I'm married and friend now wants to have sex. What do I do?
Q. Hi I am actually from Pakistan but now living in Australia with my husband and 4 years old son.My husband works and I am a housewife.We r really a happy small family.Here I met with a guy when I first came.I lost my way and my husband was not with ...
A. 9 July 2013: How about no?
HE is NOT a friend. Friends don't try and coax you into having sex with him. They don't SNOG a married lady either.
Hugs and cheek-kissing CAN be OK, but not with a guy like this who seems to not understand that you might have b... (read in full...)
I finally told my girlfriend about all the concerns I've been holding back. Was I an idiot? Should I have just kept my mouth shut and carried on?
Q. My Long-term GF Leah and I have split up, at least for a while. We've been together just over 7 years now, had a couple of bumps down the road, but nothing we couldn't overcome. I met her in college the opposite side of the country where I'...
A. 9 July 2013: I think it HAD to be said.
Though I think she took it so hard because you two have been together for 7 years and you haven't really made that point to her (in order to "spare" her feelings) til now and then it came with a bomb at the end.
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Did we miss important steps by having intercourse?
Q. Hello cupids! By the way, thankyou for taking the time to read and hopefully answer some of my questions! I will explain as best as I could. So, my boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 years and have been together for a month now. He's 23 ...
A. 9 July 2013: Relationships and sex is NOT paining by numbers. It's going with what feels right for the BOTH of you and going at a speed you are both comfortable with.
Though having sex FIRST, can be both good and bad. At least you two got that out of the way,... (read in full...)
He hasn't introduced me to his parents, and they are here for only 2 more weeks!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he has said he wants to marry me and even gave me a promise ring on Valentine's Day. We spend a lot of time together, and everything is good. I have yet to meet his parents, however, since t...
A. 9 July 2013: Could it be that he is a little cautious with the introduction thing because he DID introduce the ex and the relationship didn't last? NOT, that it is fair that he doesn't have more faith in the two of you, but it could be a reason. He doesn't want ... (read in full...)
Swinging gone terribly wrong, am I stupid for staying?
Q. I am a 41 year old married woman for 16 years. I got my husband into swinging then I began an longtime affair for over 10 years. I do not want to swing anymore. I just recently stopped my affair within the last year, my husband is still a swinger ...
A. 9 July 2013: I think SVC have great advice.
Swinging can work for some couples (but it's rare ). At some point in time one of the people in the marriage/relationship are "done" with it and the other is not. It's kind of like quitting drugs and living with a j... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 9 July 2013: Honey, you need to learn a word that you will NEED many times in your life ahead of you, that word is NO.
No, I don't want sex. I'm not ready and we have only been together a week.
He might dump you if you use this magic word (NO), but... tha... (read in full...)
Deep Throat a Very Thick Dick..can it be done?
Q. I have a boyfriend with a very thick dick. I want to be able to deep throat him but I haven't been able to. I know the secret to it is relaxing my throat but he's so thick its almost impossible for me. Are there any tips where it'll be possible for ...
A. 9 July 2013: Take it slow, and keep practicing - it won't be something you can master in a week or two.
"tickle his pickle" is a great book for all sort of pleasuring of a penis. Lots of great techniques in that book.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 9 July 2013: Hinting isn't going to work.
I would just be honest and tell him, you just didn't feel you two clicked. I would honestly also tell him that you felt he came on a little too strong for a first date, he might learn to tone it down for another ... (read in full...)
I need alimony money from my husband. How does that work?
Q. my husband s filing for a divorce. There is no money in the house and we dont have any other assets together but i want him to give me alimony. i just want to know what is going to be on the divorce papers? Is it going to have question on how much ...
A. 9 July 2013: Actually, she get alimony even at her young age. (depending on which state she lives in and how long the marriage has lasted).
OP YOU need to find yourself a lawyer and go from there. IF and that is a big IF.. you DO get alimony it will ONLY be ... (read in full...)
Does he miss me and want to get back together but is too scared to make the first move?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I met on a dating site. We hit it off immediately and throughout our 6-month relationship he’d text/call everyday. He was still occasionally on the dating site where we met but I didn't say anything. We live in different cities ...
A. 9 July 2013: I think he keeps you as a "spare" in case other chicks doesn't work out, and honestly no one wants to be someone's fallback girl/spare.
I would honestly end contact, you are getting nothing out of it, not short term nor long term - other then was... (read in full...)
I resent my boyfriend for what he said and I don't feel as if he should "benefit" from the relationship in that case!
Q. Hi everyone. My question is about my boyfriend of 3 years, he is 8 years older and has 2 kids. He does not want more and told me he would never have chidren with me. I was not sure what I wanted, but have now decided I don't want to have kids. So ...
A. 9 July 2013: I'm with person12345
You both want the same, and that is not kids so what is the problem?
I don't think its JUST you he doesn't want kids with - he is just DONE having kids.
Now if you think that maybe some time in the future you change yo... (read in full...)
Me, the socially anxious goof accidentally sends friend request… do I contact him and explain?
Q. So this is probably going to sound like the dorkiest thing ever, but I need some help. I started college last fall and it was a real struggle for me to leave home and adjust. There were a lot of things that went wrong my first few weeks at school ...
A. 9 July 2013: I would just ignore it til he does something. Either he will ignore your request, or he will accept. IF he accept then tell him "congrats" on the article (or whatever it is you wanted to say about that).
Go from there. It's JUST Facebook - it's N... (read in full...)
Would you believe him? Or is this too weird?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We're both in our early 30's. Anyway, he's been living out of state for the last 5 months (on work) and is finally moving back here in 2 weeks. He hasn't found a solid place yet, but has the ...
A. 9 July 2013: I see nothing wrong in checking out a potential place to live. I don't blame him for doing it. Could be a crack house for you know.
I think YOU are making a crazy big deal out of him using some common sense. YOU didn't know her, you just saw her ... (read in full...)
His new wife is trying to dominate me
Q. Sorry if I make mistakes typing, its on my phone and Im useless!Me and my ex share custody of our two daughters who are 7 and 9. I was with him for 8 years and he met his partner and got married within 8 months of us splitting up. He cheated pn me ...
A. 9 July 2013: I would get or talk to a lawyer (look for anyone doing pro bono in your area) and see how you can go about letting your ex hubby know in NO uncertain terms that the contact between HIM and YOU is NONE of her business. I would seriously NOT tolerate ... (read in full...)
Just discovered my live-in boyfriend of two years is checking out match.com profiles
Q. I am not sure how to react to all of this. I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for 2 years. We have lived together for over a year now. He has been a great guy and I never suspected he would cheat on me or betray me. I was married for 13 years ...
A. 9 July 2013: Personally, I think signing up and browsing dating sites is something SINGLE should do, not people who are in committed relationship. I don't go test drive a car unless I'm in the market for a car, nor would I get pregnant JUST to see what it is ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend knew she had STD and still had unprotected sex with me. I found out from seeing her medication!
Q. I found out about a week ago that my live in GF has an STD. She did not tell me, I found out. I found medication that she's taking, that she never told me about. I did confront her. Naturally a fight ensued, and the house is tense now. My quest...
A. 8 July 2013: Sorry, that would be a total deal breaker for me. Specially if she is in your age group (36-40) it's WAY past the age when you can do shit like that and then excuse it with "I was embarrassed".
I am curious as to which STD she had.
And yes... (read in full...)
Does this message mean I'm dumped? Help!
Q. Me and my bf have been arguing ALOT and we had a huge row because he has no time too see me this morning he said 'Right now I am screaming at my phone because I can't put into text what I want to say in retaliation and so it doesn't ruin your day, I ...
A. 7 July 2013: I would just assume he DID dump you, anyways do you really think it's OK for a guy to talk to his GF that way?
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He's my boyfriend, but he's posting pictures of some other beach beauty. Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend recently took a series of 3 pictures of a girl on the beach that he posted to his blog. When I saw them, it made me really angry. I told him I didn't like the photos and thought it was being creepy and inconsiderate of my feelings. He ...
A. 7 July 2013: I find it really odd that he would do this. I mean did he know her? Or did he just find her attractive?
Either way, yeah it's creepy and the fact that he dumped you because you told him it upset you makes me think he was looking for an excuse t... (read in full...)
Please help me - did I lose my virginity?
Q. Over the summer I had a boyfriend we will always be together well anyways , one day we were at his bedroom and we got sexual he sticked his penus in me and I had pain but my question is if he sticked it in once did he pop my cherry ? when we got up ...
A. 7 July 2013: Yep, PENIS inside the vagina = no longer virgin.
I think it's a little scary that someone your age doesn't know this. I really hope you read Tisha1 post and check out the link.. It's about time you get informed.
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I'm a teacher, but I'm not HER teacher. Is she still off limits?
Q. This may sound like a typical college teacher-student case, but it's somewhat different, since I'm attracted to this girl who isn't and has never been my student. We met because some months ago she started working as staff so we see every day as our ...
A. 7 July 2013: BE professional. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a woman with a low self esteem who keeps telling me to leave her alone?
Q. I need some help.. 8 days ago this woman pushed me away. Saying I wanna be alone I hv no feelings for you. Something I do not buy based on all her feedback our intimacy dates n her body language. I told her I love her. She says move on im not inte...
A. 7 July 2013: I would just leave her alone.
And no if she really wants you gone she will IGNORE you and that is what she is trying to do. Respect what she says.... (read in full...)
Still fuming after fiasco over holiday with my future in laws and fiance. Should I not be angry or let it go?
Q. By nature I am a planner. My future in laws cut their stay with us short because my fiance called and told them I go crazy when we have company over. That is view of me anyway. Remember that, I am a planner where my fiance is not. The background...
A. 6 July 2013: IF this had been your parents would it have been SUCH a hassle?
And honestly, I would have told them they are free to do whatever they need to do to cook the ribs their way and then back out of the kitchen.
I understand wanting things t... (read in full...)
Would you change your religion for love?
Q. Ok,this is probably not the smartest question, having been spurred by the vision of a Sex and the City rerun, but I'd be curious to know the opinion of my esteemed DC colleagues and readers : would you change religion for love ? why, or why not ...
A. 6 July 2013: Nope.
But I could easily be with someone with different beliefs then mine AS LONG AS he can respect that I have my faith and he has his.
My husband and I don't have the same religious beliefs but it still works.... (read in full...)
My inlaws take advantage of my husband and I don't like it!
Q. I have a problem. I feel my inlaws take advantage of my husband and it irritates me so much. For example.he pays fees for his sister who is in university. She disrespects him. If he asks to see receipts for the payments , she will scream and says ...
A. 5 July 2013: He could contact the university and pay them directly and thus leave your sister out of the whole money deal.
Some times family just plain suck.... (read in full...)
Ladies: Is it more difficult to have orgasm if you've been drinking?
Q. Well, hello, all, it's time to turn the tables :) My question is simple; have any of you ladies noticed that if you drink regularly (1 drink a day for a week or more), orgasm takes longer and is more difficult to attain? I usually don't have...
A. 5 July 2013: It can be about where in your cycle, you are, but yes alcohol can make it harder to achieve an orgasm. For many women around ovulation it's easier the the rest of the months.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped my because I wouldn't add her as a friend on Facebook.
Q. My Girlfriend dumped me because I wouldn't add her as my friend on Facebook. I don't understand what everyone's obsession over Facebook is. I like to keep my private life private. I think she is just too jealous. I don't feel I should have to add ...
A. 5 July 2013: What exactly is private about Facebook? Seriously? Newsflash bro, it's the Internet...
If you were 16-17 and this was a brand new relationship then maybe I could see why you wouldn't ad her , but a grown person? Why not? What exactly is it on YO... (read in full...)
I've accepted that he needs time for full on sex, but I still want him to go down on me at least.
Q. How can I get my boyfriend to give me oral sex? He's a virgin and I have accepted that he wants to wait and is too scared to have sex. I will wait for him to make the move to full intercourse. But in our sexual contact everything seems one sided - ...
A. 4 July 2013: Stop with ALL sex til he is ready. IF he isn't ready for penetrative sex then why PUSH for oral?
Stop giving him head basically.... (read in full...)
I was excited about the holidays, until my boyfriend got mad at me on the phone last night.
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have just had a fight before I'm due to go away for over 2 weeks on the holiday of a lifetime. He had asked me to come round to visit him tonight before I go, and I told him I'd try my best but I'd need to see what...
A. 4 July 2013: Sounds to me that he is mad about your holiday without him and he wanted to pick a fight so YOU would feel bad about the holiday.
IF he wanted to see you THAT bad before leaving.. he would have come see you, as you had already told him how busy... (read in full...)
Do I go on a date with the brother?
Q. So i have a bit of a sticky situation and have no idea how to deal with it. I've just started to hang out with a few guys from my college recently, who i've know for a very long time now. I had a sort of 'thing' with one of the guys in the group a ...
A. 3 July 2013: Go on the date if you are interested in the guy, his brother is in no condition to decide whom you can date and whom you can't.
Usually though, I would try to avoid dating family members of friend, but honestly you never know, maybe the brother ... (read in full...)
Demanding Sister Wants Gift for her Kid
Q. Last year my niece turned three years olf. She had an amazing birthday party with lots of family and gifts. My sister just confessed that she was upset with the fact I did not get her than 3 year old a gift. My niece is turning four soon and my ...
A. 3 July 2013: That is ridiculous. Buy her something YOU can afford and that you think she will like and SCREW what your sister thinks.
Unless your sister have raised her to be a spoiled brat, she will be happy with anything wrapped prettily.
If she compla... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a strange issue with food?
Q. This is probably a rather weird question, but I was at a BBQ with my girlfriend, and the food was being served to us. Someone handed her a plate, and it had a small amount of corn on it. She freaked out, refused to look at it, and asked me to remove ...
A. 3 July 2013: Talk to her about it when you two are alone. I think it sounds kinda extreme too. I have issues with textures, but not how food looks, but each person are different.
Could be that corn makes her nauseous and therefore don't want to even look at ... (read in full...)
My virgin boyfriend can't stay hard to have sex and makes me feel totally unattractive
Q. I'm 17, nearly 18 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 and a half months. I was not a virgin when I first started dating him - I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend - but my current boyfriend is still a virgin. At the beginning of our ...
A. 3 July 2013: I'm with Tisha-1
STOP pressuring him to "perform".
You are making this all about YOU and it's NOT about you. HE is just not ready for this.
So back off, let him set the speed.
Just because he is a teenage boy full of raging hormones does... (read in full...)
Just left an abusive relationship; will love ever feel good?
Q. About 18 months ago, I was in a vulnerable place, struggling to recover from some severe depression and anxiety issues which had landed me in the hospital for a bit. I was lonely, and desperately wanted to know what love really felt like; I wanted ...
A. 3 July 2013: Once you hit a certain age (I would venture a guess at around 25+) everyone has baggage of some sort. Either from their upbringing/family or from past relationships. Not all as extreme as your past relationship, but it really is up to you at any ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still lives with his parents and I wonder if he'll ever grow up.
Q. So...I have been dating a guy for going on 2 years. He has lived at home the entire time. He has zero privacy as his bedroom is next to his moms. His dad basically lives in the basement. His dad has a bedroom and living room and bathroom down ...
A. 2 July 2013: He lives at home with his parents and in the 2 years you have NEVER met them? WHY? You have NEVER been to his place? Privacy or not, that is really odd.
And a grown ass man, who can afford 2 pricey cars but lives with his parents, WANTS to live ... (read in full...)
My new fiancé is reluctant for me to visit my late husband's parents.
Q. I am widowed and have become engaged. My fiancé and I took a short trip over the weekend. My late husband's sister called me on my cell to let me know that her dad (my father-in-law) had two strokes and that he was in the hospital. We ...
A. 2 July 2013: I would suggest that you talk it out with him. I think he has every right to say :"no, thanks I don't want to get involved with your former husband's family" but he can't tell you that YOU can't see them. (IMHO)
I see NO reason why YOU (even if... (read in full...)
I like my male friend but he just told me he wanted to go visit another girl.
Q. I'm starting to have romantic feelings for one of my guy friends and recently he mentioned in one of our conversations that he would really like to travel to see this other mutual friend (a girl) that lives in a different state. Lately we have bee...
A. 2 July 2013: I think you are friend-zoned - you might never have been regarded as anything BUT a friend, yet that is not small thing.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to offer his sperm for IVF
Q. What do you all think about a woman having ivf at 45. I've always been waiting for the right moment and just out of another failed long term relationship and always wanted babies, always feel like I have missed out on that opportunity of being a ...
A. 2 July 2013: I think it depends on quite a few things.
1. is he in a new relationship?
2. Does he have kids of his own?
3. How long ago did you two break up?
And if he is willing I would just ask straight out. All he can do is say yes or no.
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Just left an abusive relationship; will love ever feel good?
Q. About 18 months ago, I was in a vulnerable place, struggling to recover from some severe depression and anxiety issues which had landed me in the hospital for a bit. I was lonely, and desperately wanted to know what love really felt like; I wanted ...
A. 2 July 2013: I'm so sorry you ended up with a woman like that at a point in time where you SO didn't need an abusive partner.
Yes, I DO think it's possible to find someone who wants most of the same things in a relationship as you do. But I would say you need... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to fail at being a mum
Q. My closest friend has a 2 and half yr old daughter. I wasnt there for her as much as I would like to have been because I had a bike accident a week after she had the baby and couldnt get out and about for a good 3-4 months, but I did visit as often ...
A. 2 July 2013: Stop talking to her for a while, she is NOT helping you.
The thing is, she is projecting her regrets and fears onto you and you are lapping them up, thinking because she is a friend this is friendly advice... it is NOT.
My guess, she is no... (read in full...)
I found condoms in my girlfriends drawer but we don't use them since she is on the pill
Q. im in a 1 year 3 month long distance relationship with my girlfriend. we see each other every two months due to school and work and we live in different countries. I have been her first one and she is on the pill so we dont use any kind of ...
A. 2 July 2013: I think it's a smart thing for her to do, and IF she hasn't given you any other reason to not trust her , I think you should trust her explanation.... (read in full...)
Worried that ex friend is vengeful after she found me on facebook.
Q. Hello dear Aunts, Thank you for being here for every problem all of us have. Well my problem is about an ex-friend of mine. She was mean and abusive (both psychological and physical abuse), so i ended the friendship and moved away about a year and...
A. 2 July 2013: Block her from your stuff.... (read in full...)
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