Is it silly of me to be upset because he said he'd text me right back but 12 hours later he didn't but was on facebook making comments?
Q. I am feeling quite angry right now and I don't know if I am over reacting. My bf and I have been together almost 3 yrs we are both middle-aged, me divorced and him never married no kids. He is slow in terms of moving the relationship forward too ...
A. 11 September 2013: Was it an important text?
Is texting how you normally communicate? What is the norm in your relationship.
Because in my marriage it's NOT for communicating, so that is why I ask, texting is RARE it's only used for short messages, I'm go... (read in full...)
I found out he has a girlfriend. Should I confront him or see if he'll admit to it?
Q. about a month ago i met this guy who is 20 and i am 17. we got really well, having the same intrests and all that. so we saw each other a few times but then last weekend he had something to do which i know was true. but since then our texting and ...
A. 11 September 2013: I agree, I would not waste my time on this Joker either. I would however let him know, that you know he has a GF and you want nothing to do with him. Then cut all contact.
Don't stoop to "revenge". It makes you as bad as him.
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How can you just not care if your partner had orgazm or not
Q. I am in my early thirties, met a guy in his late 30s. Went on a date several times and we had sex. It was so lousy that I am not sure that i want to see him again. I would understand if it was someone young and inexperienced, but he was married, now ...
A. 11 September 2013: Yes, that doesn't sound like great sex at all, but here is my 2 cents.
YOU were there too, the guy is NOT responsible for making all the magic happen. It's NOT teaching him "how to sex" if you tell a guy what you like and what you don't. IF you j... (read in full...)
Wasn't the sex good for her? Why did she have to start masturbating immediately after I had my orgasm?
Q. If I slept with a girl after our 2nd date and after a 10-minute intercourse where I orgasmed, she proceeded to immediately start masturbating and even asked me to do it for her the next 20 mins. Does it mean she didn't enjoy the intercourse or ...
A. 11 September 2013: Maybe since you got yours, she wanted to get hers?
In your book is sex over once YOU reach orgasm? And if so, maybe you should ensure she gets her rocks off first.... (read in full...)
Why did my ex boyfriend block me from his social networking site?
Q. My ex BLOCKED me from a social network site... and I don't know why? He's been an ex for a year. It was a rough breakup. He left me the day I found out I was actually pregnant. He broke up with me in a text message.... He was also my first. The...
A. 11 September 2013: My guess, he wants to move on. OR he wants YOU to move on.
Or he met someone new and don't want you getting hurt by seeing it on FB (or whatever social network).
It is hard to say why people do what they do at times. But maybe removing him fro... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend saw me with my new friend!
Q. I was in a relationship for a year and I recently broke up with her. Its been about two weeks and we only talked once. I broke up with her because she cheated on me. She blacked out and I guess from what she told me she made out with another guy ...
A. 10 September 2013: Leave her be.
Let her lick her wounded pride. It is never a nice feeling to be "replaced", even if she did cheat on you.
But maybe it will let her move on and maybe it will make her reflect on her own actions.... (read in full...)
Men, what is my ex-FWB thinking after I said goodbye two weeks ago?
Q. I ended 2year "fwb" ... had to walk away! I honestly believed that we met for such great reason, so choosing to end all, for someone I truly liked and cared for hurt. I hadn't heard from him like "normal" and when I sent a casual, "hello' ...
A. 10 September 2013: We can all speculate what he is thinking and we can be right or totally off target. The thing is, YOU did what you felt was right for you.
Of course I'm a woman, not a man so my view is perhaps not what you are looking for.
Now, you say ... (read in full...)
Do I keep a good man even though he's terrible at sex?
Q. Hi:) I need some advice on what I should about my boyfriend because I'm really on the fence... I'm in my mid thirties, divorced( i was with my ex for 13 years)and no children and really want to find the one and settle down and have a family et...
A. 10 September 2013: He is aware that he can get you off other ways then penis in vagina, right?
Do you two ever TALK about sex? What you like? What you need?
I wouldn't be surprised if he has spend a LOT of time having sex with his fist. That might be why he ... (read in full...)
What happened with this guy? What changed?
Q. Dear Cupid, i'd like to ask for an advice. There's this guy that i'm dating for a m0nth n0w. He's my co worker, same c0mpany but different department. I enjoyed his c0mpany and i fell in love with him without him kn0wing. I'm hurting right n0w coz ...
A. 10 September 2013: I would call him.
Could be that he thought you weren't as into him as he was into you. Hard to say, it's ONLY been a month.
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I want to date but when I look at men I feel sick
Q. hi aunts and uncles, its been awhile since i have wrote and asked a question. first off, im doing sooooo much better now since my divorce. my husband had left me for a woman in her early 20s and he was later 40s, and he had a baby by her in june. ...
A. 10 September 2013: What are your hobbies? If you have an old hobby you haven't done in a while, look for a class in your area, while you will learn something new you might also met new people.
Do you have a group of friends? Then go out with them (and I don't me... (read in full...)
What happened with this guy? What changed?
Q. Dear Cupid, i'd like to ask for an advice. There's this guy that i'm dating for a m0nth n0w. He's my co worker, same c0mpany but different department. I enjoyed his c0mpany and i fell in love with him without him kn0wing. I'm hurting right n0w coz ...
A. 10 September 2013: Were you two exclusively dating? Or were you just texting? Were you sleeping together?
It makes no sense for him to just ignore you if you two were in the first month of dating, UNLESS you already slept with him and all he wanted was sex. Or if he... (read in full...)
I thought I was bi, but could I be a lesbian?
Q. Ever since a young age I have always believed that I was bisexual but after having my first few sexual encounters with men, the tables were completely turned. I felt absolutely nothing, I wasn't turned on in the slighted way. I was even imagining in ...
A. 10 September 2013: I agree, why do you NEED a label. You are still young, so I would just relax.
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I don't feel comfortable meeting my boyfriend's family because I'm bisexual
Q. I have always known I was bisexual since my early teens, and I have had two relationship with women. My parent's and I fell out due to this, so I haven't spoken to them in five year's. I'm currently seeing a really nice guy who I'm falling ...
A. 10 September 2013: Why is your sexual preference ANY of his family's business? Do you think it will be a topic at the dinner table at the wedding?
You will met homophobs everywhere, but there are fewer of them these days. What you do, is ignore them and their op... (read in full...)
OCD with temper issues...is this a relationship worth saving?
Q. im in a new relationship with someone who has a past of abuse from an ex, she also has ocd quite bad with a short temper but refuses to get help as she says shes okay. shes now asked me to come off a social network site that i only use to contact ...
A. 9 September 2013: She doesn't think she needs help, so not only is she OCD, but she was in an abusive relationship and her answer it to try and CONTROL everything (including you) in her life.
There isn't anything you can do, this isn't healthy at all.
Short t... (read in full...)
On again off again girlfriend read texts in my phone to another girl and now she's not speaking to me! I want her back!
Q. Hi I don't normally do this , but I'm in bits ... I'm 36 I'm seeing my GF on and off for about 6 years, we've broken up and made up numerous times, the latest event we got back together in June after a split of 8 months, everything was going well ...
A. 9 September 2013: Well, not much you can do. IF YOU think it's OK to sext another woman and your now EX-GF didn't - there is nothing to "fix" it means you aren't compatible.
If you ACT single and yea, flirting and sexting is ACTING single - it's NOT harmless... (read in full...)
Should I see this meeting as a date?
Q. A few years back I worked closely with a girl for a couple of months and developed feelings for her. I never acted on them, as I had dated her friend previously and also happened to be her direct superior and thought making a move would be ...
A. 9 September 2013: I would take this as a "catching up" meeting - NOT a date.
Now if you two hit it off, maybe you can ASK her out on a date.
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If he really loved me wouldn't he talk about making changes in our lives?
Q. Dear Cupid, Looking for a man perspective. I've been in an exclusive relationship for 3 years, we are both middle-aged. We've broken up several times, because I'm frustrated in not seeing any progress and he is unwilling to talk about where rela...
A. 9 September 2013: I think FA hit it on the head.
He likes status quo. And he KNOWS that eventually down the road you will take him back and you two start over, so where is the need for change?
He isn't the guy for you if your goal is to move in together.
And... (read in full...)
Who takes off the condom after sex?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I've been sleeping with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we always use a condom. Thing is, it kind of gets awkward when it's time to remove the condom. After the act, I always remove the condom for him and wipe the mes...
A. 9 September 2013: For me that is the guy's job. I'll help put it on, but take it off.. That I leave to him.
I'm with R1 - if you like to do it then keep at it, if you don't then... don't.... (read in full...)
My EX from 2 weeks ago is already ENGAGED to her PREVIOUS EX!!! Help!!!
Q. So I figured I would get an outsiders, unbiased perspective on this situation. My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We broke it off very well; maturely, trying to stay friends, and kept it very civil. We were dating for about a year...
A. 9 September 2013: Well, there is always a silver lining. At least it's not YOU getting married to her.
She sounds like she can't handle being alone, and the fact that she will marry a guy she's had a off again on again relationship with after only 2 weeks, sounds l... (read in full...)
The girl that rejected me keeps contacting me
Q. There's this girl I had "something" with from around early May to mid July. We kissed and stuff, we went to the movies, we hanged out a lot, she'd text me almost every day, but we didn't even have sex. I asked her to be my gf and she told me no or ...
A. 8 September 2013: She likes the attention she got from you. She doesn't seem to get that it is hurtful for her to keep in contact when you want more and she knows it.
I don't she wants to date you, but I think she wants to have you "chase" after her.
I would... (read in full...)
Why would you women wear a ring on your wedding ring finger if you aren't married?
Q. Totally confused over here right about now......... I like a woman who I thought was married because she wore what looked like a wedding ring on her wedding ring finger. At first I thought it wasn't, it looked too plain not a band type ring then I...
A. 8 September 2013: Maybe that is the only finger it fits on?
It's called a RING FINGER, not Wedding Ring Finger.
Before I got married I had a family heirloom that I would wear on my ring finger. Since I'm left handed I wore on my left ring finger.
It's ... (read in full...)
Used to like this guy, and now we are great friends, does girl/boy friendship exist? Advice
Q. Hi, There is this guy i used to like 3 year ago. We got together, as in kissed, and later on we realised there is no point and honestly i do not think he liked me enough. So, we didnt speak for few months i would say and then we started hanging out ...
A. 7 September 2013: Again, I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou.
You are hanging around him hoping he will realize that YOU are a great catch, and in that process you are holding yourself back from finding a guy who is a good fit for you.
You are still more worried abo... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits, but he has a girl-friend and he doesn't care about her. Any opinion on these signs that he may like me?Thank you
Q. HI, there is this guy i used to like and i told him he didn't pay attention and so on, this was like 5 years ago. And he was a major womaniser. Anyway, so i started dating this guy and he started dating this girl, and this guy who i liked his name ...
A. 7 September 2013: I wonder how he describes you? If he GF is that dumb, yet he is still with her, so whether you like it or not and whether he calls her dumb or not, HE wants to be with HER - not you.
She is.. GF-material. YOU... are someone to have sex with eve... (read in full...)
I've seen her on online dating sites but she won't admit it
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for just over 18 months. Recently I have found her 3 times on dating sites. We have argued and almost broken up over it. Even though I saw it with my own eyes, she is still denying it. Is it just a bit of a joke? or ...
A. 7 September 2013: Print them out? And show them to her? Kind of hard to deny it when it's there in black and white.
Also WHAT are you doing on the dating sites yourself?
Did you two met on a dating site? Is her profile old?
... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 7 September 2013: When you use the 3rd person view it makes it 100 times harder to read and understand.
1. People can't "Steal" other people. If "the girls" BEST friend drop her for some guy who is entertaining and do her favors, then honestly, she couldn't... (read in full...)
After six years my ex wants to meet up. I'm not feeling too good about this!
Q. My partner of 17 years left me for another guy six years ago. During this period she got married and divorced. She has recently contacted me via email saying that she is still in love with and regrets hurting. She wanted to communicate and either ...
A. 7 September 2013: Go with your gut instinct! It tells you she is up to no good.
She is single and want SOMEONE (anyone) to be there for her and since she hasn't found anyone yet she want back to you, hoping that YOU would be overjoyed for the attention and the chan... (read in full...)
I want to score with this girl but cant get her attention!
Q. I really like this girl. I met her at work. she's beautiful, sexy and smart. She is oozing with breath taking sex appeal. she knows how to dress well and very down to earth. The problem is, I learned that she is older than me by 7 years. I didn't ...
A. 7 September 2013: I think YouWish hit it all.
She doesn't want to be some young guys notch in the bedpost.
YOU might want to have sex with her, but she might NOT want to have sex with you.
I think the whole "want a rich BF" means she wants a guy who can and ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's boyfriend. She treats him horribly and he wants to leave her for me.
Q. My best friend got her first boyfriend 5 weeks ago. And, unfortunately in that d weeks I've fallen for him.... Not on purpose though! We've been best friend for 10 years but she always made me feel worthless, she treat me like a slave and talked ...
A. 7 September 2013: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou and Denise. You are living in la-la land if you think what YOU are doing is OK and if you think what "fred" is doing is OK.
You are being a sucky friend and just a LITTLE to naive to not see what game "fred" is playi... (read in full...)
Can I assume every guy going to a gay bar is gay?
Q. I'm 26, and have recently tried to go to a gay bar alone, but don't spend too long there, because I'm not very confident going there, but I suppose it's the only real way to meet other gay people in my semi-rural area. Where I live there isn't much ...
A. 7 September 2013: No you can't assume everyone at a gay bar is gay.
Gay people have straight friends (and visa versa) and those straight people DO go hang out at gay bars with their friends.
So could be bi-curious, some straight, some gay. Never assume you... (read in full...)
I feel I made an inappropriate comment on a date and that it might have put the guy off
Q. I went on a date last week with a guy and made an inappropriate comment. I mentioned it being lady's night and the ticket would be less expensive. He said, "you're saved" and I said, "not me, you." He began to laugh but more like a damn haha ...
A. 7 September 2013: I see nothing worng in your comment. I think you are just so used to your EX bossing you around that you over analyze everything.
However, if a guy doesn't contact you within 3 days then I think he is just not that into you. The fact that he didn'... (read in full...)
Serendipity after a summer camp. Not Quite!
Q. I met a guy at a church Summer Camp I volunteer at every year. He was coming from another state on a mission to help in the camp. We talked a lot during camp and when he left he gave me his phone number. We spoke a bit on Facebook but not too much...
A. 7 September 2013: I would cut the contact, he isn't interested in you, just certain body-parts for him to look at.
And he keeps pressuring you, sooner or later you will feel like you somehow OWE him a look-see and then you will spend the next VERY long time reg... (read in full...)
I need my personal space but my fiancé wants to come with me when I go out. How can I get the space I need?
Q. I live in the city with my fiancé, in a cramped apartment with other people. There's not much personal space. Sometimes I just want space to myself. If I go out my fiancé usually wants to come too. What to do? I'm a bit of an introvert and the ...
A. 7 September 2013: Have you told your fiance that you JUST need a little ME-time? I had a spot (botanical garden) that I used to go to when I needed to cram for exams or just needed peace and quiet. My BF (at the time) knew where I was but he also knew that if I ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my girlfriend if she enjoys sex?
Q. Lately after sex with my girlfriend i have been asking her if she enjoyed it or if she had fun. Is this bad? And i don't know why i started asking her that. Maybe i feel like she does not enjoy it? By me asking would that make her less attracted to ...
A. 6 September 2013: Do you doubt she is enjoying herself?
Do you doubt your "skills"?
What you could do is to ask her if there is something in particular she likes for you to try or do.... (read in full...)
I had my android phone stolen and there were compromising photos of me on it. I feel sick!
Q. Hi, i know this is a relationship forum. but this has literally been killing me inside. i recently lost my android smart phone. It was stolen because after i called it, it rang a few times, after 5-6 calls, it stopped. So i'm assuming the thi...
A. 6 September 2013: Well, all you can really do is learn from this. Do NOT have pictures you don't want seen by others on your phone.
... (read in full...)
He isn't well off financially and spends most of his time with his children. This things bother me. How should I feel?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have been in a relationship with a man for about 7 months. I really do love spending time with him, we have a lot in common and we get along very well. He is funny, fun-loving, smart, understanding, reflective, and I find him very ...
A. 6 September 2013: I think you know what to do.
The guy is a good one, but he is NOT for you. The fact that you write, and I quote : **I could always hang out with him and his children, but frankly, it's not my thing.**
Not your thing? You are DATING a man wit... (read in full...)
We really like each other, but he dated my friend in high school? What should I do?
Q. I've known this man since high school. We had casually talked and flirted while in school, and even after we graduated, but nothing ever happened. Then a few weeks ago, I happened to see him on a dating site I was on, so I sent him a message. We ...
A. 6 September 2013: Yikes, this is a hard one.
Normally, I would say DO NOT date a friend's ex. It's just tacky. And specially not if you all run the same social circle.
She is married, which means she has found her "bliss". So with that in mind I would say, if yo... (read in full...)
Online dating: How long do you wait to ask someone out on a real date?
Q. I have been messaging this girl on a dating website for 3 weeks. How long do you think I should leave it until I ask her out for a drink?...
A. 6 September 2013: I would ask her out. You don't really get to know a person just by IM'ing back and forth in the same way as you do talking face-to-face.
Maybe ask her out for coffee instead of drinks? If the date goes well then dinner and/or drinks?
... (read in full...)
He was silent after we had sex, I'm scared it was bad!
Q. am little worried i started seeing this guy and when we first had sex he was just silent he only kissed my forhead and we slept..am scared maybe it was bad or what waa running through his mind..but he does call after that we still talk.should i be ...
A. 6 September 2013: I wouldn't worry about that honestly, not many guys are all that talkative after sex.
Also what did you expect? A play-by-play and praise afterwards?
If so, then you need to let him know.... (read in full...)
My mate tried to harass me!
Q. Help a guy who I am very close with keeps trying it on with me! My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me recently and I am devastated:( i'm not coping well, I want him back:( and a lot has been going on and I am under stress from exams and...
A. 6 September 2013: 1. STAY away from him. Tell him why if he asks and then CUT him out. HE is NOT being a friend. He thinks you are an easy target because you are single.
2. IF he does ANYTHING like that again, report him.
Now do you remember when you were li... (read in full...)
His wife refused to exit the picture, I broke up with him but wonder if I did the right thing?
Q. Until recently I was in a relationship with a guy who is 11 year's older then me. He had been married before, but the relationship ended when his wife had an affair. We met when we were both out on new year's eve. (His friend knew one of my ...
A. 6 September 2013: I would have ended it too, that is WAY to much drama!
1. You met, slept with and started dating a married man. Even if he had left her he was still married, so in the future I would avoid married men, because the potential for drama and emotiona... (read in full...)
Is it right my boyfriend went out with 4 female friends from uni without me, to a swanky new restaurant?
Q. Is it right that my boyfriend goes to dinner in a swanky new restaurant in town with 4 other girls, who are single, without me? No reason for it, just because. Friends from uni that is. My heart sank when he rang me to tell me, and dropped in, ...
A. 6 September 2013: So these are friends from before you two started dating? I really don't see the problem, as long as it doesn't happen constantly.
Going out here and there with friends is pretty normal.
The only thing I find a little rude is that he called y... (read in full...)
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