My bf's attention to his ex is hurting me. Am I being unreasonable? Help.
Q. I'm getting really down in the dumps about my boyfriend messaging his ex behind my back all the time. They split up 10 years ago but he speaks to her more than any of his other friends. He knows I find it uncomfortable and its starting to hurt me. ...
A. 10 June 2013: I have to agree that if he calls her a prostitute and talks smack about her, it makes no sense to stay friends or even friendly. So there has to be more to it then there is.
Do you two live together? If you live together I can understand wanting ... (read in full...)
It hurts me that my dad is cheating on my mom. How should I deal with this?
Q. Ok so i think my dad is cheating on my mom and she knows. I think this because i read a txt message that said "ever since ive told you i wasnt with her you've changed" also one night i heard a conversation involving "you were with her!" And "you ...
A. 10 June 2013: It is pretty hurtful to stand on the sideline and watch two people you love destroy their marriage. I know because my Dad cheated on my mom and she knew too. She tried to yelling, the pretending it didn't happen, to threatening divorce and so forth. ... (read in full...)
My bf's attention to his ex is hurting me. Am I being unreasonable? Help.
Q. I'm getting really down in the dumps about my boyfriend messaging his ex behind my back all the time. They split up 10 years ago but he speaks to her more than any of his other friends. He knows I find it uncomfortable and its starting to hurt me. ...
A. 10 June 2013: Some people are able to maintain a friendship after the relationship is over, some are not. To be honest, from most of your post is does sound like he isn't over her by a long shot, not even 10 years later. Maybe because SHE ditched him?
But I... (read in full...)
Out of nowhere he tells me that he's going to date this girl, that he loves her more then he ever loved me and he's completely positive that he's going to marry her. Um..what just happened?
Q. I started talking to an ex again about 5 months back. We'd been talking and it seemed like things were headed back toward a relationship. (Yay, because this was the one guy that I could actually see any future with). Then out of no where he tells me ...
A. 3 May 2013: I'm sorry I think he kept you around in case she turned him down. Sorta like a rebound relationship.
I would let him go and NOT talk to him again and I CERTAINLY wouldn't see him or date him ever again.... (read in full...)
My man refuses to have sex with me for the past 4 months
Q. So for the past 4 months out of my 10 month relationship my boyfriend has not touched me. He says that he is not emotionally ready. Due to issues we have been having. I know one thing for a fact is that he is not cheating. I am becoming extremely ...
A. 3 May 2013: What kind of issues?
And did you two have sex the first 6 months of the relationship?... (read in full...)
He's 25 years older than me! Should I just find someone my own age?
Q. Hi, am a young lady of 20 years old and 4months ago I months ago I met a 45year old man. Since then we have been communicating very well, but we don't meet regularly as he doesn't stay in town but works here. He told me he have never been married ...
A. 3 May 2013: If your gut is screaming he is only in it for the sex, you should listen to it. Though let's face it, that has less to do with his age.
Like iAmHereToHelpYou mentioned, do you even have anything in common? Do you enjoy each other's company ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to tell my friend that on a girls night out for my birthday everyone pay for themselves, and not me paying for everyone?
Q. I have a situation that I need some clarification with your help. My birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. Usually this is what we do with my friends: we get together only girls and go first to dinner and then club to dance. It's alwa...
A. 3 May 2013: Yes, you did the right thing in telling them. Though and this is just my personal opinion, when you invite people out to eat it means you want to pay. However if you let them ALL know ahead of time that you will only be covering $$ then I think that ... (read in full...)
Co-worker will not stop asking me out even after saying no several times... what should I do?
Q. There is this guy I work with who has been showing interest in me for over a year. He is older than me by 10 or so years, but he is in a position below me. Several times he has told me that he is attracted to me, that he cares for me, and that he ...
A. 3 May 2013: I read somewhere that 80 % of women who told a guy that they are seeing someone else, got left alone, but women who said no weren't.
So my advice... Tell him you are seeing someone. That ought to make him back off.
If not, I would simply tel... (read in full...)
When I visit my BF he always has girls in his house, and this makes me feel humiliated.. Should I continue dating him?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 7 months. I see a lot of girls in his house when i visit and he tells me they are desperate to be with him. He always assures me that am the one he loves. Should i continue dating him or what else can i do. I feel so h...
A. 3 May 2013: So what are these girls doing at his house? Does he know them?
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As much as I love my friends, I feel like I am the only one who always gets left out and even ignored sometimes.
Q. I'm going to try and make this as short as I can. As much as I love my friends, I feel like I am the only one who always gets left out and even ignored sometimes. They will all make plans or hang out or all be online chatting and doing stuff...
A. 2 May 2013: It can be hard in a larger group of friends to keep them all together all the time. Do YOU ever arrange for an outing? Make the plans to see a movie, have a picnic, party, hangout, cook out? Or are you one that expects others to let you know when ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop yelling at me all the time?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and in the beginning he would never yell at me, but now it's like everything I do is wrong. I can't talk to certain people otherwise he gets really angry and threatens to leave me, if I don't do ...
A. 2 May 2013: I'm sorry I think the other aunties are right, the yelling is ONLY the beginning.
No one wants to walk on eggshells in a relationship, because it's just not healthy.
Having his parents yell at him and hit doesn't mean he DOESN'T have a c... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I'm in love with him but am worried I may be saying it too soon. What does everyone think?
Q. My boyfriend and I met online. We have been together for almost 2 months now. I am in love with him and I'm pretty sure he feels the same about me. We haven't actually said it yet. Is it the guys job or the girls? He is turning 31 this year, he...
A. 2 May 2013: I would hold the horses just a while longer, specially because the two of you have ONLY known each other a month.
Relax. Enjoy the courtship and really getting to know him.
... (read in full...)
My ex looks sad but I'm happy I ended things!
Q. Well as many of you know I've been having issues with my so called boyfriend .. Well me and him aren't together any longer and I feel good but then again really lonely. I go out with family and friends to get my mind off things but today I saw him ...
A. 2 May 2013: Good for you!
He'll get over it eventually, so don't feel bad for him.... (read in full...)
Why don't girls like compliments?
Q. Hi, I'm 25 years old,and had quite the reputation about dating women which I am not proud of but I was never in love hence played the field.. About 2 years ago I started dating this beautiful girl,she is beutiful inside out,has a heart of gold an...
A. 2 May 2013: Cerberus nailed it.
Save the compliments for when it's just the two of you. Trust me a smile can do a lot more then some compliments that doesn't feel heartfelt.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants other women to touch him?!
Q. i've been in relationship with s for more then 5 years. it wasn't easy all this while. but i stayed strong cause he never bring in any girls. last year an incident happen where he lied to me and went outstation with his working friend female. after ...
A. 2 May 2013: You wrote about the prostitute situation, but you need to realize that HE WILL do whatever he wants to because he knows that YOU won't leave, so really your only choice is to suck it up.
Is that how you see your life down the line? Sucking ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instinct regarding this Medium and let it give me comfort, or am I being ripped off?
Q. I'm hoping all you good people can help me. I was very close to my nan who dies last year and I haven't really gotten over her loss yet. As a result i've been seeing a medium for the last few week who charges around £30 per sitting. My Boyfriend i...
A. 2 May 2013: I'm a total skeptic too, but that doesn't mean that mediums doesn't exist.
However, if you can't afford to go spend the money, then you need to to stop. I am sorry for the loss of your Nan, but nothing the mediums says will bring her back. I ... (read in full...)
How do I forgive the man that raped my wife?
Q. My wife was drugged and raped when she was 15 years old at a party - she relived the story to me when we first met and I knew that I may need to be there for her to work through any issues that arose from that incident. However she is a very ...
A. 2 May 2013: When YOU carry around this hatred (not that I really blame you for hating that guys guts, may he get bend over by big fella named Bubba in a dark prison cell at some point is his life) BUT..
WHEN YOU carry this around you are constantly REMINDIN... (read in full...)
Sister in law friendship dilemma
Q. I have a dilemma regarding my sister in law. We used to be best friends and when her abusive boyfriend dumped her, I let her move in with me and my husband. I looked after her, helped her get back on her feet etc....like you would for a friend. ...
A. 1 May 2013: I would also first talk to your husband, see what he thinks. I certainly wouldn't have her come live with you again though, she burned that bridge. Nor would she be my best friend again, but I would be nice and cordial, since she is family. Yes, ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him in a nonchalant way what he expects from our next date?
Q. I have been on 3 dates with this guy and things are going smooth,he suggested our next date should be at his 'apartment'..we haven't had sex or made out yet we r just in 'getting to know each other' phase..he sent me a text earlier today saying 'so ...
A. 1 May 2013: I agree with the other uncles & aunties.
DO NOT spend an evening at his place if you aren't up for sex yet, and honestly after only 3 dates I think you need to wait.
I would just keep it to public places for now, if he wants to watch a movie, h... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: Chances are that So_Very_Confused is right.
The age difference isn't the biggest deal here really. The big deal is that you rather continue to have sex or "chill" rather then have a talk with him.
If you don't just want to be his F-buddy you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I'm falling for my step uncle?
Q. I think im falling for my step uncle. Is it wrong? and his uncle is my step dad. Its complicated. But no blood whatsoever....
A. 1 May 2013: It's still family. I think in this case the "blood" matters less. How do you think your family will handle this?
How old are you and how old is he?... (read in full...)
I thought we were getting into a relationship, but she sees it as 'just friends'
Q. Hi guys I wonder if you can offer me some advice regarding this matter. I have known this woman for quite a few years and we use to work together. In this time we were nothing more than friends. In the past year we have become close and have s...
A. 1 May 2013: I can't see why this is all her fault either. But I get it that it hurts when someone doesn't like you back to the same degree.
She sees you as a FWB, nothing more. Since you want more I would suggest you cut it off with her. No more sex, no ... (read in full...)
He cant be bothered with intimacy anymore, am I wrong for wanting more than just companionship?
Q. Is it wrong to want more than companionship?? Hi I'm in a relationship with a guy who I've known 10 yrs. I'm in my late thirties. My relationship has been a Rocky one. He has always been the one running back and I have allowed this. The last 6 mths ...
A. 30 April 2013: I would seriously tell him, if we aren't going to be more then platonic room-mates I think we are over.
And yes, I think it's part the familiarity and part because you allow it. (not that it is YOUR fault, but I think somewhere deep down you are ... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 30 April 2013: If you really are in the age group 22-25 my best advice is to get out on your own, that way your mom can't wake you up at 3:30 am.
I too have to get up once at night, for me it's habit. An I do not take any drugs or cheat either, only thing I ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: First off, TAKE her off your health plan. Then you tell her you have 14 days to pack your stuff and get out, we are over.
After 2 weeks if she isn't packed and out, get some boxes, box her shit up, put them outside the house and get the locks ch... (read in full...)
My siblings seem to think finding a relationship or using a vibrator will make me happy what is their problem?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been sex free for ten years now I am not in a relationship with anyone my sex drive is shot due to being abuse by men in my life mentally and physically and I just gave sex up period right long with drinking and smoking pot .I ...
A. 30 April 2013: Just tell them that you have no intentions of sharing your private life with them if they can't respect you and your choices.... (read in full...)
Confused why she kisses me but doesn't want to take things further because there's no spark.
Q. I'm forty two and recently met someone. She's thirty nine and single. We've gone out about half a dozen times, and cuddled a few times and made out three times. The first two times it was mutual and spontaneous. We were cuddling in my room and all ...
A. 30 April 2013: I don't think YOU did anything wrong, I kind of feel like SHE did. She should have told you that she didn't feel a spark with you instead of leading you on.
If you are looking for a GIRL-friend, not a friend, I'd let this one go and keep looking.... (read in full...)
Anyone know a good way in which I can shave daily and not bleed to death and tear up my skin?
Q. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can give advice. I have PCOS and as a result of that I have rather bad hirsutism, lucky for me though I am red headed and my hair isn’t exactly dark but I do still have to shave. Everyday I sha...
A. 30 April 2013: Have you looked into the facial hair removal creams?
I know Olay makes a new one that is supposedly very good. Personally though, I wax the little bit of facial hairs I have, which means they don't really show up for another 2-3 weeks and are very... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl and my strong dislike for her?
Q. Hey guys. How do you deal with people you really dislike? Basically, there is a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of mine. Not only does she always cheat on him and treat him really badly, but she also knows my boyfriend, and she is always al...
A. 30 April 2013: "Kill" her with kindness, that way SHE gets to look like a total twat in front of others.
If you are alone with her, ignore her.
Keep her off your Facebook and anything else. Block her or whatever you need to do.
... (read in full...)
Confused as to why he keeps threatening to go to prostitutes if I do something he doesn't like!
Q. im in relationship with w for more then five years. the only thing i promised him was that i will never leave him or for sure i will never betray him. but i will leave him if i get to know that he is with other girls. if any girls cross into our ...
A. 30 April 2013: Because he knows YOU won't leave, no matter what. So he treats you however he feels like treating you.
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Should I follow my BFs advice and smarten up for work?
Q. HI guys, This isnt a relationship question per sa, but I hope you can offer me some guidance. Basically I work in an office with no dress code so I go to work in jeans and tee shirt. I am allowed to do this if I wish but some of the staff cho...
A. 30 April 2013: I think your BF is dead on with his advice. If you want to move forward, then you need to SHOW that in more ways then just your work.
It might sound shallow, but people DO notice what you wear first, then what you do.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend borrowed money and then lied about paying me back. What is going on with him?
Q. Hi I've been with my BF for 3 years. About 6 months ago he borrowed some money and promised to pay it back the following month. It hadn't appeared so I casually asked if he had paid, he said yes, I thought it was just taking a few days but 2 weeks ...
A. 30 April 2013: Stop lending him money and do NOT give him access to your bank account.
And I'm sorry that you feel you HAVE to stay with him because of a holiday, I think that's the least of your worries.... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a loveless relationship. Should I just pay him to leave?
Q. Trapped in a loveless relationship. I am not married. I've been in a on/off relationship for 8 yrs. my problem is that after a split of around 9 mths I stupidly got back with my ex. He had lived with his mother most of our relationship which had ...
A. 30 April 2013: No you shouldn't HAVE to pay him to leave. It was (I assume his choice to sell those furniture).
Ask him to leave or tell him to leave.... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 29 April 2013: Yes, Cindy :) Michigan went from around 0 degrees to about +18-20, spring finally showed up ( been a LOT of snow from January til April basically).
I have noticed (as a European living in the US) that it really doesn't take much before the shor... (read in full...)
Thirty Three Years of Marriage with the last 6 years of no sex...
Q. My husband and I haven't had sex for 6 yrs. I brought a vibrator and love using it... I've tried to make my husband want me by posing naked and doing sexual dance moves ... He is still not moved by my moves, does this means he doesn't want me? ...
A. 29 April 2013: Have you tried to TALK to him about this?
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Does a broken hymen grow back if you don't have sex for a long time?
Q. Is it true that a broken hymen heals back into place after a long abstinence?...
A. 29 April 2013: No, it surely doesn't grow back. Like Cerberus said, you CAN have a "new" one surgically "installed" or rather a skinflap in the same general area.... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be angry that he is going out to dinner alone with another woman?
Q. Is it acceptable for a man to go to dinner with a female acquaintance when he is either in a relationship or trying to "work things out" with his ex? And if you're "working things out" then does that mean you would describe yourself to othe...
A. 29 April 2013: Is he your EX or not? I don't quite get that.
If he is NOT your ex, but your current then, yea, it's a little odd, but IT IS possible to have dinner with a co-worker without it meaning more then a casual dinner.
If he IS your ex, then why do ... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 29 April 2013: It's been a long hard, cold winter in MI with lots and lots of snow and then loads of rain, people tend to go a little nuts when the first REAL spring weather shows up.
If you feel comfortable in the shorts, wear them and ignore the comments... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my secret b/f but I'm scared he'll tell my parents and ask for his christmas gift back!
Q. So I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years... He is smart funny sweet gentle loves me a lot... My parents don't like him and made us break up but we got back together and they don't know. On top of that Christmas he gave me a really nice gift that I ...
A. 28 April 2013: So you want to just stay with him out of fear ?
Give him the darn thing back, if you think it will stop him from doing what you fear more.
Save up and buy the phone/computer/whatever it is yourself.
And be honest with your family, don't ... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 28 April 2013: Cheating is a choice, I agree 100% with Fatherly Advice
People who DECIDE to cheat knows full well what they are about to do and they CHOOSE to ignore the consequences, most likely because they think/hope they won't get caught. Or the "it only... (read in full...)
How can I break up this relationship?
Q. I love a girl truely and so much... but she loves another guy who is not her religion. How can i break up this relationship? Please help me......
A. 26 April 2013: You don't.
It's THAT simple, you might WANT her, but obviously SHE wants someone else.
Find a girl who wants you back instead of this unobtainable one.... (read in full...)
Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: I think it's a little too early to decide this for EITHER of you. YOU are only 17, sorry there is NO hurry in settling down with anyone just yet.
And I agree with Tisha's answer. He seems to think all he has to do is flatter the crap out of you a... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 25 April 2013: Cheating is cheating no matter the package and the morals of said package.
I don't think you can really compare it in a way that either scenarios is "better" then the other. Yes, lying on top of cheating is just wrong.
Being drunk is no excu... (read in full...)
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