayas a cheater. I don't want to be cheated on again, obviously. Ive just entered a new relationship but im a little ...
A. 9 April 2013: He friend is not following the bro-code. That is why he is upset.... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 9 April 2013: If he LIVES with you the whole time I can see him helping with the rent/mortgage + food/bills.
If he just stays over from time to time, then quite frankly I don't see why he should be paying your rent/mortgage. But helping with the food and so f... (read in full...)
I lost my friend over a rude text that I didn't send to him!
Q. I recently had a sexual encounter with a friend (married)(someone I've known since childhood),we re-connected and talked on the phone for over a yr and saw ea. other daily. Our relationship became sexual no strings attached. A family member decided ...
A. 9 April 2013: I have to agree with AuntieEm, the text was his excuse to stop seeing you. And since he most likely didn't want to be your "friend" anymore, it was the perfect excuse for him.
As for whatever family member thought this was a great joke, I think yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother tries to hook him up with his own cousin.....
Q. I'm in a very uncomfortable, awkward, and disgusting situation and I just have no clue how to deal with it. I've been with my boyfriend for four years, and we've been living together for the last two. Me and his mother have never got along, but I ...
A. 9 April 2013: My guess is that she KNOWS it makes you upset and mad and she gets her kicks from that.
As for the "eww" factor. I have to shrug a little, because if you go back in time (and not that far) you will find that marriage between cousins was VERY com... (read in full...)
Did he really get condoms to use with the toy?
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some answers here as I am a nervous mess right now. I previously was here asking about condoms in my boyfriend's school bag which he claimed to have packed for a trip we were taking. Most people said believe him so I lef...
A. 9 April 2013: Using condoms with sex toys is good practice honestly. Many sex toys are made of certain types of "rubber" is suspected of causing cancer (specially cheap toys), so using a barrier (condom) is wise.
If you have no other reason to NOT trust hi... (read in full...)
BF has changed from the unfaithful, to obsessively possessive, why?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months the first month we was dating was just simply horrible! We fought all the time about everything! We just simply hated each other. For the past 3 weeks everything has been going great! No fighting as ...
A. 9 April 2013: It's ONLY been 2 months and you already have all these issues? Seems like it's either going to take EXTREME amount of work or end it.
It shouldn't BE this hard after ONLY 2 months. It should still be the "honeymoon phase".
It doesn't sound he... (read in full...)
HOW do I stop being so foolish with and about this man who treated me so appallingly?
Q. So. This isn't really a big deal, but it is something I find really frustrating. I have a bit of a complicated situation with a guy I was with about a year ago. I met him in my home country, we had a fling for a couple of weeks, and then he went...
A. 9 April 2013: Well that is one way to look at it. However, if you are being realistic, you will know that you CAN NOT control others actions or feelings only your own. So in essence, YOU let him make a fool of you. Now the thing is you MAY be looking for good in ... (read in full...)
B/f broke up with me unexpectedly..he's having fun and I'm miserable and jealous!
Q. My boyfriend recently broke up with me out of nowhere. We were "that" couple and everything was great. We connected emotionally, mentally and physically. We talked about our future and what we wanted out of life, and everything was the same. I'm 26 ...
A. 7 April 2013: OK, lesson number 1.
When someone breaks up with you, you unfriend them of FB, because if you keep them around YOU will constantly be reminded of what they are doing and thinking or whatever stupid crap they sprout.
If you feel like you can't u... (read in full...)
My son isn't exactly discreet in his masturbation habits
Q. My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to ...
A. 7 April 2013: I would perhaps ask your hubby to have a chat about this (IF you think your son would be more comfortable talking to him ) YOU and your hubby need to set some ground rules and asap or he will continue this.
Your undies should DEFINITELY be off l... (read in full...)
HOW do I stop being so foolish with and about this man who treated me so appallingly?
Q. So. This isn't really a big deal, but it is something I find really frustrating. I have a bit of a complicated situation with a guy I was with about a year ago. I met him in my home country, we had a fling for a couple of weeks, and then he went...
A. 7 April 2013: STOP the contact and you won't make a fool of yourself again. It really is that easy.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get naughty on chat roulette with strangers?
Q. Is it wrong to get naughty with strangers over Chat Roulette? My boyfriend has been gone for a few weeks overseas, and I have been very bored and lonely. I would never cheat on my partner, but lately I have been masturbating with men on Chat Rou...
A. 7 April 2013: Is it wrong? If you have to ask STRANGERS this, you know it IS wrong.
But if you still aren't sure, how about asking your BF how he feels?
How would you feel if he was wanking off to random chick (and/or dudes) on the Internet because he was b... (read in full...)
Should I comply with an offer from my wife's friend with full approval from my wife to impregnate her friend?
Q. Okay! Here we go! My wife and I and our two young children are going to return to my wife's native country (not to be mentioned here) for a visit this spring and summer for about a month for me; she and the kids will stay a little longer. My wife ...
A. 7 April 2013: I agree fully with iAmHereToHelpYou.
It's NOT a very smart idea at all.... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 6 April 2013: If you don't want to FEEL stupid then don't BE stupid.
I'm sorry he got hurt and his sister too, but they are NOT your responsibility.
He borrowed the CD not because he wanted to listen to music but to have an EXCUSE to come back or to talk ... (read in full...)
If he likes me then why doesn't he talk to me?
Q. Hello There is a guy on a lecture I go to. This guy is always sitting alone with a girl. They also take the same bus after the lecture. This guy looked sometimes at me in the lectures. Everytime I look at him I see this girl looking very ang...
A. 5 April 2013: If he was genuinely interested he would pursue you, you already opened the door, but he isn't going for it. So I would assume (from his behavior, and not from how you interpret his looking at you) that he isn't really into you. I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
I think I made a terrible mistake and need help making amends
Q. I made a terrible mistake. I am a college student, but I am an older one trying to get a second degree. One of my teachers is the same age as me (and I am also a female). She invited me to couple of her concerts (she plays instruments in a group). ...
A. 5 April 2013: I think you are READING way more into your "mistake" then how she perceived it.
Let it go.... (read in full...)
My fiance seems to have no goals or ambition
Q. I'm 24 and my fiance just turned 30. He lives at home with his parents, going to community college for the last 10 years now trying to get his bachelors, and has no work or real relationship experience. His 'income' comes from his parents by working ...
A. 5 April 2013: What kind of "mistakes" is it that he keeps making? (when it comes to your relationship?
And honestly, if you are willing to live with this man-child then be prepared for him to not change much. He seemingly has no incentive to get off his ass ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex...is he lying?
Q. I need advice people, here's my dilemma: I have a boyfriend of 7 months now, I met him two years ago and he did then have a gf and I had a bf, nothing came of it, just regular chats here and there. I broke up with my BF and he also broke up with his...
A. 5 April 2013: He is lying because telling it to your face would make HIM look bad and maybe even make you reconsider the relationship.
Figure out WHAT you want from him exactly. Tell him that YOU expect that he does what YOU did with YOUR ex - that is tell the... (read in full...)
Why do we have sex only when my boyfriend wants to?
Q. Hiya, so i posted a question on here yesterday and the people didnt really understand what I ws trying to day so and gonna try again I have been with my Boyfriend for 3 years. It's our sex life that I think is the problem. We have sex, oral e...
A. 4 April 2013: I agree with SVC.
Normally I'm NOT a fan of with-holding or tit for tat, but I DO think your BF needs a dose of his own medicine.
Doesn't he understand that YOU WANT him? That HE turns you on from time to time to?... (read in full...)
Is he obsessed with me?
Q. I dated my ex bf for 4 years I was about to break up with him when I found out I was pregnant so I decided to stay to make it work. Well after our son was a month old he cheated on me with a 16 year old mind you he is almost 22. So i ended it 6 ...
A. 3 April 2013: I agree with the Block him on Facebook, just because you share a child doesn't mean you have to have him posting crap on FB. Also hide his comments. Let him post crap, I'm sure you friends know the REAL you.
Also if he wants to spend time with his... (read in full...)
I don’t want to rule him out but then also don’t want to be walked all over
Q. I met a guy on a dating site and he seemed really genuine and sweet. After a week of talking, despite not being 100% on his picture, I agreed to meet with him for a drink because I thought we had a lot in common. We met and had a really lovely ...
A. 3 April 2013: I would accept the apology for now, it's only been a week, so give him the benefit of the doubt.
Just go slow. ... (read in full...)
Awkward moment when her grandmother called me by my girlfriend's ex's name!
Q. So I am at my girlfriends parents house an meeting them for the first time. During this time everything is going well an we talk and really get to know one another. I also meet the grandparents an everything is also seeming going really well. ...
A. 3 April 2013: Eh, I don't really see the big deal. Next time she might call your GF by her mom's name.
My maternal grandmother had 18 grand-kids and I can tell you this even when she was young and spry she would STILL mix up the names, we just took it gracious... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he text first, has he gotten too used to me starting conversations each time?
Q. Im 20, he's 21. We have been speaking for just over 3 months now. But only been dating for just over a month. We both have an iPhone and a Blackberry so we find it easier to just speak over Blackberry Messenger. (I don't like texting, and I d...
A. 3 April 2013: TELL him. He doesn't know how to read minds. Just be honest and stop with the passive-aggressive :"LOL maybe you can write first next time - tee hee.." You WANT this so don't make it a joke. Because he thinks you are joking when you really are ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty that I haven't told my wife about the emotional affair
Q. I have been married for four and a half years. We have a two-year old. We have much in common, but when my wife gets upset and high strung (she is a self-described "uptight" person), she shuts down emotionally. While we were engaged, she would ...
A. 3 April 2013: Sounds like you are blaming her for YOUR actions. You know you SHOULD have tried to figure out how to "fix" that WITH her before looking for "sympathy" and attention from another woman.
Is it you being selfish? In some ways yes, but in others I... (read in full...)
He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???
Q. My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...
A. 2 April 2013: Honestly DID you tell him how that statement made you feel? And did you ask him WHY he felt he had to tell you that?
It could be for two reasons; 1. to make him self look like a better "catch" then he really is or 2. to make you feel insecure... (read in full...)
My husband admitted to having a crush on someone else
Q. What do you do when you are so very in love with your husband, but can't handle the fact that he had an emotional affair? I struggle on a day to day basis knowing that he actually "put someone in the middle" of our relationship. Him and I, (so I ...
A. 2 April 2013: I can understand losing total trust in him, and THAT takes a lot of time and work to regain.
Does he still think it's all YOUR fault that he "strayed"? Or has he in fact manned up and taken responsibility for his actions?
Why did it end? Did ... (read in full...)
BF hot and cold in the space of two weeks because of one night- what should I do?
Q. My bf is hot and cold with me and now he wants time "think and get his head straight" I have been in a relationship with my bf for a year now. We are long distance but spent the first 4 months together. At christmas he dumped me saying the dista...
A. 2 April 2013: I would just give him some time and space, however YOU decide how much time you want to give him. Let him know that you won't be contacting him for the next (let's say 2 weeks) and that if he doesn't get back to you, you know where you stand (as in ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do about his erratic parenting?
Q. I think my ex husband is crazy, that or his actions are making me wonder if I am! We have a 2 year old child. I've been open to lots of visits-encouraged it even, but he rarely takes the child. There is always an excuse. Most recently, he to...
A. 2 April 2013: I would go through a lawyer as well. Not try and set up visitation on your own.
My thoughts though, if he doesn't WANT to see them or make the effort why bother keep trying?... (read in full...)
He's one of the most popular boys at school. How can I encourage my crush to like me?
Q. Hi so I want to know how to get my crush to like me Ok so I have had a crush on a guy and he is in a different grade (higher grade). Anyway I wouldn't say I am obsessed but whenever he looks at me whenever he goes or looks away I totally freak ou...
A. 2 April 2013: You can't MAKE him like you. Either he does like you or he doesn't. It's that simple. However he seems to be flirting a little with you, so why not just play into that?
Next time he looks at you with a smirk, wink at him.
I wouldn't be to f... (read in full...)
What can or should I do? I am in love with my best friend. BUT she has a boyfriend. Should I just move on?
Q. i am in love with my bestfriend but she has a boyfriend we had been close friends since we were in college when we are in our first yr she said to me that she loved me but at that time i cant love her back because i have already have a girlfrien...
A. 2 April 2013:
She is already cheating on her BF with you. I think she likes that she can play the both of you.
You really think if she WAS your GF she would be faithful to you?
I think you are playing with fire and you will end up getting BURNED.... (read in full...)
My husband will not stand up to his conniving family for me!
Q. Okay I really need some clear heads on this: Married for 10 years, together for 13. My husband is from a very small family - only a mother, sister and one niece. He says he's never been overly close with them, really. They were very nice ...
A. 1 April 2013: Honestly I would STOP going to "family" thing with those people. If your husband wants to go let him. Maybe he will figure out that you RATHER stay away then be put down every time.
I think he HAS tried to stand up for you but he doesn't really k... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this anger and resentment towards my ex?
Q. Just a brief picture of what happened: I dumped my ex of nearly 3 years in the New Year after finding out he'd cheated multiple times/ had a drug problem/ was a compulsive liar etc. I'd wanted out for ages as (as bad as it sounds) we just weren't on ...
A. 1 April 2013: Could it be that you are more mad at yourself then the ex? For not knowing (and how could you?) all his failings?
I don't blame you for feeling angry at him, he betrayed you, but if you look at it this way, the longer you hold on to the anger, t... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 26 March 2013: I don't think you NEED to officially end it, YOU know it's over. He knows it over. He just doesn't like it, because he can no longer manipulate you. Well, he can suck an egg.
Cheer up it gets better.... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 25 March 2013: He is hoping to reel you back in.
Keep the non-contact. If you can I'd block his number. He knows why you don't want to talk to him ,he just doesn't think it matters HOW you feel and WHY you are doing it.
His loss, keep moving on.... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 16 March 2013: crying123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question
One more thing guys what should I do with all of his stuff he is begging me to keep it and just wait patiently until he comes home. He only packed for a week everything is here... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Is this the first time in 5 years he has spend time with his daughter like this?
If so, I think you need to chill a little.
However if he is staying WITH the mom/daughter and not in a motel, I would find it a little odd for him to stay so l... (read in full...)
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