Three months and he didn't mention he has kids?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He is 28 and I am 25. The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love with him and him with me. This past weekend, I found out that he has two children he neve...
A. 17 July 2013: I love it how guys like your fella is calling his ex crazy.. Who knows, maybe SHE was the one telling the truth? Maybe (since she could WALK into his bedroom at 9am) she still IS his GF..
Sorry, I would walk away, no.. I would RUN from this. Do... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 17 July 2013: Sorry, kitten hot my key board before I got done writing my answer lol.
Nest time bring a book and start reading, if he starts his "swarmy charmy stuff" tell him you rather read then be hit on by a married man.
It's hard since the girls are fr... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 17 July 2013: He knows you are not interested but he also knows that you are too well mannered to tell him to stophitting on you and Fuck off.... (read in full...)
Three months and he didn't mention he has kids?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He is 28 and I am 25. The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love with him and him with me. This past weekend, I found out that he has two children he neve...
A. 16 July 2013: Um, first off.. the EX have keys to his place and just walks in to start drama? Big no-no.
2. Having kids or not having kids need to be told up front, what IF you didn't want to date a man with kids? And at your age I think that perfectly OK to NO... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to ask him to come to see me every time?
Q. I am starting to date this guy who lives in the city about 45 minutes (without traffic) from my house (I live in the suburbs). The first two times he came up to see me, once for coffee and the next time for dinner (it was his own suggestion for him ...
A. 16 July 2013: Just be honest and tell him you aren't comfortable driving and night and you aren't ready for a sleepover. So make the date for a Saturday afternoon instead?
But in all honesty - I think taking turns being the one going to see each other is only ... (read in full...)
Is this crazy to think we can make this? Is dating a Marine a good idea?
Q. I met this man 7 years ago, when I was 19, and he was 21. We always had a great time together and became great friends. I always had a crush on him, but I was in and out of a relationship for five years at the time. Then, he joined the Marines and ...
A. 16 July 2013: 1. Congratulations in knowing what you want and having a plan - specially one that means you finish your schooling FIRST.
2. Soldiers, sailors and marines are NO MORE unfaithful then anyone else. It's not like the uniform is the basis for cheating... (read in full...)
Was this online guy playing me?
Q. Ok so here goes, i had met this gent of a guy on a dating site. And we exchanged a few emails and numbers. So for the first couple of days things were going really well, and we talked a lot about the future, what we were looking for in partners. And ...
A. 16 July 2013: Well, first of STOP taking your anger out on your family, THEY don't deserve it.
Secondly, from what you write I think he back off because you were to "aggressive" in your expectations.
He "should" have let you know that he might be MIA wit... (read in full...)
Does that sound like he was keen to come and see me?
Q. Hi guys, I just wanted some opinions on my situation. About three weeks ago I hooked up with a guy in a band (they were on tour). He gave me his number and we had been texting back and forth for about two weeks. He's not from my state so I went ...
A. 16 July 2013: I would just drop it, you hooked up and he gave you the most vague idea of when/if at all possible time he could/might be in your area again....
If he was really KEEN on seeing YOU again, he would try and be more specific and he wouldn't stop sta... (read in full...)
Does getting oral still qualify you as a virgin?
Q. hey guys just a quick question does geting oral qualify as being a virgin some people say yes others no if you can help please do...
A. 16 July 2013: I'm so on the fence with this. I know that technically, YOU are still a "virgin" but you are no longer the "innocent virgin" - you are now SEXUALLY active.
Same with people who think having anal is NOT having sex, it is it's called ANAL sex and ... (read in full...)
Thrilled to be pregnant, but so many fears ...
Q. Am pregnant... thats great news ....and am happy about that because i have always asked God to give me something that is truly mine....So hopefully by december my baby comes along Am scared... bacuse right after knowing am pregnant, i got ...
A. 15 July 2013: Sit down with your BF - make a budget and learn to stick to it. The sooner the better. Get into some good habits before the baby is here.
Can you go on maternity leave? Or will you be let go? And yes, you should talk to your boss, she/he might be... (read in full...)
If you were me, would you take him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up recently. The relationship was at tipping point and although we loved each other (and still do) very much and had a great connection and friendship, it was time that we either did something about it, or brake ...
A. 15 July 2013: I think all the junk from your first "go around" are still there. There WAS a good reason you two broke up, don't forget that.
Sometimes it feels easier to go back with someone you were with for a good while, hoping it will be better second t... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want me?
Q. Hi I would really like some help here, am I being paranoid, or is something not right? I have been with my BF for 3 months, everything is perfect except one thing! I can count on one hand how many times we have had sex. We do everything e...
A. 15 July 2013: I think SVC is right, if he is not into you sexually - time won't change a thing.
He got his earlier in the day, so he felt he didn't need to return the favor because we all know that when women get men of that is the highlight for us on sex (not... (read in full...)
I need to let my girlfriend know I'm gay, but I don't know how to say it exactly
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now. Yet, she was the one that asked me out on a date, however I've always regreted my choice to date her. I have no sexual attraction for her, however I have a strong sexual attraction to men. I was ...
A. 15 July 2013: You are NOT doing her any favors by staying with her. You are ONLY stringing her along and well, CHEATING on her - how is that in any way right for you to do? Gay or not, GROW a set and tell her it's over. Tell her you have fallen for a guy and that ... (read in full...)
Caught my girlfriend cheating. She doesn't know that I know. What should I do?
Q. Please, please help?? My world has been turned upside down. I have been with this woman for just over a year. I fell in love with her very quickly. I've never met anyone like her. I've loved before but never like this. Anyway, about 6 mont...
A. 15 July 2013: I'm sorry!
However, you handled it with grace and dignity. BLOCK her number, that way you won't feel tempted to talk to her. Because she would UNDOUBTEDLY lie her ass off.
You did the right thing. YOU dumped a cheating, lying douche of a girl... (read in full...)
When you squirt does it smell like pee?
Q. I think I just learned how to squirt I empty my bladder nd I had the feeling of Peeing nd I let go so I squirted bt it still smells alittle like pee so I got up and went to the bathroom to see if I needed to pee more bt I don't so is that pee or is ...
A. 15 July 2013: Amen to all that YouWish wrote.
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He broke up with my friend, I fell for him, and now he's talking to her again
Q. One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend... and her bf talked to me a lot and we used to text each other.... i really liked him and thought that now since my friend is out of the picture... it may happen that we two end up together... it may ...
A. 15 July 2013: You committed a "part foul" AKA "girl-code rule" by getting involved with a friend's EX. That rarely turns out good. Because if it DOESN'T work out, like your situation - YOU look like the bad guy. And you can't TELL me there weren't any other guys ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lies to authorities and tells them his parents are dead. Isn't that kind of sick?
Q. My partner is currently serving a prison sentence for violence towards me. At first he was being very apologetic saying it would never happen again and please dont leave him. Now he says to me that he doesnt trust me not to go to the police again ...
A. 15 July 2013: You really need to cut the contact FULLY with this guy. Stop letting him tell you WHAT you may or may not think.
As for his parents being dead or not, yes that is sick, but it should SHOW you what kind of guy he is.
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My ex boyfriend told me I had bad breath and now I'm paranoid
Q. Hi everyone my ex boyfriend who i split up with 4 month ago told me i had bad breath i have asked all my friends and family who i can trust to tell me the truth i have had a couple of dates with a new man but im so paranoid about the comment my ex ...
A. 15 July 2013: I agree with Denise - get a cleaning, it's NOT that expensive and it CAN help prevent many diseases in your mouth and... help your breath smell fresher :) And it's WAY more important then what your BF/EX thinks - it's your health!
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I thought we were in love but he seems to have time for a lot of women 'friends'. Am I overreacting?
Q. I met a man on Facebook and we fell in love. At least I thought we did. He was the first to say it, and for a while we were just crazy about each other. We even managed to Skype from time to time even though he lives in another country. I found it a ...
A. 14 July 2013: Don't feel bad for wanting to love and be loved. We all do, one way or another.
Chin up!... (read in full...)
I thought we were in love but he seems to have time for a lot of women 'friends'. Am I overreacting?
Q. I met a man on Facebook and we fell in love. At least I thought we did. He was the first to say it, and for a while we were just crazy about each other. We even managed to Skype from time to time even though he lives in another country. I found it a ...
A. 14 July 2013: He is not serious about YOU or any of the other women on his FB, you are all his little EGO boosters.
I would DROP him and find a man who isn't FAR FAR away and whom you can get to know in person.
You are a fantasy, and he is YOUR fantasy.
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Best friend and boyfriend .... what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and my best friend have been sleeping together for at least 5 months but I can't find the courage to leave him. We share a 18 week old daughter, and we have just got our first mortgage in the past year. I'm in two minds about whether to ...
A. 14 July 2013: Dump her as a friend. She doesn't give a shit about you.
If you THINK you and your bf can work through this, then TALK to him. Maybe he WANTS to stay maybe not, but you won't find out til he drops the bomb or you speak up. So SPEAK up.
You don... (read in full...)
He is making me pay for having a higher IQ than him!
Q. Dear Cupid I have a weird problem. I am with my current bf for 3 years who is kind of narcissist. Our sex life is great, i am kind of emotionally dependent on him, but the main problem is, he doesn't like the fact that i am smarter than him...
A. 14 July 2013: """What should i do to make him believe i should give a damn about his IQ level."""
Dump him.
IF he treats you this way because you are smarter, how do you think he will treat you once you tell him that IQ doesn't matter?
The way he trea... (read in full...)
22 years later I still feel guilty!
Q. 22 years after my divorce, I still feel as though I let my children down and don't seem able to throw off that feeling which haunts me every day. The divorce was not totally my fault although I do bear some of the responsibility....
A. 14 July 2013: Have you talked to your kids about it? They may NOT feel the same way at all.
Accept that the marriage ended and that pointing finger is NOT going to make you any happier. Marriage is like a souffle. It takes HARD work and even if you do everythi... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: So he is respecting YOUR privacy too, by not gushing about all over the Internet.
I have much respect for your man.
Since you said he is an actor I can just imagine the kind of crap that COULD come your way if he put that out there.
Howe... (read in full...)
Caught my girlfriend cheating. She doesn't know that I know. What should I do?
Q. Please, please help?? My world has been turned upside down. I have been with this woman for just over a year. I fell in love with her very quickly. I've never met anyone like her. I've loved before but never like this. Anyway, about 6 mont...
A. 14 July 2013: This isn't about you (for the most part) her ACTIONS are hers, and you CAN NOT or rather SHOULD not feel responsible for them.
Women can be cheaters too. Yours sound like she was never fully faithful to you, you just didn't notice til 6 months i... (read in full...)
Why am I not convinced that he loves me?
Q. I just got engaged a month ago- my fiancée keeps telling me how much he loves me. Do whatever I want him to do, treat me so well and put me pretty much first to everything. I wasn't crazy about him at first but I leaned to love him as well as the ...
A. 14 July 2013: I honestly think it was unfair of you to say YES to getting engaged if you are this uncertain of how you feel.
And I think it's more that YOU don't think YOU love him, then him loving you. You say you WANT to love him, well either you do or you d... (read in full...)
How to win a mind game( push/pull game) at work place?
Q. Hi. I am wondering if someone could tell me how to win a mind game ( push/ pull game) a coworker guy is playing on me? Is there really any way to win this game as a girl. Thanks for all the help. ...
A. 14 July 2013: Why play games? He is a colleague, treat him like one, not a potential suitor.
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He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: People do "social media" in different ways, he apperently likes o keep you private and the details of the relationship private, I assume his family & friends knows about you by now?
So I will agree with CMMP. I don't think anyone HAS to SCREAM i... (read in full...)
How do I handle nasty girls at work?
Q. Why are these girls so horrible? I'm so upset:(? I got a new job 2months ago and the girls I started with are just plain nasty. They all formed a little group immediately and left me out and that's fine with me but they just won't leav...
A. 14 July 2013: I know it's hard, but you need to stop caring about what they do and say. BE who you are, be the good employee and let them play these high-school games, sooner or later people WILL see though it and you know what? THEY will look like morons.
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Put a dent in my boyfriend's car, how do I handle this?
Q. I backed into something last night in boyfriends new car and now he is not speaking to me after though he was rude and acts like i did it on purpose. How long will he be mad? It isnt even a big dent (2in) also how should i handle it we live together...
A. 13 July 2013: I would look into what it will cost to have it fixed and then offer PAY for it.
It's not about the size of the dent. I'm pretty sure he knows you didn't do it on purpose, but you still put a dent into his car.
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I'm not her type, but she went on a date with me?
Q. Hey everyone! I recently went on a date with this girl, who I've been pursuing for like 6 weeks. She and I have an extraordinary amount in common, from musical taste, sense of humor, race and even religion - the main reason behind me being so a...
A. 13 July 2013: It was just the first date? If so, I think it was a GOOD thing you didn't come on too strongly with the "sexual tension". Take the time to get to know her and let her get to know you.
And maybe her "type" is more guy she knows aren't good for her,... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 13 July 2013: I don't think you are crazy for having decided to NOT have children. I was quite sure I didn't want any til I hit my late 20's and met my now husband.
And I agree there are many parents out there who shouldn't have kids.
Do what YOU want wi... (read in full...)
What shall I say to make the break-up less harsh?
Q. I don't like my boyfriend anymore.? He never compliments me or says I look attractive/beautiful or tells me how he feels about me, he makes me feel fat because he flirts with other girls. He doesn't want a sexual relationship yet which makes me t...
A. 13 July 2013: You don't really love him, so let him down easy. And don't drag it out.
Tell him you just don't feel like it's working out between you to. Don't need to go into a details.
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He still looks at naked pics of his ex
Q. Can I still date the guy or pursue a marriage while he is still curious about his ex girlfriend and look for her online and look at her naked photos? Is this normal for a guy? ...
A. 13 July 2013: Totally unacceptable. I would end it, because it DOES show that he isn't over her. IF he was over her, why would he look at those pictures?
Like YouWish said, no ring on your finger is going to make it OK or make him stop.
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Can my ex take my daughter away from an environment where she's doing well?
Q. Im not sure if this belongs on this site, but i'll try it. My 14 year old daughters mother lives in VA and is moving to Texas in a month. For the last 3 years my daughter has lived with me and done real well with school and is living a stable life, ...
A. 13 July 2013: At 14 your daughter is old enough to decide where she wants to live, my advice - get a lawyer.... (read in full...)
My online guy is giving me the silent treatment
Q. Hi, Guy’s I hope you can help. I met a guy online. We have been talking for two months now. He asked me if we could become exclusive since we got along so well. I said yes. We haven’t met yet because he lives long distance. I have asked hi...
A. 11 July 2013: How can you even consider uprooting yourself for this guys sake? You have only "known" him for 2 months and he treats you like crap when "you" upset him? This is not a healthy relationship, which might not be so odd as he isn't mentally stable ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancé suddenly looking at porn?
Q. I have just found out that my fiance has been on a porn site. I am worried he is getting fed up of me. He has always said that he hasn't looked at porn since he has been with me (3 years now) so why now all of a sudden? Any advice please?...
A. 10 July 2013: I agree with CaringGuy.
I don't think it's something new, I just think that he feels comfortable in the relationship to not hide it.
I DO think you need to talk to him and I would tell him to be honest about it. ... (read in full...)
How do I distinguish the losers from the keepers? And how do I tell a keeper I want to wait before having sex?
Q. I have relationship problems, how do i trust a guy when i have been hurt by the ones i thought i could trust? Every guy i am suposed to be friends with decide they want in my pants or want to be in a relationship. I dont flirt with guys, I just love ...
A. 10 July 2013: I honestly don't think you ARE ready for a relationship. Which given your age isn't totally weird, it's a steep learning curve for sure.
Back off from dating a bit. FIGURE out what you want from a relationship. If you are RUNNING from guy you "thi... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for thinking that the cosmetic surgery took something away?
Q. There's this girl that I used to date, she was so beautiful and now she's had a nose job. Nothing drastic, she just got rid of the bump on her nose to have it straightened and had the tip raised a bit. It looks really good, if I didn't know her ...
A. 10 July 2013: I think in a way, that yes you are shallow. It's not your body nor your business. WHAT IF her new nose makes HER happy?
Just because a girl is "hot" doesn't mean she doesn't have thing about herself she doesn't like and want to "fix". It doesn't ... (read in full...)
In love with two different guys
Q. First of all, this is going to be pretty long, so I just want to thank anyone who actually takes the time to read this and give advice. Let's do each other a favor and try to keep negative comments to a minimum. Basically, I'm in love with two di...
A. 10 July 2013: I think you are not "IN LOVE" with either guy. You are in LOVE with the IDEA of being in love.
The Brian guy you met on the net and that you are having a "relationship" long distance without having met in person? That can make for a great fantasy ... (read in full...)
I'm married and friend now wants to have sex. What do I do?
Q. Hi I am actually from Pakistan but now living in Australia with my husband and 4 years old son.My husband works and I am a housewife.We r really a happy small family.Here I met with a guy when I first came.I lost my way and my husband was not with ...
A. 9 July 2013: How about no?
HE is NOT a friend. Friends don't try and coax you into having sex with him. They don't SNOG a married lady either.
Hugs and cheek-kissing CAN be OK, but not with a guy like this who seems to not understand that you might have b... (read in full...)
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