My fiance wants too much oral sex
Q. My fiance want too much oral sex. I was just getting use to giving head and then last night he actually tried f****** me in the mouth. Holding my head while he was on his knees. I was not use to this so he hollers at me for doing it wrong. I felt ...
A. 17 March 2021: I don't understand what he means by "intercourse is cheap"? Does he mean that it's meaningless? And thus gives him the "right" to treat you like some blow-up sex doll?
I don't think he will change but I am glad you are talking to a therapis... (read in full...)
I respect my boyfriend's need for space but my anxiety gets the better of me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a couple of years. We've lived together for half of that and have a dog that we both love. I've always struggled with insecurity and anxiety and have been let down a lot, which I'm getting counselling for but the one thin...
A. 3 March 2021: So did you move in with him?
Is that why YOU get "banished" after an argument?
I can totally see why you feel you get punished. I would feel the same way, and I'm the kind of person who needs a bit of "head-space".
Long term, I don't th... (read in full...)
Why would a colleague send me this?
Q. I am a married man. A married female colleague of mine, whom I adore, has sent me a fresh pantyliner, what does she mean by that?...
A. 1 March 2021: Well, what the actual F?!!
How did she send you this? Through the mail? To your home?
Are you sure it's from her?
And lastly, if she thinks this is appropriate or funny, maybe you need to dial down the "adore" part A LOT.
It does sound li... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me during lockdown for his fling in a tropical paradise. Now he said he made a mistake
Q. My long time boyfriend left me to have a fling with a woman he met last November while visiting his parents who live in another country. It is a developing country and she is a poor native who speaks English but not very well. I saw their exchanges ...
A. 1 March 2021: "Why did he even bother calling? "
Because HE got bored of HER. Just like he had gotten bored with you.
This will happen again if you take him back. She might not even be the first fling he has had while visiting his family. Just the first h... (read in full...)
I'm questioning my whole lifestyle and don't know how to cope with the revelation about my husband
Q. My cousin sent me an email with a link to a Facebook group the other day. She often does this, so I thought nothing of it (she lives in the U.S., I live here in Canada; she's an expat; I just moved provinces). It was the content of the Face...
A. 1 March 2021: For most married women I would advise you to TALK to your husband..
But........... And it' a big but...
If there are 8 women claiming this, could there be some truth to it?
First how old is the Facebook group? When was it created? If it's ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants too much oral sex
Q. My fiance want too much oral sex. I was just getting use to giving head and then last night he actually tried f****** me in the mouth. Holding my head while he was on his knees. I was not use to this so he hollers at me for doing it wrong. I felt ...
A. 1 March 2021: OK, TELL him just that! That it felt like a "mouth rape". That you didn't enjoy it and you don't want anything like that in the future.
I think your fiance has been watching too much porn, to be honest.
If you can HAVE sex, you can TALK about s... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's threeseom wish common?
Q. Hey, my boyfriend told me that if I am the only girl he can sleep with in his lifetime he is the luckiest man on earth. But like a month ago I asked him if he - like my other male friends - would agree on having a threesome, he said: If you ...
A. 1 March 2021: The best advice we can all give you is to NOT entertain this any further. Tell him how YOU feel about it (if you want to only BE monogamous tell him, that way he doesn't start getting his "hopes up that you might want a walk on the "wild side").
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I suspect my fiance is bored with me
Q. So my fiancé said something to me the other day that I can’t stop thinking about. I was just checking in to see if he was happy in our relationship because he doesn’t seem as into me (we have been together almost 2 years) and spends a lot of time on ...
A. 27 February 2021: I think I get where you are coming from.
Your fiance likes drama and had that in spades with his ex. They didn't work out and HE chose a "less dramatic" - I'd even say more stable GF (you). So in order to STILL get some drama in his life, he gets ... (read in full...)
I feel drained by partner with ADHD and abusive parents
Q. I feel very stuck in a strange situation. I have tried over and again to get out of it, but never managed it. I really apologise for the long post. I've spent 26 years on and off in a very strange relationship with this person who I now know h...
A. 27 February 2021: I think you have to TRY again to leave. It might have to wait until your finances stabilize when the lockdown is over (hopefully sooner rather than later).
If you know he isn't capable of even small things, why bother asking him to do them? If... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with never coming out as gay?
Q. I am a 36 years old man who is single. I have known since I was about 13 years old that I was gay. I have never been in a relationship with anyone (male or female) and I never came out of the closet. I always hear of people coming out of th...
A. 27 February 2021: Nope, it's totally OK to not want to come out.
Do you.
If you are also NOT dating anyone, why is it anyone's business whether you are gay or straight or whatever?
You are still you, regardless. Be you.
I think most people that come out ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's threeseom wish common?
Q. Hey, my boyfriend told me that if I am the only girl he can sleep with in his lifetime he is the luckiest man on earth. But like a month ago I asked him if he - like my other male friends - would agree on having a threesome, he said: If you ...
A. 27 February 2021: I think his answer was, HE would DO it FOR you. And ONLY if this was something YOU wanted. But that he wouldn't deny wanting to try it.
I think a LOT of people have this notion that a 3-some is super hot. It's fantasy. Reality is probably a lot le... (read in full...)
My dad plans to leave my mom but doesn't want me to tell her
Q. A week ago, my dad said he needed me to come and help him with going the supermarket and shopping. I thought nothing of it, was only trying to be a good daughter. But it later turned out he wanted me to meet his girlfriend, Rachael (not her rea...
A. 27 February 2021: I think it was very unfair of your dad to drag you into HIS mess. This is 100% his mess - NOT yours. Not your fault either, remember that.
Your dad is unhappy with himself but is projecting all that negativity onto his wife (your mom) because ... (read in full...)
Partner left with no reason and I have no friends around me
Q. My partner has recently left me, no explanation or answers so I'm left just trying to accept and get on with things. I live in a town where I'm not from and I notice that women all have their circle if friends. On social media they post pictur...
A. 26 February 2021: I agree with CodeWarrior,
If you CAN move to where you have a family (that you can rely on) I would consider it. Also, there IS such a thing as FaceTime/Skype/Zoom to keep in touch with people living far away.
If you can't move (due to a job si... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't have the attitude of belongs being ours. Its either yours or mine
Q. There are two questions I would like answers to please. My first one is about marriage. I normally buy stuff for the house including, ornaments pictures, plants etc and also and garden lights and ornaments. if a light should not work outside ...
A. 25 February 2021: The kids are MINE when they mess up :) The cats are mine when they scratch stuff up :)
The squirrels, turkeys, other wildlife in our garden are mine when it comes to feeding them and clearing up after them. :)
I think when your husband tal... (read in full...)
My brother doesn't consider my daughter's feelings. How do I handle this?
Q. Hello all this is about my brother. So me and my brother are not close my live nearby . He is extremely rude but better nowadays. Very very selfish self centred person but I just wan to be nice and get along. We both have daughters . Mine is 2 and ...
A. 25 February 2021: I don't have any inner hate, sorry.
And no, my screen name has nothing to do with who I am.
I'm not saying your daughter IS a spoiled brat, I'm saying if you keep insisting that others always accommodate your child - she CAN become a spoiled... (read in full...)
Does this sound like herpes symptoms?
Q. I went to the ER twice because i was having a burning sensation around what felt like my clitoris area. It was worse when i urinated,i had a frequent urge to urinate even when i didn't have to. I even didnt make it to the toilet once. Now im ...
A. 25 February 2021: I forgot to add, it sounds more like a UTI (urinary track infection) but like previously stated, we can not diagnose a medical condition on a online forum. You need to see a doctor.... (read in full...)
I unknowingly got involved with a married cop now she doesn't want to end things
Q. Despite the country, English is my first language. I've been dating this woman, Katrina (not her real name), 41, for the past 18 months and we met at a singles' night. I only found out recently that she's married and has a husband and 13...
A. 25 February 2021: Do you know any lawyers?
If you do I'd ask the lawyer to contact whatever website your pictures are on. Sometimes getting a notification in legal-speak means websites become super helpful.
Also why would you put intimate pictures online?... (read in full...)
Does this sound like herpes symptoms?
Q. I went to the ER twice because i was having a burning sensation around what felt like my clitoris area. It was worse when i urinated,i had a frequent urge to urinate even when i didn't have to. I even didnt make it to the toilet once. Now im ...
A. 25 February 2021: We can't medically diagnose you, OP
Go see your family doctor not the ER. The ER is for EMERGENCIES not for potential STI's/STD's!
Or go to a GYN or if you do not have a family doctor go to Planned Parenthood or another free service.
... (read in full...)
I think my partner is controlling. Is he?
Q. Morning folks I would like your opinion on my relationship. I live with my partner who is ten years younger than me. we live on boat and I know space is limited, I am quite a religious person all I am allowed is one small crucifix he says he ...
A. 25 February 2021: I think your partner is VERY set in his ways. Which quite common for people with OCD.
It's part of how MANY of us make things work. By having schedules, rules and wanting/liking things "just so". Doesn't mean it's not controlling to those around u... (read in full...)
My married friend has hit on me. I want to stay friends but don't want to be involved
Q. I have a close relationship with a work colleague, who I have known for 15 years. Over the last few years we started running together. She would mention the negatives alit about her marriage and would flirt with me. She told me that her husband had ...
A. 25 February 2021: What does your wife think?
(if you are married)
If you are not, HOW would you feel if this was your wife doing this?
You two are not friends. You are using HER as an ego-boost and she is using you as entertainment and escapism.
Just ge... (read in full...)
The woman I'm dating spends time with her ex/son's father but lies to me about it
Q. I started seeing this girl back in 2018, lets call her A. I knew that she was not long out of an 8 year relationship, and had a son who was only 2. We started getting to know each other, taking things really slow. She got her flat and was starting ...
A. 25 February 2021: "Do you think I should keep seeing her, or call it a day and move on?."
I think that depends on you, AND her.
If you tell her: "listen Betty, I don't MIND you seeing your former in-laws as they are your son's grandparents, I am however not a... (read in full...)
Swinging has turned into more for me I've been sneaking around behind my husband's back
Q. A little over a year ago my husband and I went on Tinder looking for another couple to have some fun with. We found a couple , texted back and forth in a group text and after a few weeks we finally met. We ended up switching partners and having sex ...
A. 25 February 2021: Yeah, Op there are certain lines you can cross but there are long lasting consequences. Things like swinging is one. Crime is another. Think if all the people you have heard of figuring they could make some fast money smuggling drugs... end they end ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost and I'm not quite sure why
Q. I feel very alone and lonely. I feel like no one cares. I have learnt to love myself and keep myself occupied. However i have been going through tough times with my gf. I’m sure we will be okay, but I feel disconnected with her, we did break up ...
A. 23 February 2021: Write down AS best as you can how you feel and BRING that with you to see the doctor.
And yes, GO see your doctor.
Start there.
Also, exercising is good for the whole body including the brain. So maybe start small but get some exercise in... (read in full...)
My brother doesn't consider my daughter's feelings. How do I handle this?
Q. Hello all this is about my brother. So me and my brother are not close my live nearby . He is extremely rude but better nowadays. Very very selfish self centred person but I just wan to be nice and get along. We both have daughters . Mine is 2 and ...
A. 22 February 2021: No, your brother is not wrong.
Your daughter is 2, if his 5 year old daughter DO NOT want to entertain your baby she shouldn't HAVE to.
Are you kidding?
Maybe YOU should parent your daughter more? "my daughter is quite aggressive an dema... (read in full...)
I feel like I was just a rebound till she decided if she still wanted her bf
Q. Hey there. So I met this girl at a New Years Eve party. We hit it off and started texting all day every day and some calls here and there. The thing is she had a boyfriend of a year whenever we met. A week after our initial meeting she broke it ...
A. 22 February 2021: Cut her off. Block her. Lick your wounds and move on.
That is really all there is to it.
If she can be so fickle with her BF... why wouldn't she be with you? (and well, the kicker is, SHE was).
I think you dodged a bullet OP. I know t... (read in full...)
My husband has 6 personalities. I need help for ME to deal with all of this
Q. I'm an American expat, been living across the border in Canada since 2016 and have a 7-year-old daughter. Recently (via Zoom) my husband was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder, which explains why he'd been wanting sex with me while he...
A. 22 February 2021: Sorry, I'd be out of there in a heartbeat right after asking him to seek PROPPER help, and a divorce.
I AM sorry he is having these issue.
But my first priority would be my child. If he has NO control over when he is any of these "other' pe... (read in full...)
My Male Friend Likes Me, But I'm Not High Maintenance And His Type
Q. I've had a male friend for about a year and we've always been really close and clicked. I kind of find him attractive (he is good looking), but he's a ladies' guy who even dated off Tinder during lockdown, so I like him more as a friend. He's always ...
A. 22 February 2021: I have had male friends like that. I would never in a million years have dated a guy like that.
Seems to me, that the fact that you get along, that you are pretty and AVAILABLE is the bigger reason why he NOW is "liking" you and asking you out.... (read in full...)
I find the relationship between my boyfriend and his mother very strange
Q. Am I crazy or is this not normal. A while back I wrote about my partner and his moms relationship. They hit each other on the butts and laugh about then they make joke sexual ones my partner is the one that says them to his mom. His mom made th...
A. 22 February 2021: Why are you dating him?
If you feel this way about their relationship why on Earth would you date him? Isn't the intend to find your "mate"? The man to father your children?
Yes, it's creepy and slimy but... it's HOW they banter.... (read in full...)
I don't want to not stand by a man cos of how much he earns.
Q. Hi Aunts, Both my partner and i have been speaking a lot about marriage and having kids. I'm ready for both but he is not. He is still living at home with his parents and brother. They have a 3 bedroom house. He has asked me who I would feel about...
A. 22 February 2021: You write:
" I don't want to not stand by a man cos of how much he earns."
But you WHOLE post points out just how little he earns in relationship to you. How he CAN'T provide for you for years.
Why should he? You earn a lot more than him... (read in full...)
Swinging has turned into more for me I've been sneaking around behind my husband's back
Q. A little over a year ago my husband and I went on Tinder looking for another couple to have some fun with. We found a couple , texted back and forth in a group text and after a few weeks we finally met. We ended up switching partners and having sex ...
A. 22 February 2021: Yikes all around.
I know there has been a push for more "openness" in sexual matters, of "sharing" partners, having more partners etc. since the 1960's and with that... there has also been a rise in divorces and single mothers (and fathers)... (read in full...)
My wife wants us to run a TikTok channel discussing financial issues but I think we'll be in over our heads
Q. My wife suggested to me a new project we should take on as a couple; I've nothing against "new project for couples" as a goal, but this specific one I have worries about. Me and my wife have always been into financial matters; we're no Scrooge...
A. 22 February 2021: As long as she doesn't suggest giving up your jobs until you have a "tik tok" channel that is VIABLE I don't see the issue with giving it a try.
However, Tik Tok is being banned in many countries so there isn't a whole lot of "security" in a job... (read in full...)
I don't want to end the marriage but the trust is gone
Q. I've been married to A for 8 years and we have 2 children together. A few years ago we went through a bit of a rough patch where A felt that I was being distant and too busy for him. I admit that this was the case, but having a newborn and a potty ...
A. 22 February 2021: Eww your husband is gross!
Of course it was not "ALL a misunderstanding", and you seem smart enough to realize that even if you try and ignore it.
He will likely blame you for not paying enough attention to him, therefore it's your fault he fe... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 22 February 2021: SMH
"The men that are having affairs continue to have them and they are disloyal already so usually the wife is better off without them so maybe affairs are a good way of moving forward rather than being in a not so good situation."
So now ... (read in full...)
Why he really wants me to parent our daughter the way people did things in 2003
Q. Me and my husband (we've only been married since Aug. 2019) have had one of the biggest arguments since we got together in 2012. We last saw each other in November 2002 when I was 18, but lost touch until April 2012. We have a 4-year-old daugh...
A. 21 February 2021: I didn't know that there was such a thing as "parenting as it was 2003"!
I mean I get the dress like "insert" fashionable year/period. But parent? That's a new one!
OK so what happened in 2003? Well, it was 2 years after the Twin Towers, Ira... (read in full...)
28 and still confused
Q. I'm 28 and still dont know what I am, so my question is when does the big relation happen where I'm like "nope I'm straight" or "bi" or "definitely gay" how long will I stay confused? A started having fantasies about men when i was young, alway...
A. 21 February 2021: I'm not sure what you are confused about.
You like men AND women.
You don't do RELATIONSHIPS with men because a relationship involves emotions. For you, sex don't. All you need is a hard on. (If I read you right).
So, you have to figur... (read in full...)
Former male virgin still has no clue
Q. Hello I just recently lost my virginity by paying an escort. I am a nerdy guy, very awkward, love various things like horror movies, comics, etc. I love to draw. I am not very handsome, overweight, short, bald and not well endowed. It f...
A. 21 February 2021: Just because you "dipped your wick" doesn't mean ANYTHING has changed about you or your life.
So it's not surprising that women aren't lined up at your door to date you now that you are no longer a virgin.
It was NEVER about sex or being a v... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 21 February 2021: Apparently I have fat fingers this morning..
EDIT
"And in many causes a company will let YOU go over a make counterpart."
should have been:
And in many cases a company will let YOU go over a male counterpart.... (read in full...)
How to keep things interesting in a long distance relationship
Q. I am wondering how to keep things interesting in a long distance relationship. I made a great connection with a man who has shared interests which started out as us just following each other to eventually realising we had a lot in common to talking ...
A. 21 February 2021: Keep sex and "sexy" stuff out of the picture until you can spend time together AFTER you have gotten to know him better IN PERSON.
Arrange a Date over Skype or Facetime (whatever video chat app you two have).
If you are into movies or books,... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 21 February 2021: This has to be a troll - but I will answer as if this was a serious question.
The "we can't help who we are attracted to" is a true statement. For sure.
Married people don't STOP being attractive because they got married. They also don't go bl... (read in full...)
Would you block someone for being strange even if you knew them?
Q. Years ago now I had communication with a guy who asked basically to have sex and/or hang out. We stopped talking and i forgot why until finding the old messages more recently but i messaged him a while ago and he ended up blocking me on facebook ...
A. 18 February 2021: I don't do social media, so I can only make guesses to what I "might" do.
If someone came off with some really strange messages, yes I probably would block them. Why? Because I don't need that kind of drama in my life.
If they were a CLOS... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a sex addict?
Q. Hiiii :) So I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and things are really going great, I love him so much and vice versa. We did move in pretty quickly together because we couldn't face being apart during the first lockdown in the ...
A. 18 February 2021:
IF he can manage whatever he had to do during the day (I presume he keeps the house and stuff, since you work) - if he can manage still being intimate with you, and in general do fine - maybe he is just running on a really high level of libi... (read in full...)
Co-workers conspiracy theories on zoom chats are driving me crazy
Q. I've had to work from home and do Zoom meetings. However, there's a problem with our Zoom meeting... one employee is constantly behaving pompously and disrupting meetings with conspiracy theories, but he hasn't been fired yet. He's caused ups...
A. 18 February 2021: Part from conspiracy theories, does this coworker ADD anything vital to the ZOOM meetings, if not I'd simply mute him.
If he does WHY doesn't ANYONE shut him down? Say:" Hey Bob we are here to discuss XYZ, you can keep your theories to yourself... (read in full...)
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