I went on a date and he seemed bored/tired and made little eye contact. He mentioned meeting again, but did he mean it?
Q. I went on a date last night with a man I met on a dating website. He is new to where I live and so he had his profile up to meet local people. We had been exchanging texts for a while, he stopped talking because he went train (he's in the US Coast ...
A. 21 September 2013: I'd let this one go. If he is not putting forth more of an effort then yes, he isn't that into you. Sorry. :(
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His toxic ex won't respect our relationship!
Q. We've been together 3 yrs, we just got engaged recently and plan to be married soon. We both were married before for 18+ yrs. My ex is only I the picture due to our 4 kids, his ex is in the picture because she can't live without him in her life. ...
A. 18 September 2013: I agree with SVC. It's not his ex that is the problem it's you fiance.
Do not set a wedding date til this is resolved.
I agree with CMMP, that he DID SPEND 18 years with her, so even if there are no kids from the marriage doesn't mean they ca... (read in full...)
New Bf almost seems to want me to be Jealous. Where should this line be drawn?
Q. I'm looking for opinions on where the line falls between being a jealous girlfriend and being a disrespectful boyfriend. I try really hard to be someone my new (about 2 months) boyfriend can stand to put up with. I give him space, I do nice thi...
A. 18 September 2013: I think your gut instinct is telling you he isn't for you.
He is testing your limits, which means he is testing you. Don't TRY so hard to be the fantastic and reasonable GF, be you.
I would, if he brings up the ex again, tell him, OK, I don't... (read in full...)
What are possible reasons for a man to distance himself when another woman is NOT involved?
Q. I'd like to know some of the main reasons a man (35) would distance himself, after 3 years together, to the point of a break up if there isn't another woman involved. Let's say said man is distancing himself, drastically, but still telling hi...
A. 17 September 2013: He ants to move on but isn't ready yet and by telling HER that he loves her, he isn't ready for HER to move on either.
My guess is, he still cares, but maybe not enough to put in an effort. So he tells the ex-GF that he loves her because it's wha... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a man I don't know?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a really great relationship. We met at college and since we grew up in different towns, he goes back home for his summer vacations so we don't get to spend a lot of time together. I have used the free time away from him to ...
A. 17 September 2013: I think it's normal to have crushes through out your life - on actors, strangers, even familiar faces (not family but familiar people).
The thing is there is a line in there somewhere where it can go from a crush to an obsession and that fine lin... (read in full...)
Am I selfish because I want to move closer to my mother and take my son?
Q. I am in major conflict here and feeling very guilty because I'm not sure what to do. I have an ailing mother that lives in another state. I have several siblings and relatives that are with her, and caring for her. However, I want to be with my ...
A. 17 September 2013: I think moving closer to your mom is what YOU need to do. Kids REALLY are fantastic about adapting to new things, people and places. I know because after 15 years as a military wife, our family have moved around quite a bit and my kids are doing ... (read in full...)
Is this where I draw the line, are there 'rules' for when you are told to F yourself?
Q. My boyfriend has said "fuck you" to me at increasing frequency. I remember the first time being offended, he said it with anger towards me in an argument. The next time it made an impression, I remember thinking I was numb to hearing it, and ...
A. 17 September 2013: There are no official rules. Every person is different and so are their limits. ONLY the ones YOU make for yourself. YOU are in charge of how you let others treat you. If cussing at you is not OK, then you need to tell him and then YOU need to ... (read in full...)
I just want him to let me go!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for over three months now. He has serious commitment issues, which he warned me about. He never had a long term relationship, and less than a handful of them were monogamous relationships. He agreed to be exclusive because ...
A. 17 September 2013: I don't know if he is seeing some one else and in a way it's besides the point.
It's only been 3 months and he is not at all caring about meeting you needs. He will give you lip-service and tell you he will do better, but he doesn't follow t... (read in full...)
I am giving him a second chance although he lies and cheats.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over three years now, and it's my first long term relationship. We've had our ups and downs just like anyone. Recently we had a heart to heart, he went out to lunch with a girl who he had been deleting messages ...
A. 17 September 2013: This is going to become a pattern for you and for him.
He will do as he pleases and keep it from you. Until you somehow find out. Then he will apologize, lie and, turn it around on you til you forgive him.
IF you plan on staying with him... (read in full...)
Isn't it an actor's responsibility to keep her partner's psyche safe?
Q. How do actors' spouses feel about love scenes in play or Sensual Couple Dance? Recently I had this same experience as a partner to my performer girlfriend. This was first time I saw her doing this sensual piece on stage, slow routine half in ...
A. 17 September 2013: Nope, not her JOB to keep your jealousy and insecurities in check. (or as you call it your Psyche safe).
What MAY look erotic or sensual to the audience is HARD HARD work for the dancers (no pun intended). They are there to PERFORM a story - pe... (read in full...)
What's up with him only wanting sex with me from behind?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me only from behind… what is that all about? ... It is comming on the fift year we are together and for last couple of years it is just that one position. From behind. I am bored, I love him very much and I can ...
A. 17 September 2013: Seriously? He tells you no! if you want something else then doggy-style?
I think you need to talk about sex OUTSIDE of the bedroom. TELL him what you like and need. Sex isn't just about HIM being please, it's about BOTH of you enjoying the sex.... (read in full...)
Should I date this older woman?
Q. Dear all, I am really torn about this and need some objective advice (besides I am too ashamed to ask any of my friends). I will start with a quick summary about myself: I am 30 years old and had only had one relationship in my whole life. I...
A. 17 September 2013: No you shouldn't date her at all. She is NOT what you are looking for and it would be a "a will settle for this one til I can find better" (younger whatever).
Don't do that to another person.
Also if you two intermingle work wise, keep it pr... (read in full...)
As soon as we returned from a lovely trip, his whole demeanor changed. Why the 180?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We just got home from an amazing trip to the mountains (4 days). Everything wss petfect. No awkwardness, fights, nothing but hugging, kissing, hand holding, and love making the whole time. But as soon ...
A. 17 September 2013: I have to agree with iAmHereToHelpYou and YoyWish. Slow down, guard you heart a little. A 4 day vacation after 1 month is too much too soon.
I would back off, if he is interested he will contact/chase you.
Are you even sure he was/is single... (read in full...)
How do I keep this rude and obnoxious man away from my wedding, yet still have my close friend attend?
Q. Dear All, I am getting married next year and I'm really happy about it. We are planning a very small, intimate wedding of about 25 people. My problem is that a couple of years ago, one of my closest friends left her husband, and started li...
A. 16 September 2013: Well, etiquette state that you can't just invite the the wife of a married couple.
But I do think in your case, I can see why you wouldn't want the obnoxious man at your intimate wedding.
Would she be the only MARRIED person who isn't "allow... (read in full...)
Girls think I'm gay because its football season and I don't want to be involved
Q. all the girls at my school think im gay because they ask me out i say no because its football season theyd get in the way how do i prove im strait. or am i just to in to football and need to get girlfriend. ...
A. 16 September 2013: You don't PROVE you are straight.
Liking or not liking football has NOTHING to do with a person's sexual orientation.
I know gay guy who LOVE football/rugby/hokey and I know straight guys who rather not participate or watch sports.
I SE... (read in full...)
Why does he say he feels no connection ?
Q. My Bf of 1 year says he feels no connection to me. he says he is not my BF. yet we go out, have sex. We started out wrong with sex. He had a cheating GF that lived with him and since then several years of not dating. Now me.. and he says no c...
A. 16 September 2013:
IF you are not happy with status quo then END it, all he is doing now is using you.
By claiming or admitting that he has no feelings for you, he think he has no obligations to commit to anything. And BY let him do this to you, you are ba... (read in full...)
I went on a date and he seemed bored/tired and made little eye contact. He mentioned meeting again, but did he mean it?
Q. I went on a date last night with a man I met on a dating website. He is new to where I live and so he had his profile up to meet local people. We had been exchanging texts for a while, he stopped talking because he went train (he's in the US Coast ...
A. 16 September 2013: Sounds like he should have set up the date at a time where he wasn't so tired. Even though he was tires and felt overworked he still tried to fit YOU in, so I think you must have mad some impression on him.
If you don't hear from him within a... (read in full...)
My mother thinks I should use birth control but I disagree
Q. Well my mom saw my bf just yesterday but she has frequently heard about him and i that we dating. Today on the radio they were talking about how parents should oversee how their children behave. she brought the issue of taking birth control pills. ...
A. 16 September 2013: You give absolutely NO good reason why NOT to take them.
I'm guessing you don't think getting pregnant is so bad.
Listen to your mom. She is the voice of experience and common sense.
Or not, do as you please and be another teen-mom statist... (read in full...)
Can a couple where the man is broke all the time can last. ?
Q. I've been dating my bf for the past 2 years. He was broke when I met him but he was still able to take me to dinner and pay for this and that. He was working hard and had lots of expenses due to school so there was a reason for not having money at ...
A. 16 September 2013: Other then him being broke, how is the relationship?
I understand that if you are the one to foot the bill constantly, that you are beginning to resent it.
MAYBE you two need to come up with more creative and cheap ways to spend time toget... (read in full...)
Hard from seeing a naked woman?
Q. I have a question about erections.... My last two boyfriends could only get half boners from seeing me naked, one was heavily into porn. Is that because I look bad compared to the porn? Is it because they aren't really that interested in se...
A. 15 September 2013: Seeing a naked GORGEOUS male body doesn't necessarily arouse me.
I know people keep saying how men are more visual creatures then women, but I think they NEED more then just a look-see to get going.
So it's NOT about your body. IT's about... (read in full...)
Why did male friend delete and block me on social media?
Q. I befriended a prominent political figure on social media (Twitter first, then Facebook) and we seemed to get along very well. He started a political news organization and he invited me to work with him and I accepted. He's very, very conservative ...
A. 15 September 2013: He wasn't a FRIEND. No great loss.
I'd just stop wasting my time on this one.... (read in full...)
I masturbate about my colleague every night and I'm tired of it! Help!
Q. I have a crush on someone, a coworker. He has a girlfriend. I know I have no chance in hell with him. However, no matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of my head. I've felt like this about him for the past year, and the feeling is as strong as ...
A. 14 September 2013: 1. Find a hotline and talk to someone about the rape. See a counselor.
2. Masturbation is not a bad thing and even thinking about this fantasy guy (because let's face it the guy you are thinking of a pure fiction he just "looks" like the guy from... (read in full...)
Why is my ex's girlfriend telling me I'm evil and ugly?!
Q. It's been 3 yrs!! since my separation my ex a cheater!! I am in a good place emotionally and it seems that my ex's current girlfriend is on facebook under a fake account and messaging me calling me ugly and how my ex is happy and at peace. Funny ...
A. 14 September 2013: Block and report her to Facebook (her real and fake names) Don't get into it with her, but DO use the tools that FB provide to block and remove people like his GF.
Secondly, before you block and remove - take screenshots, print them out (everyth... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to give up everything to be close to my son?
Q. My ex has decided to leave the state we are in for a distant one taking our son with her. Our son is 11 years old. She has decided to leave b/c her mother is ill, and she would like to be by her side. She has all of her family away, and has just ...
A. 14 September 2013: It makes me happy to see a Dad who is willing to go the extra distance to stay in his son's life physically.
I don't blame your ex-wife for wanting to be closer to family when her mom is sick. I wish I could have done the same when my mom beca... (read in full...)
People think my guy is so great but they don't see what I see!
Q. Has anybody ever gone through this, or at least seen it happening before? I have what I would call a normally very sweet guy. My family love him and my friends always tell me how lucky I am, and wish they could meet someone like him. They ask why we ...
A. 14 September 2013: I think you are both addicted.
YOU, to trying to "catch" and "fix" him, and him to finding new ways to do as he please without you finding out.
Honey, no matter HOW much you LOVE this guy and want to FIX him, you can't, because he DOESN'T WANT ... (read in full...)
Male classmate from high school will be travelling to see me. Should I pay for food, metro fares, etc.?
Q. Who pays? A guy I knew in High School (about 15 years ago) is flying into town to visit me in a couple of months. We were never involved romantically, and I'd say we were only acquaintances back then. We've been flirting a little online, and th...
A. 14 September 2013: I'm with WiseOwlE 100%
He pays for himself, you pay for you.... (read in full...)
Am I being shallow? Or is my boyfriend just cheap?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and in that time we have been in love. However.. something that I tried not to let bother me in the beginning has recently really started to get on my nerves. My boyfriend, I feel, is a huge cheaps...
A. 14 September 2013: I'm all for being equal, but he is taking advantage of you and because he KNOWS you are trying to be polite and make the best of it, he KNOWS you will foot the bill.
So next time he wants to go to the movies TELL HIM - I can't afford it.
S... (read in full...)
Is fisting normal?
Q. I just met a beautiful 22 year old (I'm 10 years older) and after our 1st intercourse, she asked me to "fist" her. She derived huge pleasure from it but I was shocked. I've had considerable experience but never have I had a girl ask me this. ...
A. 14 September 2013: I have no idea, I actually had to google it and almost puked. So for me that would NOT be normal.
I'm not saying it's gross but I just don't see how that can be pleasurable, and that is after having had 3 kids.
IF YOU like it and SHE likes it... (read in full...)
Is spending the weekend together the same as living together?
Q. Do you think that staying with your bf or gf every weekend is the same as living together? My bf only visits on the weekend, he has no belongings at my house aside from a toothbrush, doesn't participate financially in anything, doesn't cook or clean ...
A. 14 September 2013: You are not living together. You are spending the week-end together is all.
Living together is having the same address, not one for week-end and another for week-days.
I do agree that in a relationship, you SHOULD be able to do things without... (read in full...)
I need techniques to keep calm when I go on this date!
Q. Greetings everyone, I have a big favour to ask... I am going on a date next week with a women that I think is perfect in every way, but I’m concerned that I will be to nervous; are there any techniques anyone can give me to make sure I am calm a...
A. 13 September 2013: WiseOwlE put it nicely.
It's OK to be nervous, but relax and know that SHE is most likely nervous too!... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my ex after several years of silence?
Q. I am not sure about something and wanted to get some opinions before I act. I have been separated/divorced from my ex for about three and a half years now. It was a bitter divorce, and up till now we have avoided contact except for emails and ...
A. 13 September 2013: I had to deal with this with my husband and it only created more drama to be honest.
They had been divorced almost 6 years when we met, so you would have thought they were both OVER the marriage, break up and divorce, but the ex-wife wasn't -... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting for me to end things?
Q. Hello, I have been seeing this man for two years. We are not in a relationship. There have been many arguments about being together but we never do get commited. Recently we had another problem, and he expressed that he has been waiting for me to ...
A. 13 September 2013: So end it? Then block his number and cut the contact 100% If you want to DATE a guy he is not it, you should know by now, so stop wasting you time on a guy why don't see you as GF material.
Why is it difficult to stop? Because, you two have spe... (read in full...)
Is it too late to tell him about my miscarriage?
Q. when i was 14 i lost my virginity to my then boyfriend Johnny, the following year he dumped me in november a week later i found out i was pregnant around 5 weeks gone, NOONE knew i told noone i was soo scared and was not ready to be a mother i ...
A. 13 September 2013: It won't bring YOU any happiness or closure to tell him, nor him.
Dealing with a loss like that is hard and it might have been best to have shared it with him BACK when it happened. But that is hindsight for you.
6 Years later is not because y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is racist! to his own race!
Q. Hi. Today my boyfriend made a comment that really rubbed me the wrong way. We both had a conversation about what our lives would be like if we broke up. And I said I would date of any race because love has no color. However, my boyfriend and I are ...
A. 13 September 2013: Maybe you need to ask him what he means by it. Doesn't have to turn into an argument, but that is a kind of statement that require some explanations.
And honestly judging people based on something as flimsy as race is full on ignorant.
I under... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to move in with a guy
Q. Hi all, I am 28 and my girlfriend is 26. She is a traveling nurse so she moves pretty frequently. We have only been dating about 2 months and only official for one month. The way her job works is that she will work in a city for 3 months then go...
A. 13 September 2013: I honestly don't think you have a say, yet. The relationship is WAY to new for you to tell her where she can live.
And he can look like anything and still be a good guy. Or bad. You can't really judge by how he looks.
Thirdly, it's for 3 month... (read in full...)
Is he just looking for hookups?
Q. I have a question so I met a guy in a dating site three weeks ago we chatted through text for two days and have gone on three dates.. 1st date we went out to eat I picked the place and he paid then we went out for a few drinks near his house s...
A. 12 September 2013: I agree with SVC, quite a few "red flags".
Slow down. Keep the dates to PUBLIC places. And spend time getting to KNOW him, not just to know his body.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to assume he's infertile?
Q. My boyfriend had the snip nearly 3 years ago we have been together now for 6 months..he has said he is infertile but has admitted that he never went back for the test to confirm this..could he get me pregnant or is it safe to say I would have got ...
A. 12 September 2013: Nope, it is NEVER safe to assume anything like that, keep using condoms til he go gets tested. HE can "think" he is infertile all he wants. After all if it turns out he isn't, HE isn't the one who gets knocked up.
You two have only been together... (read in full...)
How can I stop the leaking after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now… Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especial...
A. 12 September 2013: Where DO you expect it to go?
I mean unless you can fix gravity there isn't ANYTHING you can do, except... ask your BF to USE a condom, that way his fluids stay IN the condom.
... (read in full...)
I've fallen for him now but it seems he is no interested in me or not wanting to be my friend. Please help me
Q. A guy blocked me because he said i wasn't in love with him which was true i called him several times but to no respond, i then sent him an sms he called later saying "lets be real, i was faking, so were u, lets just be friends'. We were friends, i ...
A. 12 September 2013: Stop stalking him and trying to push him into something he doesn't want.
You two can't have been that great friend if he is acting like this.
My advice leave him alone.
Why waste you time chasing a guy who 1. isn't interested ans 2. wh... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok for a married man to take another women out to lunch?
Q. Is it ever ok for a married man to take another women out to lunch? My husband worked with this women but she recently got a different job. Well I just found out tonight that he talked to her online and ask her to have lunch with him sometime so ...
A. 12 September 2013: If he is hiding it from you, then I don't think it's a great idea. The fact that they are talking online and he's not telling you that either, means ( and this is a guess) that he has something to hide.
Now it could be that they still network,... (read in full...)
Should I pay?
Q. So I am Back into the dating scene after I took some time off from my last relationship to recover so I went to online dating to try to find someone since I have a busy schedule. I connected with this guy and he asked me to go out for a drink so 1st ...
A. 12 September 2013: Yes, stay away from his apartment for now.
Secondly, go with your gut. You wrote:" He seems like he is not willing to open up or even be charming" That is after 3 dates? and EVERY time he asks you back to his place (or as you call it "lure" y... (read in full...)
Is it silly of me to be upset because he said he'd text me right back but 12 hours later he didn't but was on facebook making comments?
Q. I am feeling quite angry right now and I don't know if I am over reacting. My bf and I have been together almost 3 yrs we are both middle-aged, me divorced and him never married no kids. He is slow in terms of moving the relationship forward too ...
A. 11 September 2013: Was it an important text?
Is texting how you normally communicate? What is the norm in your relationship.
Because in my marriage it's NOT for communicating, so that is why I ask, texting is RARE it's only used for short messages, I'm go... (read in full...)
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