How could he break up with me again?
Q. I'm feeling a little lost after my recent breakup. My boyfriend and I have been together over 2 years. He initially broke up with me a year in a half into the relationship saying he was unhappy. Six months of on/off playing around we officall...
A. 27 February 2013: Honey, if you have to work THAT hard to make a relationship work, then obviously HE isn't willing to put in that work. And frankly I don't really blame him. I think he assumed that starting back up would erase all the things that didn't work in the ... (read in full...)
The man I'm supposed to marry in 2 months has been cheating on me!
Q. I need help. I love my fiance and he loves me. We have been together for seven years. I recently found out he has been flirting on his job sites and got a girls number and was texting her. And he hit on a friend of ours. He keeps telling me how ...
A. 27 February 2013: Honey, a ring on your finger, a nice ceremony and pretty dress will not magically FIX this.
You two needs to AT LEAST consider some pre-marital counseling.
He wants to marry you because you are THERE - you didn't say F THIS! and walk away. ... (read in full...)
He's confusing me. Has he lost interest in me? Or is his change of approach because he likes me?
Q. I met this guy about 2-3 months ago, and when we first started hanging out I think we hit it off really well. We would spend 2-3 days out of the week together. I usually don't sleep with men so quickly, but for some reason I decided to with him...
A. 27 February 2013: Do you know if he is actually dating someone now?
Seems to me that he lost interest after you two slept together. Could be that he is a "thrill of the chase" kind of guy. But he keeps you in the "back up" pile and in touch in case he finds hi... (read in full...)
Now guys at work see me in a different light. How could my own brother embarass me at work about things I told him in private about my private life?
Q. Dear Cupid,my brother and I are employed at the same place we have private conversations between each other at home about our relationships with different people in our lives so that's cool. However he then went to work and told one of the cowo...
A. 27 February 2013: Wow, that is just really immature of your brother. I would definitively tell him that that is NOT OK, you are NOT looking to DATE or have SEX with any co-workers. And that in the future PRIVATE information between the two of you needs to stay ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: I don't think it's impossible at all.
I just think some people just don't THINK before they become emotionally attracted to a friend of the opposite sex.
Often you get the complications when you people are added to the mix (as in new bf/gf) wh... (read in full...)
Is this relationship salvageable or should I move on?
Q. My husband and I have had a bad marriage the last 2 years. We've been married 14 years. He turned into a workaholic and I was lonely. I started hanging out with friends. A few were guys. He avoided me by working all the time. I developed an add...
A. 27 February 2013: I think your marriage is so over. You are both holding on to the past without really working on getting BACK to that place, and I'm not sure you even CAN get back to that place.
You got clean, that is HUGE thing. You keep focusing on YOU and your... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable or reasonable to have a crush on someone else whilst in a committed longterm relationship?
Q. Hi everyone. I basically just wanted to ask if it is ever acceptable or reasonable to have feelings for someone else (or a "crush", for want of a better word) whilst in a committed, long term relationship? Would this mean that the current rela...
A. 27 February 2013: I would say it's pretty normal to have occasional crushes whilst in a serious relationship, it's WHAT you do with those feelings that determine if it's acceptable or reasonable.
If you get emotionally involved with the person you are "crushin... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: Why on Earth does she feel a need to flash her guy friends? Is she THAT starved for attention?
I mean I get it, we all like to look at well toned bodies, but just because you have one (or she does) doesn't mean she HAS to flash it.
It soun... (read in full...)
I want to see him again. Shall I turn up at his home unannounced? Or text him when I am nearby to give him a choice of seeing me or not?
Q. I'm in a recent FWB relationship, with a good friend of mine. Both of us have been hurt in the last year by bad relationships so we don't want anything other then just sex. Both of us have been real busy so in the last two weeks since we discusse...
A. 27 February 2013:
Always call first, and NOT from his driveway. Give him a call BEFORE you leave your house so you know if you even need to get in the car.
Don't treat someone as your personal sex-toy because another person hurt you in the past.
... (read in full...)
I've recently come out and I'm attracted to my friend. Do I tell her?
Q. I am quite tom boyish and have become very attracted to my close girl mate. She is very much into men but I can't help my feelings for her. This is very new to me as my relationships have always been with men and recently I have come out to some ...
A. 27 February 2013:
Just because YOU have decided that you want to pursue being a lesbian doesn't mean that every female around you wants to have sex with females too.
You two were friends fist, so I would NOT ruin that by pushing your new sexual agenda on he... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's female friend is always at his house and no one cares about my feelings
Q. Every week for the past 3 months, whenever I go to my boyfriend's mums there is this girl there. This girl has openly admitted to liking my boyfriend for the past 5 years and purely doesn't like me on the bases I'm going out with him and she isn't. ...
A. 26 February 2013: Honestly, I'd stop coming over, if he wants to see you... he can COME see you.... (read in full...)
If partner is using dating site do they always keep on carrying on until you dump them permanently?
Q. I am noticing there seems to be a growing number of questions here relating to repetitive cheating on dating sites by their partner. I have had to go through this with my partner who never admits it or thinks he is not doing anything wrong by way o...
A. 26 February 2013: I think when a partner is on a dating site, they are still looking for that "someone" and they are NOT happy with the relationship they are in or their partner. They "THINK" they can do better.
I would not accept this in a relationship or marriage... (read in full...)
What are the options to deal with our rude confrontational neighbors? They stir up trouble and it's wearing me down.
Q. Hello, I'm really confused about my neighbour. I just can't work her out! For the last 18 months the person living next to me has made my life quite difficult. We have got to a point that we have resolved some issues but I am really wary of her!...
A. 26 February 2013: I would not even try and make nice with her, my kids would be "banned" from playing with hers.
We had a brat like that (with a nutso family too) at our old house. The kid was just mean and viscous to every other kid and frankly a total bully. I... (read in full...)
I'm straight. My gay male friend gets holier than thou when I talk dating a guy. What can I do ?
Q. I'm pretty much stuck in a situation where I feel like a total Fag Hag. Most of my friends are gay. I absolutely adore all of my friends, and see them as amazing people who just happen to be gay. It's my gay friends who like to socialize an...
A. 25 February 2013: Sounds more like he is afraid of what will happen once you start to date, he will go from BFF to room-mate.
Honestly, I would just start getting out there and date, go slow and don't bring guys home til you know them well enough to introduc... (read in full...)
How can I make my dad understand my college situation?
Q. I got into college last September. Although my college has many, many, ridiculously too many parties, I never went to a single one. I tried to get in the whole college spirit but I just don't enjoy getting stupid drunk and hangover. I went EVERY...
A. 25 February 2013: I can't believe the University is so pathetic that you can get the same out of staying home and surfe the things on the web, that says a LOT about your university or how you perceive learning.
I have to say as a parent, I wouldn't be thrilled... (read in full...)
Is he the right Bf for me? He prefers vanilla sex. I want threesome,s sex toys, bondage, role plays, sex outdoors and dressing up
Q. I'm 24 and my partner is 28 and we have been together for a year and a half. Although we love each other the chemistry in the bedroom isn't sizzling... We keep fighting and getting frustrated with each other about whether we are having sex or n...
A. 25 February 2013: I have to say I agree with Cerberus, you two are JUST not compatible in the bedroom.
Personally I don't think EITHER of you need to see a sex therapist - you two just have VERY different taste in what you like sexually, nothing wrong in EITHER. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not acknowledge me on facebook
Q. I have been with a man for 1 year ..we get together every other weekend as my 10 yr son goes to his fathers house. I have travelled with this man and still I find it troubling he wont ackowledge my relationship status on facebook, I am getting upset ...
A. 25 February 2013: Wow... I would have guess your age to be in the teens NOT your 40's!
It's FACEBOOK for crying out loud. I rarely use my FB and no, I'm NOT friends with my husband. I don't feel a need to control who he talks to and what he does on FB, it is after... (read in full...)
We have to sneak around because of my boyfriend's best friend. Do I just drop both of them?
Q. i have a man i have been seeing for a three months ..i would not say we are in a relationship because neither one of us has committed however we talk on the phone everyday and i see him often. To make the story simpler though i will call him my ...
A. 25 February 2013: If you age is correct (in your 30's) I highly recommend to break this off, this is ridiculous playground behavior.
Find someone who WANTS to date you, not just fool around when it doesn't upset his buddy.
Sounds almost like his friend had calle... (read in full...)
My abusive ex is still controlling my life today.
Q. I was dating this guy a month back, we broke up because my so called 'best friend' was a lying cow and took advantage of his paranoia to break us up then tried to get in there herself. But that's another story. The important thing here is that my ...
A. 25 February 2013: He only controls your life because you LET HIM...
Let that sink in for a few.
Seems to me that you are mistaken control with love. He doesn't control you out of love. He wants to control you to mold you into his ideal of a girl or just for the ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me. I "lost" it . Should I apologize to him for how I acted and try to accept the breakup?
Q. last night my boyfriend broke up with me after 2 years together. i took it pretty bad. he said he was no longer happy and doesnt think we are a good match anymore. i cried and begged him to try to work things out but he's firm about it being ove...
A. 25 February 2013: If you have a great need to apologize then do so and then respect his wish and leave him be.
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She keeps finding fault with me. Though not afraid to ask for presents.Help please, because I am confused about what to do?
Q. My gf and I have been dating for 2.5 years. We spoke today over the phone, and she asked me if I want to know what she feels right now. I said yes. She said that a few days ago, I had put her down. I asked how. She explained that she felt hurt wh...
A. 25 February 2013: There is a book called "The 5 languages of love."
I think the two of you speak "different" languages. Where she sees material "gifts" as YOU showing love, you seem to take it more as a chore.
I, for one, don't understand WHY she should pick ... (read in full...)
Getting married in May but fiancee called another girl beautiful on the phone.
Q. Dear cupid friends, help! I have been dating my fiance for 7 years. We are supposed to get married in May. He knows I already have trust issues with him. Well the other morning I looked at his phone and to my shock he had texted some other girl and ...
A. 25 February 2013: You two shouldn't get married this these trust issues are resolved. It's that simple. Starting a "new" life ans man and wife shouldn't be filled with old issues.
Like Eddie said, do some pre-marital counseling. SORT this out. A ring on your rin... (read in full...)
My girl friend prefers to sit on the couch and eat. Will not clean unless I am beside her cleaning too. She's lazy and not a team player. What can I do?
Q. Hi, so I am 21 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. Let me first say that she is a great girl. She sweet, funny, loyal, worships the ground I walk on and would follow me anywhere. And so would I. But the problem I'm ha...
A. 25 February 2013: Sit her down and make a chore list for each of you, hang it on the fridge.
That is what I do with my kids and they DO their chores. (of course there is no allowance if they don't, so they do have that to motivate them).
Find a book on crock po... (read in full...)
I thought, due to his own issues, that we were going to be FWB. Yet is he getting attached to me?
Q. I just started seeing this guy for a month, even we never talked about our relationship status, it's more like fwb or f*buddies.. In the beginning, he didn't really seem to give a thought much about me Recently, he acts like he is my boyfriend w...
A. 25 February 2013: If you don't want to date him and you know he doesn't want to date anyone what is the point? Sex with someone?
FWB rarely work out long term because SOMEONE always starts to have feelings.
He is not MAKING you get attached, that is a choice... (read in full...)
He broke my hear, yet he won't leave me alone. What are my options in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend of two years decided a week before christmas break was over and he went back to school that he wanted a break because he feels we are too young to be tied down. He's in his second year of college and I get that he feels that he hasn'...
A. 25 February 2013: You do NOT have to talk to him/with him because the two of you dated for any amount of time. The whole "be friends with your ex" is rarely beneficial for anyone.
Since you are trying to GET OVER him, the no contact is the way to go. If you DO r... (read in full...)
He broke my hear, yet he won't leave me alone. What are my options in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend of two years decided a week before christmas break was over and he went back to school that he wanted a break because he feels we are too young to be tied down. He's in his second year of college and I get that he feels that he hasn'...
A. 24 February 2013: Block him 100%, facebook, his number, and his texts (look up some free apps for this, many phone have them).
Then totally STOP talking to him. It is not helping you in any way shape or form to keep in contact.
If you can't block him number... (read in full...)
For how long am I expected to work at making this work?
Q. Hi. I have some relationship probelms, including my bf's financial probelms, having to bail him out, the nagging ex wife and massive fights he has with her and so on. She even sent me thretening messages. We don't live together so althogh I get ...
A. 24 February 2013: If he hasn't done a thing about this in the 2 years you have been together then OBVIOUSLY he either CAN'T be bothered or he is happy with status quo.
YOU are the one who seems unhappy about all this extra drama, so why stay?
A relationship doe... (read in full...)
Can a correctional officer visit her boyfriend at her previous job she just got fired from because of the relationship?
Q. Can a correctional officer visit her boyfriend at her previous job she just got fired from because of the relationship ...
A. 24 February 2013: Were the GF fired because relationships between correctional officers are not allowed or was there another reason?
Honestly, I think I would NOT want to go visit, after all HE is at work.
He might want to ask a supervisor this question as it m... (read in full...)
Will he ever believe me?
Q. Hi my bf and I have been together for 10 months. From the beginning hes had control, jealousy,.and trust issues. They seem to be getting worse. He had my fb and hotmail passwords and yes he gave me his I looked maybe twice he was on my lots daily...
A. 24 February 2013: No, he will never believe you, because all these "fears of his" are not about YOU. It's an excuse to try and control you fully. And you play right along with his games.
He TELLS you that you can't join a co-ed GYM.. SERIOUSLY? And you think th... (read in full...)
The guy that I've been dating for 3 years has done the disappearing act!
Q. So the guy that I've been dating for 3 years.. has done the disappearing act.. No contact or communication whatsoever..lately.. There was no arguments nothing of that nature.. I feel like he's either one of two things.. Has a fear of taking our ...
A. 24 February 2013: How long since you last talked to him? Have you tried calling? Have you tried his work? His house?
If you two have been together 3 years this is really iffy behavior.
... (read in full...)
Is it really true? Once a cheater always a cheater?
Q. Can people be truly sorry for cheating and never go on to do it again? Or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater? I've cheated in the past knew it was wrong and never done it again. My boyfriend of four years cheated in the b...
A. 23 February 2013: I agree with YouWish. Most cheaters do "re-offend" they often don't get caught every time and thus it because partly a game partly to see what they can get away with.
Cheating is a choice, like smoking. Some quit, some can't/won't.
If I wa... (read in full...)
Do I move on to a great job? Or to a guy I love, but who isn't right for me?
Q. Hi all! I have a dilemma guys, Basically I have the option of moving down south of my country to a really good job or I have the opportunity to move up north of my country to an ok job but the guy I like lives there. That guy and I dated f...
A. 23 February 2013: Why settle for half-ass?
If he isn't right for you, so you think a mediocre job will be enough to keep you happy if this guy doesn't work out?
I'd honestly go for the great job, get some EXCELLENT work experience and meet new people over a lo... (read in full...)
What strategies will help me identify a good man who will step up and stay around like my husband, who accepted my bisexuality?
Q. I'm a single mother of two, separated from my husband of 19 years two years ago, finally dating, can't seem to find and keep a good man, a man like my husband who accepted that Im bisexual and will allow me to have flings with women while he stays...
A. 23 February 2013: You want a guy who will let you cheat basically (because I don't see you saying anything about him having flings as well.)
Just because you CHOOSE to be bisexual doesn't mean all potential partners have to "let" you explore your sexualit... (read in full...)
My LDR wants sexy pictures from me. But I have put on weight. I've tried sending him fake pictures.What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now. He is in the marines in one state, while I am in another state. We've hung out a lot before he left, and I was pretty thin then. I have Gained some weight since ive last seen him. He asks...
A. 23 February 2013: Don't send fake pictures and don't lie about it. Just be honest and tell him that you don't feel comfortable sending "sexy" pictures if he can't understand or respect that, he is an idiot.... (read in full...)
Is this a "no harm, no foul" situation or is this the kind of thing I'll probably end up regretting?
Q. So, here's the situation. While I welcome any opinion I would very much like some female input. There's this girl I was working with (we both got laid off very recently) who I'm quite attracted to and really enjoy spending time with her. She ha...
A. 14 February 2013: I would ask her straight out. If she STILL has a BF I wouldn't hang out with her because when it comes down to it, you know better.. In fact HOW would you feel if you dated a girl and she pulled that stunt behind YOUR back? Not so cool, eh?
... (read in full...)
Would you help your ex raise a child from another woman? He says we can't get back together except as friends
Q. ok, has anyone ever encountered this before? my husband, well ex now once asked if he went and got someone pregnant would i help him raise it? i told him no im too old i have already raised my children. oh we could not have any together because of a ...
A. 14 February 2013: Nope, no, no way in HADES, if he is an ex and wants nothing but for me to RAISE his kid and "friendship" I'd simply just cut him off - because all he really wants is to "dump" the kid on you.
Seems to me that you may love this guy, but does tha... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend told me I'm ugly, stupid and I'm not smart enough for him! How do I cope with this?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years tod told me that i look ugly, im stupid and i dont measure up to him and he wants to break up. We had problems before like he never spent anytime with me, always ignores me and never responds to my mails or texts. ...
A. 14 February 2013: Why are you still with this abusive douche-bag? I'd dump his sorry ass in a heartbeat and find a GOOD man instead!
Prove him wrong by walking out. That would show him just how NOT stupid you are~... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wants to go out for our Valentines dinner at the weekend?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. Now its valentines day..i know he is trying to save money for a house and i am not materialistic in the sense where i expect us to go out to dinners all the time..i even contribute towar...
A. 14 February 2013: Personally I don't give two F's about Valentine's Day. I'd rather have my husband show love and appreciation because HE wants to, not because some commercial holiday TELLS him that he SHOULD.
I know getting a reservation can be a pita on Feb. 14t... (read in full...)
My partner cheated on me 6 months ago and I cant get over it, will the pain ever go away?
Q. hi my partner of 20 years cheated on me with a woman he met on the internet, we live in Australia she lives in America. they used to play cards i would walk past and they would be chatting i would try and look at what they were saying but when i ...
A. 14 February 2013: 1. Time does heal many wounds.
2. He didn't tell you til he got caught, for me that is kind of a red flag, because it means he would have continued the affair if SHE hadn't e-mailed you.
SHE is not to be blamed, not by you nor him. HE is the o... (read in full...)
Best friends nightmare son affecting our friendship! Help!
Q. My best friend whom I love to bits has a four year old son that is a NIGHTMARE... I am pretty sure he is ADHD.. and I have commented about this before and she rejected that so fast! But he is such a nightmare to be around. When they come to my ...
A. 14 February 2013: I'm with Cerberus.. (except for the Ice cream & sugary foods, that would be a no-no)
Just arrange times to see her without her son being there.
And honestly OP you can not DIAGNOSE a child with ADHD. He is a 4 year old who like ANY normal ... (read in full...)
Forthcoming date with my ex ... how to show him what he's been missing?
Q. Hey all!!! Some much needed help please! My bf of 2 years and I broke up just over a month ago.. but we have both continued to see each other every so often. Today we decided to start dating again and just see how it goes. I'm really happy ab...
A. 13 February 2013: I would NOT wear a coat and heals and something "nice" for him. Showing up like that reeks of desperation.
I would dress nice, but not overkill.
Now IF you two keep it together and date for a while, THEN showing up wearing coat & heals (and not... (read in full...)
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