They're both friends, she cheated -- I feel caught in the middle
Q. Hi everyone, I have friend that´s temporarily abroad for work - she´ll be back in one month. She confessed to me that she´s cheated on her boyfriend with some man there...And she begged me not to tell his boyfriend, that is my good friend too...He ...
A. 19 June 2013: I would ask her straight out HOW she would feel if the roles were reversed and HE had cheated, would she want you to tell or not?
And then I would call her bluff, and tell you she NEEDS to be the one to tell him.... (read in full...)
His ex is back -- should I even try to compete with her?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and before we were together he was with his ex girlfriend for 7 years, she broke his heart. When he started dating me, she said all kinds of really nasty things about my appearance, and that he could do...
A. 17 June 2013: I think you need to sit him down and tell him what you wrote on here, how you actually feel.
It MIGHT give him food for thought to stop talking to her.
And no, don't try and compete with an ex. It's pointless - if he WANTS to be with you he w... (read in full...)
Should I explain my insecurities to him?
Q. I've recently started seeing this amazing guy, who I really do like, it's early days but still. We both really like each other and things are going good. But the other day we were walking through town holding hands, and I got a text from my ex (I ...
A. 17 June 2013: No need to explain, you just need to learn to not give so many fucks about what an ex thinks and STOP talking/texting with him, he is only out to poke and jab you and that is doing NOTHING good for you (or for him really).
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HELP! How do I tell my flatmate she rude, without being rude myself???
Q. Moved into a great new place 3 weeks ago. My new flatmate is a 45yr old Russian and I am 25yr old British, so I appreciate that perhaps there could be a cultural thing with the difference of how things are said/done in our different countries. ...
A. 17 June 2013: You can try making some house rules with her and see how it goes, personally I'd be looking for another place to rent. I would not have some flat-mate dictate my life.
And.. I would STOP letting her use the stick for Internet, if she gets annoyed ... (read in full...)
Should I dye my hair blonde because b/f likes blondes? I am worried he might go for a blonde if I'm not one too!
Q. hey, i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for a little over a year (let call him r), we have fun and love each other so much, but one thing he does hurts me. basically we went out for a bit before and then we broke up because we we...
A. 17 June 2013: I have to agree with SVC - don't change to PLEASE a guy. Because what if he wants you to have brown eyes or a bigger boobs.. should you then wear contacts and get a boob job?
IF he leaves you because you are NOT blond, is he worth keeping?... (read in full...)
Why did my husband leave me after 6 years of marriage?
Q. Why did he leave me? My husband left my son and I after 6 years of marriage. He wanted his freedom and to be able to do as he pleased. He was having "the grass is greener" issues. He was verbally and emotionally abusive and generally not a good...
A. 17 June 2013: I don't blame you for taking it personal, but it does seem like it has a LOT more to do with HIS personality and personal demons then yours.
Find ways to accept it and to be happy that he is out of your life, you already know it's for the better i... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 17 June 2013: Break up with your GF if she doesn't attract you sexually instead of stabbing her in the back and cheating.
Her being FAT is no excuse to cheat, if you don't know that.. then I feel kind of sorry for you.
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My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 17 June 2013: I wouldn't reply either. He obviously is trying to make you the "bad" guy. How passive-aggressive of him.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what's going on here?
Q. I've been "going out" with this girl who I really really like for the past 2 months. We get along great, whenever we are together we have a really nice time. She texts me A LOT, but mostly random stuff. Thing is, aside from that, she doesn't...
A. 17 June 2013: Unfortunately for you, I agree 100% with Cindy. She likes you for now, but she isn't INTO you.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend not over his ex wife?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, 1 year living together. His ex wife (with whom he has 2 children) remarried 2 years ago and just had a baby. During the pregnancy he gave me updates on her health, the scans and on the day of the birth was ...
A. 17 June 2013: Do they share custody? Does he have the kids every now and then? If so I can MAYBE understand part of it, like if he was to have the kids when she went into labor or whatnot, but it seems just a tad much.
Though, I think he is totally OVER-INV... (read in full...)
He says he loves me even though he cheated, got another woman pregnant and plan to marry her
Q. I've been seeing this guy since march 2012. I was 20 and he was 33. He's from south america and was doing his masters. It was his last year here and after he's done with the masters he was supposed to leave. So we started this knowing we don't ...
A. 17 June 2013: I'm sorry you are in the middle of all this mess, but you DO have a few choices.
One you stay with him as his "thing" on the side (yes on the side if he marries her) and then if you agree to that, you are going to have to suck it all up and be h... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 16 June 2013: If you don't plan on visiting him, I would block him. Because what is the point in getting texts from him if you are trying to move past it.
One thing you have to accept is, you might NOT get closure. Specially if he can't even have the decency ... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 15 June 2013: Maybe he sent those because he doesn't want to seem like it is HIM "dumping" you. More like he is letting you down "gently, which we all know is crap and cowardly.... (read in full...)
Roommate is bringing cats into the home -- but I already have a dog
Q. I need your advice yet again agony aunts. Its not a relationship problembut rather a friendship problem. Ok, so I have 2 roommates and 1 is my best friend since I moved here. I also have a dog who loves people but can be picky with other dogs. Well ...
A. 15 June 2013: Who is on the lease? YOU or all of you? IF the one who wants to bring in cats isn't on the lease, she needs to find another home for the cats and or herself.. tough titties.
If that is not how you want to do it, I suggest you start teaching... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 14 June 2013: Sounds like he's found "greener grass" closer to home to be honest.
I would let HIM do the next contacting, if he doesn't call/text in the next week I'd mail back whatever you feel you "owe" him or just don't want to keep that he's given you, and... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but want out of the relationship
Q. I am 4 months pregnant with my fiance's baby, but i want out of this relationship, i have found conversations from emails and facebook that are just inappropriate and disrespectful, where the conversations are sometimes about our personal ...
A. 14 June 2013: I agree don't take it out on the baby that you are done with him and the relationship.
You can still adopt the child out or go solo parenting, many many women do that and do it successfully. Don't let him be a millstone around your neck.
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My fiance's behaviour with the bosses daughter is out of line
Q. My Fiancé is friends with his boss and the boss's wife. I really like both of them, but I noticed that the boss's daughter who is 14 years old has a huge crush on my fiancé. Which is fine and normal but at a group party at the boss's house she would ...
A. 14 June 2013: Tell him how it looks. I'm sorry but a grown ass man should try and be "Buddy" with a 14 year old girl, specially not if she has a crush on him.
Is he really that dense that he can't see how this can end really bad for him? ... (read in full...)
Is it abnormal for my 20 year old girlfriend to sleep in the same bed with her mom regularly?
Q. My girlfriend is 20. We've been together for two years. She told me something that totally caught me off guard and when I think about it, it seems somehow wrong. We were talking about our parents. She was telling me some happy stories ab...
A. 14 June 2013: Normal. The fact that you think there is something seedy about makes me question YOUR attitude a little..... (read in full...)
I met my online date, but do not like him. How do I let this fade away?
Q. I've been exchanging messages with this guy I met online for the past two weeks. We basically wrote lengthy letters to one another, covering a variety of topics. He's basically an open book, and a genuine guy from the "research" I've done on him. ...
A. 14 June 2013: I have to agree 100% with Cerberus, BE freaking honest with the dude, don't string him along because you don't want to look like the "bad guy" by telling him you don't see the two of you as anything else but friends.
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After 5 months of dating he says he needs time. I don't know what I did wrong?
Q. I've been dating this man for 5 months. Things have gone as they should and we've gotten very close. We spend every weekend together and see each other several times during the week. I have let him lead the relationship. It has always been him ...
A. 13 June 2013: Did you ask him why?
And with what you said I would just cut the contact, no movies no coffee. If he doesn't WANT a relationship with YOU, he "can't" have you as a "friend" either.
Though I think him saying "could have a movie" but understand i... (read in full...)
Our marriage is hanging by a thread. My husband changed his facebook password and won't give it to me!
Q. I need help trying to not let it bother me that my husband changed his fb pass on me and wont give it to me cause i cant trust him. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and im trying really hard to fix this prob. It doesnt help that most people I ...
A. 13 June 2013: There marriage is new. YOU TWO need to learn how to talk TO each other.
YOU are letting your imagination run wild, instead ASK him. Hey, honey how come you changed your PW on your FB?
And having his PW isn't going to stop him from breaking up... (read in full...)
G/f can achieve orgasm only by herself not through sex. I'm starting to love her less and less
Q. Thanks in advance for any replies. Basically my girlfriend rarely achieves orgasm when we are together. We've tried the obvious things from me going down on her for a long time, to putting a pillow under her hips for when I am on top. When she...
A. 13 June 2013: The reason the "crossing her legs" method works so well is because she gets off from clitoral stimuli. So... maybe get a little buzz-buzz finger vibrator or cockring with a buzz and try that out.
You said you can get her off with oral? Isn't th... (read in full...)
I just want an answer from him -- are we done?
Q. I was seeing a man who is 26. I am 37 with two kids who is recently seperated. We have hooked up a few times. text daily. The past week he seems cold and the texts are zero. He also was at my house and stayed over three times 2 weeks ago, but ...
A. 12 June 2013: I think you know this, it's pretty obvious that he has had his roll in the hay and looking for "greener" pastures.
IF he does contact you again my bet would be because he is horny and YOU are convenient & available.
If you don't mind being... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me with his roommate? Do I just break up with him or trust him? HELP!!
Q. I am going crazy about my boyfriend... He give me so many mixed messages and I dont know what to do. He tells me he loves me, wants to be with me but then in the next sentence tells me something that contradicts what I know to be a loving ...
A. 12 June 2013: The room-mate doesn't really have an advantage over you per se, he is USING her just as he is USING you.
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He said "I'll always love you" but then broke up with me. What does he mean?
Q. my bf broke up with me and he said "ill always love you" what does he really mean when he says that? does he even mean it or is he saying it to make himself not look like such a jerk? his reason for the breakup was that he didnt want to be in a ...
A. 12 June 2013: You can love someone but not want to BE with them.
Whether he actually MEANS it or not is irrelevant for you as he doesn't WANT to BE with you in a relationship, so he can "love" you til the cows come home and it still won't make you feel bet... (read in full...)
Our marriage is hanging by a thread. My husband changed his facebook password and won't give it to me!
Q. I need help trying to not let it bother me that my husband changed his fb pass on me and wont give it to me cause i cant trust him. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and im trying really hard to fix this prob. It doesnt help that most people I ...
A. 12 June 2013: Other then the FB change of PW what else makes you not trust him? There has to be other reason, or it's not making sense.
Being married doesn't mean HE (and/or you) have to give up your entire right to privacy. Some couples she accounts, some sha... (read in full...)
My wife spent over 37 hours talking/texting/sending nude photos and says I'm selfish because I can't move past it!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 10 years. 6 months ago I caught my wife talk to a guy she meet on a online poker game. She told me they're just friends on a game but when I checked the phone bill and it was more than talking. In a month they ...
A. 12 June 2013: Because she doesn't want to admit that SHE is the one doing the "wrong" thing so playing a guilt trip on you is easier. The fact that she is STILL sending texts/pictures shows how "little" she actually regrets her actions.
You certainly don't HA... (read in full...)
Why did I fall out of love with her so drastically?
Q. Why did I change? Why did I fall out of loves with her so drastically? I was in a relationship for just over a 1 1/2 years. I never really felt like she was the right person for me, but I stuck it out because we were having a lot of fun together,...
A. 11 June 2013: Maybe the reality is that you were MORE in love with the IDEA of her as a person and as your GF then you were with the ACTUAL girl. It happens.
So she wasn't the ONE for you, you did the right thing and ended it. ... (read in full...)
If I give her what she wants, how do I know I will get what I want later?
Q. My girlfriend and I have had an amazing relationship. We clicked right from the start and I have to say that I have never had feelings for anyone else than I have for her. We had a small issue earlier this year where she thought she didn't have ...
A. 11 June 2013: From what you describe it seems to me that she has all the control in the relationship and you none, not because you don't want any but because she "rules" the relationship pace (at least) with fear, and you are trying to show her JUST how willing ... (read in full...)
G/f can achieve orgasm only by herself not through sex. I'm starting to love her less and less
Q. Thanks in advance for any replies. Basically my girlfriend rarely achieves orgasm when we are together. We've tried the obvious things from me going down on her for a long time, to putting a pillow under her hips for when I am on top. When she...
A. 11 June 2013: I have to say, READ YOUWISH's post dear OP til you get it.
There is NOTHING WRONG with your GF, she sound rather normal actually.
Your penis is NOT a magic wand (yeah, I'm sorry to break that to you...) You NEED to learn how to please a women w... (read in full...)
Why do guys like my accent when its nothing special?
Q. I live in Wales and I've noticed since I've moved there a lot of guys comment on my accent and the sound of my voice! I wanted to know why is it that they like it so much, some even tell me they could listen to me speak for ages and that and english ...
A. 11 June 2013: People like various accents for various reasons. Usually people "adore" accents they don't hear every day. It makes them feel like they "get out" a little in the world so to speak.
Some like a Texan Twang, others a hint of French/Italian. It's dif... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm worried about my boyfriend being in the air force?
Q. Hey y'all. My boyfriend is in the air force, doing special ops. And this requires field training where he goes in the woods and try to basically survive. Well, when we started dating, he was already in, so I couldn't change his mind if I wanted to. ...
A. 11 June 2013: I think it's understandable that you worry about him given his job, but I don't think you can tell him what career YOU want him to have. Imagine you want him to be a banker, not in the AF so he gets a discharge and is miserable working in a bank. Is ... (read in full...)
Are we getting too close in our FWB relationship?
Q. Hi all just needin some advice.ive been in a friends with benefits relationship for 7 months now,we have such fun together. Been ten pin bowling and to the pictures together, things that friends should do.i like this. This is ok for me. Recently ive ...
A. 11 June 2013: Do I understand this correctly, he is your "guy" on the sly? You also have a BF/husband/fiance?
If so what do you need a "FWB" for?... (read in full...)
After cheating and a break up, my ex friended me on facebook. How do I respond?
Q. My ex and I were in a LDR. We broke up last month. It was a bad breakup. I asked him for closure, but he didn't say anything or contact me. I was heartbroken and cried to bed almost every night. I defriended him on Facebook after the breakup and ...
A. 10 June 2013: I agree DO not let him back in, not in your life and not even on FB, there is no reason to hang on to a guy like this and you DO NOT OWE him friendship or anything else either.
Just block him. ... (read in full...)
Can you come back from bad fights and make it new again?
Q. My man and I have split up twice in a short amount of time and gotten back together. We had a few knock down drag out fights. Emotionally anyway. We just got back together today after a couple of days apart. We love each other and want to work out, ...
A. 10 June 2013: No you can't make it "new" again, but you can work through problems. You can BOTH learn to compromise and communicate better. But like so many other things, it takes TWO willing people.... (read in full...)
My bf's attention to his ex is hurting me. Am I being unreasonable? Help.
Q. I'm getting really down in the dumps about my boyfriend messaging his ex behind my back all the time. They split up 10 years ago but he speaks to her more than any of his other friends. He knows I find it uncomfortable and its starting to hurt me. ...
A. 10 June 2013: I have to agree that if he calls her a prostitute and talks smack about her, it makes no sense to stay friends or even friendly. So there has to be more to it then there is.
Do you two live together? If you live together I can understand wanting ... (read in full...)
I want to hear from his ex why they broke up!
Q. Hey everyone, I'v been dating this guy for about 2 months now,things are going great between us..during the initial days of our dating we had discussed about our ex's..he ex happenes to study in my class I was aware of it but when she broke up with ...
A. 10 June 2013: The ex doesn't owe you an explanation, neither does he to be frank.
Why can't you accept his "version"?
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Attempts at anal sex cause extreme pain. What can we do?
Q. I apologize in advance if this gets to be too gross or weird. It is for me but I figured some answers might be helpful since past posts have always been. My boyfriend has tried anal sex a few times but I've always stopped him immediately beca...
A. 10 June 2013: No lube? are you nuts? The ass do NOT produce any kind of lubrication (unlike the vagina) so NOT using anything is madness.
Also if it hurts so bad that you are about to pass out from pain why the F are you doing it? To please him? Does he enjoy... (read in full...)
Men: how reasonable is it to think that they sent over 500 sexually explicit messages in a month, that they were only together twice?
Q. I am in a very difficult situation. I found out after 9 years of being with my husband he cheated. He didnt come clean, I just so happened to find out one day and confronted him about it. At first he lied over and over until he decided to "come all ...
A. 10 June 2013: I don't think the big point is how many times they had actual intercourse, they WERE (are) romantically and emotionally invested in each other if they have fired off more then 500 explicit messages in a month.
Which means he would rather live in ... (read in full...)
Is it charming or tacky to give daily Online updates about your relationship?
Q. OK, so my friend and I got into a argument today. He started dating this girl, a real looker. I'm subscribed to his facebook and in the past two months it's like every post is about her. Her photo, stuff she said, places they went. He's my bu...
A. 10 June 2013: It's Facebook, I can't take that serious at all. Like others suggested hide his newsfeed if it annoys you.
Personally, I find it ridiculous what lame crap people put on FB/Twitter/Tumblr - and thus I deleted my FB - If I want ANYONE to know wha... (read in full...)
It hurts me that my dad is cheating on my mom. How should I deal with this?
Q. Ok so i think my dad is cheating on my mom and she knows. I think this because i read a txt message that said "ever since ive told you i wasnt with her you've changed" also one night i heard a conversation involving "you were with her!" And "you ...
A. 10 June 2013: It is pretty hurtful to stand on the sideline and watch two people you love destroy their marriage. I know because my Dad cheated on my mom and she knew too. She tried to yelling, the pretending it didn't happen, to threatening divorce and so forth. ... (read in full...)
My bf's attention to his ex is hurting me. Am I being unreasonable? Help.
Q. I'm getting really down in the dumps about my boyfriend messaging his ex behind my back all the time. They split up 10 years ago but he speaks to her more than any of his other friends. He knows I find it uncomfortable and its starting to hurt me. ...
A. 10 June 2013: Some people are able to maintain a friendship after the relationship is over, some are not. To be honest, from most of your post is does sound like he isn't over her by a long shot, not even 10 years later. Maybe because SHE ditched him?
But I... (read in full...)
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