How best to end this friendship?
Q. Had a friend, known for 7 years. Freelance work, so understand that occasionally things crop up and she had to cancel arranged lunches, but it got to the point where it was almost constant. Used to spend long emails sorting out her problems ...
A. 25 June 2013: I agree with C. Grant. She doesn't really view you as a friend but as someone who can DO things FOR her when SHE needs/want it.
Personally, I'm not sure she would understand it (or accept) if you told her straight out it isn't working for you, but... (read in full...)
why does he continue to keep doing this text and then leave thing?
Q. I have had an on and off again with a guy for a few years now. Recently I ended it because he was being a jerk and I said we shouldn't talk anymore if that was how he was gonna be. He responded with bye. I thought it was done then the next day he w...
A. 25 June 2013: Why does he do it? Because you PLAY the game. He didn't like being dumped so by texting you here and there he is getting his ego stroked, because you STILL pay attention to him.
Block his number or just ignore them. EVERY time.... (read in full...)
Its false projecting when she's making her lips look larger than they are!
Q. I met this girl, who is incredibly beautiful, funny, smart and so easy to get along with! One the thing that I found alluring about her was the fullness of her lips. And we've been on a few dates and yesterday we went out in the day and I noticed ...
A. 25 June 2013: Some use eyeliner to make their eyes look a certain shape or size. MAKE UP (or rather made up) is the expression for a girl with cosmetics on her face. These cosmetics are MADE to enhance or show off certain features to their best advantage.
I cer... (read in full...)
He watches porn every time we have sex!
Q. Why does my man of 4 years watch porn every time we have sex? Is there anyone else experiencing the same thing?...
A. 24 June 2013: Does he watch it DURING sex? After or before sex?
And have you talked to him about it?
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Is it appropriate to give the mother an anniversary gift?
Q. Hi, I have a quick question having more to do with etiquette. I've been exclusively dating a guy for a couple of months and we've hit it off extraordinarily well, so we are pretty serious about each other. We're in our late twenties and his parents ...
A. 22 June 2013: The Fudge is a perfect extra little touch even if you don't know the Dad, they can enjoy the tea and fudge together :)... (read in full...)
How can someone say 'no communication' and then have the audacity to come and take a phone back that you lent them in the first place?
Q. my ex boyfriend broke up with me 4mths ago, we didn't talk for a month, then he began talking back to me. we had arguments till he felt we shouldn't communicate, I will say fine and respect what he said, then he come and try talk again when I don't ...
A. 22 June 2013: Who is paying the bill for the phone? If YOU are then report it stolen and have it shut off.
And for goodness sake STOP taking to the dude!... (read in full...)
Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 22 June 2013: I agree wholeheartedly with CindyCares.
I know it hurts to be dumped but I don't really think there ever is a really NICE or EASY way to end a relationship.
He DID show some respect for you by doing it in person, he honestly could have fired... (read in full...)
Fiance wanted a break, he's talking to another woman about but isn't trying to fix things. What does he want?
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone can help - five weeks ago my fiance and partner of three years, who I lived with along with his little girl, told me that he was unsure of his feelings for me and we should have a break. I was devastated - we only got eng...
A. 22 June 2013: It seems like you relationship is over. He is using the fact that YOU haven't walked away yet, to make you out to be the problem.
Time to pack your stuff and leave. He isn't interested in marrying you and is trying his best to alienate you, so ... (read in full...)
I need advise about how to handle a co-worker and don't want to go running to my unhelpful boss!
Q. Not sure if this forum helps with work issues also but, need some advice on how to handle a situation I am in at my place of employment. I am a site supervisor of a Before and After School Program for a non-profit organization. I provide struct...
A. 21 June 2013: Time to talk to HER or to your supervisor again.
She sounds quite passive-aggressive and those folks can be hard to deal with. They like to seek out people-pleasers (such as you) because they feel they can manipulate them easier. And in my opini... (read in full...)
He confessed he was married then deleted his email account! How do I get over the shock and heartbreak?
Q. How do I forget this guy?! He emailed me yesterday confessing that he was married and hadn't been fair with me the past 6 mos. He then deleted his email acct so I can't reply to him. I have his cell number but don't want to appear desperate so ...
A. 21 June 2013: Thanks for the clarification.. SO he didn't just live this "fantasy" online he lied to your face (Omission in this case I would call lying).
Could be his wife caught on and he had to make a choice? Another thing, did he MAKE that e-mail account ... (read in full...)
Is he really over me, even though he's had this girlfriend for over a year?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice regarding my ex. My ex and I dated for 4 years, and he broke up with me 2 years ago. It was sort of mutual, as we argued about little things quite often. We had a lot of differences in our interests (he liked sports...
A. 21 June 2013: I would honestly, stop the chatting with him. IF he ACTUALLY break up with her then MAYBE I would consider talking and then later on dating (perhaps). But I SERIOUSLY doubt the GF is totally OK with him flirting/chatting with you.
Is he really o... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but need to know how he feels he has a g/f!
Q. Hello! So I'm a bit confused. I am still interested in my ex boyfriend. Every new guy that I meet reminds me how much I want my ex. Recently I met up with my ex for dinner. It was nice to see him. We talked a lot- about random things and about wh...
A. 21 June 2013: Since she has a GF I think YOU need to realize you missed your chance.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And they talk with their friends about how "hot" these women
Q. I am curious to get a man's perspective on a few things. I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And ...
A. 21 June 2013: I don't think this is a MALE issue only. Women are just as "bad" in worshipping "pretty" or "handsome" men and men are at worshipping gorgeous women.
A fantasy is like make belief - you can be whomever you like and your "partner" in it (if we a... (read in full...)
He confessed he was married then deleted his email account! How do I get over the shock and heartbreak?
Q. How do I forget this guy?! He emailed me yesterday confessing that he was married and hadn't been fair with me the past 6 mos. He then deleted his email acct so I can't reply to him. I have his cell number but don't want to appear desperate so ...
A. 21 June 2013: I agree with eyeswideopen - be GLAD you were told BEFORE you relocated.
Delete his number and next time GET to know a guy before making those serious plans. That would mean MEET him in person, DATE him (not online only) and take it slow. Seems li... (read in full...)
Why would he not call me but have his friend call me?
Q. so i hung out with this guy that i really like, last week and just recently he hasnt been responding to my txts...the last time i texted him was monday, i asked how his day was going, he responded that it was frustrating, i asked why and he hasnt ...
A. 21 June 2013: Um, did you ASK who it was? Instead of assuming it was the friend?
If you didn't know the number it is 100% OK to ask, I don't recognize your number, WHO is this?
If it WAS his friend then I would assume that he (the guy you were talking to ... (read in full...)
Why would an ex delete you completely from their life?
Q. Why would an ex delete you completely from his / her life? Especially when you did nothing wrong to them and you did not hurt them in any way....
A. 21 June 2013: It makes moving on and living life without any further drama easier.
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Boyfriend wants a threesome. How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have a great, caring, passionate relationship together. We often go out on a date night, go to our friends parties, etc together. Although neither of us are eachother's first long-term relati...
A. 21 June 2013: Sorry, I forgot to add that it seems to me that he is expecting that because you don't have a problem with pre-marital sex that you should have NO problem with the 3-some. That shows a lack of respect from him.
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Boyfriend wants a threesome. How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have a great, caring, passionate relationship together. We often go out on a date night, go to our friends parties, etc together. Although neither of us are eachother's first long-term relati...
A. 21 June 2013: The main point I want to make is for YOU to decide IF you want to do this FOR YOU.
If he feels like NOT getting a 3-some is somehow going to DEPRIVE him something FANTASTICAL then maybe the 3-some is more important to him then a monogamo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't make me cum so I took care of myself but he woke up and caught me and is angry!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles Bf and me have an ok sex life... he gets it anytime he wants, but since he works so many hours I do not initiate(I pounce on his days off) and let him rest during the work days. i never cum unless I touch myself, but h...
A. 21 June 2013: Wow you have a lazy lover for a BF, he NEVER works hard to get you off too? What are you to him? His girl sized fleshlight?
1. don't be ashamed. He can't be bothered to even TRY getting you off.
2. there is nothing WRONG with YOU masturbating... (read in full...)
Am I using him? Am I worthless?
Q. I want to know if I am out of line. My husband and I have been married for 6 years now he has three kids and I have three . We only have four of the kids living with us because his two older children are adults. I work four months of t...
A. 21 June 2013: I would go look for a job in order to leave his ass. I really can't stand people who assume that when someone is a stay at home parent they are worthless.
My guess is that even IF you were to work full time - HE would expect you to take care of ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to give the mother an anniversary gift?
Q. Hi, I have a quick question having more to do with etiquette. I've been exclusively dating a guy for a couple of months and we've hit it off extraordinarily well, so we are pretty serious about each other. We're in our late twenties and his parents ...
A. 21 June 2013: I think it's a sweet idea and I see nothing weird about it.... (read in full...)
Is my current relationship worth it?
Q. i am in a relationship of 2 years that generally, i'm content with. i have never had many girlfriends and most of my close friends have always been guys. i do consider myself a tomboy so when a guy hits on me, i'm pretty flattered. my current ...
A. 21 June 2013: I think if you so easily can sext and IM another guy, then your current relationship is not something you are really 100% committed too.
Yes, you didn't continue once you found out the guy only wanted to sext, but the fact that you kept it a sec... (read in full...)
Ideas for fun first dates?
Q. You have probably read my other questions recently about my online potentials! Well, I've been talking to this girl recently who sounds really nice, and guess what, she asked me when we are going to meet up! I have been out with younger women be...
A. 21 June 2013: How about a picnic? Look up and see if there are any concerts/play in the park (if you live near an area that does those). Find in your local paper some new bands and go listen, they might suck but it can be fun anyways.
What does she like? an... (read in full...)
How can I make him feel more at ease around me after what happened between us?
Q. I knew this guy two years ago but he didn't give me the time or place. Just recently he contacted me and wanted to be friends. He's been going threw a hard time, so I have a lot of empathy for him and want to be there for him. I have to admit I live ...
A. 20 June 2013: I agree with Nora, you need to pull back. YOU want the relationship and the whole she-bang. He wanted a sympathetic shoulder to cry on.
Give him time and accept that he MIGHT not be wanting you for a GF, after all he didn't two years ago either. ... (read in full...)
In an LDR, his live-in son asks for money, will this relationship last?
Q. im in a long distance relationship he comes for me every wk end we are both widowed he has 6 children i have 5 all grown up it takes him just over an hr to get here then an hr to take me back to his house , he has a son in his 40s living with him ...
A. 20 June 2013: I would tell the man you are dating that you can't afford to pay his son money, and I would tell the GROWN son to stop asking you for money. He is NOT your responsibility.
Do YOU see yourself with him long term?
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I don't think I can handle seeing her with her boyfriend!
Q. Hi, bit of a long question here. So about 2 years ago I told this girl whom I had been friends with for about 2 years (at that time) that I had feelings for her but she told me that she didnt like me in that way and just saw us as friends which took ...
A. 20 June 2013: Then if you can't handle it don't "fake" a friendship,, just let her know it isn't going to work out for you trying to be FRIENDS. And wish her well.... (read in full...)
Do I bow out for the sake of my boyfriend's children?
Q. I need help as I am having a serious dilemma! I am with a wonderful guy...been together 2 years and are happy together. He has 2 kids, we want them together as I don't have any. When we met, we decided to save for a house, marriage etc. I ...
A. 20 June 2013: I think if anything you need to bow out for YOU. If HE and HIS baggage is too much for you (and there is NOTHING wrong in admitting that) then now would be a good time to "bow" out.
YOU have to look at YOUR future too. And if being with him mean... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he wouldn't simply deactivate these accounts!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend left his email open on my laptop once, and already having had previous trust issues we are working on, and have been getting there, I couldnt help myself cast an eye....(the previous problem was him trash/sex talking with a '...
A. 20 June 2013: Have you plain out asked him?
And how long have you been dating?
Also, is this OK in your relationship? Is it something you two have talked about?
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I don't like feeling like a maid, or taken for granted. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. Just a question about cohabitation: My boyfriend works 50 hours a week, and I am currently unemployed (but looking) I contribute economically, and do all the cooking and cleaning except for one night where he makes dinner. Usually he does his ...
A. 20 June 2013: I think the MORE you do for a partner the MORE they are going to expect from you.
(this goes both ways of course)
IF you don't WANT to do his laundry, then don't do it.
I would bring it up with him. If he is paying all the bills I don't th... (read in full...)
Ex partner apologises after 2 years apart!!!
Q. I split with my partner 2 years ago. I had 1 young child with her and she had a child from a previous relationship. We had been together for about 12 years! We have stayed in touch due to me seeing my son weekly, of course, and she has often ha...
A. 20 June 2013: Maybe what you said two weeks ago gave her food for thought? Some times we have to have things spelled out to really get it. Maybe she just didn't REALLY comprehend how bad she hurt you.
I don't think she is looking to "win" you back, but that the... (read in full...)
Cancelled wedding...but can we sort this out and stay together?
Q. where do I start..my fiancé told me 8 weeks ago he wanted to cancel our wedding. He didn't do it. We thought we could work on our differences and see what came about. We were due to get married in seven months. I feel like he has not made any effort ...
A. 20 June 2013: Maybe look into some pre-marital counseling?
Or maybe accept that you two are not as great a fit as you both had hoped for?... (read in full...)
How do I get over that he is expecting a baby with my ex friend and they will be getting married!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend about 14 months ago. We had been in an open relationship for just over 2 years. He had been seeing another woman(who was actually a close friend of mine)for the last few months of our relationship until he decided he ...
A. 20 June 2013: Open relationships rarely work long-term from what I have seen. One person seems to decide that is it NOT what they REALLY want.
I have never gotten the idea of an open relationship, why not just be single and do as you please (but I digress)... (read in full...)
How can I trust my husband when he texts a girl from an escort service all night?
Q. Dear readers, I find myself here again and I have only been married a month. I wass here to weeks ago. Because my husband joined a sex site and still denies it. But know I am here because my husband has been out of town for the week and I looked a...
A. 20 June 2013: So he is making this out to be YOUR fault that he texted her? because YOU didn't trust him?
What a load of CRAP!
He could have texted ANYONE to "test" you, but he CHOSE to text an escort.. seriously?
So now you know, when he shows you that h... (read in full...)
He told his ex that I wasn't his g/f but I scary room mate he had to babysit!
Q. Hi everyone, thanks for reading. I met my ex from riding, we meet on Easter weekend, at the time I was looking for a place to move, and so was he, so we decided to shared a place, few days before we move in to the house, we became boyfriend and girl...
A. 20 June 2013: What exactly are you expecting from him? An apology? Because the ONLY reason you would get one of those is because he wants something from you, as in a place to live or a bed to share.
Accept that he is a douche. You dated a douche.
IF you ... (read in full...)
Is this reverse psychology or what?
Q. I work in two places. In one place there are mostly married women in the late 30's up to 50 and more. They adore me, especially one-let's call her "Helen"-who is head over heel about me. She even says things like she wants sex with me tonight. ...
A. 20 June 2013: I have no idea why they acting like that, honestly. But I guessing that they feel "safe" to flirt with you, because they know or trust that you won't overstep the (whatever invisible limits they have set for what is OK and what is not OK).
And y... (read in full...)
Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it?
Q. Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it? I'm asking this question in reference to my dream career but I'm interested in all general opinions on this too. Thanks!...
A. 20 June 2013: I think so, IF you are being realistic with those dreams. For instance, no matter HOW hard I work at it, I'd never be a singer *chuckles* I just can't sing to save my life, never have.
Also, don't let "speedbumps" stop you, sometimes in life you... (read in full...)
He keeps breaking up my relationships, I'm in love. I need to stop him!
Q. There is this guy who I am completely inlove with but everytime we start dating he just stops talking to me and then months pass and he comes back and then he leaves again and that just keeps happening. I told him im tired of him doing that and that ...
A. 19 June 2013: Only way this insanity carousel is going to stop is for YOU to get off. That means CUT him off, block his number, block, unfriend him on social websites, do NOT respond to texts, basically pretend he no longer exist to you.
Then you take some ti... (read in full...)
What are your opinions when it comes to friends having surgery
Q. If someone say an ex girlfriend, someone you're friends with, or know really well got a nose job what would you think of them? Taking into consideration that their nose was bumpy, hooked and too big for their face... Would you think any differ...
A. 19 June 2013: My best friend broke her nose and ended up with a bump that annoyed her (right where the glasses sit) so she ended up with a nose-job - she didn't change her nose she just got rid of the bump. BUT she could have gotten a button nose or a hook nose ... (read in full...)
Friend has given me an ultimatium--either be his girlfriend or we no longer talk
Q. I'm really close to my friend who told me he wanted to be more than friends about a year ago. Initially I said I didn't feel the same way and we tried to carry on as we had been before, talking everyday but I was seeing other people. Since then ...
A. 19 June 2013: He is INTO you and thus want more, you are NOT into him and thus trying to keep the status quo if "friendship".
Why be his GF if you aren't into him THAT way at all? "Forcing" yourself to be his GF and "FORCING" yourself to pretend you WANT to ... (read in full...)
She shows no interest in me except pushing her arm against mine when standing close. Is this a sign?
Q. In my experience, if a woman is interested in me, she flirts heavily with me, laughs at my jokes and all the other usual things. In this case, there is this girl at work who seems a bit cold to me in general and hardly even responds to my flirting. ...
A. 19 June 2013: It's hard to say, personally I wouldn't touch someone unless I WANTED to, so I don't think you are over-interpreting her moves, but.. if she is married (or has a partner) maybe she feels comfortable enough to do so (touch you) without you thinking ... (read in full...)
They're both friends, she cheated -- I feel caught in the middle
Q. Hi everyone, I have friend that´s temporarily abroad for work - she´ll be back in one month. She confessed to me that she´s cheated on her boyfriend with some man there...And she begged me not to tell his boyfriend, that is my good friend too...He ...
A. 19 June 2013: I would ask her straight out HOW she would feel if the roles were reversed and HE had cheated, would she want you to tell or not?
And then I would call her bluff, and tell you she NEEDS to be the one to tell him.... (read in full...)
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