This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 20 August 2013: Turn to your doctor. Get tested and do NOT have sex with him. Having sex just once and she being HIV+ doesn't means he automatically has it (or that he has passed it n to you) BUT if you are NOT being careful (and obviously he isn't) you are playing ... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 20 August 2013: Get tested in 3 months, 6 months and again in 18 months. And for crying out loud have nothing to do with him!
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One of them is lying. Who do I believe?
Q. i m 18 girl from india. i met a guy when i was in 12 th grade . we are together for 1 year and 3 months . we have all ups and downs as normal couple now the problem is he had created a new fb acc . he dnt share his password. he shared photos...
A. 19 August 2013: So you KNOW he lied about talking to her, is it so far fetched that he lied about the kissing and proposing? The fact that he felt he needed to create a whole new FB to keep it a secret from YOU says a lot.
I'd walk away from this guy.... (read in full...)
I was upset all evening, was I overreacting?
Q. Hello, yesterday I had a meeting in the city with my boyfriend. I was a little late and when I came to the meeting place I saw him talking to his ex gf who he knows I hate very much, because she is psycho bitch. They were laughing and when I was ...
A. 19 August 2013: I agree, you overreacted.
If she was such a psycho that means HE can hate, no need for you to hold on to that hate. Unless of course she hurt YOU.
She didn't get deported when they broke up, exes doesn't go to some deserted island. (even th... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I had a miscarriage ? Were both 18 I don't want to freak him out
Q. My boyfriend and i are both 18 . Last night i had a miscarriage should i tell him? I didn't even know i was pregnant . And i don't want to freak him out . By bringing up a baby and stuff . But should he know ? I was probably around 4 weeks maybe 5 ...
A. 19 August 2013: If you think you had a miscarriage you REALLY need to go see a doctor. Bits left behind can cause all kind of health problems.
And while you are at the doctors get on birth-control.
Having a pregnancy scare is never fun, but hopefully it wil... (read in full...)
For my own sake, should I tell my ex how I feel?
Q. To try and keep a long story short, I left him because of his temper. He wouldn't yell, but rant on and on often saying spiteful things to me e.g. You're crazy, stuck up, bitch After a few weeks on no contact we started talking. Things were goo...
A. 19 August 2013: He knows. He knows that calling you a BITCH crossed a line. If you take him back, he will do it again, he will be sorry, but not sorry enough to admit that he needs some kind of help.
Next time he might throw in a slap for good measure and he w... (read in full...)
He says he wants to see me and then backs out every time! What is with him?
Q. I met a guy a few months ago. He started texting me me a short while after. Our texts became pretty steamy. But he seems to go hot and cold. He says he wants to meet up. Three attempts have been made and he chickens out. Late Friday night he texte...
A. 19 August 2013: to A male reader, human_male
Do you think a REALLY shy guy would send dick shots and THEN cancel a lot? Makes no sense.... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with her and where do I go from here?
Q. Well I posted another question below "She wants space, how should I approach this?" if you want to read that for more info. So I've been keeping to myself and working on self improvement. She requested space so I've given it to her, I had sent...
A. 19 August 2013: Honestly, her e-mail sounds like a nice "let down" instead of saying we are over directly.
Sounds to me like she doesn't want a relationship right now, that it's too much to handle for her.
So with that in mind I think I would back off 100%.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to persue this divorced woman? Is my friend jealous?
Q. I have friends, but not at all close friends who divorced. I saw her now and then where she works and she's always been very friendly. We grew up together in the same small town, but never hung out or were ever really friends, we ran in different ...
A. 19 August 2013: You are both GROWN adults I can't see why you two (the lady and yourself) can pursue it.
Can be your buddy feels like you should out of respect for her ex, but if the ex isn't a friend of yours, then I don't see why YOU shouldn't see if she is f... (read in full...)
Is this girl a little too friendly with other men?
Q. This is maybe a silly question.. but basically me and this girl have been talkin off an on for a bit.. we first went out for a date which was fun. After she went off for a bit, still txtin but not meeting any way .. then she asked to meet up I said ...
A. 18 August 2013: She seems like one of those girls who LOVE to be surrounded by people she knows. If you want more, I would look for another girl, and... get to know her in person, not all this texting stuff.... (read in full...)
Should I keep him in my life in any form or just cut my losses and forget about him completely?
Q. Me and a guy at work have been attracted to one another for several years now. We both came out of serious but painful relationships around the same time. Mine was a longer relationship so it took longer to get over. We both have one child e...
A. 18 August 2013: Since he is a co-worker and rather all-over the place in his behavior - I would tone down the flirting and JUST be professional co-workers and perhaps friends, but I would not start anything remotely romantically with him.... (read in full...)
He says he wants to see me and then backs out every time! What is with him?
Q. I met a guy a few months ago. He started texting me me a short while after. Our texts became pretty steamy. But he seems to go hot and cold. He says he wants to meet up. Three attempts have been made and he chickens out. Late Friday night he texte...
A. 18 August 2013: He has someone. Only real reason I can see as to why he would cancel over and over.
He WANTS to cheat, but he doesn't want to get caught.
I'd say toss this one back in the pond.
Find someone, get to KNOW them (and I don't mean through sexy/... (read in full...)
Suggestions on how to decoy him for a few minutes?
Q. hi I need some suggestions... I want to do something special for my boyfriend for his birthday we are going out of town on vacation and will be at a nice hotel and resort. I want to decorate the room really romantic for him but i need an excuse t...
A. 18 August 2013: Send him in the showers?... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me because I've been single for over a year?
Q. I need to know whats wrong with me! Im 22 My last serious relationship was over a year ago. My friends and family are pressuring me to get a new boyfriend and its really stressful.Even after all this time Im still not ready to commit to anyone ...
A. 18 August 2013: Nothing wrong with you. Enjoy your SINGLE days,honestly. Go out with friends, travel, read a book or 10 - but really, do not think there is ANYTHING wrong with you for being single for a year.... (read in full...)
I want my needs met, even if he can't do it
Q. My boyfriend and I have been ttogether for ten months. Ii love him but we haver never had intercourse yet. He cant maintain an erection. He does other things but its not cutting it anymore! I need the feeling that only a penis can provide. I have ...
A. 18 August 2013: I'm sorry I DO understand your "plight" but expecting your BF to be OK with you having sex with other men because he can't get a hard on seems a little callous.
If he can't give you what you need, he may not BE for you. So maybe instead of expec... (read in full...)
I accidentally said something I shouldn't have at work, now my younger colleague may think I'm weird!
Q. I work with many younger colleagues, 95% my workplace younger, which is fine, I have NO issue with my younger boss or working with 22-34 yr old colleagues, half are under 28, some are managers which is fine,they are good at it, im just an average ...
A. 18 August 2013: Don't worry about it. Types like "gerri" are all over the place, the best thing to do is just carry on as you did before.
Why worry about what those hens think?
Be who you are and move on. ... (read in full...)
She wants space, how should I approach this?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We both loved each other endlessly from almost the very beginning. For me, she is the love that I have searching for my whole life and from letters and notes from her I am her one and only. S...
A. 17 August 2013: I don't think I could say it any better then YouWish did already.
But after 2 years together you OUGHT to have had more respect and trust IN HER to not let your imagination go nuts and freak out that she didn't contact you for ONE day.
SHOW he... (read in full...)
I've been mourning my dog for two years -- is that normal?
Q. Hello Aunts, It's really difficult to describe your feelings when they run deep, at least I really struggle with it. I honestly suck at expressing my deepest feelings in words and I am heartbroken to the core. So, I apologize in advance for my p...
A. 17 August 2013: I have had pets all my life and definitely mourned EVERY one of them when they died - from goldfish to dog. I have felt a bit of guilt for losing them to whatever ended their lives - whether is was old age - one was a bunny who lived for 17 years ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a normal stag night or should I be concerned?
Q. I'm 28, my fiance's 31, we've been a couple for 5 years now, engaged for 2. We live in Southport, England. His stag weekend is coming up in 6 weeks, and this is what he's doing [quoted from itinerary]: STAG NIGHT WITH THE LADS ATTENDING: John [...
A. 16 August 2013: Sounds like a fake Itinerary to PUT the groom of the tracks. I have done a few Hen Nights for friends and we would make one (Itinerary ) for the bride but do others things, just to keep her on her toes. ( Like took one bride on the back of a biker ... (read in full...)
Fallen out with a friend due to her involvement with this man!
Q. I have been friends with my friend for about 12 years. We went to University together. We don't see each other often as we live quite far away but we talk a lot on the phone. Sometimes a couple times a day. She was with a guy for 5 years. She nev...
A. 16 August 2013: I would give her some space, she KNOWS how you feel - but it's HER life to live - HER mistakes to make. I'm pretty sure she KNOWS he is a bad apple and waste of her time and hopefully she will realize this (sooner rather then later) but you CAN'T ... (read in full...)
To apologise for the way I treated her I helped pay for their wedding, but I realize that I love her
Q. This is long and I apologize. But I put myself into this ordeal and I want to know how to get out. I met this great woman when we were 16. We dated the summer after sophomore year (10th grade) but I regret to say that I blew her off most of the ...
A. 16 August 2013: There shouldn't be any strings attached if THIS is a GIFT. YOU aren't doing it because you are being nice, but because you HOPE she will realize that you are a nice guy WITH money and then dump her fiance.
Let he go, go find someone who WANT to ... (read in full...)
Cougar needs advice - does he like me?
Q. Hi everyone. I am a 32 year old mother of 2 children. But I am stuck in a loveless marriage with an uncaring husband. However I have recently fallen for another man who is intelligent, has many of the same qualities as me, and ohh so gorgeous ...
A. 15 August 2013: Lady grow up! I would have guessed (part from the 2 kids part) that you were in your teens, because that is the maturity level you give across.
First of all you JUST have a baby and you are that DESPERATE to replace your husband?
Infidelity do... (read in full...)
The weirdest date I've been on. I still can't figure out what happened?
Q. The weirdest date ever, what does it mean? I met this guy in Miami, we had some kissing and some sort of almost sex in a car. He was out of town. We kept writing to each other very infrequently on FB. 2 years forward, I have a business trip an...
A. 15 August 2013: Maybe he has a GF? And he still wanted to show you around and flirt with you.
Why bother with this guy? It's not like you can have a decent relationship with him that isn't either LD or see him on a regular basis.
And it's NOT like you two are... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend of 3 months...what do I do now? Tell her or not?
Q. Hi. I did a terrible thing and cheated on my girlfriend of 3 months. I was out with work mates having drinks (a lot) and on the way home I kissed one of the girls. I absolutely regret it. I am in so much guilt that its eating me inside out. I think ...
A. 15 August 2013: You need to tell her.
No one wants to live a lie. IF you don't tell her BOTH of you will be living a lie. And the funny thing is, LIES have a way of coming out.
It's kind of typical that you want to NOT tell to "protect her" - but that is trul... (read in full...)
I've lost sight of myself in this relationship and don't even like my boyfriend, who treats me with didrespect. How do I leave him?
Q. I want to leave my boyfriend. We've been a couple for 2 and a half years and the relationship has been going nowhere for most of that time. We argue a lot and when we don't argue, we hardly talk to one another. We had a lot of pro...
A. 15 August 2013: Then you REALLY need to end this, for YOU.
You are with him out of familiarity and habit, not love and that isn't healthy for EITHER of you.
I'm betting you will start to feel less stressed without him in your life. Focus on YOU for now.
... (read in full...)
If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit?
Q. As much as I hate that you can't make someone quit smoking I understand that it has to be their choice. I just wondered though, although I am possibly living in hope. If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit? At ...
A. 14 August 2013: Yep some people realize that smoking is NOT for them and they quit, but not everyone regret it.
I quit over 20 years ago after having smoked for 6 years. Hubby had a heart attack and quit the day after, he had been smoking for 25+ years.
... (read in full...)
22 and no more sex drive
Q. My boyfriend has such a high sex drive and is always looking to fool around. I got mad at him the other day for always trying to. I realized that I have lost my drive all together and I'm not sure what this means for us. I used to love fooling ...
A. 13 August 2013: How is the sex? Has it been good for YOU as well over the years? Or do you spend more time pleasing him then yourself (so to speak). Boring sex = low libido.
I would suggest you go see your doctor too, because you are so young. Hormones, some typ... (read in full...)
She said I need to date someone my age. What does she mean really?
Q. Dear Savants of Dear Cupid, You all have given me sage advise the numerous times I've ventured forth. You've saved me from wrecking my ship against the rocks, for which I thank you. A question: "What does this mean?" The tennis player conta...
A. 13 August 2013: Honestly, IF YOU think you are a good catch for a lady of "any" age then go forth and find someone, then thing is YOU need to try not to be stuck on the woman's age too. Just because a woman is "young" doesn't mean she can actually keep up with you ... (read in full...)
I can't afford sleepless nights because my flat mate won't get help for his problems!
Q. I have a flatmate (or roommate) who is essentially slowly but surely loosing the plot. I've been living in my flat for around 5 months? I'd been flat hunting for around a month at this time it got offered to me and it seemed cool (piano, record ...
A. 13 August 2013: If you can get hold of his family, I would let them know. I would also look for a new place to rent ASAP.
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This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 13 August 2013: After your update I have to say mega creep too. Just tell him NO. Stop texting, hanging out. If he isn't transferring I would be looking to get one.
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She said I need to date someone my age. What does she mean really?
Q. Dear Savants of Dear Cupid, You all have given me sage advise the numerous times I've ventured forth. You've saved me from wrecking my ship against the rocks, for which I thank you. A question: "What does this mean?" The tennis player conta...
A. 13 August 2013: She thinks you will have better "luck" with the ladies if you date in your "own" age range.
My Dad is 73 and dating a 47 year old and he can run circles around her. lol... (read in full...)
At what point does a sales representive go from being a sales person to being interested in you?
Q. This is for the guys and girls . . . At what point does a sales representive go from being a sales person to being interested in you? It started off normal, seeing each other through work now and then. As times moved on, the visits are more ...
A. 13 August 2013: Have you considered that she was looking for a FRIEND not a GF? And once she felt like you wanted more of a GF/GF thing then friendship she backed off a little?
... (read in full...)
Should I fight with ex over settlement? Or just sign it?
Q. Should I just sign our settlement, or fight him? Ex and I are finalizing our divorce settlement. I was mostly ok with everything, but did think I was getting shaft a little bit. Anyway, the other day I had to go the ER because I was covered in ...
A. 13 August 2013: I would file for full custody, but not out of spite. I think in the long run it is easier on the kid(s) if one parent has full "control" - Specially if they do NOT get along. I assume you will ask for CS too, since it doesn't really look like you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's brother is getting me down
Q. im 24 and my boyfriend is 28 and we have been together almost 4 years. he lives in a one bedroom apartment and i still live with my parents as its closer for me to get to work. i visit and stay with him from a friday until a monday, sometime...
A. 13 August 2013: OK your BF have already made his choice. That is his Brother over you.
I would suggest you STOP sleeping at his place for a while and see how your BF feels. Remove your stuff. Go out on dates with your BF but don't stay overnight. That will giv... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I like her and can't wait for the next date but not come across as an annoying idiot?
Q. Hi I just met this girl, she is much younger than me, but this isn't the first time I've hung out with a younger girl so I am aware of any potential pitfalls. She was very nervous about meeting me and backed out once, but the second attempt it ...
A. 13 August 2013: CALL her if testing isn't your thing. Ask her out.... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 13 August 2013: Does he know that Walmart use cameras 24/7? So he really NEEDS to cut out the PDA.
IS he creepy? For the most part (from what you write I would say no, he is infatuated) but looking up your address and popping out of nowhere.. little creepy. ... (read in full...)
My fiance in arranged marriage is so cold to me. How do I make her feel what I feel?
Q. Hello all, I am engaged for more than a month. This is an arranged marriage. The problem is that my fiancee has been cold towards me since day one. We have discussed about this and she said she would like to be friends with me first before she...
A. 12 August 2013: Yes, talk to her like you would a total stranger whom you want to get to know.
I agree with SVC - go slow. TAKE the time to get to know her. Do not FORCE it. She will resent that.
Honestly, it seems more like you are willing to show he that you... (read in full...)
I asked out a girl at work and she backed out at the last moment. How do I act around her now?
Q. Hi all, mine is a simple question but really boggling for me. A girl at work has been real flirty with me for a while now, over two or three months. Finally i asked her out but at the last minute she flaked despite me earlier telling her that...
A. 11 August 2013: Two things...
Don't date co-workers...
Don't THREATENED a girl with "I won't respect you if you don't show". No wonder she said:" sorry I think it's better if we don't go out."
Noe I COULD understand you saying that IF she had flaked out on... (read in full...)
I've decided to break it off -- what's the best way to tell him?
Q. well here I am two years later with the same guy that I orginally had "the talk" with, not once but twice! First time it didn't phase our momentum of hooking up, but second time we didn't speak for 4 months and didn't see one another for like ...
A. 11 August 2013: I would call him. Not over text. Just tell him that this "whatever" casual thing we got going on.. it's not working for me anymore. So I am going to cut the contact and I want you to do the same. Don't call me, don't text, nothing. Move on.
Simpl... (read in full...)
While visiting my LDR boyfriend he talked on the phone to a girl friend and left me in a store alone. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. I am in long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. This time when we were at a store picking things up for the house,he got a call even before we entered the store from a friend who is a girl who happens to be in the same place and she wanted t...
A. 11 August 2013: Why couldn't he JUST tell her, look my GF is in town I can't meet up? That would take less then a minute.
But shopping alone for 25 minutes is not a catastrophe. Since you two have limited time, why spend it arguing? Tell him how it made you feel... (read in full...)
Should I have confronted a married man in a restaurant who kept staring at my pretty daughter?
Q. My 19 year old daughter is very pretty. She along with my wife and I went to a popular restaurant for dinner last week. As we were being seated I see this middle aged guy sitting with his wife and kids staring at my daughter, he didn't take his eyes ...
A. 11 August 2013: He thought you daughter was gorgeous and thus stared. YES, it lacking manner and down right disrespectful to HIS wife and YOUR daughter, but I don't think confronting him would change his behavior.
You already gave him a "dirty" look and that did... (read in full...)
B/f was bombarding me with drunken phone calls so I turned my phone off and he couldn't contact me when his gran died. He now hates me for not being there for him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend had a lot of financial stress and he started drinking heavily, then he would phone me for these stupid drunken conversations. I tried to help with money, emotional support, trying to arrange nice things to do that he din't have to ...
A. 10 August 2013: I agree with Auntie BimBim.
Do no accept that blame. AT ALL. Not your fault she died. NOT your fault HE was out drinking when it happened. NOT your fault that he DID NOT respect YOU enough to NOT call you drunk after you TOLD him I can't deal wit... (read in full...)
Why this man is acting like this? Jealously? Stupidity? Or am I at fault?
Q. Hello, I was wondering if male and female readers would be able to tell me why this man is acting like this? Jealously, stupiidty? or am i at fault? A colleague at work lead me on to think he was single (found out he was married) then lead me on ...
A. 10 August 2013: Because he is an ass.
Yes, he might be jealous, because 1. you turned him down, 2. you caught him in not one bot 2 lies and now... you DARE to have a BF on your own.
I'd be extra careful around this one.... (read in full...)
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