Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 28 April 2013: Cheating is a choice, I agree 100% with Fatherly Advice
People who DECIDE to cheat knows full well what they are about to do and they CHOOSE to ignore the consequences, most likely because they think/hope they won't get caught. Or the "it only... (read in full...)
Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: I think it's a little too early to decide this for EITHER of you. YOU are only 17, sorry there is NO hurry in settling down with anyone just yet.
And I agree with Tisha's answer. He seems to think all he has to do is flatter the crap out of you a... (read in full...)
What does he mean he 'doesn't want drama'?
Q. Hi , so there is this guy at my work that I like so much but he is m y boss. I knoe he likes me too because of the way he act. But he never tells me that he likes me so last night I told him I like him very much and all he said was he is much ...
A. 26 April 2013: I have to agree with the sentiment, HE is your BOSS - don't go there.
And what he meant is if you two have a "fling" he wants no drama, nor does he want to date you.... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Did he get mad at me for not sleeping with him?
Q. There is this guy in my class who I had never spoken to until last Friday (I am very quiet in class). Last Friday, I somehow ended up talking to him and we went to eat after school. At night, I ended up at a small party with my friends and he w...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you read him right. He wanted more and when you didn't play ball he got mad. Obviously he thought if you were going to do a lap-dance (even on a dare) you were willing to have sex.
I wouldn't worry, he isn't for you if he can't TALK to ... (read in full...)
My Mom seems to want me to be more like her. But that's not me. How can I handle this problem?
Q. hey aunties and uncles, it's not a relationship question, well not of the romantic kind anyway. just a quick background, As a child I wasn't very shy but as the years passed I suppose I became shy with strangers at school I wasn't bullied, ...
A. 25 April 2013: I don't think your mom expects her to be JUST like her, but just to be polite.
Saying hi and how are you? is not painful and it's not going to turn you into your mother. Rather then act sullen that she ran into yet another acquaintance, just say... (read in full...)
Going on holiday without my boyfriend - should I tell him the truth about where I'm going?
Q. Am i being selfish going on holiday without my boyfriend? I'm going to London for three days next week with my mum. My boyfriend doesn't even know yet! When my boyfriend gets paid, he goes to see his friends for about three days. Sometimes less, ...
A. 25 April 2013: Why couldn't you tell him? I'm popping down to London with my mom for a long week-end.
What's wrong in that? And you will ONLY be gone 3 days, I'm pretty sure he can survive that. You aren't going to the moon or someplace without phones, right?
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I want to move in with my BF but get the mortgage on the place myself. Is this right?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend are moving in together soon and it might be possible for me to have a mortgage on a place. However I don't want to go into a mortgage with my boyfriend. It sounds cruel but even though i adore him I just dont fe...
A. 25 April 2013: If you can afford the mortgage alone, then I don't see the problem at all.
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Could my boyfriend have lied to me? He said he was a virgin when we met, but seemed to know so much.
Q. My boyfriend and I were to together for five years. When we first met we were both virgins but throughout are relationship it was always in the back of my head thinking about. What if he hadn't been a virgin? He said he was but he knew so much abou...
A. 25 April 2013: I agree with Cerberus. It wasn't that he had WASTE knowledge, it was that you had NONE.
I don't see WHY he would lie about it. Women (not all, don't get me wrong) lie about it, because men still thinks a woman being a virgin is somehow better. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like you more when you're taken ?
Q. Dear Cupid Why do guys like girl more when they are in a relationship? Why do guys pay more attention and seem to be attracted to women who are taken? When i had a boyfriend guys always wanted to take me out. But now that I'm single there's no g...
A. 25 April 2013: I think when you are happily dating/engaged or married to someone you gives off these happy vibes and I think people pick up on those, not as them being "happy vibes" but;" OH she is attractive vibes".
And for some guys/gals it becomes a game. It... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 25 April 2013: Cheating is cheating no matter the package and the morals of said package.
I don't think you can really compare it in a way that either scenarios is "better" then the other. Yes, lying on top of cheating is just wrong.
Being drunk is no excu... (read in full...)
It's over, but he still wants me around?
Q. My ex boyfriend of 5 years dumped me 4 months ago and won't let me go. He broke my heart. He told me he wasn't fully sure I was the one for him and he couldn't go on feeling these feelings of uncertainty any longer. He told me he loved me and...
A. 25 April 2013: Stop trying to be friends with him (at least for now) go non-contact and STAY that way til you feel you are actually over him.
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We don't have any kids and I even hate to mention this, but should I run before it's too late?
Q. My husband is a jerk and very careless with money! I don't even know where to start!!! Ok, I've taken a few deep breaths and I think I'm ready to explain. My husband is very naïve when it comes to all things money. For example, he wants to tak...
A. 25 April 2013: Get yourself a job, get your ducks in a row and divorce him, he will NOT change.
He isn't naïve about money, he is careless.
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Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: OK, so HE thinks EVERY woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, but what do YOU think?
Is this something you WANT to do? And Do you really think it's more then a fantasy for him? I have seen people try and live out their fantasie... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: I would sit her down and talk. I would NOT accept that ultimatum. I DO understand that most women do NOT like the thought of their partner ogling a stripper or touch/be danced on by one. I GET that. Personally, I think the whole concept or idea of ... (read in full...)
BF face book status "when God sends her, don’t lose her" What does this mean?
Q. My current partner and I have been together for 1.5 years. Him and his last gf were together for 7 years and were going to get married. When he met her, she was ******* somebody else’s boyfriend. 4 years into the relationship, he cheated. He told ...
A. 25 April 2013: Then if he really NEEDS to be in touch with her, I would just not get into any discussion about her, if he brings her up.
I know when hubby and I first dated he brought up some things his ex didn't do( things he didn't like/like), and I told him... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 24 April 2013: Honestly, I wouldn't marry him til he has gotten some grief counseling and til he is FULLY aboard you to getting married isn't an affront to the memory of this ex GF.
One thing though, He might think that relationship was perfect, that they NEV... (read in full...)
Girlfriend makes me wash my hands after touching my penis because she's afraid of getting pregnant. Could it happen like that?
Q. hi all. i have a big question to ask. my girlfriend and i fool around, as in oral sex. she is afraid while im giving her pleasure with my finger that sometimes i have to readjust my erection and she makes me go wash my hands because she is afraid ...
A. 24 April 2013: Maybe she needs to consider getting on birth-control so she doesn't HAVE to feel so freaked out every-time you two "play"? and maybe consider some flavored condoms for that kind of play. I can't even imagine how she can enjoy it when she is scared ... (read in full...)
I went out dancing with my new girl and her sisters.
Q. I went out dancing with my girlfriend and her sisters. She and I are just starting to date. Another girl come up and ask me to dance I said no out of respect but my girlfriend, half drunk said to go ahead. Does this mean that she does not care ...
A. 24 April 2013: I think it was her way of "showing" or trying to show, that she isn't a possessive & jealous type.
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My husband wants to have a baby with another woman. He's says I'm making this out to be a big deal. Am I over-reacting like he says?
Q. Im 20 years old and have 2 kids. My oldest is 4 and she is from a past relationship. Im now married and we just had our son in February. Recently my husband has been talking about having a baby of his own with another woman. I thought he was k...
A. 24 April 2013: I HAVE to second this sentiment:
This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!!!
My husband had 3 kids before we got married (and we have 3 together) which means HE has 6 and I have 3, should I go out and get knocked up 3 more times so we... (read in full...)
BF face book status "when God sends her, don’t lose her" What does this mean?
Q. My current partner and I have been together for 1.5 years. Him and his last gf were together for 7 years and were going to get married. When he met her, she was ******* somebody else’s boyfriend. 4 years into the relationship, he cheated. He told ...
A. 24 April 2013: I would talk to him some more about this. The reason you ARE hostile towards the ex, is because he has told you nothing but bad about her (I assume). However, I have to agree that you need to really stop the comparison, it isn't helping YOU in any ... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend, or is she curious about more?
Q. I've been seperated for two years. I have two dogs, and about eight months ago I met a lady at the dog park. Our dogs really liked each other, and played constantly. Over the next couple months, I'd encounter her once-twice a week at t...
A. 23 April 2013: She has a BF and you are not even legally single. So why start stuff with her?
Even IF she was curious about a relationship with you, she haven't made a move. MAYBE because she DOES have a BF and doesn't WANT to cheat or end the relationship... (read in full...)
Pregnant and he finishes with me?? What the...
Q. Hi everyone. This may be a bit long-- but please bare with me. I'm very shocked. I found out yesterday I am pregnant. I'm 24 and very fortunate to be in a good well paying job with a good maternity package also. I have been with my boyfriend for...
A. 23 April 2013: I think he is using the baby as an excuse to end it. Yes, he didn't want a baby and maybe felt you got pregnant on purpose? As it's kind of hard to prove you didn't (and hard to prove you did).
I think if I were you, I would prepare myself f... (read in full...)
A classic case of miscommunication, hurt male pride, and immaturity LDR
Q. Background information: He and I met on the internet when I was 13 and he was 14. He lives in London and I live in Tennessee. The last time I was there in August(2012) things changed between us and we decided to try a long distance relationship ...
A. 23 April 2013: LDR's are hard. Specially when most of the communication is through written stuff, it IS easy to misconstrue or misunderstand things. The thing is, when in a LDR you NEED to ask before going on the offensive. IF you think he meant one thing (which ... (read in full...)
Why is he going from very very hot to cool and will a bit of jealousy make him make his move once and for all?
Q. Does making someone jealous work generally as in they will show their feelings or come forward quicker if they think someone else is interested in you. I wouldnt usually be into games like that but a friend of mine who iv been talking to nearl...
A. 23 April 2013: My guess is it would probably backfire. Playing games is rarely a good idea.
Like the other posters said, why don't YOU make the first move?
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Why cant I befriend this girl who is also friends with my BF?
Q. Both my boyfriend and I share a large friend group who we have all been friends with for a long time. There is this other girl in the group who I seem to be bothered by a lot. To be honest, me and her are really the only two girls in the group, th...
A. 23 April 2013: She doesn't WANT you as her friend because she DOES see you as the competition.
I would just be nice and polite to her, but I wouldn't try any more to be her friend.
And I agree with Cindy, so what if she is a flirt? That is how SHE wants to... (read in full...)
BF face book status "when God sends her, don’t lose her" What does this mean?
Q. My current partner and I have been together for 1.5 years. Him and his last gf were together for 7 years and were going to get married. When he met her, she was ******* somebody else’s boyfriend. 4 years into the relationship, he cheated. He told ...
A. 23 April 2013: I have no idea why he put that on there or what exactly he means by it.
I would tell him HOW it makes you feel and get him to talk.
And as far as the ex-gf, you really need to try and stop comparing yourself to her. Life isn't a competition. I... (read in full...)
Two weeks after a holiday with my family, I am not into my BF, Why?
Q. This guy I have been dating for 3 months is starting to get on my nerves and I would like to understand why that is, as before that we got to know each other as platonic friends (about 4 months before he made a move). Nothing would ever have ...
A. 23 April 2013: I think you are realizing that he isn't BF material (for you at least) and now you are nit-picking him finding reasons WHY he isn't.
Why is happened after the 2 week vacation? Maybe because you don't really know him that well and you thought ... (read in full...)
He wants me to 'talk dirty' and it's outside of my comfort zone
Q. Well, here it goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. The sex is great, though he is much more experienced than I am. Lately he has been pushing me to 'talk dirty' and I just don't know how x.x I always freeze up and it ...
A. 23 April 2013: I think you should talk to HIM about what it is he wants to hear and if you are STILL not comfortable with it, tell him. What might make it easier if you role-play, but I don't know if that is something you want to try.
Personally, talking ... (read in full...)
When is it right for a teenager to start having sex?
Q. if a boy tell u to do your school work and then call him and u and this boy been together long and u is 15 year old girl should u have sex with your boyfriend ?...
A. 23 April 2013: I think you should wait, you are obviously not ready.
Also, CMMP is right, be prepared, get on birth-control and use it right. You want to do "grown up" stuff, be responsible.... (read in full...)
I prioritised my exams over diner date with GF, was I wrong?
Q. I wanted to share my little problem im having with my gf. On sunday me and my gf organised a dinner date with her friend at 7.30pm. That day i had my cpr and first aid certification school untill 6pm. So i spent all day doing cpr certific...
A. 23 April 2013: Did you know ahead of time that you would HAVE an exam? If so, you should have told her ahead of time. That way she could have rescheduled this dinner date, which was apparently important to her.
But in general, no, your exams are MORE importan... (read in full...)
What is Girl Talk?
Q. my girlfriend tell me that she wants this relationship to last for a long timethe college and just life and we have been dating for 2 months and then we spend the whole day together and then she tells me she is headed to get friends house to have a ...
A. 23 April 2013: Girl talk is a LOT of talk about random subjects. A possibility to vent little stuff that YOU as her BF might rather want to roll your eyes at but a close GF will listen, comment and give advice of.
You two have only been dating 2 months so she i... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell his potential new boss that he got married since the last time they talked?
Q. My husband recently had lunch with a potential new boss. He met him a couple years ago, when we had just moved in together (not married yet). Now, my husband and I are expecting our first child. He's very proud to talk about it with everyone he's ...
A. 23 April 2013: It could be that he is waiting to get the job to start talking about his family. I think women like to share these details more then men in general.
Also, I don't think he did it to "snub" you, his wife.
The guy is not a friend of your (or real... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell his potential new boss that he got married since the last time they talked?
Q. My husband recently had lunch with a potential new boss. He met him a couple years ago, when we had just moved in together (not married yet). Now, my husband and I are expecting our first child. He's very proud to talk about it with everyone he's ...
A. 22 April 2013: That seems odd, I have to agree. Does he normally keep private things close to the vest?
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Is my significant other micromanaging me and is he also needy and clingy?
Q. My significant other saw me organizing my workspace at home (I work out of the home). I needed to get it in order to take pictures for the tax file. He told me I should be working at my drafting table. He told me I have too much stuff in my curi...
A. 22 April 2013: I would just gently tell him when he point out things he "thinks" you should change, that THIS is how YOU like it.
If he brings up a point and you agree let him know that too.
My husband is the one on Facebook and quite honestly I think... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell his potential new boss that he got married since the last time they talked?
Q. My husband recently had lunch with a potential new boss. He met him a couple years ago, when we had just moved in together (not married yet). Now, my husband and I are expecting our first child. He's very proud to talk about it with everyone he's ...
A. 22 April 2013: Maybe the interview meeting was about work, not his private life?
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My 12 year old daughter told me she is bisexual. I don't know how to handle this?
Q. HEllo,i have an 12yr old daughter who told me over this. Weekend she is bisexual she told me she have had these type of feelings since last yr.Iam totally Shock and concerned i don't know what to do or say i'd ask her have she ever been with a girl ...
A. 22 April 2013: Calm down. She is ONLY 12 and getting her first burst of hormones, no wonder she thinks she is bi.
Just love her, she is the same kid as she was before she told you. It might just be a phase, it might not.
I would just have some open and ho... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was annoyed by my FB post. Did she over-react? Was her reaction immature? I thought the post was light fun.
Q. Three days ago, I wrote on my Facebook Wall that "If you can't change the girl, change the girl!" . My girlfriend (for two years) didn't like it and called me jerk when she met me later. She is talking to me but can see some change in her at...
A. 22 April 2013: As you can see by most of the females who answered your post, it wasn't perceived as funny at all.
I don't see the fun it it either, to be honest and I would have assumed (if I read the post on a friends wall ( I don't do FB) I would have thought ... (read in full...)
I created a fake ad on Craigslist to see if my boyfriend would make contact. He did, now what do I do?
Q. A little background info first: my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. He always told me I was his first love and I'm the first girl he's even considered marriage with and so on. His family has even told me I'm the first ...
A. 22 April 2013: I can easily see this back-fire and him claiming he KNEW this was you and that is why he answered.
Personally, I would just end it. You know that he has done this AT LEAST twice in the past, and even AFTER getting caught he did it again. So chanc... (read in full...)
My controlling Aunt wants us to change the date of our wedding. How can I deal with her reaction?
Q. Recent events have upset me and dare say ruined my wedding ...Please read... My aunt (my dad’s sister) has always been a bit controlling. I remember when I was a child she'd always have tantrums and cause arguments if things didn't go her wa...
A. 21 April 2013: Sorry, you even have to deal with a drama-llama like that.
Have you sat your dad down and talk to him? I know you mentioned that he thinks it's woman's stuff, but that to me is a cop out.
Secondly, I would go ahead and have the wedding on the p... (read in full...)
Should I give up everything, and move interstate to be with my boyfriend? It would mean giving up my own home, which I purchased before I met him.
Q. I have been with my BF for 4 years. We are each in our late 20's/early 30s. I have my own house. He still lives at home. He was studying which is why he stayed there, but he could have moved out by now! (has it too good!). A big concern for me ...
A. 21 April 2013: So YOU have a job, and OWN a home and live near family - he lives at home and goes to school and YOU should give everything up for him? He is the one without any other ties then family right now.
I think that is really unfair of him to make tho... (read in full...)
I want this to be more than just "One Night Stand". What should I do guys to make this work?
Q. Dear All So here it goes, I have a colleague at my work place that I truly am attracted to him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him. He lately been flirting with me sexually, his been touching my waist when he has the ...
A. 21 April 2013: I would cut down on the flirting and sexual innuendos for the simple reason that he might think you are NOT really looking for anything more then a roll in the hay. And definitely no sex.
THIS is a co-worker. If you have sex and he wants nothing ... (read in full...)
This woman keeps flirting with my fiance right in front of me, what should I do?
Q. I know there isn't anything I can actually do about this but maybe someone who has gone through this can tell me what I should do. Basically I need to know how to best handle a situation where this woman flirts with my fiance right in front o...
A. 20 April 2013: I have to agree with Sage and Cerberus.
SHE isn't doing it to get YOU mad, but because he RESPONDS positively to it.
YOUR gripe should be with your BF, not her.... (read in full...)
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